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Posted by GemitatiI know you're biased so I'm going to ignore this post.Posted by nikkistarOk. How can a person prevent themselves from emotional cheating? Itâs not like he was walking around looking for woman to fall for...SHIT HAPPENS!!!
When a kid is involved, it's not so cut and dry as you all want to make believe it is. Every decision you make affects that child as well. It's so easy to tell them to leave. But it's not so easy for a mom to make a decision to break her child's home apart.
I don't think the op should be treated wrong in any way. I believe she deserves better in this life. But it's not so cut and dry for those with kids. I also think he's a piece of shit because his actions impact his child and he isn't thinking about that.click to expand
People can control themselves.
Move out & Move on. Once his side chick wouldâve called me it wouldnât have taken 2 days to confront him.... the last gift heâd get from me is me hiring professional movers to move his shit out. Sometimes leaving a faulty relationship is BETTER for the child. Depends on the relationship, what has happened, and if youâre able to get over it. It also depends if the child would be aware or/ and affected. Just my opinion ...Iâd rather my child see a healthy representation of love, not one where their father doesnât really love or respect me. You can create âdaddy issuesâ for the child by them witnessing this and some long term emotional disorders.
Posted by nikkistarLetâs say you just havenât been in this cituation so uou CANT have a say!Posted by GemitatiI know you're biased so I'm going to ignore this post.Posted by nikkistarOk. How can a person prevent themselves from emotional cheating? Itâs not like he was walking around looking for woman to fall for...SHIT HAPPENS!!!
When a kid is involved, it's not so cut and dry as you all want to make believe it is. Every decision you make affects that child as well. It's so easy to tell them to leave. But it's not so easy for a mom to make a decision to break her child's home apart.
I don't think the op should be treated wrong in any way. I believe she deserves better in this life. But it's not so cut and dry for those with kids. I also think he's a piece of shit because his actions impact his child and he isn't thinking about that.
People can control themselves.click to expand
I though just like you until I was 42!
And trust me no one looking forward to this shit!
You can only give your opinion about things youâve done and lived trough.
I get uou! I WAS you! So I inderstand
Posted by GemitatiAs someone that lived on the other side, the party hurt by it.Posted by nikkistarLetâs say you just havenât been in this cituation so uou CANT have a say!Posted by GemitatiI know you're biased so I'm going to ignore this post.Posted by nikkistarOk. How can a person prevent themselves from emotional cheating? Itâs not like he was walking around looking for woman to fall for...SHIT HAPPENS!!!
When a kid is involved, it's not so cut and dry as you all want to make believe it is. Every decision you make affects that child as well. It's so easy to tell them to leave. But it's not so easy for a mom to make a decision to break her child's home apart.
I don't think the op should be treated wrong in any way. I believe she deserves better in this life. But it's not so cut and dry for those with kids. I also think he's a piece of shit because his actions impact his child and he isn't thinking about that.
People can control themselves.
I though just like you until I was 42!
And trust me no one looking forward to this shit!
You can only give your opinion about things youâve done and lived trough.
I get uou! I WAS you! So I inderstandclick to expand
No matter what, the excuse isn't good enough.
Posted by GemitatiBy controlling oneself and thinking of the implications, especially as Nikki said, when children are involvedPosted by nikkistarOk. How can a person prevent themselves from emotional cheating? Itâs not like he was walking around looking for woman to fall for...SHIT HAPPENS!!!
When a kid is involved, it's not so cut and dry as you all want to make believe it is. Every decision you make affects that child as well. It's so easy to tell them to leave. But it's not so easy for a mom to make a decision to break her child's home apart.
I don't think the op should be treated wrong in any way. I believe she deserves better in this life. But it's not so cut and dry for those with kids. I also think he's a piece of shit because his actions impact his child and he isn't thinking about that.click to expand
How many people f uck their kids up by dragging other people into their lives ?
A lot of the time it's through pure selfishness and neediness
Posted by nikkistarWell said NikkiPosted by GemitatiAs someone that lived on the other side, the party hurt by it.Posted by nikkistarLetâs say you just havenât been in this cituation so uou CANT have a say!Posted by GemitatiI know you're biased so I'm going to ignore this post.Posted by nikkistarOk. How can a person prevent themselves from emotional cheating? Itâs not like he was walking around looking for woman to fall for...SHIT HAPPENS!!!
When a kid is involved, it's not so cut and dry as you all want to make believe it is. Every decision you make affects that child as well. It's so easy to tell them to leave. But it's not so easy for a mom to make a decision to break her child's home apart.
I don't think the op should be treated wrong in any way. I believe she deserves better in this life. But it's not so cut and dry for those with kids. I also think he's a piece of shit because his actions impact his child and he isn't thinking about that.
People can control themselves.
I though just like you until I was 42!
And trust me no one looking forward to this shit!
You can only give your opinion about things youâve done and lived trough.
I get uou! I WAS you! So I inderstand
No matter what, the excuse isn't good enough.click to expand
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Posted by nikkistarThere arenât any excuses. Shit just happenning and nobody is âhappyâ about it! Itâs a curse. Origin unknown...Posted by GemitatiAs someone that lived on the other side, the party hurt by it.Posted by nikkistarLetâs say you just havenât been in this cituation so uou CANT have a say!Posted by GemitatiI know you're biased so I'm going to ignore this post.Posted by nikkistarOk. How can a person prevent themselves from emotional cheating? Itâs not like he was walking around looking for woman to fall for...SHIT HAPPENS!!!
When a kid is involved, it's not so cut and dry as you all want to make believe it is. Every decision you make affects that child as well. It's so easy to tell them to leave. But it's not so easy for a mom to make a decision to break her child's home apart.
I don't think the op should be treated wrong in any way. I believe she deserves better in this life. But it's not so cut and dry for those with kids. I also think he's a piece of shit because his actions impact his child and he isn't thinking about that.
People can control themselves.
I though just like you until I was 42!
And trust me no one looking forward to this shit!
You can only give your opinion about things youâve done and lived trough.
I get uou! I WAS you! So I inderstand
No matter what, the excuse isn't good enough.click to expand
Purpose is none! Whoever been there knows that all it is - hurt and suffocation.
Nothing to wish on worst enemy!
No, there arenât any excuses...itâs just fucked up!
Posted by MyStarsShineThere is no power greater than love and whoever says they can control it just havenât been there or maybe emotionless people. Which are minority considering how many people are presently waiting on websites and not all of them are just cheating pervs. Itâs just what it is...Posted by GemitatiBy controlling oneself and thinking of the implications, especially as Nikki said, when children are involvedPosted by nikkistarOk. How can a person prevent themselves from emotional cheating? Itâs not like he was walking around looking for woman to fall for...SHIT HAPPENS!!!
When a kid is involved, it's not so cut and dry as you all want to make believe it is. Every decision you make affects that child as well. It's so easy to tell them to leave. But it's not so easy for a mom to make a decision to break her child's home apart.
I don't think the op should be treated wrong in any way. I believe she deserves better in this life. But it's not so cut and dry for those with kids. I also think he's a piece of shit because his actions impact his child and he isn't thinking about that.
How many people f uck their kids up by dragging other people into their lives ?
