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Why these cancers are always so moody..crabby?
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My experience with dating cancer men is that they are always very selfish.
I'm am a cancer women though. I don't believe I'm selfish.
I'm am a cancer women though. I don't believe I'm selfish.
Communication is something crabs lack.
Learn to be in tune with them emotionally.
Takes time and patience and a whole lotta understanding.
Sometimes you gotta learn to be as hard headed as they are at persistence as they are at pushing ppl away.
Learn to be in tune with them emotionally.
Takes time and patience and a whole lotta understanding.
Sometimes you gotta learn to be as hard headed as they are at persistence as they are at pushing ppl away.
I haven't dated a Cancer, but, my brother is a Cancer.
They seem to want to maneuver a person into doing something, rather than just state what they want .. and that is very annoying.
I've noticed that my brother is extremely needy .. but, I attribute that to his Pisces moon. He is so emotionally needy that he becomes an emotional burden to nearly everyone around him. And Cancer men, in general, don't seem to have this quality ... so, it's surely his moon.
As far as Cancer men (who aren't my brother), they seem very attentive to other people, and usually have a genuine concern for their friends and family.
that's all I got
They seem to want to maneuver a person into doing something, rather than just state what they want .. and that is very annoying.
I've noticed that my brother is extremely needy .. but, I attribute that to his Pisces moon. He is so emotionally needy that he becomes an emotional burden to nearly everyone around him. And Cancer men, in general, don't seem to have this quality ... so, it's surely his moon.
As far as Cancer men (who aren't my brother), they seem very attentive to other people, and usually have a genuine concern for their friends and family.
that's all I got
Posted by Ashley0202Have you tried to communicate your needs to him? Sometimes this helps. Sometimes it doesn't. I personally think the best thing you can do is give him space to miss you and let him chase a little bit. Let him always contact u first or ask u to hang out. Keep busy with ur friends or family. Don't show so much interest in him and always give him what he wants. If you do this, he'll try harderPosted by pinkbird03
My experience with dating cancer men is that they are always very selfish.
I'm am a cancer women though. I don't believe I'm selfish.
Indeed they r.. they just want to b pampered but never wanna know their partner's need..
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His behavior makes me think he's talking to another girl.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeMe- virgo Sun, Scorpio MoonPosted by Ashley0202Oh sheet. ScaryPosted by TheRealGemShadyPosted by Ashley0202Hmm, what happened two years ago?Posted by TheRealGemShadyWell.. 6 years... but since last 2 years he seems to b so moody... one moment he wants to love and the other he forgets about me. I know he is sensitive on the inside but I don't see him sharing anything.. he keeps everything to himself.. he keeps pushing me away.. and when I start ignoring he feels like why am I acting like that..Posted by Ashley0202How long have you been together? Cancer men will take advantage of you and let you go ahead and be their mama if you'll do it. Don't do it! Make them show their grown-up side, which of course, they do have.Posted by TheRealGemShadyWel I haven't experienced any of these with my cancer man yet.. although I know he is sensitive on the inside but I never see him giving much into this relationship.. he expects alot from me but never do anything for us.
Hello...crab?
Someone described it here one day as the sign of mother and son, and that makes since. Cancer is the mother on the outside, nurturing, bossing, picking, and the child on the inside, loving, full of heart, and pouting.
It's much harder to have a personal planet in a water sign if you're a man. Why do we call water signs feminine? Because they're about emotion, which we associate with women, and we don't really allow men to express emotion healthily, at least not in the US, we don't.
You have to be tough and loving to be with a male Cancer. He will embody all the qualities of the child and none of the mother if you let him.
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but deep down he knows I m never gonna leave him..
What's your sign?
If he has a leo moon he's over it and boredclick to expand
Him- cancer sun, sag moon
Posted by EphexisMe- leoPosted by Ashley0202What are your Mercuries?Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeMe- virgo Sun, Scorpio MoonPosted by Ashley0202Oh sheet. ScaryPosted by TheRealGemShadyPosted by Ashley0202Hmm, what happened two years ago?Posted by TheRealGemShadyWell.. 6 years... but since last 2 years he seems to b so moody... one moment he wants to love and the other he forgets about me. I know he is sensitive on the inside but I don't see him sharing anything.. he keeps everything to himself.. he keeps pushing me away.. and when I start ignoring he feels like why am I acting like that..Posted by Ashley0202How long have you been together? Cancer men will take advantage of you and let you go ahead and be their mama if you'll do it. Don't do it! Make them show their grown-up side, which of course, they do have.Posted by TheRealGemShadyWel I haven't experienced any of these with my cancer man yet.. although I know he is sensitive on the inside but I never see him giving much into this relationship.. he expects alot from me but never do anything for us.
Hello...crab?
Someone described it here one day as the sign of mother and son, and that makes since. Cancer is the mother on the outside, nurturing, bossing, picking, and the child on the inside, loving, full of heart, and pouting.
It's much harder to have a personal planet in a water sign if you're a man. Why do we call water signs feminine? Because they're about emotion, which we associate with women, and we don't really allow men to express emotion healthily, at least not in the US, we don't.
You have to be tough and loving to be with a male Cancer. He will embody all the qualities of the child and none of the mother if you let him.
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but deep down he knows I m never gonna leave him..
What's your sign?
If he has a leo moon he's over it and bored
Him- cancer sun, sag moon
Mercury is how you communicate, your mind, how you think.
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Him- cancer
Posted by EphexisCancers loveeee attention. He doesn't seem to totally care if he gets it from Ashley. That makes me think he's getting it from someone else.Posted by pinkbird03Intuition or ?
His behavior makes me think he's talking to another girl.
I just see a lot of miscommunication personally, but yeah it's possible it could be that.
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I agree communication is part of the issue. He also sounds bored to me.
I've been here, done this once before. I've seen other cancer men do this too.
Posted by EphexisWell then I am completely opposite of what u said about leo.. I am not really good at communicating with others . And I m very reserved.Posted by Ashley0202You have the same Mercury as me, i will tip my hat to it, it's a cool as fck Mercury 😄Posted by EphexisMe- leoPosted by Ashley0202What are your Mercuries?Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeMe- virgo Sun, Scorpio MoonPosted by Ashley0202Oh sheet. ScaryPosted by TheRealGemShadyPosted by Ashley0202Hmm, what happened two years ago?Posted by TheRealGemShadyWell.. 6 years... but since last 2 years he seems to b so moody... one moment he wants to love and the other he forgets about me. I know he is sensitive on the inside but I don't see him sharing anything.. he keeps everything to himself.. he keeps pushing me away.. and when I start ignoring he feels like why am I acting like that..Posted by Ashley0202How long have you been together? Cancer men will take advantage of you and let you go ahead and be their mama if you'll do it. Don't do it! Make them show their grown-up side, which of course, they do have.Posted by TheRealGemShadyWel I haven't experienced any of these with my cancer man yet.. although I know he is sensitive on the inside but I never see him giving much into this relationship.. he expects alot from me but never do anything for us.
Hello...crab?
Someone described it here one day as the sign of mother and son, and that makes since. Cancer is the mother on the outside, nurturing, bossing, picking, and the child on the inside, loving, full of heart, and pouting.
It's much harder to have a personal planet in a water sign if you're a man. Why do we call water signs feminine? Because they're about emotion, which we associate with women, and we don't really allow men to express emotion healthily, at least not in the US, we don't.
You have to be tough and loving to be with a male Cancer. He will embody all the qualities of the child and none of the mother if you let him.
??
but deep down he knows I m never gonna leave him..
What's your sign?
If he has a leo moon he's over it and bored
Him- cancer sun, sag moon
Mercury is how you communicate, your mind, how you think.
Him- cancer
Cancer Mercury.
Mercury in Cancer is sensitive and withdrawn. They are very thoughtful of others. They are shy and may choose not to talk at all. They may respond slowly, giving the impression of being a deep thinker, which they very well may be. They like to meditate on a problem, and reflect on their experiences.
They are great listeners, and can actually make decisions faster than it appears. Cancer Mercury has a terrific memory, too especially if it is emotional in nature. They come across as gentle, intuitive, sentimental people. They take things very personally, which can make them appear defensive. At the same time, they can also make you feel protected and warm. They can appear to be hiding something even when they are not, which can cause Cancer Mercury some trouble.
Mercury in Cancer learns best when they feel balanced emotionally. They can remember a lot of information, though they prefer to focus on a subject and approach their problems step by step. They are empathic and can pick up the feelings of others. They are good at putting themselves in the other person's place.
Cancer Mercury does not like to argue. They will go out of their way to avoid it if possible. At the same time, they are good at starting an argument. They do this very subtly, and then feel hurt when others argue back.
They are attracted to poetry and the romance of yesteryear. Don't be upset if they withdraw for a time when making a decision it helps them figure out their own opinions on the matter rather than being influenced by others. The dislike distractions and need to focus on matters at hand. They make very good speakers and writers. Mercury in Cancer has a talent for feeling out the audience.
Cancer Mercury is very intuitive. It is not easy for them to be objective. They learn best through experience and are very receptive to subliminal messages. They have a deep appreciation of the past and historical artifacts. They would probably enjoy working in a museum. Mercury in Cancer is loyal and very patriotic.
They are creatures of habit, and a lack of routine is upsetting to them. Mercury in Cancer is very considerate of others, which engenders sympathy and support when they need it. They are very good at giving motherly advice. When they are upset, they tend to sulk. They cannot focus enough at this time to react with practical reasoning. They can be moody and defensive when criticized. Cancer Mercury is talented at reading between the lines, so they are not easily fooled.
They are often called upon to speak at family gatherings because they are in touch with life's deeper meanings. Mercury in Cancer also knows how to draw someone out of their shell when they feel awkward or troubled.
Where-as Leo is the complete opposite.. extroverted, loud and communicative.
