Emotional and Needy

I attract these type of men a lot but never had I imagined I would attract a Virgo male like this. I told him I was not interested in getting to know someone who is so quick to put all of the things they're going through on my shoulders.

You just met me and already I know the background on your baby momma drama, the ex that left you, your rental and vehicle issues, your mommy issues...etc. Like wtf dude come on get a grip this is not normal.I told him he needs to get his act together before meeting anyone else and that I can not be his therapist. This was his response.

It's not gone be that way babe. I have moved on past it but if you don't want to talk to me then that's fine. And sometime people do need help. God can put you in someone's life to help them. If you had problems i would listen to you. That's just the kind of man I am. I can understand you tired and want someone for yourself but i can promise you we feel the same way.

Are Virgos men more sensitive than I suspected? Is this typical? How you get one to understand ut is not working?

Maybe you caught him in a bad time. Yeah he's a Virgo but he's also human and has limits. I reached my tolerance limit last August where I just melted down (scared the hell outta a friend of mine who's used to seeing me so cool & collected).

Posted by blackphase
Yeah that's a bit much too soon.. and that is saying something coming from me.. LOL

What was his response? ..

That was his response when I told him to get his act together and move on from me.

I swear I attract the most sensitive people. I can't cope with an over abundance of emotions at one time it drains me. To me nothing is more attractive than a man with a plan who gets things done without whining about it. Sure a vent here and there but not a "why me" moment everytime life hits you with a curve ball.

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Posted by EveryOunce
It's not gone be that way babe. I have moved on past it but if you don't want to talk to me then that's fine. And sometime people do need help. God can put you in someone's life to help them. If you had problems i would listen to you. That's just the kind of man I am. I can understand you tired and want someone for yourself but i can promise you we feel the same way.

Are Virgos men more sensitive than I suspected? Is this typical? How you get one to understand ut is not working?

He sounds like he likes to play the victim and is guilting you into being there for him.

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That's exactly what I called him a habitual victim.

Posted by RemixGeneralFishy
Maybe you caught him in a bad time. Yeah he's a Virgo but he's also human and has limits. I reached my tolerance limit last August where I just melted down (scared the hell outta a friend of mine who's used to seeing me so cool & collected).

But why try and date at a bad time in your life? Shouldn't you use that time to get your life in order?

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Posted by RemixGeneralFishy
Maybe you caught him in a bad time. Yeah he's a Virgo but he's also human and has limits. I reached my tolerance limit last August where I just melted down (scared the hell outta a friend of mine who's used to seeing me so cool & collected).

But why try and date at a bad time in your life? Shouldn't you use that time to get your life in order?

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Eh I wasn't even dating at the time. That day was the birthday of the beautiful young man I'm insanely in love with (another Virgo to boot) and I was too terrified to wish him a good one because I was afraid I'd spill the love beans, came this close to bashing my head against the wall. A gay guy and a straight guy don't quite mix.

Oh you mean your guy. Well, maybe he needed some companionship after his problems got too much for him to bear. A hug from the person you like can be very therapeutic. Take a look at this

Apparently the cuddler is a Virgo too lol. Virgins everywhere!!!

I lived with a Virgo guy for years

A weird mix of neediness and detachment

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Posted by RemixGeneralFishy
Maybe you caught him in a bad time. Yeah he's a Virgo but he's also human and has limits. I reached my tolerance limit last August where I just melted down (scared the hell outta a friend of mine who's used to seeing me so cool & collected).

But why try and date at a bad time in your life? Shouldn't you use that time to get your life in order?

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Exactly

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Posted by RemixGeneralFishy
Maybe you caught him in a bad time. Yeah he's a Virgo but he's also human and has limits. I reached my tolerance limit last August where I just melted down (scared the hell outta a friend of mine who's used to seeing me so cool & collected).

But why try and date at a bad time in your life? Shouldn't you use that time to get your life in order?

Eh I wasn't even dating at the time. That day was the birthday of the beautiful young man I'm insanely in love with (another Virgo to boot) and I was too terrified to wish him a good one because I was afraid I'd spill the love beans, came this close to bashing my head against the wall. A gay guy and a straight guy don't quite mix.

Oh you mean your guy. Well, maybe he needed some companionship after his problems got too much for him to bear. A hug from the person you like can be very therapeutic. Take a look at this

Apparently the cuddler is a Virgo too lol. Virgins everywhere!!!

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Lol I have truly seen it all this man is a professional cuddler.

I now understand where you're coming from that some people just need to vent or a hug. But never do that to a complete stranger. We haven't even met yet just phone conversation and already I know all of the drama in his life. He talked nonstop I don't even know if he asked me any questions about myself.

