
whatisthisallabout
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Posted by whatisthisallaboutVery respectful, chooses timeless gifts, traditional, sweet, driven to succeed for themselves and usually successful at it, and are expensive to maintain lol.Posted by LilianniDo you have venus in Cap?
Sexy
Elaborate please ๐click to expand

Posted by LilianniSounds like a keeper!Posted by whatisthisallaboutVery respectful, chooses timeless gifts, traditional, sweet, driven to succeed for themselves and usually successful at it, and are expensive to maintain lol.Posted by LilianniDo you have venus in Cap?
Sexy
Elaborate please ๐click to expand

Posted by youngaliI feel Cap or venus in Cap can be hard to read.
Venus in Cap and Venus in Aqua are a lot alike.
both tend to show love and affection more so through gestures and action.
very sweet, logical, easy going & understanding.
My ex Cap of 3 years had venus in cap and i have venus in aqua,
we got along very well and are still the best of friends till this day. ๐
Posted by whatisthisallaboutLol. Well, I can't say it applies to every cap Venus, but the ones I know like designer brands and like to gift timeless pieces. (The men I know have given their girlfriends roses, trips to fancy restaurants, Tiffany & Co. necklaces, Daniel Wellington watches, giant teddy bears..)Posted by LilianniSounds like a keeper!Posted by whatisthisallaboutVery respectful, chooses timeless gifts, traditional, sweet, driven to succeed for themselves and usually successful at it, and are expensive to maintain lol.Posted by LilianniDo you have venus in Cap?
Sexy
Elaborate please ๐
Please elaborate on the "expensive to maintain" part :pclick to expand


Posted by LilianniThis actually reminds me of my Cap friend. He lives in a gated community (he rents the place instead of owning the place though...) and spends a lot of money on his gf.Posted by whatisthisallaboutLol. Well, I can't say it applies to every cap Venus, but the ones I know like designer brands and like to gift timeless pieces. (The men I know have given their girlfriends roses, trips to fancy restaurants, Tiffany & Co. necklaces, Daniel Wellington watches, giant teddy bears..)Posted by LilianniSounds like a keeper!Posted by whatisthisallaboutVery respectful, chooses timeless gifts, traditional, sweet, driven to succeed for themselves and usually successful at it, and are expensive to maintain lol.Posted by LilianniDo you have venus in Cap?
Sexy
Elaborate please ๐
Please elaborate on the "expensive to maintain" part :pclick to expand

Posted by exoSounds like cap suns I know ๐
sensitive
daddy-ish
practical/resourceful
protective
hard-working
traditional

Posted by RumiLIs that your venus? ๐
BEST VENUS SIGN EVER. ๐

Posted by aquanibHi daddy ๐
I have Eros in cap. Idk what it said, all i remember is stamina and liking being called daddy!
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Posted by bumboklattNice. What venus signs do you get along with best? ๐Posted by exoThat about sums it up
sensitive
daddy-ish
practical/resourceful
protective
hard-working
traditional
I feel like a manager in my relationships lolclick to expand

Posted by d0s3rOMG this is so true. I told a cap venus that I was interested in him and he said "thank you for sharing this with me." ๐
i don't like pressure
like
don't tell me you like me idk what to do with this info
or... i like you so i'm gonna watch you from a distance

Posted by EvoxxxscorpioAre you venus in cap? What venus signs do you get along with?Posted by LilianniLol you nailed it.Posted by whatisthisallaboutVery respectful, chooses timeless gifts, traditional, sweet, driven to succeed for themselves and usually successful at it, and are expensive to maintain lol.Posted by LilianniDo you have venus in Cap?
Sexy
Elaborate please ๐click to expand


Posted by SassyKiwiHave you dated any venus in Cap? ๐
They're the type you put a ring on

Posted by Evoxxxscorpiolooks like they all have practiced yoga for a long time to be able to do all that ๐
Loves![]()

Posted by EvoxxxscorpioThat's the thing. I noticed that Cap sun or venus in cap have no problem being physically intimate with pretty girls, but they don't open up emotionally. They may be seeing the same women for months or years but never invest in the girl emotionally.Posted by whatisthisallaboutI get a long with all the pretty females inside the bedroom yea I am Venus in cap ?Posted by EvoxxxscorpioAre you venus in cap? What venus signs do you get along with?Posted by LilianniLol you nailed it.Posted by whatisthisallaboutVery respectful, chooses timeless gifts, traditional, sweet, driven to succeed for themselves and usually successful at it, and are expensive to maintain lol.Posted by LilianniDo you have venus in Cap?
Sexy
Elaborate please ๐click to expand

Posted by EvoxxxscorpioIt is a complicated story in my case. I think this venus in cap liked me when we met last year (e.g. took me out for dinner, told me he couldn't stop thinking about me, asked me if I liked him, etc.), but I just got out of a relationship at the time so I did not reciprocate (I did not give him a direct answer when he asked me if I liked him back then. I just said "guess"). Now I have been single for 6 months and I feel I am ready to explore the possibility with him, but he just doesn't seem interested. ๐ญPosted by whatisthisallaboutLol if he likes you yesPosted by d0s3rOMG this is so true. I told a cap venus that I was interested in him and he said "thank you for sharing this with me." ๐
i don't like pressure
like
don't tell me you like me idk what to do with this info
or... i like you so i'm gonna watch you from a distance
I mean, is there a "correct" way to approach venus in capโ?click to expand