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Posted by EphexisBut thanks alot.. ??Posted by Ashley0202Oh, well there goes that theory then.Posted by EphexisWell then I am completely opposite of what u said about leo.. I am not really good at communicating with others . And I m very reserved.Posted by Ashley0202You have the same Mercury as me, i will tip my hat to it, it's a cool as fck Mercury 😄Posted by EphexisMe- leoPosted by Ashley0202What are your Mercuries?Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeMe- virgo Sun, Scorpio MoonPosted by Ashley0202Oh sheet. ScaryPosted by TheRealGemShadyPosted by Ashley0202Hmm, what happened two years ago?Posted by TheRealGemShadyWell.. 6 years... but since last 2 years he seems to b so moody... one moment he wants to love and the other he forgets about me. I know he is sensitive on the inside but I don't see him sharing anything.. he keeps everything to himself.. he keeps pushing me away.. and when I start ignoring he feels like why am I acting like that..Posted by Ashley0202How long have you been together? Cancer men will take advantage of you and let you go ahead and be their mama if you'll do it. Don't do it! Make them show their grown-up side, which of course, they do have.Posted by TheRealGemShadyWel I haven't experienced any of these with my cancer man yet.. although I know he is sensitive on the inside but I never see him giving much into this relationship.. he expects alot from me but never do anything for us.
Hello...crab?
Someone described it here one day as the sign of mother and son, and that makes since. Cancer is the mother on the outside, nurturing, bossing, picking, and the child on the inside, loving, full of heart, and pouting.
It's much harder to have a personal planet in a water sign if you're a man. Why do we call water signs feminine? Because they're about emotion, which we associate with women, and we don't really allow men to express emotion healthily, at least not in the US, we don't.
You have to be tough and loving to be with a male Cancer. He will embody all the qualities of the child and none of the mother if you let him.
??
but deep down he knows I m never gonna leave him..
What's your sign?
If he has a leo moon he's over it and bored
Him- cancer sun, sag moon
Mercury is how you communicate, your mind, how you think.
Him- cancer
Cancer Mercury.
Mercury in Cancer is sensitive and withdrawn. They are very thoughtful of others. They are shy and may choose not to talk at all. They may respond slowly, giving the impression of being a deep thinker, which they very well may be. They like to meditate on a problem, and reflect on their experiences.
They are great listeners, and can actually make decisions faster than it appears. Cancer Mercury has a terrific memory, too especially if it is emotional in nature. They come across as gentle, intuitive, sentimental people. They take things very personally, which can make them appear defensive. At the same time, they can also make you feel protected and warm. They can appear to be hiding something even when they are not, which can cause Cancer Mercury some trouble.
Mercury in Cancer learns best when they feel balanced emotionally. They can remember a lot of information, though they prefer to focus on a subject and approach their problems step by step. They are empathic and can pick up the feelings of others. They are good at putting themselves in the other person's place.
Cancer Mercury does not like to argue. They will go out of their way to avoid it if possible. At the same time, they are good at starting an argument. They do this very subtly, and then feel hurt when others argue back.
They are attracted to poetry and the romance of yesteryear. Don't be upset if they withdraw for a time when making a decision it helps them figure out their own opinions on the matter rather than being influenced by others. The dislike distractions and need to focus on matters at hand. They make very good speakers and writers. Mercury in Cancer has a talent for feeling out the audience.
Cancer Mercury is very intuitive. It is not easy for them to be objective. They learn best through experience and are very receptive to subliminal messages. They have a deep appreciation of the past and historical artifacts. They would probably enjoy working in a museum. Mercury in Cancer is loyal and very patriotic.
They are creatures of habit, and a lack of routine is upsetting to them. Mercury in Cancer is very considerate of others, which engenders sympathy and support when they need it. They are very good at giving motherly advice. When they are upset, they tend to sulk. They cannot focus enough at this time to react with practical reasoning. They can be moody and defensive when criticized. Cancer Mercury is talented at reading between the lines, so they are not easily fooled.
They are often called upon to speak at family gatherings because they are in touch with life's deeper meanings. Mercury in Cancer also knows how to draw someone out of their shell when they feel awkward or troubled.
Where-as Leo is the complete opposite.. extroverted, loud and communicative.
Interesting indeed.
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Posted by pinkbird03I know him since very long time.. I know that he is very loyal.. so I can't think of that..Posted by EphexisCancers loveeee attention. He doesn't seem to totally care if he gets it from Ashley. That makes me think he's getting it from someone else.Posted by pinkbird03Intuition or ?
His behavior makes me think he's talking to another girl.
I just see a lot of miscommunication personally, but yeah it's possible it could be that.
I agree communication is part of the issue. He also sounds bored to me.
I've been here, done this once before. I've seen other cancer men do this too.click to expand
But I think I shud consider this once... ?
Posted by Ashley0202Yes. They are known for loyalty when they feel happily in love. But it wouldn't hurt to do a little peaking just to make sure!Posted by pinkbird03I know him since very long time.. I know that he is very loyal.. so I can't think of that..Posted by EphexisCancers loveeee attention. He doesn't seem to totally care if he gets it from Ashley. That makes me think he's getting it from someone else.Posted by pinkbird03Intuition or ?
His behavior makes me think he's talking to another girl.
I just see a lot of miscommunication personally, but yeah it's possible it could be that.
I agree communication is part of the issue. He also sounds bored to me.
I've been here, done this once before. I've seen other cancer men do this too.
But I think I shud consider this once... ?click to expand
Posted by RCancerdoes lack of communication makes them to get back to their shells?
With a Cancer be open, say what you'd like, sometimes be direct, do not expect him/her guess what you want. Just talk and try to have fun. Make him/her trust you, be real because we can read people's intentions, do not be too suffocating, try to be friends as well as lovers. To us is the time we need to see the real YOU so, be patient, as well.
Should I talk to him directly about this?
Posted by pinkbird03Its hard to believe..Posted by Ashley0202Yes. They are known for loyalty when they feel happily in love. But it wouldn't hurt to do a little peaking just to make sure!Posted by pinkbird03I know him since very long time.. I know that he is very loyal.. so I can't think of that..Posted by EphexisCancers loveeee attention. He doesn't seem to totally care if he gets it from Ashley. That makes me think he's getting it from someone else.Posted by pinkbird03Intuition or ?
His behavior makes me think he's talking to another girl.
I just see a lot of miscommunication personally, but yeah it's possible it could be that.
I agree communication is part of the issue. He also sounds bored to me.
I've been here, done this once before. I've seen other cancer men do this too.
But I think I shud consider this once... ?click to expand
Bc wenevr his ex contacts him.. he tells me every bit of that wat did she say and what did he tell to her?
Sometimes I just feel that we are losing the emotional connection we had..
And if this is the case then I don't know what should I do?
Posted by Ashley0202Posted by pinkbird03Its hard to believe..Posted by Ashley0202Yes. They are known for loyalty when they feel happily in love. But it wouldn't hurt to do a little peaking just to make sure!Posted by pinkbird03I know him since very long time.. I know that he is very loyal.. so I can't think of that..Posted by EphexisCancers loveeee attention. He doesn't seem to totally care if he gets it from Ashley. That makes me think he's getting it from someone else.Posted by pinkbird03Intuition or ?
His behavior makes me think he's talking to another girl.
I just see a lot of miscommunication personally, but yeah it's possible it could be that.
I agree communication is part of the issue. He also sounds bored to me.
I've been here, done this once before. I've seen other cancer men do this too.
But I think I shud consider this once... ?
Bc wenevr his ex contacts him.. he tells me every bit of that wat did she say and what did he tell to her?
Sometimes I just feel that we are losing the emotional connection we had..
And if this is the case then I don't know what should I do?click to expand
It could easily be someone new. A girl from work or someone he met on the internet (he may or may not have actually met this person). That's honestly my biggest guest. I've seen it a lot with cancer men. I'm guilty of it too. I personally can never fully move on from an ex until I have someone new to talk too. Some cancers just seem to do this before ending the relationship with their current girlfriend. I know you said this has been going on a few years. The other girl could be married or in a serious relationship like you two are. Honestly, the last cancer I dated broke up with his girlfriend of 8 years to be with another girl and it didn't even last a few months. They do stupid shit like that. My last serious relationship was with a cancer man and he cheated a lot too! I personally don't trust cancers! Don't want another!
If you still don't believe me at all, try going on a vacation by the water. You need special bonding time
Posted by pinkbird03But wenevr I asked him he simply said that I can't get the one like you ever.. and he also said that I waited for 2 years for u (when we wer in a long distance) .. but since the day I hav come back he sometimes does everything to keep it and sometimes says that he is busy with his work..Posted by Ashley0202Posted by pinkbird03Its hard to believe..Posted by Ashley0202Yes. They are known for loyalty when they feel happily in love. But it wouldn't hurt to do a little peaking just to make sure!Posted by pinkbird03I know him since very long time.. I know that he is very loyal.. so I can't think of that..Posted by EphexisCancers loveeee attention. He doesn't seem to totally care if he gets it from Ashley. That makes me think he's getting it from someone else.Posted by pinkbird03Intuition or ?
His behavior makes me think he's talking to another girl.
I just see a lot of miscommunication personally, but yeah it's possible it could be that.
I agree communication is part of the issue. He also sounds bored to me.
I've been here, done this once before. I've seen other cancer men do this too.
But I think I shud consider this once... ?
Bc wenevr his ex contacts him.. he tells me every bit of that wat did she say and what did he tell to her?
Sometimes I just feel that we are losing the emotional connection we had..
And if this is the case then I don't know what should I do?
It could easily be someone new. A girl from work or someone he met on the internet (he may or may not have actually met this person). That's honestly my biggest guest. I've seen it a lot with cancer men. I'm guilty of it too. I personally can never fully move on from an ex until I have someone new to talk too. Some cancers just seem to do this before ending the relationship with their current girlfriend. I know you said this has been going on a few years. The other girl could be married or in a serious relationship like you two are. Honestly, the last cancer I dated broke up with his girlfriend of 8 years to be with another girl and it didn't even last a few months. They do stupid shit like that. My last serious relationship was with a cancer man and he cheated a lot too! I personally don't trust cancers! Don't want another!
