Cancer man lied about having cancer

I dated this cancer man for only 4 months, and knew him for a year. He initiated the whole relationship telling me how lucky he was,that I'm the love of his life, his soulmate, texting me 5 times a day, I was reciprocating the same.

After 2 months he told me he thinks he has cancer and was terrified to go to the doctor. As it was a long distance relationship I had no way of checking it, he visited me a couple of times, but not once after telling me he thinks he has cancer. Of course I believed him, who would lie about such stuff? He was saying hes scared of dying and being a cry baby. I was always loving and supportive and reassured him on a daily basis. After 3 weeks of saying he thinks he has cancer he finally went to a doctor, as i was telling him to everyday, but he said hes afraid, which seemed weird that he would postpone knowing the truth.

After 3 weeks he supposedly went to the doctor and wrote me I have cancer, i have a surgery next month, I am miserable and so on. I did nothing but support him, said I'll be there no matter what. He though started to pull away and text me less and less and his excuse was always that hes sick and works all the time. When a month passed I asked him about the surgery like what is going on he said he skipped it and is dying and has no money for it.

Anyway I decided to ask his best friend of 11 years what is going on, he knew nothing about surgery and my boyfriend being sick. I found out it was all a lie , and we broke up. And we talked after that and I really wanted him to admit it, but he didn't, he got angry and cursed me and said to leave him alone. I don;t even care about the break up anymore, but why would someone go as far as lying about having cancer, for sympathy? attention? And why wont he just admit it ? I was not clingy, when he started pulling away I asked why he isn't communicating with me, and if he doesn't want to be with me he should just say it i wont beg him to stay. I did try supporting him and telling him that Ill be there no matter what but still he got colder and colder until i broke it off completely. I read that immature cancer signs can invent problems in their lives to get attention and sympathy. Does anyone have any experience with cancer man lying about stuff like this, or inventing problems that are not there? I'm still questioning what I did wrong to be lied like this to, when he was the one who started everything and called me soulmate and love of his life.

What in the fuck?! His Sun Sign has nothing to do with this kind of craziness.

You're lucky you did your "homework" because by Christmas he would have asked for if not hundreds, thousands of dollars from you. Lucky girl! 🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

You're lucky you did your "homework" because by Christmas he would have asked for if not hundreds, thousands of dollars from you. Lucky girl! 🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

You're lucky you did your "homework" because by Christmas he would have asked for if not hundreds, thousands of dollars from you. Lucky girl! 🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

You're lucky you did your "homework" because by Christmas he would have asked for if not hundreds, thousands of dollars from you. Lucky girl! 🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

You're lucky you did your "homework" because by Christmas he would have asked for if not hundreds, thousands of dollars from you. Lucky girl! 🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

You're lucky you did your "homework" because by Christmas he would have asked for if not hundreds, thousands of dollars from you. Lucky girl! 🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

You're lucky you did your "homework" because by Christmas he would have asked for if not hundreds, thousands of dollars from you. Lucky girl! 🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

You're lucky you did your "homework" because by Christmas he would have asked for if not hundreds, thousands of dollars from you. Lucky girl! 🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

You're lucky you did your "homework" because by Christmas he would have asked for if not hundreds, thousands of dollars from you. Lucky girl! 🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

You're lucky you did your "homework" because by Christmas he would have asked for if not hundreds, thousands of dollars from you. Lucky girl! 🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

dafaq?

i guess evathediva had her senior moment after that picture

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Posted by heliumfiasco
What in the fuck?! His Sun Sign has nothing to do with this kind of craziness.

you sure about that? a lot of those men are batshit crazy as hell. lying for no damn reason. playing off of people's sympathies. then when they dont get desired results, or you're on to them, they want to get insulting and talk shit. my cousin and ex cancer friends were like this, that's why i no longer acknowledge their existence. people shouldn't play around with shit like this. there are ppl really suffering from it, and not to mention if the idiot does get cancer one day, no one will believe him.

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Ahhhhh. Really?!?! I only know females and am currently dating a cancer man. I love my Cancer ladies and so far he seems amazing! Ya'll on this board hate these Cancer men, though! hahaha

Posted by EvatheDiva
You're lucky you did your "homework" because by Christmas he would have asked for if not hundreds, thousands of dollars from you. Lucky girl! 🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

Thank you Eva) I guess there are some bad cancer men out there, as I don't want to generalise, but this was my first and I guess last experience. I didn't mention the constant guilt tripping when I accused him of lying which was true...Just mind games all the time.

