Cancer man - what why whatt?!

Hey,

So I have been talking, cuddling, having sex with this Cancer man since september 2018. We live very close to each other so we see each other basically every day. In December he asked if we could be officially together. Ofcourse I said yes! But then 3 days passed and boom, he said that I am not the woman he wants. He wants someone who will go to the countryside with him in the future, but I am a city girl (in his head!). I did not try to explain myself as it was clear he made his decision. And I have learned that if a man does not want you, he does not want you. Some days passed and we started to talk again lol. As I still liked him and the sex was good, I asked if he wanted to be friends with benefits UNTIL one of us finds new partner.

Its been 3 months now. AND as I recall, buddies like this do not hang every day, do not cuddle, kiss, sleepovers etc. He still tells me he looks for another woman. A good woman. And hell yeah, I am one! I am a very good woman from a good fam, but yeah...

So every day when he comes from work, he texts, then we go grocery shopping or go out eating. Then home, chilling and going to bed. I wake up in the morning, grab my stuff and go to my home. And its everyday like this besides weekends. Friday to Sunday 24/7 together. And yet he still tells me no intrest in me whatsoever! He made me gift on Valentines Day, even bought a toothbrush for me in his house!

I know all his friends, they know me by my name. We chill together, him holding me the entrire time. Sometimes making little remarks about our future?! Like oh you will have to get used to it etc.

So if he is looking for a good woman out there, how can you find it if you are with me all the time? He does not sit in his phone at all when we are together so every night. You cant have normal contact with other women if every night you cant talk to them. Just me.

What do u think? His my first Cancer man and its weird. Maybe without feelings, just loneliness, makes them act this way and I am a fool thinking that maybe maybe... otherwise why he is like this?

His moon in gem, venus in gem. What else?

I dont know why I fall for this. I am just baffled that a man can feel nothing yet spends all time with me.

I speak only from the perspective of watching/hearing my Cancer guy friends do this. Basically there is a blockage in this guy's brain regarding a possible connection with you. Are you in any way affiliated with one of his close friends, such as an ex or a relative? Does dating you in anyway impact his work or social circle? The feelings may be there, but the Cancer guy may know this is a risky investment.

Cancers can be notoriously evasive when it comes to blooming relationships, but the men can be far more difficult to pin down. They sidestep so much in the beginning, they basically run in circles. From the mouth of a close Cancer friend, "I'm just waiting for the other shoe to drop." A Cancer man may throw strange obstacles in your way to see how you react. Cancer men like women who will make them feel emotionally secure. They want a partner who can handle whatever emotional fluctuations may arise.

That being said, I would never tell a person to tolerate this behavior. If you wish to speed up this process, then just let him know how much you actually care about him. Call him out for being afraid, but not in a mean way (remember he's looking for emotional security). Instead just lay down the facts and tell him that you can see through his fear. Tell him that your are still interested, but you're not interested in playing mind games. Then let him figure out the rest. I know some women who were able to work things out and others who decided to leave. It all depends on if the Cancer man can get out of his own way. Good luck!

Posted by Schawq

Ewwwww please just use him for sex. A man who likes you but can’t rise up to the occasion and make you his woman when you’re worth it is not really a man at all anyway. Cancer men need to be taken care of anyway, and you’re a Taurus queen who needs a real man.

I do think that he needs a woman with a tough personality, like a mother. I am a peaceful taurus who wants an equal partner, both take care of eachother and when in need one needs more than other. Thats why I am confused too - we have a connection yet like.. I dont know.

I am not contacting himself, very very very rarely. So I am not available to him all the time just because I need proper ground, if I dont have then I am careful and maybe a bit aloof.

And also, the only thing that he can be scared of is the fact that I am a bit of a different woman. I have many men wanting me, trying to contact with me as I look like I do.. so he gets mad when other men make comments about me (i have a curvy body) and men watch me all the time and it frustrates him sometimes. Thats the only thing I can think about as other men in my past has been scares about the same thing.....

Curvy as in big breasts skinny waist and wide hips. 😄

Posted by taurusinsane

And yet he still tells me no intrest in me whatsoever!

