TaurusFlower22
@TaurusFlower22
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Posted by TaurusFlower22You're welcome.Posted by STILLThank you.Posted by TaurusFlower22I've read your posts, but ok. Good luck anyway.Posted by STILLI disagree, but you're definitely entitled to your opinion.Posted by TaurusFlower22I think the last decision you've made was gd for, but you still are hoping and open for him to back.Posted by STILLHow am I putting myself through turmoil?Posted by TaurusFlower22And now you are perpetuating.....why would you still be in like, in love or interested in someone who clearly does not respect you or want you?Posted by pinkbird03Ok, I won't do anything.Posted by TaurusFlower22Yes wait. Show him your serious. Show him you have standards that he must live up to in order to be with you. Or else he will continue the relationship the way it is. And btw. His defense is lame. You can still take things slow as long as he compromises and gives you what you deserve tooPosted by pinkbird03Agreed, and I did just that. It made him mad. He claims that by me choosing to end this FWB thing (he hated when I used that term because he said I wasn't a FWB, but "much more than that" to him 🙄), I wasn't being accepting of him and his need to take things slowly. He made it seem like I was being dishonest with him all along, and with myself. I think for a good month, that was actually the case. Prior to that though, I had no issue with the way things were set up.
He likes that you like him and he wants ownership of you. But is also keeping his options open by not committing.
I think the only way to get commitment is to tell him that you want that or nothing with him. Then walk away until he comes crawling back which he will
I finally unfollowed him back on social media. He says he unfollowed and unfriended me because I ignored his text, and so he took that as me wanting nothing to do with him.
So, I shouldn't contact him anymore, right? Wait for him to contact me first?
Oh, it is SO lame! So, I'm supposed to sit on this shelf and accept this complete disregard for my needs for possibly years (he said it could take years 😂), and then *poof*...suddenly you decide you want us to be in a relationship, and so the complete disregard for my needs that you've grown so accustomed to, magically morphs into you being attentive and loving? And in the meantime, I'm supposed to not dislike you for treating me like a toy, and wasting my time, and having to turn down men who want to treat me much better?
Gtfohwtbs.
I think his ex gf accepted a lot of shit. And since that was really the only true relationship he's had, he's been spoiled.
You have to love yourself before anyone else will.
Come on! Stop putting yourself thru turmoil.
Have you ever loved someone?
There's no "off" switch that I am aware of. Lol
I am doing exactly the opposite by having put an end to the bs.
I understand there's no on and off switch, but you have to come to the realization that no matter how you feel about him he doesn't feel the same about you.
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Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeI see that. I feel they like their egos stroked...especially this one, who has a couple strong Leo placements.
I hate to throw crab men under the bus
But I'm going to have too
Crab men are charming as hell. They'll say lots of sweet things. Do sweet things.
But you'll never know their intentions. Sometimes even they don't why they do the things they do.
My point that's just who they are. You can't trust that to mean anything.
Also crabs both men/ women can use others emotionally, not in a bad way, but in a way to feel better about life etc. Create bonds
And still not want a relationship
I've been working closely with a cancer man for the past 2 months, and he loves to throw on the charm. Lol
I was going to date again, but I'm not ready. I feel like if I were to do that at this point, I'd attract another confused man. I'm going to take a time out to shake this energy off of me.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeYeah, he completely deleted me! I've only done that once to an ex, and it's because he was an ass...Not because he didn't reply to a text.Posted by TaurusFlower22He's probably mad he's bonded to youPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeI see that. I feel they like their egos stroked. I've been working closely with a cancer man for the past 2 months, and he loves to throw on the charm. Lol
I hate to throw crab men under the bus
But I'm going to have too
Crab men are charming as hell. They'll say lots of sweet things. Do sweet things.
But you'll never know their intentions. Sometimes even they don't why they do the things they do.
My point that's just who they are. You can't trust that to mean anything.
Also crabs both men/ women can use others emotionally, not in a bad way, but in a way to feel better about life etc. Create bonds
And still not want a relationship
I was going to date again, but I'm not ready. I feel like if I were to do that at this point, I'd attract another confused man. I'm going to take a time out to shake this energy off of me.
But yeah crabs go to worst case scenarios wht he deleted you on social media
Fear of losing you
But still wanting options
Well what i say to that do have options
Go date
Dating isn't marriage or commitment
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Ik but I feel like whoever I date rn, it wouldn't be fair to them, casual or not. I need time to completely get him off my mind. Might take a while.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeHaha! This is not the first time he's let his jealousy peek through. This time he was very blunt about it though. I was like, "wowwww...really?" I'd never ever ever do that. Even though we weren't in a relationship, I still wouldn't have been able to bring myself to do that. I'm a one man woman, to a fault. That's why it caught me off guard that he was thinking like that (and allowed it to fester, according to him). Maybe he was projecting? I'll never know.