Posted by MagicMona

Posted by heliumfiasco
What in the fuck?! His Sun Sign has nothing to do with this kind of craziness.

you sure about that? a lot of those men are batshit crazy as hell. lying for no damn reason. playing off of people's sympathies. then when they dont get desired results, or you're on to them, they want to get insulting and talk shit. my cousin and ex cancer friends were like this, that's why i no longer acknowledge their existence. people shouldn't play around with shit like this. there are ppl really suffering from it, and not to mention if the idiot does get cancer one day, no one will believe him.

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I agree with lying for no reason.. besides the major lie about dying of cancer I caught him lying several times about small things, and never understood why, and trying to get him to admit it was impossible as he would try to guilt trip me, or get bat shit angry. Never just say, yes its true I lied, I'm sorry. Really looking for sympathy, always being the victim, hard life hard childhood, saying there's only pain in his life. Hes 23 btw and me too, I was not expecting such childish behaviour.

Did he? 😄

You didn't do anything wrong, he is disturbingly wrong

This actually pisses,me off. I watched my father and other loved ones suffer from that illness. Spent many nights by their side in the ICU after having a piece of their infected body removed. Totally screw that guy and his bs lies. I can only wish karma comes running to kick him in his taint.

op? I have a question ...how do you know for sure he is lying ....

I"m mean ....is it possible that he told you and NO ONE else? ...I"m gonna have surgery on 11/08 and NONE of my family knows about it ...only my best friend does ...

with my scenario in mind ...if I started getting scared and withdrawing and my best friend reached out to my family and asked about my surgery ...I would be furious ...

Posted by dolluxe
Did he ask you for money? Did you guys have sex after he told you he was sick?

No he did not, although he did mention he skipped his surgery because he has no money for it. Even though his friends keep posting pictures from festivals where he was as well and all kinds of constant parties. But I was supposed to believe he is dying and has no money for surgery. No we did not have sex after that.

Posted by Cancan26
op? I have a question ...how do you know for sure he is lying ....

I"m mean ....is it possible that he told you and NO ONE else? ...I"m gonna have surgery on 11/08 and NONE of my family knows about it ...only my best friend does ...

with my scenario in mind ...if I started getting scared and withdrawing and my best friend reached out to my family and asked about my surgery ...I would be furious ...

He did tell me after i reached out to his best friend, that nobody knows, only me. He did not mention this before, I thought everyone knows, first of all family and close friends. After I asked his friend asking about surgery my ex texted me to basically shut up because no one knows, and he had to tell his best friend, his bro, that knows everything about him that he lied to me so that my question about surgery was explained. There was no surgery no nothing, I see pictures of him at work, and partying constantly. When I touched the subject he got angry and closed it by exploding on me, so i was scared to ever open it again. Its just very clear manipulation. When I asked him are you lying to me or everyone else, he just staring cursing and shouting at me.

lol

My bro is a Cancer and told everyone he had a brain tumor when he actually just needed glasses.

Posted by Valeria

Posted by Cancan26
op? I have a question ...how do you know for sure he is lying ....

I"m mean ....is it possible that he told you and NO ONE else? ...I"m gonna have surgery on 11/08 and NONE of my family knows about it ...only my best friend does ...

with my scenario in mind ...if I started getting scared and withdrawing and my best friend reached out to my family and asked about my surgery ...I would be furious ...

He did tell me after i reached out to his best friend, that nobody knows, only me. He did not mention this before, I thought everyone knows, first of all family and close friends. After I asked his friend asking about surgery my ex texted me to basically shut up because no one knows, and he had to tell his best friend, his bro, that knows everything about him that he lied to me so that my question about surgery was explained. There was no surgery no nothing, I see pictures of him at work, and partying constantly. When I touched the subject he got angry and closed it by exploding on me, so i was scared to ever open it again. Its just very clear manipulation. When I asked him are you lying to me or everyone else, he just staring cursing and shouting at me.

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so his best friend said that he lied ......did the best friend say why?...what does he say when he yelled at you ...now truth, he could be a CRAZED ass pysco! but giving the benefit of the doubt ...how are you sure he is just NOT to going treat ...I once knew of someone who chose to not to have chemo for their cancer treatment and it made them erratic they would party hard one minute and be sobbing the next ...kind one second and lashing out the next ...

Posted by Arielle83
No offense but maybe asking some frievd isn't a way of getting the truth.

I had a really fucjed up preventative surgery in my early 20s and only my mom knew.

