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Posted by ScenicPosted by bkbella86Posted by ScenicPosted by IrresistableScorp
The guy was a complete douche and if it was me, I'd have at least given him a HUGE fuck you.
Btw if you've ever taken public transport over 15 miles that can be a long haul. I'd be pissed. I can also understand why she didn't just go home. Who wants to spend all day on public transportation on Christmas.
This guy warrants never speaking to again. Are you people really defending his douchebaggery behavior.
I'm not a violent person but if you have any kind of anger issues, I can see giving him at least a slap.
So you think it would be okay for a man to punch a woman because she emotionally hurt him and ruined his Christmas?
Yes...surely he can handle it
I wasn't asking you nor was I asking about a man getting punched, in fact the opposite, but it's good to know you think violence against men is okay.click to expand
So I can't answer? Sheesh
It's my opinion and that's what this place if for...sorry you can't handle that.
You can but your opinion doesn't really matter to me. Besides you've already proved you're sexist with your comment so there's no need to dig any deeper. People who uphold double standards have no right to complain when the opposite side does the same thing back. So if you ever comment saying 'hitting a girl is wrong' or if you ever say anything like 'women aren't weak' I'll remind you of what you said here.
And that's my opinion!
And that's my opinion!
Posted by Scenic
You can but your opinion doesn't really matter to me. Besides you've already proved you're sexist with your comment so there's no need to dig any deeper. People who uphold double standards have no right to complain when the opposite side does the same thing back. So if you ever comment saying 'hitting a girl is wrong' or if you ever say anything like 'women aren't weak' I'll remind you of what you said here.
And that's my opinion!
Good for you honey...make sure your paying attention!
what y'all fail to understand is that her concern about her violence didn't come until after the backlash here.
she was more concerned about why he didn't block her on facebook.
smh.
this whole thread, tho...
she was more concerned about why he didn't block her on facebook.
smh.
this whole thread, tho...
Wasn't going to comment; but just going to because I feel the advice you are getting from people you know personally is actually hindering you in seeing the truth. So lets flip it around. Lets say it was you who told the guy "I want you to spend Christmas with me."
He asks" are you sure."
You say, "yes, I'm sure."
Fast forward, it's Christmas Day, he is traveling by bus a couple of miles out of his way. He text you saying he's on his way, you tell him not to come cause you have a hangover; or what ever he actually told you as an excuse.
However, he heeds no warning and goes anyways because he's already half way to your place. When he gets there, your not there, so he drops off all te heavy stuff, and walks around, sight seeing. He goes on FB and find out your actually having a good time, bullshitting him with your story, your my 13 miles away. So he goes to a friends house, gets drunk.
The next day he goes to your place tells you he know your there. You open the door; let him in, you say all this nasty stuff and he slaps you, your shocked, you say some more stuff, he slaps you again. He takes your smokes, tries to smoke it; he takes another finish smoking it; then before he leaves, he punches you in the face and walks out.
Would you; despite your deceit; still talk to him? Would you still associate with him? Would you accept his apology right away when he writes it on FB and emails it to you as well? Do you think he is in his right to have you in his life after he slapped you two times and then punched you in the face?
I understand that you were upset because he was deceitful, who wouldn't be. But you were physically abusive. It doesn't matter if it happened one time, it was one time to many. I'm sorry to say this; and it might sound messed up but he doesn't owe you shit; you weren't his girlfriend; his wifey; his fianc? or wife. You were a friend, and I don't care how much it hurt, you never , ever, ever, put your hands on anyone, I don't care how upset or hurt you are. That is showing you don't know how to control your emotions, or your anger and you don't know how to process it healthy. A person who does walks away; yes walks away.
If I were him; I wouldn't talk to you and to be honest he probably won't because once abusive, it will repeat. So if he lets your slide your liable to do it again.
I'll just learn from this lesson and learn how to better manage your anger, and how to process and control your feelings. Cause if
He asks" are you sure."
You say, "yes, I'm sure."
Fast forward, it's Christmas Day, he is traveling by bus a couple of miles out of his way. He text you saying he's on his way, you tell him not to come cause you have a hangover; or what ever he actually told you as an excuse.
However, he heeds no warning and goes anyways because he's already half way to your place. When he gets there, your not there, so he drops off all te heavy stuff, and walks around, sight seeing. He goes on FB and find out your actually having a good time, bullshitting him with your story, your my 13 miles away. So he goes to a friends house, gets drunk.
The next day he goes to your place tells you he know your there. You open the door; let him in, you say all this nasty stuff and he slaps you, your shocked, you say some more stuff, he slaps you again. He takes your smokes, tries to smoke it; he takes another finish smoking it; then before he leaves, he punches you in the face and walks out.
Would you; despite your deceit; still talk to him? Would you still associate with him? Would you accept his apology right away when he writes it on FB and emails it to you as well? Do you think he is in his right to have you in his life after he slapped you two times and then punched you in the face?
I understand that you were upset because he was deceitful, who wouldn't be. But you were physically abusive. It doesn't matter if it happened one time, it was one time to many. I'm sorry to say this; and it might sound messed up but he doesn't owe you shit; you weren't his girlfriend; his wifey; his fianc? or wife. You were a friend, and I don't care how much it hurt, you never , ever, ever, put your hands on anyone, I don't care how upset or hurt you are. That is showing you don't know how to control your emotions, or your anger and you don't know how to process it healthy. A person who does walks away; yes walks away.
