is it always about confidence?

is it always about confidence?

I am not sure.

Posted by PossessionSt
Nothing 8 sprays of axe dark temptation won't solve

Don't let them smell your fear!

i have been thinking about that for a while.

is it always about confidence when it comes to relationships and so one?

looks dont matter in the end because it can fade away. but confidence will stay.

i have always been more delicate and subtle than my other friends. even though at 1st glance people perceive me as a normal healthy woman i was very weak when i was a child, i had many illnesses, i was sick all the time, i was in a hospital very often.

my parents took a great care of me, even though sometimes i think that now my mum is overprotective.

but i have always been struggling with my health and my appearance. because of the medicines that i was taking when i was a child i maybe was an average girl not a petite one- in primary school and after- in high school i didnt have a boyfriend.

i was so shy inside even thiugh people perceived me as a strong person. because i started wearing different clother and make up.

when i got older and went to university i started partying hard, i was a pary girl coming back home alone and crying that i didnt have a normal relationship.

i didnt know what i was doing wrong.

people perceived me only as a friend, boys friendzoned me. whenever i was ( group, parties) my male friends let themselves offend me or gossiped about me. or had a very harsh sense of humor , very ironic that actually i didnt get.

because i was taking it as a n offence.

and they were only making fun and then were surprised that i took it very personally that i didnt have a boundaries.

because its cool to make fun of each other, its cool to offend each other.

still i think that i am normal but people were different.

i was always in a good contact with older men, women. i had more relations to older people because they could talk and listen.

among my friends they were only taking selfies and making dramas.

when i didnt make a drama they thought of me as a stupid girl that couldt fight for what she wanted because i was not very attentive.

i was normal.

thats why i closed myself and became more introvert even thought i am an aries and among other people i am perceived as nice and talkative person.

but please tell me. i am 27 years old. i still dont have a boyfriend after 2 years.

i couldnt handle a guy that had a different life style 2 years ago. because he was changings chicks so fast.



i start to build myself again but when it comes to confidence i can really fall apart.

i dont even know how to flirt with men.

i have tinder but whenever i match someone on tinder we end up with philosophical conversations and guys thank me of being their part of soul but then skip to other girls.

what is wrong with me.

maybe i am too slow?

maybe it should be veyr fast?

i was paranoied since 1.5 year because my ex treated me so badly and broke up with me so harshly when i was starting my 'career' and didnt have any friends to help. so he lef t me alone and i felt so bad.

what do you think?

maybe i should stop thinking so much?

i don't know what men want or what makes relationships successful but believe in yourself! because if you don't believe in yourself then why should others?

if a guy offends you, let him know you are not one to mess with. at the end of the day, what people think of you does not represent who you are. so, correct them if they are saying bullshit about you then walk away and do not give further attention to the situation.

I don't know anymore about it than you.

But I do think you should stop worrying. I wouldn't expect to be confident all the time. Everyone feels that way.

People love or like who they like.

Your prince will come soon...start planning life for the way you want not what you expect...

Say you wanted kids start a parenting course or something ....instead of doing a dating ap or a confidence course because you think it will be hard to find your prince..

What if it wasn't so hard ..expect it will be easy ..



Try it 🙂

Plan to be the man you want...not the man you don't want. Expect the man you want...

Ask people to help you ...set you up etc...

I don't think it's about confidence at all nor is it about not being able to flirt.

How soon do you end up sharing stuff about yourself​? Like maybe all that you've been through? Do you feel the need to be sympathized with? I think people see it as a baggage they don't wanna deal with.

Um why do you think you're slow?

Posted by confusedaries7513
i don't know what men want or what makes relationships successful but believe in yourself! because if you don't believe in yourself then why should others?

if a guy offends you, let him know you are not one to mess with. at the end of the day, what people think of you does not represent who you are. so, correct them if they are saying bullshit about you then walk away and do not give further attention to the situation.

i always show men my vournelable side.

that they think they hurt me and they dont want to hurt me back again and they walk away. but at the parties while drunk they approach, eveyrthing is visible when someone is drunk- tht still think or care...

its always like that. i can not put a very confident mask on myself.

and EVEN boys that i am attracted to know that.

even one of them warned me 7 months ago of one of his best friends. he saw i was different than other party grls and wanted to protect me as a friend way..

so weird thats why i do not know whom i should be.

i am normal. boys expect girls to be like models, with a good charisma and confidence. i am not that level.

they can be veyr harsh. i take it personally even though they dont talk about me.

Posted by Teena
I don't think it's about confidence at all nor is it about not being able to flirt.

How soon do you end up sharing stuff about yourself​? Like maybe all that you've been through? Do you feel the need to be sympathized with? I think people see it as a baggage they don't wanna deal with.

Um why do you think you're slow?

ok,

i am abroad now and i started flirting on tinder.

but back home i am not able to flirt with men. i dont know why. i have a blockage.

even among my friends circle. i am so blocked to flirt with GUYS I KNOW. i dont know. i chase the impossible means that i always want more and more boys that i DO NOT KNOW and then i need to 'work' on them .

in high school i was maybe too rude to boys thats why they friendzoned me.

since a few years i started to be not so open. i let my friends discover me.

i let my friends ask questions about me. not basing on facebook or instagram....



i was not able to have a normal conversation with men.

when i started getting dumped i became more introvert and started to talk to men.

but its very hard for me to open up right now.

only the strongest ones stays. some of them give up.

its not a test. i just dont wanna be hurt again...