Did you say Leo placements?
Well let me tell you how possessive and jealous we get
Like infinity.
LOOOL if we see you even glancing at another person we'll start crying and going oon a rampage
I gave you enough rope to hang us with
But warning Leo can also detach if they feel it's just not worth it
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeHe's got a Leo Moon, and some other strong placement I can't remember now.
Did you say Leo placements?
Well let me tell you how possessive and jealous we get
Like infinity.
LOOOL if we see you even glancing at another person we'll start crying and going oon a rampage
I gave you enough rope to hang us with
But warning Leo can also detach if they feel it's just not worth it
But, it worked well w/ my Gem moon placement.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeePosted by TaurusFlower22Yes it doesPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeHe's got a Leo Moon, and some other strong placement I can't remember now.
Did you say Leo placements?
Well let me tell you how possessive and jealous we get
Like infinity.
LOOOL if we see you even glancing at another person we'll start crying and going oon a rampage
I gave you enough rope to hang us with
But warning Leo can also detach if they feel it's just not worth it
But, it worked well w/ my Gem moon placement.
I like Gemini energy
My friend is a Taurus with Gemini moon. We get along great
Are you passionate? Or more mental?
I find lately i like the more sensitive passionate types aka drama
Not someone whose trying to get logical with me but dirty.
Now that's not all Leo moons just me.
Makes me have to work hard to use my crab sun
it's a different type of challenge
Trying to be sensitive to another when i prefer to run over them
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I'm slightly more mental...only slightly.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeHe seems to be this way. I notice stories he tells me, an a lot of the "bad" stuff he believes people do to him/think about him is just that; his belief. Not reality. He definitely has trust issues.Posted by TaurusFlower22I always think the very worst.Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeHaha! This is not the first time he's let his jealousy peek through. This time he was very blunt about it though. I was like, "wowwww...really?" I'd never ever ever do that. Even though we weren't in a relationship, I still wouldn't have been able to bring myself to do that. I'm a one man woman, to a fault. That's why it caught me off guard that he was thinking like that (and allowed it to fester, according to him). Maybe he was projecting? I'll never know.
Did you say Leo placements?
Well let me tell you how possessive and jealous we get
Like infinity.
LOOOL if we see you even glancing at another person we'll start crying and going oon a rampage
I gave you enough rope to hang us with
But warning Leo can also detach if they feel it's just not worth it
trust is hard
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Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeHe calls me all of those things on a regular basis. And he always tells me how inspiring I am, and how proud of me he is.
Does he call you beautiful?
Smart?
Intelligent?
Is he inspired by you ?
Unfortunately Cancer suns can bond emotionally but Leo moon wants the best
We want that person that everyone wants that'll make everyone jealous
I'm just saying for a Leo moon emotions aren't enough
That might be why he's keeping his options open
He wants a star
Think Tom cruise
This of course lessens as one ages and options are ... dwindling
But Leo moons want to feel proud of their mates
In the beginning of this...thing, he loved how much attention I'd get from men. He'd tell me he knew that's what he was getting himself into by being w/ me. But he was ok with it because he knew I wanted him. I'd pay them no attention.
Recently, every little bit of attention (btw, I don't reciprocate this attention. I ignore it.) from other men makes him very jealous...to the point of holding a grudge against me! Smdh
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeI'm 32, he's 35.Posted by TaurusFlower22Umm you might be the onePosted by CaramelizedCoffeeHe calls me all of those things on a regular basis. And he always tells me how inspiring I am, and how proud of me he is.
Does he call you beautiful?
Smart?
Intelligent?
Is he inspired by you ?
Unfortunately Cancer suns can bond emotionally but Leo moon wants the best
We want that person that everyone wants that'll make everyone jealous
I'm just saying for a Leo moon emotions aren't enough
That might be why he's keeping his options open
He wants a star
Think Tom cruise
This of course lessens as one ages and options are ... dwindling
But Leo moons want to feel proud of their mates
In the beginning of this...thing, he loved how much attention I'd get from men. He'd tell me he knew that's what he was getting himself into by being w/ me. But he was ok with it because he knew I wanted him. I'd pay them no attention.
Recently, every little bit of attention (btw, I don't reciprocate this attention. I ignore it.) from other men makes him very jealous...to the point of holding a grudge against me! Smdh
How old are you guysclick to expand
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeHe feels I attacked him for being himself. This gray area pseudo relationship...he identified with that approach so much, that he was offended by me not "accepting" that part of him that past women also didn't accept. He said he thought it'd be different with me. LolPosted by TaurusFlower22Ppl are very hateful of cancer sun Leo moonsPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeHe seems to be this way. I notice stories he tells me, an a lot of the "bad" stuff he believes people do to him/think about him is just that; his belief. Not reality. He definitely has trust issues.Posted by TaurusFlower22I always think the very worst.Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeHaha! This is not the first time he's let his jealousy peek through. This time he was very blunt about it though. I was like, "wowwww...really?" I'd never ever ever do that. Even though we weren't in a relationship, I still wouldn't have been able to bring myself to do that. I'm a one man woman, to a fault. That's why it caught me off guard that he was thinking like that (and allowed it to fester, according to him). Maybe he was projecting? I'll never know.
