Poppyseeds
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@arielle83
For the first 3 weeks he's been travelling, this week he had a project.
I understand this is early days and no commitment.
however I started to evaluate if this is worth exploring any further...
as I'm not seeing an increase in intensity and communication.
I understand this is early days and no commitment.
however I started to evaluate if this is worth exploring any further...
as I'm not seeing an increase in intensity and communication.
Posted by Arielle83I just don't get why invited himself to meet my friends and said he wants to see me more in the future. now sent me photos of him and guy friends. To me that sends a message of he is friednzoning me.
It just sounds like he's casually dating you.
6 dates and 2 months isn't enough to lock this into a relationship.
Posted by Arielle83I always attract Scorpios LOL but never worked out with one as the ones that are chasing me are already attached. I would never get involved with anyone who is attached.
He's opening you up to his life and that includes friebds.
Can't ppl just get to know each other without rushing or being intense?
He seems genuine.
However you sound like u need a scorpio.
I don't mean to rush him into anything, I'm just trying to avoid being played.
If you see that photo as a sign of showing his personal side then t's good. When we talk in person he never hide his friends name and we really talk about anything.
I felt friendzoned by that photo was because he didn't respon to other text that includes suggestion of plans and the fact that he first suggest "we should go to this... " without asking me when am I avaialebl doesn't llook like he is making plans with me
Posted by Arielle83I honestly dunno what to say about him, he is different to everyone I've met. He is not rushing to sex. When we are together I do feel the emotionally and intellectual intensity. We just get each other with the same type of humor and values.Posted by thinktoomuchThere wouldn't be constant questions if the guy was intense and passionate with affection.Posted by Arielle83😄 😄 No, I don´t think a scorpio would like this constant questioning AT ALL. I know I wouldn´t.
He's opening you up to his life and that includes friebds.
Can't ppl just get to know each other without rushing or being intense?
He seems genuine.
However you sound like u need a scorpio.
However even a scorpio takes time, unless he's a player.click to expand
Posted by Arielle83I must admit my past does have an impact on me.
You sound like he's made you insecure cuz of past guys.
Don't bring your baggage cuz worried about being played makes ppl look suspicious and you kinda are.
I love being around this cancer, when we are togther we lauhg so much, our happiness was contagious to those around us. ppl can't help but look at us and smile.
When we were at the restuarant he said his to me "you are a really sweet girl, I know you place high value in intimacy and you will only do it with trust, I am the same and I respect your value" I smiled and nod he asked did i make you feel shy?
later when we are talking and cuddling somewhere he said to me "you can drop your guards when you are with me"
These are things that made me feel that he is in for emotional connections.
however his lack of making plans or reppond to my suggestions to plans makes me wonder if he lost interst.
Posted by Arielle83very true. He probably is still tying some loose ends of the project and busy with the move.
No you said he's busy with work.
This is how his schedules probably are, but you have to be supportive of his career if you want in.
If everything's good, why look for damage?
I just wish he could respond to my suggestion to plans. even a no is better then no words...
the events are for tomorrow and the day after..
I guess I will give him some space.. i cna't really respond to the group photo on the app as there's no words to it. I have nothig to replyt to...
Dear god, stop over thinking shit. You're going to be the reason he eventually loses interest.
Chill the hell out. This is what adult relationships are actually like. They don't happen in the blink of an eye and take time to form.
..and stop fretting over stupid fuck apps. What are you, 12?
Chill the hell out. This is what adult relationships are actually like. They don't happen in the blink of an eye and take time to form.
..and stop fretting over stupid fuck apps. What are you, 12?
Posted by thinktoomuchI haven't met a good Scorpio man yet, scroll up and read that those Scorpio who chase me are attached. I have a good Scorpio gay friend, he si very passionate but he often interrogate his boyfriend and boss him around in public.Posted by Arielle83No, that part of scorpio would probably be good for her.Posted by thinktoomuchThere wouldn't be constant questions if the guy was intense and passionate with affection.Posted by Arielle83😄 😄 No, I don´t think a scorpio would like this constant questioning AT ALL. I know I wouldn´t.