Maybe he's partying cuz he stopped giving a fuck and wants to avoid some chick going behind his back investigating

....I'm pretty private about my stuff like that too...I mean he MIGHT be lying but it takes a special kind of fucked up to lie about cancer ...-_-

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Posted by Cancan26

Posted by Arielle83
No offense but maybe asking some frievd isn't a way of getting the truth.

I had a really fucjed up preventative surgery in my early 20s and only my mom knew.

Maybe he's partying cuz he stopped giving a fuck and wants to avoid some chick going behind his back investigating

....I'm pretty private about my stuff like that too...I mean he MIGHT be lying but it takes a special kind of fucked up to lie about cancer ...-_-

A liar lies for pity/sympathy/money/respect. Sounds like he didbt want any of that from her so what's the benefit?

Talking behind his back is pretty trashy as well.

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that's what I'm trying to figure out ...what was the point of lying ...he didnt get any money from anyone ...and if he wanted sympathy he would have lied to EVERYBODY ...and it doesn't sound like he was trying to break up with her ...cause he came back ...

Posted by bubbythewhale1
Oh the irony in the title... I had to click

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Lol yo, the cancer board is my favorite

Posted by kissmygrits
This actually pisses,me off. I watched my father and other loved ones suffer from that illness. Spent many nights by their side in the ICU after having a piece of their infected body removed. Totally screw that guy and his bs lies. I can only wish karma comes running to kick him in his taint.

— couldn't have said it better mah good buddy...

Am I the only one here who laughed his monkey ass off at the thread title?

Back on topic, my father did the same to me. Tried to scare me with an alleged cancer diagnosis. Problem for him was I couldn't give a shit about him having cancer lol. I told him "I'm not gonna wait for the cancer, I'll kill you myself".

Posted by Scrumptious
i guess evathediva had her senior moment after that picture

lol 😆

Posted by Arielle83
No offense but maybe asking some frievd isn't a way of getting the truth.

I had a really fucjed up preventative surgery in my early 20s and only my mom knew.

Maybe he's partying cuz he stopped giving a fuck and wants to avoid some chick going behind his back investigating

I asked a friend because he was being vague about it and at some point was so withdrawn he wasn't answering my questions. At the same time saying I have so many problems and cant handle them alone, so I would say you can share and talk to me, I am here to support you.

He told me he will have surgery next month than that month passed and nothing, he was really vague when i asked about the cancer, what the doctor told him, he said I dont know. I was just worried based on basic human decency that a person I dated for a while and loved is going through something so difficult. So I asked his best friend ever since they were children if he can tell me what is going on with him , if he is allright, cause I know he is sick. I didnt even mention cancer or surgery and his friend was very surprised. He didnt know a thing even of him just being sick i didnt even press the question or get into details, i understood he knows nothing, he told me your ex is okay, and i dont know about him being sick. And in this case, supposedly nobody knew, just me, not even his parents or best friends, nobody.

I was not investigating for me being needy, or trying to get him back, or opening up to me. I was just worried. Even with his friend I just asked Is he ok? Or i should have just not cared, even though a person I loved told me hes dying of cancer? Maybe you can do that, I couldn't in that specific situation.

If he lied about having cancer it's logical to assume he was lying to you when he told you he loved you, your his soulmate, yada yada yada.

What's your question here? You want to know why he lied or why he won't admit it to you?

Why would you care about schematics? He doesn't respect you enough to give you the truth. Everything you thought you had with him was an illusion.

Stop giving him space in your head. Eradicate him from your life.

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Posted by EvatheDiva
You're lucky you did your "homework" because by Christmas he would have asked for if not hundreds, thousands of dollars from you. Lucky girl! 🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

Thank you Eva) I guess there are some bad cancer men out there, as I don't want to generalise, but this was my first and I guess last experience. I didn't mention the constant guilt tripping when I accused him of lying which was true...Just mind games all the time.

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YW, but remember, like Judge Judy says, "How can you tell a man is lying?" Answer: "When his mouth is moving" 😆

Please don't diss all Cancer men; as you cannot compare this "bad" Cancer to all other "Cancerians" Why? They don't have the same morals, values, parents, etc. as this "bad" Cancer. Just chalk it up as a learning experience. I went on one date with a Libra and he was moving like MOLASIS! I met another Libra man and I listened to my own philosophy that I mentioned to you above.....he's now my boyfriend 😏

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

Does this mean that he is no longer a Cancer man?