Posted by bumboklattI have venus in libra... am I doomed? ๐ฑPosted by whatisthisallaboutOther Caps, Virgo, Scorpio, you know serious Venusus lolPosted by bumboklattNice. What venus signs do you get along with best? ๐Posted by exoThat about sums it up
sensitive
daddy-ish
practical/resourceful
protective
hard-working
traditional
I feel like a manager in my relationships lol
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Posted by bumboklattIf you have been indirectly rejected by a girl, would you consider dating her if she comes around in the future or no?Posted by whatisthisallaboutWell na. I find Mars Venus interaction more important. My Mars is in Taurus so maybe that's why.Posted by bumboklattI have venus in libra... am I doomed? ๐ฑPosted by whatisthisallaboutOther Caps, Virgo, Scorpio, you know serious Venusus lolPosted by bumboklattNice. What venus signs do you get along with best? ๐Posted by exoThat about sums it up
sensitive
daddy-ish
practical/resourceful
protective
hard-working
traditional
I feel like a manager in my relationships lol
Also sun Venus is powerful.click to expand

Posted by d0s3rThis is very helpful. I'd like to think that I am very clear when it comes to my intention with him, but maybe I could do better...Posted by whatisthisallaboutwell for example there was a man yesterday... i accidentally flirted with him so he started flirting back. that was ok...Posted by d0s3rOMG this is so true. I told a cap venus that I was interested in him and he said "thank you for sharing this with me." ๐
i don't like pressure
like
don't tell me you like me idk what to do with this info
or... i like you so i'm gonna watch you from a distance
I mean, is there a "correct" way to approach venus in capโ?
but today he began flirting again really explicitly...and all my confidence and wit went. he is now officially 'onto' me and idk what to do.
if a cap venus likes you (and i speak really for myself here, pisces and sag dominance ok)
they will 'chase'. me as a woman, by 'chase' i mean flirting, finding reasons to be around you. doing things for you.
telling you explicitly i like you takes a while - i need to be sure you like me first.
if i were to be chased, i would back off like the guy did to you. it doesn't officially mean i'm not interested.
i need to know what you want. anyone can say they like you
a guy might want just sex, or fwb, a casual relationship - or marriage. i don't mind either, but which one i'd choose depends on how much i like you and how much i can trust you. people tend to not say exactly what they want. they trick you, or don't really know themselves.
i don't want to get trapped in a bad decision - then have to hurt your or my feelings trying to reverse it.
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Posted by bumboklattSo regarding what I meant by "indirectly".... when we first met, I just got out of a relationship and my ex still wanted to give it another shot.Posted by whatisthisallaboutDepends on indirectlyPosted by bumboklattIf you have been indirectly rejected by a girl, would you consider dating her if she comes around in the future or no?Posted by whatisthisallaboutWell na. I find Mars Venus interaction more important. My Mars is in Taurus so maybe that's why.Posted by bumboklattI have venus in libra... am I doomed? ๐ฑPosted by whatisthisallaboutOther Caps, Virgo, Scorpio, you know serious Venusus lolPosted by bumboklattNice. What venus signs do you get along with best? ๐Posted by exoThat about sums it up
sensitive
daddy-ish
practical/resourceful
protective
hard-working
traditional
I feel like a manager in my relationships lol
Also sun Venus is powerful.
Cap Venus likes control and looks ahead, very business like. If there's doubt about flaking then it could be a problem
That's why cap is squared libraclick to expand

Posted by EvoxxxscorpioHow do you tell if a girl is invested? What kind of things do you pay attention to?Posted by whatisthisallaboutlol I'll invest only if you do.Posted by EvoxxxscorpioThat's the thing. I noticed that Cap sun or venus in cap have no problem being physically intimate with pretty girls, but they don't open up emotionally. They may be seeing the same women for months or years but never invest in the girl emotionally.Posted by whatisthisallaboutI get a long with all the pretty females inside the bedroom yea I am Venus in cap ?Posted by EvoxxxscorpioAre you venus in cap? What venus signs do you get along with?Posted by LilianniLol you nailed it.Posted by whatisthisallaboutVery respectful, chooses timeless gifts, traditional, sweet, driven to succeed for themselves and usually successful at it, and are expensive to maintain lol.Posted by LilianniDo you have venus in Cap?
Sexy
Elaborate please ๐
Is that true in your case? ๐click to expand

Posted by bumboklattThat's too bad....Posted by whatisthisallaboutHaha total libra energy. Indecisive. Yeah he likely won't forget that.Posted by bumboklattSo regarding what I meant by "indirectly".... when we first met, I just got out of a relationship and my ex still wanted to give it another shot.Posted by whatisthisallaboutDepends on indirectlyPosted by bumboklattIf you have been indirectly rejected by a girl, would you consider dating her if she comes around in the future or no?Posted by whatisthisallaboutWell na. I find Mars Venus interaction more important. My Mars is in Taurus so maybe that's why.Posted by bumboklattI have venus in libra... am I doomed? ๐ฑPosted by whatisthisallaboutOther Caps, Virgo, Scorpio, you know serious Venusus lolPosted by bumboklattNice. What venus signs do you get along with best? ๐Posted by exoThat about sums it up
sensitive
daddy-ish
practical/resourceful
protective
hard-working
traditional
I feel like a manager in my relationships lol
Also sun Venus is powerful.
Cap Venus likes control and looks ahead, very business like. If there's doubt about flaking then it could be a problem
That's why cap is squared libra
My ex booked the plane tickets to go to my country with me a couple of months before we broke up and my ex still wanted to go. So I told the cap venus guy about the situation and told him let's not see each other for a while since I was not sure what'd happen during the trip....
I do think I may come off flakey =.=click to expand