He's opening you up to his life and that includes friebds.
Can't ppl just get to know each other without rushing or being intense?
He seems genuine.
However you sound like u need a scorpio.
However even a scorpio takes time, unless he's a player.
But I´m just thinking of how it would be for him, for the guy to have this insecure person questioning him... Personally I would be VERY discouraged, mostly because I would feel like the other person was trying to control me. But maybe that´s just me.
I just think, that when you question everything all the time, it shows that you are not ready for this, or maybe this kind of guy is not the right one for you. And yes: scorpios take time too. 🙂click to expand
Posted by rockyroadicecreamThat wasn't my question...
Dear god, stop over thinking shit. You're going to be the reason he eventually loses interest.
Chill the hell out. This is what adult relationships are actually like. They don't happen in the blink of an eye and take time to form.
..and stop fretting over stupid fuck apps. What are you, 12?
Posted by undefinedI'm fine with once a week, I think it's a healthy pace.
Cancers can take a long time to attach themselves.. he is probably trying to avoid being played as well. Maybe he has been previously hurt and is afraid to get too intimate.. so keeps his distance for one hang out a week.
just that our latest interaction had me confused.
He was the one who said he wants to see me more in the future.
Posted by undefinedyes waiting is the only thing I can do, as he sugegsted we go to a palce, i responed and gave him options. it's his turn to respond.
I honestly have no idea what hes doing with that whole thing. It could be a number of things. Just wait it out.. and maybe eventually call him and just ask whats up. But not in like a pushy needy way.. just in a hey, I really was excited to see you this week.. way? I don't know if there is actually any way around not being too full on though. Hrmph. Maybe just wait until you spend time together and feel close, and ask whats going on.
Things gotta be balance if anything healthy is goign to be developed
Posted by thinktoomuchI've always found Arielle to be insightful.
Wauw Arielle, I´m actually genuinly impressed by your reflections here! Good job 🙂
@arielle83
You really get me! I love you! haha yes I've been burnt by players and cheaters. Some players came across as very nice guys, they come on strong, nice to their moms and come look after you when you are sick without pushing for sex. Then their true color shows after a few months into relationship.
guess what? he just responded with more details about the photo. He told me he looks awful right now so no selfies, just easier to send a photo that is a few days old and he told me who other men are. He told me he just moved and got stuff allover and he's been sleeping in sleeping bags and said it will take him 2 weeks to clean up this mess. He then gave me compliments on my selfies. (just a smiling selfie, nothing suggestive)
I guess that's his way of saying no to my options. I can see he is busy and understand he cannot make it to the plans I suggested for tomorrow. It would be respectful to say no I'm busy rather than simply saying it will take him 2 weeks to clear up the place...
Him not responding to my suggestion or making real plans to see me again is a bit of a concern, feels like he is stringing me along.. also he has never ever phone me... even I have express interested in calls the last time I saw him in person.
You really get me! I love you! haha yes I've been burnt by players and cheaters. Some players came across as very nice guys, they come on strong, nice to their moms and come look after you when you are sick without pushing for sex. Then their true color shows after a few months into relationship.
guess what? he just responded with more details about the photo. He told me he looks awful right now so no selfies, just easier to send a photo that is a few days old and he told me who other men are. He told me he just moved and got stuff allover and he's been sleeping in sleeping bags and said it will take him 2 weeks to clean up this mess. He then gave me compliments on my selfies. (just a smiling selfie, nothing suggestive)
I guess that's his way of saying no to my options. I can see he is busy and understand he cannot make it to the plans I suggested for tomorrow. It would be respectful to say no I'm busy rather than simply saying it will take him 2 weeks to clear up the place...
