That1Girl
@That1Girl
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LOL I panicked? Not exactly the word I would use I just got super confused, and let him sit for two weeks before he came to me and said we needed to talk. Since our schedules didn't work out he got an email....
I'm confused.
He said the two of you needed to talk but instead of talking you emailed him and he never responded, right? And now
you don't know what he was going to say?
He said the two of you needed to talk but instead of talking you emailed him and he never responded, right? And now
you don't know what he was going to say?
Posted by kim30
I'm confused.
He said the two of you needed to talk but instead of talking you emailed him and he never responded, right? And now
you don't know what he was going to say?
I asked him to come over and hand, and he said he would try but was swamped, the next day he said he couldn't make it because of work. We saw each other at work the day after that, and he said we needed to talk, and I agreed. But he had to leave town for 10 days with the school to go look at a few archaeology sites and speak at a big convention. So after we texted, I decided to just write it all out in an email (my side of things), and he has not responded, I texted once 3 days later and he ignored that too. So I am being ignored.... I am taking this as there is nothing left between us, and he is over whatever we were doing. THough I found it rude he is all "we need to talk" and his next step is to ignore me....
I am going to send you a PM about this
Meh! Eat a snickers
Posted by That1Girl
So my update. I invited him over to chat, and hang, he cancelled on me because of work. We had a busy week and didn't really talk. He had to leave town for 10 days, so I just emailed him my side of things Friday night (more for me than for him). I laid everything out flat in it mostly to get it off my chest. I know he is out of town and busy, but he hasn't responded yet.. So I am figuring I won't get a response, which really is the response. If he is gonna be immature and ignore me he can go ahead. I am not spending anymore time or energy on it. He can see how cold I can be now....
What the fuck is this?
No wonder I don't come here.
So, let me get this straight ... you forced yourself on him, and if he doesn't give you the expected response ... then you'll turn even worse toward him?
jfc
Posted by That1Girl
I decided to just write it all out in an email (my side of things ....
What the fucking shit is this?
So .... he wants to talk to you, and it must be serious because he had been pulling back a tad ... but, you have no control over yourself, or restraint .... and just blurt out your emotional baggage when really, you have no fucking clue what he wanted to talk about and might have been breaking up.
You just took the liberty to smother this guy with your sappy feelings ... all because you couldn't handle having it on your chest anylonger (as you wrote previously) .. which gets translated as: it's too much of a burden for you to deal with, so you needed to dump it on him.
REALLY ——
You are that immature? ... that you can't even handle your own goddam self and jump the gun of this magnitude?
Are all you Cancers like this? ... this emotionally weak?
no wonder I never come here .....
Posted by P-Angel
Posted by That1Girl
I decided to just write it all out in an email (my side of things ....
What the fucking shit is this?
So .... he wants to talk to you, and it must be serious because he had been pulling back a tad ... but, you have no control over yourself, or restraint .... and just blurt out your emotional baggage when really, you have no fucking clue what he wanted to talk about and might have been breaking up.
You just took the liberty to smother this guy with your sappy feelings ... all because you couldn't handle having it on your chest anylonger (as you wrote previously) .. which gets translated as: it's too much of a burden for you to deal with, so you needed to dump it on him.
REALLY ——
You are that immature? ... that you can't even handle your own goddam self and jump the gun of this magnitude?
Are all you Cancers like this? ... this emotionally weak?
no wonder I never come here .....click to expand
Well he can't break up with me if we aren't dating, and yes I knew what he wanted to talk about he told me... It had been previously acknowledged we needed to talk about where we stand... we just had problems setting up a time to do it face to face. I sent out the email to get it off my chest while it was still fresh because I am the one that started everything I should be the one that explains my intentions behind it.
Oh and I never "forced" myself on him. I was just the one who initiated things to begin with, he followed through more than one
You refuse to see past yourself, and everything someone says to you - you have an excuse for yourself.