If you still don't believe me at all, try going on a vacation by the water. You need special bonding time
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He waited for me.. agreed.. bc wen we wer at long distnc I never gave him much time.. so he just kept himself busy.. and he still wants to continue.. but I m just afraid that we hav lost the connection which we once shared and now he doesn't act like he really does want to share..
Now aftr reading this.. I m afraid whethr its really about another girl or its just that he is waiting for me to open up and share things... bc as I mentioned before I m very reserved and now aftr that communication gap I am not able to share things woth him freely.. I don't know what should I do.. should I talk to him about this.. bc 6 years is a very long time..
Bc I can't lose him anyway.. ?
Posted by Ashley0202I'm sorry. I didn't mean to scare you, just sharing my experiences. He might not tell you the truth if you ask him, as he would never want to hurt you. Your best move is to snoop a little. If you have suspicion then I think that's the only time it's ok to snoop. I hope I'm wrong.Posted by pinkbird03But wenevr I asked him he simply said that I can't get the one like you ever.. and he also said that I waited for 2 years for u (when we wer in a long distance) .. but since the day I hav come back he sometimes does everything to keep it and sometimes says that he is busy with his work..Posted by Ashley0202Posted by pinkbird03Its hard to believe..Posted by Ashley0202Yes. They are known for loyalty when they feel happily in love. But it wouldn't hurt to do a little peaking just to make sure!Posted by pinkbird03I know him since very long time.. I know that he is very loyal.. so I can't think of that..Posted by EphexisCancers loveeee attention. He doesn't seem to totally care if he gets it from Ashley. That makes me think he's getting it from someone else.Posted by pinkbird03Intuition or ?
His behavior makes me think he's talking to another girl.
I just see a lot of miscommunication personally, but yeah it's possible it could be that.
I agree communication is part of the issue. He also sounds bored to me.
I've been here, done this once before. I've seen other cancer men do this too.
But I think I shud consider this once... ?
Bc wenevr his ex contacts him.. he tells me every bit of that wat did she say and what did he tell to her?
Sometimes I just feel that we are losing the emotional connection we had..
And if this is the case then I don't know what should I do?
It could easily be someone new. A girl from work or someone he met on the internet (he may or may not have actually met this person). That's honestly my biggest guest. I've seen it a lot with cancer men. I'm guilty of it too. I personally can never fully move on from an ex until I have someone new to talk too. Some cancers just seem to do this before ending the relationship with their current girlfriend. I know you said this has been going on a few years. The other girl could be married or in a serious relationship like you two are. Honestly, the last cancer I dated broke up with his girlfriend of 8 years to be with another girl and it didn't even last a few months. They do stupid shit like that. My last serious relationship was with a cancer man and he cheated a lot too! I personally don't trust cancers! Don't want another!
If you still don't believe me at all, try going on a vacation by the water. You need special bonding time
He waited for me.. agreed.. bc wen we wer at long distnc I never gave him much time.. so he just kept himself busy.. and he still wants to continue.. but I m just afraid that we hav lost the connection which we once shared and now he doesn't act like he really does want to share..
Now aftr reading this.. I m afraid whethr its really about another girl or its just that he is waiting for me to open up and share things... bc as I mentioned before I m very reserved and now aftr that communication gap I am not able to share things woth him freely.. I don't know what should I do.. should I talk to him about this.. bc 6 years is a very long time..
Bc I can't lose him anyway.. ?click to expand
If you want to build your connection with him, do something special. I once planned a night at a hotel with a very nice room at a casino and had a romantic night.
Posted by EphexisYou say that Cancers are 'never the same as another' yet you keep attacking people for giving their opinion on the Cancer in their life..
If it's not working, it's not working for you.
Cancer's are never the same as another, especially if their moons are in Earth or Fire signs, these Cancer's are less moody and introverted.
Posted by pinkbird03His words confuse me alot. He talks about marriage one moment and all of sudden he says i m never gonna marry. He Doesn't make me feel special.. if he has lost interest he should simply walk away.. whenevr I stop texting and calling him. Why does He call and ask me to meet him. And if by any chance I ask him to meet me he says he is busy with other stuffs. Don't know wat is he upto. Muddled.. When I avoid his calls or texts, he texts me that lets meet today..Posted by Ashley0202I'm sorry. I didn't mean to scare you, just sharing my experiences. He might not tell you the truth if you ask him, as he would never want to hurt you. Your best move is to snoop a little. If you have suspicion then I think that's the only time it's ok to snoop. I hope I'm wrong.Posted by pinkbird03But wenevr I asked him he simply said that I can't get the one like you ever.. and he also said that I waited for 2 years for u (when we wer in a long distance) .. but since the day I hav come back he sometimes does everything to keep it and sometimes says that he is busy with his work..Posted by Ashley0202Posted by pinkbird03Its hard to believe..Posted by Ashley0202Yes. They are known for loyalty when they feel happily in love. But it wouldn't hurt to do a little peaking just to make sure!Posted by pinkbird03I know him since very long time.. I know that he is very loyal.. so I can't think of that..Posted by EphexisCancers loveeee attention. He doesn't seem to totally care if he gets it from Ashley. That makes me think he's getting it from someone else.Posted by pinkbird03Intuition or ?
His behavior makes me think he's talking to another girl.
I just see a lot of miscommunication personally, but yeah it's possible it could be that.
I agree communication is part of the issue. He also sounds bored to me.
I've been here, done this once before. I've seen other cancer men do this too.
But I think I shud consider this once... ?
Bc wenevr his ex contacts him.. he tells me every bit of that wat did she say and what did he tell to her?
Sometimes I just feel that we are losing the emotional connection we had..
And if this is the case then I don't know what should I do?
It could easily be someone new. A girl from work or someone he met on the internet (he may or may not have actually met this person). That's honestly my biggest guest. I've seen it a lot with cancer men. I'm guilty of it too. I personally can never fully move on from an ex until I have someone new to talk too. Some cancers just seem to do this before ending the relationship with their current girlfriend. I know you said this has been going on a few years. The other girl could be married or in a serious relationship like you two are. Honestly, the last cancer I dated broke up with his girlfriend of 8 years to be with another girl and it didn't even last a few months. They do stupid shit like that. My last serious relationship was with a cancer man and he cheated a lot too! I personally don't trust cancers! Don't want another!
If you still don't believe me at all, try going on a vacation by the water. You need special bonding time
He waited for me.. agreed.. bc wen we wer at long distnc I never gave him much time.. so he just kept himself busy.. and he still wants to continue.. but I m just afraid that we hav lost the connection which we once shared and now he doesn't act like he really does want to share..
Now aftr reading this.. I m afraid whethr its really about another girl or its just that he is waiting for me to open up and share things... bc as I mentioned before I m very reserved and now aftr that communication gap I am not able to share things woth him freely.. I don't know what should I do.. should I talk to him about this.. bc 6 years is a very long time..
Bc I can't lose him anyway.. ?
If you want to build your connection with him, do something special. I once planned a night at a hotel with a very nice room at a casino and had a romantic night.
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And when I chase him he avoids me. What does this man want me to do? I have done almoat everything to make him feel special. And if the case is that he doesn't like spending time with me why is he wasting time with me.. why doesn't he just move on and let me do the same..
Posted by Ashley0202Posted by pinkbird03His words confuse me alot. He talks about marriage one moment and all of sudden he says i m never gonna marry. He Doesn't make me feel special.. if he has lost interest he should simply walk away.. whenevr I stop texting and calling him. Why does He call and ask me to meet him. And if by any chance I ask him to meet me he says he is busy with other stuffs. Don't know wat is he upto. Muddled.. When I avoid his calls or texts, he texts me that lets meet today..Posted by Ashley0202I'm sorry. I didn't mean to scare you, just sharing my experiences. He might not tell you the truth if you ask him, as he would never want to hurt you. Your best move is to snoop a little. If you have suspicion then I think that's the only time it's ok to snoop. I hope I'm wrong.Posted by pinkbird03But wenevr I asked him he simply said that I can't get the one like you ever.. and he also said that I waited for 2 years for u (when we wer in a long distance) .. but since the day I hav come back he sometimes does everything to keep it and sometimes says that he is busy with his work..Posted by Ashley0202Posted by pinkbird03Its hard to believe..Posted by Ashley0202Yes. They are known for loyalty when they feel happily in love. But it wouldn't hurt to do a little peaking just to make sure!Posted by pinkbird03I know him since very long time.. I know that he is very loyal.. so I can't think of that..Posted by EphexisCancers loveeee attention. He doesn't seem to totally care if he gets it from Ashley. That makes me think he's getting it from someone else.Posted by pinkbird03Intuition or ?
His behavior makes me think he's talking to another girl.
I just see a lot of miscommunication personally, but yeah it's possible it could be that.
I agree communication is part of the issue. He also sounds bored to me.
I've been here, done this once before. I've seen other cancer men do this too.
But I think I shud consider this once... ?
Bc wenevr his ex contacts him.. he tells me every bit of that wat did she say and what did he tell to her?
Sometimes I just feel that we are losing the emotional connection we had..
And if this is the case then I don't know what should I do?
It could easily be someone new. A girl from work or someone he met on the internet (he may or may not have actually met this person). That's honestly my biggest guest. I've seen it a lot with cancer men. I'm guilty of it too. I personally can never fully move on from an ex until I have someone new to talk too. Some cancers just seem to do this before ending the relationship with their current girlfriend. I know you said this has been going on a few years. The other girl could be married or in a serious relationship like you two are. Honestly, the last cancer I dated broke up with his girlfriend of 8 years to be with another girl and it didn't even last a few months. They do stupid shit like that. My last serious relationship was with a cancer man and he cheated a lot too! I personally don't trust cancers! Don't want another!
If you still don't believe me at all, try going on a vacation by the water. You need special bonding time
He waited for me.. agreed.. bc wen we wer at long distnc I never gave him much time.. so he just kept himself busy.. and he still wants to continue.. but I m just afraid that we hav lost the connection which we once shared and now he doesn't act like he really does want to share..
