@Wineaux15
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Did I Mess Up With This Aries Guy?
Understanding Aries Men and Your Relationship Uncertainty
Aries men often seek excitement and clear intentions. His mixed signals may indicate interest or testing boundaries. Respect his space and communicate your boundaries clearly. Focus on building trust and observe his actions over words to gauge his true feelings. Remember, honesty and patience are key to understanding Aries personalities and relationship potential.
Posted by Wineaux15
I was conversing with and getting to know (on a romantic/ sexual level since I already know him on a friendly level) an Aries guy. He’s very handsome and I’m pretty (so I’ve been told) and he appeared to really like me. Once I was at the club with my friends who had a section for my friend’s birthday. He KNEW this and said he would go somewhere else. I was like cool see you some other time. Well.... he shows up to the club I was at and followed me around! Anytime a guy tried to approach me he’d do his “manly man” stare & puff out his chest and the guys would walk off. He wanted to come to my house or I go to his but I said no thank you because him showing up unannounced where I was made me feel weird a little and I kind of wanted to put some space in between us. That was in January. A few weekends in between that time and now.... I asked him if we could hang out. He always made an excuse why he couldn’t. Last weekend he asked me to come over, but as I was about to come he said he wasn’t home. I THINK this is him rejecting me, but I’m not sure because I’ve never been rejected, nor do I know how to respond moving forward. I know I don’t like how it feels. His messages are mixed to me: 1. He’s social media stalking me 2. I told him I was going to the Dominican Republic next month and he asked if he could go with me. I told him I’m taking my friend and he said that’s a vacation for romance and not friendship and he was serious... I didn’t respond to that because I wasn’t sure how to 3. Asking me to come see him then saying he’s not home 4. When he popped up on me at the club without telling me he was coming, watched me for a while at the club before he approached me, once he did approach me he was really affectionate with me in public in front of my friends and stayed next to me the whole entire time 4. He’s always telling me I’m so smart and pretty 5. We both just got out of long term relationships... but I don’t want anything serious just a guy friend and he knows this.Did I mess up by being too forward and asking him if we could hang out? Does it sound like he even likes me or is totally uninterested? Is there a possibility of something I can do to gain his interest. (Oh I’ve known him since middle school & high school , but not in this capacity).
You have been casually intimate with him, acting like you are interested yet you only like him as a friend? are you saying you only want a FWB or just friendship with him?
Posted by Arielle83
He has options
I agree, and obviously I’m not top on the list. I’ll move on then 😢.
Posted by Wineaux15
I was conversing with and getting to know (on a romantic/ sexual level since I already know him on a friendly level) an Aries guy. He’s very handsome and I’m pretty (so I’ve been told) and he appeared to really like me. Once I was at the club with my friends who had a section for my friend’s birthday. He KNEW this and said he would go somewhere else. I was like cool see you some other time. Well.... he shows up to the club I was at and followed me around! Anytime a guy tried to approach me he’d do his “manly man” stare & puff out his chest and the guys would walk off. He wanted to come to my house or I go to his but I said no thank you because him showing up unannounced where I was made me feel weird a little and I kind of wanted to put some space in between us. That was in January. A few weekends in between that time and now.... I asked him if we could hang out. He always made an excuse why he couldn’t. Last weekend he asked me to come over, but as I was about to come he said he wasn’t home. I THINK this is him rejecting me, but I’m not sure because I’ve never been rejected, nor do I know how to respond moving forward. I know I don’t like how it feels. His messages are mixed to me: 1. He’s social media stalking me 2. I told him I was going to the Dominican Republic next month and he asked if he could go with me. I told him I’m taking my friend and he said that’s a vacation for romance and not friendship and he was serious... I didn’t respond to that because I wasn’t sure how to 3. Asking me to come see him then saying he’s not home 4. When he popped up on me at the club without telling me he was coming, watched me for a while at the club before he approached me, once he did approach me he was really affectionate with me in public in front of my friends and stayed next to me the whole entire time 4. He’s always telling me I’m so smart and pretty 5. We both just got out of long term relationships... but I don’t want anything serious just a guy friend and he knows this.Did I mess up by being too forward and asking him if we could hang out? Does it sound like he even likes me or is totally uninterested? Is there a possibility of something I can do to gain his interest. (Oh I’ve known him since middle school & high school , but not in this capacity).
You have been casually intimate with him, acting like you are interested yet you only like him as a friend? are you saying you only want a FWB or just friendship with him?
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Well, I’m interested in the sense that I’m attracted to him, I’d like to get to know him better by doing things with him like our eat, mall, or what have you versus just talking and texting on the phone or through IG, but I’m still ver cautious about trying for a relationship or committment right now due to what I just got out of only 6/7 months ago. He’s only been broken up with his long term 6 year relationship 8 months ago. But I’d still like to hang with him to get to know him more than the casual friends we’ve been on a more personal level. Now as far as sex.... not sure if I’m ready to have sex with him yet because with that comes a new set of emotions. But I’m sure if he advances I won’t turn him down because I’m super attracted to him. In short... I’m confused myself if what I want 🤷🏽♀️.
He most likely has a few women that he is talking to. Ram gents tend to get a lot of attention from women. Until he comes around, do you and entertain other people as well. If he wants you, there will be no mistaking it. He will pursue.
Do not pine, you are as worthwhile and as deserving as anyone else. Invest only when a man chooses to invest in return. All easier said than done, but it is for the best. 🙂
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
He most likely has a few women that he is talking to. Ram gents tend to get a lot of attention from women. Until he comes around, do you and entertain other people as well. If he wants you, there will be no mistaking it. He will pursue.Do not pine, you are as worthwhile and as deserving as anyone else. Invest only when a man chooses to invest in return. All easier said than done, but it is for the best. 🙂
You are right! Great advice. I have been pining, partially because I feel like I sent mixed messages too and that turned him off maybe, but I’ll digress and move on.
Posted by ufo
why do you care if you're not looking for anything serious?sounds to me you cant handle rejection and you should learn how to
Because I’m interested in him regardless of wanting anything serious. It’s not that I can’t handle rejection; it’s just foreign to me. I’m trying to see if that is even what this is...
