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Posted by Capri-sunI definitely would, but I would probably prefer calling/ face time to a text. So I would probably wait to say anything until we could actually talk (if possible). If I hadn't reached out, probably means I have been just really busy/ immersed with my family. Side note: I get to see my family once or twice a year, so when I'm with them I don't allow for many interruptions.
If you're dating someone, do you wish them happy thanksgiving? Do you try to spend tge holidays with them? If you don't wish them a happy thanksgiving does that mean anything? Like you aren't that into the person?
Posted by Capri-sunThanks...Posted by ICEPosted by daron76Posted by sakuraflowersWell for me, that used to happen when I was busy or needed to work on some personal issues. Now that I am older, I know better than to just up and disappear- I'll let my partner know what I need to work and the space I'll need to do it.Posted by daron76Woohoo. I'll go with the most common one. 😛
You have questions, we'll try to have answers. No question is too strange or taboo. 🙂
Why do Cap male go silent or disappear?
The other reason this happens is that there is either something I realized or something she did that made me lose interest and/or respect. Loss of interest would generate distance. Loss of respect would generate a disappearing act- cause I couldn't care less about that persons feelings at that point.
I lost his respect, friendship and trust after I said some very hurtful things after an argument. How do i win his respect back if he ignores my texts? Refuses to give me another chance? And says he is with someone now.., help. Please!
Nothing you can do at that point...I'm not a guy though so their answer might be different.
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Posted by pinkbird031. The chase
Hi caps! In another thread someone mentioned the phases of a relationship. What are they to you?
2. Dating
3. The learning stage/ taking off the rose colored glasses
4. The comfort stage
5. The decision phase
Posted by ICESorry, can't really sugar coat this one- and I don't think this needs to be Cap specific. I'd say let him and it go. You can't make someone come back to you no more than you could make them stay with you. You are responsible for what you said/did. He is responsible for how he responds to that. Right now his response is to move on from you. If you truly care about him then you should be able to respect hat decision. If he decides to come back, then he will. If he doesn't, then he won't. Regardless, you shouldn't wait around for the answer. Forgive him and (most importantly) forgive yourself and move forward.Posted by daron76Posted by sakuraflowersWell for me, that used to happen when I was busy or needed to work on some personal issues. Now that I am older, I know better than to just up and disappear- I'll let my partner know what I need to work and the space I'll need to do it.Posted by daron76Woohoo. I'll go with the most common one. 😛
You have questions, we'll try to have answers. No question is too strange or taboo. 🙂
Why do Cap male go silent or disappear?
The other reason this happens is that there is either something I realized or something she did that made me lose interest and/or respect. Loss of interest would generate distance. Loss of respect would generate a disappearing act- cause I couldn't care less about that persons feelings at that point.
I lost his respect, friendship and trust after I said some very hurtful things after an argument. How do i win his respect back if he ignores my texts? Refuses to give me another chance? And says he is with someone now.., help. Please!
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Posted by Capri-sunHmmm. Yeah, hard to say what that's about then. Is just moody?Posted by daron76Posted by Capri-sunI definitely would, but I would probably prefer calling/ face time to a text. So I would probably wait to say anything until we could actually talk (if possible). If I hadn't reached out, probably means I have been just really busy/ immersed with my family. Side note: I get to see my family once or twice a year, so when I'm with them I don't allow for many interruptions.
If you're dating someone, do you wish them happy thanksgiving? Do you try to spend tge holidays with them? If you don't wish them a happy thanksgiving does that mean anything? Like you aren't that into the person?
Thanks. Family wasn't involved.
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Posted by daron76Is there an approximate time frame for each phase. I.e 1-3 months 3-6 monthsPosted by pinkbird031. The chase
Hi caps! In another thread someone mentioned the phases of a relationship. What are they to you?
2. Dating
3. The learning stage/ taking off the rose colored glasses
4. The comfort stage
5. The decision phaseclick to expand
Posted by pinkbird031. 1st month or soPosted by daron76Is there an approximate time frame for each phase. I.e 1-3 months 3-6 monthsPosted by pinkbird031. The chase
Hi caps! In another thread someone mentioned the phases of a relationship. What are they to you?
