Cancer men naturally jealous?

So, my sweet Cancer man has shown a new side. haha. He told me he loved me about two weeks ago and things are amazing. However, i'm noticing a new side to him. The other day I posted a picture on IG and he my best friend Joe started commenting and we were having back-and-forth banter. He immediately text me asking who he was. When I told him my best friend he just said "haha ok". Then the other night I was having a cigarette and my neighbor was on the porch. He came busting out of the house like very assertive saying "hello" but there was a heavy underlining assertion of dominance. Later on he said twice " You guys seemed like you were having a nice convo". We literally were talking about our landlord and a broken window. It was very peculiar. He has not been direct or said anything out-of-line or caused a fuss. However, I am noticing this and its still early in our relationship 3.5 months officially together. Should I anticipate jealousy?!

lol. I dont think it would be something you can't handle if your relationship has been great up to now. Dont sweat it.

I'm assuming that "lol" means "hell yeah"... haha Great!

He's like the nicest guy I've ever met. So, to see this aggressive side took me off guard. My neighbor immediately went inside. It was obvious the conversation was being "wrapped up". hahaha

No, it means on this forum where there has been continual trolling and sensationalism for a long time about cancers, especially in a dating context, your topic name and the contrasting content of your post makes your intentions highly suspect. But, from your post history I'll give you the benefit of the doubt.

My Cancer dude is amazing. I don't relate to 90% of the portrayals of Cancer men on this board. He just didn't ever strike me as the jealous type.

He has not been direct or said anything out-of-line or caused a fuss. However, I am noticing this and its still early in our relationship 3.5 months officially together. Should I anticipate jealousy?!

I would not focus on it unless you want it to become an issue. I knew a person (not dating context) who kept telling me I was angry about something, every day he'd come up to me and ask me why I was angry even though I wasn't. After several months of this, every day, asking me if I was angry, I got angry. I dont want you to do that to your crab. Make sense?

I'm not upset by it at all. Just wondering if jealousy is considered a Cancer trait in particular. I know we can all be jealous. Just a curiosity if anyone has those feelings, or has experienced them through another lover.

Jealousy is a trait attributed to cancers, same with suspicion in scorpios, fake-flakiness in libra, head strong recklessness in aries, cold detachment in aquarians, etc.

rabidtalker. Oh, for sure. I understand what you're saying 🙂

I dated a Scorpio Stellium man for 4 years. I didn't see much of the suspicious traits and whatnot until the end! That shit came full force though!

I am flaky, however not fake. Opps! ha

If you're doing something inappropriate that makes him feel uncomfortable, then he might have a leg to stand on.

If he's interrupting conversations/encounters that you want to have because he's insecure, then you could have a problem.

Just saying, it's something to keep an eye on.

Seems like you are just starting to go out, since he's just finding out your best friend is a guy (named Joe).

There is a balance between you having freedom to talk to whomever you want to, and not doing anything that would make him feel uncomfortable.

Observe then talk about it if you need to.

The cancer guy I know is never jealous, or does h e? I'm slow so I don't know. I'm usually the one getting jealous, I try to play it off cool. He finds it cute. ?

I don't play that "best friend" bullshit. If I were him, I would have dropped your ass.

There is simply NO SUCH THING as a "male bestfriend" unless he's gay or family. It always leads to something more.

I have a lot of friends, he is actually one of my best friends for over 6 years now. He helped me get out of a really bad relationship and has always been a solid friend. I do understand your thoughts as I sometimes have those feelings as well. But, this is in fact my very good friend.

Best friends between males and females can happen.

I have females that are best friends to me. One in particular that I've known since we were 14 years old. There was also a risk(?) of dating between us but we never had the opportunities due to being away for school or whatever. Our friendship is not intense where we speak every day, we will lose touch and pick up right where we left off over months or longer but I can call her at any moment and she'll have my back.

I simply disagree. I have seen this literally OVER AND OVER AGAIN my entire life. You have the guy that's been your "best friend" for x amount of years. Something goes wrong in your relationship, he's there for you. You end up fu cking. Notice that this is always a case of the guy being single "best friend", while the girl is in a relationship.

He's just stuck in the friend zone.

I also find the double standard to be funny as fuck. If you're a girl with a guy friend, the boyfriend is "insecure" for questioning it. But if a guy had a girl "best friend" while in a relationship, the girlfriend almost always would throw a tantrum and nobody would question it. One of the many interesting double standards I see between men and women.