I am sorry but it's hard to understand someone on an online forum.

So I can't say I really get your personality. So I am sorry for that I wish i understood you more.

Maybe then I could make ya feel better 🙂

Hugs is all I can do 🤗

I think you are as good as anyone...and I hope you enjoy being you. 🙂

Remember you are great the way you are ..with no reason or rhyme. Sorry i can't fix your problem 🙂

my ex dumped me then flew to south america for 3 months to work. had a party girl brazilian girl. different than me tatooed, percing.

when he came back saw that other male friends from our circle were intertested in me.

he was c___ock blocking them. like he would be jealous even though didnt want anything from me.

after even 7 months he was still 'allergic to me'.

after almost 2 years when he saw one of his friends from high school started inviting me myex became so jealous. like a dog in a manger.

i didnt have anyone then. i was happy someone new is interested. and a guy was/is intelligent, also parties with others but is more 'normal'.

when my ex saw that started gossiping about me like doing me a black pr...

then i decided to leave my country for 8 months. i had a guy here but nothing serious.

i know they probably had other girls in those time.

still dont know why my ex was allergic to me after 2 years. i can forgive and forget easily. he is said to be a big party guy. he is a virgo sensitive guy with 2 illnesses and depression and a very big mask of a macho type.

i put off his mask.

whenever we were together he was normal. but i think he was afraid to put off his mask thats why he dumped me. because i figure him out.

and its the same in a circle of friends now. the same.

nothing changes.

i enjoy myself. i met new people. i grew up. i can travel meet new people. i can discover.

they remain the same.

its sad

Posted by LittleFairy
I am sorry but it's hard to understand someone on an online forum.

So I can't say I really get your personality. So I am sorry for that I wish i understood you more.

Maybe then I could make ya feel better 🙂

Hugs is all I can do 🤗

I think you are as good as anyone...and I hope you enjoy being you. 🙂

Remember you are great the way you are ..with no reason or rhyme. Sorry i can't fix your problem 🙂

its not a problem.

sometimes i can write in a weird way. my english is not my 1st language.

sometimes i do not even understand what i want to say !!

Posted by LittleFairy
I am sorry but it's hard to understand someone on an online forum.

So I can't say I really get your personality. So I am sorry for that I wish i understood you more.

Maybe then I could make ya feel better 🙂

Hugs is all I can do 🤗

I think you are as good as anyone...and I hope you enjoy being you. 🙂

Remember you are great the way you are ..with no reason or rhyme. Sorry i can't fix your problem 🙂

its not a problem.

sometimes i can write in a weird way. my english is not my 1st language.

sometimes i do not even understand what i want to say !!

Maybe it's not you...Maybe ...it's THEM...maybe they are the problem. They sound Immature ?

Posted by joanne_p

Posted by LittleFairy
I am sorry but it's hard to understand someone on an online forum.

So I can't say I really get your personality. So I am sorry for that I wish i understood you more.

Maybe then I could make ya feel better 🙂

Hugs is all I can do 🤗

I think you are as good as anyone...and I hope you enjoy being you. 🙂

Remember you are great the way you are ..with no reason or rhyme. Sorry i can't fix your problem 🙂

its not a problem.

sometimes i can write in a weird way. my english is not my 1st language.

sometimes i do not even understand what i want to say !!

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I didn't mean your language. I meant you ...it's hard to relate or understand people at the best of times ..it's harder sometimes online.

It's not your English. It is you i don't understand. 🙂 I wish i did though 🙂

Posted by LittleFairy
Maybe it's not you...Maybe ...it's THEM...maybe they are the problem. They sound Immature ?

3-4 years ago i just met friends that were different than my 'previous' friends.

maybe immature.

i was surprised about their behaviour but instead of acting like children they were very succesful in their careers and 'popular'.

so i started question myself - to get a good job and connections its not only to be good at what you do , you have to have charisma and know how to 'sell' yourself.

maybe they were only playing and acting like that.

but they were playing so immature.

they were friends from different professions.

my university friends are 'normal', more calm, understandable, serious.

those people were making drama all the time and vere very attentive.

You are what is called "real" and probably even raw, pure.

No mask.

Real can be intimidating. That's why you seem confident to others.

Sometimes when it comes to dating, and a guy knows he has no intention.... you show up real and pure... he just can't. He enjoys you but, he won't go there. He's not ready.

I have issues keeping the men I like too...

I don't think it's you. It's online dating. There's just too many options online and if they find someone better, they move on!

Try another place for dating.

Posted by joanne_p

Posted by Teena
I don't think it's about confidence at all nor is it about not being able to flirt.

How soon do you end up sharing stuff about yourself​? Like maybe all that you've been through? Do you feel the need to be sympathized with? I think people see it as a baggage they don't wanna deal with.

Um why do you think you're slow?

ok,

i am abroad now and i started flirting on tinder.

but back home i am not able to flirt with men. i dont know why. i have a blockage.

even among my friends circle. i am so blocked to flirt with GUYS I KNOW. i dont know. i chase the impossible means that i always want more and more boys that i DO NOT KNOW and then i need to 'work' on them .

in high school i was maybe too rude to boys thats why they friendzoned me.

since a few years i started to be not so open. i let my friends discover me.

i let my friends ask questions about me. not basing on facebook or instagram....



i was not able to have a normal conversation with men.

when i started getting dumped i became more introvert and started to talk to men.

but its very hard for me to open up right now.

only the strongest ones stays. some of them give up.

its not a test. i just dont wanna be hurt again...

