Sick of feeling he doesn't care about me.. (Page 3)

if you thought you were better, if you and any power or sense of worth, you would have moved on by now but you can't and won't...because you're "hurting." whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

lol...YOU addressed ME bitch. read your first post and then try again.

and who the fuck are you to THINK that you can speak to me on a regular basis you sad, sick, pitiful, ugly, bony ass bitch?

i indulged your stupidity a weak ago and wrote your book in THAT thread, so don't get excited. you have never been and never will be my equal

find thebastard or that silly little 18 y/o fuck you've been playing. they have time for your games.

ta!

that's quite odd. to pick holes in someone's appearance without having your own photo up.

unless...oh wait, the turbo mermaid with a face that could sour milk IS you. cool, makes sense now.

P-angel you are the fucking joke im going to tell you right now you can try and scare ppl on this board but you silly little miserable bitch you ain't scarin me you come on here and take other ppl opinions and twist shit up to make it seem like your so smart and innocent but you are just as miserable and shitty as you want to be do everyone a favor and get off your high fucking horse cause I bet with all the bull shit you say on here your life must be fucking GREAT but it aint bitch you got just as much problems as everyone else here on this board or you wouldn't be here so go eat a fucking dick!

TS you are entitled "not to know"

You are 21 years of age, most women in there 20's don't even know who they are yet, many don't understand the dynamics of self esteem in relationships and how having or not having self esteem relates over to men in relationships. Many women at one point in her life have accepted shitty behavior so don't let anyone make you feel inferior for something most women have experienced at some point in her life.

You don't owe anyone an explanation, I don't see you begging for abuse, you simply weren't fully aware of how you were playing a part in allowing yourself and allowing him to disrespect and invalidate you, I feel you have grasped a better understanding and will modify your behavior because of that understanding.

Understand when you ask for advice you'll run into women that are miserable (misery loves company) she's bitter, undeserving and angry with her life so she'll attempt to invalidate you as well b/c clearly she know she can invalidate you b/c you've allowed it from a man and if you'll allow a man to do it then she figures you'll allow her to do it as well which makes you an easy target...Stand up for yourself, cuss a bitch out if you have to, don't let anyone give you shit for being who you are. We all change, you won't be "THAT GIRL" the girl you are now forever, you'll evolve and grow and learn as you go through your process.

Don't ever let anyone kick and slap you while your down b/c if you do they'll continue to do it just because he or she can...Tell them bitches to suck a big diseased dirty cock and keep it moving.

I'VE ABANDONED MY CHILD!!!!!!
I'VE ABANDONED MY CHIIILD!!!!!!
I'VE ABANDONED MY BOY!!!

aPP, you're such a cunt.

Everything she said about you is true .. your parents really should be ashamed of you.


It is TypicalScorpios fault ... just like it is your fault, aPP, that these men keep getting hurt by your head-games.

Posted by Crabbypatty
P-angel you are the fucking joke im going to tell you right now you can try and scare ppl on this board but you silly little miserable bitch you ain't scarin me you come on here and take other ppl opinions and twist shit up to make it seem like your so smart and innocent but you are just as miserable and shitty as you want to be do everyone a favor and get off your high fucking horse cause I bet with all the bull shit you say on here your life must be fucking GREAT but it aint bitch you got just as much problems as everyone else here on this board or you wouldn't be here so go eat a fucking dick!

You wanted so bad to get the Pisces attention on their board, that you made two threads.

The only person you could get to parley with your insulting insinuations was me.


It wasn't enough to satisfy your yearning to express how much you hate the Pisces .. so, you thought you could get me to argue with you here.


You're out of luck .... I'm not as immature as you.


You're more than welcome to go back to the Pisces board, make another thread and see if you can get any of them to get offended by you.

Posted by Crabbypatty

P-angel you are the fucking joke im going to tell you right now you can try and scare ppl on this board but you silly little miserable bitch you ain't scarin me ....

