When you finally express your insecurities or hurt and someone makes it all about them.

So you finally open up about what you’re deep down hurting about, which isn’t an often occurrence because you don’t admit to others certian things, and then the person you opened up to makes it all about them and how they had “similar” (not similar what so fucking ever) things and totally relate and explain their story and talk all about how it made them feel and then go on a tangent about themselves....what do you do?

I get really mad and feel even more like.l no one understands or tries to and shut them out fast, and never open up to them again.

It’s how people communicate. If you tell me about a terrible thing and I’ve experienced something similar I’m gonna open up about it too.

Just direct the conversation back to you.

Annoying

I've noticed people do that here rather than just listen to the person's story

Let them finish comparing it to whatever they think happened in their life is comparable to what u opened up about .. when they’re finished tell them “this was really hard for me to talk about , I feel like u made it just about yourself & it makes me want to shut down” .. take it from there

I have a Libra friend like this. I tried to let her decide the fate of our friendship by posing the “hypothetical” question: If you had a friend who always one ups you even when you open up to them, would you 1) Quit talking to them, 2) Pretend like it never happened, 3) Stop sharing secrets with them, or 4) Try to one up them back. She chose 2, at which point I confessed I felt like she tries to one-up me and then hinted at my double-life. For a minute she stopped trying to one up...But her true colors eventually came up again. So I’m finna fade out of her life.

I advise you do the same, OP. Ask the hypothetical question just like you did here, and see what le friend says.

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Posted by MyStarsShine
Annoying

I've noticed people do that here rather than just listen to the person's story

Well I'm probably the most annoying person of all for people who love to whine about their problems. Cause I'm only gonna do 1 of 2 things: Tell you exactly what to do about the problem, and failing to be rational and follow my orders I'll just say "Holy shit why are you talking to me about this? I give 0 fucks about your stupid bullshit."

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Yes

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Posted by Whorpio
...then hinted at my double-life...

What double life? You wear your slutiness on your sleeve lol

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Not in real life. Dxp is my safe place to confide since none of y’all know me in person 👀

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Posted by Whorpio
Not in real life. Dxp is my safe place to confide since none of y’all know me in person 👀

That's dumb, just be up front about it.

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Someone gon snitch on me if I do 😱😱