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"I have blockage"

This. And I think it shows. You being comfortable with older men n women because they could listen also says something. Not saying you shouldn't be that way. Just saying it could be one reason.

I understand you don't wanna be hurt again. But I wanna understand this.

You say you don't flirt with guys you know n wanna chase impossible guys. So are you ignoring guys who are into you? Do you enjoy the chasing part?

You initiate the talk but you think you can't open up n you say you show your vulnerable side. What do you mean when say you can't have "normal" conversation? What are your conversations like? Coz you also mentioned you end up getting philosophical. I don't think the problem is not opening up(I'm guessing it's the other way round) but you tell me. What do you mean when you say you can't open up? You mean you're not able to be yourself or give your 100% ?

Posted by VenusAquarius
You are what is called "real" and probably even raw, pure.

No mask.

Real can be intimidating. That's why you seem confident to others.

Sometimes when it comes to dating, and a guy knows he has no intention.... you show up real and pure... he just can't. He enjoys you but, he won't go there. He's not ready.

why?

should i put on mask on myself to be like everyone and then more boys would come to me?

yes you are right i was not sure if someone of you all understood me right but yes. you said what i wanted to say.

i am likethat- but why men dont want me the way i am?

because i show emotions?

so whom i should be?

what types of woman , men my age are attracted to?

...but don't judge yourself on who likes you ...if you think you are a good person....that is all you can do 🙂

Posted by joanne_p

Posted by VenusAquarius
You are what is called "real" and probably even raw, pure.

No mask.

Real can be intimidating. That's why you seem confident to others.

Sometimes when it comes to dating, and a guy knows he has no intention.... you show up real and pure... he just can't. He enjoys you but, he won't go there. He's not ready.

why?

should i put on mask on myself to be like everyone and then more boys would come to me?

yes you are right i was not sure if someone of you all understood me right but yes. you said what i wanted to say.

i am likethat- but why men dont want me the way i am?

because i show emotions?

so whom i should be?

what types of woman , men my age are attracted to?

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Just be yourself .

Be yourself and be kind ...the rest you can't control 🙂

Posted by LittleFairy


...but don't judge yourself on who likes you ...if you think you are a good person....that is all you can do 🙂

i think i am ok and a good person but since 2 years its been me who was taken advantage of or played.

and i didnt realise it.

whene i said no and cut contacts people started to realise and now they come back, delicately, really.

even when ii am abroad they start to talk to me.

or want to write to me. idk why, because they see i can go away?

Posted by VenusAquarius
You are what is called "real" and probably even raw, pure.

No mask.

Real can be intimidating. That's why you seem confident to others.

Sometimes when it comes to dating, and a guy knows he has no intention.... you show up real and pure... he just can't. He enjoys you but, he won't go there. He's not ready.

some of the boys i am friends with can be protective of me. i dont know why.they are like dads to me.

even though i talk normally with them- i dont flirt. were just friends.one of they told me even about his best friends. warned me of him that the other one was a player.

and on parties he is protective i have noidea why

Posted by joanne_p

Posted by VenusAquarius
You are what is called "real" and probably even raw, pure.

No mask.

Real can be intimidating. That's why you seem confident to others.

Sometimes when it comes to dating, and a guy knows he has no intention.... you show up real and pure... he just can't. He enjoys you but, he won't go there. He's not ready.

why?

should i put on mask on myself to be like everyone and then more boys would come to me?

yes you are right i was not sure if someone of you all understood me right but yes. you said what i wanted to say.

i am likethat- but why men dont want me the way i am?

because i show emotions?

so whom i should be?

what types of woman , men my age are attracted to?

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I don't think it's emotion... due to your acceptance in male groups, and your male friends.

You just give no falsehood. They, men, can tell your sincerity. You may seem to "heavy," or to "deep," transparent.

You make lack feminine wiles or mystery... all seductive qualities of the masses.

However, because you are earnest, and once your generation has matured, you will attract an earnest man.

Most will find you to be a rarity... once they get tired of the typical female prototypes. Your time will come.

You were close to finding that man. Virgos really like this quality. That Virgo was not ready, not mature enough yet.

There are a few of us Aries with Virgos...right here on this board. I'm married to one.

Posted by joanne_p

Posted by LittleFairy


...but don't judge yourself on who likes you ...if you think you are a good person....that is all you can do 🙂

i think i am ok and a good person but since 2 years its been me who was taken advantage of or played.

and i didnt realise it.

whene i said no and cut contacts people started to realise and now they come back, delicately, really.

even when ii am abroad they start to talk to me.

or want to write to me. idk why, because they see i can go away?

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nah they just like you and miss ya ...just appreciate you have them. 🙂

Maybe you take relationships and hurts a little bit more to heart. Nothin wrong with that. .just keep it in perspective 🙂

And you sound like a lovely person. 🙂 I think you are fab ..don't change ....

x

Posted by joanne_p

Posted by VenusAquarius
You are what is called "real" and probably even raw, pure.

No mask.

Real can be intimidating. That's why you seem confident to others.

Sometimes when it comes to dating, and a guy knows he has no intention.... you show up real and pure... he just can't. He enjoys you but, he won't go there. He's not ready.

some of the boys i am friends with can be protective of me. i dont know why.they are like dads to me.

even though i talk normally with them- i dont flirt. were just friends.one of they told me even about his best friends. warned me of him that the other one was a player.

and on parties he is protective i have noidea why

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They see you as pure... innocent.