Lmao, and yet you still are confused (!!!!). The exclamation point alone was hysterical.

It's interesting because you'd think people care only about sex in FWB scenarios but some care way more about the emotional validation. He gets sex and friendship and this make believe fantasy of a couple...cool chick he can bring around friends etc. He's lazy about going out and meeting other people and will stick by you until someone better comes along..at which point he will make sure to point out candidly that he told you all along you are not the woman he wants.

Yeah ok looking for another female but how can you go out in dates, chat with them etc when you are with another person all the time?

If what you are saying that this makes him a psycopath. Sorry no other word for this. This is just nasty.

He will stop everything with you when he finds this other girl he’s looking for.

Posted by DrinkWater

Tryna hold the upperhand in the relationship by acting unavailable, acting like you're just an option.

Why you fall for this shit OP?

This! She's playing herself big-time 🤦 He's receiving ALL of the benefits of a girlfriend without making it official SMH You need to give yourself some distance because he's taking everything that you give him, for FREE, for granted, easily. Where is the challenge? Standards? Expectations of more....better? It's a funny, funny thing to see FWBs start to cry over a situation they've become vulnerable in creating 🤦

Posted by pinkbird03

He will stop everything with you when he finds this other girl he’s looking for.

Exactly! 😒

I do this. I date other people, talk to tons of guys for attention, sometimes affection if I like them enough, but I’m ultimately searching for the one. They aren’t the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. But they are good enough for now. And that’s what he’s doing with you. Using you until he finds what he’s really looking for.

I know all of this.

I also am looking for a perfect mate that I know I have. I am in this age where I should be looking for a father for my children whom I want before turning 32.

Gosh, the only solution I have right now is moving away from this place because we living this close will make it hard not to see and talk to eachother.

And then boom, I will be moved away and he will be left with his lonely ass, still looking for his perfect woman.

Why I live this life always and always the same thing 😆

Posted by pinkbird03

I do this. I date other people, talk to tons of guys for attention, sometimes affection if I like them enough, but I’m ultimately searching for the one. They aren’t the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. But they are good enough for now. And that’s what he’s doing with you. Using you until he finds what he’s really looking for.

Shitty person arent you? Sorry I dont get this. I NEVER have dated someone who is so-so. ITS WASTING THEIR TIME, and ur just oh well its ok for now... how bad and shitty thing, especially for a woman. Awful, i would be embarrased.

Thats the thing. I would. But he first dumped me and made his decision based on what he thought!! and then later I told it doesnt matter where I live as long as I am with my man.

Before the break up he told me so many things, for example kids together and our future and then boom. Changed. And now I dont know. Pffs weird. I am just thinking about it very much because I dont want to lose someone new while I am with him but i am with him all the time basically so i also cant find someone if i am with him.

Posted by taurusinsane

I dont know why I fall for this. I am just baffled that a man can feel nothing yet spends all time with me.

I'm baffled you keep sleeping with him after he disrespected you.

Posted by taurusinsane

I know all of this.

I also am looking for a perfect mate that I know I have. I am in this age where I should be looking for a father for my children whom I want before turning 32.

Gosh, the only solution I have right now is moving away from this place because we living this close will make it hard not to see and talk to eachother.

And then boom, I will be moved away and he will be left with his lonely ass, still looking for his perfect woman.

Why I live this life always and always the same thing 😆

You're dramatic lol

Why should you leave? You're not weak right? Are you trying to tell me you have no control over your own life? This manipulator has all the power?? Gurl. Just stop.

Say no more and go bout your life.

If you NEED a man b4 32, why are you wasting time with this guy?

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Posted by pinkbird03

I do this. I date other people, talk to tons of guys for attention, sometimes affection if I like them enough, but I’m ultimately searching for the one. They aren’t the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. But they are good enough for now. And that’s what he’s doing with you. Using you until he finds what he’s really looking for.

Shitty person arent you? Sorry I dont get this. I NEVER have dated someone who is so-so. ITS WASTING THEIR TIME, and ur just oh well its ok for now... how bad and shitty thing, especially for a woman. Awful, i would be embarrased.

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Have that same energy with him.

You got all the mouth and cutting words for her but youre a mute when it comes to this guy.