Did you say Leo placements?
Well let me tell you how possessive and jealous we get
Like infinity.
LOOOL if we see you even glancing at another person we'll start crying and going oon a rampage
I gave you enough rope to hang us with
But warning Leo can also detach if they feel it's just not worth it
trust is hard
We get attacked for being ourselves ... we're so self absorbed we don't understand or see our light so when ppl question our worth it really hurts ... and we quickly detach and get away from those type of ppl. We're extremely sensitive. We observe every word, every statement, the ego is powerful.
Plus add the insecurity. That erodes trust
fortunately most of this gets less As we age... we don't take things as personal. We realize Things aren't black/ white. Ppl are complicated
That's when the cancer sun takes over
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I can't do gray area. I need thing to be for sure at all times. I hate when there's a lack of security in my relationships. I don't accept THAT, not him. He felt rejected big time by me.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeOh hell no. This baby making shop ain't making more babies.Posted by TaurusFlower22You got 3 more years of good healthy eggsPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeI'm 32, he's 35.Posted by TaurusFlower22Umm you might be the onePosted by CaramelizedCoffeeHe calls me all of those things on a regular basis. And he always tells me how inspiring I am, and how proud of me he is.
Does he call you beautiful?
Smart?
Intelligent?
Is he inspired by you ?
Unfortunately Cancer suns can bond emotionally but Leo moon wants the best
We want that person that everyone wants that'll make everyone jealous
I'm just saying for a Leo moon emotions aren't enough
That might be why he's keeping his options open
He wants a star
Think Tom cruise
This of course lessens as one ages and options are ... dwindling
But Leo moons want to feel proud of their mates
In the beginning of this...thing, he loved how much attention I'd get from men. He'd tell me he knew that's what he was getting himself into by being w/ me. But he was ok with it because he knew I wanted him. I'd pay them no attention.
Recently, every little bit of attention (btw, I don't reciprocate this attention. I ignore it.) from other men makes him very jealous...to the point of holding a grudge against me! Smdh
How old are you guys
I say trap him
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Neither of us want more children. We talked about that a lot.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeTbh, he seems depressed.
He's at that age where he needs to be trapped. 35. And he needs more years to commit??
Are you sure this guy is mentally healthy?
Idk he might not be completely into you
But yeah, it could be the latter. Or a combination of the 2, idk
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeThat means I made the right choice then.Posted by TaurusFlower22No girl. I'm black and white. Not GrayPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeHe feels I attacked him for being himself. This gray area pseudo relationship...he identified with that approach so much, that he was offended by me not "accepting" that part of him that past women also didn't accept. He said he thought it'd be different with me. LolPosted by TaurusFlower22Ppl are very hateful of cancer sun Leo moonsPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeHe seems to be this way. I notice stories he tells me, an a lot of the "bad" stuff he believes people do to him/think about him is just that; his belief. Not reality. He definitely has trust issues.Posted by TaurusFlower22I always think the very worst.Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeHaha! This is not the first time he's let his jealousy peek through. This time he was very blunt about it though. I was like, "wowwww...really?" I'd never ever ever do that. Even though we weren't in a relationship, I still wouldn't have been able to bring myself to do that. I'm a one man woman, to a fault. That's why it caught me off guard that he was thinking like that (and allowed it to fester, according to him). Maybe he was projecting? I'll never know.
Did you say Leo placements?
Well let me tell you how possessive and jealous we get
Like infinity.
LOOOL if we see you even glancing at another person we'll start crying and going oon a rampage
I gave you enough rope to hang us with
But warning Leo can also detach if they feel it's just not worth it
trust is hard
We get attacked for being ourselves ... we're so self absorbed we don't understand or see our light so when ppl question our worth it really hurts ... and we quickly detach and get away from those type of ppl. We're extremely sensitive. We observe every word, every statement, the ego is powerful.
Plus add the insecurity. That erodes trust
fortunately most of this gets less As we age... we don't take things as personal. We realize Things aren't black/ white. Ppl are complicated
That's when the cancer sun takes over
I can't do gray area. I need thing to be for sure at all times. I hate when there's a lack of security in my relationships. I don't accept THAT, not him. He felt rejected big time by me.
He's not 100% into you
Don't take anything less
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Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeAt the risk of sounding like a spoiled entitled brat, I'm not used to this. LolPosted by TaurusFlower22NOTHING will keep me away from someone i lovePosted by CaramelizedCoffeeTbh, he seems depressed.
