The depth of a Cancer girls' feelings.. (Page 3)

12 Years500+ PostsSagittarius

Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom

Posted by Andalusia
Sounds like the Cancer lady wasn't all that invested in you either. Which is why you both talked and were able to remain "friends". Because Your actions hurt her feelings - not her heart. If the latter had been involved, this would be a completely different thread. Believe me.

She was very invested because she couldnt stop crying the whole time while we were talking today. And that is just one example of the many I could give you.
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?? This sounds a bit like ego stroking, tbh... But that point aside - tears do not automatically = investment. Now I'm a little confused.

Why so adament about how much she likes/liked you? Do/did you WANT her to be completely invested in you? Does having that belief validate the relationship and/or experience for you? Is it not enough that YOU felt something, that YOU learned something via this Cancer? Why is it so important to you whether SHE is coming from the same place...?

... I'm a Virgo, and I think P Angel is right. We are emotionally autistic.

Speak for yourself

Posted by CluelessCancer

Posted by scorchedearth
you go fuck yourself you little capricorn twat. i've already told you to not talk to me. leave me the fuck alone or i will report you for harassment. i'm only telling you once.

lol cappies and virgos ..jesus christ the lot of them should burn in morder.
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Yea we were forged for immortality.

@BoomShakalakaBoom

15 Years5,000+ Posts

Not sure what Andalusia means by me being adamant about how much she liked me. Im saying exactly what the Cancerian told me. Thats good enough for me 🙂

@Sagittarius2315

I'm going through a similar ordeal( no replacing) but I've learned; there are relationships that go beyond the romantic, it's a silent understanding between to people, a higher connection, it's beyond ego, it's beyond anything that we are taught to feel for another person; and how to approach it.

We are use to placing labels on a relationship; especially if you have a deep connection(push and pull) for a person. We feel like we must poses this person and so on. I'm not talking about platonic relationships , not that kind of connection.

You know it when you feel it; and until then, many will question.

So I understand. My take is; like you said it could have been done differently. Not giving an excuse for the actions, but I understand the current dynamics.

@BoomShakalakaBoom

15 Years5,000+ Posts

anyways as I said before..time to sleep, ta taaaaaaaa 🙂

@Tomberjack

13 Years

Posted by CluelessCancer

Posted by Tomberjack

Posted by CluelessCancer

Posted by scorchedearth
you go fuck yourself you little capricorn twat. i've already told you to not talk to me. leave me the fuck alone or i will report you for harassment. i'm only telling you once.

lol cappies and virgos ..jesus christ the lot of them should burn in morder.

Yea we were forged for immortality.

I give Caps their due though, they can be loyal, and i think are more concrete then Virgos.
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Lol *Claps*.

@Andalusia

12 Years500+ PostsSagittarius

G'night Shaka. Hopefully you found some snack food for thought within this thread. Whether or not it seems like bullshit now; different perspectives are always good for mulling over and chewing on.. Even if you ultimately decide not to digest them 🙂

@Sagittarius2315

Posted by CluelessCancer
Sagi you give the Virgo too much benefit of the doubt, im sticking to what i know, this guy is doing what's comfortable for him, and keeping her as a safety net.

If he is; Karma will definitely catch up with him. My experience is much different; because I choose not to drop one for the other. I was already going through a tiff(when I was in my relationship at the time) and was already going through my break up. With in that period I told the other guy that I met while I was going through my break up that friendship was all I could give. I don't jump from one relationship to another. The healing process is very important and is needed, and should be done by all. He and I are still friends and have come to an understanding that what we feel for each other although very strong, is meant for the purpose of friendship. I truly believe that, accept and I'm at peace with it.

I'm too afraid of reaping bad karma for myself and I don't do on to others what I don't want done on to me. That's me.

He is different; I understand what he might be going through internally; and maybe not. Either way, if something happens, he shouldn't ask himself why; our actions whether sooner or later catch up with us and have consequences, even when it comes to matters of the heart.

@Damnata

16 Years25,000+ PostsVirgo

Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom

if the circumstances that forced us to break up no longer stand in the way in the future, for now though Im happy with this outcome 🙂

Someone going to work in another country is a circumstance.

Someone getting sick is a circumstance.

What happened with you two isn't.

@bloodflood

12 Years500+ Posts

i'll try not to be biased although my close Virgo guy friend sometimes nauseates me with his recounting of his pursuits of women, mainly because they really only serve to inflate his already huge ego. we've gotten in a couple spats because i make it my mission to take his ego down a notch every time, which in my eyes is a favor to him because who likes an arrogant bastard? but in any case...

from what i read, you place a lot of emphasis on how much this cancer feels for you...i.e. "the depth" of her feelings, which makes me think how much this serves more as a cushion for your ego, rather than empathy for her (although i don't doubt that you ALSO feel empathetic for her on some level). in that sense, your ego feels validated in that you are able to move and effect a person so much, to even extend an olive branch of friendship despite you very well knowing how "shady" (for lack of a better word, but we'll get into that later) you acted with her. even more so, i think your interpretation of this final interaction with the cancer justifies the end with her and the beginning with the taurus... as if one is giving you blessings to be with the other.. but you see this is also very egocentric. so even with all these comments against your character, the way you are interpreting everything with one supporting the other, you will not be swayed otherwise.... your mind won't allow it once it has made its decision... an infrastructure to the survival of the fittest (more so emotionally in this case), so it seems.

as to whether your forming a connection with the taurus while non-casually being involved with the cancer, i wouldn't say that it is wrong per se (but my definition of wrong is another topic of discussion entirely). there is definitely nothing "wrong" with talking to people while in a relationship, but the intent was there from the beginning with the taurus while the cancer was there for you as crutch. so again i would definitely tie it back to your ego, which by definition is "selfish". cease to know the self, and you'll truly know YOURSELF.

cheers fellow virgo

@Damnata

16 Years25,000+ PostsVirgo

See, if Shaka only described this connection with Taurus as the best in his life, maybe we'd understand what he's getting at.

But before that there was Sag and the amazing "connection" and then the Cancer and again the amazing "connection".

The only time I really think he was in love and not in lust was with his Cap chick.

@Andalusia

IMO, people use the word "connection" in lieu of lube, or when they are out it.

I think Boom here doesnt understand that even though he thought he had her in the palm of his hand he didnt and also didnt hook her like he thought he had and now is scratching his head and blaming her for his cheating?

Ah this is seen a mile off and she knew about him even before he realised just as well the girl is a 'nice one' and 'caring' enough to see and understand this about him because there would be hell to pay if she werent so 'caring'

Its just a damn shame Boom dun see this and neither does anyone else, makes me laugh really.

Actually Boom are you joking here or what?

Also I am wondering where did the men go?

Around seems like they are all little boys still holding onto mama's apron or purse strings.

God know wonder girl go out with guys who are much older only coz they themselves are actual men and not boys.

@CancerOnTheCusp

You drinking tonight?

This post is an example of boys playing in the backyard of mamas house where they are first discovering the other sex (if they are straight) and then realise girls hurt and sadly enough doesnt understand that girls grow up and hurt guys just by playing him as much as he plays them. I thought I learnt you sometink MR!