Oh, that's right .. you're the dumb bitch who tried to intimidate me by threatening violence at me over the internet.


lol


Oh yeah, and people not only noticed you are that stupid .. they even commented on it.


I remember you ... of course. You tried to scare me, and now here talking about me trying to scare people. Funny shit, right there.


It's right up there with the chucklefuck on the Scorpio board who talked about her boyfriend going to beat someone ass, this someone being called a redneck .... when in reality, this alledged redneck didn't want trouble, while the guy calling him the redneck wanted to whoop ass.



People are really that stupid.

Tiki is right in stating that most everyone, chick/dick, has been with stupid; however, being with stupid and behaving stupidly don't have to go hand-in-hand.

The ease at which the OP relayed her grievances tells me that she has expressed her woes before to friends/family. The house is burning, she smells her own burning flesh and is inhaling the smoke but wants someone to tell her it's a good idea to leave now.

When you know someone is fucking you over and choose to embrace that fucked up treatment, at some point you need to recognize that you're the one who let the wolf in so why be surprised when he blows your house down?

It's as if she's asking for affirmation that he's an asshole. She KNOWS he's an asshole no need for hand holding because in the end, she'll choose her reality in spite of his behavior. She either leaves for love of self or she'll stay and endure further self-abuse.

And lol at the "guy being innocent."

That's like facing the devil and asking him why hell is hot. Again, who gives a damn about the guy or changing him? Who cares if he lives or dies? He's a jerk. And—

She has esteem issues and she will continue to have them with billy, joe and bob. Until she elevates, she will continue to attract assholes and those of you who are stupid enough to focus on what he is doing don't have the depth or foresight to recognize that HE isn't going to fix HER.

In all relationships, the common denominator is you. Fix you first then you won't have need to complain because you'll eventually learn that moving forward, the "first time" you are disrespected, is and always will be the last.

bitch shaaAaaadup!

Posted by tiki33

You don't owe anyone an explanation, I don't see you begging for abuse, you simply weren't fully aware of how you were playing a part in allowing yourself and allowing him to disrespect and invalidate you, I feel you have grasped a better understanding and will modify your behavior because of that understanding.

I think I have grasped a better understanding as well (or at least I hope) and I have pretty much left him. It was harder than I thought so yes...it's not just a clean cut and I know that's no good...and I also know my part in that as well. It's hard to explain what happened... But I think he knows where my head is at and what is going on. I don't know...I'm feeling really confused, to be honest, but I know where I'm going..if that even makes sense.

I feel like with your advice and a whole heap of other peoples advice I HAVE seen where I'm responsible...how it got that way (how I let it get that far)...why it's not changing (how I delayed things from changing)..and that the only way to fix the situation is to leave and then take some time to get to know who I am, figure out what my worth is..and basically nurture my self love and self respect til it grows enough for other people to treat me the same...which I think will have results in relationships other than romantic as well.

Even though I know what I need to do, I know I haven't done it properly..so I know what happens from now is directly reflected on to me and my actions I have made and I know that I can't complain about what happens now...because I knew I needed to make it a clean cut but I didn't quite do it successfully. I take full responsibility for that.

I feel like I have a lot more confidence and self-esteem...and even though I've borrowed it from people in here advising me I think I've figured out how to get it from my own resources so I don't see me going backwards. I feel like I will be going forwards even though it's kind of like I'm bunny hopping a car right now 😛

Bravo to you TS!

You'll do just fine, you are still young, still learning and mistakes will be made and you'll grow and learn from those mistakes as you learn more about who you are and what you want and don't want out of life.

Many women leave and go back only to leave again, I don't recommend you stay tied up in a toxic relationship but inevitably it's your life and only "YOU" can know when you've had enough.

Just know there will be people that will act like they never went back to a bad situation, many of the women including myself many moons ago have stayed with a douchebag, left a jerk and went back to a jerk only to leave again, no one is above it, 99% of us here have all endured bullshit from men on some level and many of us here have had self esteem issues and still struggle with them, hold your head up high and 2 middle fingers blazing at the haters and if someone step at you wrong blast that ass, don't take shit from anyone ever.