A lot of the time it's through pure selfishness and needinessclick to expand
Posted by Gemitati....the love for a child and their welfare should always come first though, not some bloke who could screw them upPosted by MyStarsShineThere is no power greater than love and whoever says they can control it just havenât been there or maybe emotionless people. Which are minority considering how many people are presently waiting on websites and not all of them are just cheating pervs. Itâs just what it is...Posted by GemitatiBy controlling oneself and thinking of the implications, especially as Nikki said, when children are involvedPosted by nikkistarOk. How can a person prevent themselves from emotional cheating? Itâs not like he was walking around looking for woman to fall for...SHIT HAPPENS!!!
When a kid is involved, it's not so cut and dry as you all want to make believe it is. Every decision you make affects that child as well. It's so easy to tell them to leave. But it's not so easy for a mom to make a decision to break her child's home apart.
I don't think the op should be treated wrong in any way. I believe she deserves better in this life. But it's not so cut and dry for those with kids. I also think he's a piece of shit because his actions impact his child and he isn't thinking about that.
How many people f uck their kids up by dragging other people into their lives ?
A lot of the time it's through pure selfishness and needinessclick to expand
So there is great control over making that decision unless of course you don't give a shit about your kid
Posted by GemitatiI am glad you recognize it's wrong.Posted by nikkistarThere arenât any excuses. Shit just happenning and nobody is âhappyâ about it! Itâs a curse. Origin unknown...Posted by GemitatiAs someone that lived on the other side, the party hurt by it.Posted by nikkistarLetâs say you just havenât been in this cituation so uou CANT have a say!Posted by GemitatiI know you're biased so I'm going to ignore this post.Posted by nikkistarOk. How can a person prevent themselves from emotional cheating? Itâs not like he was walking around looking for woman to fall for...SHIT HAPPENS!!!
When a kid is involved, it's not so cut and dry as you all want to make believe it is. Every decision you make affects that child as well. It's so easy to tell them to leave. But it's not so easy for a mom to make a decision to break her child's home apart.
I don't think the op should be treated wrong in any way. I believe she deserves better in this life. But it's not so cut and dry for those with kids. I also think he's a piece of shit because his actions impact his child and he isn't thinking about that.
People can control themselves.
I though just like you until I was 42!
And trust me no one looking forward to this shit!
You can only give your opinion about things youâve done and lived trough.
I get uou! I WAS you! So I inderstand
No matter what, the excuse isn't good enough.
Purpose is none! Whoever been there knows that all it is - hurt and suffocation.
Nothing to wish on worst enemy!
No, there arenât any excuses...itâs just fucked up!click to expand
However people have to take accountability for their actions. People make a conscious effort to continue being in contact with someone not in the marriage. They can choose to continue responding or not.
Posted by GemitatiCome again?Posted by TaurusFlower22Oh shut up! Unless you left him already...standards my ass!!! Youâll eat from the palm of his hand or you would left him already!!!Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeI'm sorry, my standards are a tad higher.Posted by TaurusFlower22OMG guy cheated emotionally after 10 years! JFC i'd give him a gift for keeping up with my boring dull annoying female ass for that longPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeWhy are we entertaining why though?Posted by TaurusFlower22lol true, but if the relationship is stagnant a crab will step out, or if they're not emotionally being taken care of...they're out.Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeWow! Yeah, like integrity
what's your sign, obviously he's missing something
Doesn't matter what her sign is. They're engaged. What he did was messed up.
we might not be fire signs, but we also don't like to be bored.
The fact is it happened, and he is a pos for not breaking it off like an adult. He is not 5 years old. I'm so tired of the treading lightly when it comes to cancer men. They need to be held accountable for their fcuk ups.
like damn dude here is a gift.
thanks.
click to expand
Tbh, I don't like you. Not really a surprise, I'm sure. You act very hoe-ish and tactless. And It's clear that you like to spew shit just to get a reaction.
But yes, some of us do have standards.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeAre virgos known cheaters...? I've never heard about this, always thought all the earth signs were generally loyalPosted by TaurusFlower22Lol i figured it was Virgo. That's why i askedPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeHe's a Virgo sun.Posted by TaurusFlower22What was his sign? You got cheated on?Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeReally? Cause I actually filed for divorce when this shit happened to me.Posted by TaurusFlower22True but funnily enough a Taurus will stick to this type of situation like nobody else wouldPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeThough that is quite literally my middle name, I disagree. đPosted by TaurusFlower22I'm not gonna lie, i would walk away, and never fight for a man, but Sade, says Love is stronger than PridePosted by CaramelizedCoffeeI'm actually pretty sweet. đPosted by TaurusFlower22Who cares, than why are you here all bitter, i mean if you know what you want and how you want it go get itPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeGood for you all! That changes absolutely nothing about my approach.Posted by TaurusFlower22You must understand with Crab men, you can do what you like, it don't matter, there is another woman ready to take your place.
Sorry to insert my personal shit into your thread, op. My ego, you know. đ
Back to you.
LOL
if you want to fuking be with them, you got to fight for them, it's not as simple as 123
okay the Crab women too.
we might be pliable and shit in the beginning, but you best keep us invested.
otherwise we will be seeking outwards
from someone else
she's older than me so i trust her
But really, it's not even about pride. It's about knowing the level of respect you deserve.
Y'all talk a good game tho
Tell me the story
I was already not really feeling him anymore for other reasons (he's a pos).
He was working later than normal for a while.
I felt something was off.
I went through his phone.
Found dick pics and text messages. The girl worked with him, and knew he was married. She didn't care.
That was on a Saturday.
I calmly went to him and told him on Monday, I'd be filing for divorce.
And I did.
I don't have time for that shit. I have 2 daughters, and I want them to EXPECT respect. That shit is not a novelty.
We were together for 7 years, married for 5.
Took me a whole day to get over him.
But you can't get over the Cancer who won't give you time of day
... Cancer is a very different beast than Virgo
Are you sure you want to play?click to expand
Posted by TaurusFlower22Boo whoo...please love me! I need your Love...LMAOPosted by GemitatiCome again?Posted by TaurusFlower22Oh shut up! Unless you left him already...standards my ass!!! Youâll eat from the palm of his hand or you would left him already!!!Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeI'm sorry, my standards are a tad higher.Posted by TaurusFlower22OMG guy cheated emotionally after 10 years! JFC i'd give him a gift for keeping up with my boring dull annoying female ass for that longPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeWhy are we entertaining why though?Posted by TaurusFlower22lol true, but if the relationship is stagnant a crab will step out, or if they're not emotionally being taken care of...they're out.Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeWow! Yeah, like integrity
what's your sign, obviously he's missing something
Doesn't matter what her sign is. They're engaged. What he did was messed up.
we might not be fire signs, but we also don't like to be bored.
The fact is it happened, and he is a pos for not breaking it off like an adult. He is not 5 years old. I'm so tired of the treading lightly when it comes to cancer men. They need to be held accountable for their fcuk ups.
like damn dude here is a gift.
thanks.
Tbh, I don't like you. Not really a surprise, I'm sure. You act very hoe-ish and tactless. And It's clear that you like to spew shit just to get a reaction.