2. Dating
3. The learning stage/ taking off the rose colored glasses
4. The comfort stage
5. The decision phase
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2. 3 months or more
3. 6 to 8 months
4. 8 months to a year.
5. Roughly after a year
I have a question, not sure if I should post it here or start my own topic, but basically, long story short, met a cap, he gave good chase for a while, I started to like him, but when it came down to it he said he only wanted fwb, I said no thank you and walked away, but he wont let me cut ties and he's trying to string me along in various ways. I cant figure out to what end. Would you try to be someone's friend in such a scenario or maybe he's just looking for the ego strokes? Any insight would be appreciated.
Posted by thisismyusernameIf he isn't offering what you are looking for, then why do you remain in contact with him? Unless you see him at work or in your neighborhood regularly, there is nothing forcing you to respond to him.
I have a question, not sure if I should post it here or start my own topic, but basically, long story short, met a cap, he gave good chase for a while, I started to like him, but when it came down to it he said he only wanted fwb, I said no thank you and walked away, but he wont let me cut ties and he's trying to string me along in various ways. I cant figure out to what end. Would you try to be someone's friend in such a scenario or maybe he's just looking for the ego strokes? Any insight would be appreciated.
At this rate, if you continue to playing along, all that is going to happen is that you end up settling for less.
I see him in a social situation regularly and it would be awkward/strange to outright ignore him. I would prefer to keep it superficial friendly. I never initiate contact and generally try to avoid him. He seeks me out or initiates contact in a way that's hard to ignore (needs information, etc.). Settling for less how? There's no chance of me getting involved on his terms.
Follow up, so are you saying he's trying to wear me down?
Posted by daron76I do really care about him and letting him go, as hard as it is going to be, is the right thing to do. Thanks for the response. It was what I needed...Posted by ICESorry, can't really sugar coat this one- and I don't think this needs to be Cap specific. I'd say let him and it go. You can't make someone come back to you no more than you could make them stay with you. You are responsible for what you said/did. He is responsible for how he responds to that. Right now his response is to move on from you. If you truly care about him then you should be able to respect hat decision. If he decides to come back, then he will. If he doesn't, then he won't. Regardless, you shouldn't wait around for the answer. Forgive him and (most importantly) forgive yourself and move forward.Posted by daron76Posted by sakuraflowersWell for me, that used to happen when I was busy or needed to work on some personal issues. Now that I am older, I know better than to just up and disappear- I'll let my partner know what I need to work and the space I'll need to do it.Posted by daron76Woohoo. I'll go with the most common one. 😛
You have questions, we'll try to have answers. No question is too strange or taboo. 🙂
Why do Cap male go silent or disappear?
The other reason this happens is that there is either something I realized or something she did that made me lose interest and/or respect. Loss of interest would generate distance. Loss of respect would generate a disappearing act- cause I couldn't care less about that persons feelings at that point.
I lost his respect, friendship and trust after I said some very hurtful things after an argument. How do i win his respect back if he ignores my texts? Refuses to give me another chance? And says he is with someone now.., help. Please!
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Posted by ParisianCappyWouldn't he just ask me out if that was the case?Posted by thisismyusernamemaybe he haves changed is mind
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Are you honest? I don't mean cheating or lying about something important. I mean if I asked you a question, would you be sincere and not sugarcoat it to not make me feel bad?
Remember we are friends. Just not the type of friendship I'm used to... that's why I'm confused. Always.
Remember we are friends. Just not the type of friendship I'm used to... that's why I'm confused. Always.
Posted by ParisianCappyIf that's a possibility, any suggestions on how to approach/handle it?Posted by thisismyusernamepridePosted by ParisianCappyWouldn't he just ask me out if that was the case?Posted by thisismyusernamemaybe he haves changed is mind
Follow up, so are you saying he's trying to wear me down?