Posted by d0s3rI feel better now just by knowing how the internal process works, and you described it very well. I can actually see that now... espeically the working to the top in silence, be yoru best love part. He did do a lot of sweet things for me (very subtle) when we first met but it was bad timing for me...Posted by whatisthisallaboutit's hard when a person is nice generally. how could i hurt that person's feelings?Posted by d0s3rThis is very helpful. I'd like to think that I am very clear when it comes to my intention with him, but maybe I could do better...Posted by whatisthisallaboutwell for example there was a man yesterday... i accidentally flirted with him so he started flirting back. that was ok...Posted by d0s3rOMG this is so true. I told a cap venus that I was interested in him and he said "thank you for sharing this with me." ๐
i don't like pressure
like
don't tell me you like me idk what to do with this info
or... i like you so i'm gonna watch you from a distance
I mean, is there a "correct" way to approach venus in capโ?
but today he began flirting again really explicitly...and all my confidence and wit went. he is now officially 'onto' me and idk what to do.
if a cap venus likes you (and i speak really for myself here, pisces and sag dominance ok)
they will 'chase'. me as a woman, by 'chase' i mean flirting, finding reasons to be around you. doing things for you.
telling you explicitly i like you takes a while - i need to be sure you like me first.
if i were to be chased, i would back off like the guy did to you. it doesn't officially mean i'm not interested.
i need to know what you want. anyone can say they like you
a guy might want just sex, or fwb, a casual relationship - or marriage. i don't mind either, but which one i'd choose depends on how much i like you and how much i can trust you. people tend to not say exactly what they want. they trick you, or don't really know themselves.
i don't want to get trapped in a bad decision - then have to hurt your or my feelings trying to reverse it.
So first, I told him I wanted to get to know him better and I hoped we can talk on a regular basis. He thanked me for letting him know, but no action. He just remained passive and waited for me to text him first. I texted him a few times a week and he always responded.
Then, I told him what my schedule is like and ask him to let me know when he's in town (he lives at least an hour and a half from me). He replied and told me that our schedules are very different but he's sure that we will be able to find time to hang out. But still, he did not make any attempt for us to hang out.
I feel I am pretty straightfoward towards him, no?
Do you think he's just being nice?
Is it hard for you to tell a person you are not interested?
also, there are some guys i meet that i'd love to be friends with.. but they want more. so i put myself in a dilemma by being nice back, knowing what he wants. it's really bad of me. i'm what is often called 'timewaster'
however if i don't care for the person, i will be very blunt about my lack of interest.
i wouldn't immediately presume this guy is not interested in you.
he may just be apprehensive about what you want. you have told him your intended actions - and you're doing those. but you haven't told him your hopes. does he know explicitly that you want to date? although i've never had anyone say that to me - that would freak me out lol.
he also may just feel very under the spotlight with you being so active in... getting to know him.
to me it seems like you're scrutinising everything about him under all this attention. that's a lot to live up to.
cap is about working to the top - but in silence. humility.
cap venus wants to be your best love - yet doesn't want to be compared to past loves.
to be noticed without me having to boast.
my advice? it sounds like you're coming on strong.
just back off a little. give him the chance to chase.
for example, if you want to hang out with him?
make it so it's like you don't NEED him there - but he can come if he wants. don't make the purpose of meeting about him. that sounds like an audition. don't make the conversations about getting to know him.
talk to him like you would a friend
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Posted by bumboklattHow do I break a Cap?Posted by whatisthisallaboutYes I would BUT remembere Capricorn can be a tough sadistic mofo. I would test you to your limit. If you break you fail, if I break you win.Posted by bumboklattThat's too bad....Posted by whatisthisallaboutHaha total libra energy. Indecisive. Yeah he likely won't forget that.Posted by bumboklattSo regarding what I meant by "indirectly".... when we first met, I just got out of a relationship and my ex still wanted to give it another shot.Posted by whatisthisallaboutDepends on indirectlyPosted by bumboklattIf you have been indirectly rejected by a girl, would you consider dating her if she comes around in the future or no?Posted by whatisthisallaboutWell na. I find Mars Venus interaction more important. My Mars is in Taurus so maybe that's why.Posted by bumboklattI have venus in libra... am I doomed? ๐ฑPosted by whatisthisallaboutOther Caps, Virgo, Scorpio, you know serious Venusus lolPosted by bumboklattNice. What venus signs do you get along with best? ๐Posted by exoThat about sums it up
sensitive
daddy-ish
practical/resourceful
protective
hard-working
traditional
I feel like a manager in my relationships lol
Also sun Venus is powerful.
Cap Venus likes control and looks ahead, very business like. If there's doubt about flaking then it could be a problem
That's why cap is squared libra
My ex booked the plane tickets to go to my country with me a couple of months before we broke up and my ex still wanted to go. So I told the cap venus guy about the situation and told him let's not see each other for a while since I was not sure what'd happen during the trip....
I do think I may come off flakey =.=
I have to admit that I really am indecive when it comes to the matter of the heart ๐ญ
I do notice that he has good memory. He still remembers everything I like and dislike...
Would you be able to give the girl the benefit of the doubt if you were in a similar situation?
I already told him I wanted to get to know him better this time and see if it can work between us, he doesn't really give me any real answers. I don't want to press him for an answer to make myself look a fool :pclick to expand