Him not responding to my suggestion or making real plans to see me again is a bit of a concern, feels like he is stringing me along.. also he has never ever phone me... even I have express interested in calls the last time I saw him in person.
Posted by SensitiveBluesdon't take out your anger on your ex out of me. I don't sleep around, unless you mistaken me as your ex again.
lol@ i know you take time to be intimate.
i don't think so, knowing virgos, this girl has gotten played over and over again and probably has slept with alot of men, for her, him not trying to sleep with her is driving her nuts, cause she see's that as interest.
virgos are so stupid and morally weak.
Posted by thinktoomuchLets swap user name?Posted by PoppyseedsMaybe Arielle gets you, but it really seem like you don´t get yourself.
@arielle83
You really get me! I love you! haha yes I've been burnt by players and cheaters. Some players came across as very nice guys, they come on strong, nice to their moms and come look after you when you are sick without pushing for sex. Then their true color shows after a few months into relationship.
guess what? he just responded with more details about the photo. He told me he looks awful right now so no selfies, just easier to send a photo that is a few days old and he told me who other men are. He told me he just moved and got stuff allover and he's been sleeping in sleeping bags and said it will take him 2 weeks to clean up this mess. He then gave me compliments on my selfies. (just a smiling selfie, nothing suggestive)
I guess that's his way of saying no to my options. I can see he is busy and understand he cannot make it to the plans I suggested for tomorrow. It would be respectful to say no I'm busy rather than simply saying it will take him 2 weeks to clear up the place...
Him not responding to my suggestion or making real plans to see me again is a bit of a concern, feels like he is stringing me along.. also he has never ever phone me... even I have express interested in calls the last time I saw him in person.
You say "oh yeah, I´m insecure from hurt in the past" (as we all are) and then you for some reason continue to be this insecure, suspicious person. With every little thing he does.
Why don´t you grab life by the balls and then say "okay, he makes me this insecure, this is not going to work" instead of making these little backhanded accusations. Or you decide to trust him and let things slide without having to disect every little simple thing.
Seriously, look at my selfappointed username! I chose that for a reason (and because I have plenty of humour about my always so serious demeanor), and even I didn´t make this many threads about him back in the day and about every little thing he did.
Regardless: he is him, he´s not gonna change, and neither should he. And neither should you. But maybe grow up a little and move on, if you are this suspicious all the time.click to expand
I think it's good manner to respond to invitation regardless if you can make it or not. Don't you think it's rude to not give an answer?
Posted by SensitiveBluesYou sound like a nut case who is not over her ex and just keep attacking virgos on DXP. Go get some help, or talk to him to get your closure.Posted by PoppyseedsYou sound like a cling on nut!
@arielle83
You really get me! I love you! haha yes I've been burnt by players and cheaters. Some players came across as very nice guys, they come on strong, nice to their moms and come look after you when you are sick without pushing for sex. Then their true color shows after a few months into relationship.
guess what? he just responded with more details about the photo. He told me he looks awful right now so no selfies, just easier to send a photo that is a few days old and he told me who other men are. He told me he just moved and got stuff allover and he's been sleeping in sleeping bags and said it will take him 2 weeks to clean up this mess. He then gave me compliments on my selfies. (just a smiling selfie, nothing suggestive)
I guess that's his way of saying no to my options. I can see he is busy and understand he cannot make it to the plans I suggested for tomorrow. It would be respectful to say no I'm busy rather than simply saying it will take him 2 weeks to clear up the place...
Him not responding to my suggestion or making real plans to see me again is a bit of a concern, feels like he is stringing me along.. also he has never ever phone me... even I have express interested in calls the last time I saw him in person.
have you offered to help him?
all you care about your interests and whether you'll get another date.
so annoying.click to expand
Offering to help a guy with moving after you only met him 6 times? look who is the one being clingy.
If my most are annoying you are are free to block me or simply not read it, yet you keep reading and posting on my thread. You are annoying yourself.