Now aftr reading this.. I m afraid whethr its really about another girl or its just that he is waiting for me to open up and share things... bc as I mentioned before I m very reserved and now aftr that communication gap I am not able to share things woth him freely.. I don't know what should I do.. should I talk to him about this.. bc 6 years is a very long time..
Bc I can't lose him anyway.. ?
If you want to build your connection with him, do something special. I once planned a night at a hotel with a very nice room at a casino and had a romantic night.
And when I chase him he avoids me. What does this man want me to do? I have done almoat everything to make him feel special. And if the case is that he doesn't like spending time with me why is he wasting time with me.. why doesn't he just move on and let me do the same..click to expand
Have you talked to him about any of this? That might help. It's hard for me to assume what he wants you to do. Let me share a personal experience with you as I can relate to this behavior.
I've been in the casual dating game for years. I've found myself liking a few guys, but not totally sure how much I truly liked them. Basically I was confused about my feelings. So I chased them until they liked me. When they liked me, I started acting very distant towards them because I had my doubts. Then they started keeping their distance so I began chasing them until they liked me again. Basically it was a cycle I repeated until I realized I just didn't like them enough and moved on.
Not saying that's what he's doing, but maybe. The bottom line is that you're not happy. He's the one not making you happy and I personally think you deserve better.
*also wanted to add that I've never done that with a guy I actually really liked.
Posted by pinkbird03It's really hard to believe that a guy once I called my best friend is doing this to me..Posted by Ashley0202Posted by pinkbird03His words confuse me alot. He talks about marriage one moment and all of sudden he says i m never gonna marry. He Doesn't make me feel special.. if he has lost interest he should simply walk away.. whenevr I stop texting and calling him. Why does He call and ask me to meet him. And if by any chance I ask him to meet me he says he is busy with other stuffs. Don't know wat is he upto. Muddled.. When I avoid his calls or texts, he texts me that lets meet today..Posted by Ashley0202I'm sorry. I didn't mean to scare you, just sharing my experiences. He might not tell you the truth if you ask him, as he would never want to hurt you. Your best move is to snoop a little. If you have suspicion then I think that's the only time it's ok to snoop. I hope I'm wrong.Posted by pinkbird03But wenevr I asked him he simply said that I can't get the one like you ever.. and he also said that I waited for 2 years for u (when we wer in a long distance) .. but since the day I hav come back he sometimes does everything to keep it and sometimes says that he is busy with his work..Posted by Ashley0202Posted by pinkbird03Its hard to believe..Posted by Ashley0202Yes. They are known for loyalty when they feel happily in love. But it wouldn't hurt to do a little peaking just to make sure!Posted by pinkbird03I know him since very long time.. I know that he is very loyal.. so I can't think of that..Posted by EphexisCancers loveeee attention. He doesn't seem to totally care if he gets it from Ashley. That makes me think he's getting it from someone else.Posted by pinkbird03Intuition or ?
His behavior makes me think he's talking to another girl.
I just see a lot of miscommunication personally, but yeah it's possible it could be that.
I agree communication is part of the issue. He also sounds bored to me.
I've been here, done this once before. I've seen other cancer men do this too.
But I think I shud consider this once... ?
Bc wenevr his ex contacts him.. he tells me every bit of that wat did she say and what did he tell to her?
Sometimes I just feel that we are losing the emotional connection we had..
And if this is the case then I don't know what should I do?
It could easily be someone new. A girl from work or someone he met on the internet (he may or may not have actually met this person). That's honestly my biggest guest. I've seen it a lot with cancer men. I'm guilty of it too. I personally can never fully move on from an ex until I have someone new to talk too. Some cancers just seem to do this before ending the relationship with their current girlfriend. I know you said this has been going on a few years. The other girl could be married or in a serious relationship like you two are. Honestly, the last cancer I dated broke up with his girlfriend of 8 years to be with another girl and it didn't even last a few months. They do stupid shit like that. My last serious relationship was with a cancer man and he cheated a lot too! I personally don't trust cancers! Don't want another!
If you still don't believe me at all, try going on a vacation by the water. You need special bonding time
He waited for me.. agreed.. bc wen we wer at long distnc I never gave him much time.. so he just kept himself busy.. and he still wants to continue.. but I m just afraid that we hav lost the connection which we once shared and now he doesn't act like he really does want to share..
Now aftr reading this.. I m afraid whethr its really about another girl or its just that he is waiting for me to open up and share things... bc as I mentioned before I m very reserved and now aftr that communication gap I am not able to share things woth him freely.. I don't know what should I do.. should I talk to him about this.. bc 6 years is a very long time..
Bc I can't lose him anyway.. ?
If you want to build your connection with him, do something special. I once planned a night at a hotel with a very nice room at a casino and had a romantic night.
And when I chase him he avoids me. What does this man want me to do? I have done almoat everything to make him feel special. And if the case is that he doesn't like spending time with me why is he wasting time with me.. why doesn't he just move on and let me do the same..
Have you talked to him about any of this? That might help. It's hard for me to assume what he wants you to do. Let me share a personal experience with you as I can relate to this behavior.
I've been in the casual dating game for years. I've found myself liking a few guys, but not totally sure how much I truly liked them. Basically I was confused about my feelings. So I chased them until they liked me. When they liked me, I started acting very distant towards them because I had my doubts. Then they started keeping their distance so I began chasing them until they liked me again. Basically it was a cycle I repeated until I realized I just didn't like them enough and moved on.
Not saying that's what he's doing, but maybe. The bottom line is that you're not happy. He's the one not making you happy and I personally think you deserve better.
*also wanted to add that I've never done that with a guy I actually really liked.
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Posted by DiamondAceBut they should atleast show or tell what do they want?
I've been around virgo women with cancer men. Virgos know EXACTLY how to make her cancer man do what they want because virgos can be sweet then turn very straightforward, demanding, controlling when need be. Virgos are very good at expressing their emotions, whether good or bad and they express it with caution...Meaning they know the right time to express it. They won't express it when their cancer is pissed off. One of the Virgo I know always does her own thing while her cancer works and she makes sure to cook at home when he gets home. The other virgo I know doesn't cook at all and the cancer does it all but the virgo makes the house a home. Both of the cancers are mama's boys. One of the Virgo despises the cancers mom because the mom is possessive of her son and tortures their marriage. The other virgo friend loves her cancer's mom. All in all, I see virgos more emotional than the cancer men in this combo and the cancers know how to care for his family.
Or atleast meet so that I can understand his needs..
Posted by Ashley0202Posted by pinkbird03It's really hard to believe that a guy once I called my best friend is doing this to me..Posted by Ashley0202Posted by pinkbird03His words confuse me alot. He talks about marriage one moment and all of sudden he says i m never gonna marry. He Doesn't make me feel special.. if he has lost interest he should simply walk away.. whenevr I stop texting and calling him. Why does He call and ask me to meet him. And if by any chance I ask him to meet me he says he is busy with other stuffs. Don't know wat is he upto. Muddled.. When I avoid his calls or texts, he texts me that lets meet today..Posted by Ashley0202I'm sorry. I didn't mean to scare you, just sharing my experiences. He might not tell you the truth if you ask him, as he would never want to hurt you. Your best move is to snoop a little. If you have suspicion then I think that's the only time it's ok to snoop. I hope I'm wrong.Posted by pinkbird03But wenevr I asked him he simply said that I can't get the one like you ever.. and he also said that I waited for 2 years for u (when we wer in a long distance) .. but since the day I hav come back he sometimes does everything to keep it and sometimes says that he is busy with his work..Posted by Ashley0202Posted by pinkbird03Its hard to believe..Posted by Ashley0202Yes. They are known for loyalty when they feel happily in love. But it wouldn't hurt to do a little peaking just to make sure!Posted by pinkbird03I know him since very long time.. I know that he is very loyal.. so I can't think of that..Posted by EphexisCancers loveeee attention. He doesn't seem to totally care if he gets it from Ashley. That makes me think he's getting it from someone else.Posted by pinkbird03Intuition or ?
His behavior makes me think he's talking to another girl.
I just see a lot of miscommunication personally, but yeah it's possible it could be that.
I agree communication is part of the issue. He also sounds bored to me.
I've been here, done this once before. I've seen other cancer men do this too.
But I think I shud consider this once... ?
Bc wenevr his ex contacts him.. he tells me every bit of that wat did she say and what did he tell to her?
Sometimes I just feel that we are losing the emotional connection we had..
And if this is the case then I don't know what should I do?
It could easily be someone new. A girl from work or someone he met on the internet (he may or may not have actually met this person). That's honestly my biggest guest. I've seen it a lot with cancer men. I'm guilty of it too. I personally can never fully move on from an ex until I have someone new to talk too. Some cancers just seem to do this before ending the relationship with their current girlfriend. I know you said this has been going on a few years. The other girl could be married or in a serious relationship like you two are. Honestly, the last cancer I dated broke up with his girlfriend of 8 years to be with another girl and it didn't even last a few months. They do stupid shit like that. My last serious relationship was with a cancer man and he cheated a lot too! I personally don't trust cancers! Don't want another!
If you still don't believe me at all, try going on a vacation by the water. You need special bonding time
He waited for me.. agreed.. bc wen we wer at long distnc I never gave him much time.. so he just kept himself busy.. and he still wants to continue.. but I m just afraid that we hav lost the connection which we once shared and now he doesn't act like he really does want to share..
Now aftr reading this.. I m afraid whethr its really about another girl or its just that he is waiting for me to open up and share things... bc as I mentioned before I m very reserved and now aftr that communication gap I am not able to share things woth him freely.. I don't know what should I do.. should I talk to him about this.. bc 6 years is a very long time..
Bc I can't lose him anyway.. ?
If you want to build your connection with him, do something special. I once planned a night at a hotel with a very nice room at a casino and had a romantic night.
And when I chase him he avoids me. What does this man want me to do? I have done almoat everything to make him feel special. And if the case is that he doesn't like spending time with me why is he wasting time with me.. why doesn't he just move on and let me do the same..
Have you talked to him about any of this? That might help. It's hard for me to assume what he wants you to do. Let me share a personal experience with you as I can relate to this behavior.