But yes, some of us do have standards.
click to expand
I called you out on your bullshit. Of course you wouldnât like me now! And I am saying whatâs real. Ho ish or not! Itâs what it is!
You playing cool but taking shit anyway...
Not cool!
Posted by GemitatiPosted by TaurusFlower22Boo whoo...please love me! I need your Love...LMAOPosted by GemitatiCome again?Posted by TaurusFlower22Oh shut up! Unless you left him already...standards my ass!!! Youâll eat from the palm of his hand or you would left him already!!!Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeI'm sorry, my standards are a tad higher.Posted by TaurusFlower22OMG guy cheated emotionally after 10 years! JFC i'd give him a gift for keeping up with my boring dull annoying female ass for that longPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeWhy are we entertaining why though?Posted by TaurusFlower22lol true, but if the relationship is stagnant a crab will step out, or if they're not emotionally being taken care of...they're out.Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeWow! Yeah, like integrity
what's your sign, obviously he's missing something
Doesn't matter what her sign is. They're engaged. What he did was messed up.
we might not be fire signs, but we also don't like to be bored.
The fact is it happened, and he is a pos for not breaking it off like an adult. He is not 5 years old. I'm so tired of the treading lightly when it comes to cancer men. They need to be held accountable for their fcuk ups.
like damn dude here is a gift.
thanks.
Tbh, I don't like you. Not really a surprise, I'm sure. You act very hoe-ish and tactless. And It's clear that you like to spew shit just to get a reaction.
But yes, some of us do have standards.
I called you out on your bullshit. Of course you wouldnât like me now! And I am saying whatâs real. Ho ish or not! Itâs what it is!
You playing cool but taking shit anyway...
Not cool!click to expand
B itch, what bulls hit? I have no bullshit to be called out on. Nice try though. I see 1 person "likes" your internet persona. Go you! You officially win at life. If only it were that easy to get your Cancer guy to have respect for you? Oh wait...
Lol
Maybe reading the thread before making yourself sound even more foolish would be nice.
Posted by TaurusFlower22Where do you see likes? I donât even know where to look! So you are desperate for attention and saying that you arenât!Posted by GemitatiPosted by TaurusFlower22Boo whoo...please love me! I need your Love...LMAOPosted by GemitatiCome again?Posted by TaurusFlower22Oh shut up! Unless you left him already...standards my ass!!! Youâll eat from the palm of his hand or you would left him already!!!Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeI'm sorry, my standards are a tad higher.Posted by TaurusFlower22OMG guy cheated emotionally after 10 years! JFC i'd give him a gift for keeping up with my boring dull annoying female ass for that longPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeWhy are we entertaining why though?Posted by TaurusFlower22lol true, but if the relationship is stagnant a crab will step out, or if they're not emotionally being taken care of...they're out.Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeWow! Yeah, like integrity
what's your sign, obviously he's missing something
Doesn't matter what her sign is. They're engaged. What he did was messed up.
we might not be fire signs, but we also don't like to be bored.
The fact is it happened, and he is a pos for not breaking it off like an adult. He is not 5 years old. I'm so tired of the treading lightly when it comes to cancer men. They need to be held accountable for their fcuk ups.
like damn dude here is a gift.
thanks.
Tbh, I don't like you. Not really a surprise, I'm sure. You act very hoe-ish and tactless. And It's clear that you like to spew shit just to get a reaction.
But yes, some of us do have standards.
I called you out on your bullshit. Of course you wouldnât like me now! And I am saying whatâs real. Ho ish or not! Itâs what it is!
You playing cool but taking shit anyway...
Not cool!
B itch, what bulls hit? I have no bullshit to be called out on. Nice try though. I see 1 person "likes" your internet persona. Go you! You officially win at life. If only it were that easy to get your Cancer guy to have respect for you? Oh wait...
Lol
Maybe reading the thread before making yourself sound even more foolish would be nice.
click to expand
Thatâs bullshit!!!
Posted by GemitatiDesperate for attention where? My legs aren't the ones that spring open when a man looks in my direction. Please don't talk to me about "desperate for attention". That award definitely goes to you.Posted by TaurusFlower22Where do you see likes? I donât even know where to look! So you are desperate for attention and saying that you arenât!Posted by GemitatiPosted by TaurusFlower22Boo whoo...please love me! I need your Love...LMAOPosted by GemitatiCome again?Posted by TaurusFlower22Oh shut up! Unless you left him already...standards my ass!!! Youâll eat from the palm of his hand or you would left him already!!!Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeI'm sorry, my standards are a tad higher.Posted by TaurusFlower22OMG guy cheated emotionally after 10 years! JFC i'd give him a gift for keeping up with my boring dull annoying female ass for that longPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeWhy are we entertaining why though?Posted by TaurusFlower22lol true, but if the relationship is stagnant a crab will step out, or if they're not emotionally being taken care of...they're out.Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeWow! Yeah, like integrity
what's your sign, obviously he's missing something
Doesn't matter what her sign is. They're engaged. What he did was messed up.
we might not be fire signs, but we also don't like to be bored.
The fact is it happened, and he is a pos for not breaking it off like an adult. He is not 5 years old. I'm so tired of the treading lightly when it comes to cancer men. They need to be held accountable for their fcuk ups.
like damn dude here is a gift.
thanks.
Tbh, I don't like you. Not really a surprise, I'm sure. You act very hoe-ish and tactless. And It's clear that you like to spew shit just to get a reaction.
But yes, some of us do have standards.
I called you out on your bullshit. Of course you wouldnât like me now! And I am saying whatâs real. Ho ish or not! Itâs what it is!
You playing cool but taking shit anyway...
Not cool!
B itch, what bulls hit? I have no bullshit to be called out on. Nice try though. I see 1 person "likes" your internet persona. Go you! You officially win at life. If only it were that easy to get your Cancer guy to have respect for you? Oh wait...
Lol
Maybe reading the thread before making yourself sound even more foolish would be nice.
Thatâs bullshit!!!click to expand
Have a nice day, love. I have better things to do with my time. âđž
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeI'm a scorpio
what's your sign, obviously he's missing something
Posted by GemitatiPosted by nikkistarThere arenât any excuses. Shit just happenning and nobody is âhappyâ about it! Itâs a curse. Origin unknown...Posted by GemitatiAs someone that lived on the other side, the party hurt by it.Posted by nikkistarLetâs say you just havenât been in this cituation so uou CANT have a say!Posted by GemitatiI know you're biased so I'm going to ignore this post.Posted by nikkistarOk. How can a person prevent themselves from emotional cheating? Itâs not like he was walking around looking for woman to fall for...SHIT HAPPENS!!!
When a kid is involved, it's not so cut and dry as you all want to make believe it is. Every decision you make affects that child as well. It's so easy to tell them to leave. But it's not so easy for a mom to make a decision to break her child's home apart.
I don't think the op should be treated wrong in any way. I believe she deserves better in this life. But it's not so cut and dry for those with kids. I also think he's a piece of shit because his actions impact his child and he isn't thinking about that.
People can control themselves.
I though just like you until I was 42!
And trust me no one looking forward to this shit!
You can only give your opinion about things youâve done and lived trough.
I get uou! I WAS you! So I inderstand
No matter what, the excuse isn't good enough.