They say we think like men.

I am always the girl within a pack of guys... especially in college.

Posted by VenusAquarius

Posted by joanne_p

Posted by VenusAquarius
You are what is called "real" and probably even raw, pure.

No mask.

Real can be intimidating. That's why you seem confident to others.

Sometimes when it comes to dating, and a guy knows he has no intention.... you show up real and pure... he just can't. He enjoys you but, he won't go there. He's not ready.

some of the boys i am friends with can be protective of me. i dont know why.they are like dads to me.

even though i talk normally with them- i dont flirt. were just friends.one of they told me even about his best friends. warned me of him that the other one was a player.

and on parties he is protective i have noidea why

They see you as pure... innocent.

They say we think like men.

I am always the girl within a pack of guys... especially in college.

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why its like that? because i do not brag about my sexual life? i do not take drugs?? i do not party like 'men' and do not drink heavili the alcohol?

other girls like to be like that- dirty clothes, cigarettes all the time and very talkative, friendly like.

but they are 'dirty', unwashed hair, nails not done, dirty clothes- but they are perceive as artists.

and i am the one who is stressed aall the time

Posted by joanne_p

Posted by VenusAquarius

Posted by joanne_p

Posted by VenusAquarius
You are what is called "real" and probably even raw, pure.

No mask.

Real can be intimidating. That's why you seem confident to others.

Sometimes when it comes to dating, and a guy knows he has no intention.... you show up real and pure... he just can't. He enjoys you but, he won't go there. He's not ready.

some of the boys i am friends with can be protective of me. i dont know why.they are like dads to me.

even though i talk normally with them- i dont flirt. were just friends.one of they told me even about his best friends. warned me of him that the other one was a player.

and on parties he is protective i have noidea why

They see you as pure... innocent.

They say we think like men.

I am always the girl within a pack of guys... especially in college.

why its like that? because i do not brag about my sexual life? i do not take drugs?? i do not party like 'men' and do not drink heavili the alcohol?

other girls like to be like that- dirty clothes, cigarettes all the time and very talkative, friendly like.

but they are 'dirty', unwashed hair, nails not done, dirty clothes- but they are perceive as artists.

and i am the one who is stressed aall the time

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This is pop culture. You are also a Venus in Aqua... we don't lean towards trends and social norms... especially as an Aries w/this placement.

Research, Google, your Venus sign.

They're try to fit in, get attention, etc. It happens everywhere... it's everywhere... here.

Are you an art student? I was too.

Posted by VenusAquarius

Posted by joanne_p

Posted by VenusAquarius
You are what is called "real" and probably even raw, pure.

No mask.

Real can be intimidating. That's why you seem confident to others.

Sometimes when it comes to dating, and a guy knows he has no intention.... you show up real and pure... he just can't. He enjoys you but, he won't go there. He's not ready.

why?

should i put on mask on myself to be like everyone and then more boys would come to me?

yes you are right i was not sure if someone of you all understood me right but yes. you said what i wanted to say.

i am likethat- but why men dont want me the way i am?

because i show emotions?

so whom i should be?

what types of woman , men my age are attracted to?

I don't think it's emotion... due to your acceptance in male groups, and your male friends.

You just give no falsehood. They, men, can tell your sincerity. You may seem to "heavy," or to "deep," transparent.

You make lack feminine wiles or mystery... all seductive qualities of the masses.

However, because you are earnest, and once your generation has matured, you will attract an earnest man.

Most will find you to be a rarity... once they get tired of the typical female prototypes. Your time will come.

You were close to finding that man. Virgos really like this quality. That Virgo was not ready, not mature enough yet.

There are a few of us Aries with Virgos...right here on this board. I'm married to one.

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he wnated to 'book' me for the future. but he wanted to stay in the same place and get older and more matured.

but i didnt want to wait - i am impatient aries0. its not my fault that his friends leo guy and saggitarius liked me.

leo man was the last one the virgo was so jealous about.

but with leo man i can talk normalaly like to a friend. we are in touch. he is the alpha one. i like that.

if virgo didnt want me and dumped me. i stopped caring and in purpose i started to show in the group with leo guy to make myself visible.

and leo guy liked me. its not my fault.

virgo should have made his mind more quickly. i wasted almost 2 years.

Posted by VenusAquarius

Posted by joanne_p

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Posted by joanne_p

Posted by VenusAquarius
You are what is called "real" and probably even raw, pure.

No mask.

Real can be intimidating. That's why you seem confident to others.

Sometimes when it comes to dating, and a guy knows he has no intention.... you show up real and pure... he just can't. He enjoys you but, he won't go there. He's not ready.

some of the boys i am friends with can be protective of me. i dont know why.they are like dads to me.

even though i talk normally with them- i dont flirt. were just friends.one of they told me even about his best friends. warned me of him that the other one was a player.

and on parties he is protective i have noidea why

They see you as pure... innocent.

They say we think like men.

I am always the girl within a pack of guys... especially in college.

why its like that? because i do not brag about my sexual life? i do not take drugs?? i do not party like 'men' and do not drink heavili the alcohol?

other girls like to be like that- dirty clothes, cigarettes all the time and very talkative, friendly like.

but they are 'dirty', unwashed hair, nails not done, dirty clothes- but they are perceive as artists.

and i am the one who is stressed aall the time

This is pop culture. You are also a Venus in Aqua... we don't lean towards trends and social norms... especially as an Aries w/this placement.