If I were him; I wouldn't talk to you and to be honest he probably won't because once abusive, it will repeat. So if he lets your slide your liable to do it again.
I'll just learn from this lesson and learn how to better manage your anger, and how to process and control your feelings. Cause if
Posted by bkbella86Posted by Scenic
You can but your opinion doesn't really matter to me. Besides you've already proved you're sexist with your comment so there's no need to dig any deeper. People who uphold double standards have no right to complain when the opposite side does the same thing back. So if you ever comment saying 'hitting a girl is wrong' or if you ever say anything like 'women aren't weak' I'll remind you of what you said here.
And that's my opinion!
Good for you honey...make sure your paying attention!click to expand
You haven't seen many of my posts it seems. You don't have to worry about me not paying attention. ; )
@msx, yeah but we've covered all those bases so there's nothing productive to add to this thread. She's replied to every persons stance so nothing we can do but wait and see what happens!
Posted by MissFisk
He dicked her out and she punched him. And she's worried about Facebook?... Do you know how ridiculous that sounds?
I'd love to know her age...cuz yes it is ridiculous.
Posted by ScenicPosted by bkbella86Posted by Scenic
You can but your opinion doesn't really matter to me. Besides you've already proved you're sexist with your comment so there's no need to dig any deeper. People who uphold double standards have no right to complain when the opposite side does the same thing back. So if you ever comment saying 'hitting a girl is wrong' or if you ever say anything like 'women aren't weak' I'll remind you of what you said here.
And that's my opinion!
Good for you honey...make sure your paying attention!
You haven't seen many of my posts it seems. You don't have to worry about me not paying attention. ; )
@msx, yeah but we've covered all those bases so there's nothing productive to add to this thread. She's replied to every persons stance so nothing we can do but wait and see what happens!click to expand
Congrats on your new job!
Cause if this was just a friend what would it be like if it were a boy friend?
You know right from wrong; your hopefully adult enough to know that whether man or woman, no one deserves to be abused physically.
Your also adult enough to know that an apology isn't enough to let some one let you back into their life.
You apologized; okay fine, but stop wanting something in return because he doesn't even owe you a response. And if it were me; I wouldn't even acknowledged it. If it were you that got punched; you would have called the cops on him. Just cause your a woman and he a man doesn't are it right.
You know right from wrong; your hopefully adult enough to know that whether man or woman, no one deserves to be abused physically.
Your also adult enough to know that an apology isn't enough to let some one let you back into their life.
You apologized; okay fine, but stop wanting something in return because he doesn't even owe you a response. And if it were me; I wouldn't even acknowledged it. If it were you that got punched; you would have called the cops on him. Just cause your a woman and he a man doesn't are it right.
I think what sag2315 says is really important. It's hard to see roles reversed and sometimes that's because you don't want to. You want to be the victim or think it wasn't really that bad. But if you read over her post it probably sounds a lot worse than you originally thought the situation was. I'm not saying you should go punish yourself over this situation cause that wouldn't make things better, but you really need to move on from this and get your priorities straight.
Posted by Scenic
I think what sag2315 says is really important. It's hard to see roles reversed and sometimes that's because you don't want to. You want to be the victim or think it wasn't really that bad. But if you read over her post it probably sounds a lot worse than you originally thought the situation was. I'm not saying you should go punish yourself over this situation cause that wouldn't make things better, but you really need to move on from this and get your priorities straight.
I agree; she shouldn't punish herself; but reality is she's not entitled to an explanation not after what she did, nor friendship. I know she feels bad, but.....if it was the other way around he would have been in cuffs by now.
@op- work on yourself for now; cause you need healing as well. Let go of him; and stop listening to your personal friends because no matter what you can't justify what you did; their is no justification for it.
Xoxo don't feel bad at all.
Posted by djbuck1
Several of you on this thread are just plain full of crap.
If a guy EVER started a thread saying he'd punched a woman in the face, you wouldn't read one line further. You'd be baying like bloodhounds for his balls on a stick.
"Justification" my Royal Irish Ass.
+ 1 million hundred thousand ...if that's even a real number.
Posted by djbuck1
If a guy EVER started a thread saying he'd punched a woman in the face, you wouldn't read one line further. You'd be baying like bloodhounds for his balls on a stick.
"Justification" my Royal Irish Ass.
This.
"The difference is that a GUY who did what she did would have his ass in JAIL."
Right so. Because men and women are not equal in strength. A woman punching a man would cause 50% less impact (damage) than a man punching a woman. THAT IS A HUGE DIFFERENCE. Whereas a woman's punch would barely leave a bruise, a man's punch (administrated with the same fury) could give you a black eye, dislocate your jaw, make you bite your tongue or even knock you unconscious.
http://science.howstuffworks.com/life/human-biology/men-vs-women-upper-body-strength.htm<BR>
"Women's lower body strength tends to be more closely matched to men's, while THEIR UPPER BODY STRENGTH IS OFTEN JUST HALF OF MEN's UPPER BODY STRENGTH. In a 1993 study exploring gender differences in muscle makeup, female participants exhibited 52 percent of men's upper body strength, which the researchers partially attributed to their smaller muscles and a higher concentration of fatty tissues in the top half of the female body [source: Miller et al]. Another study published in 1999 similarly found women had 40 percent less upper body skeletal muscle [source: Janssen]. Even controlling for athletic aptitude doesn't tip the upper body strength scales in favor of the female; an experiment comparing the hand grip strength of non-athletic male participants versus elite women athletes still revealed a muscle power disparity in favor of the menfolk [source: Leyk et al].