Posted by taurusinsane

Thats the thing. I would. But he first dumped me and made his decision based on what he thought!! and then later I told it doesnt matter where I live as long as I am with my man.

Before the break up he told me so many things, for example kids together and our future and then boom. Changed. And now I dont know. Pffs weird. I am just thinking about it very much because I dont want to lose someone new while I am with him but i am with him all the time basically so i also cant find someone if i am with him.

Again. Gurl stop it.

He dumped you and then you had sex with him.. hello from the otherside—?

You are in control of you. You can actually say no and hang out with someone else. You're not helpless.

Girl u are so right!!! Huhh thats what i need!

Posted by Chuckcem

I speak only from the perspective of watching/hearing my Cancer guy friends do this. Basically there is a blockage in this guy's brain regarding a possible connection with you. Are you in any way affiliated with one of his close friends, such as an ex or a relative? Does dating you in anyway impact his work or social circle? The feelings may be there, but the Cancer guy may know this is a risky investment.

Cancers can be notoriously evasive when it comes to blooming relationships, but the men can be far more difficult to pin down. They sidestep so much in the beginning, they basically run in circles. From the mouth of a close Cancer friend, "I'm just waiting for the other shoe to drop." A Cancer man may throw strange obstacles in your way to see how you react. Cancer men like women who will make them feel emotionally secure. They want a partner who can handle whatever emotional fluctuations may arise.

That being said, I would never tell a person to tolerate this behavior. If you wish to speed up this process, then just let him know how much you actually care about him. Call him out for being afraid, but not in a mean way (remember he's looking for emotional security). Instead just lay down the facts and tell him that you can see through his fear. Tell him that your are still interested, but you're not interested in playing mind games. Then let him figure out the rest. I know some women who were able to work things out and others who decided to leave. It all depends on if the Cancer man can get out of his own way. Good luck!

^ 💯 this!

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Posted by taurusinsane

And yet he still tells me no intrest in me whatsoever!

Lmao, and yet you still are confused (!!!!). The exclamation point alone was hysterical.

It's interesting because you'd think people care only about sex in FWB scenarios but some care way more about the emotional validation. He gets sex and friendship and this make believe fantasy of a couple...cool chick he can bring around friends etc. He's lazy about going out and meeting other people and will stick by you until someone better comes along..at which point he will make sure to point out candidly that he told you all along you are not the woman he wants.

Crab men can be nasty ppl but if he clings to her like this, than ther's an emotional connection

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Would you continue to indulge someone who straight up told you , you are not for them?

Not thinking he's Hitler but emotional connection really means squat.

Posted by Ellygant

I did this with a cancer on/off for a year. He was more unstable tho. When I finally put my foot down on no more back and forth he apparently went on a drinking and drug binder for a few months. Came back. Spent one day cussing me out all day. Said he was just using me for comfort and sex and attention, telling me what he had to do I wouldn’t see others. Said he would never be with me I was just a placeholder and his whore. Disappeared again.

He had another girlfriend for a month. But she left him. He said it was cause she was a whore. Lol. I feel like it’s probably less her than him tho.

His dumb ass still invites me out for drinks or to hook up every few months regularly. After I’ve told him multiple times no. I just ignore the messages now.

Some cancer men are really amazing. But ones that act like this normally are pretty empty and needy and not capable of having that equal partnership you’re talking about wanting, not for a very very long time at least. There’s nothing confusing about him. It’s clear he’s not fit to provide a relationship to you.

He was just lashing out and trying to hurt you because you basically dumped him and that hurt him...not making an excuse for his behavior at all because it's uncalled for for sure.

The cancer I know after I basically walked away told his now "gf" that I meant nothing to him and that I was something to do when bored. 🙄🙄🙄😂 (The reason why I know she isn't lying because it was a fear of mine at the time...which I discussed with him plus he KNOWS me...we had been friends for almost 20 yrs). For 7 yrs he was that bored and would drive an hour and a half to see me, tell me he loved me then take it back, wanted me to have his babies and the nine....but he was just bored 😂. Cancer men are something else especially the unevolved ones....big man children lol. I still love and care about him though... despite what he says because I know it ain't the truth. 🤷

Yeah thats whats interesting - he acts all lovely dovely, writes to me all the time, remembers every little detail about me and just watches me when I do something.