Research, Google, your Venus sign.

They're try to fit in, get attention, etc. It happens everywhere... it's everywhere... here.

Are you an art student? I was too.

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i come from artistic family but i study architecture - as well as my sister.

virgo and leo man are also 'artists' kind of. they work in an film, business and artistic environment. their families are also connected with art

Posted by joanne_p

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Posted by joanne_p

Posted by VenusAquarius
You are what is called "real" and probably even raw, pure.

No mask.

Real can be intimidating. That's why you seem confident to others.

Sometimes when it comes to dating, and a guy knows he has no intention.... you show up real and pure... he just can't. He enjoys you but, he won't go there. He's not ready.

why?

should i put on mask on myself to be like everyone and then more boys would come to me?

yes you are right i was not sure if someone of you all understood me right but yes. you said what i wanted to say.

i am likethat- but why men dont want me the way i am?

because i show emotions?

so whom i should be?

what types of woman , men my age are attracted to?

I don't think it's emotion... due to your acceptance in male groups, and your male friends.

You just give no falsehood. They, men, can tell your sincerity. You may seem to "heavy," or to "deep," transparent.

You make lack feminine wiles or mystery... all seductive qualities of the masses.

However, because you are earnest, and once your generation has matured, you will attract an earnest man.

Most will find you to be a rarity... once they get tired of the typical female prototypes. Your time will come.

You were close to finding that man. Virgos really like this quality. That Virgo was not ready, not mature enough yet.

There are a few of us Aries with Virgos...right here on this board. I'm married to one.

he wnated to 'book' me for the future. but he wanted to stay in the same place and get older and more matured.

but i didnt want to wait - i am impatient aries0. its not my fault that his friends leo guy and saggitarius liked me.

leo man was the last one the virgo was so jealous about.

but with leo man i can talk normalaly like to a friend. we are in touch. he is the alpha one. i like that.

if virgo didnt want me and dumped me. i stopped caring and in purpose i started to show in the group with leo guy to make myself visible.

and leo guy liked me. its not my fault.

virgo should have made his mind more quickly. i wasted almost 2 years.

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You are smart. That's exactly what it seems the Virgo was doing "booking for the future." He knows he's not ready.

Leo is the easiest for us Aries.

You do not have to worry about attraction. Venus in Aqua will serve you well as long as you stay true to yourself... the less you worry, the less you care, the better your Venus will shine...and, you will attract the earnest at heart. The background is good for us...we are comfortable there.

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Posted by joanne_p

Posted by VenusAquarius

Posted by joanne_p

Posted by VenusAquarius
You are what is called "real" and probably even raw, pure.

No mask.

Real can be intimidating. That's why you seem confident to others.

Sometimes when it comes to dating, and a guy knows he has no intention.... you show up real and pure... he just can't. He enjoys you but, he won't go there. He's not ready.

why?

should i put on mask on myself to be like everyone and then more boys would come to me?

yes you are right i was not sure if someone of you all understood me right but yes. you said what i wanted to say.

i am likethat- but why men dont want me the way i am?

because i show emotions?

so whom i should be?

what types of woman , men my age are attracted to?

I don't think it's emotion... due to your acceptance in male groups, and your male friends.

You just give no falsehood. They, men, can tell your sincerity. You may seem to "heavy," or to "deep," transparent.

You make lack feminine wiles or mystery... all seductive qualities of the masses.

However, because you are earnest, and once your generation has matured, you will attract an earnest man.

Most will find you to be a rarity... once they get tired of the typical female prototypes. Your time will come.

You were close to finding that man. Virgos really like this quality. That Virgo was not ready, not mature enough yet.

There are a few of us Aries with Virgos...right here on this board. I'm married to one.

he wnated to 'book' me for the future. but he wanted to stay in the same place and get older and more matured.

but i didnt want to wait - i am impatient aries0. its not my fault that his friends leo guy and saggitarius liked me.

leo man was the last one the virgo was so jealous about.

but with leo man i can talk normalaly like to a friend. we are in touch. he is the alpha one. i like that.

if virgo didnt want me and dumped me. i stopped caring and in purpose i started to show in the group with leo guy to make myself visible.

and leo guy liked me. its not my fault.

virgo should have made his mind more quickly. i wasted almost 2 years.

You are smart. That's exactly what it seems the Virgo was doing "booking for the future." He knows he's not ready.

Leo is the easiest for us Aries.

You do not have to worry about attraction. Venus in Aqua will serve you well as long as you stay true to yourself... the less you worry, the less you care, the better your Venus will shine...and, you will attract the earnest at heart. The background is good for us...we are comfortable there.

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leo man is attracted to me because he has desc in aries. before he had only sags/gemini girls. he has also a lot of virgo placements. thats why he likes smart girls. and always ask me about my work and how are my studies going.

with virgo i have the same moon in capricorn. when i took off his mask he appeared to be very serious, to serious even for his age but on the other hand he has a complex and quickly hide his serious side being a macho type in the circle of friends. a lot of female friends and so one.

his face is always serious like he would analyse everything everytime.

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You are what is called "real" and probably even raw, pure.

No mask.

Real can be intimidating. That's why you seem confident to others.

