Should I tell him or no?

The Aries man and I have been hanging out a lot. He’s repeatedly told me our connection scares him. It’s funny because I posted about manifesting a few months back and he is exactly everything I wrote down. He told me that when he ran into me at a coffee shop a few years ago that he knew in the second he would see me again. He has told me so many times that he has never spoken to someone with the depth and easiness of us. He has planned trips for us. Texts me daily... all day. Yet he has said that he is taking time off dating. My coworkers think he’s waiting for me to make a move. I just don’t know if I should. He’s expressed his desire to remain single, but his actions are shouting “I like you a lot more than I should”...... I’m worried for my own peace of mind. What if I get hurt?! Should I tell him how I feel? Will that ruin whatever is going on? Should I distance myself from this?

I think you should distance yourself because my experience was the same..he planned/communicated/made an effort to see and be with me then BAM he was gone. Take everything and give nothing..that should be your path with this one!

No, I'm just saying, don't be blinded by the charm and bold statements. There's nothing wrong with distance. If he doesn't like it, he'll find a way to close the gap.

At this stage..you've got to weed the real intentions from the wishy washy ones.

I think patience is key here. I might need to step away for a bit. Being patient has never been my strong suit. But this situation is on my mind a lot. We’re hanging out like 3 times a week. It might just be too much for me. I don’t want to get my feelings hurt.

We have never spoken about him and I. We only speak in friend terms. But he is always being more than friendly. It’s very odd. It’s like I’m 15..... we just hangout with this elephant in the room. He says the year thing when we discuss his ex... that situation. It’s just confusing I posted a similar topic about him getting annoyed when I mentioned dating. I’m just like.... should we just discuss this and get out of the way. I think he tried to the other night.... but the hesitation was there. I could just hold my tongue and wait to see how things unfold. But I’d be lying to say I’m not nervous about allowing my own emotions to deepen.

Ya know. I like this forum because it allows me to write out my feelings and really make sense of my feelings.

I’m gonna stop hanging out as much with him. Not go to his house until 2am.... just keep it friendly.

Ahhhhh!!!! Idk. Am I being a lil bitch?!?!



He is much more vocal about things. I do joke it off. You’re right.

Age is important...are you guys young?

Hahaha. See now this is the shit is I’m talking about. I told him I like Malbecs this weekend.... so he just text now me a picture of 2 bottles and said “I got these to have at my house for you”

Jump right in then! Then blame the Malbec, haha!

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he has said that he is taking time off dating.

I would've stopped seeing him for this ⬆⬆⬆

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My coworkers think he’s waiting for me to make a move.

I also wouldn't want to involve co-workers in my personal life. People can be huge gossips. And your decision should not be based on other people's opinions.

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What if I get hurt?! Should I tell him how I feel? Will that ruin whatever is going on? Should I distance myself from this?

You're overthinking all of this AGAIN.

You still sound insecure tbh

I think he likes her but not enough for proper relationship material. Sorry Helium x

I’m very insecure in relationships. I’m on a goddamn Internet forum about it for gods sake. Hahaha. Does that sound like a solid place to be?!?! Lol



My coworkers are my homies. I’m not worried about that..

He just text me that we should goto Karaoke with his dad on Friday cause it’s hilarious. And that me talking about having kids with someone I love last night “was the sweetest and best thing I’ve heard someone talk about in 2018”..... I do not provoke these texts. He talks like this.... then he randomly throws into conversation a few times a week “I’m staying single for a year... watch”. It’s goddamn confusing!

He sounds like hard work! You're a fellow Leeb, you'll get bored of it soon enough 🙂

He’s honestly a total gentleman. Very nice man. Easy. It’s just that his behavior and his words don’t match. That’s confusing.

Usually guys behavior doesn’t match in reversed order. This is the opposite of what I’m familiar with.

Wow. Why is it so serious? Guys don’t really communicate like this, they don’t communicate like women “now, let’s sit down and have a conversation about our feelings towards each other and what the future holds”... does that sound like guy talk? ...but my original point, why’s it so serious? Look, I get it, you don’t want to get hurt, but why do anything if that’s the case, why even leave the house in the morning?, Being hurt is part of life, don’t go out there scared, don’t go out with the mindset it’s doomed for failure from the start. Sure, maybe you can sabotage yourself and sit back and tell everyone you were right and you got hurt. But it’s no way to live. Where’s the fun, the positivity? For me he’s made it very clear, he likes you, but he needs a bit of time to ease into it? Isn’t that what he’s saying? Don’t give him the impression you are pushy, possessive, scared, serious, insecure, worried, and that you think of him so much all the time. Keep it fun, easy, create the fun moments to remember, Do not have a stupid conversation, keep it fun and enjoy the moment, serious conversations are for later, when you are actually clearing a couple, jumping the gun too soon makes you seem like you think you’re in a serious relationship before you aren’t. Let actions do the talking, not words.