Purpose is none! Whoever been there knows that all it is - hurt and suffocation.
Nothing to wish on worst enemy!
No, there arenât any excuses...itâs just fucked up!click to expand
You're right, there are no excuses. So why don't you woman up, do the right thing and divorce your husband? You're taking the easy, convenient way out, but like to talk it up in a blase manner. So tired of people that think they are entitled to having their cake and eating it too. I'm not impressed, in fact I feel sorry for your daughter. Some example you have set for her as a young woman...
Posted by Jules-llOr how about I will do what I do and have my cake and eat it...isnât that why they bake them? LolPosted by GemitatiPosted by nikkistarThere arenât any excuses. Shit just happenning and nobody is âhappyâ about it! Itâs a curse. Origin unknown...Posted by GemitatiAs someone that lived on the other side, the party hurt by it.Posted by nikkistarLetâs say you just havenât been in this cituation so uou CANT have a say!Posted by GemitatiI know you're biased so I'm going to ignore this post.Posted by nikkistarOk. How can a person prevent themselves from emotional cheating? Itâs not like he was walking around looking for woman to fall for...SHIT HAPPENS!!!
When a kid is involved, it's not so cut and dry as you all want to make believe it is. Every decision you make affects that child as well. It's so easy to tell them to leave. But it's not so easy for a mom to make a decision to break her child's home apart.
I don't think the op should be treated wrong in any way. I believe she deserves better in this life. But it's not so cut and dry for those with kids. I also think he's a piece of shit because his actions impact his child and he isn't thinking about that.
People can control themselves.
I though just like you until I was 42!
And trust me no one looking forward to this shit!
You can only give your opinion about things youâve done and lived trough.
I get uou! I WAS you! So I inderstand
No matter what, the excuse isn't good enough.
Purpose is none! Whoever been there knows that all it is - hurt and suffocation.
Nothing to wish on worst enemy!
No, there arenât any excuses...itâs just fucked up!
You're right, there are no excuses. So why don't you woman up, do the right thing and divorce your husband? You're taking the easy, convenient way out, but like to talk it up in a blase manner. So tired of people that think they are entitled to having their cake and eating it too. I'm not impressed, in fact I feel sorry for your daughter. Some example you have set for her as a young woman...
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I am not really give a damn if anyone is impressed or not. I thought itâs understood. But...apparently not by everybody...
Iâve been married forever. Raised a child. Put her trough college. Had a few great job experiences...now I am chilling doing what I want with whomever I want whenever I am please...
So frankly...I am finding me pretty impressive! đ đ
Posted by Stargurl
You all are always too fast to criticise the man, oh look a man, crucify him.
I would try to get over the pain a bit and if i still want to fight for him i would sit him down and have a conversation, because after 10years ghosting or having childish arguments would not resolve anything
2. Thereâs a child involved so thatâs priority.
TALK! Find out what is missing, hey what more can we do to work it out, what approach should we take? Perhaps weâre in a rut, how do we fix it. What do you like now that you didnât like 10years ago, what makes you feel loved and appreciated?
Especially if you want to work things out.
Men have feelings you know and sometimes neglect can cause certain things. Im not saying its only your fault but hear his own side out and know if you want to try.
If heâs nonchalant about it then you can give up, but if thereâs love there. Why not?
We have been talking and he seems to really be trying! I'm just working on my feeling of hurt and how we can both better ourselves to meet each others needs. Thank you for your response.
Posted by GC04I am a scorpio...
Let me guess your not a fellow water sign?
Thatâs why he wasnât emotionally satisfied.
Posted by MyStarsShineAfter ten years of loving this man, creating a family with, yes I'm staying. Emotionally we were missing something, which we've decided to work on. I also remember what the beginning of a relationship feels like, that puppy love, lust stage.. So I can understand why he felt the way he did towards her. I've always been on to try to understand things from others perspectives.
The other woman told me and him that she was not interested in him. So he decided to stay with me.
Wow what an idiot he is
So you are with a man that is staying with you because the other one didn't want him
Glad you're back, op.
Whatever you decide, I wish you the best.
Whatever you decide, I wish you the best.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeWe decided to work it out. He apologized. Told me it happened because are relationship hasn't been good for awhile, that he was feeling old and lame. Not the best excuses.. But I love him dearly, I love our family... So I will work on my feelings of hurt and hopefully we will work together on our relationship.Posted by Fuzballso what's new with your relationship? what have you decided?Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeI'm a scorpio
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Posted by GemitatiPosted by Jules-llOr how about I will do what I do and have my cake and eat it...isnât that why they bake them? LolPosted by GemitatiPosted by nikkistarThere arenât any excuses. Shit just happenning and nobody is âhappyâ about it! Itâs a curse. Origin unknown...Posted by GemitatiAs someone that lived on the other side, the party hurt by it.Posted by nikkistarLetâs say you just havenât been in this cituation so uou CANT have a say!Posted by GemitatiI know you're biased so I'm going to ignore this post.Posted by nikkistarOk. How can a person prevent themselves from emotional cheating? Itâs not like he was walking around looking for woman to fall for...SHIT HAPPENS!!!
When a kid is involved, it's not so cut and dry as you all want to make believe it is. Every decision you make affects that child as well. It's so easy to tell them to leave. But it's not so easy for a mom to make a decision to break her child's home apart.
I don't think the op should be treated wrong in any way. I believe she deserves better in this life. But it's not so cut and dry for those with kids. I also think he's a piece of shit because his actions impact his child and he isn't thinking about that.
People can control themselves.
I though just like you until I was 42!
And trust me no one looking forward to this shit!
You can only give your opinion about things youâve done and lived trough.
I get uou! I WAS you! So I inderstand
No matter what, the excuse isn't good enough.
Purpose is none! Whoever been there knows that all it is - hurt and suffocation.
Nothing to wish on worst enemy!
No, there arenât any excuses...itâs just fucked up!
You're right, there are no excuses. So why don't you woman up, do the right thing and divorce your husband? You're taking the easy, convenient way out, but like to talk it up in a blase manner. So tired of people that think they are entitled to having their cake and eating it too. I'm not impressed, in fact I feel sorry for your daughter. Some example you have set for her as a young woman...
I am not really give a damn if anyone is impressed or not. I thought itâs understood. But...apparently not by everybody...
Iâve been married forever. Raised a child. Put her trough college. Had a few great job experiences...now I am chilling doing what I want with whomever I want whenever I am please...
So frankly...I am finding me pretty impressive! đ đclick to expand
So you do you. I'm different, bit the bullet and left a bad marriage because I thought it was the right thing to do for myself, my ex and my sons. Only then did I do whatever I wanted, after suffering, giving up a lot financially and fighting hard to have the liberty to do that. Women like you scare women like me...no man is off limits to you.
Sorry for going off topic OP, just tired of the way people treat others without any regard for the long term effects. I respect you for working on your relationship, hope it works out well for you!
Posted by FuzballYou do realise that this could happen again ?Posted by MyStarsShineAfter ten years of loving this man, creating a family with, yes I'm staying. Emotionally we were missing something, which we've decided to work on. I also remember what the beginning of a relationship feels like, that puppy love, lust stage.. So I can understand why he felt the way he did towards her. I've always been on to try to understand things from others perspectives.