Posted by d0s3rI feel So Embarrased about my last conversation with him now.Posted by whatisthisallaboutyes yes waaay too strong. that cat comment was a witty way of saying 'hell no'.Posted by d0s3rI feel better now just by knowing how the internal process works, and you described it very well. I can actually see that now... espeically the working to the top in silence, be yoru best love part. He did do a lot of sweet things for me (very subtle) when we first met but it was bad timing for me...Posted by whatisthisallaboutit's hard when a person is nice generally. how could i hurt that person's feelings?Posted by d0s3rThis is very helpful. I'd like to think that I am very clear when it comes to my intention with him, but maybe I could do better...Posted by whatisthisallaboutwell for example there was a man yesterday... i accidentally flirted with him so he started flirting back. that was ok...Posted by d0s3rOMG this is so true. I told a cap venus that I was interested in him and he said "thank you for sharing this with me." ๐
i don't like pressure
like
don't tell me you like me idk what to do with this info
or... i like you so i'm gonna watch you from a distance
I mean, is there a "correct" way to approach venus in capโ?
but today he began flirting again really explicitly...and all my confidence and wit went. he is now officially 'onto' me and idk what to do.
if a cap venus likes you (and i speak really for myself here, pisces and sag dominance ok)
they will 'chase'. me as a woman, by 'chase' i mean flirting, finding reasons to be around you. doing things for you.
telling you explicitly i like you takes a while - i need to be sure you like me first.
if i were to be chased, i would back off like the guy did to you. it doesn't officially mean i'm not interested.
i need to know what you want. anyone can say they like you
a guy might want just sex, or fwb, a casual relationship - or marriage. i don't mind either, but which one i'd choose depends on how much i like you and how much i can trust you. people tend to not say exactly what they want. they trick you, or don't really know themselves.
i don't want to get trapped in a bad decision - then have to hurt your or my feelings trying to reverse it.
So first, I told him I wanted to get to know him better and I hoped we can talk on a regular basis. He thanked me for letting him know, but no action. He just remained passive and waited for me to text him first. I texted him a few times a week and he always responded.
Then, I told him what my schedule is like and ask him to let me know when he's in town (he lives at least an hour and a half from me). He replied and told me that our schedules are very different but he's sure that we will be able to find time to hang out. But still, he did not make any attempt for us to hang out.
I feel I am pretty straightfoward towards him, no?
Do you think he's just being nice?
Is it hard for you to tell a person you are not interested?
also, there are some guys i meet that i'd love to be friends with.. but they want more. so i put myself in a dilemma by being nice back, knowing what he wants. it's really bad of me. i'm what is often called 'timewaster'
however if i don't care for the person, i will be very blunt about my lack of interest.
i wouldn't immediately presume this guy is not interested in you.
he may just be apprehensive about what you want. you have told him your intended actions - and you're doing those. but you haven't told him your hopes. does he know explicitly that you want to date? although i've never had anyone say that to me - that would freak me out lol.
he also may just feel very under the spotlight with you being so active in... getting to know him.
to me it seems like you're scrutinising everything about him under all this attention. that's a lot to live up to.
cap is about working to the top - but in silence. humility.
cap venus wants to be your best love - yet doesn't want to be compared to past loves.
to be noticed without me having to boast.
my advice? it sounds like you're coming on strong.
just back off a little. give him the chance to chase.
for example, if you want to hang out with him?
make it so it's like you don't NEED him there - but he can come if he wants. don't make the purpose of meeting about him. that sounds like an audition. don't make the conversations about getting to know him.
talk to him like you would a friend
I guess I just came on too strong this time.... and probably has blown it already ๐ญ
The last conversation we had, I told him I'd go live with him for a month in the summer to see if we can get along and he said, "I can't live with cats." (He knew I love cats and identify myself with cats, but he had told me he never liked cats.)
I was not sure if he was joking, stating a fact, or it was an indirect no.
Anyways, I responded with something like "I thought there was something there, but maybe I was just being delusional, which happens LOL." He just didn't reply after that.
Since he went silent, I sent him another message a few hours later saying "Gook luck. Till we meet again ๐"
I think I blew it! I knew it ๐ญ
but don't lose faith. just back off for a while but be there subtly.
like... if he follows u on instagram... keep posting subtle photos. that kinda thing.
that he used to give you nice stuff probably means he did like you. and coming on strong isn't too much of a deal breaker - he probably still likes you. what's his sun or stellium?click to expand

Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by SassyKiwiHave you dated any venus in Cap? ๐
They're the type you put a ring onclick to expand

Posted by bumboklattThis is So True. He def made me doubt myself and wonder if he's worth the efforts lolPosted by whatisthisallaboutLots and lots of reliability, being serious about dates, plans, improvising to get the job done, persistance is keyPosted by bumboklattHow do I break a Cap?Posted by whatisthisallaboutYes I would BUT remembere Capricorn can be a tough sadistic mofo. I would test you to your limit. If you break you fail, if I break you win.Posted by bumboklattThat's too bad....Posted by whatisthisallaboutHaha total libra energy. Indecisive. Yeah he likely won't forget that.Posted by bumboklattSo regarding what I meant by "indirectly".... when we first met, I just got out of a relationship and my ex still wanted to give it another shot.Posted by whatisthisallaboutDepends on indirectlyPosted by bumboklattIf you have been indirectly rejected by a girl, would you consider dating her if she comes around in the future or no?Posted by whatisthisallaboutWell na. I find Mars Venus interaction more important. My Mars is in Taurus so maybe that's why.Posted by bumboklattI have venus in libra... am I doomed? ๐ฑPosted by whatisthisallaboutOther Caps, Virgo, Scorpio, you know serious Venusus lolPosted by bumboklattNice. What venus signs do you get along with best? ๐Posted by exoThat about sums it up
sensitive
daddy-ish
practical/resourceful
protective
hard-working
traditional
I feel like a manager in my relationships lol
Also sun Venus is powerful.
Cap Venus likes control and looks ahead, very business like. If there's doubt about flaking then it could be a problem
That's why cap is squared libra
My ex booked the plane tickets to go to my country with me a couple of months before we broke up and my ex still wanted to go. So I told the cap venus guy about the situation and told him let's not see each other for a while since I was not sure what'd happen during the trip....
I do think I may come off flakey =.=
I have to admit that I really am indecive when it comes to the matter of the heart ๐ญ
I do notice that he has good memory. He still remembers everything I like and dislike...
Would you be able to give the girl the benefit of the doubt if you were in a similar situation?
I already told him I wanted to get to know him better this time and see if it can work between us, he doesn't really give me any real answers. I don't want to press him for an answer to make myself look a fool :p
What has a girl done in the past to break you successfully? Do tell, please ๐
He will make you doubt yourself, you will likely wonder if it's even worth it
It's a lot of time and work, it's like Capricorn on steroids
we are terrible lovers at first but we're dead serious once we get confident.
It's like boxing muhammad ali , get readyclick to expand