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Posted by thisismyusernameMaybe ParisianCappy is right. Maybe the guy did change his mind and is trying to come at you in a way that preserves his pride. Or maybe he is just trying to wear you down. Or maybe he just really wants to have sex with you.
I see him in a social situation regularly and it would be awkward/strange to outright ignore him. I would prefer to keep it superficial friendly. I never initiate contact and generally try to avoid him. He seeks me out or initiates contact in a way that's hard to ignore (needs information, etc.). Settling for less how? There's no chance of me getting involved on his terms.
However, nothing above has anything to do with what YOU want (I think, at least). If you don't want him then all of the above should be irrelevant. As should the "awkwardness" of ignoring him. I am sure you know how to respond to things that are appropriate in a cordial and professional way and ignore/ not engage in things that cross the line. I mean, ya know, if that is what you want.
Posted by thisismyusernameHe said he only wants friends with benefits. This also goes along with my question about honesty. Cap guys can move super slow if he does change his mind. You have to follow his lead. Don't push him.Posted by ParisianCappyIf that's a possibility, any suggestions on how to approach/handle it?Posted by thisismyusernamepridePosted by ParisianCappyWouldn't he just ask me out if that was the case?Posted by thisismyusernamemaybe he haves changed is mind
Follow up, so are you saying he's trying to wear me down?
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Posted by pinkbird03Depends on the subject. But generally, while I wouldn't want to sugarcoat the message, I would definitely would want to find the most tactful way to get my point across.
Are you honest? I don't mean cheating or lying about something important. I mean if I asked you a question, would you be sincere and not sugarcoat it to not make me feel bad?
Remember we are friends. Just not the type of friendship I'm used to... that's why I'm confused. Always.
Posted by ICEPosted by daron76I do really care about him and letting him go, as hard as it is going to be, is the right thing to do. Thanks for the response. It was what I needed...Posted by ICESorry, can't really sugar coat this one- and I don't think this needs to be Cap specific. I'd say let him and it go. You can't make someone come back to you no more than you could make them stay with you. You are responsible for what you said/did. He is responsible for how he responds to that. Right now his response is to move on from you. If you truly care about him then you should be able to respect hat decision. If he decides to come back, then he will. If he doesn't, then he won't. Regardless, you shouldn't wait around for the answer. Forgive him and (most importantly) forgive yourself and move forward.Posted by daron76Posted by sakuraflowersWell for me, that used to happen when I was busy or needed to work on some personal issues. Now that I am older, I know better than to just up and disappear- I'll let my partner know what I need to work and the space I'll need to do it.Posted by daron76Woohoo. I'll go with the most common one. 😛
You have questions, we'll try to have answers. No question is too strange or taboo. 🙂
Why do Cap male go silent or disappear?
The other reason this happens is that there is either something I realized or something she did that made me lose interest and/or respect. Loss of interest would generate distance. Loss of respect would generate a disappearing act- cause I couldn't care less about that persons feelings at that point.
I lost his respect, friendship and trust after I said some very hurtful things after an argument. How do i win his respect back if he ignores my texts? Refuses to give me another chance? And says he is with someone now.., help. Please!
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Thank you to the person who responded to this without sugar coating it. I've sent my goodbye message, and i feel better already. I think it was just my stubborn streak making me hold on longer than was right. This response above was the final push I needed.
Great Job with this thread! It's very helpful!!
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Posted by daron76How about to be friendly and not mean?Posted by pinkbird03Depends on the subject. But generally, while I wouldn't want to sugarcoat the message, I would definitely would want to find the most tactful way to get my point across.
Are you honest? I don't mean cheating or lying about something important. I mean if I asked you a question, would you be sincere and not sugarcoat it to not make me feel bad?
