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Cancer man - what why whatt?! (Page 2)
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Posted by taurusinsanePlease do not say I am immature. I am a broken woman who just wants love and to love.
Real.AF
Posted by taurusinsaneYeah. Fluff it is.
Oh yeah and I almost forgot the mom thing. I am not like his mom, who he adores. Thats why also we cannot be together.
God damn I need to get away from this 😂
So he told you all the reasons he dont wanna be with you?!
I'm ready to fight
Posted by PurplePassion38I agree with everything @DMV said. My p*ssy would have been dry as the Sahara after he told me I wasn't good enough to be his woman. Super whack.
That dude woulda been sent straight to Antarctica.
Build a wall
Close the borders.
Posted by PurplePassion38I agree with everything @DMV said. My p*ssy would have been dry as the Sahara after he told me I wasn't good enough to be his woman. Super whack.
Please give his number so I can read him.
Please.
I have so much material.
Posted by CancerAquaSaggI dont know how old you are but past 30 years old ain't nobody got time for that.
Tell him he wasn't your type either and get your dignity back. And move on.
Maybe you validate men too much. I'm the same btw men I like don't want me somehow and it's because I act like fool when I'm attracted to someone. And when I don't care the men fall in love with me lol.
Could be something else though.
This.
My loins ruled me way into my early 30s.
Then I was like wait a minute, I hold the power—
Posted by taurusinsaneThats the thing. I dont value myself right now this much. I had a very bad relationship where a man bashed me in any way possible. I have perfect white teeth, he kept saying how ugly they are etc. and it made me self doubt myself. And my work got bad at some point and it put a little bad turn on my confidence with that too but i am on the track again with it, and now this guy will be the big mountain to climb and get myself back.
Its interesting how u meet some people and they somehow push u to be with in love with urself not with them. I think thats about this issue.
Just ranting here...
Interestingly enough, a Gemini pushed me into self love. He was beat like a drum.
I was like HOLD UP.
Bish, you ain't the prize!
Posted by virgoopcancer moons act like that too
so frustrating
just walk away
I don't back track once I invest.
Posted by nousernamePosted by taurusinsaneI am not immature. I also protect myself from getting hurt - we have had this convos and he says the same thing.
Please do not say I am immature. I am a broken woman who just wants love and to love.
I had a relationship with a cancer man. All I will say to you is this: he plays those games in order to control you. He will say things to make you feel insecure and that way you will fall under his control, where you’ll do things exactly how he wants it to be done while your desires and needs will be neglected. He might do a little bit here and there just to keep you quiet. Things that are not hard to do to mask your eyes and make you think as if you two are in a relationship. But the truth is, he wants things his way or the high way and you’re are there to please him. If you think it’s mutual love or whatever fairytale you’re thinking, you’re wrong. If you don’t believe me, test my theory. Ask him to do things such as idk, promote your relationship online, in public, have him meet you with his parents, friends, idk, have him commit to you, declare feelings, whatever. Ask him to do things your way and see what happens. Go ahead and cheat on him, do unforgivable things to him bc he will come if he loves you no matter how bad you are.
The sad thing is, you’re letting him control you. He disrespects you and when you object, seeking justice, he gets mad. You keep coming back after he keeps disrespecting you and eventually you’ll be dumped and heartbroken. Stand for yourself and let those men drol over your curves. Make the most out of you’re strengths and let his ass be insecure. Cheat on him if he deserves. Don’t be the one to move away, ignore him and have him move away with his bullshit.
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Solid.
Ask him to do an errand or help you out with something.
Then...you'll 👀
Posted by taurusinsaneU guys are good! Lol.
He just called me and asked what I am doing as I am going out today and he is in the country side.
On Sunday will end the renting a house here and then soon I can move away.
And the one who told about the Aqua man. Yes the same. I wonder why do I attract men who want me but not want me in a relationship. Like whats wrong with me then... i am faithful, love housework, have money, and love sex and so on. And yet they choose other women...
Because when they say they aren't ready for a relationship YOU introduce the idea of staying fwb.
Stop doing that. Set your boundaries and it won't happen.
Posted by nousernamePosted by taurusinsaneI am not immature. I also protect myself from getting hurt - we have had this convos and he says the same thing.
Please do not say I am immature. I am a broken woman who just wants love and to love.
I had a relationship with a cancer man. All I will say to you is this: he plays those games in order to control you. He will say things to make you feel insecure and that way you will fall under his control, where you’ll do things exactly how he wants it to be done while your desires and needs will be neglected. He might do a little bit here and there just to keep you quiet. Things that are not hard to do to mask your eyes and make you think as if you two are in a relationship. But the truth is, he wants things his way or the high way and you’re are there to please him. If you think it’s mutual love or whatever fairytale you’re thinking, you’re wrong. If you don’t believe me, test my theory. Ask him to do things such as idk, promote your relationship online, in public, have him meet you with his parents, friends, idk, have him commit to you, declare feelings, whatever. Ask him to do things your way and see what happens. Go ahead and cheat on him, do unforgivable things to him bc he will come if he loves you no matter how bad you are.
The sad thing is, you’re letting him control you. He disrespects you and when you object, seeking justice, he gets mad. You keep coming back after he keeps disrespecting you and eventually you’ll be dumped and heartbroken. Stand for yourself and let those men drol over your curves. Make the most out of you’re strengths and let his ass be insecure. Cheat on him if he deserves. Don’t be the one to move away, ignore him and have him move away with his bullshit.