The other woman told me and him that she was not interested in him. So he decided to stay with me.
Wow what an idiot he is
So you are with a man that is staying with you because the other one didn't want him
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Posted by FantumI hope he realizes how much it is to take responsibility for ones actions. I've always tried to instill in him more self confidence. I hope it works out too. People do make mistakes and hopefully we both learn something from this!.Posted by FuzballHe's pretty mature for being able to see that and admit it. You're so mature you make me embarrassed.Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeWe decided to work it out. He apologized. Told me it happened because are relationship hasn't been good for awhile, that he was feeling old and lame. Not the best excuses.. But I love him dearly, I love our family... So I will work on my feelings of hurt and hopefully we will work together on our relationship.Posted by Fuzballso what's new with your relationship? what have you decided?Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeI'm a scorpio
what's your sign, obviously he's missing something
I hope it works out and that he knows how freaking lucky he is. People make mistakes, but we shouldn't let them keep doing it.click to expand
Posted by ImpulsvJust looked at his chart and he has a gemini rising and sag moon. I see too many sag moons who cheatPosted by themilkyway36Charlie sheenPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeAre virgos known cheaters...? I've never heard about this, always thought all the earth signs were generally loyalPosted by TaurusFlower22Lol i figured it was Virgo. That's why i askedPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeHe's a Virgo sun.Posted by TaurusFlower22What was his sign? You got cheated on?Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeReally? Cause I actually filed for divorce when this shit happened to me.Posted by TaurusFlower22True but funnily enough a Taurus will stick to this type of situation like nobody else wouldPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeThough that is quite literally my middle name, I disagree. đPosted by TaurusFlower22I'm not gonna lie, i would walk away, and never fight for a man, but Sade, says Love is stronger than PridePosted by CaramelizedCoffeeI'm actually pretty sweet. đPosted by TaurusFlower22Who cares, than why are you here all bitter, i mean if you know what you want and how you want it go get itPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeGood for you all! That changes absolutely nothing about my approach.Posted by TaurusFlower22You must understand with Crab men, you can do what you like, it don't matter, there is another woman ready to take your place.
Sorry to insert my personal shit into your thread, op. My ego, you know. đ
Back to you.
LOL
if you want to fuking be with them, you got to fight for them, it's not as simple as 123
okay the Crab women too.
we might be pliable and shit in the beginning, but you best keep us invested.
otherwise we will be seeking outwards
from someone else
she's older than me so i trust her
But really, it's not even about pride. It's about knowing the level of respect you deserve.
Y'all talk a good game tho
Tell me the story
I was already not really feeling him anymore for other reasons (he's a pos).
He was working later than normal for a while.
I felt something was off.
I went through his phone.
Found dick pics and text messages. The girl worked with him, and knew he was married. She didn't care.
That was on a Saturday.
I calmly went to him and told him on Monday, I'd be filing for divorce.
And I did.
I don't have time for that shit. I have 2 daughters, and I want them to EXPECT respect. That shit is not a novelty.
We were together for 7 years, married for 5.
Took me a whole day to get over him.
But you can't get over the Cancer who won't give you time of day
... Cancer is a very different beast than Virgo
Are you sure you want to play?
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Posted by MyStarsShineOf course I do. And I will not live my life in fear of this happening again, I will learn to trust him again. I'm sticking with this relationship for my self, because I love him and for my son. Hopefully he can be the man I know he could be.Posted by FuzballYou do realise that this could happen again ?Posted by MyStarsShineAfter ten years of loving this man, creating a family with, yes I'm staying. Emotionally we were missing something, which we've decided to work on. I also remember what the beginning of a relationship feels like, that puppy love, lust stage.. So I can understand why he felt the way he did towards her. I've always been on to try to understand things from others perspectives.
The other woman told me and him that she was not interested in him. So he decided to stay with me.
Wow what an idiot he is
So you are with a man that is staying with you because the other one didn't want him
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Posted by FuzballI admire your trust and intentionPosted by MyStarsShineOf course I do. And I will not live my life in fear of this happening again, I will learn to trust him again. I'm sticking with this relationship for my self, because I love him and for my son. Hopefully he can be the man I know he could be.Posted by FuzballYou do realise that this could happen again ?Posted by MyStarsShineAfter ten years of loving this man, creating a family with, yes I'm staying. Emotionally we were missing something, which we've decided to work on. I also remember what the beginning of a relationship feels like, that puppy love, lust stage.. So I can understand why he felt the way he did towards her. I've always been on to try to understand things from others perspectives.
The other woman told me and him that she was not interested in him. So he decided to stay with me.
Wow what an idiot he is
So you are with a man that is staying with you because the other one didn't want him
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So I wish for you that your partner can be a good role model to your son because if he lets you down, he lets you both down
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Posted by LadyNeptuneA day or two after I got the apology, tears, there is something wrong with me, piece of shit comments.Posted by FuzballSo no remorse from him at all about the affair?
Hey everyone.. I've never posted a question in a forum, so please bare with me! I have been with my Cancer man for 10 yrs and we have a wonderful little boy together. I recently found out that he's been on a dating website since December 2017. Later to find out that he did connect with one of the women and met up with her once. After the girl reached out to me, I confronted him. He told me that he was really into her. I feel like my heart has been ripped out of my chest. I felt like something had been off with us and I was really trying to reconnect emotionally with him. WELL I guess my gut feeling was right, but on the other hand I just never thought he was capable of this. The other woman told me and him that she was not interested in him. So he decided to stay with me. Just feeling like life is completely turned upside down at the moment. I love him and want him, but I don't like feeling like second choice. Any insight would be appreciated. Thank You!click to expand
Posted by Jules-llOk. If you can just explain it to me why am I supposed to suffer? Because you did?Posted by GemitatiPosted by Jules-llOr how about I will do what I do and have my cake and eat it...isnât that why they bake them? LolPosted by GemitatiPosted by nikkistarThere arenât any excuses. Shit just happenning and nobody is âhappyâ about it! Itâs a curse. Origin unknown...Posted by GemitatiAs someone that lived on the other side, the party hurt by it.Posted by nikkistarLetâs say you just havenât been in this cituation so uou CANT have a say!Posted by GemitatiI know you're biased so I'm going to ignore this post.Posted by nikkistarOk. How can a person prevent themselves from emotional cheating? Itâs not like he was walking around looking for woman to fall for...SHIT HAPPENS!!!
When a kid is involved, it's not so cut and dry as you all want to make believe it is. Every decision you make affects that child as well. It's so easy to tell them to leave. But it's not so easy for a mom to make a decision to break her child's home apart.
I don't think the op should be treated wrong in any way. I believe she deserves better in this life. But it's not so cut and dry for those with kids. I also think he's a piece of shit because his actions impact his child and he isn't thinking about that.
People can control themselves.
I though just like you until I was 42!
And trust me no one looking forward to this shit!
You can only give your opinion about things youâve done and lived trough.
I get uou! I WAS you! So I inderstand
No matter what, the excuse isn't good enough.
Purpose is none! Whoever been there knows that all it is - hurt and suffocation.