Remember we are friends. Just not the type of friendship I'm used to... that's why I'm confused. Always.click to expand
Posted by daron76I'm ultimately looking for a relationship, although I like to take things pretty slowly myself. Just to add a little more context this is a person I was friendly with for a while in our social situation (prior to it taking its present turn). It isn't that I don't like him, it's that I'm not interested in what he proposed and my position is not going to change. This is also a person that I was previously able to avoid all contact with for 5 months, our social situation notwithstanding, after the initial conversation about intentions. I just can't figure out what he's presently trying to do.Posted by thisismyusernameMaybe ParisianCappy is right. Maybe the guy did change his mind and is trying to come at you in a way that preserves his pride. Or maybe he is just trying to wear you down. Or maybe he just really wants to have sex with you.
I see him in a social situation regularly and it would be awkward/strange to outright ignore him. I would prefer to keep it superficial friendly. I never initiate contact and generally try to avoid him. He seeks me out or initiates contact in a way that's hard to ignore (needs information, etc.). Settling for less how? There's no chance of me getting involved on his terms.
However, nothing above has anything to do with what YOU want (I think, at least). If you don't want him then all of the above should be irrelevant. As should the "awkwardness" of ignoring him. I am sure you know how to respond to things that are appropriate in a cordial and professional way and ignore/ not engage in things that cross the line. I mean, ya know, if that is what you want.click to expand
Posted by ParisianCappylol is that a monkey?Posted by thisismyusernamePosted by ParisianCappyIf that's a possibility, any suggestions on how to approach/handle it?Posted by thisismyusernamepridePosted by ParisianCappyWouldn't he just ask me out if that was the case?Posted by thisismyusernamemaybe he haves changed is mind
Follow up, so are you saying he's trying to wear me down?
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Posted by Capri-sunWell yes, that's a fair comment. I guess the issue is he's actively trying to keep a toe hold in my life at this point/preventing me from moving on and while it's disruptive I'm also hesitate to disappear (which is really what I would have to do) without understanding because of the history. I do understand your comment though, thanks.Posted by thisismyusernamePosted by daron76I'm ultimately looking for a relationship, although I like to take things pretty slowly myself. Just to add a little more context this is a person I was friendly with for a while in our social situation (prior to it taking its present turn). It isn't that I don't like him, it's that I'm not interested in what he proposed and my position is not going to change. This is also a person that I was previously able to avoid all contact with for 5 months, our social situation notwithstanding, after the initial conversation about intentions. I just can't figure out what he's presently trying to do.Posted by thisismyusernameMaybe ParisianCappy is right. Maybe the guy did change his mind and is trying to come at you in a way that preserves his pride. Or maybe he is just trying to wear you down. Or maybe he just really wants to have sex with you.
I see him in a social situation regularly and it would be awkward/strange to outright ignore him. I would prefer to keep it superficial friendly. I never initiate contact and generally try to avoid him. He seeks me out or initiates contact in a way that's hard to ignore (needs information, etc.). Settling for less how? There's no chance of me getting involved on his terms.
However, nothing above has anything to do with what YOU want (I think, at least). If you don't want him then all of the above should be irrelevant. As should the "awkwardness" of ignoring him. I am sure you know how to respond to things that are appropriate in a cordial and professional way and ignore/ not engage in things that cross the line. I mean, ya know, if that is what you want.
That part really doesn't matter as you know what you want & that's not what he's offering.
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Posted by thisismyusernameI completely understand where ur coming from. I'm in the same boat ⛵️Posted by Capri-sunWell yes, that's a fair comment. I guess the issue is he's actively trying to keep a toe hold in my life at this point/preventing me from moving on and while it's disruptive I'm also hesitate to disappear (which is really what I would have to do) without understanding because of the history. I do understand your comment though, thanks.Posted by thisismyusernamePosted by daron76I'm ultimately looking for a relationship, although I like to take things pretty slowly myself. Just to add a little more context this is a person I was friendly with for a while in our social situation (prior to it taking its present turn). It isn't that I don't like him, it's that I'm not interested in what he proposed and my position is not going to change. This is also a person that I was previously able to avoid all contact with for 5 months, our social situation notwithstanding, after the initial conversation about intentions. I just can't figure out what he's presently trying to do.Posted by thisismyusernameMaybe ParisianCappy is right. Maybe the guy did change his mind and is trying to come at you in a way that preserves his pride. Or maybe he is just trying to wear you down. Or maybe he just really wants to have sex with you.