He has been hurt in the past. And I see in his eyes he is scared, of something. Himself or I dont know what. He is lonely. And said hopeless to find that perfect match.

But also me. I am a bit insecure and i was in a bad relationship. And maybe thats why I dont care about the fact he doesnt want me because I am used to it, thats what I deserve? I think some of you know about this kind of thing...

I think that maybe just moving away, and when he texts me as usual I will say, I moved away. You had me, you lost me. And then if he wants, he would do something. But its my plan and I will cancel my renting period, which will end in the end of May.

Cuddling, hugging, kissing etc. And no feelings? Why is that so hard to just put my heads around it?!

Weird world. I rather be single than with a so-so person to fill my void.

There is just to sides. My inner gut is usually right. To just wait. And be friends as I am also not very open and he sees that and sometimes tells me that I am hiding myself.

Or I am just baffled the way he acts and is with me and its taken my mind.

What to believe. What to belieeeeveee.

OP... bottom line is...you need to set your boundaries with him...speak your truth but use finesse. If he truly cares for you he will step up and if not...you step out and move on.

Posted by taurusinsane

Hey,

So I have been talking, cuddling, having sex with this Cancer man since september 2018. We live very close to each other so we see each other basically every day. In December he asked if we could be officially together. Ofcourse I said yes! But then 3 days passed and boom, he said that I am not the woman he wants. He wants someone who will go to the countryside with him in the future, but I am a city girl (in his head!). I did not try to explain myself as it was clear he made his decision. And I have learned that if a man does not want you, he does not want you. Some days passed and we started to talk again lol. As I still liked him and the sex was good, I asked if he wanted to be friends with benefits UNTIL one of us finds new partner.

Its been 3 months now. AND as I recall, buddies like this do not hang every day, do not cuddle, kiss, sleepovers etc. He still tells me he looks for another woman. A good woman. And hell yeah, I am one! I am a very good woman from a good fam, but yeah...

So every day when he comes from work, he texts, then we go grocery shopping or go out eating. Then home, chilling and going to bed. I wake up in the morning, grab my stuff and go to my home. And its everyday like this besides weekends. Friday to Sunday 24/7 together. And yet he still tells me no intrest in me whatsoever! He made me gift on Valentines Day, even bought a toothbrush for me in his house!

I know all his friends, they know me by my name. We chill together, him holding me the entrire time. Sometimes making little remarks about our future?! Like oh you will have to get used to it etc.

So if he is looking for a good woman out there, how can you find it if you are with me all the time? He does not sit in his phone at all when we are together so every night. You cant have normal contact with other women if every night you cant talk to them. Just me.

What do u think? His my first Cancer man and its weird. Maybe without feelings, just loneliness, makes them act this way and I am a fool thinking that maybe maybe... otherwise why he is like this?

His moon in gem, venus in gem. What else?

"Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?"

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

I am not immature. I also protect myself from getting hurt - we have had this convos and he says the same thing.

Please do not say I am immature. I am a broken woman who just wants love and to love.

And we were officially together 3 days only, when he said that we cant be together. That he has feelings and we went into relationship too fast and ofc the country side thing.

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Posted by Ellygant

I did this with a cancer on/off for a year. He was more unstable tho. When I finally put my foot down on no more back and forth he apparently went on a drinking and drug binder for a few months. Came back. Spent one day cussing me out all day. Said he was just using me for comfort and sex and attention, telling me what he had to do I wouldn’t see others. Said he would never be with me I was just a placeholder and his whore. Disappeared again.

He had another girlfriend for a month. But she left him. He said it was cause she was a whore. Lol. I feel like it’s probably less her than him tho.

His dumb ass still invites me out for drinks or to hook up every few months regularly. After I’ve told him multiple times no. I just ignore the messages now.

Some cancer men are really amazing. But ones that act like this normally are pretty empty and needy and not capable of having that equal partnership you’re talking about wanting, not for a very very long time at least. There’s nothing confusing about him. It’s clear he’s not fit to provide a relationship to you.