Posted by Arielle83I absolutely agree, I'm glad we have the same value on intimacy so you know what I'm talking about.
Well players are everywhere.
What woman wants to deal with them?
We are taught sex love passion is meant to mean we are valued. It just goes hand in hand with the objectification.
Then you realise the guy that holds back is the one valuing your time and authenticity. He's patient because he's actually paying attention.
I still think 2 months is too soon to know if you want a relationship.
Like what if you make it all official and then you find out 5 months down the line he has huge debt and illegitimate children?
This is why cancer is guarded and takes time. Like people front in the beginning, you need to wait to see who they really are. Getting swept up in passion blinds you to their character.
2 months is not enough time to evaluate the situation, I get that we both are being guarded, but him not giving me a direct respond regarding my suggestion for tomorrow is just rude. I only suggested that as it's something we previously talked about and he said he is into this sort of stuff.
Yes I agree we can't make it official now, as it's too short and there are probably more skeleton in the closet to dig. Also the indirect no tells me he is showing who he really is. He told me he is into direct communication. this isn't direct at all.
Posted by Arielle83I didn't think I was being pushy was I?
Also if you push too early, he'll remember that.
He's seeing who you are as well.
He probably has a lot to lose and doesn't want to attract drama in his life cuz he seems busy.
If he commits to a chick that is not a good match, he'll resent his decision.
im only sugegsting becuase he mentioend he likes this sort of stuff and it's just coincident that he suggest to go to the place (my second suggesttion)
oops or I stuffed it up?
Posted by SensitiveBluesyes keep telling me how virgo fails, i take it as your meant your ex was very selfish, you are so hurt that you have to attack me for that.Posted by PoppyseedsWe appreciate friendships, you can't even be a good friend, it's all a game to you, some strategy you have to win.Posted by SensitiveBluesYou sound like a nut case who is not over her ex and just keep attacking virgos on DXP. Go get some help, or talk to him to get your closure.Posted by PoppyseedsYou sound like a cling on nut!
@arielle83
You really get me! I love you! haha yes I've been burnt by players and cheaters. Some players came across as very nice guys, they come on strong, nice to their moms and come look after you when you are sick without pushing for sex. Then their true color shows after a few months into relationship.
guess what? he just responded with more details about the photo. He told me he looks awful right now so no selfies, just easier to send a photo that is a few days old and he told me who other men are. He told me he just moved and got stuff allover and he's been sleeping in sleeping bags and said it will take him 2 weeks to clean up this mess. He then gave me compliments on my selfies. (just a smiling selfie, nothing suggestive)
I guess that's his way of saying no to my options. I can see he is busy and understand he cannot make it to the plans I suggested for tomorrow. It would be respectful to say no I'm busy rather than simply saying it will take him 2 weeks to clear up the place...
Him not responding to my suggestion or making real plans to see me again is a bit of a concern, feels like he is stringing me along.. also he has never ever phone me... even I have express interested in calls the last time I saw him in person.
have you offered to help him?
all you care about your interests and whether you'll get another date.
so annoying.
Offering to help a guy with moving after you only met him 6 times? look who is the one being clingy.
If my most are annoying you are are free to block me or simply not read it, yet you keep reading and posting on my thread. You are annoying yourself.
virgo fail. consistently.
because you're not genuine beings. Just selfish entities.
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Posted by Arielle83yes he is romantic in person and on previous text, somehow I feel like my suggestiong might have turn him off as now his replies has no kiss at the end. he sugegsted we should go to that place, I thought I was just contributing to suggestion... oh well, already asked him out via text, he responded but not directly addressing to it. simply said will take him 2 weeks to unpack.
I don't know ask him out and get to know him.
You haven't had sex so you haven't felt like you've given yourself away physically yet if he's romantic, he's into you. It doesn't sound like friend.
I will wait and see if he turns up as he knows where that is. if not I will just keep it friendly on text.
anywya if he takes it the wrong way I guess we are just not a good match.