Sometimes when it comes to dating, and a guy knows he has no intention.... you show up real and pure... he just can't. He enjoys you but, he won't go there. He's not ready.

why?

should i put on mask on myself to be like everyone and then more boys would come to me?

yes you are right i was not sure if someone of you all understood me right but yes. you said what i wanted to say.

i am likethat- but why men dont want me the way i am?

because i show emotions?

so whom i should be?

what types of woman , men my age are attracted to?

I don't think it's emotion... due to your acceptance in male groups, and your male friends.

You just give no falsehood. They, men, can tell your sincerity. You may seem to "heavy," or to "deep," transparent.

You make lack feminine wiles or mystery... all seductive qualities of the masses.

However, because you are earnest, and once your generation has matured, you will attract an earnest man.

Most will find you to be a rarity... once they get tired of the typical female prototypes. Your time will come.

You were close to finding that man. Virgos really like this quality. That Virgo was not ready, not mature enough yet.

There are a few of us Aries with Virgos...right here on this board. I'm married to one.

he wnated to 'book' me for the future. but he wanted to stay in the same place and get older and more matured.

but i didnt want to wait - i am impatient aries0. its not my fault that his friends leo guy and saggitarius liked me.

leo man was the last one the virgo was so jealous about.

but with leo man i can talk normalaly like to a friend. we are in touch. he is the alpha one. i like that.

if virgo didnt want me and dumped me. i stopped caring and in purpose i started to show in the group with leo guy to make myself visible.

and leo guy liked me. its not my fault.

virgo should have made his mind more quickly. i wasted almost 2 years.

You are smart. That's exactly what it seems the Virgo was doing "booking for the future." He knows he's not ready.

Leo is the easiest for us Aries.

You do not have to worry about attraction. Venus in Aqua will serve you well as long as you stay true to yourself... the less you worry, the less you care, the better your Venus will shine...and, you will attract the earnest at heart. The background is good for us...we are comfortable there.

leo man is attracted to me because he has desc in aries. before he had only sags/gemini girls. he has also a lot of virgo placements. thats why he likes smart girls. and always ask me about my work and how are my studies going.

with virgo i have the same moon in capricorn. when i took off his mask he appeared to be very serious, to serious even for his age but on the other hand he has a complex and quickly hide his serious side being a macho type in the circle of friends. a lot of female friends and so one.

his face is always serious like he would analyse everything everytime.

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You got this... good discernment. You watch, you analyze. The background has the best view.

I don't like feel of any of them... like some Great Gatsby type bs.

why great gatsby hahah ?

yes i analyse so much thats why i protect myself.

maybe thats why i am so slow becauase i do not throw myself to the situations like other people

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why great gatsby hahah ?

yes i analyse so much thats why i protect myself.

maybe thats why i am so slow becauase i do not throw myself to the situations like other people

They project shallowness, even when they're not... With some, you have to be alone with them for them to be real.....but, they're just young. They don't feel comfortable being themselves yet; haven't come into their own. Some will stay at this developmental stage, some will continue to try on different "masks," etc. all for society...which is appropriate in most respects but, not to the extent of being false.

I don't see you as slow. As Aries, we are often naive... asking why this, why that...

We move, speak, the most when we are convicted, passionate... You seem to understand the importance of proper use of energy... fire.

but i had a weird feeling with virgo/ whenever i was around i felt like i needed to prove myself to him because he was raising the standards, like aiming so high that i felt so bad.

we were meeting up at work he was treating me like shit.

he was supposed to help me at work insteead of that he was degrading me with comments or silence. or telling that i didntt do something well.

was very harsh for me. because i was the same level as him/ he usually surround himself with 19-20 year old girls that are freshmen and still party because he can be a dad a provider to them.

to me , at work he was treating me badly like partner that he can offend.

and 1 week later at parties he was approaching being drunk or high touching my face wanted to dance with me, hugging me , yelling after me.

i was also working at some projects with leo man. he did unserstand that i was not professional and gave a help hand whenever needed. i could call him tell my work problems and he could solve them.

it was the time i was scare of a virgo guy that he could judge me being so harsh and professional.

thats why i started to be more convinced of a leo man. and he started to like me and my energy. we could have fun, jump, dance with the same flow. and talk with the same flow smiling and laughing all the time.

and with virgo guy aftr he dumped me and after he was so harsh to me at work i felt only criticism that i was not what he thought i supposed to be.

leo man was helping me creating my path in the process of working at the projects and virgo was only observing and whenever i appeared at the 1st place he was approaching for the things that have been done by me with a help of a leo man.

that is why i feel so bad and feel a grudge against a virgo man.

like he would spite me.

and knowing i am writing my diploma virgo asked me last year if i needed help in my diploma because his parents are known architects.

but he did that not normally but with 😆DD and swearing in a funny waay.

with conversations with leo man he never swears never send 😆

we make fun, also write shortcuts and funny words but its not like immature 😆D 😆DDDD LULZ, YO HOMIE, HIGH5 -which was actually used by a viro man to say hi to me so many times... i couldnt stand that and i was vanishing him from my life after...