He's at that age where he needs to be trapped. 35. And he needs more years to commit??
Are you sure this guy is mentally healthy?
Idk he might not be completely into you
But yeah, it could be the latter. Or a combination of the 2, idk
I might be in a funk but I'm claiming you if iwant you
Dont give this guy any excusesclick to expand
I'm used to being with who I choose.
But yeah, I'm the same way. I can't imagine making excuse after excuse if it's someone I truly love and want to be with. I get it.
Oh well.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeHe's a nice guy. He really is...which is why I don't want to cut him out completely. But, I'm sorry. I'm not waiting for anyone.Posted by TaurusFlower22I'm a woman. Men are different. They want to achieve and shit and do abc before zPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeAt the risk of sounding like a spoiled entitled brat, I'm not used to this. LolPosted by TaurusFlower22NOTHING will keep me away from someone i lovePosted by CaramelizedCoffeeTbh, he seems depressed.
He's at that age where he needs to be trapped. 35. And he needs more years to commit??
Are you sure this guy is mentally healthy?
Idk he might not be completely into you
But yeah, it could be the latter. Or a combination of the 2, idk
I might be in a funk but I'm claiming you if iwant you
Dont give this guy any excuses
I'm used to being with who I choose.
But yeah, I'm the same way. I can't imagine making excuse after excuse if it's someone I truly love and want to be with. I get it.
Oh well.
So he really might be in a funk
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Posted by CaramelizedCoffeePosted by TaurusFlower22Not if you want childrenPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeHe's a nice guy. He really is...which is why I don't want to cut him out completely. But, I'm sorry. I'm not waiting for anyone.Posted by TaurusFlower22I'm a woman. Men are different. They want to achieve and shit and do abc before zPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeAt the risk of sounding like a spoiled entitled brat, I'm not used to this. LolPosted by TaurusFlower22NOTHING will keep me away from someone i lovePosted by CaramelizedCoffeeTbh, he seems depressed.
He's at that age where he needs to be trapped. 35. And he needs more years to commit??
Are you sure this guy is mentally healthy?
Idk he might not be completely into you
But yeah, it could be the latter. Or a combination of the 2, idk
I might be in a funk but I'm claiming you if iwant you
Dont give this guy any excuses
I'm used to being with who I choose.
But yeah, I'm the same way. I can't imagine making excuse after excuse if it's someone I truly love and want to be with. I get it.
Oh well.
So he really might be in a funk
He's very selfish
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Noooo...I have 2 already. I'm good!
No more for me. Lol
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeYes, he has a child. He doesn't want more either.Posted by TaurusFlower22Does he have kids? Does he want them?Posted by CaramelizedCoffeePosted by TaurusFlower22Not if you want childrenPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeHe's a nice guy. He really is...which is why I don't want to cut him out completely. But, I'm sorry. I'm not waiting for anyone.Posted by TaurusFlower22I'm a woman. Men are different. They want to achieve and shit and do abc before zPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeAt the risk of sounding like a spoiled entitled brat, I'm not used to this. LolPosted by TaurusFlower22NOTHING will keep me away from someone i lovePosted by CaramelizedCoffeeTbh, he seems depressed.
He's at that age where he needs to be trapped. 35. And he needs more years to commit??
Are you sure this guy is mentally healthy?
Idk he might not be completely into you
But yeah, it could be the latter. Or a combination of the 2, idk
I might be in a funk but I'm claiming you if iwant you
Dont give this guy any excuses
I'm used to being with who I choose.
But yeah, I'm the same way. I can't imagine making excuse after excuse if it's someone I truly love and want to be with. I get it.
Oh well.
So he really might be in a funk
He's very selfish
Noooo...I have 2 already. I'm good!
No more for me. Lol
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Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeI don't want to rush. I don't like rushing, actually.Posted by TaurusFlower22Oh then I'm confused with the rushPosted by CaramelizedCoffeePosted by TaurusFlower22Not if you want childrenPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeHe's a nice guy. He really is...which is why I don't want to cut him out completely. But, I'm sorry. I'm not waiting for anyone.Posted by TaurusFlower22I'm a woman. Men are different. They want to achieve and shit and do abc before zPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeAt the risk of sounding like a spoiled entitled brat, I'm not used to this. LolPosted by TaurusFlower22NOTHING will keep me away from someone i lovePosted by CaramelizedCoffeeTbh, he seems depressed.
He's at that age where he needs to be trapped. 35. And he needs more years to commit??
Are you sure this guy is mentally healthy?
Idk he might not be completely into you
But yeah, it could be the latter. Or a combination of the 2, idk
I might be in a funk but I'm claiming you if iwant you
Dont give this guy any excuses
I'm used to being with who I choose.
But yeah, I'm the same way. I can't imagine making excuse after excuse if it's someone I truly love and want to be with. I get it.
Oh well.