Posted by PoppyseedsHarsh truth: the person that cares the least holds the most power in any relationship. Sounds awful but it's true. You are making your self worth & happiness dependent on his responses. Why? Look inside for your answer, not to him -you want a level connection you aren't getting so the first person you need to have a conversation with is yourself. What do you actually want/need? Is he filling any of those wants/needs on any level? If not, emotionally detach and just enjoy the dates for what they are: a fun way to get out and do things while getting to know someone new. Don't put a lot of emotional investment into someone who isn't doing the same for you.Posted by Arielle83yes he is romantic in person and on previous text, somehow I feel like my suggestiong might have turn him off as now his replies has no kiss at the end. he sugegsted we should go to that place, I thought I was just contributing to suggestion... oh well, already asked him out via text, he responded but not directly addressing to it. simply said will take him 2 weeks to unpack.
I don't know ask him out and get to know him.
You haven't had sex so you haven't felt like you've given yourself away physically yet if he's romantic, he's into you. It doesn't sound like friend.
I will wait and see if he turns up as he knows where that is. if not I will just keep it friendly on text.
anywya if he takes it the wrong way I guess we are just not a good match.click to expand
Just my 2 cents.
This is why I hate dating nowadays..
People just skip building the friendship phase and jump right into "relationship" phase.
and then being all insecure and question every move the guy makes
why don't you let it unfold naturally, and go on with your life as you're just getting to know a new friend.
AND then you decide if he's worth of your time and energy to get into a relationship with
I miss good ole' school days when I fell in love with my best friend in school
People just skip building the friendship phase and jump right into "relationship" phase.
and then being all insecure and question every move the guy makes
why don't you let it unfold naturally, and go on with your life as you're just getting to know a new friend.
AND then you decide if he's worth of your time and energy to get into a relationship with
I miss good ole' school days when I fell in love with my best friend in school
Posted by maomaothat was my intent, even friendship deserves a simple yes or no to invitation. don't you think?
This is why I hate dating nowadays..
People just skip building the friendship phase and jump right into "relationship" phase.
and then being all insecure and question every move the guy makes
why don't you let it unfold naturally, and go on with your life as you're just getting to know a new friend.
AND then you decide if he's worth of your time and energy to get into a relationship with
I miss good ole' school days when I fell in love with my best friend in school
@nyxxee @Nevermore @Finbuff
No I don't need consolation, not relying on him to make me happy either.
I just find it confusing and rude to not give a direct yes or no.
No I don't need consolation, not relying on him to make me happy either.
I just find it confusing and rude to not give a direct yes or no.
I think you need to chill with the over thinking. While he's busy you should be busy too. It's summer, you're alive, be stoked about it. 🙂
He doesn't seem uninterested, just distracted. All Id say is, next time y'all discuss plans ask him to be clear. Yes or no. If no, then tell him to make a counter plan please and again, be clear.
Posted by NevermoreYesPosted by maomao
This is why I hate dating nowadays..
People just skip building the friendship phase and jump right into "relationship" phase.
and then being all insecure and question every move the guy makes
why don't you let it unfold naturally, and go on with your life as you're just getting to know a new friend.
AND then you decide if he's worth of your time and energy to get into a relationship with
I miss good ole' school days when I fell in love with my best friend in school
Yup.
Learn to be friends first till you stepped into best friends and then stepped into the relationship.click to expand
Posted by kissmygritsI'm busy and going out with friend almost everyday to make the most out of summer, friendhsip is important as that's what I told him. I need a guy who can be my lover and best friend. Best friend don't have to see each other a lot, but at least should be able to say yes or no to invitation. it's my first time making indirect invitation, I always let him do the planning before.
I think you need to chill with the over thinking. While he's busy you should be busy too. It's summer, you're alive, be stoked about it. 🙂
Posted by IlluminatiThat's all I wanted, people just jumped into conclusion thinking I want a relationship right now...
