why did he come back - pt2

Hey,

i am aries.

there is/was a virgo man.

he liked me, i liked him. the problem is that i am aries, very energetic, fast minded.

he is older than me. a bit reserved shy. has complexes with his height ( 170 cm - for me is ok) and generally has put a mask on himself. a mask of a total party guy, centre of attention. sometimes vulgar guy.

usually connected , surrounded with party girls. like whores.

only his best friends are normal, more sensitive.

i am like them.

we started flirting 2 years ago. we were hooking up but he pulled away.

i was devastated, crying all the time but started to move on. whenever i wanted to move on he was blocking me.

like a dog in a manger.

even though i was jealous, we had a lot of fights, he was so rude to me - i didnt want to be like that, i moved on. after almost 2 years when i am doing other things abroad - i live there, study there, finish diploma- he started to 'like' and be visible on my facebook. i feel like he came back.

i know he has a lot of easy gfs. i had other bfs as well ( but he didnt know about them) but i dont know why he appeared in my life when i decided to go abroad. and to move on.

i am like before, more delicate, feminine, even my pictures are different.

and i started to wonder.

why did he come back? before he didnt even like any of my pics after the 'breakup', he didnt even want to recognise me in a company, was even pushing me with his hands, running away from me...

i totally shut him down. i told him first i didnt want to be a hookup i wanted sth more. he didnt want. so i decided to move on like a man. i just cut the contact. and after that he started to reappear in my life like he didnt want to lose me or sth...

when i started flirting with common friends he was in a shock, whenever i was out in the city centre and he saw me with a boy - my ex was interrupting us.

whenever other friends, male friends were trying to help me with sth and were inviting me- he was totally freaking out or acting like a jealous guy.

when he realised i spent the new years party with common friends and his friend - he was almost screaming at me but then remained silent and was very serious.

and now he is back. he is a party guy,he claims he is an artist thats why he helps himself sometimes with light drugs, very intelligent from a very good family- but sometimes behaves like a freak when it comes to ME. really ONLY ME.

sometimes i think he is a freak .sometimes i think that maybe he misses me but deep inside he is very reserved and shy. and he doesnt want to lose me.

i have no idea. because i like him and whenever he appears on my profile or likes something it reminds of him again and i gain nostalgic feelings.

its so weird but i am like that.

i know he takes light drugs and some pills. he says that it helps in creating arts.

i am not sure.

his behaviour is ups and downs.

before he was 'normal'.

even his appearance and voice and everything was normal. now its so sharp. i know people change when we get older but people gossip he is so jumpy because of those light drugs.

maybe they are right. whenever he is around u can feel a pressure or a stress . he is so stressed i dont know why. he is a workaholic i understand he must be focused on his freelance work but sometimes it was too much. he didnt relax, get rest.

i dont know why he likes my pictures.

before he didnt like.

he started liking when i moved abroad.

so deep in my mind i have a hope of getting back.

after 2 years....

its me who deleted hm from instagram, twitter and so one.

only facebook remained.

Posted by joanne_p


he is older than me....surrounded with party girls. like whores.



we started flirting 2 years ago. we were hooking up but he pulled away.

when i started flirting with common friends he was in a shock

You hook up with him and then turn around and get at his friends. Thats not wifey material... And yet your putting down the other women around him calling them "whores".

Its ironic to me because from what you've written here seems like you fit that bill.

Posted by joanne_p
i have no idea. because i like him and whenever he appears on my profile or likes something it reminds of him again and i gain nostalgic feelings.

i dont know why he likes my pictures.



so deep in my mind i have a hope of getting back.

after 2 years....

Get back to what? You were only ever a hook up. He likes your photos to keep you as an option. He knows with minimal effort he can keep you on the line and possibly hit you up for a booty call in the future.