Right so. Because men and women are not equal in strength. A woman punching a man would cause 50% less impact (damage) than a man punching a woman. THAT IS A HUGE DIFFERENCE. Whereas a woman's punch would barely leave a bruise, a man's punch (administrated with the same fury) could give you a black eye, dislocate your jaw, make you bite your tongue or even knock you unconscious.
http://science.howstuffworks.com/life/human-biology/men-vs-women-upper-body-strength.htm<BR>
"Women's lower body strength tends to be more closely matched to men's, while THEIR UPPER BODY STRENGTH IS OFTEN JUST HALF OF MEN's UPPER BODY STRENGTH. In a 1993 study exploring gender differences in muscle makeup, female participants exhibited 52 percent of men's upper body strength, which the researchers partially attributed to their smaller muscles and a higher concentration of fatty tissues in the top half of the female body [source: Miller et al]. Another study published in 1999 similarly found women had 40 percent less upper body skeletal muscle [source: Janssen]. Even controlling for athletic aptitude doesn't tip the upper body strength scales in favor of the female; an experiment comparing the hand grip strength of non-athletic male participants versus elite women athletes still revealed a muscle power disparity in favor of the menfolk [source: Leyk et al].
@bkbella86 thank you for being so understanding and being one of few (in this feed) to put yourself in my shoes. Also, for standing strong behind your words and not backing down from all the harsh comments.
It didn't take insults from people on this site to make me realize I was wrong. I knew I was wrong long before I created this message board. No matter how hurt I was I shouldn't have put my hands on him. Picture someone who's like your best friend. Someone you spend so much time with, someone you've been bonding with, someone you constantly laugh and joke with. Someone who enjoys cooking for you and rubbing your feet on the regular. Someone who shares their secrets with you, you share your secrets with them. Someone who you tell you have to leave at 6, then you walk towards the door at 5:57, they check the time, stop you and say, I still have 3 minutes to cuddle you. Someone who shows you and tells you they can't get enough of you and tells you how much they love spending time with you. Imagine that same person doing to you what he did to me on Christmas Day. And then lying about it and treating as though it was your fault, showing and telling you that what you think and feel don't matter. And when you ask them what you did to deserve this, they look you in the face and say "nothing." He has never done anything like that to me before so I didn't see it coming. It hit me and it hit hard. I was shocked, humiliated and hurt. And it all came out of the blue.
It all hit me like a bomb. It so unexpected and shocking. I was warned about him and didn't listen. This is no excuse for what I did, but this guy is not the easiest person to deal with. He's very rude, loud, obnoxious. He acts like he's superior to everyone and everything. Like a narcissist. His close friends will tell you he's a real dick. The things that come out of his mouth sometimes, are cruel and shocking. I wouldn't be surprised if he's been hit many times before. One of his best friends tried to fight him before, but other people stopped him. He told me once that I can dump him. He said that's a standard issue. He said he gets dumped all the time. He said women can't handle him or his success, they're weak, is what he says. But I don't think they left him because of those reasons. I think they left him because he can be very coldhearted and callous. He feels like he's better than because he's had some great roles in a few movies and TV shows.
It didn't take insults from people on this site to make me realize I was wrong. I knew I was wrong long before I created this message board. No matter how hurt I was I shouldn't have put my hands on him. Picture someone who's like your best friend. Someone you spend so much time with, someone you've been bonding with, someone you constantly laugh and joke with. Someone who enjoys cooking for you and rubbing your feet on the regular. Someone who shares their secrets with you, you share your secrets with them. Someone who you tell you have to leave at 6, then you walk towards the door at 5:57, they check the time, stop you and say, I still have 3 minutes to cuddle you. Someone who shows you and tells you they can't get enough of you and tells you how much they love spending time with you. Imagine that same person doing to you what he did to me on Christmas Day. And then lying about it and treating as though it was your fault, showing and telling you that what you think and feel don't matter. And when you ask them what you did to deserve this, they look you in the face and say "nothing." He has never done anything like that to me before so I didn't see it coming. It hit me and it hit hard. I was shocked, humiliated and hurt. And it all came out of the blue.
It all hit me like a bomb. It so unexpected and shocking. I was warned about him and didn't listen. This is no excuse for what I did, but this guy is not the easiest person to deal with. He's very rude, loud, obnoxious. He acts like he's superior to everyone and everything. Like a narcissist. His close friends will tell you he's a real dick. The things that come out of his mouth sometimes, are cruel and shocking. I wouldn't be surprised if he's been hit many times before. One of his best friends tried to fight him before, but other people stopped him. He told me once that I can dump him. He said that's a standard issue. He said he gets dumped all the time. He said women can't handle him or his success, they're weak, is what he says. But I don't think they left him because of those reasons. I think they left him because he can be very coldhearted and callous. He feels like he's better than because he's had some great roles in a few movies and TV shows.
I'm not trying to justify my actions by saying, he hurt me so bad. I know I was wrong. I can't stress that enough. And it didn't take insults from people on this feed to make me realize I was wrong. I already knew it and I feel terrible about it. I wished there was something I could do to take away the physical pain I caused him. I lost it for a moment, I was shocked and hurt. All in all, I was wrong. That was the biggest mistake of my life and I feel bad. Knowing how he is, I know I'm more worried about it than him. Though I would rather have felt the physical pain he felt than the emotional pain I felt. In my opinion, emotional pain is much worse than physical pain. It cuts deeper and lasts longer.