He doesn't seem uninterested, just distracted. All Id say is, next time y'all discuss plans ask him to be clear. Yes or no. If no, then tell him to make a counter plan please and again, be clear.
Posted by PoppyseedsWel then.. he doesn't deserve your friendship..Posted by maomaothat was my intent, even friendship deserves a simple yes or no to invitation. don't you think?
This is why I hate dating nowadays..
People just skip building the friendship phase and jump right into "relationship" phase.
and then being all insecure and question every move the guy makes
why don't you let it unfold naturally, and go on with your life as you're just getting to know a new friend.
AND then you decide if he's worth of your time and energy to get into a relationship with
I miss good ole' school days when I fell in love with my best friend in schoolclick to expand
move along and relax
Posted by PoppyseedsThere is nothing more stressful than a move!
He told me he looks awful right now
He told me he just moved and got stuff allover and he's been sleeping in sleeping bags and said it will take him 2 weeks to clean up this mess.
He is telling you, in a very sweet and gentle way, that he needs to get his life in order before he sees you. For Christ sake, he's sleeping in a sleeping bag! Don't you think setting up his bed so he can sleep off of the ground takes precedence over taking you out on a date?
Posted by PoppyseedsNo. Your incredibly rude for making this all about you. He's probably really overwhelmed and deserves your support and understanding right now. And he DID give you an answer. He also gave you a heads up that it'll be two weeks before he can hang out.
I think it's good manner to respond to invitation regardless if you can make it or not. Don't you think it's rude to not give an answer?click to expand
Stop being so selfish and grow up.
Posted by SensitiveBluesYeah. 😄
Any other cancers suddenly lost interest in this thread and this poster?
Cause i sure did.
Posted by DividedWeCapricornpeople who do that often have their own bitter experience with their ex partner. It's funny how it's usually women who does that.
... otherwise he's all fine. Not even sure why you're constantly bickering on Virgos anyways. LEAVE MY COMMUNICATORS ALONE, I'M THEIR CARDINAL BOSS.
Sorry for being cut off there. All Virgos and other signs deserve a good read on this.
Posted by DividedWeCapricornI'm not taking side but this woman has been follower the Virgo around just to trash talk on her post. Literally a cyber bullyPosted by SensitiveBluesI cared. Virgos cared. I think most people do as you're judging a whole community based off one person.Posted by DividedWeCapricornseriously who cares what you think. Bye.
... otherwise he's all fine. Not even sure why you're constantly bickering on Virgos anyways. LEAVE MY COMMUNICATORS ALONE, I'M THEIR CARDINAL BOSS.
Sorry for being cut off there. All Virgos and other signs deserve a good read on this.click to expand
Posted by Poppyseeds@dividedwecapricorn all she wanted is a clear yes or no, she is not wanting him to join her.Posted by IlluminatiThat's all I wanted, people just jumped into conclusion thinking I want a relationship right now...
He doesn't seem uninterested, just distracted. All Id say is, next time y'all discuss plans ask him to be clear. Yes or no. If no, then tell him to make a counter plan please and again, be clear.click to expand
Some people chose to read what they want to read, they believe it gives them the right to trash talk others. No it doesn't give you any right. Self righteousness is a very dangerous trait.
Posted by SensitiveBluesI don't need to say anymore. You just proved my point. You kept saying you are out yet you are still here. Don't you have anything else to do?Posted by Illuminatiu must be a lunatic virgoPosted by DividedWeCapricornpeople who do that often have their own bitter experience with their ex partner. It's funny how it's usually women who does that.
... otherwise he's all fine. Not even sure why you're constantly bickering on Virgos anyways. LEAVE MY COMMUNICATORS ALONE, I'M THEIR CARDINAL BOSS.