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The Aries man and I have been hanging out a lot. He’s repeatedly told me our connection scares him. It’s funny because I posted about manifesting a few months back and he is exactly everything I wrote down. He told me that when he ran into me at a coffee shop a few years ago that he knew in the second he would see me again. He has told me so many times that he has never spoken to someone with the depth and easiness of us. He has planned trips for us. Texts me daily... all day. Yet he has said that he is taking time off dating. My coworkers think he’s waiting for me to make a move. I just don’t know if I should. He’s expressed his desire to remain single, but his actions are shouting “I like you a lot more than I should”...... I’m worried for my own peace of mind. What if I get hurt?! Should I tell him how I feel? Will that ruin whatever is going on? Should I distance myself from this?

If you focused more on your child instead of trying to shack up with every man who shows interest in you I'm sure you'd be much more satisfied and fulfilled with your life

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The moment I start taking parenting advice from an internet troll who probably hasn't been laid in the last 5 years, and is most likely posted up in some wood paneled basement is the day someone needs to just put me down. My aspirations for her are to be happy enough that she doesnt feel the need to hide behind cartoon avatars and try to make strangers feel shitty about themselves.

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Wow. Why is it so serious? Guys don’t really communicate like this, they don’t communicate like women “now, let’s sit down and have a conversation about our feelings towards each other and what the future holds”... does that sound like guy talk? ...but my original point, why’s it so serious? Look, I get it, you don’t want to get hurt, but why do anything if that’s the case, why even leave the house in the morning?, Being hurt is part of life, don’t go out there scared, don’t go out with the mindset it’s doomed for failure from the start. Sure, maybe you can sabotage yourself and sit back and tell everyone you were right and you got hurt. But it’s no way to live. Where’s the fun, the positivity? For me he’s made it very clear, he likes you, but he needs a bit of time to ease into it? Isn’t that what he’s saying? Don’t give him the impression you are pushy, possessive, scared, serious, insecure, worried, and that you think of him so much all the time. Keep it fun, easy, create the fun moments to remember, Do not have a stupid conversation, keep it fun and enjoy the moment, serious conversations are for later, when you are actually clearing a couple, jumping the gun too soon makes you seem like you think you’re in a serious relationship before you aren’t. Let actions do the talking, not words.

Youre totally right. I'm gonna just chill and have fun. Yesterday was a weird day for me I was overthinking about every damn thing under the sun. I like getting perspective on here. Sometimes you just need another voice. I dont sit and talk about all my ideas with friends cause who has time?!?! This forum is great for that.

Also, I have not said ANY of this to him. I am not actually THAT stressed about it. I just sometimes feel like the tension is there and maybe I should just get the cat out of the bag. I dont take this site that seriously so I tell you all every little thought I have.... because its easy and I dont know any of you. You know what I mean? I'm not out here being crazy with folks. I use this as a place to express all that shit we all think about occasionally.

Sounds like he's trying to hold on to you....so that when he decides to date he can have you. Like a trial run almost. Anyway don't let him jerk you around at all....if he's just friends, then so are you. Only give what he gives to you..nothing more.

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My coworkers think he’s waiting for me to make a move.

I also wouldn't want to involve co-workers in my personal life. People can be huge gossips. And your decision should not be based on other people's opinions.

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Sad a woman who is a member of dxp...lmao

Oh god. How did this come back up!? haha He eventually told me he liked me, and I told him we shouldnt speak anymore. So there is my delusional ass acting up again.hahahaha

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Oh god. How did this come back up!? haha He eventually told me he liked me, and I told him we shouldnt speak anymore. So there is my delusional ass acting up again.hahahaha

What? Is it a joke?

Basically, yes.

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Oh god. How did this come back up!? haha He eventually told me he liked me, and I told him we shouldnt speak anymore. So there is my delusional ass acting up again.hahahaha

When a libra can't make a decision and then later on changes her mind. 😂😂😂

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He was looking for a rebound. I was looking to indulge in mental masturbation (as usual). It was fun. He got me and my family free tickets to a hockey game tomorrow though. We coo!

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Ahhhhh!!!! Idk. Am I being a lil bitch?!?!



He is much more vocal about things. I do joke it off. You’re right.

he is being a tease and you are trying to uphold both yours and his emotional state by not progressing - fuck that - call his bluff, hold your emotions in a reality check and skiru his brains out and then leave him alone and see what happens

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I don’t want to get my feelings hurt.

That's very rich, seeing as you never felt guilty about hurting the feelings of your exes, when you started playing passive-aggressive mind games with them.

Remember, karma can be a real bitch...

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I'll agree with you here.

It has been. Trust me.