Do Aries men come back??! Help Virgo woman!!!

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Virgozlibra
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Hi! So I met an Aries man online and we've been talking long distance for a cpl months now... Well me being a Virgo started catching feelings and immediately became all panicky after he professed he loved me-- he was taking marriage, kids, etc. I got all needy and drove him away. I ended it , but I also tried to make it work and he just seemed he wasn't up for the challenge of me, so it's been a day, do you think it's likely he'll return— Any chance— Thanks in advance!!
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Virgozlibra
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It's a. Complicated situation... We both are in unhappy marriages with children and are only there for the kids. I am always like this in relationships , once someone says they love me I get very anxious. But he was all about me and we had lots of fun and he talked about the future with me a lot.. Included me in all of it. He was determined to make us work.. Then as soon as I started with my insecurities, and anxious displays and questioning his love for me he checked out I guess... I really hope he thinks about it and realizes we could be a good thing...
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Virgozlibra
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Posted by piscesmoon2
No we don't always come back. We can be very idealistic and basically if we feel like we are a second choice. It does not sit well with us...

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Second choice,??!! Well he was the married one, I am in a long term relationship because he threatens to keep the kids since he's more financially stable than me.. But he's married not me he def didn't feel that way.. He just didn't truly love me I guess
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Virgozlibra
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Posted by LeoGemini11
This is why I don't trust people. Why even get married these days if this is what you have to look forward to?
When kids are involved it's a whole new complication-- I stay because he threatens to keep the kids from me since he actually has money and I'm still in school so I don't.. He stays because she threatens to take his house, cars kids etc.. From him.. It's fucked you're right
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Virgozlibra
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Posted by Zetarose
It's a. Complicated situation... We both are in unhappy marriages with children and are only there for the kids. I am always like this in relationships , once someone says they love me I get very anxious. But he was all about me and we had lots of fun and he talked about the future with me a lot.. Included me in all of it. He was determined to make us work.. Then as soon as I started with my insecurities, and anxious displays and questioning his love for me he checked out I guess... I really hope he thinks about it and realizes we could be a good thing...
You're married!
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No he is I'm in a LTR just because he threatens to take the kids so now I feel stuck
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Posted by Zetarose
Hi! So I met an Aries man online and we've been talking long distance for a cpl months now... Well me being a Virgo started catching feelings and immediately became all panicky after he professed he loved me-- he was taking marriage, kids, etc. I got all needy and drove him away. I ended it , but I also tried to make it work and he just seemed he wasn't up for the challenge of me, so it's been a day, do you think it's likely he'll return— Any chance— Thanks in advance!!
Maybe he logged on and read your "about me" on the side bar.. might want to update the sign for your drink of choice.

It currently states you're locked in on an Aqua to quench your thirst.
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Virgozlibra
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Posted by Zetarose
Hi! So I met an Aries man online and we've been talking long distance for a cpl months now... Well me being a Virgo started catching feelings and immediately became all panicky after he professed he loved me-- he was taking marriage, kids, etc. I got all needy and drove him away. I ended it , but I also tried to make it work and he just seemed he wasn't up for the challenge of me, so it's been a day, do you think it's likely he'll return— Any chance— Thanks in advance!!
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Maybe he logged on and read your "about me" on the side bar.. might want to update the sign for your drink of choice.

It currently states you're locked in on an Aqua to quench

I highly doubt that lol- but yes I was originally interested in an Aquarius- long over him; but this Aries I doubt would ever google something like this..
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Hmmz if one of you is married then you just have to leave it, because if one of you was really unhappy in marriage then you would just get a divorce? But a lot of Aries create and thrive in complicated situations like this, even if you got with him, it would not be something permanent. If once he’s out of marriage, if that’s the route he takes, then he won’t want to be with you, he will want to start fresh and be single.

I don’t think Aries men think that the answer to a long term woman problem is to get another long term woman.

But I think Aries are fire and sometimes they have to let that out, I’ve told women really intensely that they are amazing and I really like them. But then ten minutes later just think "actually I’m bored now, dunno why I said that" and possibly chuckle (….sorry, I don’t know why we do this, we have to create chaos and change).

I would not take this level of intensity seriously, but if you wanted to be with him then he could like you, and you will need to look for other signals. But like I say, once he’s bored of you, he will want to be completely single and look for other challenges, that's if he does leave his wife. I could be wrong though.
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Posted by piscesmoon2
I usually never come back if a women does not show any interested when she first meets me and is busy with other men or has an attitude.

I will also say some men retru if they are purely coming from a primal motivation... just to basically fuck. Any sign can be known to do this if they are on a bad path... and have little regard for others feelings.

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I have a question for you. I am a Cancer, I am sure I drive my Aries crazy sometimes with my antics, but at the end of the day, she does always come back because she knows that I can support her in her antics as well. By antics I mean our sensitivity, insecurities, reactions, etc.

But lately, she's been getting involved with others (more than just friends), and if I felt they could treat her better, I would be so much more nervous. But I know the people she's involved with, and I know she's welcoming a host of problems, I highly suspect more than with me.

She has always come back, but I worry that one day when she's disappointed with her new venture, she won't come back, she'll jump to the next one and forget the good things with me. She's always been really clear about who's in her corner, so this is an unusual fear for me. I know you're an Aries man, but what do you think? Is this in an Aries nature to move on this way? I know Aries like new conquests on one hand and can be super loyal on the other, what does it take for them to give up on a relationship?
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I think before worrying about this guy you need to sort out your relationship with your children's father. If you are unhappy with him you need to leave, it is very rare that a mother will not gain custody of the children. Even though you are staying for the sake of the kids do you really want to bring them up in a loveless relationship? Children are a lot more sensitive to things than we give them credit for and their future relationships are molded somewhat by their parents relationship. It won't be easy but it sounds like you need space to clear your head.

Good luck with your chosen path x
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Virgozlibra
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Posted by Ohdear
I think before worrying about this guy you need to sort out your relationship with your children's father. If you are unhappy with him you need to leave, it is very rare that a mother will not gain custody of the children. Even though you are staying for the sake of the kids do you really want to bring them up in a loveless relationship? Children are a lot more sensitive to things than we give them credit for and their future relationships are molded somewhat by their parents relationship. It won't be easy but it sounds like you need space to clear your head.

Good luck with your chosen path x
Thank you; I know it's just so hard and I am trying to finish school first because I have no family in the area, and no job so if I leave I need to be able to take care of myself/ and kids!