Everyone keeps asking the question, why is she worried about Facebook? Some of you think I'm only worried about myself. That is NOT true! After I did what I did to him, I was worried about his well being more than mine. But I still have feelings. If someone did to me what I did to him, I would quickly delete them from my life, Facebook, everything... UNLESS I still have feelings for that person. Even though I shouldn't be concerned about this, feelings aren't tangible and I can't turn them off like a light switch, so yes, I still have some feelings there for him (the person I've been bonding with) if I don't still have some feelings than I never had them in the first place, or I'd be the first superhuman that can shut them off immediately. By him keeping me on his Facebook makes me think he might still have feelings for me, as well. I can't help but want to know this. I may sound stupid to some of you, but at least I'm being honest. Knowing one thing tells me so many other things. I'm not small minded, so you can tell me one small thing and I'll quickly expand my mind and connect the dots. So some of you look at the Facebook thing as something really small when I can easily learn many other things from it.
To all of you that keep saying I was half way there and kept going, read the post again, I was ALMOST there when he texted back and said he'll have to take a raincheck. Also, where he lives is more live and busy compared to where I live. So yes, I stayed closer to his area instead of going back home where I would've been lonely, depressed and dwelling on what just happened. I would've felt worse if I went back home.
Everyone keeps asking the question, why is she worried about Facebook? Some of you think I'm only worried about myself. That is NOT true! After I did what I did to him, I was worried about his well being more than mine. But I still have feelings. If someone did to me what I did to him, I would quickly delete them from my life, Facebook, everything... UNLESS I still have feelings for that person. Even though I shouldn't be concerned about this, feelings aren't tangible and I can't turn them off like a light switch, so yes, I still have some feelings there for him (the person I've been bonding with) if I don't still have some feelings than I never had them in the first place, or I'd be the first superhuman that can shut them off immediately. By him keeping me on his Facebook makes me think he might still have feelings for me, as well. I can't help but want to know this. I may sound stupid to some of you, but at least I'm being honest. Knowing one thing tells me so many other things. I'm not small minded, so you can tell me one small thing and I'll quickly expand my mind and connect the dots. So some of you look at the Facebook thing as something really small when I can easily learn many other things from it.
To all of you that keep saying I was half way there and kept going, read the post again, I was ALMOST there when he texted back and said he'll have to take a raincheck. Also, where he lives is more live and busy compared to where I live. So yes, I stayed closer to his area instead of going back home where I would've been lonely, depressed and dwelling on what just happened. I would've felt worse if I went back home.
To have the same impact as a man's fist, a woman would have to use a baseball bat!
LOL, no hands on man required 🙂.
I like feisty women. What I don't like is bullies.
I like feisty women. What I don't like is bullies.
I'm talking here about the gender differences, not giving advice to the OP!
It doesn't matter how strong or weak a woman is. Listen; I know woman who press 100lbs dumbbells, so please lets not look for statics to make domestic violence okay. Just cause it's a woman and the impact is not the same doesn't mean it's alright.
That in itself is unhealthy thinking to say, "A woman's fist doesn't have the same impact as a man. So it's not that bed if she punched him." Hit a person in the right place and you can knock them out whether it be a woman hitting and man or the other way around.
It's wrong to put your hands on another person I don't care how upset you were. So stop bringing up statistics. It's wrong!
If he would have called the cops. They wouldn't say, "Well sir, she's a girl so it's okay. I'm pretty sure it tickled." No; they will arrest her for assault and Battery.
That in itself is unhealthy thinking to say, "A woman's fist doesn't have the same impact as a man. So it's not that bed if she punched him." Hit a person in the right place and you can knock them out whether it be a woman hitting and man or the other way around.
It's wrong to put your hands on another person I don't care how upset you were. So stop bringing up statistics. It's wrong!
If he would have called the cops. They wouldn't say, "Well sir, she's a girl so it's okay. I'm pretty sure it tickled." No; they will arrest her for assault and Battery.
Posted by Undine
"The difference is that a GUY who did what she did would have his ass in JAIL."
Right so. Because men and women are not equal in strength. A woman punching a man would cause 50% less impact (damage) than a man punching a woman. THAT IS A HUGE DIFFERENCE. Whereas a woman's punch would barely leave a bruise, a man's punch (administrated with the same fury) could give you a black eye, dislocate your jaw, make you bite your tongue or even knock you unconscious.
http://science.howstuffworks.com/life/human-biology/men-vs-women-upper-body-strength.htm<BR>
"Women's lower body strength tends to be more closely matched to men's, while THEIR UPPER BODY STRENGTH IS OFTEN JUST HALF OF MEN's UPPER BODY STRENGTH. In a 1993 study exploring gender differences in muscle makeup, female participants exhibited 52 percent of men's upper body strength, which the researchers partially attributed to their smaller muscles and a higher concentration of fatty tissues in the top half of the female body [source: Miller et al]. Another study published in 1999 similarly found women had 40 percent less upper body skeletal muscle [source: Janssen]. Even controlling for athletic aptitude doesn't tip the upper body strength scales in favor of the female; an experiment comparing the hand grip strength of non-athletic male participants versus elite women athletes still revealed a muscle power disparity in favor of the menfolk [source: Leyk et al].