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I simply disagree. I have seen this literally OVER AND OVER AGAIN my entire life. You have the guy that's been your "best friend" for x amount of years. Something goes wrong in your relationship, he's there for you. You end up fu cking. Notice that this is always a case of the guy being single "best friend", while the girl is in a relationship.

He's just stuck in the friend zone.

I also find the double standard to be funny as fuck. If you're a girl with a guy friend, the boyfriend is "insecure" for questioning it. But if a guy had a girl "best friend" while in a relationship, the girlfriend almost always would throw a tantrum and nobody would question it. One of the many interesting double standards I see between men and women.

I'm not gonna lie the opportunities were there from both our sides with each other but we never had feelings for the other at the same time so it never happened.

I also recognize what you're talking about regarding the double standard. If you both aren't single, you have to give the other person space when she/he meets someone new.

You cant have this with every girl you befriend, but similarly not everyone can be your best friend too. It's very few people this can happen with AND circumstances have to permit.

When my Cancer guy and I were a couple months in, I brought my guy best friend with me to the bar my Cancer works at. Mind you, he had been there with me before and my Cancer guy had sort of met him. My guy walked up and gave me a high five (odd for him) and then disappeared/didn't acknowledge me for 45 min. Finally, he came back and acted normal. Later, he told me he thought I was on a date with my friend. I was like, do you really think I'm that shitty of a person that I'd do that and he said, no, that's why I like you. Puh-lease. He was jealous.

He definitely is a jealous guy. I like it, though. My Sag exhusband could have watched me bang 10 guys and not batted an eyelash. Not attractive.

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When my Cancer guy and I were a couple months in, I brought my guy best friend with me to the bar my Cancer works at. Mind you, he had been there with me before and my Cancer guy had sort of met him. My guy walked up and gave me a high five (odd for him) and then disappeared/didn't acknowledge me for 45 min. Finally, he came back and acted normal. Later, he told me he thought I was on a date with my friend. I was like, do you really think I'm that shitty of a person that I'd do that and he said, no, that's why I like you. Puh-lease. He was jealous.

He definitely is a jealous guy. I like it, though. My Sag exhusband could have watched me bang 10 guys and not batted an eyelash. Not attractive.

that's crazy. about your ex SAG i hate men like that.

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He says it's caused him a lot of problems in his relationships since me. Most women don't like that.

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My Cancer dude is amazing. I don't relate to 90% of the portrayals of Cancer men on this board. He just didn't ever strike me as the jealous type.

There's a difference between being jealous and being possessive. He's just making his presence known to other males he perceives might be into you. He's all, "nah man she's mine".

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as my dad always tells me, there are no friendships between men and women

i agree. unless you're gay, you either a past Fuk, a present fuk, or a future fuk

When Harry met Sally

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So, my sweet Cancer man has shown a new side. haha. He told me he loved me about two weeks ago and things are amazing. However, i'm noticing a new side to him. The other day I posted a picture on IG and he my best friend Joe started commenting and we were having back-and-forth banter. He immediately text me asking who he was. When I told him my best friend he just said "haha ok". Then the other night I was having a cigarette and my neighbor was on the porch. He came busting out of the house like very assertive saying "hello" but there was a heavy underlining assertion of dominance. Later on he said twice " You guys seemed like you were having a nice convo". We literally were talking about our landlord and a broken window. It was very peculiar. He has not been direct or said anything out-of-line or caused a fuss. However, I am noticing this and its still early in our relationship 3.5 months officially together. Should I anticipate jealousy?!

Some advice if you're going to be on social media don't friend each other and if you're a friend (especially a male) that we don't know keep it short at least while we are around. Good luck.

Cancers are jealous. Spend some quality time with him and show him how much u love him

Posted by MiZLeo
Once I went home for lunch to meet a female friend cause she wanted to give me something. I live in a gated community, and at the time my cancer husband would be the one whose phone was hooked up to the gate code if anyone came over. So, she used it when she came over and about 20 minutes later guess who came storming in thinking he was going to catch me with another man. We just both looked at him sideways. He tried to play it off like he was coming home for lunch anyway(he never came home for lunch) but we both knew what he was doing. That wasn't the only time he showed jealousy but it was the most memorable. Haha.

He was monitoring who was in the house at any given time through his cellphone?

Wow, that sounds Orwellian.

I thought Leos were the only ones who did stupid shit like that.