You'll be fine, continue to work on building up your inner confidence and self esteem and eventually your relationships will reflect back to you a more healthy loving connection from the people in your life including your personal relationships.

You're very intelligent, you'll find your way...

Posted by TypicalScorpio

Posted by tiki33

You don't owe anyone an explanation, I don't see you begging for abuse, you simply weren't fully aware of how you were playing a part in allowing yourself and allowing him to disrespect and invalidate you, I feel you have grasped a better understanding and will modify your behavior because of that understanding.

I think I have grasped a better understanding as well (or at least I hope) and I have pretty much left him. It was harder than I thought so yes...it's not just a clean cut and I know that's no good...and I also know my part in that as well. It's hard to explain what happened... But I think he knows where my head is at and what is going on. I don't know...I'm feeling really confused, to be honest, but I know where I'm going..if that even makes sense.

I feel like with your advice and a whole heap of other peoples advice I HAVE seen where I'm responsible...how it got that way (how I let it get that far)...why it's not changing (how I delayed things from changing)..and that the only way to fix the situation is to leave and then take some time to get to know who I am, figure out what my worth is..and basically nurture my self love and self respect til it grows enough for other people to treat me the same...which I think will have results in relationships other than romantic as well.

Even though I know what I need to do, I know I haven't done it properly..so I know what happens from now is directly reflected on to me and my actions I have made and I know that I can't complain about what happens now...because I knew I needed to make it a clean cut but I didn't quite do it successfully. I take full responsibility for that.

I feel like I have a lot more confidence and self-esteem...and even though I've borrowed it from people in here advising me I think I've figured out how to get it from my own resources so I don't see me going backwards. I feel like I will be going forwards even though it's kind of like I'm bunny hopping a car right now 😛

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Just saw this. Good for you 🙂

-crawls out from the wet sand and scuddles onto a draw mound. Stretches his claws deep into the sky and the nestles into the warmth and basques under the rays of sun that blanket his shell and lets the waves wash his soul of any negative energies that welled with his thoughts and smiles under his shell. His eyes wincing at the sky he slips into a day dream.-

*Suddenly finds himself with a Tulip and Pearl he had been saving in both claws at the entrance of TS's den. He sets them gently at the entrance and then scratches into the ground a grand "congratulations" and then beams a of smile energy over it. He then turns and scuddles into the forest*

-waking to find his shell is warm and almost dry as a bone he scurries back to the receding current and dives into its belly. Riding the current back onto the beach he stretches a leg out and rakes it into the sheet of silky sand. Once grounded he burrows into the sand and soon finds himself asleep under the soothing waves that crash over head.-

You go girl. 🙂

Sure was a lot of hate f*cking going on in this thread. Hope you are all relieved and have thanked TS for the opportunity to get your jollies out on her "request for help and clarity" thread.

There is love for the TS...some messengers are just old and mean as f*ck on their delivery.

Of course we all believe that you not only had an epiphany, you also mended yourself ... just like that.


fyi: you can't fool me. maybe all the other people, but, not me ... I know full well that you still consider him as a person who hurt you, while you were doing nothing wrong to him, you were only trying to be a good girlfriend.

I know full well that your words saying otherwise was in place to try and passify the situation in here, so it would fade away.


So far the ignorance is bliss concept hasn't been working for you .... were you just trying it again to see if anyone was paying attention? Or did you fall off the wagon in the same breath you climbed the wagon?

Whether you are pacifying us or not TS it shouldn't really matter to us because we don't have to date him...I hope you don't read too much into Mrs.Negativity words...It's your life, do what you want with it, if you want to stick around with him for a little while longer to see if things will improve then do it, if that's what you need then do it, if you feel you are strong enough inside to cut contact then do it, it's really not our business what you choose to do with your life and your relationships.