You were uncomfortable, so you brought up the fact that a talk was needed ... which caused him to back off a bit.
Because you obviously lack any intuition at all ... you never noticed that his backing off was due to you wanting to have an emotional talk about status. Had you possessed the insight, you would have realized that to send him an emotional email was the wrong this to do.
But, you have no clue that it is the wrong thing to do ... in fact, you sit there now, in your ignorance about this, upset because he hasn't catered to your feelings yet, by responding.
That is forcing him. And you are so self absorbed that you believe he (and probably everyone else) should be catering to your feelings.
You're just too ignorant of a person ... that's obvious in how you aren't able to get any concept that has been brought to your mind to ponder.
There's no doubt that you will continue to sit there upset because he hasn't jumped through your hoops yet.
:::: shakes head ::::
He sounds very mature ... you sound very childish.
You should check that ^^^^^^^^^^
You were uncomfortable, so you brought up the fact that a talk was needed ... which caused him to back off a bit.
Because you obviously lack any intuition at all ... you never noticed that his backing off was due to you wanting to have an emotional talk about status. Had you possessed the insight, you would have realized that to send him an emotional email was the wrong this to do.
But, you have no clue that it is the wrong thing to do ... in fact, you sit there now, in your ignorance about this, upset because he hasn't catered to your feelings yet, by responding.
That is forcing him. And you are so self absorbed that you believe he (and probably everyone else) should be catering to your feelings.
You're just too ignorant of a person ... that's obvious in how you aren't able to get any concept that has been brought to your mind to ponder.
There's no doubt that you will continue to sit there upset because he hasn't jumped through your hoops yet.
:::: shakes head ::::
He sounds very mature ... you sound very childish.
You should check that ^^^^^^^^^^
Posted by That1Girl
It had been previously acknowledged we needed to talk about where we stand...
Smoke and mirrors ^^^^^^^^^^^^
The reality is ...... he acknowledged that YOU wanted to talk. Because you are so self absorbed, you have twisted it to make it sound like he wanted to have this talk.
YOU wanted to have this talk.
You're not fooling me ... and probably not him either. He wants the snatch and you're too involved with yourself to notice that you're a cum dumpster.
You should probably get your head out of your ass, so you're capable of actually checking yourself.
OK so I have all my answers. He actually called me last night, and we talked until I fell asleep. He told me that he got a bit freaked out because of our work/school situation, and that he realizes it is pointless to fret when there is only a month left before it won't matter. He just needed time to process the situation, and then he got my letter, which he said gave him 1000 more things to process. I was a bit selfish in not realizing that, I basically said the exact thing in the letter is that I over think and need to process things, I didn't give him the same benefit. I explained ignoring me completely hurt my feelings and he said it is something we will need to work on.
However, he loved my letter his exact wording was " I wish you wrote it by hand so I could keep it without it being weird". Cracked me up because well I should have known that, he is every into tangible forms of things. We went over it together, and talked about everything I brought up and of course the things he needed to bring up.
We've decided to go on an actual date since we have only really been on one, and we went to work together after lol. He promised me it would be very special (isn't that sweet?) I explained I am embarrassed about how things started and that it left me feeling confused. So he said "We will start over and properly, but we are still cuddling I'm not giving that part up", which made me really happy because I didn't want to slow down in that aspect anyways. He told me about his trip and I told him about everything he is missing in the lab, and we talked until I fell asleep on the phone. I woke up phone next to my face with a text that said " You fell asleep hard, you were even snoring, have a good morning, see you when I am home"
@kim30 your insight on this was almost spot on in your PM , I just wanted to make note of it here so people know who understands these situations.
I guess the end of it all is I am dating a cancer.. my first time in a cancer-cancer type of thing. Now I have to wait for him to get back from Texas... ugh I have no patience(maybe that was my problem all along).
However, he loved my letter his exact wording was " I wish you wrote it by hand so I could keep it without it being weird". Cracked me up because well I should have known that, he is every into tangible forms of things. We went over it together, and talked about everything I brought up and of course the things he needed to bring up.