So he really might be in a funk
He's very selfish
Noooo...I have 2 already. I'm good!
No more for me. Lol
If you have kids why do you need his commitment so bad
You got EVERYTHING in life that's importantclick to expand
I do want to be sure that he isn't wasting my time.
As you can see, he gives me mixed messages. So since I wasn't sure, I ended things.
Yeah I do
And I come off as innocent to a lot of people
And I come off as innocent to a lot of people
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeIf he didn't want me, he could've been holding a space that could be taken by someone who does.Posted by TaurusFlower22OkPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeI don't want to rush. I don't like rushing, actually.Posted by TaurusFlower22Oh then I'm confused with the rushPosted by CaramelizedCoffeePosted by TaurusFlower22Not if you want childrenPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeHe's a nice guy. He really is...which is why I don't want to cut him out completely. But, I'm sorry. I'm not waiting for anyone.Posted by TaurusFlower22I'm a woman. Men are different. They want to achieve and shit and do abc before zPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeAt the risk of sounding like a spoiled entitled brat, I'm not used to this. LolPosted by TaurusFlower22NOTHING will keep me away from someone i lovePosted by CaramelizedCoffeeTbh, he seems depressed.
He's at that age where he needs to be trapped. 35. And he needs more years to commit??
Are you sure this guy is mentally healthy?
Idk he might not be completely into you
But yeah, it could be the latter. Or a combination of the 2, idk
I might be in a funk but I'm claiming you if iwant you
Dont give this guy any excuses
I'm used to being with who I choose.
But yeah, I'm the same way. I can't imagine making excuse after excuse if it's someone I truly love and want to be with. I get it.
Oh well.
So he really might be in a funk
He's very selfish
Noooo...I have 2 already. I'm good!
No more for me. Lol
If you have kids why do you need his commitment so bad
You got EVERYTHING in life that's important
I do want to be sure that he isn't wasting my time.
As you can see, he gives me mixed messages. So since I wasn't sure, I ended things.
If you have children why not just enjoy the ride
Wtf do you need to complicate things
Waste your time how?
You already did the most important thing in life have kids
Everything else is a bonus
Why do you need labels and all that crap
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My father is a Cancer man. My mother is a Sagittarius woman.
They've been married for 34 years. But, my dad admittedly doesn't love her.
He's had woman after woman on the side for as long as I can remember.
I vowed to NEVER let that shit happen to me. I will never waste my life like that.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeYes, I do. We all do. 😂😂😂
Why is your time so precious? Do you have a deadline or something
Im so confused
I thought this was all based on biology
I'm out
I don't understand women or men like this
So....
I just don't want to be strung along.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeI wish I knew his chart. I don't.Posted by TaurusFlower22Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeIf he didn't want me, he could've been holding a space that could be taken by someone who does.Posted by TaurusFlower22OkPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeI don't want to rush. I don't like rushing, actually.Posted by TaurusFlower22Oh then I'm confused with the rushPosted by CaramelizedCoffeePosted by TaurusFlower22Not if you want childrenPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeHe's a nice guy. He really is...which is why I don't want to cut him out completely. But, I'm sorry. I'm not waiting for anyone.Posted by TaurusFlower22I'm a woman. Men are different. They want to achieve and shit and do abc before zPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeAt the risk of sounding like a spoiled entitled brat, I'm not used to this. LolPosted by TaurusFlower22NOTHING will keep me away from someone i lovePosted by CaramelizedCoffeeTbh, he seems depressed.
He's at that age where he needs to be trapped. 35. And he needs more years to commit??
Are you sure this guy is mentally healthy?
Idk he might not be completely into you
But yeah, it could be the latter. Or a combination of the 2, idk
I might be in a funk but I'm claiming you if iwant you
Dont give this guy any excuses
I'm used to being with who I choose.
But yeah, I'm the same way. I can't imagine making excuse after excuse if it's someone I truly love and want to be with. I get it.
Oh well.
So he really might be in a funk
He's very selfish
Noooo...I have 2 already. I'm good!
No more for me. Lol
If you have kids why do you need his commitment so bad
You got EVERYTHING in life that's important
I do want to be sure that he isn't wasting my time.
As you can see, he gives me mixed messages. So since I wasn't sure, I ended things.
If you have children why not just enjoy the ride
Wtf do you need to complicate things
Waste your time how?
You already did the most important thing in life have kids
Everything else is a bonus
Why do you need labels and all that crap
My father is a Cancer man. My mother is a Sagittarius woman.
They've been married for 34 years. But, my dad admittedly doesn't love her.
He's had woman after woman on the side for as long as I can remember.
I vowed to NEVER let that shit happen to me. I will never waste my life like that.
His moon mars and Venus?
Why doesn't he love her? Why not just leave?
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He just says he doesn't.