You are not ignorant, you are in love, love make women do some of those most stupidest shit over a man but it's all relative, you'll inevitably move on to a more balanced relationship, at your age fuck up as much as you want b/c this is the time to do it, by the time you get 35/40 you'll have been there done that and won't even indulge in nonsensical BS with men.

Posted by tiki33
Whether you are pacifying us or not TS it shouldn't really matter to us because we don't have to date him...I hope you don't read too much into Mrs.Negativity words...It's your life, do what you want with it, if you want to stick around with him for a little while longer to see if things will improve then do it, if that's what you need then do it, if you feel you are strong enough inside to cut contact then do it, it's really not our business what you choose to do with your life and your relationships.

You are not ignorant, you are in love, love make women do some of those most stupidest shit over a man but it's all relative, you'll inevitably move on to a more balanced relationship, at your age fuck up as much as you want b/c this is the time to do it, by the time you get 35/40 you'll have been there done that and won't even indulge in nonsensical BS with men.

agreed.

how long we individually choose to be utterly stupid depends on how much shit we're willing to take. you know your threshold and with age and maturity, your tolerance for bullshit will decrease.

i WISH someone told me that i didn't have to enter each and every relationship with the hope/belief/intent that "this must work." i WISH someone told me that no, you don't have to bail at the first sign of trouble but if it isn't workin for you, it aint and it really is ok/right to just say "fuck it" and move on to the next one and the next one (i'm talking dating, not fuckin).

as women many of us are taught to withhold and treasure our goodies. as a result, when we give ourselves to someone else, we falsely believe he will treasure us as much as we desire to be treasured.

the reality is, kitty is a dime a dozen and your coochie aint gold. if you want to be treated like a queen, you have to demand and command that level of respect and that starts with being willing and able to walk away at the moment you're being devalued.

it's a hard lesson to learn but most eventually get it.

Posted by caligula

Posted by tiki33
Whether you are pacifying us or not TS it shouldn't really matter to us because we don't have to date him...I hope you don't read too much into Mrs.Negativity words...It's your life, do what you want with it, if you want to stick around with him for a little while longer to see if things will improve then do it, if that's what you need then do it, if you feel you are strong enough inside to cut contact then do it, it's really not our business what you choose to do with your life and your relationships.

You are not ignorant, you are in love, love make women do some of those most stupidest shit over a man but it's all relative, you'll inevitably move on to a more balanced relationship, at your age fuck up as much as you want b/c this is the time to do it, by the time you get 35/40 you'll have been there done that and won't even indulge in nonsensical BS with men.

agreed.

how long we individually choose to be utterly stupid depends on how much shit we're willing to take. you know your threshold and with age and maturity, your tolerance for bullshit will decrease.

i WISH someone told me that i didn't have to enter each and every relationship with the hope/belief/intent that "this must work." i WISH someone told me that no, you don't have to bail at the first sign of trouble but if it isn't workin for you, it aint and it really is ok/right to just say "fuck it" and move on to the next one and the next one (i'm talking dating, not fuckin).

as women many of us are taught to withhold and treasure our goodies. as a result, when we give ourselves to someone else, we falsely believe he will treasure us as much as we desire to be treasured.

the reality is, kitty is a dime a dozen and your coochie aint gold. if you want to be treated like a queen, you have to demand and command that level of respect and that starts with being willing and able to walk away at the moment you're being devalued.

it's a hard lesson to learn but most eventually get it.

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Good insight.

Posted by caligula

Posted by tiki33
Whether you are pacifying us or not TS it shouldn't really matter to us because we don't have to date him...I hope you don't read too much into Mrs.Negativity words...It's your life, do what you want with it, if you want to stick around with him for a little while longer to see if things will improve then do it, if that's what you need then do it, if you feel you are strong enough inside to cut contact then do it, it's really not our business what you choose to do with your life and your relationships.