He was just lashing out and trying to hurt you because you basically dumped him and that hurt him...not making an excuse for his behavior at all because it's uncalled for for sure.

The cancer I know after I basically walked away told his now "gf" that I meant nothing to him and that I was something to do when bored. 🙄🙄🙄😂. For 7 yrs he was that bored and would drive an hour and a half to see me, tell me he loved me then take it back, wanted me to have his babies and the nine....but he was just bored 😂. Cancer men are something else especially the unevolved ones....big man children lol. I still love and care about him though... despite what he says because I know it ain't the truth. 🤷

I didn’t really dump him tho. I just walked away. He asked me to come over. I said I wanted to but I wanted to really be with him and not just part time. He said that was never gonna happen. I politely declined and wished him well. Then he popped up on me three months later angry as fuck lmao.

I have mad love for my old flame cancer. I still know when he wants to reach out cause he’ll stalk my dreams, normally when he’s doing bad in life. Then I’ll get a call or a text the next day.

But that kind of behavior is not sustainable to the life I want. I hope in my heart he really finds someone that is everything he needs. But I’ve felt way better without him.

Cancer men are a trip. My friends are amazing tho. They love the ever living mess outta their wives and have the cutest families. My godfather is a cancer and he’s one of the most amazing men I know. I got a lotta respect for some of em. The ones I don’t tho, we keep outta orbit. 😆

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Well walking away and dumping to me is basically the same but I understand. When a cancer man is angry...they are ANGRY...I have yet to get the anger from mine but I have a feeling it's coming...but then again he had a hard time being mad at me but I know I'll hear it from him one of these days when he grows up some.

No...I agree the behavior is unacceptable and you did what was best for you...nothing wrong with that at all.

That's the potential I see in the cancer I know...he just has a lot of growing up to do to get there but I wish him the best because he really does deserve it. Plus he isn't 💯 to blame...I played my part and played it well unfortunately lol.

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Posted by taurusinsane

And yet he still tells me no intrest in me whatsoever!

Lmao, and yet you still are confused (!!!!). The exclamation point alone was hysterical.

It's interesting because you'd think people care only about sex in FWB scenarios but some care way more about the emotional validation. He gets sex and friendship and this make believe fantasy of a couple...cool chick he can bring around friends etc. He's lazy about going out and meeting other people and will stick by you until someone better comes along..at which point he will make sure to point out candidly that he told you all along you are not the woman he wants.

Crab men can be nasty ppl but if he clings to her like this, than ther's an emotional connection

Would you continue to indulge someone who straight up told you , you are not for them?

Not thinking he's Hitler but emotional connection really means squat.

Crabs say alot of things to defend their sensitive little hearts

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I agree but it's on you to clarify you didn't mean it like that. It's hurtful what he said if he actually feels more for her.

Yeah. Fluff it is.

Oh yeah and I almost forgot the mom thing. I am not like his mom, who he adores. Thats why also we cannot be together.

God damn I need to get away from this 😂

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Posted by pinkbird03

I do this. I date other people, talk to tons of guys for attention, sometimes affection if I like them enough, but I’m ultimately searching for the one. They aren’t the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. But they are good enough for now. And that’s what he’s doing with you. Using you until he finds what he’s really looking for.

Shitty person arent you? Sorry I dont get this. I NEVER have dated someone who is so-so. ITS WASTING THEIR TIME, and ur just oh well its ok for now... how bad and shitty thing, especially for a woman. Awful, i would be embarrased.

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Your not dating though. You guys are killing time in a fwb until someone better comes along. And it was YOUR suggestion.

Romantic. I'm jealous.

Be happy and content with the time you do spend with him. What you have is something I would cherish deeply.

I understand it's hard not to think about the future and where to stand in the relationship but maybe this is all there is, or either you should make a move. Women forget that's important sometimes and men can be scared and insecure too.

But what do I know. I'm fucking 21. Haha

Remember how you felt with the Aqua? This is just history repeating itself.