Are you fucking kidding me??
So women should be allowed to physically assault men because men are designed to take it and it hurts them less—
Using that logic, men should be allowed to emotionally assault women because "we're designed to withstand it better" and we "recover more quickly"??
What utter bullshit. Just because a person can do something doesn't mean they should.. Living your life based on seeing what you can get away with is shady, irresponsible and immature.
Posted by xcake
So are we assuming that all men/women are the same size and are equal in strength?
No, of course not. 50% was the average. A petite woman would have even less strength than an average male. Even an "elite female athlete" has less strength than an average male.
Girls, you are not actually reading the science, aren't you?
The conclusions you take are ENTIRELY YOURS. In fact, YOU sound like a bunch of aggressive monkeys.
THE BULLSHIT YOU ARTE WRITING belongs to you and each of you alone.
What I did here was to point out there is gender differences in strength, discovered by science!
The conclusions you take are ENTIRELY YOURS. In fact, YOU sound like a bunch of aggressive monkeys.
THE BULLSHIT YOU ARTE WRITING belongs to you and each of you alone.
What I did here was to point out there is gender differences in strength, discovered by science!
Again. "The difference is that a GUY who did what she did would have his ass in JAIL."
The point I'm making is that a furious man will make more damage (and therefore more likely to land in jail) than a similarly furious woman, due to the sheer strength of his muscles.
Are you really surprised by that?
The point I'm making is that a furious man will make more damage (and therefore more likely to land in jail) than a similarly furious woman, due to the sheer strength of his muscles.
Are you really surprised by that?
An assault charge is an assault charge. An attempted assault charge is still enough for your ass to be drug in front of a Judge.
They usually tend to look at these things in terms of intent, not solely by punitive damages. It's not a Civil matter - it's a Criminal one.
Are you really surprised by that?
They usually tend to look at these things in terms of intent, not solely by punitive damages. It's not a Civil matter - it's a Criminal one.
Are you really surprised by that?
Posted by xcakePosted by Undine
Again. "The difference is that a GUY who did what she did would have his ass in JAIL."
The point I'm making is that a furious man will make more damage (and therefore more likely to land in jail) than a similarly furious woman, due to the sheer strength of his muscles.
Are you really surprised by that?
You might be right.
Now, is it excusable for a woman to hit a man?
click to expand
No, of course not, unless it's self defense!
However, if a woman does hit a man, without any weapon, she is less likely to land in jail, not because some justice failure, but because there will be little damage to support his claims.
How do you measure intent if they were all alone?
I once punched my boyfriend in our bedroom. Do you think we had witnesses there ? (oops...P-Angel may get hold of this 🙂)
"I didn't mean to kill them!" Can and will get you convicted of 2nd degree murder, vehicular homicide, or manslaughter, among other things.
"I didn't mean to kill them! I just meant to hurt them!"
Is a greater degree of
"I didn't mean to hurt them! I just meant to hit them!"
Which in turn, is a greater degree of
"I didn't mean to hit them! I was just really angry!"
Where does one draw the line on what is and is not an acceptable reaction or behavior?
"I didn't mean to kill them! I just meant to hurt them!"
Is a greater degree of
"I didn't mean to hurt them! I just meant to hit them!"
Which in turn, is a greater degree of
"I didn't mean to hit them! I was just really angry!"
Where does one draw the line on what is and is not an acceptable reaction or behavior?
And no, he didn't get any bruises! Instead, I hurt my fist and also got fucked 🙂!
Posted by feby16aqua
It's about anger management bottom line. It's the root of the discussion.
Nothing works better than avoiding excessive interaction with what you perceive as irritating people.
Posted by IrresistableScorp
Men in general don't punch women with their fists; they punch them with their words or maybe shake them when in a fit of passion. So using the same criteria for men and women is bull puckey. That is all.
The guy in this scenario was an insensitive ninny and on Christmas Day that is unforgivable.
Women don't usually punch guys either but also use words so how is that relevant? You never answered if it's okay, because his Christmas was ruined and he was emotionally hurt, to punch a woman. That's what I'm asking.
As far as that research goes...as someone who's 5'2 and petite I can tell you that without doing anything that I am stronger than some guys. That's probably not the norm but I can't even imagine what a woman who is taller and works out could do. Still couldn't handle the guys who work out but the guys who don't? I can see that. Don't forget that a woman's punch would still hurt and can cause damage. But it's okay because men are supposed to be able to handle pain and not feel anything at all. Bs!
lol @ all the women defending douchebags....
Lol
Lol
Posted by Sagittarius2315
Wasn't going to comment; but just going to because I feel the advice you are getting from people you know personally is actually hindering you in seeing the truth. So lets flip it around. Lets say it was you who told the guy "I want you to spend Christmas with me."
He asks" are you sure."
You say, "yes, I'm sure."
Fast forward, it's Christmas Day, he is traveling by bus a couple of miles out of his way. He text you saying he's on his way, you tell him not to come cause you have a hangover; or what ever he actually told you as an excuse.
However, he heeds no warning and goes anyways because he's already half way to your place. When he gets there, your not there, so he drops off all te heavy stuff, and walks around, sight seeing. He goes on FB and find out your actually having a good time, bullshitting him with your story, your my 13 miles away. So he goes to a friends house, gets drunk.