@Wineaux15, I understand your situation. I too am entertaining a Ram gent and so far he has gone missing in action since my last message to him. Prior, he had been hot on my case so we shall see. His birthday is coming up soon, if he wishes to reach out he will.
Like yours, you must stand by your strength and independance. They love that about a woman. Live your life, with or without him, and be happy. Regardless, whether or not he returns at least you time was not wasted. If he returns, great. If not, your time was well spent.
Of course, it hurts anyones ego to be ignored. However, just think back on times when you have also ignored others. We all have, at one time or another. Fret not, you will bounce back soon enough. Do activities that you enjoy, and most of all do not alter you normal schedule less you spiral down into that rabbit hole of overanalysing and overthinking.
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
He most likely has a few women that he is talking to. Ram gents tend to get a lot of attention from women. Until he comes around, do you and entertain other people as well. If he wants you, there will be no mistaking it. He will pursue.Do not pine, you are as worthwhile and as deserving as anyone else. Invest only when a man chooses to invest in return. All easier said than done, but it is for the best. 🙂
You are right! Great advice. I have been pining, partially because I feel like I sent mixed messages too and that turned him off maybe, but I’ll digress and move on.
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What is done is done, what was said was said.
Bloody hell, I was where you were and trying to see where I went wrong. Until I realised how silly I was. Nothing I said or did was wrong, if it were a man thay wants you or is interested. He will not be easily scared away. Trust me, they will still pursue.
We simply have to accept that sometimes, men have second thoughts. If they return, enjoy it for what it is, and if they do not, live your life. No one deserves our attention if they are not in our immediate lives. We chose who gets to occupy our time and energy.
Those who give, get. Those that do not, get nothing.
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
@Wineaux15, I understand your situation. I too am entertaining a Ram gent and so far he has gone missing in action since my last message to him. Prior, he had been hot on my case so we shall see. His birthday is coming up soon, if he wishes to reach out he will.Like yours, you must stand by your strength and independance. They love that about a woman. Live your life, with or without him, and be happy. Regardless, whether or not he returns at least you time was not wasted. If he returns, great. If not, your time was well spent.
Of course, it hurts anyones ego to be ignored. However, just think back on times when you have also ignored others. We all have, at one time or another. Fret not, you will bounce back soon enough. Do activities that you enjoy, and most of all do not alter you normal schedule less you spiral down into that rabbit hole of overanalysing and overthinking.
I’m guilty of this 😂 (over analyzing AND over thinking)
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
@Wineaux15, I understand your situation. I too am entertaining a Ram gent and so far he has gone missing in action since my last message to him. Prior, he had been hot on my case so we shall see. His birthday is coming up soon, if he wishes to reach out he will.Like yours, you must stand by your strength and independance. They love that about a woman. Live your life, with or without him, and be happy. Regardless, whether or not he returns at least you time was not wasted. If he returns, great. If not, your time was well spent.
Of course, it hurts anyones ego to be ignored. However, just think back on times when you have also ignored others. We all have, at one time or another. Fret not, you will bounce back soon enough. Do activities that you enjoy, and most of all do not alter you normal schedule less you spiral down into that rabbit hole of overanalysing and overthinking.
How long for, Lady?
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
@Wineaux15, I understand your situation. I too am entertaining a Ram gent and so far he has gone missing in action since my last message to him. Prior, he had been hot on my case so we shall see. His birthday is coming up soon, if he wishes to reach out he will.Like yours, you must stand by your strength and independance. They love that about a woman. Live your life, with or without him, and be happy. Regardless, whether or not he returns at least you time was not wasted. If he returns, great. If not, your time was well spent.
Of course, it hurts anyones ego to be ignored. However, just think back on times when you have also ignored others. We all have, at one time or another. Fret not, you will bounce back soon enough. Do activities that you enjoy, and most of all do not alter you normal schedule less you spiral down into that rabbit hole of overanalysing and overthinking.
How long for, Lady?
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How long he has been missing in action ?
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
@Wineaux15, I understand your situation. I too am entertaining a Ram gent and so far he has gone missing in action since my last message to him. Prior, he had been hot on my case so we shall see. His birthday is coming up soon, if he wishes to reach out he will.Like yours, you must stand by your strength and independance. They love that about a woman. Live your life, with or without him, and be happy. Regardless, whether or not he returns at least you time was not wasted. If he returns, great. If not, your time was well spent.
Of course, it hurts anyones ego to be ignored. However, just think back on times when you have also ignored others. We all have, at one time or another. Fret not, you will bounce back soon enough. Do activities that you enjoy, and most of all do not alter you normal schedule less you spiral down into that rabbit hole of overanalysing and overthinking.
How long for, Lady?
How long he has been missing in action ?
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Yes
Posted by Wineaux15
I was conversing with and getting to know (on a romantic/ sexual level since I already know him on a friendly level) an Aries guy. He’s very handsome and I’m pretty (so I’ve been told) and he appeared to really like me. Once I was at the club with my friends who had a section for my friend’s birthday. He KNEW this and said he would go somewhere else. I was like cool see you some other time. Well.... he shows up to the club I was at and followed me around! Anytime a guy tried to approach me he’d do his “manly man” stare & puff out his chest and the guys would walk off. He wanted to come to my house or I go to his but I said no thank you because him showing up unannounced where I was made me feel weird a little and I kind of wanted to put some space in between us. That was in January. A few weekends in between that time and now.... I asked him if we could hang out. He always made an excuse why he couldn’t. Last weekend he asked me to come over, but as I was about to come he said he wasn’t home. I THINK this is him rejecting me, but I’m not sure because I’ve never been rejected, nor do I know how to respond moving forward. I know I don’t like how it feels. His messages are mixed to me: 1. He’s social media stalking me 2. I told him I was going to the Dominican Republic next month and he asked if he could go with me. I told him I’m taking my friend and he said that’s a vacation for romance and not friendship and he was serious... I didn’t respond to that because I wasn’t sure how to 3. Asking me to come see him then saying he’s not home 4. When he popped up on me at the club without telling me he was coming, watched me for a while at the club before he approached me, once he did approach me he was really affectionate with me in public in front of my friends and stayed next to me the whole entire time 4. He’s always telling me I’m so smart and pretty 5. We both just got out of long term relationships... but I don’t want anything serious just a guy friend and he knows this.Did I mess up by being too forward and asking him if we could hang out? Does it sound like he even likes me or is totally uninterested? Is there a possibility of something I can do to gain his interest. (Oh I’ve known him since middle school & high school , but not in this capacity).