I've been in the casual dating game for years. I've found myself liking a few guys, but not totally sure how much I truly liked them. Basically I was confused about my feelings. So I chased them until they liked me. When they liked me, I started acting very distant towards them because I had my doubts. Then they started keeping their distance so I began chasing them until they liked me again. Basically it was a cycle I repeated until I realized I just didn't like them enough and moved on.
Not saying that's what he's doing, but maybe. The bottom line is that you're not happy. He's the one not making you happy and I personally think you deserve better.
*also wanted to add that I've never done that with a guy I actually really liked.
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Yea, maybe he isn't. Maybe I'm completely wrong. You need to find out either way.
Posted by DiamondAceWell now.. sad part is.. he was serious.. but recently people around him.. all are getting separated(divorced) so he is scared of marriage.. today he said that "u need not to wait for me bcz I m never gonna think of marriage now after watching these people getting separated. I know I m not a type of person who will be able to adjust and fix anything so u may move on." he added there was a time I also planned to get married at this age but now things hav changed my views hav changed so u hav to accept it anyway.. that I m never gonna get married...
Both my virgo friends made SURE they asked their cancer man early in their relationship if their cancer was going to be serious with them or not and if not, they were ready to leave. Virgos are not afraid to be alone so as stated above by another post, give your cancer lots of space. Virgos are very good at ignoring people to begin with so work that to your advantage.
Now what the hell was that?
U know we dont communicate much so he said its going fine between us bcz we don't talk much but ofcourse every girl wants her partner to be like that who can share stuffs with her but I m nt that person anymore..
its been a month I m observing him saying that he Doesn't believe in marriage but then sometimes he Used to talk about our marriage.. infact just 3 days ago he was talking about us.. Don't know what has happened lately.. that he was acting so weird.. I m not only worried about our future.. but him as well.. I would accept if he wants to leave me.. but never having someone else is just something scares me more...
Posted by DiamondAceYeah! You are right.. whenevr things went wrong between us he just left me and told me that he doesn't want it anymore and then aftr sometime came back and asked to fix it... I did everything to save it.. also gave him alot many handmade gifts.. showed him that how much I love him but... its heart breaking.. he couldn't do anything to make me feel special... being best frnds for years and then in a relationship as well he simply said no matter how much we fight we gonna stay together but never proved it..
This may not sound very encouraging but I would say walk away from this relationship. He needs to find himself. He's not confident in himself or your relationship. His actions are much louder right now than the words he speak. Being with someone like that will DEFINITELY end up in a divorce. Sorry to say, but it's true. You can be a distant friend and be there only sometimes but go live your life and take care of yourself as well because if you're scared to never having someone else then you are also dealing with your own insecurities and two people together who are insecure does not create a long and healthy relationship but it will end up in a lot of pain.
After doing so much for him if this is wat he is doing to me then yeahh I should just leave him..
Thanks ??
Posted by DiamondAceOhh.. sorry to hear that..
I've been where you have been. Trying everything you've got and it still doesn't feel reciprocated. I was in a two decade relationship/marriage and we started off really really strong, but later my ex became confused and didn't know what he wanted anymore, became insecure. I tried even harder and even he tried but he backtracked then had an affair. What I'm saying is not to scare you of marriage or relationships but what I'm saying is if there is uncertainty this early on, you can almost predict that there will be problems n ot long into a serious relationship or marriage. Sometimes it's hard to see what is right in front of us because we want to do everything right, everything we can to "fix" the problem but you can't fix someone else. You can only fix yourself which means moving on sometimes.
But isn't it really hard to leave a person you love.. I just can't think of moving on.. but ofcourse now as he clarified so yeahh I have to..
So how did u get through this?
Was he also a cancer sun?
Posted by DiamondAceI still remember when we started dating, it was like this since then because after his breakups with his exes he got scared of relationships. I asked him back then if he wants to continue like friends but he said no I really love u and want to be with u..
It's the hardest and most painful thing I've yet to do in my life to leave someone I loved and breathed for. Someone whom we shared precious moments and precious kids. I'll tell you this though, if you can detect that uncertainty and insecure behavior early and before marriage, remove those rose-colored glasses and save both of yourself. Maybe it's just time that you both need and you'll rekindle later but in a better place.
My ex was not a cancer. He's a sag with scorpio moon. I got through it by talking about it a lot with trusted friends and family, going on sites such as this one, learning that there are so many others who were in similar situations and they got through it as well so I can too...and might I add I'm a tough Aquarius lady but a heartbreak is a heartbreak and it breaks us all. Getting through it will make you even stronger. Knowing many, many virgos in my life that are very close friends, they are very thick skinned too when they've had enough. I believe you'll find that place once you're completely ready to let go at your own time.
Also last year during that break up phase I tried talking to psychics and I had talked to 4 psychics about us.. one of them said u r soulmates and the other said he is not feeling good right now but he truly loves u and the other two also said that he loves u alot and he will definitely come back to u.. ?? I don't know y did I believe that but may b bc it was showing me something positive about us which I wanted at that time..
I feel bad that he just couldn't overcome his fears. And after seeing his sister getting divorced he is even more afraid of all this...
I tried to tell him its not the case with everyone. But he isn't ready to listen to anybody.. but yeahh this is true that if he is already sure of the fact that he will never try to fix anything then I should simply walk away... and yess we all face this... so I know I too will get through all this.. I just hope it doesn't affect me professionally..
Thanks alot... ??
Posted by WeedsPushing people away? What do they expect people to stay and wait everytime or they just like it this way, pushing them and never wanting them back?
Communication is something crabs lack.
Learn to be in tune with them emotionally.
Takes time and patience and a whole lotta understanding.
Sometimes you gotta learn to be as hard headed as they are at persistence as they are at pushing ppl away.
Well emotional connection can only b developed if they are also interested.. they just get moody one moment they want to b with u and the other they are just so done with you..
While doing this push pull thing u never know wen they may leave u forever..
And with them once u shared a deep connection atleast then they should try to keep it simple..
Seesh.. sorry you're going through this atm OP 😢
I'm giving my cancer friend some space so I understand the pain from the distance. He's going through a lot atm but at the same time I feel so pushed away... at this point all I can do is walk away and sit at the edge of the road w/ open arms. It hurts like hell to not be able to just talk to him in person, but I feel like my respectful distance would be best for everybody in that situation..
Cancers really do seem to go through a lot in a short period of time, I can understand their moodiness at times.. a lot better in person
His sun, venus & mercury (natal retrograde) are all pretty close to cancer/leo (I just realized this, lol)
I'm giving my cancer friend some space so I understand the pain from the distance. He's going through a lot atm but at the same time I feel so pushed away... at this point all I can do is walk away and sit at the edge of the road w/ open arms. It hurts like hell to not be able to just talk to him in person, but I feel like my respectful distance would be best for everybody in that situation..
Cancers really do seem to go through a lot in a short period of time, I can understand their moodiness at times.. a lot better in person
His sun, venus & mercury (natal retrograde) are all pretty close to cancer/leo (I just realized this, lol)
He said, you may now move on?? Sounds like he's breaking up with you but twisting it so it seems like ur breaking up with him. I still think there's another girl
Posted by SpotlessmindWell.. we may understand their situation but at the same time I m afraid if he will ever understand my feelings for him or will he ever understand what I wanted to convey... because I tried telling her that this is not the case with everyone about which he is scared ... I too hav always given him ample of space.. may be thats wat I did wrong.. because the other day he was saying that we don't fight like other couples we don't talk much.. we hardly talk twice or thrice in a week.. and I do have alot of feelings for him I just avoid talking to him bcz I feel that he needs to get mature and deal with the problems by himself.. but lately I realised he is dealing with his problems just by drinking and trying to forget...
Seesh.. sorry you're going through this atm OP 😢
I'm giving my cancer friend some space so I understand the pain from the distance. He's going through a lot atm but at the same time I feel so pushed away... at this point all I can do is walk away and sit at the edge of the road w/ open arms. It hurts like hell to not be able to just talk to him in person, but I feel like my respectful distance would be best for everybody in that situation..
Cancers really do seem to go through a lot in a short period of time, I can understand their moodiness at times.. a lot better in person
His sun, venus & mercury (natal retrograde) are all pretty close to cancer/leo (I just realized this, lol)
He thinks staying away from everyone is thr solution.. I m hurt but I m concerned about his fears too...
Posted by Ashley0202It's usually a protective thing.Posted by WeedsPushing people away? What do they expect people to stay and wait everytime or they just like it this way, pushing them and never wanting them back?
Communication is something crabs lack.
Learn to be in tune with them emotionally.
Takes time and patience and a whole lotta understanding.
Sometimes you gotta learn to be as hard headed as they are at persistence as they are at pushing ppl away.
Well emotional connection can only b developed if they are also interested.. they just get moody one moment they want to b with u and the other they are just so done with you..
While doing this push pull thing u never know wen they may leave u forever..
And with them once u shared a deep connection atleast then they should try to keep it simple..
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If they push you away and you don't come back then "they were right about their insecurities about you and them pushing you away was justified"
Moody is just coming with the territory
It's a flaw you can adapt to and take advantage of.
Forever is not necessarily in a crabs vocabulary.
you really have to do some cold stuff to a crab
before they bolt the windows and re enforce the entrance way to their shell and consider you dead.
Keeping it simple just isn't on them alone.
Posted by pinkbird03Well I don't think that there is a chance of another girl in his life.. bc he has always been open about his exes with me and with the girl he used to hang out is married.. i met him yestrday n the way he said that he isn't ready for commitment now.. and added that I m not a person who can maintain relationships you know that so I m afraid that ours will lead to similar situation... I agree he isn't good with relationships. When he was with his ex, we wer friends so I have seen that push n pull behavior but back then he was quite frank with me.. after having the long distance relationship he has always avoided sharing much with me.. he just shares what's important.. and in our case he also managed to keep it with me.. the times I wanted to stay alone he gave me space the times he wanted I did the same.. we managed.. but now this fear of marriage and divorces is something making me feel why what...