Posted by MyStarsShine
I lived with a Virgo guy for years

A weird mix of neediness and detachment

That is him he was so overly open one day then the next it was "I just need to be to myself". A strange mix.

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Posted by RemixGeneralFishy
Maybe you caught him in a bad time. Yeah he's a Virgo but he's also human and has limits. I reached my tolerance limit last August where I just melted down (scared the hell outta a friend of mine who's used to seeing me so cool & collected).

But why try and date at a bad time in your life? Shouldn't you use that time to get your life in order?

Eh I wasn't even dating at the time. That day was the birthday of the beautiful young man I'm insanely in love with (another Virgo to boot) and I was too terrified to wish him a good one because I was afraid I'd spill the love beans, came this close to bashing my head against the wall. A gay guy and a straight guy don't quite mix.

Oh you mean your guy. Well, maybe he needed some companionship after his problems got too much for him to bear. A hug from the person you like can be very therapeutic. Take a look at this

Apparently the cuddler is a Virgo too lol. Virgins everywhere!!!

Lol I have truly seen it all this man is a professional cuddler.

I now understand where you're coming from that some people just need to vent or a hug. But never do that to a complete stranger. We haven't even met yet just phone conversation and already I know all of the drama in his life. He talked nonstop I don't even know if he asked me any questions about myself.

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Many Virgos carry far more weight on their shoulders than you realize, and they more often than not bottle it all up. I guess he overloaded and couldn't take it anymore. I don't think he's like that all the time.

PS: is he cute? If you don't want him, I'll take him

Posted by EveryOunce

It's not gone be that way babe. I have moved on past it but if you don't want to talk to me then that's fine. And sometime people do need help. God can put you in someone's life to help them. If you had problems i would listen to you. That's just the kind of man I am. I can understand you tired and want someone for yourself but i can promise you we feel the same way.

I wouldn't be with any person who spoke like this. So, it wouldn't matter how sensitive, or not, he was because I wouldn't be around to hear it, or not.

Unless maybe he spoke right and this is your translation and your lack speaking proper.

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Posted by EveryOunce

It's not gone be that way babe. I have moved on past it but if you don't want to talk to me then that's fine. And sometime people do need help. God can put you in someone's life to help them. If you had problems i would listen to you. That's just the kind of man I am. I can understand you tired and want someone for yourself but i can promise you we feel the same way.

I wouldn't be with any person who spoke like this. So, it wouldn't matter how sensitive, or not, he was because I wouldn't be around to hear it, or not.

Unless maybe he spoke right and this is your translation and your lack speaking proper.

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I copy & paste his text.

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Posted by RemixGeneralFishy
Maybe you caught him in a bad time. Yeah he's a Virgo but he's also human and has limits. I reached my tolerance limit last August where I just melted down (scared the hell outta a friend of mine who's used to seeing me so cool & collected).

But why try and date at a bad time in your life? Shouldn't you use that time to get your life in order?

Eh I wasn't even dating at the time. That day was the birthday of the beautiful young man I'm insanely in love with (another Virgo to boot) and I was too terrified to wish him a good one because I was afraid I'd spill the love beans, came this close to bashing my head against the wall. A gay guy and a straight guy don't quite mix.

Oh you mean your guy. Well, maybe he needed some companionship after his problems got too much for him to bear. A hug from the person you like can be very therapeutic. Take a look at this

Apparently the cuddler is a Virgo too lol. Virgins everywhere!!!

Lol I have truly seen it all this man is a professional cuddler.

I now understand where you're coming from that some people just need to vent or a hug. But never do that to a complete stranger. We haven't even met yet just phone conversation and already I know all of the drama in his life. He talked nonstop I don't even know if he asked me any questions about myself.

Many Virgos carry far more weight on their shoulders than you realize, and they more often than not bottle it all up. I guess he overloaded and couldn't take it anymore. I don't think he's like that all the time.

PS: is he cute? If you don't want him, I'll take him

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Have at it.

I don't really understand why you would have phone conversations with somebody who you barely know

Just curious.

Might have given him the idea that you were willing to listen if you guys are talking on the phone...I mean what else do you do on the phone than talk..

Posted by SMC
I don't really understand why you would have phone conversations with somebody who you barely know

Just curious.

Might have given him the idea that you were willing to listen if you guys are talking on the phone...I mean what else do you do on the phone than talk..

You can have a phone conversation without telling your whole life story. I was willing to listen initially but after constant talk about his problems I got turned off. Conversation is not suppose to be one sided and call me crazy but a woman you're trying to explore the possibilities with should not have to endure every moment of you and your ex supposed past. It makes me think you have some unfinished business with her.