And he said he was waiting for all the kids to grow up. Well, my youngest sis just turned 18. So now he wants a divorce.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeNever really made the connection, but yeah. I guess they did.Posted by TaurusFlower22It sucks he thought he was doing his bestPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeI wish I knew his chart. I don't.Posted by TaurusFlower22Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeIf he didn't want me, he could've been holding a space that could be taken by someone who does.Posted by TaurusFlower22OkPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeI don't want to rush. I don't like rushing, actually.Posted by TaurusFlower22Oh then I'm confused with the rushPosted by CaramelizedCoffeePosted by TaurusFlower22Not if you want childrenPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeHe's a nice guy. He really is...which is why I don't want to cut him out completely. But, I'm sorry. I'm not waiting for anyone.Posted by TaurusFlower22I'm a woman. Men are different. They want to achieve and shit and do abc before zPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeAt the risk of sounding like a spoiled entitled brat, I'm not used to this. LolPosted by TaurusFlower22NOTHING will keep me away from someone i lovePosted by CaramelizedCoffeeTbh, he seems depressed.
He's at that age where he needs to be trapped. 35. And he needs more years to commit??
Are you sure this guy is mentally healthy?
Idk he might not be completely into you
But yeah, it could be the latter. Or a combination of the 2, idk
I might be in a funk but I'm claiming you if iwant you
Dont give this guy any excuses
I'm used to being with who I choose.
But yeah, I'm the same way. I can't imagine making excuse after excuse if it's someone I truly love and want to be with. I get it.
Oh well.
So he really might be in a funk
He's very selfish
Noooo...I have 2 already. I'm good!
No more for me. Lol
If you have kids why do you need his commitment so bad
You got EVERYTHING in life that's important
I do want to be sure that he isn't wasting my time.
As you can see, he gives me mixed messages. So since I wasn't sure, I ended things.
If you have children why not just enjoy the ride
Wtf do you need to complicate things
Waste your time how?
You already did the most important thing in life have kids
Everything else is a bonus
Why do you need labels and all that crap
My father is a Cancer man. My mother is a Sagittarius woman.
They've been married for 34 years. But, my dad admittedly doesn't love her.
He's had woman after woman on the side for as long as I can remember.
I vowed to NEVER let that shit happen to me. I will never waste my life like that.
His moon mars and Venus?
Why doesn't he love her? Why not just leave?
He just says he doesn't.
And he said he was waiting for all the kids to grow up. Well, my youngest sis just turned 18. So now he wants a divorce.
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Posted by OneKnightI feel ya.Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeConfused.
@oneknight as a guy who has had marriage and kids
How do you see yourself now—
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Your situation is eeriely similar to me, also a Taurus woman dealing with a Cancer man. Eeriely not because I’m surprised, but because it is sad how predictably it turns out between you 2 just the way it is with me & him, also very empathetically knowing you wish so much for it not to turn any more worse, already trying your best to respond in the best way you could.
It only seems no matter how you take it, don’t ever assume you will have the upper hand.
You try to give in to him & be nice, it will only breed a spoilt man & he will trample all over you.
You decide to be cold & unyielding towards him, he will think that you are not really into this/him after all & will withhold himself or plays it half heartedly too.
But I always feel that Cancer people are really softies,but sometimes they can’t help hurting others in order to securely protect themselves. Imagine the crab, its soft flesh underneath its hard shell & its pinching claws meant to keep harm at bay.
But sorry I don’t have the right answer for you. You decide what is worth for yourself.
It only seems no matter how you take it, don’t ever assume you will have the upper hand.
You try to give in to him & be nice, it will only breed a spoilt man & he will trample all over you.
You decide to be cold & unyielding towards him, he will think that you are not really into this/him after all & will withhold himself or plays it half heartedly too.
But I always feel that Cancer people are really softies,but sometimes they can’t help hurting others in order to securely protect themselves. Imagine the crab, its soft flesh underneath its hard shell & its pinching claws meant to keep harm at bay.
But sorry I don’t have the right answer for you. You decide what is worth for yourself.
Posted by taupixieThank you. At this point, I've decided to just learn from this. He used me. Period. He told me all the time how much he likes me, how deeply he cared about me, that my heart was safe with him...all of that was just talk. His actions have shown me the truth.
Your situation is eeriely similar to me, also a Taurus woman dealing with a Cancer man. Eeriely not because I’m surprised, but because it is sad how predictably it turns out between you 2 just the way it is with me & him, also very empathetically knowing you wish so much for it not to turn any more worse, already trying your best to respond in the best way you could.
It only seems no matter how you take it, don’t ever assume you will have the upper hand.
You try to give in to him & be nice, it will only breed a spoilt man & he will trample all over you.
You decide to be cold & unyielding towards him, he will think that you are not really into this/him after all & will withhold himself or plays it half heartedly too.