Lesson learned. Don't open your legs for a man without commitment if your not okay with it only being a hit it and quit it situation.

after our 'breakup' like 6 .months after when one of our friends were interested in me and we started working together as well as writing more together. a virgo guy asked me if i have ever started with someone twice.

and i didnt understand it. i started asking him - started what? what are u talking about? and he didnt reply , didnt even answer and pulled away for more than 3-4 months again.

so i was of course considering myself as a hook up and that was so bad because i have never started a relationship like that.

but i remember that one of his best friends someday told me that i was the one who rejected him because i pulled back so easily.

and i didnt understand it. because i felt bad when he pulled away.

and one of his friend in a honest conversation told me it was me who rejected virgo.

so i was totally confused. and i am still confused.

Posted by Whatthehell
I think it's disturbing that he tries to herd you "like a dog" every time you start to slip away but he's rude and mean to you when you're there. That's really shitty behavior, and you shouldn't allow it.

Is he really hung up on his height? What is that in feet and inches? 5'5", 5'6"? That's so sad. I wish this height prejudice thing would go away.

he is like 5'7'' so the same as me.

he complains about the height so much on facebook in some depressive destructive posts and in conversations. once one of my friend was talking with him- and he told her in a joking way that 'hello dad thank you for my heigh!!' and she was surprised.

like he would make jokes of him because he has complexes so he puts on a mask of a funny guy with a thick skin.

unnecessary. really.

Posted by Whatthehell
I think it's disturbing that he tries to herd you "like a dog" every time you start to slip away but he's rude and mean to you when you're there. That's really shitty behavior, and you shouldn't allow it.

Is he really hung up on his height? What is that in feet and inches? 5'5", 5'6"? That's so sad. I wish this height prejudice thing would go away.

i didnt allow for that . thats why i moved on. its not my fault that one of our friends flirts with me.

if a virgo buy didnt want anything serious why i cant try to have a deeper connection with our other friend.

thats virgo problem.

the leo guy- our common friend- is very nice and even the way he talks is better than virgo guy, he is more confident and i feel better.

for a virgo it was me who must have strenghten a confidence for him, and for leo- he is alreat confident so i dont have to play a mother 😉

Posted by Whatthehell

Posted by joanne_p

Posted by Whatthehell
I think it's disturbing that he tries to herd you "like a dog" every time you start to slip away but he's rude and mean to you when you're there. That's really shitty behavior, and you shouldn't allow it.

Is he really hung up on his height? What is that in feet and inches? 5'5", 5'6"? That's so sad. I wish this height prejudice thing would go away.

he is like 5'7'' so the same as me.

he complains about the height so much on facebook in some depressive destructive posts and in conversations. once one of my friend was talking with him- and he told her in a joking way that 'hello dad thank you for my heigh!!' and she was surprised.

like he would make jokes of him because he has complexes so he puts on a mask of a funny guy with a thick skin.

unnecessary. really.

😢 Damn it. I hate that for him.

If you don't mind the height, maybe there are ways of letting him know that subtlety. Should ask dudes about this...maybe in the Man Cave? I have no idea how to go about it. Probably shouldn't actually bring up height! So then how?

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i have no idea but before i moved abroad he realised a leo man liked me. so he started disturbing us.

and that was so childish. he told leo man about us 2 years ago. and since that moment leo man change his mind of me? i dont know but he stopped writing to me 😉

i dont know why virgo told him about us after 2 years. whenever he sees me flirting with someone he is like that. like he puts a needle in me to make me feel bad.

i really have no idea. that is so weird. when he behaves like that i feel like i dont live in a democratic world, because i am not allowed to do what i want. because others wont let me even flirt with people interested in me.