Nothing to wish on worst enemy!
No, there arenât any excuses...itâs just fucked up!
You're right, there are no excuses. So why don't you woman up, do the right thing and divorce your husband? You're taking the easy, convenient way out, but like to talk it up in a blase manner. So tired of people that think they are entitled to having their cake and eating it too. I'm not impressed, in fact I feel sorry for your daughter. Some example you have set for her as a young woman...
I am not really give a damn if anyone is impressed or not. I thought itâs understood. But...apparently not by everybody...
Iâve been married forever. Raised a child. Put her trough college. Had a few great job experiences...now I am chilling doing what I want with whomever I want whenever I am please...
So frankly...I am finding me pretty impressive! đ đ
So you do you. I'm different, bit the bullet and left a bad marriage because I thought it was the right thing to do for myself, my ex and my sons. Only then did I do whatever I wanted, after suffering, giving up a lot financially and fighting hard to have the liberty to do that. Women like you scare women like me...no man is off limits to you.
Sorry for going off topic OP, just tired of the way people treat others without any regard for the long term effects. I respect you for working on your relationship, hope it works out well for you!
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Iâve served my husband as a slave for 20 years! He was taking me for a granted but I didnât see it. I was busy...
NOW when my child is old enough and out in her own and my husband living his dream of becoming a millionaire having business online - why canât I take care of me WITHOUT a suffering part?
Because it wouldnât be fair to other women who suffered trough divorce? Itâs non of my life, business nor concern!
Please let me know so I understand what you meant saying no men is off limits for me? I had only been with one married man! Thatâs IT! What makes you write stuff like that without even asking first?
And NO! I refuse to mop around about unfair life and inability to find a partner...
I am actively living my life the way I wish!
And if I am scaring you - go ahead! Be afraid! Itâs not going to make me to follow your advice like âwhy donât you divorce your husband?â
Because!!! Itâs not a right time yet...
Posted by FuzballSo how is it going so far? Just re-read your post. He had been in dating websites! How is your intimate life? Usually men donât waste time in those sites if they are satisfied in their own bad.Posted by LadyNeptuneA day or two after I got the apology, tears, there is something wrong with me, piece of shit comments.Posted by FuzballSo no remorse from him at all about the affair?
Hey everyone.. I've never posted a question in a forum, so please bare with me! I have been with my Cancer man for 10 yrs and we have a wonderful little boy together. I recently found out that he's been on a dating website since December 2017. Later to find out that he did connect with one of the women and met up with her once. After the girl reached out to me, I confronted him. He told me that he was really into her. I feel like my heart has been ripped out of my chest. I felt like something had been off with us and I was really trying to reconnect emotionally with him. WELL I guess my gut feeling was right, but on the other hand I just never thought he was capable of this. The other woman told me and him that she was not interested in him. So he decided to stay with me. Just feeling like life is completely turned upside down at the moment. I love him and want him, but I don't like feeling like second choice. Any insight would be appreciated. Thank You!
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Maybe you need to think about little entertainment? And good luck. He just lost it...but itâs not end of the world.
Posted by FuzballAnytimePosted by Stargurl
You all are always too fast to criticise the man, oh look a man, crucify him.
I would try to get over the pain a bit and if i still want to fight for him i would sit him down and have a conversation, because after 10years ghosting or having childish arguments would not resolve anything
2. Thereâs a child involved so thatâs priority.
TALK! Find out what is missing, hey what more can we do to work it out, what approach should we take? Perhaps weâre in a rut, how do we fix it. What do you like now that you didnât like 10years ago, what makes you feel loved and appreciated?
Especially if you want to work things out.
Men have feelings you know and sometimes neglect can cause certain things. Im not saying its only your fault but hear his own side out and know if you want to try.
If heâs nonchalant about it then you can give up, but if thereâs love there. Why not?
We have been talking and he seems to really be trying! I'm just working on my feeling of hurt and how we can both better ourselves to meet each others needs. Thank you for your response.
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Thatâs great, as long as heâs willing and making the moves towards fixing it. Staying doesnât make you less of a woman, if you cannot work on it after trying itâs very ok to leave.
But I applaud you for trying nonetheless, talk more and get him to talk too.
Good luck and donât let anyone make you feel you made the wrong decision, your decision to stay or leave a 1000 times is up to you as long as it doesnât affect your mental state and the kid.
Posted by UnicornSagAll im saying based on my contribution, the summary isnât very tangible.
So why did she reach out to you to tell you this, cause she doesn't want to have anything to do with him? that doesn't make sense? Was he disturbing her or something? refused to leave her alone? Kinda doesn't make sense
He didnât want her and they both told her this?
Then same woman who doesnât want your man still goes out of her way to call you up to say heâs cheating.?
80% of the time women who ring you up have caught a teeny weeny bit of feels and want to be spiteful because if you donât care that much, yeah leave us and our toxic relationship to figure it out 2 years down the line.
Posted by GemitatiPosted by Jules-llOk. If you can just explain it to me why am I supposed to suffer? Because you did?Posted by GemitatiPosted by Jules-llOr how about I will do what I do and have my cake and eat it...isnât that why they bake them? LolPosted by GemitatiPosted by nikkistarThere arenât any excuses. Shit just happenning and nobody is âhappyâ about it! Itâs a curse. Origin unknown...Posted by GemitatiAs someone that lived on the other side, the party hurt by it.Posted by nikkistarLetâs say you just havenât been in this cituation so uou CANT have a say!Posted by GemitatiI know you're biased so I'm going to ignore this post.Posted by nikkistarOk. How can a person prevent themselves from emotional cheating? Itâs not like he was walking around looking for woman to fall for...SHIT HAPPENS!!!
When a kid is involved, it's not so cut and dry as you all want to make believe it is. Every decision you make affects that child as well. It's so easy to tell them to leave. But it's not so easy for a mom to make a decision to break her child's home apart.
I don't think the op should be treated wrong in any way. I believe she deserves better in this life. But it's not so cut and dry for those with kids. I also think he's a piece of shit because his actions impact his child and he isn't thinking about that.
People can control themselves.
I though just like you until I was 42!
And trust me no one looking forward to this shit!
You can only give your opinion about things youâve done and lived trough.
I get uou! I WAS you! So I inderstand
No matter what, the excuse isn't good enough.
Purpose is none! Whoever been there knows that all it is - hurt and suffocation.
Nothing to wish on worst enemy!
No, there arenât any excuses...itâs just fucked up!
You're right, there are no excuses. So why don't you woman up, do the right thing and divorce your husband? You're taking the easy, convenient way out, but like to talk it up in a blase manner. So tired of people that think they are entitled to having their cake and eating it too. I'm not impressed, in fact I feel sorry for your daughter. Some example you have set for her as a young woman...
I am not really give a damn if anyone is impressed or not. I thought itâs understood. But...apparently not by everybody...
Iâve been married forever. Raised a child. Put her trough college. Had a few great job experiences...now I am chilling doing what I want with whomever I want whenever I am please...
So frankly...I am finding me pretty impressive! đ đ
So you do you. I'm different, bit the bullet and left a bad marriage because I thought it was the right thing to do for myself, my ex and my sons. Only then did I do whatever I wanted, after suffering, giving up a lot financially and fighting hard to have the liberty to do that. Women like you scare women like me...no man is off limits to you.