But I always feel that Cancer people are really softies,but sometimes they can’t help hurting others in order to securely protect themselves. Imagine the crab, its soft flesh underneath its hard shell & its pinching claws meant to keep harm at bay.
But sorry I don’t have the right answer for you. You decide what is worth for yourself.
I have not contacted him, and will not be contacting him again.
I've also decided to just take a break from men right now. There are a few who know I'm completely single now, and would like to go on dates or whatever, but I'm so turned off by men because of this one man. Lol
I think I'll just enjoy being by myself for a while. It's been over 10 years since I have been completely alone. I need some alone time.
I wish you the best with your situation!
Posted by tnmnt"I personally don’t do it to hurt others, but to give eye for an eye to someone who hurt me or neglected me."
The concept is there but the words you used don’t match our way of thinking. I personally don’t do it to hurt others, but to give eye for an eye to someone who hurt me or neglected me.
Sometimes I do it in such a fake way that even I wonder why. If you get over it, fine. Time heals. If we both pretend it didn't happen and move on, better. If you get annoying and start crying, I'm gone.
You don't see how your words are contradictory?
Posted by tnmntLOLPosted by TaurusFlower22I can see it, however in my head the intention is not to hurt, but to pay them with the same coin. In my experience, many people didn't even notice so we could all move on with our lives.Posted by tnmnt"I personally don’t do it to hurt others, but to give eye for an eye to someone who hurt me or neglected me."
The concept is there but the words you used don’t match our way of thinking. I personally don’t do it to hurt others, but to give eye for an eye to someone who hurt me or neglected me.
Sometimes I do it in such a fake way that even I wonder why. If you get over it, fine. Time heals. If we both pretend it didn't happen and move on, better. If you get annoying and start crying, I'm gone.
You don't see how your words are contradictory?
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Laughing because it seems like no matter which Cancer I talk to, you ALL seem to talk in riddles.
It's kinda like talking to the same person in different bodies. Makes me feel like I'm in the twilight zone. 😂😂😂😂
It's kinda like talking to the same person in different bodies. Makes me feel like I'm in the twilight zone. 😂😂😂😂
He's probably trying to get you back for something
Cancers can be petty at their worst and hold on to grudges/the little things
Cancers can be petty at their worst and hold on to grudges/the little things
Posted by themilkyway36Hell yeah. I have 2 Cancers in my life who are currently holding lifetime grudges against me.
He's probably trying to get you back for something
Cancers can be petty at their worst and hold on to grudges/the little things
I can't understand that level of petty. So I just have to laugh.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeI know. I agree!
you haven't been single in 10 years
that's crazy
And when I was single prior to that, it wasn't for long (maybe a few weeks). I prefer to be with someone.
Posted by TaurusFlower22I'm dealing with a potential similar issue. Sometimes when you think you've talked it out with them and everything's fine again between you, they still go ahead and act like they're trying to get back at you in small petty ways and won't tell you what is really up...Posted by themilkyway36Hell yeah. I have 2 Cancers in my life who are currently holding lifetime grudges against me.
He's probably trying to get you back for something
Cancers can be petty at their worst and hold on to grudges/the little things
I can't understand that level of petty. So I just have to laugh.
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Posted by tnmntI'm sorry if my "lol" hurt you.Posted by TaurusFlower22I don't understand what's funny. I’m trying to be completely open for users to understand the Cancer mechanism in this situation.Posted by tnmntLOLPosted by TaurusFlower22I can see it, however in my head the intention is not to hurt, but to pay them with the same coin. In my experience, many people didn't even notice so we could all move on with our lives.Posted by tnmnt"I personally don’t do it to hurt others, but to give eye for an eye to someone who hurt me or neglected me."
The concept is there but the words you used don’t match our way of thinking. I personally don’t do it to hurt others, but to give eye for an eye to someone who hurt me or neglected me.
Sometimes I do it in such a fake way that even I wonder why. If you get over it, fine. Time heals. If we both pretend it didn't happen and move on, better. If you get annoying and start crying, I'm gone.
You don't see how your words are contradictory?
When I get hurt or annoyed overly matters that are relatively minor, I tell myself it’s nothing, that I shouldn’t be hurt/annoyed in the first place. So, nothing happens and the person and I are still apparently fine. If they realise it or better if they ask me if that exact episode annoyed me, I’ll let it out and kind of make amend. If not, at the first chance to spite that person, I’ll do it.
Still something “minor”. Seeing their reactions demonstrates me that I am the one overly sensitive.
The initial intention is therefore not to hurt, but to experiment other’s sensitivity compared to mine in a similar situation.
p.s. This might be also a Cap moon reaction, but my Cancer/Aqua cousin acts the same.