Sorry for being cut off there. All Virgos and other signs deserve a good read on this.click to expand
Posted by SensitiveBluesPosted by Illuminatibytch this is the crab board, you should be asking yourself what you doing in my house.Posted by SensitiveBluesI don't need to say anymore. You just proved my point. You kept saying you are out yet you are still here. Don't you have anything else to do?Posted by Illuminatiu must be a lunatic virgoPosted by DividedWeCapricornpeople who do that often have their own bitter experience with their ex partner. It's funny how it's usually women who does that.
... otherwise he's all fine. Not even sure why you're constantly bickering on Virgos anyways. LEAVE MY COMMUNICATORS ALONE, I'M THEIR CARDINAL BOSS.
Sorry for being cut off there. All Virgos and other signs deserve a good read on this.
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Your house? Wow you really need to seek help. I won't mess with the crazy. Do whatever you like in your house.
lso an answer......
Posted by PoppyseedsPosted by Arielle83very true. He probably is still tying some loose ends of the project and busy with the move.
No you said he's busy with work.
This is how his schedules probably are, but you have to be supportive of his career if you want in.
If everything's good, why look for damage?
I just wish he could respond to my suggestion to plans. even a no is better then no words...
the events are for tomorrow and the day after..
I guess I will give him some space.. i cna't really respond to the group photo on the app as there's no words to it. I have nothig to replyt to...click to expand
Posted by Poppyseeds
Posted by thinktoomuchPosted by PoppyseedsMaybe Arielle gets you, but it really seem like you don´t get yourself.
@arielle83
You really get me! I love you! haha yes I've been burnt by players and cheaters. Some players came across as very nice guys, they come on strong, nice to their moms and come look after you when you are sick without pushing for sex. Then their true color shows after a few months into relationship.
guess what? he just responded with more details about the photo. He told me he looks awful right now so no selfies, just easier to send a photo that is a few days old and he told me who other men are. He told me he just moved and got stuff allover and he's been sleeping in sleeping bags and said it will take him 2 weeks to clean up this mess. He then gave me compliments on my selfies. (just a smiling selfie, nothing suggestive)
I guess that's his way of saying no to my options. I can see he is busy and understand he cannot make it to the plans I suggested for tomorrow. It would be respectful to say no I'm busy rather than simply saying it will take him 2 weeks to clear up the place...
Him not responding to my suggestion or making real plans to see me again is a bit of a concern, feels like he is stringing me along.. also he has never ever phone me... even I have express interested in calls the last time I saw him in person.click to expand
You say "oh yeah, I´m insecure from hurt in the past" (as we all are) and then you for some reason continue to be this insecure, suspicious person. With every little thing he does.
Why don´t you grab life by the balls and then say "okay, he makes me this insecure, this is not going to work" instead of making these little backhanded accusations. Or you decide to trust him and let things slide without having to disect every little simple thing.
Seriously, look at my selfappointed username! I chose that for a reason (and because I have plenty of humour about my always so serious demeanor), and even I didn´t make this many threads about him back in the day and about every little thing he did.
Regardless: he is him, he´s not gonna change, and neither should he. And
Too**
Posted by Islandgal24
Hey ðŸ–🽠hi. I completely agree with your thoughts on how it's rude for people not to respond with a yes or no. But if you just accepted his no response for a response, I think you would consume your mind with much more important thoughts. I'm a cancerian. I stumble on someone for a bit and move tf on when I see it's a repeated cycle. No one is EVER to busy to reply back. Don't accept the behavior, because if you do I believe it's going to be that way through it all.
Posted by PoppyseedsPosted by thinktoomuchPosted by PoppyseedsMaybe Arielle gets you, but it really seem like you don´t get yourself.
