Have I upset him? Cancer men help me out x (Page 2)

Posted by pooface222

Posted by MyStarsShine

I think saying alrighty will let him off the hook. He behaved badly as though he was ashamed to be seen with you...

I’d call him out on it, if not his immature self may think he didn’t do any wrong?

What shall I say to Call Him Out?

I don't want to sound like I'm hurt etc as don't want to give him power.

What shall I say and How shall I say it?

I wan4 to make HIM feel shitty while maintaining my power and self-respect.

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Just say it’s not on about the hiding thing and allowing his friends to influence his love life and that you found it i incredibly immature .... and in future be careful about declaring his love for someone if he doesn’t mean it.

A part of the older woman younger man thing is showing them how to behave. It’s exhausting at times ....

The other side to it is if you don’t challenge him, you’ll harbour those feelings and that’s not good

Say your piece to him and move on

I was actually considering being his First proper relationship experience.

Just an idea though.

Being he has never had one.

I've had 3 long-term relationships.

The 3rd one being marriage - to the Aries.

Now I'm divorced. Sinle. A mum eyc.

With a career.. my own house and car.

And loads of experience Both life and relationships.

It could have been fun for both of us.

We could both agree to a short-term temporary thing, and agree to split when we're ready.

At least that way its mutual and no-one gets hurt.

But like I said..

Just an idea anyway.

😁

THIS..

Posted by MyStarsShine

A part of the older woman younger man thing is showing them how to behave. It’s exhausting at times

Its pretty much what I meant in my post 👆

Show him how to treat a woman when he loves her, but BE the one to show him, on a short-term basis, then agree to leave each other.

Posted by pooface222

THIS..

Posted by MyStarsShine

A part of the older woman younger man thing is showing them how to behave. It’s exhausting at times

Its pretty much what I meant in my post 👆

Show him how to treat a woman when he loves her, but BE the one to show him, on a short-term basis, then agree to leave each other.

Sounds great in theory but one or both of you could fall hard and then it would be hard to walk away

Posted by stardustmop

Posted by pooface222

THIS..

Posted by MyStarsShine

A part of the older woman younger man thing is showing them how to behave. It’s exhausting at times

Its pretty much what I meant in my post 👆

Show him how to treat a woman when he loves her, but BE the one to show him, on a short-term basis, then agree to leave each other.

That all sounds well and good except he told you he doesn’t want to date you. Please keep your dignity and move on.

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Sure. And I want to keep my dignity. I like him but às we only had 2 dates, I've accepted he doesn't want to date me.

However I still haven't responded to his message and I wasn't going to. But I have also thought about 'Saying What I Need to Say and Moving On' as someone else said to on here.

So I wanted/needed to tell him that due to our age gap and him wanting me to be First Proper relationship (something else he called me), I am looking for my Last.

So in the meantime while he looks for his First and I look for my Last, we Could Have Had a short-term, temporary AND secret relationship with each other, where I show him what a long-term relationship looks like.

Eg Dating by doing all the things we both want to do together. Dinner dates. Drinks dates. Lunch dates. Movies/Theatre, days out, weekends together and eventually coming back to my place where we can truly be alone.

All in the name of showing him what a nice happy and hopefully good long-term relationship should be like with a woman snd how to treat a woman.

But as he no longer wants to date me, I would only be telling him how things COULD HAVE BEEN, due to our age gap and due to us being a secret.

It Could Have been a nice and possibly even fun secret to have, but only a Temporary Short-term one, so that when we end it with each other mutually, it sets him free to find a woman he Doesn't have to keep secret.

Its basically me telling him what he Could Have Had with me, but as he ended it with me, this is no longer an option.

And telling him that I don't want someone I have to hide either!

I want to make it clear to you all on here, that I am Not trying to guilt-trip him in any way. I am not trying to make him reconsider me, or come back to me etc.

Its not what I want to do.

I actually just want to tell him how I felt Before he broke things off with me - because I was genuinely considering us being a short-term secret relationship.

I was then going to wish him well for when he finds the girl he doesn't have to hide; the girl he can tell his friends and family about.

The End

And as @Undine said..Don't buy his bloody coffee ever again 🤣

I was going to Wish Him Well etc in my message to him, including telling him the stuff about what he Could Have Had with me.

The End.

Posted by pooface222

Posted by KimboSlice

I don’t think he is actually sick, or bothered by your behaviour

It’s no nut november

the Cancer men/Cap women pairing is dogshit btw, you may want to see other people.

Not helpful 😔

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You had always been goofy...