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but i had a weird feeling with virgo/ whenever i was around i felt like i needed to prove myself to him because he was raising the standards, like aiming so high that i felt so bad.

we were meeting up at work he was treating me like shit.

he was supposed to help me at work insteead of that he was degrading me with comments or silence. or telling that i didntt do something well.

was very harsh for me. because i was the same level as him/ he usually surround himself with 19-20 year old girls that are freshmen and still party because he can be a dad a provider to them.

to me , at work he was treating me badly like partner that he can offend.

and 1 week later at parties he was approaching being drunk or high touching my face wanted to dance with me, hugging me , yelling after me.

i was also working at some projects with leo man. he did unserstand that i was not professional and gave a help hand whenever needed. i could call him tell my work problems and he could solve them.

it was the time i was scare of a virgo guy that he could judge me being so harsh and professional.

thats why i started to be more convinced of a leo man. and he started to like me and my energy. we could have fun, jump, dance with the same flow. and talk with the same flow smiling and laughing all the time.

and with virgo guy aftr he dumped me and after he was so harsh to me at work i felt only criticism that i was not what he thought i supposed to be.

leo man was helping me creating my path in the process of working at the projects and virgo was only observing and whenever i appeared at the 1st place he was approaching for the things that have been done by me with a help of a leo man.

that is why i feel so bad and feel a grudge against a virgo man.

like he would spite me.

You seem to know astrology. You know that Virgos criticize.

And, you know that Leo is our #1 pairing. Leo seems so sweet.

HAHAHA KNOW HIM

seen this 10000 times already!!! 😉

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but i had a weird feeling with virgo/ whenever i was around i felt like i needed to prove myself to him because he was raising the standards, like aiming so high that i felt so bad.

we were meeting up at work he was treating me like shit.

he was supposed to help me at work insteead of that he was degrading me with comments or silence. or telling that i didntt do something well.

was very harsh for me. because i was the same level as him/ he usually surround himself with 19-20 year old girls that are freshmen and still party because he can be a dad a provider to them.

to me , at work he was treating me badly like partner that he can offend.

and 1 week later at parties he was approaching being drunk or high touching my face wanted to dance with me, hugging me , yelling after me.

i was also working at some projects with leo man. he did unserstand that i was not professional and gave a help hand whenever needed. i could call him tell my work problems and he could solve them.

it was the time i was scare of a virgo guy that he could judge me being so harsh and professional.

thats why i started to be more convinced of a leo man. and he started to like me and my energy. we could have fun, jump, dance with the same flow. and talk with the same flow smiling and laughing all the time.

and with virgo guy aftr he dumped me and after he was so harsh to me at work i felt only criticism that i was not what he thought i supposed to be.

leo man was helping me creating my path in the process of working at the projects and virgo was only observing and whenever i appeared at the 1st place he was approaching for the things that have been done by me with a help of a leo man.

that is why i feel so bad and feel a grudge against a virgo man.

like he would spite me.

You seem to know astrology. You know that Virgos criticize.

And, you know that Leo is our #1 pairing. Leo seems so sweet.

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leo offers help with everthing even without asking.

before i left my country in january leo helped me with some rendering at his office. when i went to his office virgo guy was there !!! i didnt know that they were finishing their last project together iwthother people.

when virgo guy saw me he satrted being ugly, even leo man asked him why was he behaving like a d_____ick.

and for me it was a sign of taking step back and go back home.

and then virgo man told leo man about us with details and did a bad black pr to me. it was the day aafter.

other friend told me that when i left the office virgoguy started gossiping at loud about me and about us FROM 2 YEARS AGO.

still dont now why would he tell everyone about us 2 years after. and why he did that liek he was keeping this information and only wanted for the best occasion to gossip about me and to punch me mentally. to make a black pr.

leo man was jealous then = because he didnt know i was dating virgo 2 years ago. we were in diffferent groups of friends. and in my city a lot of people know each other so thats why 1 year ago we mixed all together.

and leo man was jealous started being rude to me but it was a good time i left my country because all the emotions calmed down.

and now i again have contact with leo guy. for last few weeks we have been writing very often.

but i dont wanna be desperate.

i felt like leo man didnt want to loose contact with me.

i know that virgo man did that because he was jealous.

and saw that others are interested in me.

because he felt aa punch in his heart.

even thought i gave him signals it was me who waas inviting him even last october november we had a last encounter after our project.

he told me he would contact me and we would date.

i asked him.

next day he was scared didnt look into my eyes.

jumped off.

but of ccourse had to act like a dog in a manger . didnt let anyone to have me . because i was his but he doesnt let me and anyone that he knows, to have me.

because it would be disaster for his ego and for his pride and social status.

😉

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Posted by joanne_p
but i had a weird feeling with virgo/ whenever i was around i felt like i needed to prove myself to him because he was raising the standards, like aiming so high that i felt so bad.

we were meeting up at work he was treating me like shit.

he was supposed to help me at work insteead of that he was degrading me with comments or silence. or telling that i didntt do something well.

was very harsh for me. because i was the same level as him/ he usually surround himself with 19-20 year old girls that are freshmen and still party because he can be a dad a provider to them.

to me , at work he was treating me badly like partner that he can offend.

and 1 week later at parties he was approaching being drunk or high touching my face wanted to dance with me, hugging me , yelling after me.

i was also working at some projects with leo man. he did unserstand that i was not professional and gave a help hand whenever needed. i could call him tell my work problems and he could solve them.

it was the time i was scare of a virgo guy that he could judge me being so harsh and professional.

thats why i started to be more convinced of a leo man. and he started to like me and my energy. we could have fun, jump, dance with the same flow. and talk with the same flow smiling and laughing all the time.

and with virgo guy aftr he dumped me and after he was so harsh to me at work i felt only criticism that i was not what he thought i supposed to be.

leo man was helping me creating my path in the process of working at the projects and virgo was only observing and whenever i appeared at the 1st place he was approaching for the things that have been done by me with a help of a leo man.

that is why i feel so bad and feel a grudge against a virgo man.

like he would spite me.