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Posted by tnmntI was being sincere. But, see? That's exactly my point. You guys do petty things like that to try and hurt people.Posted by TaurusFlower22Lol, I'm sorry that you had to write a post about a Cancer hurting you for not showing up, and for trying to make you understand my point of view. I thought that was the purpose of this thread. Good luck!Posted by tnmntI'm sorry if my "lol" hurt you.Posted by TaurusFlower22I don't understand what's funny. I’m trying to be completely open for users to understand the Cancer mechanism in this situation.Posted by tnmntLOLPosted by TaurusFlower22I can see it, however in my head the intention is not to hurt, but to pay them with the same coin. In my experience, many people didn't even notice so we could all move on with our lives.Posted by tnmnt"I personally don’t do it to hurt others, but to give eye for an eye to someone who hurt me or neglected me."
The concept is there but the words you used don’t match our way of thinking. I personally don’t do it to hurt others, but to give eye for an eye to someone who hurt me or neglected me.
Sometimes I do it in such a fake way that even I wonder why. If you get over it, fine. Time heals. If we both pretend it didn't happen and move on, better. If you get annoying and start crying, I'm gone.
You don't see how your words are contradictory?
When I get hurt or annoyed overly matters that are relatively minor, I tell myself it’s nothing, that I shouldn’t be hurt/annoyed in the first place. So, nothing happens and the person and I are still apparently fine. If they realise it or better if they ask me if that exact episode annoyed me, I’ll let it out and kind of make amend. If not, at the first chance to spite that person, I’ll do it.
Still something “minor”. Seeing their reactions demonstrates me that I am the one overly sensitive.
The initial intention is therefore not to hurt, but to experiment other’s sensitivity compared to mine in a similar situation.
p.s. This might be also a Cap moon reaction, but my Cancer/Aqua cousin acts the same.
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And yes, I sure did. But no need to be sorry. I'm good. Clearly I've stepped on your gooey crab meat. My bad.
Maybe stop taking everything to heart. I'm just a stranger on the internet. Relax.
Posted by tnmnt::sigh::Posted by TaurusFlower22Look, regardless of astrology it's not nice to lol or dismiss someone who tried to explain you something (whether you agree with it or not). Twice.Posted by tnmntI was being sincere. But, see? That's exactly my point. You guys do petty things like that to try and hurt people.Posted by TaurusFlower22Lol, I'm sorry that you had to write a post about a Cancer hurting you for not showing up, and for trying to make you understand my point of view. I thought that was the purpose of this thread. Good luck!Posted by tnmntI'm sorry if my "lol" hurt you.Posted by TaurusFlower22I don't understand what's funny. I’m trying to be completely open for users to understand the Cancer mechanism in this situation.Posted by tnmntLOLPosted by TaurusFlower22I can see it, however in my head the intention is not to hurt, but to pay them with the same coin. In my experience, many people didn't even notice so we could all move on with our lives.Posted by tnmnt"I personally don’t do it to hurt others, but to give eye for an eye to someone who hurt me or neglected me."
The concept is there but the words you used don’t match our way of thinking. I personally don’t do it to hurt others, but to give eye for an eye to someone who hurt me or neglected me.
Sometimes I do it in such a fake way that even I wonder why. If you get over it, fine. Time heals. If we both pretend it didn't happen and move on, better. If you get annoying and start crying, I'm gone.
You don't see how your words are contradictory?
When I get hurt or annoyed overly matters that are relatively minor, I tell myself it’s nothing, that I shouldn’t be hurt/annoyed in the first place. So, nothing happens and the person and I are still apparently fine. If they realise it or better if they ask me if that exact episode annoyed me, I’ll let it out and kind of make amend. If not, at the first chance to spite that person, I’ll do it.
Still something “minor”. Seeing their reactions demonstrates me that I am the one overly sensitive.
The initial intention is therefore not to hurt, but to experiment other’s sensitivity compared to mine in a similar situation.
p.s. This might be also a Cap moon reaction, but my Cancer/Aqua cousin acts the same.
And yes, I sure did. But no need to be sorry. I'm good. Clearly I've stepped on your gooey crab meat. My bad.
Maybe stop taking everything to heart. I'm just a stranger on the internet. Relax.
You are the one who is getting judgemental. One thing is posting this thread to get to understand this behaviour, a different thing is to make it to shame the sign and to tell off any Cancer who answers.
I explained you the mechanics of this behaviour, as you asked. Whether a cancer does it or not depends on experience, social skills and age.
Stop spreading superstition. Peaceclick to expand
I give up.
@tnmnt, I appreciate your explanations here. These are what I’ve always hoped to be informed & learnt from here, particularly from the person with the placements themselves, to understand the thought mechanism & intention. From what you’ve posted here, I’ve learnt yet something else, what you said about Cancer’s tendency of testing sensitivity. It’s very enlightening. I can see how the Cancer I’m concerned with does this too. It justifies his intention & inconsistent behaviours better. Inconsistent in society’s standard but I can see how you would think you weren’t at all odd.
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Best pervert Mars? Is it good or bad?
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