Posted by taurusinsane

Hey,

So I have been talking, cuddling, having sex with this Cancer man since september 2018. We live very close to each other so we see each other basically every day. In December he asked if we could be officially together. Ofcourse I said yes! But then 3 days passed and boom, he said that I am not the woman he wants. He wants someone who will go to the countryside with him in the future, but I am a city girl (in his head!). I did not try to explain myself as it was clear he made his decision. And I have learned that if a man does not want you, he does not want you. Some days passed and we started to talk again lol. As I still liked him and the sex was good, I asked if he wanted to be friends with benefits UNTIL one of us finds new partner.

Its been 3 months now. AND as I recall, buddies like this do not hang every day, do not cuddle, kiss, sleepovers etc. He still tells me he looks for another woman. A good woman. And hell yeah, I am one! I am a very good woman from a good fam, but yeah...

So every day when he comes from work, he texts, then we go grocery shopping or go out eating. Then home, chilling and going to bed. I wake up in the morning, grab my stuff and go to my home. And its everyday like this besides weekends. Friday to Sunday 24/7 together. And yet he still tells me no intrest in me whatsoever! He made me gift on Valentines Day, even bought a toothbrush for me in his house!

I know all his friends, they know me by my name. We chill together, him holding me the entrire time. Sometimes making little remarks about our future?! Like oh you will have to get used to it etc.

So if he is looking for a good woman out there, how can you find it if you are with me all the time? He does not sit in his phone at all when we are together so every night. You cant have normal contact with other women if every night you cant talk to them. Just me.

What do u think? His my first Cancer man and its weird. Maybe without feelings, just loneliness, makes them act this way and I am a fool thinking that maybe maybe... otherwise why he is like this?

His moon in gem, venus in gem. What else?

"His moon in gem, venus in gem" that's all you had to say. You know what it is. You pegger the situation correctly.

He's a Cancer Sun. Sun is the ego. He will cuddle, eat spend time cause that's what he likes to do regardless. You're a Taurus and you like the same. That's what y'all like to do regardless.

Why not?

What you need to do is go deeper into his reasoning as to why you're not "the good woman." He might not want to tell you so as not to loose his comfort buddy. But with time, if your delicate and persistent, you may get him to tell you.

Meanwhile enjoy yourself. When you do date someone else, it will run over his ego like a mac truck cause he thinks he has masterfull controll over you - his comfort buddy.

Posted by pinkbird03

He will stop everything with you when he finds this other girl he’s looking for.

Sure will.

Posted by PurplePassion38

I agree with everything @DMV said. My p*ssy would have been dry as the Sahara after he told me I wasn't good enough to be his woman. Super whack.

My pussy pulses stronger than my heartbeat.

U guys are good! Lol.

He just called me and asked what I am doing as I am going out today and he is in the country side.

On Sunday will end the renting a house here and then soon I can move away.

And the one who told about the Aqua man. Yes the same. I wonder why do I attract men who want me but not want me in a relationship. Like whats wrong with me then... i am faithful, love housework, have money, and love sex and so on. And yet they choose other women...

Posted by taurusinsane

U guys are good! Lol.

He just called me and asked what I am doing as I am going out today and he is in the country side.

On Sunday will end the renting a house here and then soon I can move away.

And the one who told about the Aqua man. Yes the same. I wonder why do I attract men who want me but not want me in a relationship. Like whats wrong with me then... i am faithful, love housework, have money, and love sex and so on. And yet they choose other women...

Ask them.

And about the p*ssy thing. U guys.. good sex takes ur p*ssy and you have to have very much self control to get urself removed from it. 😂

Even so when the good d*ck lives next door. It takes some majooor control. Ahh.. yeah.

C’mon u have all been there 😂

I have asked them and its almost the same thing. Not helping at all. And also i think just made up excuses.

Thats the thing. I dont value myself right now this much. I had a very bad relationship where a man bashed me in any way possible. I have perfect white teeth, he kept saying how ugly they are etc. and it made me self doubt myself. And my work got bad at some point and it put a little bad turn on my confidence with that too but i am on the track again with it, and now this guy will be the big mountain to climb and get myself back.

Its interesting how u meet some people and they somehow push u to be with in love with urself not with them. I think thats about this issue.

Just ranting here...