We've decided to go on an actual date since we have only really been on one, and we went to work together after lol. He promised me it would be very special (isn't that sweet?) I explained I am embarrassed about how things started and that it left me feeling confused. So he said "We will start over and properly, but we are still cuddling I'm not giving that part up", which made me really happy because I didn't want to slow down in that aspect anyways. He told me about his trip and I told him about everything he is missing in the lab, and we talked until I fell asleep on the phone. I woke up phone next to my face with a text that said " You fell asleep hard, you were even snoring, have a good morning, see you when I am home"
@kim30 your insight on this was almost spot on in your PM , I just wanted to make note of it here so people know who understands these situations.
I guess the end of it all is I am dating a cancer.. my first time in a cancer-cancer type of thing. Now I have to wait for him to get back from Texas... ugh I have no patience(maybe that was my problem all along).
@ P- Angel
You obviously didn't read my other posts about this situation. Therefore your judgement is all off and well I get you are trying to be blunt, but really?
I was uncomfortable because we hadn't talked and he was the one to bring that up first (and second, and third)! Had you read the other posts you would know this and more about the situation. My intuition was spot on with my letter, which btw was not emotional at all, all it did was apologize for leaving him in the dark, explain some of my behavior, and tell him he is a great guy. I never once mentioned my feelings for him or anything else. He told me he needed to hear all of it and process it all before he could really move on with the situation. He was sitting there in the dark wondering that the fuck to do because he had no feedback from me. I was off in la la land dealing with the death of my grandfather. Which is also in the other posts.
I was upset because he just started ignoring me for no reason (he himself said this was a pussy move) and that we should work on it. BTW that is the only emotion I have told him about is me being upset, I haven't gone all "sappy" on him.
@ Tizi I have been laughing at this for days, the whole thing is completely out of character for me, especially the confusion. I can usually read people pretty well and situations too, I think it was all muddled up because all of this started the night my grandfather died. I have been in a very emotional place and it has affected everything, especially my behavior.
You obviously didn't read my other posts about this situation. Therefore your judgement is all off and well I get you are trying to be blunt, but really?
I was uncomfortable because we hadn't talked and he was the one to bring that up first (and second, and third)! Had you read the other posts you would know this and more about the situation. My intuition was spot on with my letter, which btw was not emotional at all, all it did was apologize for leaving him in the dark, explain some of my behavior, and tell him he is a great guy. I never once mentioned my feelings for him or anything else. He told me he needed to hear all of it and process it all before he could really move on with the situation. He was sitting there in the dark wondering that the fuck to do because he had no feedback from me. I was off in la la land dealing with the death of my grandfather. Which is also in the other posts.
I was upset because he just started ignoring me for no reason (he himself said this was a pussy move) and that we should work on it. BTW that is the only emotion I have told him about is me being upset, I haven't gone all "sappy" on him.
@ Tizi I have been laughing at this for days, the whole thing is completely out of character for me, especially the confusion. I can usually read people pretty well and situations too, I think it was all muddled up because all of this started the night my grandfather died. I have been in a very emotional place and it has affected everything, especially my behavior.
WHOOOPEEE!!! AND THE CRABETTE GETS HER CRAB! HAHAHA!
I love it!
PS if it all goes to hell by Friday, do me a favor and keep it to yourself. Just kidding!
I love it!
PS if it all goes to hell by Friday, do me a favor and keep it to yourself. Just kidding!
Finally!
Goodluck That1Girl 😆
Goodluck That1Girl 😆
Proof that P-angel gives crap advice?
Posted by cookiem0nster
Proof that P-angel gives crap advice?
Eh, I think it wold have been better if all of the post were read. This is why I said for those who have been following my story with this guy, It was a bizarre situation, and had a lot of confusing twists to it. However, I could have been more patient instead of over thinking everything
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