Sorry for going off topic OP, just tired of the way people treat others without any regard for the long term effects. I respect you for working on your relationship, hope it works out well for you!
Iâve served my husband as a slave for 20 years! He was taking me for a granted but I didnât see it. I was busy...
NOW when my child is old enough and out in her own and my husband living his dream of becoming a millionaire having business online - why canât I take care of me WITHOUT a suffering part?
Because it wouldnât be fair to other women who suffered trough divorce? Itâs non of my life, business nor concern!
Please let me know so I understand what you meant saying no men is off limits for me? I had only been with one married man! Thatâs IT! What makes you write stuff like that without even asking first?
And NO! I refuse to mop around about unfair life and inability to find a partner...
I am actively living my life the way I wish!
And if I am scaring you - go ahead! Be afraid! Itâs not going to make me to follow your advice like âwhy donât you divorce your husband?â
Because!!! Itâs not a right time yet...click to expand
Where did I say you should suffer? You make your own choices, not anybody's job to be your conscience... But there are many women like you that go after married men, they like the challenge and the benefits of being the mistress. You're not unique in any way. Many women want the convenience of having their husband's income and their lover's dick...nothing novel about that.
Posted by Jules-llI have to make a correction. In most cases itâs men who go after women. And in my case my income is double of my husbands. And I donât see any âbenefitsâ in being a mistress. Do you?Posted by GemitatiPosted by Jules-llOk. If you can just explain it to me why am I supposed to suffer? Because you did?Posted by GemitatiPosted by Jules-llOr how about I will do what I do and have my cake and eat it...isnât that why they bake them? LolPosted by GemitatiPosted by nikkistarThere arenât any excuses. Shit just happenning and nobody is âhappyâ about it! Itâs a curse. Origin unknown...Posted by GemitatiAs someone that lived on the other side, the party hurt by it.Posted by nikkistarLetâs say you just havenât been in this cituation so uou CANT have a say!Posted by GemitatiI know you're biased so I'm going to ignore this post.Posted by nikkistarOk. How can a person prevent themselves from emotional cheating? Itâs not like he was walking around looking for woman to fall for...SHIT HAPPENS!!!
When a kid is involved, it's not so cut and dry as you all want to make believe it is. Every decision you make affects that child as well. It's so easy to tell them to leave. But it's not so easy for a mom to make a decision to break her child's home apart.
I don't think the op should be treated wrong in any way. I believe she deserves better in this life. But it's not so cut and dry for those with kids. I also think he's a piece of shit because his actions impact his child and he isn't thinking about that.
People can control themselves.
I though just like you until I was 42!
And trust me no one looking forward to this shit!
You can only give your opinion about things youâve done and lived trough.
I get uou! I WAS you! So I inderstand
No matter what, the excuse isn't good enough.
Purpose is none! Whoever been there knows that all it is - hurt and suffocation.
Nothing to wish on worst enemy!
No, there arenât any excuses...itâs just fucked up!
You're right, there are no excuses. So why don't you woman up, do the right thing and divorce your husband? You're taking the easy, convenient way out, but like to talk it up in a blase manner. So tired of people that think they are entitled to having their cake and eating it too. I'm not impressed, in fact I feel sorry for your daughter. Some example you have set for her as a young woman...
I am not really give a damn if anyone is impressed or not. I thought itâs understood. But...apparently not by everybody...
Iâve been married forever. Raised a child. Put her trough college. Had a few great job experiences...now I am chilling doing what I want with whomever I want whenever I am please...
So frankly...I am finding me pretty impressive! đ đ
So you do you. I'm different, bit the bullet and left a bad marriage because I thought it was the right thing to do for myself, my ex and my sons. Only then did I do whatever I wanted, after suffering, giving up a lot financially and fighting hard to have the liberty to do that. Women like you scare women like me...no man is off limits to you.
Sorry for going off topic OP, just tired of the way people treat others without any regard for the long term effects. I respect you for working on your relationship, hope it works out well for you!
Iâve served my husband as a slave for 20 years! He was taking me for a granted but I didnât see it. I was busy...
NOW when my child is old enough and out in her own and my husband living his dream of becoming a millionaire having business online - why canât I take care of me WITHOUT a suffering part?
Because it wouldnât be fair to other women who suffered trough divorce? Itâs non of my life, business nor concern!
Please let me know so I understand what you meant saying no men is off limits for me? I had only been with one married man! Thatâs IT! What makes you write stuff like that without even asking first?
And NO! I refuse to mop around about unfair life and inability to find a partner...
I am actively living my life the way I wish!
And if I am scaring you - go ahead! Be afraid! Itâs not going to make me to follow your advice like âwhy donât you divorce your husband?â
Because!!! Itâs not a right time yet...
Where did I say you should suffer? You make your own choices, not anybody's job to be your conscience... But there are many women like you that go after married men, they like the challenge and the benefits of being the mistress. You're not unique in any way. Many women want the convenience of having their husband's income and their lover's dick...nothing novel about that.
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Posted by FuzballThere arenât good excuses. At least uou understand that he wants some spark and willing to forgive. And hope uou will forget with times...best of all!Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeWe decided to work it out. He apologized. Told me it happened because are relationship hasn't been good for awhile, that he was feeling old and lame. Not the best excuses.. But I love him dearly, I love our family... So I will work on my feelings of hurt and hopefully we will work together on our relationship.Posted by Fuzballso what's new with your relationship? what have you decided?Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeI'm a scorpio
what's your sign, obviously he's missing something
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Posted by GemitatiPosted by Jules-llI have to make a correction. In most cases itâs men who go after women. And in my case my income is double of my husbands. And I donât see any âbenefitsâ in being a mistress. Do you?Posted by GemitatiPosted by Jules-llOk. If you can just explain it to me why am I supposed to suffer? Because you did?Posted by GemitatiPosted by Jules-llOr how about I will do what I do and have my cake and eat it...isnât that why they bake them? LolPosted by GemitatiPosted by nikkistarThere arenât any excuses. Shit just happenning and nobody is âhappyâ about it! Itâs a curse. Origin unknown...Posted by GemitatiAs someone that lived on the other side, the party hurt by it.Posted by nikkistarLetâs say you just havenât been in this cituation so uou CANT have a say!Posted by GemitatiI know you're biased so I'm going to ignore this post.Posted by nikkistarOk. How can a person prevent themselves from emotional cheating? Itâs not like he was walking around looking for woman to fall for...SHIT HAPPENS!!!
When a kid is involved, it's not so cut and dry as you all want to make believe it is. Every decision you make affects that child as well. It's so easy to tell them to leave. But it's not so easy for a mom to make a decision to break her child's home apart.
I don't think the op should be treated wrong in any way. I believe she deserves better in this life. But it's not so cut and dry for those with kids. I also think he's a piece of shit because his actions impact his child and he isn't thinking about that.
People can control themselves.
I though just like you until I was 42!
And trust me no one looking forward to this shit!
You can only give your opinion about things youâve done and lived trough.
I get uou! I WAS you! So I inderstand
No matter what, the excuse isn't good enough.