@arielle83
You really get me! I love you! haha yes I've been burnt by players and cheaters. Some players came across as very nice guys, they come on strong, nice to their moms and come look after you when you are sick without pushing for sex. Then their true color shows after a few months into relationship.
guess what? he just responded with more details about the photo. He told me he looks awful right now so no selfies, just easier to send a photo that is a few days old and he told me who other men are. He told me he just moved and got stuff allover and he's been sleeping in sleeping bags and said it will take him 2 weeks to clean up this mess. He then gave me compliments on my selfies. (just a smiling selfie, nothing suggestive)
I guess that's his way of saying no to my options. I can see he is busy and understand he cannot make it to the plans I suggested for tomorrow. It would be respectful to say no I'm busy rather than simply saying it will take him 2 weeks to clear up the place...
Him not responding to my suggestion or making real plans to see me again is a bit of a concern, feels like he is stringing me along.. also he has never ever phone me... even I have express interested in calls the last time I saw him in person.click to expand
You say "oh yeah, I´m insecure from hurt in the past" (as we all are) and then you for some reason continue to be this insecure, suspicious person. With every little thing he does.
Why don´t you grab life by the balls and then say "okay, he makes me this insecure, this is not going to work" instead of making these little backhanded accusations. Or you decide to trust him and let things slide without having to disect every little simple thing.
Seriously, look at my selfappointed username! I chose that for a reason (and because I have plenty of humour about my always so serious demeanor), and even I didn´t make this many threads about him back in the day an
@Islandgal24
I agree, he did reply to tell me how busy he is as a indirect no and suggest that he is not available within this 2 weeks. However a direct no is still a grown up and respectable thing to do. I have accepted his no for an answer, I also expected him to be busy and already made lots of plans, just saying if he gave me a straight no it would have gained more respect.
Being busy and cancerian is not really an excuse to not give a straight answer. Other cancer I know would also tell me why they are busy and then a no and a counter plan.
I agree, he did reply to tell me how busy he is as a indirect no and suggest that he is not available within this 2 weeks. However a direct no is still a grown up and respectable thing to do. I have accepted his no for an answer, I also expected him to be busy and already made lots of plans, just saying if he gave me a straight no it would have gained more respect.
Being busy and cancerian is not really an excuse to not give a straight answer. Other cancer I know would also tell me why they are busy and then a no and a counter plan.
Well then dump him then. I hope his new neighbor is cute, can cook like his Mom and is less demanding.
Posted by kissmygritsMay be you are a doormat who will take any crumbs that a man is throwing at you.
Well then dump him then. I hope his new neighbor is cute, can cook like his Mom and is less demanding.
Having self respect is not being demanding. You are just a troll
Posted by PoppyseedsI'm done with this soul sucker. 😆Posted by kissmygritsMay be you are a doormat who will take any crumbs that a man is throwing at you.
Well then dump him then. I hope his new neighbor is cute, can cook like his Mom and is less demanding.
Having self respect is not being demanding. You are just a trollclick to expand
I remember you from before over analyzing a date that he tried to make up for. Now you're again making something about him responding the way you want. He's freaking busy. If you think it's rude tell him to his face. Why do you need our validation?
Posted by kissmygritsYou said you are done and you posted after this. Make your mind up woman.Posted by PoppyseedsI'm done with this soul sucker. 😆Posted by kissmygritsMay be you are a doormat who will take any crumbs that a man is throwing at you.
Well then dump him then. I hope his new neighbor is cute, can cook like his Mom and is less demanding.
Having self respect is not being demanding. You are just a trollclick to expand
I guess I'm not doing a good job as soul sucker as you are still alive and posting.
@arielle83 @DividedWeCapricorn @illuminati @Islandgal24
Just an update, later on he reacher out to me and said he realized that he didn't respond to my invitations. He apologized for that and gave me a clear no, then he asked if I'm free on the weekend to go out.
@arielle83 you didn't only just get me, you get him as well 🙂
Just an update, later on he reacher out to me and said he realized that he didn't respond to my invitations. He apologized for that and gave me a clear no, then he asked if I'm free on the weekend to go out.
@arielle83 you didn't only just get me, you get him as well 🙂
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