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what sign are you?
Posted by taurusinsanehe said that I am not the woman he wants.
As I still liked him and the sex was good, I asked if he wanted to be friends with benefits UNTIL one of us finds new partner.
Believe a guy when he says your not the woman he wants a relationship with.
Keep throwing your pussy at him isn't going to change that.
To one commenter who asked if I need help or ask help, he wont help.
He always helps with anything I ask. He has helped me many times.
I am going out with this other dude tomorrow, wii!!! 🙂))
Posted by saggurl88Posted by virgoopcancer moons act like that too
so frustrating
just walk away
I don't back track once I invest.
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I love cancer moons.
This is not up for debate
Posted by taurusinsaneTo one commenter who asked if I need help or ask help, he wont help.
He always helps with anything I ask. He has helped me many times.
I am going out with this other dude tomorrow, wii!!! 🙂))
Have a great time. You deserve it
Has borrowed his car, drove me into places when needed, fixing things at my home.
But i think any guy will do these things. (To even things out 😂)
Thanks. I am searching now what sign this dude have lol
Posted by DMVPosted by saggurl88Posted by virgoopcancer moons act like that too
so frustrating
just walk away
I don't back track once I invest.
I love cancer moons.
This is not up for debate
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I love Scorpio Moons too. It fits well with my Venus. I adore the craziness lol
Posted by taurusinsanePosted by pinkbird03I do this. I date other people, talk to tons of guys for attention, sometimes affection if I like them enough, but I’m ultimately searching for the one. They aren’t the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. But they are good enough for now. And that’s what he’s doing with you. Using you until he finds what he’s really looking for.
Shitty person arent you? Sorry I dont get this. I NEVER have dated someone who is so-so. ITS WASTING THEIR TIME, and ur just oh well its ok for now... how bad and shitty thing, especially for a woman. Awful, i would be embarrased.
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Not shitty if we’re honest with the person we’re dating. Which he is. He’s telling you he’s looking for another girl. You’re choice to stay! He has done nothing wrong and is not to blame when he leaves you for good.
Yes
Posted by shellshockerPosted by nousernamePosted by taurusinsaneI am not immature. I also protect myself from getting hurt - we have had this convos and he says the same thing.
Please do not say I am immature. I am a broken woman who just wants love and to love.
I had a relationship with a cancer man. All I will say to you is this: he plays those games in order to control you. He will say things to make you feel insecure and that way you will fall under his control, where you’ll do things exactly how he wants it to be done while your desires and needs will be neglected. He might do a little bit here and there just to keep you quiet. Things that are not hard to do to mask your eyes and make you think as if you two are in a relationship. But the truth is, he wants things his way or the high way and you’re are there to please him. If you think it’s mutual love or whatever fairytale you’re thinking, you’re wrong. If you don’t believe me, test my theory. Ask him to do things such as idk, promote your relationship online, in public, have him meet you with his parents, friends, idk, have him commit to you, declare feelings, whatever. Ask him to do things your way and see what happens. Go ahead and cheat on him, do unforgivable things to him bc he will come if he loves you no matter how bad you are.
The sad thing is, you’re letting him control you. He disrespects you and when you object, seeking justice, he gets mad. You keep coming back after he keeps disrespecting you and eventually you’ll be dumped and heartbroken. Stand for yourself and let those men drol over your curves. Make the most out of you’re strengths and let his ass be insecure. Cheat on him if he deserves. Don’t be the one to move away, ignore him and have him move away with his bullshit.
what sign are you?
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Gemini. And Cancer men ain’t shit.
Posted by taurusinsaneHas borrowed his car, drove me into places when needed, fixing things at my home.
But i think any guy will do these things. (To even things out 😂)
Keep testing how loyal these dudes are to you. Flip their game back on them.
Posted by vivi4656Was he cheated on in his past?
So what if he was cheated on? Not everyone cheats. That’s an excuse to cheat on others. Lame excuse. Oh God, this post just keeps exacerbating my dislike of sucky cancer men.
The cancer man is very crafty so be careful and don’t ever think he don’t have other females they know how to give you all the attention in the world and still entertain past lovers!
yeah, so we are still hanging out every day. and he does not use his phone when we are together, and not in his work time also, so i dont know where and when he could possibly have a "soon-in-a-new-relationship" kind of chat with someone, even with past lovers. you cant have a normal ongoing convo when you answer them one time a day or whatever. in the weekends we are both off our mobiles for 3 days straight lol.
we still go out together, make food together, go to sleep together. and he is starting to like... being more and more lovely each day. and he sees me in my dreams so often haha so funny to see him talk about this. "you know i saw you in my dreams again".
i still dont know what stand to take.. and when i do say stuff like "in the future my husband will do that or has to to something blabla", he gets all sad.
My advice is stop having sex and giving your all and doing relationship things before you get into the relationship. When he broke up with you from that day you were supposed to stop all those relationship things and give him distance and space to soak in his decision. You got comfortable and so did he. He tried you and he was right. Like okay well I don’t need to commit if she’ll still do relationship things with me outside of one.
Also, maybe he doesn’t have his phone around you so you won’t see it going off idk 🤷🏾♀️. If you won’t be hurt in the long run then okay keep it going but just be careful.
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If you want men to give you confidence, you will always lack it. You can only rely on yourself. You have to love yourself first before any man comes forward. Ugh,.... hope this makes sense. Don’t let men rule you. If he earns you, he can have you. In the mean time, respect yourself, people around you and work on becoming the best that you can be.