IMO - he's got issues that you can't help/solve and perhaps he is trying to reach out so someone can save him only he really doesn't know that he has to grow up and do this himself - when people are real shitheads in life they end up losing their friends and have no one - I don't think he's healthy for you - he's not even healthy for himself - jumpy yet only takes light drugs - get real - it doesn't sound like you could really ever know a person like that - block him and live your life ... you parted for a reason - don't go back - he has not changed that much - find someone who is whole and complete and is more of a comparable person to yourself

Posted by tcta
IMO - he's got issues that you can't help/solve and perhaps he is trying to reach out so someone can save him only he really doesn't know that he has to grow up and do this himself - when people are real shitheads in life they end up losing their friends and have no one - I don't think he's healthy for you - he's not even healthy for himself - jumpy yet only takes light drugs - get real - it doesn't sound like you could really ever know a person like that - block him and live your life ... you parted for a reason - don't go back - he has not changed that much - find someone who is whole and complete and is more of a comparable person to yourself

hello, thank you. this is what usually others - friends, family tell me.

its been 1/5 year. i moved on. really. after a YEAR of chasing him I had a strenght of moving on.

and i really moved on. i blocked him on other social media, deleted him. but he comes back.

he knows i am not like other 'easy girls' because i am not. i made a mistake with him because i was hooking up before the commitement. in my previous relationships i didnt do it.

and after almost 1. 5 year he came back.



he came back when i am more popular - when i am not only a student of architecture at university.

he cam back when our other friends from the same business field resognise me as me.

he has a big ego. and i am usually normal emotional. when i like someone its because i feel that.

he is very popular, has a lot of connections. we sometimes were working in the same field.

before i didnt hve to be popular. now i am more popular because i was working very hard since 2 years in the same environment and our common friends appreciated my freelance work. the same for him.

and now when i am more popular and i put nice photos on fb- and 'cool' people like it. he likes it again.

so for me it is unfair and on the one hand i feel like i should move on even more because he is not cool and rude but on the other hand i feel like now maybe when i am more popular it'd be better?

but that is so disrespectful to me. dont y'all think?

hello, thank you. this is what usually others - friends, family tell me.

its been 1/5 year. i moved on. really. after a YEAR of chasing him I had a strenght of moving on.

and i really moved on. i blocked him on other social media, deleted him. but he comes back.

he knows i am not like other 'easy girls' because i am not. i made a mistake with him because i was hooking up before the commitement. in my previous relationships i didnt do it.

and after almost 1. 5 year he came back.

he came back when i am more popular - when i am not only a student of architecture at university.

he cam back when our other friends from the same business field resognise me as me.

he has a big ego. and i am usually normal emotional. when i like someone its because i feel that.

he is very popular, has a lot of connections. we sometimes were working in the same field.

before i didnt hve to be popular. now i am more popular because i was working very hard since 2 years in the same environment and our common friends appreciated my freelance work. the same for him.

and now when i am more popular and i put nice photos on fb- and 'cool' people like it. he likes it again.

so for me it is unfair and on the one hand i feel like i should move on even more because he is not cool and rude but on the other hand i feel like now maybe when i am more popular it'd be better?

but that is so disrespectful to me. dont y'all think?



ok so you are more popular - wtf - who cares - he does ? so what ? it was never about you - don't you see ? it is and always has been his behavior that drove you from him - it would drive any normal sane person away - because he is rude and disrespectful and whacked ... enjoy your new life, concentrate on you and not trying to please other people - IMHO

i am concentrating on my life right now. i am not pleasing anyone with anything. i am not proving anyone anything. i am myself.

i do what i want. i meet with whom i want, date who i want.

i stopped following him, and others that i dont like on facebook.

its him who comes back.

so i am doing me but in my mind i wonder - why does he do it NOW. 😉

its ok. i am not starting any conversations, i am not chasing him and any other 😉 i am doing me.

Posted by joanne_p
i am concentrating on my life right now. i am not pleasing anyone with anything. i am not proving anyone anything. i am myself.

i do what i want. i meet with whom i want, date who i want.

i stopped following him, and others that i dont like on facebook.

its him who comes back.

so i am doing me but in my mind i wonder - why does he do it NOW. 😉

its ok. i am not starting any conversations, i am not chasing him and any other 😉 i am doing me.

Yes - because it doesn't matter "why" he does anything ... there are mysteries in this world that even the most intelligent can't figure out so ? ... it will pass - you can only block him so that you don't have to be reminded ... sometimes to me that is icky - someone from the past watching my life now ? not for me !

and good for you!

thank you 😉