Posted by SassyKiwiThanks. I do see him as long-term partner material.Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by SassyKiwiHave you dated any venus in Cap? ๐
They're the type you put a ring on
Just trust me when I say they are people great to settle down with. They are not your player/sleeping around type unless they got other promiscuous placements (cough sags lel)click to expand

Posted by EvoxxxscorpioGood to know. Thanks ๐Posted by whatisthisallaboutActions time spent doing lil things if I see you making an effort that's investment.Posted by EvoxxxscorpioHow do you tell if a girl is invested? What kind of things do you pay attention to?Posted by whatisthisallaboutlol I'll invest only if you do.Posted by EvoxxxscorpioThat's the thing. I noticed that Cap sun or venus in cap have no problem being physically intimate with pretty girls, but they don't open up emotionally. They may be seeing the same women for months or years but never invest in the girl emotionally.Posted by whatisthisallaboutI get a long with all the pretty females inside the bedroom yea I am Venus in cap ?Posted by EvoxxxscorpioAre you venus in cap? What venus signs do you get along with?Posted by LilianniLol you nailed it.Posted by whatisthisallaboutVery respectful, chooses timeless gifts, traditional, sweet, driven to succeed for themselves and usually successful at it, and are expensive to maintain lol.Posted by LilianniDo you have venus in Cap?
Sexy
Elaborate please ๐
Is that true in your case? ๐
I used to see a cap guy on and off for three years. He'd say things like, "you must like me a little bit" and he used to complain that I never called him...
I didn't take him seriously because I felt he's never over his ex anyways... our "thing" ended 4 years ago after I moved to another state.
anyways, what kind of things you look at to decide if a girl is invested? ๐click to expand

Posted by d0s3rShould I mirror him? Do subtle nice things for him?Posted by whatisthisallaboutLOL he's pisces like me.Posted by d0s3rI feel So Embarrased about my last conversation with him now.Posted by whatisthisallaboutyes yes waaay too strong. that cat comment was a witty way of saying 'hell no'.Posted by d0s3rI feel better now just by knowing how the internal process works, and you described it very well. I can actually see that now... espeically the working to the top in silence, be yoru best love part. He did do a lot of sweet things for me (very subtle) when we first met but it was bad timing for me...Posted by whatisthisallaboutit's hard when a person is nice generally. how could i hurt that person's feelings?Posted by d0s3rThis is very helpful. I'd like to think that I am very clear when it comes to my intention with him, but maybe I could do better...Posted by whatisthisallaboutwell for example there was a man yesterday... i accidentally flirted with him so he started flirting back. that was ok...Posted by d0s3rOMG this is so true. I told a cap venus that I was interested in him and he said "thank you for sharing this with me." ๐
i don't like pressure
like
don't tell me you like me idk what to do with this info
or... i like you so i'm gonna watch you from a distance
I mean, is there a "correct" way to approach venus in capโ?
but today he began flirting again really explicitly...and all my confidence and wit went. he is now officially 'onto' me and idk what to do.
if a cap venus likes you (and i speak really for myself here, pisces and sag dominance ok)
they will 'chase'. me as a woman, by 'chase' i mean flirting, finding reasons to be around you. doing things for you.
telling you explicitly i like you takes a while - i need to be sure you like me first.
if i were to be chased, i would back off like the guy did to you. it doesn't officially mean i'm not interested.
i need to know what you want. anyone can say they like you
a guy might want just sex, or fwb, a casual relationship - or marriage. i don't mind either, but which one i'd choose depends on how much i like you and how much i can trust you. people tend to not say exactly what they want. they trick you, or don't really know themselves.
i don't want to get trapped in a bad decision - then have to hurt your or my feelings trying to reverse it.
So first, I told him I wanted to get to know him better and I hoped we can talk on a regular basis. He thanked me for letting him know, but no action. He just remained passive and waited for me to text him first. I texted him a few times a week and he always responded.
Then, I told him what my schedule is like and ask him to let me know when he's in town (he lives at least an hour and a half from me). He replied and told me that our schedules are very different but he's sure that we will be able to find time to hang out. But still, he did not make any attempt for us to hang out.
I feel I am pretty straightfoward towards him, no?
Do you think he's just being nice?
Is it hard for you to tell a person you are not interested?
also, there are some guys i meet that i'd love to be friends with.. but they want more. so i put myself in a dilemma by being nice back, knowing what he wants. it's really bad of me. i'm what is often called 'timewaster'
however if i don't care for the person, i will be very blunt about my lack of interest.
i wouldn't immediately presume this guy is not interested in you.
he may just be apprehensive about what you want. you have told him your intended actions - and you're doing those. but you haven't told him your hopes. does he know explicitly that you want to date? although i've never had anyone say that to me - that would freak me out lol.
he also may just feel very under the spotlight with you being so active in... getting to know him.
to me it seems like you're scrutinising everything about him under all this attention. that's a lot to live up to.
cap is about working to the top - but in silence. humility.
cap venus wants to be your best love - yet doesn't want to be compared to past loves.
to be noticed without me having to boast.
my advice? it sounds like you're coming on strong.
just back off a little. give him the chance to chase.
for example, if you want to hang out with him?
make it so it's like you don't NEED him there - but he can come if he wants. don't make the purpose of meeting about him. that sounds like an audition. don't make the conversations about getting to know him.
talk to him like you would a friend
I guess I just came on too strong this time.... and probably has blown it already ๐ญ
The last conversation we had, I told him I'd go live with him for a month in the summer to see if we can get along and he said, "I can't live with cats." (He knew I love cats and identify myself with cats, but he had told me he never liked cats.)
I was not sure if he was joking, stating a fact, or it was an indirect no.
Anyways, I responded with something like "I thought there was something there, but maybe I was just being delusional, which happens LOL." He just didn't reply after that.
Since he went silent, I sent him another message a few hours later saying "Gook luck. Till we meet again ๐"
I think I blew it! I knew it ๐ญ
but don't lose faith. just back off for a while but be there subtly.
like... if he follows u on instagram... keep posting subtle photos. that kinda thing.
that he used to give you nice stuff probably means he did like you. and coming on strong isn't too much of a deal breaker - he probably still likes you. what's his sun or stellium?
I think I def will back off for a while.
His subtle way of being nice is, "I am making us this (insert a food name). I remember you liked it when I made it last time..."
I don't know his birth time, but this is what I got by entering the date/year/approximate birth location...
Zodiac : Tropical
Sun Pisces 11ยฐ36'
Moon Taurus 6ยฐ48'
Mercury Pisces 28ยฐ24'
Venus Capricorn 28ยฐ55'
Mars Pisces 2ยฐ20'
Jupiter Cancer 29ยฐ52' R
Saturn Virgo 10ยฐ27' R
Uranus Scorpio 20ยฐ59' R
Neptune Sagittarius 20ยฐ23'
Pluto Libra 18ยฐ48' R
Lilith Leo 15ยฐ36'
Asc node Virgo 17ยฐ35'
i just smiled so much reading his 'subtle way of being nice'. that's EXACTLY what i do lool.
he likes you. he gives you gifts with meaning. he's looking after you. he's demonstrating that he listens and pays attention (that's him chasing)click to expand