He said, you may now move on?? Sounds like he's breaking up with you but twisting it so it seems like ur breaking up with him. I still think there's another girl
He isn't ready to listen anything right now.. we don't talk much but I can sense his actions.. and its only bc his sister is getting divorced and he is not able to think practicality right now just observing and deciding that he is never gonna get married.
The reason why I m sure of the another girl thing is.. because his sister is getting divorced for the similar reason, her husband was cheating on her.. and he always said that this is the worst thing which one can do to someone.. so I m sure that there is no other girl thing.. I m sure yess he is afraid of marriages.. bcz he has been saying this since long time.. and I didn't say anything bcz I m also not ready for marriage stuff right now but i m serious about him.. he isn't good with relationships I know.. so I always happily did everything to make it work.. but back then he always said that we r going to get married anyway..
I just feel that I should walk away from this situation because I can't force him to be with me when he doesn't want to..
Posted by WeedsBut he simply asked me not to wait for him.. bc he may never get married.. as I mentioned in the previous post that his sister is getting divorced so he is afraid of this stuffs.. I tried to convince him asked him that do u really think that we won't be able to make it work, he said that I don't know its working right now bc we hardly talk to each other.. and then he said that I m just afraid and I don't want you to ruin your life bc I m not sure of anything in my life... and asked me to say something I couldn't say anything after hearing all that.. he broke up thrice and everytime I pulled him back by apologising for not being wrong.. I apologised everytime for no reason just to assure him that I m always gonna be with him.. and everything was perfct between us.. all of a sudden he came up with this statement..Posted by Ashley0202It's usually a protective thing.Posted by WeedsPushing people away? What do they expect people to stay and wait everytime or they just like it this way, pushing them and never wanting them back?
Communication is something crabs lack.
Learn to be in tune with them emotionally.
Takes time and patience and a whole lotta understanding.
Sometimes you gotta learn to be as hard headed as they are at persistence as they are at pushing ppl away.
Well emotional connection can only b developed if they are also interested.. they just get moody one moment they want to b with u and the other they are just so done with you..
While doing this push pull thing u never know wen they may leave u forever..
And with them once u shared a deep connection atleast then they should try to keep it simple..
If they push you away and you don't come back then "they were right about their insecurities about you and them pushing you away was justified"
Moody is just coming with the territory
It's a flaw you can adapt to and take advantage of.
Forever is not necessarily in a crabs vocabulary.
you really have to do some cold stuff to a crab
before they bolt the windows and re enforce the entrance way to their shell and consider you dead.
Keeping it simple just isn't on them alone.click to expand
Agreed.. he is afraid.. but this isn't the way to deal..
I have given my all... what do have to prove.. he knows my loyalty.. and even if he has so many insecurities then how can I help him.. when he isn't even ready to listen...
Are u a cancer? Or have a cancer friend or partner?
Posted by Ashley0202I suggest this often because I truly believe it works. Do the 30 day rule. No communication at all even if he messages you, don't answer. By the end of 30 days, he will see what it's really like to be without you and miss you terribly and things will get all better again. But u can't cheat the 30 days. If u talk to him even once, u have to start over. Do some research on this if you want more information.Posted by pinkbird03Well I don't think that there is a chance of another girl in his life.. bc he has always been open about his exes with me and with the girl he used to hang out is married.. i met him yestrday n the way he said that he isn't ready for commitment now.. and added that I m not a person who can maintain relationships you know that so I m afraid that ours will lead to similar situation... I agree he isn't good with relationships. When he was with his ex, we wer friends so I have seen that push n pull behavior but back then he was quite frank with me.. after having the long distance relationship he has always avoided sharing much with me.. he just shares what's important.. and in our case he also managed to keep it with me.. the times I wanted to stay alone he gave me space the times he wanted I did the same.. we managed.. but now this fear of marriage and divorces is something making me feel why what...
He said, you may now move on?? Sounds like he's breaking up with you but twisting it so it seems like ur breaking up with him. I still think there's another girl
He isn't ready to listen anything right now.. we don't talk much but I can sense his actions.. and its only bc his sister is getting divorced and he is not able to think practicality right now just observing and deciding that he is never gonna get married.
The reason why I m sure of the another girl thing is.. because his sister is getting divorced for the similar reason, her husband was cheating on her.. and he always said that this is the worst thing which one can do to someone.. so I m sure that there is no other girl thing.. I m sure yess he is afraid of marriages.. bcz he has been saying this since long time.. and I didn't say anything bcz I m also not ready for marriage stuff right now but i m serious about him.. he isn't good with relationships I know.. so I always happily did everything to make it work.. but back then he always said that we r going to get married anyway..
I just feel that I should walk away from this situation because I can't force him to be with me when he doesn't want to..click to expand
Posted by pinkbird03Okay.. I will try doing that.. but if he has decided of not being in relationship ever then he is never gonna come back..Posted by Ashley0202I suggest this often because I truly believe it works. Do the 30 day rule. No communication at all even if he messages you, don't answer. By the end of 30 days, he will see what it's really like to be without you and miss you terribly and things will get all better again. But u can't cheat the 30 days. If u talk to him even once, u have to start over. Do some research on this if you want more information.Posted by pinkbird03Well I don't think that there is a chance of another girl in his life.. bc he has always been open about his exes with me and with the girl he used to hang out is married.. i met him yestrday n the way he said that he isn't ready for commitment now.. and added that I m not a person who can maintain relationships you know that so I m afraid that ours will lead to similar situation... I agree he isn't good with relationships. When he was with his ex, we wer friends so I have seen that push n pull behavior but back then he was quite frank with me.. after having the long distance relationship he has always avoided sharing much with me.. he just shares what's important.. and in our case he also managed to keep it with me.. the times I wanted to stay alone he gave me space the times he wanted I did the same.. we managed.. but now this fear of marriage and divorces is something making me feel why what...
He said, you may now move on?? Sounds like he's breaking up with you but twisting it so it seems like ur breaking up with him. I still think there's another girl
He isn't ready to listen anything right now.. we don't talk much but I can sense his actions.. and its only bc his sister is getting divorced and he is not able to think practicality right now just observing and deciding that he is never gonna get married.
The reason why I m sure of the another girl thing is.. because his sister is getting divorced for the similar reason, her husband was cheating on her.. and he always said that this is the worst thing which one can do to someone.. so I m sure that there is no other girl thing.. I m sure yess he is afraid of marriages.. bcz he has been saying this since long time.. and I didn't say anything bcz I m also not ready for marriage stuff right now but i m serious about him.. he isn't good with relationships I know.. so I always happily did everything to make it work.. but back then he always said that we r going to get married anyway..
I just feel that I should walk away from this situation because I can't force him to be with me when he doesn't want to..
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But may be if it will make him miss me, this might work.. Its easy not talking to him when everything is good.. but this way.. ?? I will do that once..
Thanks alot.. ?? **hugs**
Posted by Ashley0202You're welcome. Good luck! I do still think you have a chance, especially because he does message you when you keep your distance. But 30 days, no caving allowed. It worked for me once!Posted by pinkbird03Okay.. I will try doing that.. but if he has decided of not being in relationship ever then he is never gonna come back..Posted by Ashley0202I suggest this often because I truly believe it works. Do the 30 day rule. No communication at all even if he messages you, don't answer. By the end of 30 days, he will see what it's really like to be without you and miss you terribly and things will get all better again. But u can't cheat the 30 days. If u talk to him even once, u have to start over. Do some research on this if you want more information.Posted by pinkbird03Well I don't think that there is a chance of another girl in his life.. bc he has always been open about his exes with me and with the girl he used to hang out is married.. i met him yestrday n the way he said that he isn't ready for commitment now.. and added that I m not a person who can maintain relationships you know that so I m afraid that ours will lead to similar situation... I agree he isn't good with relationships. When he was with his ex, we wer friends so I have seen that push n pull behavior but back then he was quite frank with me.. after having the long distance relationship he has always avoided sharing much with me.. he just shares what's important.. and in our case he also managed to keep it with me.. the times I wanted to stay alone he gave me space the times he wanted I did the same.. we managed.. but now this fear of marriage and divorces is something making me feel why what...
He said, you may now move on?? Sounds like he's breaking up with you but twisting it so it seems like ur breaking up with him. I still think there's another girl
He isn't ready to listen anything right now.. we don't talk much but I can sense his actions.. and its only bc his sister is getting divorced and he is not able to think practicality right now just observing and deciding that he is never gonna get married.
The reason why I m sure of the another girl thing is.. because his sister is getting divorced for the similar reason, her husband was cheating on her.. and he always said that this is the worst thing which one can do to someone.. so I m sure that there is no other girl thing.. I m sure yess he is afraid of marriages.. bcz he has been saying this since long time.. and I didn't say anything bcz I m also not ready for marriage stuff right now but i m serious about him.. he isn't good with relationships I know.. so I always happily did everything to make it work.. but back then he always said that we r going to get married anyway..
I just feel that I should walk away from this situation because I can't force him to be with me when he doesn't want to..
But may be if it will make him miss me, this might work.. Its easy not talking to him when everything is good.. but this way.. ?? I will do that once..
Thanks alot.. ?? **hugs**click to expand
Posted by pinkbird03Yeahh... I will. Either it will work or it will help me in moving on..Posted by Ashley0202You're welcome. Good luck! I do still think you have a chance, especially because he does message you when you keep your distance. But 30 days, no caving allowed. It worked for me once!Posted by pinkbird03Okay.. I will try doing that.. but if he has decided of not being in relationship ever then he is never gonna come back..Posted by Ashley0202I suggest this often because I truly believe it works. Do the 30 day rule. No communication at all even if he messages you, don't answer. By the end of 30 days, he will see what it's really like to be without you and miss you terribly and things will get all better again. But u can't cheat the 30 days. If u talk to him even once, u have to start over. Do some research on this if you want more information.Posted by pinkbird03Well I don't think that there is a chance of another girl in his life.. bc he has always been open about his exes with me and with the girl he used to hang out is married.. i met him yestrday n the way he said that he isn't ready for commitment now.. and added that I m not a person who can maintain relationships you know that so I m afraid that ours will lead to similar situation... I agree he isn't good with relationships. When he was with his ex, we wer friends so I have seen that push n pull behavior but back then he was quite frank with me.. after having the long distance relationship he has always avoided sharing much with me.. he just shares what's important.. and in our case he also managed to keep it with me.. the times I wanted to stay alone he gave me space the times he wanted I did the same.. we managed.. but now this fear of marriage and divorces is something making me feel why what...