You have been casually intimate with him, acting like you are interested yet you only like him as a friend? are you saying you only want a FWB or just friendship with him?
Well, I’m interested in the sense that I’m attracted to him, I’d like to get to know him better by doing things with him like our eat, mall, or what have you versus just talking and texting on the phone or through IG, but I’m still ver cautious about trying for a relationship or committment right now due to what I just got out of only 6/7 months ago. He’s only been broken up with his long term 6 year relationship 8 months ago. But I’d still like to hang with him to get to know him more than the casual friends we’ve been on a more personal level. Now as far as sex.... not sure if I’m ready to have sex with him yet because with that comes a new set of emotions. But I’m sure if he advances I won’t turn him down because I’m super attracted to him. In short... I’m confused myself if what I want 🤷🏽♀️.
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Well at least you recognize your own confusion, because I was like 🤔 y’all just not ready to get into anything now and yes, adding sex to this will make it even more confusing and possibly willl lose your chance to be with him in the future. He’s not ready and you are not ready.
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
@Wineaux15, I understand your situation. I too am entertaining a Ram gent and so far he has gone missing in action since my last message to him. Prior, he had been hot on my case so we shall see. His birthday is coming up soon, if he wishes to reach out he will.Like yours, you must stand by your strength and independance. They love that about a woman. Live your life, with or without him, and be happy. Regardless, whether or not he returns at least you time was not wasted. If he returns, great. If not, your time was well spent.
Of course, it hurts anyones ego to be ignored. However, just think back on times when you have also ignored others. We all have, at one time or another. Fret not, you will bounce back soon enough. Do activities that you enjoy, and most of all do not alter you normal schedule less you spiral down into that rabbit hole of overanalysing and overthinking.
How long for, Lady?
How long he has been missing in action ?
Yes
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Middle of the week, I checked up on him since he was not feeling too well when I left him at the beginning of the week. Brief conversation, which he left hanging.
I was busy and kind of ill myself for the rest of the week. So I did not write him, he was busy as well (he told me his schedule prior), therefore no communications which is fine.
Today, I know he has a day off. So I wrote him, to see how he was. He read it, and I thought he was not going to respond (as he normally responds very swiftly). Then speak of the devil, he just responded now.
Posted by Wineaux15
I was conversing with and getting to know (on a romantic/ sexual level since I already know him on a friendly level) an Aries guy. He’s very handsome and I’m pretty (so I’ve been told) and he appeared to really like me. Once I was at the club with my friends who had a section for my friend’s birthday. He KNEW this and said he would go somewhere else. I was like cool see you some other time. Well.... he shows up to the club I was at and followed me around! Anytime a guy tried to approach me he’d do his “manly man” stare & puff out his chest and the guys would walk off. He wanted to come to my house or I go to his but I said no thank you because him showing up unannounced where I was made me feel weird a little and I kind of wanted to put some space in between us. That was in January. A few weekends in between that time and now.... I asked him if we could hang out. He always made an excuse why he couldn’t. Last weekend he asked me to come over, but as I was about to come he said he wasn’t home. I THINK this is him rejecting me, but I’m not sure because I’ve never been rejected, nor do I know how to respond moving forward. I know I don’t like how it feels. His messages are mixed to me: 1. He’s social media stalking me 2. I told him I was going to the Dominican Republic next month and he asked if he could go with me. I told him I’m taking my friend and he said that’s a vacation for romance and not friendship and he was serious... I didn’t respond to that because I wasn’t sure how to 3. Asking me to come see him then saying he’s not home 4. When he popped up on me at the club without telling me he was coming, watched me for a while at the club before he approached me, once he did approach me he was really affectionate with me in public in front of my friends and stayed next to me the whole entire time 4. He’s always telling me I’m so smart and pretty 5. We both just got out of long term relationships... but I don’t want anything serious just a guy friend and he knows this.Did I mess up by being too forward and asking him if we could hang out? Does it sound like he even likes me or is totally uninterested? Is there a possibility of something I can do to gain his interest. (Oh I’ve known him since middle school & high school , but not in this capacity).
You have been casually intimate with him, acting like you are interested yet you only like him as a friend? are you saying you only want a FWB or just friendship with him?
Well, I’m interested in the sense that I’m attracted to him, I’d like to get to know him better by doing things with him like our eat, mall, or what have you versus just talking and texting on the phone or through IG, but I’m still ver cautious about trying for a relationship or committment right now due to what I just got out of only 6/7 months ago. He’s only been broken up with his long term 6 year relationship 8 months ago. But I’d still like to hang with him to get to know him more than the casual friends we’ve been on a more personal level. Now as far as sex.... not sure if I’m ready to have sex with him yet because with that comes a new set of emotions. But I’m sure if he advances I won’t turn him down because I’m super attracted to him. In short... I’m confused myself if what I want 🤷🏽♀️.
Well at least you recognize your own confusion, because I was like 🤔 y’all just not ready to get into anything now and yes, adding sex to this will make it even more confusing and possibly willl lose your chance to be with him in the future. He’s not ready and you are not ready.
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Ugh! That’s like hearing nails scratching a chalk board. It’s painful to hear, but yet sooooo true!
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
@Wineaux15, I understand your situation. I too am entertaining a Ram gent and so far he has gone missing in action since my last message to him. Prior, he had been hot on my case so we shall see. His birthday is coming up soon, if he wishes to reach out he will.Like yours, you must stand by your strength and independance. They love that about a woman. Live your life, with or without him, and be happy. Regardless, whether or not he returns at least you time was not wasted. If he returns, great. If not, your time was well spent.
Of course, it hurts anyones ego to be ignored. However, just think back on times when you have also ignored others. We all have, at one time or another. Fret not, you will bounce back soon enough. Do activities that you enjoy, and most of all do not alter you normal schedule less you spiral down into that rabbit hole of overanalysing and overthinking.
How long for, Lady?
How long he has been missing in action ?
Yes
Middle of the week, I checked up on him since he was not feeling too well when I left him at the beginning of the week. Brief conversation, which he left hanging.