I see him in a social situation regularly and it would be awkward/strange to outright ignore him. I would prefer to keep it superficial friendly. I never initiate contact and generally try to avoid him. He seeks me out or initiates contact in a way that's hard to ignore (needs information, etc.). Settling for less how? There's no chance of me getting involved on his terms.
However, nothing above has anything to do with what YOU want (I think, at least). If you don't want him then all of the above should be irrelevant. As should the "awkwardness" of ignoring him. I am sure you know how to respond to things that are appropriate in a cordial and professional way and ignore/ not engage in things that cross the line. I mean, ya know, if that is what you want.
That part really doesn't matter as you know what you want & that's not what he's offering.
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Posted by pinkbird03Posted by thisismyusernameDo you mind if I ask for how long?
I completely understand where ur coming from. I'm in the same boat ⛵️
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Posted by thisismyusernamePosted by pinkbird03Sure I'll give you the timeline. Met online in April. Met in person in June. I ended things at the end of September because i didn't feel like he liked me as much as I liked him. He mainly wasn't fully committing the way I wanted him to. We decided to stay friends and we are closer now than ever. I know the only reason I'm hanging around is because I like him and he shows signs that he still likes me. But that doesn't mean he's going to commit the way I want him to.Posted by thisismyusernameDo you mind if I ask for how long?
I completely understand where ur coming from. I'm in the same boat ⛵️
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Posted by pinkbird03Posted by thisismyusernameThat's tough, I feel your pain. SorryPosted by pinkbird03Sure I'll give you the timeline. Met online in April. Met in person in June. I ended things at the end of September because i didn't feel like he liked me as much as I liked him. He mainly wasn't fully committing the way I wanted him to. We decided to stay friends and we are closer now than ever. I know the only reason I'm hanging around is because I like him and he shows signs that he still likes me. But that doesn't mean he's going to commit the way I want him to.Posted by thisismyusernameDo you mind if I ask for how long?
I completely understand where ur coming from. I'm in the same boat ⛵️
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Posted by thisismyusernamePosted by pinkbird03Yeah. Thanks! I truly believe that everything will eventually work out the way it's supposed to. I believe the same for you 🙂Posted by thisismyusernameThat's tough, I feel your pain. SorryPosted by pinkbird03Sure I'll give you the timeline. Met online in April. Met in person in June. I ended things at the end of September because i didn't feel like he liked me as much as I liked him. He mainly wasn't fully committing the way I wanted him to. We decided to stay friends and we are closer now than ever. I know the only reason I'm hanging around is because I like him and he shows signs that he still likes me. But that doesn't mean he's going to commit the way I want him to.Posted by thisismyusernameDo you mind if I ask for how long?
I completely understand where ur coming from. I'm in the same boat ⛵️
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Posted by pinkbird03Awww thanks 🙂
Yeah. Thanks! I truly believe that everything will eventually work out the way it's supposed to. I believe the same for you 🙂
Posted by thisismyusernamePosted by Capri-sunWell yes, that's a fair comment. I guess the issue is he's actively trying to keep a toe hold in my life at this point/preventing me from moving on and while it's disruptive I'm also hesitate to disappear (which is really what I would have to do) without understanding because of the history. I do understand your comment though, thanks.Posted by thisismyusernamePosted by daron76Posted by thisismyusername
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I totally understand where you are coming from, this is something I struggled with in my last relationship. And it sounds harsh, but at certain point you have to decide that this isn't healthy/ happy for you and let it go all the way. I know, I know-- easier said than done (literally working on this as I type lol). If something better materialize from this, then it will but right now this doesn't feel right- and that's all the justification you need to leave it alone. 🙂
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I totally understand where you are coming from, this is something I struggled with in my last relationship. And it sounds harsh, but at certain point you have to decide that this isn't healthy/ happy for you and let it go all the way. I know, I know-- easier said than done (literally working on this as I type lol). If something better materialize from this, then it will but right now this doesn't feel right- and that's all the justification you need to leave it alone. 🙂
Yes, I know that on an intellectual level too, what I struggle with is that every time I get to the letting go point he seems to come back (we're talking days/weeks not weeks/months). I guess I don't want to have to up and disappear to create closure, because it's disruptive to my own life and seems harsh, plus I'm an eternal optimist. Thank you though for your advice/time.