He said, you may now move on?? Sounds like he's breaking up with you but twisting it so it seems like ur breaking up with him. I still think there's another girl
He isn't ready to listen anything right now.. we don't talk much but I can sense his actions.. and its only bc his sister is getting divorced and he is not able to think practicality right now just observing and deciding that he is never gonna get married.
The reason why I m sure of the another girl thing is.. because his sister is getting divorced for the similar reason, her husband was cheating on her.. and he always said that this is the worst thing which one can do to someone.. so I m sure that there is no other girl thing.. I m sure yess he is afraid of marriages.. bcz he has been saying this since long time.. and I didn't say anything bcz I m also not ready for marriage stuff right now but i m serious about him.. he isn't good with relationships I know.. so I always happily did everything to make it work.. but back then he always said that we r going to get married anyway..
I just feel that I should walk away from this situation because I can't force him to be with me when he doesn't want to..
But may be if it will make him miss me, this might work.. Its easy not talking to him when everything is good.. but this way.. ?? I will do that once..
Thanks alot.. ?? **hugs**
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Posted by Ashley0202Somewhere at some point all crabs say the same thing.Posted by WeedsBut he simply asked me not to wait for him.. bc he may never get married.. as I mentioned in the previous post that his sister is getting divorced so he is afraid of this stuffs.. I tried to convince him asked him that do u really think that we won't be able to make it work, he said that I don't know its working right now bc we hardly talk to each other.. and then he said that I m just afraid and I don't want you to ruin your life bc I m not sure of anything in my life... and asked me to say something I couldn't say anything after hearing all that.. he broke up thrice and everytime I pulled him back by apologising for not being wrong.. I apologised everytime for no reason just to assure him that I m always gonna be with him.. and everything was perfct between us.. all of a sudden he came up with this statement..Posted by Ashley0202It's usually a protective thing.Posted by WeedsPushing people away? What do they expect people to stay and wait everytime or they just like it this way, pushing them and never wanting them back?
Communication is something crabs lack.
Learn to be in tune with them emotionally.
Takes time and patience and a whole lotta understanding.
Sometimes you gotta learn to be as hard headed as they are at persistence as they are at pushing ppl away.
Well emotional connection can only b developed if they are also interested.. they just get moody one moment they want to b with u and the other they are just so done with you..
While doing this push pull thing u never know wen they may leave u forever..
And with them once u shared a deep connection atleast then they should try to keep it simple..
If they push you away and you don't come back then "they were right about their insecurities about you and them pushing you away was justified"
Moody is just coming with the territory
It's a flaw you can adapt to and take advantage of.
Forever is not necessarily in a crabs vocabulary.
you really have to do some cold stuff to a crab
before they bolt the windows and re enforce the entrance way to their shell and consider you dead.
Keeping it simple just isn't on them alone.
Agreed.. he is afraid.. but this isn't the way to deal..
I have given my all... what do have to prove.. he knows my loyalty.. and even if he has so many insecurities then how can I help him.. when he isn't even ready to listen...
Are u a cancer? Or have a cancer friend or partner?click to expand
Especially when they come to a pretty good relationship.
Uncertainty..
Waiting on a crab isnt the answer.. being resilient is.
But for some it's far easier to let them go because they make it so very difficult and it always feels like your efforts are futile.
Now if your going to tackle his insecurities you have to shut them down as they pop up meaning. .. When he mentions divorce and makes comparisons. "They getting divorced that could happen to us too"
Shut that down "they are two different ppl, we are two different ppl not the same to be compared"
Anything that pops up negatively, rebuke it.
You have to be that confident to change his stance.
Never acknowledge it with " you think we aren't going to make it?" It will only solidify his thinking.
Nope, I just know enough about cancer to survive.
Posted by Harukka
Why the relationship is hard with cancers?
- They take every thing personally
- they are manipulators (will make do things for them by nagging or plying the victim card.
- they're always (ALWAYS ) think they are victims.
- they are so so selfish, in the first you will never know (esp cancer men)
-they are jealous of everything and everyone.
- they are not your friends when u need them, but you're thier best friend when they need you.
-they are clingy as hell, but when you try to do the same to them, they will be like..oh I'm busy !
-they're always think and live as victims (did I mention that again?)
-they are very very sensitive, but for their feelings.
Sorry cancers, I love you guys but this is the truth ?
Wow! I didn't know these things.
Posted by pinkbird03
His behavior makes me think he's talking to another girl.
Well that's what it means to be unmarried. But yeah it does sound like he's talking to another girl and that he has leverage so then you need to start talking to another guy so that it's balanced.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeePosted by Ashley0202lucky, my ex is a virgo scorpio moon , im a cancer leo moonPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeMe- virgo Sun, Scorpio MoonPosted by Ashley0202Oh sheet. ScaryPosted by TheRealGemShadyPosted by Ashley0202Hmm, what happened two years ago?Posted by TheRealGemShadyWell.. 6 years... but since last 2 years he seems to b so moody... one moment he wants to love and the other he forgets about me. I know he is sensitive on the inside but I don't see him sharing anything.. he keeps everything to himself.. he keeps pushing me away.. and when I start ignoring he feels like why am I acting like that..Posted by Ashley0202How long have you been together? Cancer men will take advantage of you and let you go ahead and be their mama if you'll do it. Don't do it! Make them show their grown-up side, which of course, they do have.Posted by TheRealGemShadyWel I haven't experienced any of these with my cancer man yet.. although I know he is sensitive on the inside but I never see him giving much into this relationship.. he expects alot from me but never do anything for us.
Hello...crab?
Someone described it here one day as the sign of mother and son, and that makes since. Cancer is the mother on the outside, nurturing, bossing, picking, and the child on the inside, loving, full of heart, and pouting.
It's much harder to have a personal planet in a water sign if you're a man. Why do we call water signs feminine? Because they're about emotion, which we associate with women, and we don't really allow men to express emotion healthily, at least not in the US, we don't.
You have to be tough and loving to be with a male Cancer. He will embody all the qualities of the child and none of the mother if you let him.
??
but deep down he knows I m never gonna leave him..
What's your sign?
If he has a leo moon he's over it and bored
Him- cancer sun, sag moon
he dumped me, broke my heart, but i just stayed away, didn't fight for it or him
just never contacted him
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really? Did he ever contact you again?
Posted by WeedsAnd what if he isn't ready to listen or talk?Posted by Ashley0202Somewhere at some point all crabs say the same thing.Posted by WeedsBut he simply asked me not to wait for him.. bc he may never get married.. as I mentioned in the previous post that his sister is getting divorced so he is afraid of this stuffs.. I tried to convince him asked him that do u really think that we won't be able to make it work, he said that I don't know its working right now bc we hardly talk to each other.. and then he said that I m just afraid and I don't want you to ruin your life bc I m not sure of anything in my life... and asked me to say something I couldn't say anything after hearing all that.. he broke up thrice and everytime I pulled him back by apologising for not being wrong.. I apologised everytime for no reason just to assure him that I m always gonna be with him.. and everything was perfct between us.. all of a sudden he came up with this statement..Posted by Ashley0202It's usually a protective thing.Posted by WeedsPushing people away? What do they expect people to stay and wait everytime or they just like it this way, pushing them and never wanting them back?
Communication is something crabs lack.
Learn to be in tune with them emotionally.
Takes time and patience and a whole lotta understanding.
Sometimes you gotta learn to be as hard headed as they are at persistence as they are at pushing ppl away.
Well emotional connection can only b developed if they are also interested.. they just get moody one moment they want to b with u and the other they are just so done with you..
While doing this push pull thing u never know wen they may leave u forever..
And with them once u shared a deep connection atleast then they should try to keep it simple..
If they push you away and you don't come back then "they were right about their insecurities about you and them pushing you away was justified"
Moody is just coming with the territory
It's a flaw you can adapt to and take advantage of.
Forever is not necessarily in a crabs vocabulary.
you really have to do some cold stuff to a crab
before they bolt the windows and re enforce the entrance way to their shell and consider you dead.
Keeping it simple just isn't on them alone.
Agreed.. he is afraid.. but this isn't the way to deal..
I have given my all... what do have to prove.. he knows my loyalty.. and even if he has so many insecurities then how can I help him.. when he isn't even ready to listen...
Are u a cancer? Or have a cancer friend or partner?
Especially when they come to a pretty good relationship.
Uncertainty..
Waiting on a crab isnt the answer.. being resilient is.
But for some it's far easier to let them go because they make it so very difficult and it always feels like your efforts are futile.
Now if your going to tackle his insecurities you have to shut them down as they pop up meaning. .. When he mentions divorce and makes comparisons. "They getting divorced that could happen to us too"
Shut that down "they are two different ppl, we are two different ppl not the same to be compared"
Anything that pops up negatively, rebuke it.
You have to be that confident to change his stance.
Never acknowledge it with " you think we aren't going to make it?" It will only solidify his thinking.
Nope, I just know enough about cancer to survive.
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He isn't ready to listen to anybody.. his brother also tried to tell him that its nt the case with everyone..but he said whatever.. I don't believe in it anymore..
He isn't in the state of mind to listen to anyone..
Posted by Shrewdsharp?? I can't.. and I know he too doesn't have any other woman in his life... its just his fears and our lack of communication..Posted by pinkbird03
His behavior makes me think he's talking to another girl.
Well that's what it means to be unmarried. But yeah it does sound like he's talking to another girl and that he has leverage so then you need to start talking to another guy so that it's balanced.