Posted by EvoxxxscorpioReally??!! I told him I'd live with him for a month in the summer to see if we can work things out... =.=Posted by whatisthisallaboutlol Won't matter if you come too strong if the attraction is there it won't make a difference but that's just me.Posted by EvoxxxscorpioGood to know. Thanks ๐Posted by whatisthisallaboutActions time spent doing lil things if I see you making an effort that's investment.Posted by EvoxxxscorpioHow do you tell if a girl is invested? What kind of things do you pay attention to?Posted by whatisthisallaboutlol I'll invest only if you do.Posted by EvoxxxscorpioThat's the thing. I noticed that Cap sun or venus in cap have no problem being physically intimate with pretty girls, but they don't open up emotionally. They may be seeing the same women for months or years but never invest in the girl emotionally.Posted by whatisthisallaboutI get a long with all the pretty females inside the bedroom yea I am Venus in cap ?Posted by EvoxxxscorpioAre you venus in cap? What venus signs do you get along with?Posted by LilianniLol you nailed it.Posted by whatisthisallaboutVery respectful, chooses timeless gifts, traditional, sweet, driven to succeed for themselves and usually successful at it, and are expensive to maintain lol.Posted by LilianniDo you have venus in Cap?
Sexy
Elaborate please ๐
Is that true in your case? ๐
I used to see a cap guy on and off for three years. He'd say things like, "you must like me a little bit" and he used to complain that I never called him...
I didn't take him seriously because I felt he's never over his ex anyways... our "thing" ended 4 years ago after I moved to another state.
anyways, what kind of things you look at to decide if a girl is invested? ๐
I will need to wait for a while before I approach him again though... since I came on too strong lolclick to expand

Posted by EvoxxxscorpioThat's good to know ๐คPosted by whatisthisallaboutLol not really if I'm attracted to you it won't phase mePosted by EvoxxxscorpioReally??!! I told him I'd live with him for a month in the summer to see if we can work things out... =.=Posted by whatisthisallaboutlol Won't matter if you come too strong if the attraction is there it won't make a difference but that's just me.Posted by EvoxxxscorpioGood to know. Thanks ๐Posted by whatisthisallaboutActions time spent doing lil things if I see you making an effort that's investment.Posted by EvoxxxscorpioHow do you tell if a girl is invested? What kind of things do you pay attention to?Posted by whatisthisallaboutlol I'll invest only if you do.Posted by EvoxxxscorpioThat's the thing. I noticed that Cap sun or venus in cap have no problem being physically intimate with pretty girls, but they don't open up emotionally. They may be seeing the same women for months or years but never invest in the girl emotionally.Posted by whatisthisallaboutI get a long with all the pretty females inside the bedroom yea I am Venus in cap ?Posted by EvoxxxscorpioAre you venus in cap? What venus signs do you get along with?Posted by LilianniLol you nailed it.Posted by whatisthisallaboutVery respectful, chooses timeless gifts, traditional, sweet, driven to succeed for themselves and usually successful at it, and are expensive to maintain lol.Posted by LilianniDo you have venus in Cap?
Sexy
Elaborate please ๐
Is that true in your case? ๐
I used to see a cap guy on and off for three years. He'd say things like, "you must like me a little bit" and he used to complain that I never called him...
I didn't take him seriously because I felt he's never over his ex anyways... our "thing" ended 4 years ago after I moved to another state.
anyways, what kind of things you look at to decide if a girl is invested? ๐
I will need to wait for a while before I approach him again though... since I came on too strong lol
Would it scare you? You still think it won't make a difference? ๐click to expand