I was busy and kind of ill myself for the rest of the week. So I did not write him, he was busy as well (he told me his schedule prior), therefore no communications which is fine.
Today, I know he has a day off. So I wrote him, to see how he was. He read it, and I thought he was not going to respond (as he normally responds very swiftly). Then speak of the devil, he just responded now.
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Aaaahh the spell worked then
😈
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
@Wineaux15, I understand your situation. I too am entertaining a Ram gent and so far he has gone missing in action since my last message to him. Prior, he had been hot on my case so we shall see. His birthday is coming up soon, if he wishes to reach out he will.Like yours, you must stand by your strength and independance. They love that about a woman. Live your life, with or without him, and be happy. Regardless, whether or not he returns at least you time was not wasted. If he returns, great. If not, your time was well spent.
Of course, it hurts anyones ego to be ignored. However, just think back on times when you have also ignored others. We all have, at one time or another. Fret not, you will bounce back soon enough. Do activities that you enjoy, and most of all do not alter you normal schedule less you spiral down into that rabbit hole of overanalysing and overthinking.
How long for, Lady?
How long he has been missing in action ?
Yes
Middle of the week, I checked up on him since he was not feeling too well when I left him at the beginning of the week. Brief conversation, which he left hanging.
I was busy and kind of ill myself for the rest of the week. So I did not write him, he was busy as well (he told me his schedule prior), therefore no communications which is fine.
Today, I know he has a day off. So I wrote him, to see how he was. He read it, and I thought he was not going to respond (as he normally responds very swiftly). Then speak of the devil, he just responded now.
Aaaahh the spell worked then
😈
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We will see. His messages are now suddenly formal and almost overly polite. Which does not make sense, rather confusing.
I am trying not to throw myself in, you know how easily us Stingers could slip. In case, the firey man has other pursuits.
After all, he has let me use his phone before and shown me lots of things on his phone. During those times, the notifications keep on coming in. He never has a short supply of women writing him.
Posted by Wineaux15
I was conversing with and getting to know (on a romantic/ sexual level since I already know him on a friendly level) an Aries guy. He’s very handsome and I’m pretty (so I’ve been told) and he appeared to really like me. Once I was at the club with my friends who had a section for my friend’s birthday. He KNEW this and said he would go somewhere else. I was like cool see you some other time. Well.... he shows up to the club I was at and followed me around! Anytime a guy tried to approach me he’d do his “manly man” stare & puff out his chest and the guys would walk off. He wanted to come to my house or I go to his but I said no thank you because him showing up unannounced where I was made me feel weird a little and I kind of wanted to put some space in between us. That was in January. A few weekends in between that time and now.... I asked him if we could hang out. He always made an excuse why he couldn’t. Last weekend he asked me to come over, but as I was about to come he said he wasn’t home. I THINK this is him rejecting me, but I’m not sure because I’ve never been rejected, nor do I know how to respond moving forward. I know I don’t like how it feels. His messages are mixed to me: 1. He’s social media stalking me 2. I told him I was going to the Dominican Republic next month and he asked if he could go with me. I told him I’m taking my friend and he said that’s a vacation for romance and not friendship and he was serious... I didn’t respond to that because I wasn’t sure how to 3. Asking me to come see him then saying he’s not home 4. When he popped up on me at the club without telling me he was coming, watched me for a while at the club before he approached me, once he did approach me he was really affectionate with me in public in front of my friends and stayed next to me the whole entire time 4. He’s always telling me I’m so smart and pretty 5. We both just got out of long term relationships... but I don’t want anything serious just a guy friend and he knows this.Did I mess up by being too forward and asking him if we could hang out? Does it sound like he even likes me or is totally uninterested? Is there a possibility of something I can do to gain his interest. (Oh I’ve known him since middle school & high school , but not in this capacity).
You have been casually intimate with him, acting like you are interested yet you only like him as a friend? are you saying you only want a FWB or just friendship with him?
Well, I’m interested in the sense that I’m attracted to him, I’d like to get to know him better by doing things with him like our eat, mall, or what have you versus just talking and texting on the phone or through IG, but I’m still ver cautious about trying for a relationship or committment right now due to what I just got out of only 6/7 months ago. He’s only been broken up with his long term 6 year relationship 8 months ago. But I’d still like to hang with him to get to know him more than the casual friends we’ve been on a more personal level. Now as far as sex.... not sure if I’m ready to have sex with him yet because with that comes a new set of emotions. But I’m sure if he advances I won’t turn him down because I’m super attracted to him. In short... I’m confused myself if what I want 🤷🏽♀️.
Well at least you recognize your own confusion, because I was like 🤔 y’all just not ready to get into anything now and yes, adding sex to this will make it even more confusing and possibly willl lose your chance to be with him in the future. He’s not ready and you are not ready.
Ugh! That’s like hearing nails scratching a chalk board. It’s painful to hear, but yet sooooo true!
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(((hugs)))
Sending you lots of positive and healing energies. You deserve the best.
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
@Wineaux15, I understand your situation. I too am entertaining a Ram gent and so far he has gone missing in action since my last message to him. Prior, he had been hot on my case so we shall see. His birthday is coming up soon, if he wishes to reach out he will.Like yours, you must stand by your strength and independance. They love that about a woman. Live your life, with or without him, and be happy. Regardless, whether or not he returns at least you time was not wasted. If he returns, great. If not, your time was well spent.
Of course, it hurts anyones ego to be ignored. However, just think back on times when you have also ignored others. We all have, at one time or another. Fret not, you will bounce back soon enough. Do activities that you enjoy, and most of all do not alter you normal schedule less you spiral down into that rabbit hole of overanalysing and overthinking.
How long for, Lady?
How long he has been missing in action ?
Yes
Middle of the week, I checked up on him since he was not feeling too well when I left him at the beginning of the week. Brief conversation, which he left hanging.
I was busy and kind of ill myself for the rest of the week. So I did not write him, he was busy as well (he told me his schedule prior), therefore no communications which is fine.
Today, I know he has a day off. So I wrote him, to see how he was. He read it, and I thought he was not going to respond (as he normally responds very swiftly). Then speak of the devil, he just responded now.
Aaaahh the spell worked then
😈
We will see. His messages are now suddenly formal and almost overly polite. Which does not make sense, rather confusing.