Purpose is none! Whoever been there knows that all it is - hurt and suffocation.
Nothing to wish on worst enemy!
No, there arenât any excuses...itâs just fucked up!
You're right, there are no excuses. So why don't you woman up, do the right thing and divorce your husband? You're taking the easy, convenient way out, but like to talk it up in a blase manner. So tired of people that think they are entitled to having their cake and eating it too. I'm not impressed, in fact I feel sorry for your daughter. Some example you have set for her as a young woman...
I am not really give a damn if anyone is impressed or not. I thought itâs understood. But...apparently not by everybody...
Iâve been married forever. Raised a child. Put her trough college. Had a few great job experiences...now I am chilling doing what I want with whomever I want whenever I am please...
So frankly...I am finding me pretty impressive! đ đ
So you do you. I'm different, bit the bullet and left a bad marriage because I thought it was the right thing to do for myself, my ex and my sons. Only then did I do whatever I wanted, after suffering, giving up a lot financially and fighting hard to have the liberty to do that. Women like you scare women like me...no man is off limits to you.
Sorry for going off topic OP, just tired of the way people treat others without any regard for the long term effects. I respect you for working on your relationship, hope it works out well for you!
Iâve served my husband as a slave for 20 years! He was taking me for a granted but I didnât see it. I was busy...
NOW when my child is old enough and out in her own and my husband living his dream of becoming a millionaire having business online - why canât I take care of me WITHOUT a suffering part?
Because it wouldnât be fair to other women who suffered trough divorce? Itâs non of my life, business nor concern!
Please let me know so I understand what you meant saying no men is off limits for me? I had only been with one married man! Thatâs IT! What makes you write stuff like that without even asking first?
And NO! I refuse to mop around about unfair life and inability to find a partner...
I am actively living my life the way I wish!
And if I am scaring you - go ahead! Be afraid! Itâs not going to make me to follow your advice like âwhy donât you divorce your husband?â
Because!!! Itâs not a right time yet...
Where did I say you should suffer? You make your own choices, not anybody's job to be your conscience... But there are many women like you that go after married men, they like the challenge and the benefits of being the mistress. You're not unique in any way. Many women want the convenience of having their husband's income and their lover's dick...nothing novel about that.
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What planet do you live on? Women are totally the aggressors, at least where I live. I'm not a mistress, why don't you tell me the benefits? Surely there must have been some for you to choose it for so long?
Posted by Jules-llI said itâs not easy raid. You mention benefits. You must know something I donât...lolPosted by GemitatiPosted by Jules-llI have to make a correction. In most cases itâs men who go after women. And in my case my income is double of my husbands. And I donât see any âbenefitsâ in being a mistress. Do you?Posted by GemitatiPosted by Jules-llOk. If you can just explain it to me why am I supposed to suffer? Because you did?Posted by GemitatiPosted by Jules-llOr how about I will do what I do and have my cake and eat it...isnât that why they bake them? LolPosted by GemitatiPosted by nikkistarThere arenât any excuses. Shit just happenning and nobody is âhappyâ about it! Itâs a curse. Origin unknown...Posted by GemitatiAs someone that lived on the other side, the party hurt by it.Posted by nikkistarLetâs say you just havenât been in this cituation so uou CANT have a say!Posted by GemitatiI know you're biased so I'm going to ignore this post.Posted by nikkistarOk. How can a person prevent themselves from emotional cheating? Itâs not like he was walking around looking for woman to fall for...SHIT HAPPENS!!!
When a kid is involved, it's not so cut and dry as you all want to make believe it is. Every decision you make affects that child as well. It's so easy to tell them to leave. But it's not so easy for a mom to make a decision to break her child's home apart.
I don't think the op should be treated wrong in any way. I believe she deserves better in this life. But it's not so cut and dry for those with kids. I also think he's a piece of shit because his actions impact his child and he isn't thinking about that.
People can control themselves.
I though just like you until I was 42!
And trust me no one looking forward to this shit!
You can only give your opinion about things youâve done and lived trough.
I get uou! I WAS you! So I inderstand
No matter what, the excuse isn't good enough.
Purpose is none! Whoever been there knows that all it is - hurt and suffocation.
Nothing to wish on worst enemy!
No, there arenât any excuses...itâs just fucked up!
You're right, there are no excuses. So why don't you woman up, do the right thing and divorce your husband? You're taking the easy, convenient way out, but like to talk it up in a blase manner. So tired of people that think they are entitled to having their cake and eating it too. I'm not impressed, in fact I feel sorry for your daughter. Some example you have set for her as a young woman...
I am not really give a damn if anyone is impressed or not. I thought itâs understood. But...apparently not by everybody...
Iâve been married forever. Raised a child. Put her trough college. Had a few great job experiences...now I am chilling doing what I want with whomever I want whenever I am please...
So frankly...I am finding me pretty impressive! đ đ
So you do you. I'm different, bit the bullet and left a bad marriage because I thought it was the right thing to do for myself, my ex and my sons. Only then did I do whatever I wanted, after suffering, giving up a lot financially and fighting hard to have the liberty to do that. Women like you scare women like me...no man is off limits to you.
Sorry for going off topic OP, just tired of the way people treat others without any regard for the long term effects. I respect you for working on your relationship, hope it works out well for you!
Iâve served my husband as a slave for 20 years! He was taking me for a granted but I didnât see it. I was busy...
NOW when my child is old enough and out in her own and my husband living his dream of becoming a millionaire having business online - why canât I take care of me WITHOUT a suffering part?
Because it wouldnât be fair to other women who suffered trough divorce? Itâs non of my life, business nor concern!
Please let me know so I understand what you meant saying no men is off limits for me? I had only been with one married man! Thatâs IT! What makes you write stuff like that without even asking first?
And NO! I refuse to mop around about unfair life and inability to find a partner...
I am actively living my life the way I wish!
And if I am scaring you - go ahead! Be afraid! Itâs not going to make me to follow your advice like âwhy donât you divorce your husband?â
Because!!! Itâs not a right time yet...
Where did I say you should suffer? You make your own choices, not anybody's job to be your conscience... But there are many women like you that go after married men, they like the challenge and the benefits of being the mistress. You're not unique in any way. Many women want the convenience of having their husband's income and their lover's dick...nothing novel about that.
What planet do you live on? Women are totally the aggressors, at least where I live. I'm not a mistress, why don't you tell me the benefits? Surely there must have been some for you to choose it for so long?
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And yes it is love. And suffering. And it doesnât end.
You talking about totally different stuff than what I am doing trough. You talking about women who look for an affairs. I havenât looked. So please just let it go. You barking at the wrong tree.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeKevin Hart?? I never knew he cheated or was the one to cheat!!:0 so annoyed by that.Posted by GC04yep, he could just be an ahole cheater, like kevin hart, but i am curious what his placements are and what hers are too.
Let me guess your not a fellow water sign?
Thatâs why he wasnât emotionally satisfied.
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Cancer men are cheats. I hate to generalize.... but..... Just from what ive noticed. They also rationalize it to themselves completely, which is a very dangerous combo... No accountability. They are the type to say "I wasnt happy. so what?"
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