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When my Cancer guy and I were a couple months in, I brought my guy best friend with me to the bar my Cancer works at. Mind you, he had been there with me before and my Cancer guy had sort of met him. My guy walked up and gave me a high five (odd for him) and then disappeared/didn't acknowledge me for 45 min. Finally, he came back and acted normal. Later, he told me he thought I was on a date with my friend. I was like, do you really think I'm that shitty of a person that I'd do that and he said, no, that's why I like you. Puh-lease. He was jealous.

He definitely is a jealous guy. I like it, though. My Sag exhusband could have watched me bang 10 guys and not batted an eyelash. Not attractive.

that's crazy. about your ex SAG i hate men like that.

He says it's caused him a lot of problems in his relationships since me. Most women don't like that.

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That's a double edged sword. Once you show you are jealous you come off as weak, insecure and needy and women tend to finde that not attractive at all. And once you don't give a fuck you are being labeled as a carefree asshole. I would rather be called the latter. 😉

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When my Cancer guy and I were a couple months in, I brought my guy best friend with me to the bar my Cancer works at. Mind you, he had been there with me before and my Cancer guy had sort of met him. My guy walked up and gave me a high five (odd for him) and then disappeared/didn't acknowledge me for 45 min. Finally, he came back and acted normal. Later, he told me he thought I was on a date with my friend. I was like, do you really think I'm that shitty of a person that I'd do that and he said, no, that's why I like you. Puh-lease. He was jealous.

He definitely is a jealous guy. I like it, though. My Sag exhusband could have watched me bang 10 guys and not batted an eyelash. Not attractive.

that's crazy. about your ex SAG i hate men like that.

He says it's caused him a lot of problems in his relationships since me. Most women don't like that.

That's a double edged sword. Once you show you are jealous you come off as weak, insecure and needy and women tend to finde that not attractive at all. And once you don't give a fuck you are being labeled as a carefree asshole. I would rather be called the latter. 😉

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I agree that there is a fine line between being insecure and needy and totally aloof, but when your best friend says he's going to fuck your wife in front of the wife and you don't bat an eyelash, there's a problem. No woman wants a man who doesn't give two shits about her. I'd rather have the somewhat jealous guy.

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When my Cancer guy and I were a couple months in, I brought my guy best friend with me to the bar my Cancer works at. Mind you, he had been there with me before and my Cancer guy had sort of met him. My guy walked up and gave me a high five (odd for him) and then disappeared/didn't acknowledge me for 45 min. Finally, he came back and acted normal. Later, he told me he thought I was on a date with my friend. I was like, do you really think I'm that shitty of a person that I'd do that and he said, no, that's why I like you. Puh-lease. He was jealous.

He definitely is a jealous guy. I like it, though. My Sag exhusband could have watched me bang 10 guys and not batted an eyelash. Not attractive.

that's crazy. about your ex SAG i hate men like that.

He says it's caused him a lot of problems in his relationships since me. Most women don't like that.

That's a double edged sword. Once you show you are jealous you come off as weak, insecure and needy and women tend to finde that not attractive at all. And once you don't give a fuck you are being labeled as a carefree asshole. I would rather be called the latter. 😉

I agree that there is a fine line between being insecure and needy and totally aloof, but when your best friend says he's going to fuck your wife in front of the wife and you don't bat an eyelash, there's a problem. No woman wants a man who doesn't give two shits about her. I'd rather have the somewhat jealous guy.

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Well that's weird. Did that really happen? What kind of best friend says that while your husband doesn't care at all?

I just want to address one thing here and it's about jealousy because I don't suffer from it in relationships.

If I'm around and I see my guy surrounded by women or catch him being friendly with them, I think of two things:

1) He'a either purposely trying to make me jealous; or

2) He's desperate for attention from the opposite sex.

I don't deal with either kind of men because it's very telling of who you are. These traits reveal you.

The first one tells me that he's an immature jerk that needs to grow up before he decides to date a mature woman like me. I don't do that shit and I don't tolerate it either.

The second one tells me that he's either insecure or that he's a liability as a romantic partner. In other words, he's more likely to cheat. I like confident men because insecure men play a lot of immature games that ultimately destroy the relationship and suck the good out of the relationship. No thanks.

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When my Cancer guy and I were a couple months in, I brought my guy best friend with me to the bar my Cancer works at. Mind you, he had been there with me before and my Cancer guy had sort of met him. My guy walked up and gave me a high five (odd for him) and then disappeared/didn't acknowledge me for 45 min. Finally, he came back and acted normal. Later, he told me he thought I was on a date with my friend. I was like, do you really think I'm that shitty of a person that I'd do that and he said, no, that's why I like you. Puh-lease. He was jealous.

