Sick cancer men...oh really?

I dated a cancer guy years ago who every time he was upset about something or didn't want to deal with an issue, he would say that he had a stomachache, or that he was sick. A friend of mine is interested in this cancer guy and she's told me a few times that he's blown her off because he's been "sick"...and she believes him...bless her kind heart. I'm trying to show her that when this becomes a pattern it's not a coincidence and he's going into hiding/avoidance mode.

This sounds very familiar. I did not know other cancers did it as well, assumed it was only my ex. They are generally avoiders, concerning any kind of conflict or even misunderstanding, they will sweep it under the rug and come back at you later in passive-aggressive ways.

But this thing with the health issues, there was always something, if it wasn't his throat it was his stomach, if not stomach than head and so on. I assumed it was done for sympathy, he loved the attention and caring I offered when he told me something hurts or he is ill.

I found a very good information about this based on qualities of mature vs immature cancer men:

The immature/underdeveloped Cancer male wants attention so much that he will do anything to get it.

He may use his health as an attention getter; there may be some imagined symptom or ailment that is always troubling him.

Who wouldn't be sympathetic to that?

I hear you...this sounds like what I experienced as well - although, it didn't register to me at the time as attention-seeking behavior, rather, more of trying to avoid the reality of things. But either way, it still looks like a distraction from the situation at hand...and an attempt to obfuscate reality!

So do you think that these guys really try to get attention (shift into 'poor me' mode) and/or manipulate situations, or do they just lack the man balls to address situations head-on?

I've have also heard of some Cancer men ghosting women

Very weak

You think thats bad I heard OJ Simpson murdered his axe-wife

This story is most probably fake since OP and second poster only has post history about this topic. OP's account being made today

True story; new user; created account to ask this specific question about cancers because...

"a friend of mine is interested in this cancer guy and she's told me a few times that he's blown her off because he's been "sick"...and she believes him...bless her kind heart. I'm trying to show her that when this becomes a pattern it's not a coincidence and he's going into hiding/avoidance mode."

Just lookin out for a friend because I had a horrible experience in the past that started sounding like what's happening to her now. Appreciate the feedback so far...it's great

BTW...I heard that about OJ too

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