I am trying not to throw myself in, you know how easily us Stingers could slip. In case, the firey man has other pursuits.
After all, he has let me use his phone before and shown me lots of things on his phone. During those times, the notifications keep on coming in. He never has a short supply of women writing him.
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Oh I see
Guard your ❤️ Scorpio
*Hugs*
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
@Wineaux15, I understand your situation. I too am entertaining a Ram gent and so far he has gone missing in action since my last message to him. Prior, he had been hot on my case so we shall see. His birthday is coming up soon, if he wishes to reach out he will.Like yours, you must stand by your strength and independance. They love that about a woman. Live your life, with or without him, and be happy. Regardless, whether or not he returns at least you time was not wasted. If he returns, great. If not, your time was well spent.
Of course, it hurts anyones ego to be ignored. However, just think back on times when you have also ignored others. We all have, at one time or another. Fret not, you will bounce back soon enough. Do activities that you enjoy, and most of all do not alter you normal schedule less you spiral down into that rabbit hole of overanalysing and overthinking.
How long for, Lady?
How long he has been missing in action ?
Yes
Middle of the week, I checked up on him since he was not feeling too well when I left him at the beginning of the week. Brief conversation, which he left hanging.
I was busy and kind of ill myself for the rest of the week. So I did not write him, he was busy as well (he told me his schedule prior), therefore no communications which is fine.
Today, I know he has a day off. So I wrote him, to see how he was. He read it, and I thought he was not going to respond (as he normally responds very swiftly). Then speak of the devil, he just responded now.
Aaaahh the spell worked then
😈
We will see. His messages are now suddenly formal and almost overly polite. Which does not make sense, rather confusing.
I am trying not to throw myself in, you know how easily us Stingers could slip. In case, the firey man has other pursuits.
After all, he has let me use his phone before and shown me lots of things on his phone. During those times, the notifications keep on coming in. He never has a short supply of women writing him.
Oh I see
Guard your ❤️ Scorpio
*Hugs*
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Thank you dear stars, and I will. ❤️
Pateince is a virtue. If he wants me, he has to show me that he does. Then he will have me, until then, I will do me. 🙂
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
@Wineaux15, I understand your situation. I too am entertaining a Ram gent and so far he has gone missing in action since my last message to him. Prior, he had been hot on my case so we shall see. His birthday is coming up soon, if he wishes to reach out he will.Like yours, you must stand by your strength and independance. They love that about a woman. Live your life, with or without him, and be happy. Regardless, whether or not he returns at least you time was not wasted. If he returns, great. If not, your time was well spent.
Of course, it hurts anyones ego to be ignored. However, just think back on times when you have also ignored others. We all have, at one time or another. Fret not, you will bounce back soon enough. Do activities that you enjoy, and most of all do not alter you normal schedule less you spiral down into that rabbit hole of overanalysing and overthinking.
How long for, Lady?
How long he has been missing in action ?
Yes
Middle of the week, I checked up on him since he was not feeling too well when I left him at the beginning of the week. Brief conversation, which he left hanging.
I was busy and kind of ill myself for the rest of the week. So I did not write him, he was busy as well (he told me his schedule prior), therefore no communications which is fine.
Today, I know he has a day off. So I wrote him, to see how he was. He read it, and I thought he was not going to respond (as he normally responds very swiftly). Then speak of the devil, he just responded now.
Aaaahh the spell worked then
😈
We will see. His messages are now suddenly formal and almost overly polite. Which does not make sense, rather confusing.
I am trying not to throw myself in, you know how easily us Stingers could slip. In case, the firey man has other pursuits.
After all, he has let me use his phone before and shown me lots of things on his phone. During those times, the notifications keep on coming in. He never has a short supply of women writing him.
Oh I see
Guard your ❤️ Scorpio
*Hugs*
Thank you dear stars, and I will. ❤️
Pateince is a virtue. If he wants me, he has to show me that he does. Then he will have me, until then, I will do me. 🙂
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Modern love hey? I want to create a thread about it.....what do you think?
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
@Wineaux15, I understand your situation. I too am entertaining a Ram gent and so far he has gone missing in action since my last message to him. Prior, he had been hot on my case so we shall see. His birthday is coming up soon, if he wishes to reach out he will.Like yours, you must stand by your strength and independance. They love that about a woman. Live your life, with or without him, and be happy. Regardless, whether or not he returns at least you time was not wasted. If he returns, great. If not, your time was well spent.
Of course, it hurts anyones ego to be ignored. However, just think back on times when you have also ignored others. We all have, at one time or another. Fret not, you will bounce back soon enough. Do activities that you enjoy, and most of all do not alter you normal schedule less you spiral down into that rabbit hole of overanalysing and overthinking.
How long for, Lady?
How long he has been missing in action ?
Yes
Middle of the week, I checked up on him since he was not feeling too well when I left him at the beginning of the week. Brief conversation, which he left hanging.
I was busy and kind of ill myself for the rest of the week. So I did not write him, he was busy as well (he told me his schedule prior), therefore no communications which is fine.
Today, I know he has a day off. So I wrote him, to see how he was. He read it, and I thought he was not going to respond (as he normally responds very swiftly). Then speak of the devil, he just responded now.
Aaaahh the spell worked then
😈
We will see. His messages are now suddenly formal and almost overly polite. Which does not make sense, rather confusing.
I am trying not to throw myself in, you know how easily us Stingers could slip. In case, the firey man has other pursuits.
After all, he has let me use his phone before and shown me lots of things on his phone. During those times, the notifications keep on coming in. He never has a short supply of women writing him.
Oh I see
Guard your ❤️ Scorpio
*Hugs*
Thank you dear stars, and I will. ❤️
Pateince is a virtue. If he wants me, he has to show me that he does. Then he will have me, until then, I will do me. 🙂
Modern love hey? I want to create a thread about it.....what do you think?
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I think you should create a topic about it. I’d love to hear how people date these days... it appears do be difficult.
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
@Wineaux15, I understand your situation. I too am entertaining a Ram gent and so far he has gone missing in action since my last message to him. Prior, he had been hot on my case so we shall see. His birthday is coming up soon, if he wishes to reach out he will.Like yours, you must stand by your strength and independance. They love that about a woman. Live your life, with or without him, and be happy. Regardless, whether or not he returns at least you time was not wasted. If he returns, great. If not, your time was well spent.