Posted by Black-Mamba

I've never seen you

This is why @Dreamyboy eats ass, you can't see his face, the one only a mother could love.

Just walk away, he is a Creep.. Just like my ex.

This Cancers when insecure, they become manipulative and energy sucking. they are narcissists.

I had a relationship with a Cancer too. And he was the same way, always trying to make me change the way I did things . with the Excuse that If I didnt change it, i didnt care about him. Was very insecure, blamed me of cheating on him, I could not be myself with him it was constant stressing and energy consuming. He was never satisfied bc If things are not their way.. then theres something wrong with You!

Cancers will always try to change you to what they want... Im never dating a cancer again. Hell to the No!

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Posted by Ellygant

I did this with a cancer on/off for a year. He was more unstable tho. When I finally put my foot down on no more back and forth he apparently went on a drinking and drug binder for a few months. Came back. Spent one day cussing me out all day. Said he was just using me for comfort and sex and attention, telling me what he had to do I wouldn’t see others. Said he would never be with me I was just a placeholder and his whore. Disappeared again.

He had another girlfriend for a month. But she left him. He said it was cause she was a whore. Lol. I feel like it’s probably less her than him tho.

His dumb ass still invites me out for drinks or to hook up every few months regularly. After I’ve told him multiple times no. I just ignore the messages now.

Some cancer men are really amazing. But ones that act like this normally are pretty empty and needy and not capable of having that equal partnership you’re talking about wanting, not for a very very long time at least. There’s nothing confusing about him. It’s clear he’s not fit to provide a relationship to you.

So you're taking your own issues and using them to generalize crab men

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One crab that I know was like this also.

Posted by taurusinsane

I am not immature. I also protect myself from getting hurt - we have had this convos and he says the same thing.

Please do not say I am immature. I am a broken woman who just wants love and to love.

I had a relationship with a cancer man. All I will say to you is this: he plays those games in order to control you. He will say things to make you feel insecure and that way you will fall under his control, where you’ll do things exactly how he wants it to be done while your desires and needs will be neglected. He might do a little bit here and there just to keep you quiet. Things that are not hard to do to mask your eyes and make you think as if you two are in a relationship. But the truth is, he wants things his way or the high way and you’re are there to please him. If you think it’s mutual love or whatever fairytale you’re thinking, you’re wrong. If you don’t believe me, test my theory. Ask him to do things such as idk, promote your relationship online, in public, have him meet you with his parents, friends, idk, have him commit to you, declare feelings, whatever. Ask him to do things your way and see what happens. Go ahead and cheat on him, do unforgivable things to him bc he will come if he loves you no matter how bad you are.

The sad thing is, you’re letting him control you. He disrespects you and when you object, seeking justice, he gets mad. You keep coming back after he keeps disrespecting you and eventually you’ll be dumped and heartbroken. Stand for yourself and let those men drol over your curves. Make the most out of you’re strengths and let his ass be insecure. Cheat on him if he deserves. Don’t be the one to move away, ignore him and have him move away with his bullshit.

Posted by taurusinsane

Yeah. Fluff it is.

Oh yeah and I almost forgot the mom thing. I am not like his mom, who he adores. Thats why also we cannot be together.

God damn I need to get away from this 😂

And that cancer guy’a mom is a total bitch.

Posted by taurusinsane

U guys are good! Lol.

He just called me and asked what I am doing as I am going out today and he is in the country side.

On Sunday will end the renting a house here and then soon I can move away.

And the one who told about the Aqua man. Yes the same. I wonder why do I attract men who want me but not want me in a relationship. Like whats wrong with me then... i am faithful, love housework, have money, and love sex and so on. And yet they choose other women...

Bc you have to demand it from the start and ‘SEEK MEN WHO ALSO WANT RELATIONSHIP’.

Posted by taurusinsane

And about the p*ssy thing. U guys.. good sex takes ur p*ssy and you have to have very much self control to get urself removed from it. 😂

Even so when the good d*ck lives next door. It takes some majooor control. Ahh.. yeah.

C’mon u have all been there 😂

You can always masturbate and watch porn. Find fwb that you don’t have feelings for. It can be done if you love yourself and you want the best for yourself. Treat yourself like a queen.