You seem to know astrology. You know that Virgos criticize.

And, you know that Leo is our #1 pairing. Leo seems so sweet.

leo offers help with everthing even without asking.

before i left my country in january leo helped me with some rendering at his office. when i went to his office virgo guy was there !!! i didnt know that they were finishing their last project together iwthother people.

when virgo guy saw me he satrted being ugly, even leo man asked him why was he behaving like a d_____ick.

and for me it was a sign of taking step back and go back home.

and then virgo man told leo man about us with details and did a bad black pr to me. it was the day aafter.

other friend told me that when i left the office virgoguy started gossiping at loud about me and about us FROM 2 YEARS AGO.

still dont now why would he tell everyone about us 2 years after. and why he did that liek he was keeping this information and only wanted for the best occasion to gossip about me and to punch me mentally. to make a black pr.

leo man was jealous then = because he didnt know i was dating virgo 2 years ago. we were in diffferent groups of friends. and in my city a lot of people know each other so thats why 1 year ago we mixed all together.

and leo man was jealous started being rude to me but it was a good time i left my country because all the emotions calmed down.

and now i again have contact with leo guy. for last few weeks we have been writing very often.

but i dont wanna be desperate.

i felt like leo man didnt want to loose contact with me.

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You're in a small pond. I find small ponds the most difficult to navigate. The best way to navigate is to know that everyone will know everything and either A) act accordingly or, B) not care.

If these people are people that you could possibly work with, I strongly advice not engaging in romantic relationships... particularly because of the maturity level. Now, what happened w/the Virgo was a warning, foreshadowing of things to come if you do not head.

Is architecture is still a male dominated field. And, you have to understand the trappings of this environment... as a woman.

You don't want to be "passed" around. Or, be surprised when introduced to your new boss and he is a former lover.

i was doing non architectural jobs.

i was engaged in a film industry.

for 1.5 years i was doingg small artistic projects with students from film school.

but of course i had my other life in architecture.

i am doing an exchange in architecture in italy.

i am doing also an internshipp here.

i am focusing at architecture here.

leo strongluy encourages me to focus on architecture that is why he only asks me to do architecture.

before even people whom we were working asked him if he would hire me because i was a very good worked in this film industry.

he didnt like that idea. and i think that he was analysing me and a bit testing me.

and now he is testing me again but onlyasking about architecture.



i did a step in film industry because i wanted to change my perspective when it comes to architecture. and not only doing autocad at my computer and sitting in office.

i was engaged phisically at movie sets i was alive, energetic. but of course before i had to create a set design that later was built.



when leo heard i waas with virgo i think he started to encourage me to do architecture.

he is very known in film industry, he is an alpha a boss. and i think that he didnt want me to step on his field.

and he wants me to take my field which is architecture- but on the other hand i still hesistate if i want to be an architect myself. becuase its a hard work. and when u want to be the best you must leave my city and probably mycountry because comparing to spain, uk, germany or france, architecture in poland is still tought as it was in 80-90. of course new ways and softwares are bein introduced but there is nothing new, no fresh air.

thats why i had doubts. thats why i step into the film industry to be more creative.

but as i see leo wants me to take my path. maybe because he sees that i am not good enough in film industry but better in architecture.

I'm trying to follow this thread.

So are you with the Leo guy now?

no, i am abroad. but in contact with leo

i apologise for being so chaotic.

i am just putting my thought in here.

maybe today its the best day for memories.

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i was doing non architectural jobs.

i was engaged in a film industry.

for 1.5 years i was doingg small artistic projects with students from film school.

but of course i had my other life in architecture.

i am doing an exchange in architecture in italy.

i am doing also an internshipp here.

i am focusing at architecture here.

leo strongluy encourages me to focus on architecture that is why he only asks me to do architecture.

before even people whom we were working asked him if he would hire me because i was a very good worked in this film industry.

he didnt like that idea. and i think that he was analysing me and a bit testing me.

and now he is testing me again but onlyasking about architecture.



i did a step in film industry because i wanted to change my perspective when it comes to architecture. and not only doing autocad at my computer and sitting in office.

i was engaged phisically at movie sets i was alive, energetic. but of course before i had to create a set design that later was built.



when leo heard i waas with virgo i think he started to encourage me to do architecture.

he is very known in film industry, he is an alpha a boss. and i think that he didnt want me to step on his field.

and he wants me to take my field which is architecture- but on the other hand i still hesistate if i want to be an architect myself. becuase its a hard work. and when u want to be the best you must leave my city and probably mycountry because comparing to spain, uk, germany or france, architecture in poland is still tought as it was in 80-90. of course new ways and softwares are bein introduced but there is nothing new, no fresh air.

thats why i had doubts. thats why i step into the film industry to be more creative.

but as i see leo wants me to take my path. maybe because he sees that i am not good enough in film industry but better in architecture.

Be careful.

If your career is very important, do not engage romantically with these men who share your career field or aspirations...

However, if you know your career will carry all over the world, no real worries. In the meantime, it still remains...

My 1st mentor was a Leo. He wanted more, and although my career has taken me all over the US and can take me anywhere in the world, I gently stood my ground. I use him for a reference to this day. If I dated him, broke up, and he was bitter... not good.