He definitely is a jealous guy. I like it, though. My Sag exhusband could have watched me bang 10 guys and not batted an eyelash. Not attractive.

that's crazy. about your ex SAG i hate men like that.

He says it's caused him a lot of problems in his relationships since me. Most women don't like that.

That's a double edged sword. Once you show you are jealous you come off as weak, insecure and needy and women tend to finde that not attractive at all. And once you don't give a fuck you are being labeled as a carefree asshole. I would rather be called the latter. 😉

I agree that there is a fine line between being insecure and needy and totally aloof, but when your best friend says he's going to fuck your wife in front of the wife and you don't bat an eyelash, there's a problem. No woman wants a man who doesn't give two shits about her. I'd rather have the somewhat jealous guy.

Well that's weird. Did that really happen? What kind of best friend says that while your husband doesn't care at all?

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Yep. We had been together for 14 years at that point. We were driving to Florida together and his friend said "When we get to Florida, you're going to let me fuck your wife, right?" My ex said nothing. He said that he said something to his friend later, but that was too late for me. They were both pieces of shit

So, last night we went to dinner and he was joking about me not being allowed to have any male friends, and also wearing sweats and no makeup when I was out without him. I laughed and said "Yeah, Ok. I'm right on that. Ike Turner. Jr" We were just messing around. His response was "I'm only half joking. I am typically not like this but I must say I feel very possessive. I just don't like the idea of any dude having your time."

So, everyone that was saying "It's not jealousy, its possessiveness" you were right on! It was very playful and actually kind of sweet. I in no way think he means to be controlling or would even freak. I reassured him, but I have no intention on ending my friendships of close to 10 years with my friends. 🙂 I plan on introducing all of them soon.

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When my Cancer guy and I were a couple months in, I brought my guy best friend with me to the bar my Cancer works at. Mind you, he had been there with me before and my Cancer guy had sort of met him. My guy walked up and gave me a high five (odd for him) and then disappeared/didn't acknowledge me for 45 min. Finally, he came back and acted normal. Later, he told me he thought I was on a date with my friend. I was like, do you really think I'm that shitty of a person that I'd do that and he said, no, that's why I like you. Puh-lease. He was jealous.

He definitely is a jealous guy. I like it, though. My Sag exhusband could have watched me bang 10 guys and not batted an eyelash. Not attractive.

that's crazy. about your ex SAG i hate men like that.

He says it's caused him a lot of problems in his relationships since me. Most women don't like that.

That's a double edged sword. Once you show you are jealous you come off as weak, insecure and needy and women tend to finde that not attractive at all. And once you don't give a fuck you are being labeled as a carefree asshole. I would rather be called the latter. 😉

I agree that there is a fine line between being insecure and needy and totally aloof, but when your best friend says he's going to fuck your wife in front of the wife and you don't bat an eyelash, there's a problem. No woman wants a man who doesn't give two shits about her. I'd rather have the somewhat jealous guy.

Well that's weird. Did that really happen? What kind of best friend says that while your husband doesn't care at all?

Yep. We had been together for 14 years at that point. We were driving to Florida together and his friend said "When we get to Florida, you're going to let me fuck your wife, right?" My ex said nothing. He said that he said something to his friend later, but that was too late for me. They were both pieces of shit

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Look, I don't really know you but when a guy and his best buddy act like that and you had been 14 years with him then it definately wasn't the first time they pulled off something like this in front of you. I guess there were tons of red flags that you didn't want to see in the previous years. Usually a lot women get treated like crap in their relationships but they become too dependent and stay.

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So, last night we went to dinner and he was joking about me not being allowed to have any male friends, and also wearing sweats and no makeup when I was out without him. I laughed and said "Yeah, Ok. I'm right on that. Ike Turner. Jr" We were just messing around. His response was "I'm only half joking. I am typically not like this but I must say I feel very possessive. I just don't like the idea of any dude having your time."

So, everyone that was saying "It's not jealousy, its possessiveness" you were right on! It was very playful and actually kind of sweet. I in no way think he means to be controlling or would even freak. I reassured him, but I have no intention on ending my friendships of close to 10 years with my friends. 🙂 I plan on introducing all of them soon.

I highly believe most if not all men are possessive when it comes their women. It usually depends on whether a woman gives them a reason to break out. Some are just good at hiding their feelings.

