how to find people similar to me?

Hello,

when i get older i feel like i dont need to be friends with everyone.

Its normal, its ok.

I am Aries, with Cap moon. The older I get the more Capricorn-ian (?) i become.

And its not about me being very serious and strict.I become aware, my consciousness is getting better.

When I was younger I was the funniest one, the good, beautiful girl with a lot of friends. I have always been the friend not the girlfriend type. I have always beet struggling with relationships . Even in 2016 so when i was 26 some men told me i was funny - than i was beutiful, misterious or etc.

I have always been an optymist. People perceived me as a light woman, no problems, hard worker but a good girl. I didnt understand that for them being optymistyc and nice? mean weak or naive.

I didnt know people judge you like that.

The problem is that is see even some of my friends started to seeing me as a very laid back and light hearted.

Because i dont like rules and so one. They are very strict about the rules. For me we can change rules.

Actually i dont know who i am. I do not find anything cool. Maybe i am artistic, maybe i am more theoretican than doer. NO idea.

I have had a lot of people in my life from different fields.

When it comes to relationships i have always been very strict and serious. Men were scared about that.

I dont know why.

Some girls let men have the other women. SOme girls let drink or take light drugs with men.

I didnt agree- it was me who was strict in that way...

So i dont know where i can find people similar to me- i dont have a problem finding people with the same interest to me. Its ok- i can go to the museum or a theatre or some art school and make friends.

But generally people who have the same approach to life.

I dont know if i ever find people like that.

People say i am not approachable.

I have always been nice and people were hurting me. When i decided not to respond they didnt know what i was saying. They thought making people feel miserable is ok. Usually people are shallow and play on your emotions.

Its very hard to find people who dont play with emotions.

I wish i had friends with benefist or light relationship with someone. But noone wants me because people are afraid of me, my approach now. Because i told them that i dont agree for taking light drugs or to be normal if my boyfriend has 2-3 other women...

BUt when i go to the party its like a big WOW.

WHy is that?

WHy i cant have some personal rules and be light and funny in other people's eyes?

Why people judge you and make stereotypes after 2-3 meetings...

It's hard to know wtf you're talking about.

Posted by Leo188881
You feel different and like you don't fit in. People don't seem to accept and understand you. You feel like you're nice and other people are cruel. They take you for granted and hurt you. Is that how you're feeling?

Im the same, l have zero friends, l dont even go out at all....

So what? Keep living your life, eventually this phase will phase out, and smth will happen.

Posted by Leo188881
You feel different and like you don't fit in. People don't seem to accept and understand you. You feel like you're nice and other people are cruel. They take you for granted and hurt you. Is that how you're feeling?

no, not at all.

i just feel like i dont need other people and eveyrthing is shallow.

friends make money even not trying 1/10 as i do. maybe its because of my studies. maybe its my period of life.

i dont think people are cruel.

i found that being nice and kind is a picture of being weak and naive.

a lot of people wanted to 'help and fix' me when i was nice and kind. even 3-4 years ago.

now they are afraid of me. i dont know why.

maybe because i told them my word? and i gave them my opinion? and i was not the 2nd now im the 1st?

Posted by Leo188881

Posted by bricklemark

Posted by Leo188881
You feel different and like you don't fit in. People don't seem to accept and understand you. You feel like you're nice and other people are cruel. They take you for granted and hurt you. Is that how you're feeling?

Im the same, l have zero friends, l dont even go out at all....

So what? Keep living your life, eventually this phase will phase out, and smth will happen.

Ok I'm lost now. I must have picked up on the wrong energy because i totally misread her post so let's talk about you and your existence. Did something trigger your withdrawal from human contact?

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Oh we're on me now? 😂

do you have 12th house? that usually indicates isolation and withdrawal. and private life.