Posted by daron76Posted by ladylibra21Not sure what you mean by "dad attention"
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Sorry Siri is a bitch. I meant seek out attention
Do they come back, Capricorn men?
I am taking my day one moment at a time, and am focusing on other aspects of my life, like work and catching up on series. It's hard to not think about him, but I am trying to move on.
I am wondering: do they ever come back?
I am taking my day one moment at a time, and am focusing on other aspects of my life, like work and catching up on series. It's hard to not think about him, but I am trying to move on.
I am wondering: do they ever come back?
Posted by ladylibra21No, usually what happens when things appears this way is that I reached out and my efforts weren't well received. If that is the case then it isn't so much that I am disappearing, more so that I am taking a hint.Posted by daron76Posted by ladylibra21Not sure what you mean by "dad attention"
Have you ever seek dad attention for someone and then disappeared right afterwards just to make sure you knew where you stand with that person ?
Sorry Siri is a bitch. I meant seek out attention
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I don't contact people I don't want to talk to, unless its for work.
Posted by ICEIf I love you then there is a chance. But it also depends on why we are apart. However, once I let go-- I won't be back.
Do they come back, Capricorn men?
I am taking my day one moment at a time, and am focusing on other aspects of my life, like work and catching up on series. It's hard to not think about him, but I am trying to move on.
I am wondering: do they ever come back?
This will be my last question because I'm finally deciding to move on. He basically said not much chance in us dating again in the near future. Ok whatever, but why keep on insisting to be friends with me when I've expressed my love for him multiple times in recent history, when we talk every day all day and he's said that doesn't bother him, and when he knows I'm not going to move on by being friends in the first place. What the heck is that? I'm not going to play along anymore.
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Posted by ParisianCappySo are you saying she should ignore the fact that he says he doesn't want to date her?Posted by pinkbird03i dont juge people by their words but their actions
This will be my last question because I'm finally deciding to move on. He basically said not much chance in us dating again in the near future. Ok whatever, but why keep on insisting to be friends with me when I've expressed my love for him multiple times in recent history, when we talk every day all day and he's said that doesn't bother him, and when he knows I'm not going to move on by being friends in the first place. What the heck is that? I'm not going to play along anymore.
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This will be my last question because I'm finally deciding to move on. He basically said not much chance in us dating again in the near future. Ok whatever, but why keep on insisting to be friends with me when I've expressed my love for him multiple times in recent history, when we talk every day all day and he's said that doesn't bother him, and when he knows I'm not going to move on by being friends in the first place. What the heck is that? I'm not going to play along anymore.
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Did you ever tell him you don't want to be just friends? There is a very big distinction (other than the obvious one) between telling someone you are still in love with them or still want to date them. "I still love you/ want to be with you" conveys how you feel/ what you want. "I don't want to be just friends
" conveys what you are not willing to accept. To me, he doesn't sound like he has made up his mind. That shouldn't stop you from making your mind up, however (and gladly it sounds like it hasn't 🙂 ).
Either he will realize what he is about to lose, or he won't. Regardless, by moving forward, you will be one step closer to where you want to be.
Posted by SeraphlightProbably, give them a head nod, maybe say hi. Then keep it moving.
If you had done something terribly violent to someone you said you loved. And hadn't seen them for years and tried to reach out to them when you needed help but they ignored you. And you came across them accidentally again would you make a scene or try and freak them out?
Would you blame them and be bitter or wish them well?