Of course, it hurts anyones ego to be ignored. However, just think back on times when you have also ignored others. We all have, at one time or another. Fret not, you will bounce back soon enough. Do activities that you enjoy, and most of all do not alter you normal schedule less you spiral down into that rabbit hole of overanalysing and overthinking.
How long for, Lady?
How long he has been missing in action ?
Yes
Middle of the week, I checked up on him since he was not feeling too well when I left him at the beginning of the week. Brief conversation, which he left hanging.
I was busy and kind of ill myself for the rest of the week. So I did not write him, he was busy as well (he told me his schedule prior), therefore no communications which is fine.
Today, I know he has a day off. So I wrote him, to see how he was. He read it, and I thought he was not going to respond (as he normally responds very swiftly). Then speak of the devil, he just responded now.
Aaaahh the spell worked then
😈
We will see. His messages are now suddenly formal and almost overly polite. Which does not make sense, rather confusing.
I am trying not to throw myself in, you know how easily us Stingers could slip. In case, the firey man has other pursuits.
After all, he has let me use his phone before and shown me lots of things on his phone. During those times, the notifications keep on coming in. He never has a short supply of women writing him.
Oh I see
Guard your ❤️ Scorpio
*Hugs*
Thank you dear stars, and I will. ❤️
Pateince is a virtue. If he wants me, he has to show me that he does. Then he will have me, until then, I will do me. 🙂
Modern love hey? I want to create a thread about it.....what do you think?
I think you should create a topic about it. I’d love to hear how people date these days... it appears do be difficult.
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I would love to....I've a different take on it to some some people
Will try and do that soon then. 😊
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
@Wineaux15, I understand your situation. I too am entertaining a Ram gent and so far he has gone missing in action since my last message to him. Prior, he had been hot on my case so we shall see. His birthday is coming up soon, if he wishes to reach out he will.Like yours, you must stand by your strength and independance. They love that about a woman. Live your life, with or without him, and be happy. Regardless, whether or not he returns at least you time was not wasted. If he returns, great. If not, your time was well spent.
Of course, it hurts anyones ego to be ignored. However, just think back on times when you have also ignored others. We all have, at one time or another. Fret not, you will bounce back soon enough. Do activities that you enjoy, and most of all do not alter you normal schedule less you spiral down into that rabbit hole of overanalysing and overthinking.
How long for, Lady?
How long he has been missing in action ?
Yes
Middle of the week, I checked up on him since he was not feeling too well when I left him at the beginning of the week. Brief conversation, which he left hanging.
I was busy and kind of ill myself for the rest of the week. So I did not write him, he was busy as well (he told me his schedule prior), therefore no communications which is fine.
Today, I know he has a day off. So I wrote him, to see how he was. He read it, and I thought he was not going to respond (as he normally responds very swiftly). Then speak of the devil, he just responded now.
Aaaahh the spell worked then
😈
We will see. His messages are now suddenly formal and almost overly polite. Which does not make sense, rather confusing.
I am trying not to throw myself in, you know how easily us Stingers could slip. In case, the firey man has other pursuits.
After all, he has let me use his phone before and shown me lots of things on his phone. During those times, the notifications keep on coming in. He never has a short supply of women writing him.
Oh I see
Guard your ❤️ Scorpio
*Hugs*
Thank you dear stars, and I will. ❤️
Pateince is a virtue. If he wants me, he has to show me that he does. Then he will have me, until then, I will do me. 🙂
Modern love hey? I want to create a thread about it.....what do you think?
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Create it, why not. I will join in the discussion. 🙂
Is it modern love, or knowing when to invest. We teach men know how to treat us, love is a two way connection. It is less so a power play, rather recognising our own self worth.
A lot of men know their own worth, and am not shy about letting women know it too. We women should do the same, we are equally as valuable. It is less games, more so to encourage good behaviours in others. Setting boundaries. Assertiveness.
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
@Wineaux15, I understand your situation. I too am entertaining a Ram gent and so far he has gone missing in action since my last message to him. Prior, he had been hot on my case so we shall see. His birthday is coming up soon, if he wishes to reach out he will.Like yours, you must stand by your strength and independance. They love that about a woman. Live your life, with or without him, and be happy. Regardless, whether or not he returns at least you time was not wasted. If he returns, great. If not, your time was well spent.
Of course, it hurts anyones ego to be ignored. However, just think back on times when you have also ignored others. We all have, at one time or another. Fret not, you will bounce back soon enough. Do activities that you enjoy, and most of all do not alter you normal schedule less you spiral down into that rabbit hole of overanalysing and overthinking.
How long for, Lady?
How long he has been missing in action ?
Yes
Middle of the week, I checked up on him since he was not feeling too well when I left him at the beginning of the week. Brief conversation, which he left hanging.
I was busy and kind of ill myself for the rest of the week. So I did not write him, he was busy as well (he told me his schedule prior), therefore no communications which is fine.
Today, I know he has a day off. So I wrote him, to see how he was. He read it, and I thought he was not going to respond (as he normally responds very swiftly). Then speak of the devil, he just responded now.
Aaaahh the spell worked then
😈
We will see. His messages are now suddenly formal and almost overly polite. Which does not make sense, rather confusing.
I am trying not to throw myself in, you know how easily us Stingers could slip. In case, the firey man has other pursuits.
After all, he has let me use his phone before and shown me lots of things on his phone. During those times, the notifications keep on coming in. He never has a short supply of women writing him.
Oh I see
Guard your ❤️ Scorpio
*Hugs*
Thank you dear stars, and I will. ❤️
Pateince is a virtue. If he wants me, he has to show me that he does. Then he will have me, until then, I will do me. 🙂
Modern love hey? I want to create a thread about it.....what do you think?
I think you should create a topic about it. I’d love to hear how people date these days... it appears do be difficult.
I would love to....I've a different take on it to some some people
Will try and do that soon then. 😊
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Absolutely!
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
@Wineaux15, I understand your situation. I too am entertaining a Ram gent and so far he has gone missing in action since my last message to him. Prior, he had been hot on my case so we shall see. His birthday is coming up soon, if he wishes to reach out he will.Like yours, you must stand by your strength and independance. They love that about a woman. Live your life, with or without him, and be happy. Regardless, whether or not he returns at least you time was not wasted. If he returns, great. If not, your time was well spent.