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When my Cancer guy and I were a couple months in, I brought my guy best friend with me to the bar my Cancer works at. Mind you, he had been there with me before and my Cancer guy had sort of met him. My guy walked up and gave me a high five (odd for him) and then disappeared/didn't acknowledge me for 45 min. Finally, he came back and acted normal. Later, he told me he thought I was on a date with my friend. I was like, do you really think I'm that shitty of a person that I'd do that and he said, no, that's why I like you. Puh-lease. He was jealous.

He definitely is a jealous guy. I like it, though. My Sag exhusband could have watched me bang 10 guys and not batted an eyelash. Not attractive.

that's crazy. about your ex SAG i hate men like that.

He says it's caused him a lot of problems in his relationships since me. Most women don't like that.

That's a double edged sword. Once you show you are jealous you come off as weak, insecure and needy and women tend to finde that not attractive at all. And once you don't give a fuck you are being labeled as a carefree asshole. I would rather be called the latter. 😉

I agree that there is a fine line between being insecure and needy and totally aloof, but when your best friend says he's going to fuck your wife in front of the wife and you don't bat an eyelash, there's a problem. No woman wants a man who doesn't give two shits about her. I'd rather have the somewhat jealous guy.

Well that's weird. Did that really happen? What kind of best friend says that while your husband doesn't care at all?

Yep. We had been together for 14 years at that point. We were driving to Florida together and his friend said "When we get to Florida, you're going to let me fuck your wife, right?" My ex said nothing. He said that he said something to his friend later, but that was too late for me. They were both pieces of shit

Look, I don't really know you but when a guy and his best buddy act like that and you had been 14 years with him then it definately wasn't the first time they pulled off something like this in front of you. I guess there were tons of red flags that you didn't want to see in the previous years. Usually a lot women get treated like crap in their relationships but they become too dependent and stay.

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You're right, it wasn't the first time he had been disrespectful to me. He was that way our whole relationship, but he was way more subtle about it and I honestly didn't even realize how bad it was until I left him. When the thing happened with his friend, it was so blatantly disrespectful that it finally hit me and I left him. I had been going that way anyway but that was the last straw.

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Once I went home for lunch to meet a female friend cause she wanted to give me something. I live in a gated community, and at the time my cancer husband would be the one whose phone was hooked up to the gate code if anyone came over. So, she used it when she came over and about 20 minutes later guess who came storming in thinking he was going to catch me with another man. We just both looked at him sideways. He tried to play it off like he was coming home for lunch anyway(he never came home for lunch) but we both knew what he was doing. That wasn't the only time he showed jealousy but it was the most memorable. Haha.

He was monitoring who was in the house at any given time through his cellphone?

Wow, that sounds Orwellian.

I thought Leos were the only ones who did stupid shit like that.

look at how easily she gives it up, id' be doing the same too, trying to see what' she's up too



she's dickmatized.

chick probably couldn't even be in a healthy stable relationship

without needing 10 dicks in her mouth

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Dear CC, are you a Cancer who snoops?

Posted by TeddyBearMD
I don't play that "best friend" bullshit. If I were him, I would have dropped your ass.

There is simply NO SUCH THING as a "male bestfriend" unless he's gay or family. It always leads to something more.

What a lie. I have 3 male bestfriends. I've known them all since high school and they are like brothers to me. Just cause you haven't experienced a platonic relationship with the opposite sex doesn't mean it's that way for everyone

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I simply disagree. I have seen this literally OVER AND OVER AGAIN my entire life. You have the guy that's been your "best friend" for x amount of years. Something goes wrong in your relationship, he's there for you. You end up fu cking. Notice that this is always a case of the guy being single "best friend", while the girl is in a relationship.

He's just stuck in the friend zone.

I also find the double standard to be funny as fuck. If you're a girl with a guy friend, the boyfriend is "insecure" for questioning it. But if a guy had a girl "best friend" while in a relationship, the girlfriend almost always would throw a tantrum and nobody would question it. One of the many interesting double standards I see between men and women.

Well one of my guy bestfriends got a girlfriend she was slightly insecure about is being friends which is fine I distanced myself as I don't want to cause a problem with my friend but he told her if she had a problem they shouldn't see each other she agreed it was fine after he explained our friendship and now they are married with 2 kids who I visit when I'm home.

I've had breakups and my guy friends have been there for me but more to get me drunk, take me dancing and get over it. Not to try fuck me when I'm vulnerable because they are my friends. If a guy takes advantage of that they are creeps who I wouldn't be friends with