The next day he goes to your place tells you he know your there. You open the door; let him in, you say all this nasty stuff and he slaps you, your shocked, you say some more stuff, he slaps you again. He takes your smokes, tries to smoke it; he takes another finish smoking it; then before he leaves, he punches you in the face and walks out.
Would you; despite your deceit; still talk to him? Would you still associate with him? Would you accept his apology right away when he writes it on FB and emails it to you as well? Do you think he is in his right to have you in his life after he slapped you two times and then punched you in the face?
FTW
anyways xoxo..please try and move one girly...theres nothing to see here either
dont let these people make you feel worse
dont let these people make you feel worse
Posted by djbuck1Posted by bkbella86Posted by djbuck1
Will he forgive you? Will he talk to you again?
You're in Fantasy Land.
If he does, he deserves what he gets.
He should press charges, though most guys don't when assaulted by a female.
You obviously have serious self-control issues. You'd better get some professional help, or you'll eventually do this to a guy who will beat the hell out of you or turn you in to the police.
You sound like a real piece of work.
are you serious dj? did you not see what threw this girl into a rage?
You are oh-so-right of course. She was entirely justified in physically assaulting him, as we all are whenever we are wronged.
The difference is that a GUY who did what she did would have his ass in JAIL.
Flush out your head gear.click to expand
im not saying she was 100 % right but her reaction was real
stop acting like she killed someone
Posted by xcake
You obviously have serious self-control issues. You'd better get some professional help, or you'll eventually do this to a guy who will beat the hell out of you or turn you in to the police.
^^^
That's not a real concern. At all.
shatt up
So this thread turned from the chick beating the guy to EVERYONE beating a dead horse 😄
@bkbella86 thank you for being so understanding and being one of few (in this feed) to put yourself in my shoes. Also, for standing strong behind your words and not backing down from all the harsh comments.
It didn't take insults from people on this site to make me realize I was wrong. I knew I was wrong long before I created this message board. No matter how hurt I was I shouldn't have put my hands on him. Picture someone who's like your best friend. Someone you spend so much time with, someone you've been bonding with, someone you constantly laugh and joke with. Someone who enjoys cooking for you and rubbing your feet on the regular. Someone who shares their secrets with you, you share your secrets with them. Someone who you tell you have to leave at 6, then you walk towards the door at 5:57, they check the time, stop you and say, I still have 3 minutes to cuddle you. Someone who shows you and tells you they can't get enough of you and tells you how much they love spending time with you. Imagine that same person doing to you what he did to me on Christmas Day. And then lying about it and treating as though it was your fault, showing and telling you that what you think and feel don't matter. And when you ask them what you did to deserve this, they look you in the face and say "nothing." He has never done anything like that to me before so I didn't see it coming. It hit me and it hit hard. I was shocked, humiliated and hurt. And it all came out of the blue.
It all hit me like a bomb. It so unexpected and shocking. I was warned about him and didn't listen. This is no excuse for what I did, but this guy is not the easiest person to deal with. He's very rude, loud, obnoxious. He acts like he's superior to everyone and everything. Like a narcissist. His close friends will tell you he's a real dick. The things that come out of his mouth sometimes, are cruel and shocking. I wouldn't be surprised if he's been hit many times before. One of his best friends tried to fight him before, but other people stopped him. He told me once that I can dump him. He said that's a standard issue. He said he gets dumped all the time. He said women can't handle him or his success, they're weak, is what he says. But I don't think they left him because of those reasons. I think they left him because he can be very coldhearted and callous. He feels like he's better than because he's had some great roles in a few movies and TV shows.... Continues below
It didn't take insults from people on this site to make me realize I was wrong. I knew I was wrong long before I created this message board. No matter how hurt I was I shouldn't have put my hands on him. Picture someone who's like your best friend. Someone you spend so much time with, someone you've been bonding with, someone you constantly laugh and joke with. Someone who enjoys cooking for you and rubbing your feet on the regular. Someone who shares their secrets with you, you share your secrets with them. Someone who you tell you have to leave at 6, then you walk towards the door at 5:57, they check the time, stop you and say, I still have 3 minutes to cuddle you. Someone who shows you and tells you they can't get enough of you and tells you how much they love spending time with you. Imagine that same person doing to you what he did to me on Christmas Day. And then lying about it and treating as though it was your fault, showing and telling you that what you think and feel don't matter. And when you ask them what you did to deserve this, they look you in the face and say "nothing." He has never done anything like that to me before so I didn't see it coming. It hit me and it hit hard. I was shocked, humiliated and hurt. And it all came out of the blue.
It all hit me like a bomb. It so unexpected and shocking. I was warned about him and didn't listen. This is no excuse for what I did, but this guy is not the easiest person to deal with. He's very rude, loud, obnoxious. He acts like he's superior to everyone and everything. Like a narcissist. His close friends will tell you he's a real dick. The things that come out of his mouth sometimes, are cruel and shocking. I wouldn't be surprised if he's been hit many times before. One of his best friends tried to fight him before, but other people stopped him. He told me once that I can dump him. He said that's a standard issue. He said he gets dumped all the time. He said women can't handle him or his success, they're weak, is what he says. But I don't think they left him because of those reasons. I think they left him because he can be very coldhearted and callous. He feels like he's better than because he's had some great roles in a few movies and TV shows.... Continues below
I'm not trying to justify my actions by saying, he hurt me so bad. I know I was wrong. I can't stress that enough. And it didn't take insults from people on this feed to make me realize I was wrong. I already knew it and I feel terrible about it. I wished there was something I could do to take away the physical pain I caused him. I lost it for a moment, I was shocked and hurt. All in all, I was wrong. That was the biggest mistake of my life and I feel bad. Knowing how he is, I know I'm more worried about it than him. Though I would rather have felt the physical pain he felt than the emotional pain I felt. In my opinion, emotional pain is much worse than physical pain. It cuts deeper and lasts longer.