Of course, it hurts anyones ego to be ignored. However, just think back on times when you have also ignored others. We all have, at one time or another. Fret not, you will bounce back soon enough. Do activities that you enjoy, and most of all do not alter you normal schedule less you spiral down into that rabbit hole of overanalysing and overthinking.
How long for, Lady?
How long he has been missing in action ?
Yes
Middle of the week, I checked up on him since he was not feeling too well when I left him at the beginning of the week. Brief conversation, which he left hanging.
I was busy and kind of ill myself for the rest of the week. So I did not write him, he was busy as well (he told me his schedule prior), therefore no communications which is fine.
Today, I know he has a day off. So I wrote him, to see how he was. He read it, and I thought he was not going to respond (as he normally responds very swiftly). Then speak of the devil, he just responded now.
Aaaahh the spell worked then
😈
We will see. His messages are now suddenly formal and almost overly polite. Which does not make sense, rather confusing.
I am trying not to throw myself in, you know how easily us Stingers could slip. In case, the firey man has other pursuits.
After all, he has let me use his phone before and shown me lots of things on his phone. During those times, the notifications keep on coming in. He never has a short supply of women writing him.
Oh I see
Guard your ❤️ Scorpio
*Hugs*
Thank you dear stars, and I will. ❤️
Pateince is a virtue. If he wants me, he has to show me that he does. Then he will have me, until then, I will do me. 🙂
Modern love hey? I want to create a thread about it.....what do you think?
Create it, why not. I will join in the discussion. 🙂
Is it modern love, or knowing when to invest. We teach men know how to treat us, love is a two way connection. It is less so a power play, rather recognising our own self worth.
A lot of men know their own worth, and am not shy about letting women know it too. We women should do the same, we are equally as valuable. It is less games, more so to encourage good behaviours in others. Setting boundaries. Assertiveness.
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👏 also, if I my add knowing your strengths and what you can bring to the relationship will make you more confident in pursuing what you want and how to get it 😉
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
@Wineaux15, I understand your situation. I too am entertaining a Ram gent and so far he has gone missing in action since my last message to him. Prior, he had been hot on my case so we shall see. His birthday is coming up soon, if he wishes to reach out he will.Like yours, you must stand by your strength and independance. They love that about a woman. Live your life, with or without him, and be happy. Regardless, whether or not he returns at least you time was not wasted. If he returns, great. If not, your time was well spent.
Of course, it hurts anyones ego to be ignored. However, just think back on times when you have also ignored others. We all have, at one time or another. Fret not, you will bounce back soon enough. Do activities that you enjoy, and most of all do not alter you normal schedule less you spiral down into that rabbit hole of overanalysing and overthinking.
How long for, Lady?
How long he has been missing in action ?
Yes
Middle of the week, I checked up on him since he was not feeling too well when I left him at the beginning of the week. Brief conversation, which he left hanging.
I was busy and kind of ill myself for the rest of the week. So I did not write him, he was busy as well (he told me his schedule prior), therefore no communications which is fine.
Today, I know he has a day off. So I wrote him, to see how he was. He read it, and I thought he was not going to respond (as he normally responds very swiftly). Then speak of the devil, he just responded now.
Aaaahh the spell worked then
😈
We will see. His messages are now suddenly formal and almost overly polite. Which does not make sense, rather confusing.
I am trying not to throw myself in, you know how easily us Stingers could slip. In case, the firey man has other pursuits.
After all, he has let me use his phone before and shown me lots of things on his phone. During those times, the notifications keep on coming in. He never has a short supply of women writing him.
Oh I see
Guard your ❤️ Scorpio
*Hugs*
Thank you dear stars, and I will. ❤️
Pateince is a virtue. If he wants me, he has to show me that he does. Then he will have me, until then, I will do me. 🙂
Modern love hey? I want to create a thread about it.....what do you think?
I think you should create a topic about it. I’d love to hear how people date these days... it appears do be difficult.
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I would like it as well.
Dating is a minefield these days. If only we could go back to the days of merely phone calls, voice mail, and snail mail.
If you want to see someone, you go out there and pursue them. None of this, half arsed attempts. You get off your behind, and do something about it.
Posted by Wineaux15
I was conversing with and getting to know (on a romantic/ sexual level since I already know him on a friendly level) an Aries guy. He’s very handsome and I’m pretty (so I’ve been told) and he appeared to really like me. Once I was at the club with my friends who had a section for my friend’s birthday. He KNEW this and said he would go somewhere else. I was like cool see you some other time. Well.... he shows up to the club I was at and followed me around! Anytime a guy tried to approach me he’d do his “manly man” stare & puff out his chest and the guys would walk off. He wanted to come to my house or I go to his but I said no thank you because him showing up unannounced where I was made me feel weird a little and I kind of wanted to put some space in between us. That was in January. A few weekends in between that time and now.... I asked him if we could hang out. He always made an excuse why he couldn’t. Last weekend he asked me to come over, but as I was about to come he said he wasn’t home. I THINK this is him rejecting me, but I’m not sure because I’ve never been rejected, nor do I know how to respond moving forward. I know I don’t like how it feels. His messages are mixed to me: 1. He’s social media stalking me 2. I told him I was going to the Dominican Republic next month and he asked if he could go with me. I told him I’m taking my friend and he said that’s a vacation for romance and not friendship and he was serious... I didn’t respond to that because I wasn’t sure how to 3. Asking me to come see him then saying he’s not home 4. When he popped up on me at the club without telling me he was coming, watched me for a while at the club before he approached me, once he did approach me he was really affectionate with me in public in front of my friends and stayed next to me the whole entire time 4. He’s always telling me I’m so smart and pretty 5. We both just got out of long term relationships... but I don’t want anything serious just a guy friend and he knows this.Did I mess up by being too forward and asking him if we could hang out? Does it sound like he even likes me or is totally uninterested? Is there a possibility of something I can do to gain his interest. (Oh I’ve known him since middle school & high school , but not in this capacity).
You have been casually intimate with him, acting like you are interested yet you only like him as a friend? are you saying you only want a FWB or just friendship with him?