Posted by EvoxxxscorpioAre you saying THAT is what gets you running ๐Posted by whatisthisallaboutIt's not like you're askIng me to marry you lolPosted by EvoxxxscorpioThat's good to know ๐คPosted by whatisthisallaboutLol not really if I'm attracted to you it won't phase mePosted by EvoxxxscorpioReally??!! I told him I'd live with him for a month in the summer to see if we can work things out... =.=Posted by whatisthisallaboutlol Won't matter if you come too strong if the attraction is there it won't make a difference but that's just me.Posted by EvoxxxscorpioGood to know. Thanks ๐Posted by whatisthisallaboutActions time spent doing lil things if I see you making an effort that's investment.Posted by EvoxxxscorpioHow do you tell if a girl is invested? What kind of things do you pay attention to?Posted by whatisthisallaboutlol I'll invest only if you do.Posted by EvoxxxscorpioThat's the thing. I noticed that Cap sun or venus in cap have no problem being physically intimate with pretty girls, but they don't open up emotionally. They may be seeing the same women for months or years but never invest in the girl emotionally.Posted by whatisthisallaboutI get a long with all the pretty females inside the bedroom yea I am Venus in cap ?Posted by EvoxxxscorpioAre you venus in cap? What venus signs do you get along with?Posted by LilianniLol you nailed it.Posted by whatisthisallaboutVery respectful, chooses timeless gifts, traditional, sweet, driven to succeed for themselves and usually successful at it, and are expensive to maintain lol.Posted by LilianniDo you have venus in Cap?
Sexy
Elaborate please ๐
Is that true in your case? ๐
I used to see a cap guy on and off for three years. He'd say things like, "you must like me a little bit" and he used to complain that I never called him...
I didn't take him seriously because I felt he's never over his ex anyways... our "thing" ended 4 years ago after I moved to another state.
anyways, what kind of things you look at to decide if a girl is invested? ๐
I will need to wait for a while before I approach him again though... since I came on too strong lol
Would it scare you? You still think it won't make a difference? ๐click to expand

Posted by EvoxxxscorpioThank you for the clarification ๐Posted by whatisthisallaboutNah marriage takes time and sometimes living together is a good thing before marriage cause it's the same thing as marriage without paper lolPosted by EvoxxxscorpioAre you saying THAT is what gets you running ๐Posted by whatisthisallaboutIt's not like you're askIng me to marry you lolPosted by EvoxxxscorpioThat's good to know ๐คPosted by whatisthisallaboutLol not really if I'm attracted to you it won't phase mePosted by EvoxxxscorpioReally??!! I told him I'd live with him for a month in the summer to see if we can work things out... =.=Posted by whatisthisallaboutlol Won't matter if you come too strong if the attraction is there it won't make a difference but that's just me.Posted by EvoxxxscorpioGood to know. Thanks ๐Posted by whatisthisallaboutActions time spent doing lil things if I see you making an effort that's investment.Posted by EvoxxxscorpioHow do you tell if a girl is invested? What kind of things do you pay attention to?Posted by whatisthisallaboutlol I'll invest only if you do.Posted by EvoxxxscorpioThat's the thing. I noticed that Cap sun or venus in cap have no problem being physically intimate with pretty girls, but they don't open up emotionally. They may be seeing the same women for months or years but never invest in the girl emotionally.Posted by whatisthisallaboutI get a long with all the pretty females inside the bedroom yea I am Venus in cap ?Posted by EvoxxxscorpioAre you venus in cap? What venus signs do you get along with?Posted by LilianniLol you nailed it.Posted by whatisthisallaboutVery respectful, chooses timeless gifts, traditional, sweet, driven to succeed for themselves and usually successful at it, and are expensive to maintain lol.Posted by LilianniDo you have venus in Cap?
Sexy
Elaborate please ๐
Is that true in your case? ๐
I used to see a cap guy on and off for three years. He'd say things like, "you must like me a little bit" and he used to complain that I never called him...
I didn't take him seriously because I felt he's never over his ex anyways... our "thing" ended 4 years ago after I moved to another state.
anyways, what kind of things you look at to decide if a girl is invested? ๐
I will need to wait for a while before I approach him again though... since I came on too strong lol
Would it scare you? You still think it won't make a difference? ๐click to expand
Posted by whatisthisallaboutOH! The expensive to maintain part means that they like the real deal. So say you get them something that looks nice but turns out it's from Walmart. They don't like that. They want the real thing. So like, say you want to give them a watch. It can't be just any watch. It has to be the one that everyone likes. The expensive, classy, cool looking, trendy watch that's like $ 300.Posted by LilianniSounds like a keeper!Posted by whatisthisallaboutVery respectful, chooses timeless gifts, traditional, sweet, driven to succeed for themselves and usually successful at it, and are expensive to maintain lol.Posted by LilianniDo you have venus in Cap?
Sexy
Elaborate please ๐
Please elaborate on the "expensive to maintain" part :pclick to expand