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Posted by Ashley0202Lol technically they never are. BUT they do observe the effort put in. That counts for alot.Posted by WeedsAnd what if he isn't ready to listen or talk?Posted by Ashley0202Somewhere at some point all crabs say the same thing.Posted by WeedsBut he simply asked me not to wait for him.. bc he may never get married.. as I mentioned in the previous post that his sister is getting divorced so he is afraid of this stuffs.. I tried to convince him asked him that do u really think that we won't be able to make it work, he said that I don't know its working right now bc we hardly talk to each other.. and then he said that I m just afraid and I don't want you to ruin your life bc I m not sure of anything in my life... and asked me to say something I couldn't say anything after hearing all that.. he broke up thrice and everytime I pulled him back by apologising for not being wrong.. I apologised everytime for no reason just to assure him that I m always gonna be with him.. and everything was perfct between us.. all of a sudden he came up with this statement..Posted by Ashley0202It's usually a protective thing.Posted by WeedsPushing people away? What do they expect people to stay and wait everytime or they just like it this way, pushing them and never wanting them back?
Communication is something crabs lack.
Learn to be in tune with them emotionally.
Takes time and patience and a whole lotta understanding.
Sometimes you gotta learn to be as hard headed as they are at persistence as they are at pushing ppl away.
Well emotional connection can only b developed if they are also interested.. they just get moody one moment they want to b with u and the other they are just so done with you..
While doing this push pull thing u never know wen they may leave u forever..
And with them once u shared a deep connection atleast then they should try to keep it simple..
If they push you away and you don't come back then "they were right about their insecurities about you and them pushing you away was justified"
Moody is just coming with the territory
It's a flaw you can adapt to and take advantage of.
Forever is not necessarily in a crabs vocabulary.
you really have to do some cold stuff to a crab
before they bolt the windows and re enforce the entrance way to their shell and consider you dead.
Keeping it simple just isn't on them alone.
Agreed.. he is afraid.. but this isn't the way to deal..
I have given my all... what do have to prove.. he knows my loyalty.. and even if he has so many insecurities then how can I help him.. when he isn't even ready to listen...
Are u a cancer? Or have a cancer friend or partner?
Especially when they come to a pretty good relationship.
Uncertainty..
Waiting on a crab isnt the answer.. being resilient is.
But for some it's far easier to let them go because they make it so very difficult and it always feels like your efforts are futile.
Now if your going to tackle his insecurities you have to shut them down as they pop up meaning. .. When he mentions divorce and makes comparisons. "They getting divorced that could happen to us too"
Shut that down "they are two different ppl, we are two different ppl not the same to be compared"
Anything that pops up negatively, rebuke it.
You have to be that confident to change his stance.
Never acknowledge it with " you think we aren't going to make it?" It will only solidify his thinking.
Nope, I just know enough about cancer to survive.
He isn't ready to listen to anybody.. his brother also tried to tell him that its nt the case with everyone..but he said whatever.. I don't believe in it anymore..
He isn't in the state of mind to listen to anyone..
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Posted by Weeds?? yeahh.. but won't it be like I m pushing him again n again into this relationshp.. bcz eariler it happened thrice and always put countless efforts w/o even giving a thought that why m I apologising.. like I apologised to him for no reason, or for being practical...Posted by Ashley0202Lol technically they never are. BUT they do observe the effort put in. That counts for alot.Posted by WeedsAnd what if he isn't ready to listen or talk?Posted by Ashley0202Somewhere at some point all crabs say the same thing.Posted by WeedsBut he simply asked me not to wait for him.. bc he may never get married.. as I mentioned in the previous post that his sister is getting divorced so he is afraid of this stuffs.. I tried to convince him asked him that do u really think that we won't be able to make it work, he said that I don't know its working right now bc we hardly talk to each other.. and then he said that I m just afraid and I don't want you to ruin your life bc I m not sure of anything in my life... and asked me to say something I couldn't say anything after hearing all that.. he broke up thrice and everytime I pulled him back by apologising for not being wrong.. I apologised everytime for no reason just to assure him that I m always gonna be with him.. and everything was perfct between us.. all of a sudden he came up with this statement..Posted by Ashley0202It's usually a protective thing.Posted by WeedsPushing people away? What do they expect people to stay and wait everytime or they just like it this way, pushing them and never wanting them back?
Communication is something crabs lack.
Learn to be in tune with them emotionally.
Takes time and patience and a whole lotta understanding.
Sometimes you gotta learn to be as hard headed as they are at persistence as they are at pushing ppl away.
Well emotional connection can only b developed if they are also interested.. they just get moody one moment they want to b with u and the other they are just so done with you..
While doing this push pull thing u never know wen they may leave u forever..
And with them once u shared a deep connection atleast then they should try to keep it simple..
If they push you away and you don't come back then "they were right about their insecurities about you and them pushing you away was justified"
Moody is just coming with the territory
It's a flaw you can adapt to and take advantage of.
Forever is not necessarily in a crabs vocabulary.
you really have to do some cold stuff to a crab
before they bolt the windows and re enforce the entrance way to their shell and consider you dead.
Keeping it simple just isn't on them alone.
Agreed.. he is afraid.. but this isn't the way to deal..
I have given my all... what do have to prove.. he knows my loyalty.. and even if he has so many insecurities then how can I help him.. when he isn't even ready to listen...
Are u a cancer? Or have a cancer friend or partner?
Especially when they come to a pretty good relationship.
Uncertainty..
Waiting on a crab isnt the answer.. being resilient is.
But for some it's far easier to let them go because they make it so very difficult and it always feels like your efforts are futile.
Now if your going to tackle his insecurities you have to shut them down as they pop up meaning. .. When he mentions divorce and makes comparisons. "They getting divorced that could happen to us too"
Shut that down "they are two different ppl, we are two different ppl not the same to be compared"
Anything that pops up negatively, rebuke it.
You have to be that confident to change his stance.
Never acknowledge it with " you think we aren't going to make it?" It will only solidify his thinking.
Nope, I just know enough about cancer to survive.
He isn't ready to listen to anybody.. his brother also tried to tell him that its nt the case with everyone..but he said whatever.. I don't believe in it anymore..
He isn't in the state of mind to listen to anyone..
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They never realise their mistakes.. just keep on playing with this push n pull thing..
I hope that he comes and talks to me by himself bc now I can't force him to b with me.. if he doesn't want to. Its fine.. I love him but can't force anything..
Posted by Ashley0202Posted by pinkbird03Yeahh... I will. Either it will work or it will help me in moving on..Posted by Ashley0202You're welcome. Good luck! I do still think you have a chance, especially because he does message you when you keep your distance. But 30 days, no caving allowed. It worked for me once!Posted by pinkbird03Okay.. I will try doing that.. but if he has decided of not being in relationship ever then he is never gonna come back..Posted by Ashley0202I suggest this often because I truly believe it works. Do the 30 day rule. No communication at all even if he messages you, don't answer. By the end of 30 days, he will see what it's really like to be without you and miss you terribly and things will get all better again. But u can't cheat the 30 days. If u talk to him even once, u have to start over. Do some research on this if you want more information.Posted by pinkbird03Well I don't think that there is a chance of another girl in his life.. bc he has always been open about his exes with me and with the girl he used to hang out is married.. i met him yestrday n the way he said that he isn't ready for commitment now.. and added that I m not a person who can maintain relationships you know that so I m afraid that ours will lead to similar situation... I agree he isn't good with relationships. When he was with his ex, we wer friends so I have seen that push n pull behavior but back then he was quite frank with me.. after having the long distance relationship he has always avoided sharing much with me.. he just shares what's important.. and in our case he also managed to keep it with me.. the times I wanted to stay alone he gave me space the times he wanted I did the same.. we managed.. but now this fear of marriage and divorces is something making me feel why what...
He said, you may now move on?? Sounds like he's breaking up with you but twisting it so it seems like ur breaking up with him. I still think there's another girl
He isn't ready to listen anything right now.. we don't talk much but I can sense his actions.. and its only bc his sister is getting divorced and he is not able to think practicality right now just observing and deciding that he is never gonna get married.
The reason why I m sure of the another girl thing is.. because his sister is getting divorced for the similar reason, her husband was cheating on her.. and he always said that this is the worst thing which one can do to someone.. so I m sure that there is no other girl thing.. I m sure yess he is afraid of marriages.. bcz he has been saying this since long time.. and I didn't say anything bcz I m also not ready for marriage stuff right now but i m serious about him.. he isn't good with relationships I know.. so I always happily did everything to make it work.. but back then he always said that we r going to get married anyway..
I just feel that I should walk away from this situation because I can't force him to be with me when he doesn't want to..
But may be if it will make him miss me, this might work.. Its easy not talking to him when everything is good.. but this way.. ?? I will do that once..
Thanks alot.. ?? **hugs**
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Exactly 🙂
@Ashley0202
What do YOU want out of this relationship?
You have given him 250% in 6 years, and got back nothing.
Now you want to put in another 250% ?
What are you willing to offer to make this relationship work?
A kidney?
I know some Cancer men who are jerks, but I have also seen some Cancer men who go above and beyond for the women they love. Unfortuantely for the good Cancer men, they're kindness is often exploited.
My gut instinct tells me he's bored and no longer interested.
There's no challenge, no 'moxy', no fire with you.
I know it's a Virgo's duty to want to 'fix' things.
But the Crab is an emotional-based sign.
No amount of work is going to fix this.
If he's not feeling it, he's just not feeling it.
What do YOU want out of this relationship?
You have given him 250% in 6 years, and got back nothing.
Now you want to put in another 250% ?
What are you willing to offer to make this relationship work?
A kidney?
I know some Cancer men who are jerks, but I have also seen some Cancer men who go above and beyond for the women they love. Unfortuantely for the good Cancer men, they're kindness is often exploited.
My gut instinct tells me he's bored and no longer interested.
There's no challenge, no 'moxy', no fire with you.
I know it's a Virgo's duty to want to 'fix' things.
But the Crab is an emotional-based sign.
No amount of work is going to fix this.
If he's not feeling it, he's just not feeling it.
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