Well, I’m interested in the sense that I’m attracted to him, I’d like to get to know him better by doing things with him like our eat, mall, or what have you versus just talking and texting on the phone or through IG, but I’m still ver cautious about trying for a relationship or committment right now due to what I just got out of only 6/7 months ago. He’s only been broken up with his long term 6 year relationship 8 months ago. But I’d still like to hang with him to get to know him more than the casual friends we’ve been on a more personal level. Now as far as sex.... not sure if I’m ready to have sex with him yet because with that comes a new set of emotions. But I’m sure if he advances I won’t turn him down because I’m super attracted to him. In short... I’m confused myself if what I want 🤷🏽♀️.
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Just give it time. Both of you need time to restore yourselves after your prior relationships so getting to know each other slowly is smart if you are truly interested. It seems like he is also interested but not quite ready for commitment which is understandable. I'd just say keep it casual and give him time to heal if you're wanting a relationship eventually with him. There's no rush. You both want complete versions of yourselves before you start something serious.
Your playing games I would drop u like a bad habit. He asked if he could go with u to Dominican and u rejected him. Us Aries are very easy to read and don't like games he's moved on. Next time be more transparent but we usually only give one chance for a relationship and don't go back
Posted by vixen14
Honestly it just sounds like you don’t even know what you want. You’re the one that’s giving mixed signals and he’s trying to take things forward.
Vixen14 LMBO @ your pic. It's too cute and if that's you, you are pretty.
Posted by vixen14
Honestly it just sounds like you don’t even know what you want. You’re the one that’s giving mixed signals and he’s trying to take things forward.Vixen14 LMBO @ your pic. It's too cute and if that's you, you are pretty.
Yeah lol I was bored and playing with my PicsArt app and since I don’t want to put Aries pic on here, I put my celeb crush’s head lol 😬 and thank you!
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Hilarious
@Wineaux15, all in all. If the man likes you and is interested. There is absolutely no way you could mess up, much less for a fire sign. He will chase and want you. To think any more of it, will only hurt our hearts. Let them prove themselves.
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Posted by TheLadyScorpio
@Wineaux15, I understand your situation. I too am entertaining a Ram gent and so far he has gone missing in action since my last message to him. Prior, he had been hot on my case so we shall see. His birthday is coming up soon, if he wishes to reach out he will.Like yours, you must stand by your strength and independance. They love that about a woman. Live your life, with or without him, and be happy. Regardless, whether or not he returns at least you time was not wasted. If he returns, great. If not, your time was well spent.
Of course, it hurts anyones ego to be ignored. However, just think back on times when you have also ignored others. We all have, at one time or another. Fret not, you will bounce back soon enough. Do activities that you enjoy, and most of all do not alter you normal schedule less you spiral down into that rabbit hole of overanalysing and overthinking.
I’m guilty of this 😂 (over analyzing AND over thinking) click to expand
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What is your sign?
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Posted by TheLadyScorpio
@Wineaux15, I understand your situation. I too am entertaining a Ram gent and so far he has gone missing in action since my last message to him. Prior, he had been hot on my case so we shall see. His birthday is coming up soon, if he wishes to reach out he will.Like yours, you must stand by your strength and independance. They love that about a woman. Live your life, with or without him, and be happy. Regardless, whether or not he returns at least you time was not wasted. If he returns, great. If not, your time was well spent.
Of course, it hurts anyones ego to be ignored. However, just think back on times when you have also ignored others. We all have, at one time or another. Fret not, you will bounce back soon enough. Do activities that you enjoy, and most of all do not alter you normal schedule less you spiral down into that rabbit hole of overanalysing and overthinking.
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She is a Water Bearer.
He has options
I agree, and obviously I’m not top on
the list. I’ll move on then 😢.
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I really can’t see why would anyone say he has options?
Seems to me he is clearly into you...
From my experience with Aries - they are aloof! Example...he is looking for something important. Complaining to me about it. I am writing long advice...getting stupid reply...irrelevant...
I am writing seriously pissed off reply...
He answers: sorry, I was stressed out and haven’t read what you wrote.
Now I did and I appreciate you so much, you are an incredible woman and I can’t wait to see you!
Like ‘whaaaaat’?
And he does it all the time. And I don’t care. Because otherwise he is an awesome man. Just a child.
So him telling you to come but he is not home isn’t indication of him having options...he just told you what he would like to have. But he wasn’t home so...
Don’t read too much. And keep working on him. ❤️
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I was conversing with and getting to know (on a romantic/ sexual level since I already know him on a friendly level) an Aries guy. He’s very handsome and I’m pretty (so I’ve been told) and he appeared to really like me. Once I was at the club with my friends who had a section for my friend’s birthday. He KNEW this and said he would go somewhere else. I was like cool see you some other time. Well.... he shows up to the club I was at and followed me around! Anytime a guy tried to approach me he’d do his “manly man” stare & puff out his chest and the guys would walk off. He wanted to come to my house or I go to his but I said no thank you because him showing up unannounced where I was made me feel weird a little and I kind of wanted to put some space in between us. That was in January. A few weekends in between that time and now.... I asked him if we could hang out. He always made an excuse why he couldn’t. Last weekend he asked me to come over, but as I was about to come he said he wasn’t home. I THINK this is him rejecting me, but I’m not sure because I’ve never been rejected, nor do I know how to respond moving forward. I know I don’t like how it feels. His messages are mixed to me: 1. He’s social media stalking me 2. I told him I was going to the Dominican Republic next month and he asked if he could go with me. I told him I’m taking my friend and he said that’s a vacation for romance and not friendship and he was serious... I didn’t respond to that because I wasn’t sure how to 3. Asking me to come see him then saying he’s not home 4. When he popped up on me at the club without telling me he was coming, watched me for a while at the club before he approached me, once he did approach me he was really affectionate with me in public in front of my friends and stayed next to me the whole entire time 4. He’s always telling me I’m so smart and pretty 5. We both just got out of long term relationships... but I don’t want anything serious just a guy friend and he knows this.
Did I mess up by being too forward and asking him if we could hang out? Does it sound like he even likes me or is totally uninterested? Is there a possibility of something I can do to gain his interest. (Oh I’ve known him since middle school & high school , but not in this capacity).