Everyone keeps asking the question, why is she worried about Facebook? Some of you think I'm only worried about myself. That is NOT true! After I did what I did to him, I was worried about his well being more than mine. But I still have feelings. If someone did to me what I did to him, I would quickly delete them from my life, Facebook, everything... UNLESS I still have feelings for that person. Even though I shouldn't be concerned about this, feelings aren't tangible and I can't turn them off like a light switch, so yes, I still have some feelings there for him (the person I've been bonding with) if I don't still have some feelings than I never had them in the first place, or I'd be the first superhuman that can shut them off immediately. By him keeping me on his Facebook makes me think he might still have feelings for me, as well. I can't help but want to know this. I may sound stupid to some of you, but at least I'm being honest. Knowing one thing tells me so many other things. I'm not small minded, so you can tell me one small thing and I'll quickly expand my mind and connect the dots. So some of you look at the Facebook thing as something really small when I can easily learn many other things from it.
To all of you that keep saying I was half way there and kept going, read the post again, I was ALMOST there when he texted back and said he'll have to take a raincheck. Also, where he lives is more live and busy compared to where I live. So yes, I stayed closer to his area instead of going back home where I would've been lonely, depressed and dwelling on what just happened. I would've felt worse if I went back home.
Everyone keeps asking the question, why is she worried about Facebook? Some of you think I'm only worried about myself. That is NOT true! After I did what I did to him, I was worried about his well being more than mine. But I still have feelings. If someone did to me what I did to him, I would quickly delete them from my life, Facebook, everything... UNLESS I still have feelings for that person. Even though I shouldn't be concerned about this, feelings aren't tangible and I can't turn them off like a light switch, so yes, I still have some feelings there for him (the person I've been bonding with) if I don't still have some feelings than I never had them in the first place, or I'd be the first superhuman that can shut them off immediately. By him keeping me on his Facebook makes me think he might still have feelings for me, as well. I can't help but want to know this. I may sound stupid to some of you, but at least I'm being honest. Knowing one thing tells me so many other things. I'm not small minded, so you can tell me one small thing and I'll quickly expand my mind and connect the dots. So some of you look at the Facebook thing as something really small when I can easily learn many other things from it.
To all of you that keep saying I was half way there and kept going, read the post again, I was ALMOST there when he texted back and said he'll have to take a raincheck. Also, where he lives is more live and busy compared to where I live. So yes, I stayed closer to his area instead of going back home where I would've been lonely, depressed and dwelling on what just happened. I would've felt worse if I went back home.
Posted by bkbella86
anyways xoxo..please try and move one girly...theres nothing to see here either
dont let these people make you feel worse
Thank you! I know I said this before, but thank you for being so understanding and for being one of few (in this feed) to put yourself in my shoes. Also for not backing down and standing behind your words no matter what these people are saying.
They're acting like I condone violence, like I said I'm proud of what I did. They act like I tried to kill someone. I've never done something like this before. I was shocked, humiliated and hurt. I explained all of that in the messages above. But I'm sorry for what I did to him. In my opinion, emotional pain hurts a lot more than physical pain. Like I said, emotional pain cuts deeper and lasts longer than physical pain. But I know I should've controlled myself and kept my hands to myself. I was wrong. Two wrongs don't make anything right.
Posted by XOXO2UPosted by bkbella86
anyways xoxo..please try and move one girly...theres nothing to see here either
dont let these people make you feel worse
Thank you! I know I said this before, but thank you for being so understanding and for being one of few (in this feed) to put yourself in my shoes. Also for not backing down and standing behind your words no matter what these people are saying.
They're acting like I condone violence, like I said I'm proud of what I did. They act like I tried to kill someone. I've never done something like this before. I was shocked, humiliated and hurt. I explained all of that in the messages above. But I'm sorry for what I did to him. In my opinion, emotional pain hurts a lot more than physical pain. Like I said, emotional pain cuts deeper and lasts longer than physical pain. But I know I should've controlled myself and kept my hands to myself. I was wrong. Two wrongs don't make anything right.click to expand
exactly you already expressed remorse yet these people want to get on their high horses and make you feel worse...they dont really care about you they just want to hear themselves talk.
Posted by xcake
People insulting you?
Ok, let's go back a few pages.
People were driving the following points:
1. Your safety
2. Your well-being
Some people are doing you more harm by feeding your emotions.
You barely addressed people's concerns about what could have happened if the roles were reversed or if it was another man.
People were advising you in hopes you will avoid yourself from harm, but you seem to not give a shit.
All you got from people's posts were insults.
You're too concened with your emotions instead of your overall well-being.
Don't worry, this is my last post.
