Hey, Y'all! (Page 2)

I don't think that accepting people as they are means that I should cosign their behavior. I love my bestfriend dearly but she has done somethings that aren't cool and I've told her. I don't love her any less and accept that is who she is but I'm not required to agree with that behavior.

If you want to be upfront about your behavior you have to be prepared for people not to like it.

P-Angel

Why are you crying?

This is kindly meant, even though you won't take it this way, but try not to take everything so personally. This wasn't about you. Try not to project your feelings into the situation. It isn't about you or a reflection on you.

People are who they are. You can't change it so roll with it. 🙂

LS, because I can't help it . . being a mother is the most important job a woman can have in her life . . and I'm not crying about this morality issue.

It's taking punches below the belt and insulting a mother on how she raises her kids.

My heart can't take that . . I know that irritates people, but, I can't help it . . I'm still crying . . if a person, just for the sake of winning a fight, attacked a mother with her children . . I'll be devastated everytime.

Maybe it wasn't a punch. Maybe AB really thinks Roxi is a bad mother. And what does it matter if she does?

This is actually a serious question.

When you have children . . hopefully, you'll understand.

Perhaps, it's just me and my nature . . some people CAN turn their hearts cold to this and attack another woman with their opinion about their children and being a bad parent, but . . my heart can't take it.

Damn, I can't stop.

Some things I can take, my heart can turn cold for lots of reasons . . but, when it comes to kids and using the love you have for them against another . . I can't deal with that.

Maybe it's because I'm barren and my only son, who came from an abused home . . I love more than any person in this world . . taking it personally? Yeah . . but, I can't help it.

I hate being a Pisces . . didn't even phase her . . she barely even noticed . . and I'm sitting here . . crying buckets . . and can't stop.

But these are all your feelings. They aren't anyone else's.

Roxi has two choices she can ask herself why people preceive her in this fashion and correct her behaviour or dismiss the opinion as factless.

I actually don't believe it was a blow. I think AB was concerned about the morality/mentality Roxi is teaching her children.

You see AB's comment as a low blow. I see AB's comment as a reflection of her concern. We have different perspectives. Doesn't mean either of us is right or wrong.

If you are confident in your ability to parent it really doesn't matter what some faceless stranger on a message board says. I know that I wouldn't give a darn.

LS, I know . . but, still . . I'm not made like you . . I don't know how to turn it off like that . . I have to go lay down, or something . . I can't hardly even see.

Feel better P-Angel.

Just try to reason it through. It was an opinion. Opinions are just different views on the truth. And there are many paths to the truth.

LS . . my heart doesn't know how to seperate it . . being a parent, being a mother.

I can FEEL it . . it's not a thought . . I can FEEL it shaking all the way down to my core. I can't explain it . . it just is.

BTW .... * I'm not made like you * ... is why you probably shouldn't ever assume I am angry or upset. 99% of the time, I am not. (And you have done this before.) I would prefer you accept that I am usually coming from a happy place or a peaceful place as that is closer to the truth.

Take Care

I have to go . . I can't stop crying . . I'll talk to you later. I'm sorry I yelled at you.

** my heart doesn't know how to seperate it

Because in your mind it isn't the truth so the point is invalid.

😉

Psssshhhha!

Don't worry about it! I am the least likely to take offence. If you can't yell at me ... who can you yell at.

Just go take care of yourself and feel better. k?

🙂

Hi AB

Of course am nobody to tell U that, but getting upset with somebody is a very personal matter and venting spleen in public view may lead to irreversible damages as in how people start altering their respective perceptions and forming judgments about issues. U have every right to maintain that whatever Roxx did was wrong but mounting a viscous attack on her life- style and then later on the way shez supposed to raise her off-spring, left a bad taste. If U aren't happy with somebody's actions and that too in this virtual world, then it should either be restricted to Urself and at the most , expressed privately.


I can understand that U acted out on Ur reformist/moralistic instinct and even I personally cant condone those acts. Most of us would not in fact. But the crux is how to exhibit disagreement on such topics without taking a high-moral ground and without hurting someone. I have had several run-ins here and have come to realize that perhaps taking up cudgels isn't the right choice always.

We need to remain sensitive to the fact that there are situations people are entitled to deal with in their own style .

Sorry for being preachy but thatz the way I feel about it.

I dunno.

the way I think AB is seeing it, and correct me if I am wrong, if you can come out and say I am a bad person and do bad things and I don't care ... AB is wondering what this person is teaching their children about life.

"AB is wondering what this person is teaching their children about life."

Even if shez in some way casting a bad influence there, it would solely be based on assumptions rendering it speculative. Judgements should carefully be formed on such sensitive issues and the choice/usage of words should be made with more caution. I remember myself casting such aspersions on Dancing Bread one day , and that was a very mean tactic I had adopted. I wanted to win a point and I went that far.

I don't believe AB was off-side anymore than Roxi is with using AB's star sign as a putdown.

Actually, in someways it was probably less off-side because I read it not with venom but posted with concern. Ya know?

Whatever Roxx says about Aries is the view which she personally holds. And for that matter whichever negative points are raised here against us serve a purpose. People will love U for watz gud about U and they would despise U for the shortcomings.

IMHO, criticism eventually gives U food for thought in stead of taking away Ur self-esteem.

Yeah I know it came out of concern more. Perhaps AB had an image in her mind and Roxx went against the very grain. But....Such is life.

Roxi

i saw your message on the Scorp board. No worries. Believe it or not, I wasn't even scrapping. I was trying to chat.

And hell ... I don't care if you are a player. Have you met me? lol! Sometimes a girl needs to get laid. It was more the hurting people and not caring that bothered me. I figure life is hard enough for all of us. Why make it worse?

Anyway we all good.

Everyone and everything is doing it's job perfectly---no mistake. 😉

um. i have pms too! just makes me want to eat crisps and sleep. my spouse seems to think multiple big "O"'s are the solution and sets to! i think i agree. now, let's ALL go work on that. c'mon everybody. make love not war!! (will that last one get me kicked out of the aries club?)