Posted by LilianniI see. I guess I am not gonna give him any gift before I do some research then ๐Posted by whatisthisallaboutOH! The expensive to maintain part means that they like the real deal. So say you get them something that looks nice but turns out it's from Walmart. They don't like that. They want the real thing. So like, say you want to give them a watch. It can't be just any watch. It has to be the one that everyone likes. The expensive, classy, cool looking, trendy watch that's like $ 300.Posted by LilianniSounds like a keeper!Posted by whatisthisallaboutVery respectful, chooses timeless gifts, traditional, sweet, driven to succeed for themselves and usually successful at it, and are expensive to maintain lol.Posted by LilianniDo you have venus in Cap?
Sexy
Elaborate please ๐
Please elaborate on the "expensive to maintain" part :pclick to expand

Posted by bumboklatthaha thanks! I will ๐Posted by whatisthisallaboutO yeah he's interested. Yeah its great to not taking the initiative all the time. Just be genuine and try your best. Wishy washiness is a big red flag.Posted by bumboklattThis is So True. He def made me doubt myself and wonder if he's worth the efforts lolPosted by whatisthisallaboutLots and lots of reliability, being serious about dates, plans, improvising to get the job done, persistance is keyPosted by bumboklattHow do I break a Cap?Posted by whatisthisallaboutYes I would BUT remembere Capricorn can be a tough sadistic mofo. I would test you to your limit. If you break you fail, if I break you win.Posted by bumboklattThat's too bad....Posted by whatisthisallaboutHaha total libra energy. Indecisive. Yeah he likely won't forget that.Posted by bumboklattSo regarding what I meant by "indirectly".... when we first met, I just got out of a relationship and my ex still wanted to give it another shot.Posted by whatisthisallaboutDepends on indirectlyPosted by bumboklattIf you have been indirectly rejected by a girl, would you consider dating her if she comes around in the future or no?Posted by whatisthisallaboutWell na. I find Mars Venus interaction more important. My Mars is in Taurus so maybe that's why.Posted by bumboklattI have venus in libra... am I doomed? ๐ฑPosted by whatisthisallaboutOther Caps, Virgo, Scorpio, you know serious Venusus lolPosted by bumboklattNice. What venus signs do you get along with best? ๐Posted by exoThat about sums it up
sensitive
daddy-ish
practical/resourceful
protective
hard-working
traditional
I feel like a manager in my relationships lol
Also sun Venus is powerful.
Cap Venus likes control and looks ahead, very business like. If there's doubt about flaking then it could be a problem
That's why cap is squared libra
My ex booked the plane tickets to go to my country with me a couple of months before we broke up and my ex still wanted to go. So I told the cap venus guy about the situation and told him let's not see each other for a while since I was not sure what'd happen during the trip....
I do think I may come off flakey =.=
I have to admit that I really am indecive when it comes to the matter of the heart ๐ญ
I do notice that he has good memory. He still remembers everything I like and dislike...
Would you be able to give the girl the benefit of the doubt if you were in a similar situation?
I already told him I wanted to get to know him better this time and see if it can work between us, he doesn't really give me any real answers. I don't want to press him for an answer to make myself look a fool :p
What has a girl done in the past to break you successfully? Do tell, please ๐
He will make you doubt yourself, you will likely wonder if it's even worth it
It's a lot of time and work, it's like Capricorn on steroids
we are terrible lovers at first but we're dead serious once we get confident.
It's like boxing muhammad ali , get ready
He has been just very evasive/passive...
I think I will need to back off for a while though since I came on too strong.
I may try it again in a few weeks/months, but I need to know how to behave myself the right way.
So, do you like it when a girl takes initiatives to make plans with you?
I know he at least still thinks I am pretty cause he said that to me when he saw me a few weeks ago ๐click to expand

Posted by d0s3rThank you So Very Much for the link! This is very timely.
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/210083.html
read this, especially the comment by capriquarius

Posted by d0s3rI see him as longterm material but I can also see that he can be a time waster ๐ญ
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/210083.html
read this, especially the comment by capriquarius


Posted by d0s3rI did text him as soon as I got home from the movie.Posted by whatisthisallaboutlol
BTW, is venus in cap jealous or just like to play daddy?
The last time I saw him, I told him I was going to a movie with a friend the next day. He asked me if it was a date, what movie it was, what time was the movie, and where was the movie theater. I told him the name of the movie, time, and place. I told him I was not sure what the movie was about. I told him it was not a date but I was going with my guy friend. He basically just pulled his phone out, looked up the movie, the movie time, and the theater, etc. Then he told me the movie was playing at 8:10pm instead of 8pm (my friend told me the movie was at 8pm) and he thought my friend was crazy to want to meet up at 7:30 to get snacks first. Then, he told me to let him know when I got home from the movie....
jealousy is one of those traits i'd never admit
especially if i'd been holding back... i'd feel like i screwed it up and the pursuer got impatient
remember... capricorn wants to be the best
but for you to recognise that on your own... not for him/her to have to show you
that's how cap differs to aries
as i am a pisces like him... you're really gonna have to prove this other dude is just a friend
i personally would swim away. another person in the equation = comparison
i've done that before. but the guy came back again. he must have missed me
this guy rejected me when i made a move before. so my trust for him has never been the same
why does he come back? did the other girls not compare to me? or is he that bad that i'm his last resort?
he does not communicate these things. in fact we barely talk about anything
so maybe this can be a lesson for you... he asked you to let him know, so do thatclick to expand
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