Why would I address peoples "concerns" about what could have happened? What would I get out of that? Number one, what could have happened DIDN'T happen. So there's no need for me to be concerned about that. I should be concerned about making sure I never step out of character again, make sure I never physically hurt someone again, not about what could've happened. You act like I go around hitting people every time I get upset. That happened once and I'm the type of person who learns from my mistakes. I care deeply about people, period. So there's no way that I'm gonna let something like that happen again, even if it means getting some help. I didn't kill anyone, so stop acting like I did. People do worse, every single day. There are people who think what I did was right. I have my own mind. I know I was wrong no matter what anyone says. And no, it doesn't sound like anyone is concerned with my well-being. If they were they wouldn't have been talking to me the way they were. I read posts about people saying they would've jumped me, contradicting every lesson they were trying to teach me. There's no need for anyone to talk to me the way some of you have for me to know I was wrong. That's why a lot of children nowadays don't listen to their parents. You make ONE mistake and everyone wants to come down on you instead of being understanding, getting to the root of the problem and finding a way to make it better so nothing like that happens again.
you know yourself and what kind of person you are...and thats enuff
Posted by IrresistableScorpPosted by ScenicPosted by IrresistableScorp
Men in general don't punch women with their fists; they punch them with their words or maybe shake them when in a fit of passion. So using the same criteria for men and women is bull puckey. That is all.
The guy in this scenario was an insensitive ninny and on Christmas Day that is unforgivable.
Women don't usually punch guys either but also use words so how is that relevant? You never answered if it's okay, because his Christmas was ruined and he was emotionally hurt, to punch a woman. That's what I'm asking.
As far as that research goes...as someone who's 5'2 and petite I can tell you that without doing anything that I am stronger than some guys. That's probably not the norm but I can't even imagine what a woman who is taller and works out could do. Still couldn't handle the guys who work out but the guys who don't? I can see that. Don't forget that a woman's punch would still hurt and can cause damage. But it's okay because men are supposed to be able to handle pain and not feel anything at all. Bs!
Hmm. If a woman made plans to spend Christmas with his girlfriend who lives fairly far away by mass transit and then said girl blows him off with a lie and he finds out that she basically disregarded him as a person to get drunk with "friends" while he then was reduced to spending his Christmas window shopping, I'm pretty sure a fair number of men would be emotionally pissed off enough to confront the woman.
And yes. Women tend to slap, punch, kick and/or scratch when they find themselves out of control angry. Have you never watched a movie? 🙂
Men tend to cut down with words, maybe shake, or completely verbally assault when passionately pissed off.
I just think its silly to compare like for like when it comes to passionate displays.
And no. Punching in the eye is not okay.click to expand
'confronting' doesn't equal punching. You're not answering my question still. All I've gotten is 'punching in the eye is not okay', like that's the only place you can be punched? I can only assume from that, since given no other answer, that it's okay for a male to punch a woman as long as it's not in her eye. And even for a petty reason as ru
And even for a petty reason as ruining his Christmas.
Well I might as well argue your other point, too.
Um, what do movies have to do with what happens in real life? You know that that stuff does not accurately depict what happens in the real world unless it's a documentary or something, right? Ever heard of domestic abuse? Men are usually the ones who do the physical abuse in that aspect. What about when people are drunk? Do you hear more stories about women being physical while drunk or men? I honestly don't know where you get your information from. Men are socialized to be more aggressive which can lead to violence. The same is not said about women. Women are socialized to be passive.
Well I might as well argue your other point, too.
Um, what do movies have to do with what happens in real life? You know that that stuff does not accurately depict what happens in the real world unless it's a documentary or something, right? Ever heard of domestic abuse? Men are usually the ones who do the physical abuse in that aspect. What about when people are drunk? Do you hear more stories about women being physical while drunk or men? I honestly don't know where you get your information from. Men are socialized to be more aggressive which can lead to violence. The same is not said about women. Women are socialized to be passive.
Didn't read the whole thread.
I get your anger......BUT more importantly where the hell is your self respect? Your dignity? If some asshole did that to me and especially on Christmas day, I would NOT even waste my time waiting for his dumass. You also found out he was lying afterwards and still wasted your time waiting to confront him. He is so not worth it. I would have sent him a text or a message on FB calling him out for being the jerk that he is. Then I would just pretend like he never existed. Ignore for life. Good-bye. That's what you should do now. What's done is done. But why do you care about him still after what he did to you? You should delete him from your Facebook and your life. Try to control your temper too. You made yourself look the fool. I doubt he wants to hear from you again. So why are you still acting like a fool and bothering to contact him? Just leave him be.
I get your anger......BUT more importantly where the hell is your self respect? Your dignity? If some asshole did that to me and especially on Christmas day, I would NOT even waste my time waiting for his dumass. You also found out he was lying afterwards and still wasted your time waiting to confront him. He is so not worth it. I would have sent him a text or a message on FB calling him out for being the jerk that he is. Then I would just pretend like he never existed. Ignore for life. Good-bye. That's what you should do now. What's done is done. But why do you care about him still after what he did to you? You should delete him from your Facebook and your life. Try to control your temper too. You made yourself look the fool. I doubt he wants to hear from you again. So why are you still acting like a fool and bothering to contact him? Just leave him be.
Burn the past and let it go my friend .
You MUST take this kind of things out of your life:
*Destructive Relationships
*False friendship
No foolish emotions, stay free!
You MUST take this kind of things out of your life:
*Destructive Relationships
*False friendship
No foolish emotions, stay free!
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I wasn't asking you nor was I asking about a man getting punched, in fact the opposite, but it's good to know you think violence against men is okay.