You are not ignorant, you are in love, love make women do some of those most stupidest shit over a man but it's all relative, you'll inevitably move on to a more balanced relationship, at your age fuck up as much as you want b/c this is the time to do it, by the time you get 35/40 you'll have been there done that and won't even indulge in nonsensical BS with men.

agreed.

how long we individually choose to be utterly stupid depends on how much shit we're willing to take. you know your threshold and with age and maturity, your tolerance for bullshit will decrease.

i WISH someone told me that i didn't have to enter each and every relationship with the hope/belief/intent that "this must work." i WISH someone told me that no, you don't have to bail at the first sign of trouble but if it isn't workin for you, it aint and it really is ok/right to just say "fuck it" and move on to the next one and the next one (i'm talking dating, not fuckin).

as women many of us are taught to withhold and treasure our goodies. as a result, when we give ourselves to someone else, we falsely believe he will treasure us as much as we desire to be treasured.

the reality is, kitty is a dime a dozen and your coochie aint gold. if you want to be treated like a queen, you have to demand and command that level of respect and that starts with being willing and able to walk away at the moment you're being devalued.

it's a hard lesson to learn but most eventually get it.

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Golden words! Hallelu!

Definitely would save so many young women from a lot of grief

I wasn't trying to pacify the situation in here. If I were I probably would have said I DID make a clean cut and don't need any advice anymore. I admitted that I failed at doing that..that it's not a clean cut because even though we're pretty much broken up..."pretty much" is not just straight out broken up.

He came over on sunday afternoon and tried to tell me I wasn't worth a $ 2 piece of paper. I knew he was joking but I pretty much blew up when that happened. Why? Because I feel like I borrowed confidence and self-esteem from in here like I said. But when I did that he sat there and listened. He knew what I was trying to do. I tried to break up with him but I failed. Normally I would sit there all sad and then tell him he'd hurt my feelings. I guess I wasn't setting my boundaries?

But the way it made me feel to stand up for myself (even though I couldn't take it all the way) was truly something! And that's why I said even though the confidence and self-esteem I have at the moment is only borrowed I think I've figured out where to get it for myself.

I was ashamed that I didn't manage to completely end things but I stood up for myself more than I ever have (or at least it felt like it)...so I don't feel like I have to be TOO ashamed. And this is why I said I felt like even though I'm only bunny hopping forward I don't feel like I'm going to go backwards.

Anyway he left and we haven't spoken since and for once I don't even care. Usually I'd be wondering why and what did I do. I know what I did but I also know what he did and I feel like I don't care much.

It's like I've packed up to move house and there's just a couple of boxes left to be moved. Now I just have to hope I don't accidentally slowly move back in 😛 But hopefully because I'm aware of that I won't let that happen.

Caligula - I love what you said. There are a few posts in here that I want to save for future reference (and hopefully a reminder of when I'm doing the wrong thing) and I think I might have to save that one too.

Yeah...I'm weird...I know.

TS I know it's not easy to break away but he won't get better. Even if he tries to be nice in order to keep you it is not what comes naturally to him he will always slip back because he would have to make an actual effort to not be hurtful to you. Do you have to make an effort to be kind to people? Does being nice to someone who loves you feel like an inconvenience? That's how it is for him. People can't keep up with doing things that don't come naturally to them. You will waste your time only to find out you could've been with someone who doesn't mistreat you and isn't all about his needs and doesn't give a f**k about yours. Even when he is being better to you that is just because he's in the mood to be charitable it's not about you and it will always be about him. Caligula's post was phenomenal. It would've been nice for someone like her to smack me in the back of my head when I was in your place. Being 21 doesn't always mean you can screw up until you figure things out and then just straighten up. Sometimes if you don't learn to put yourself above your attachment for someone and treat yourself with value you won't get a do over. I didn't. I paid an unimaginable price for holding onto the wrong person and putting my feelings for him before myself. Believe me chances can run out at any age. You are lucky that right now, this second you can just walk away if you want to - You have no idea what a great place you are in at this moment. Now I am with someone who would never belittle me not as a joke or under any other circumstance, even when he's pissed. It's not just that he loves me it's who he is as a person. You will find someone else. If you don't then they will find you but in the meantime you are better off alone.