Posted by daron76When we first broke up, he suggested friendship. I changed my mind a lot of times, but eventually caved in because I missed him and hoped a friendship would turn into more. We talked and hung out and talked more. Then once I admitted I was a terrible friend because I loved him and was too attached. He said there's nothing wrong with that. Then we began talking so much more to now it's everyday all day. I really believed we were getting closer. So I had a conversation yesterday and asked him some questions. He wasn't giving me a straight forward answer so I asked him about dating again. More talk.. Then I told him I'm giving up on him. He said, "I'm still available for friendship though!" I wrote him a very honest text on why it's not a good idea for us to be friends and he hasn't responded yet. I know he will write back after he thinks about something too perfect to say. He never leaves me hanging.Posted by pinkbird03
This will be my last question because I'm finally deciding to move on. He basically said not much chance in us dating again in the near future. Ok whatever, but why keep on insisting to be friends with me when I've expressed my love for him multiple times in recent history, when we talk every day all day and he's said that doesn't bother him, and when he knows I'm not going to move on by being friends in the first place. What the heck is that? I'm not going to play along anymore.
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Did you ever tell him you don't want to be just friends? There is a very big distinction (other than the obvious one) between telling someone you are still in love with them or still want to date them. "I still love you/ want to be with you" conveys how you feel/ what you want. "I don't want to be just friends
" conveys what you are not willing to accept. To me, he doesn't sound like he has made up his mind. That shouldn't stop you from making your mind up, however (and gladly it sounds like it hasn't 🙂 ).
Either he will realize what he is about to lose, or he won't. Regardless, by moving forward, you will be one step closer to where you want to be.click to expand
So I did express that I don't want a friendship, but I never acted on it until now.
Posted by ParisianCappyBut even actions can be confusing. If it confuses me, then it's not a good sign. I'm only accepting the obvious right now :-)Posted by pinkbird03i dont juge people by their words but their actions
This will be my last question because I'm finally deciding to move on. He basically said not much chance in us dating again in the near future. Ok whatever, but why keep on insisting to be friends with me when I've expressed my love for him multiple times in recent history, when we talk every day all day and he's said that doesn't bother him, and when he knows I'm not going to move on by being friends in the first place. What the heck is that? I'm not going to play along anymore.
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Posted by Capri-sunPosted by ladylibra21Posted by ParisianCappySo are you saying she should ignore the fact that he says he doesn't want to date her?Posted by pinkbird03i dont juge people by their words but their actions
This will be my last question because I'm finally deciding to move on. He basically said not much chance in us dating again in the near future. Ok whatever, but why keep on insisting to be friends with me when I've expressed my love for him multiple times in recent history, when we talk every day all day and he's said that doesn't bother him, and when he knows I'm not going to move on by being friends in the first place. What the heck is that? I'm not going to play along anymore.
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I think what he's saying, if someone says they can be friends and continues to call everyday then he pays attention to the actions & not the words.
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There's no chance we're going to date again according to him. I think those words are pretty significant right now.
Posted by Capri-sunOk this makes sensePosted by ladylibra21Posted by ParisianCappySo are you saying she should ignore the fact that he says he doesn't want to date her?Posted by pinkbird03i dont juge people by their words but their actions
This will be my last question because I'm finally deciding to move on. He basically said not much chance in us dating again in the near future. Ok whatever, but why keep on insisting to be friends with me when I've expressed my love for him multiple times in recent history, when we talk every day all day and he's said that doesn't bother him, and when he knows I'm not going to move on by being friends in the first place. What the heck is that? I'm not going to play along anymore.
#foreverconfusedbycaps
I think what he's saying, if someone says they can be friends and continues to call everyday then he pays attention to the actions & not the words.
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Posted by Capri-sunThank you 🙂 I just hope it will be easier to move on this time. I've only gone 10 days lol that's pretty bad.Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Capri-sunPosted by ladylibra21Posted by ParisianCappySo are you saying she should ignore the fact that he says he doesn't want to date her?Posted by pinkbird03i dont juge people by their words but their actions
This will be my last question because I'm finally deciding to move on. He basically said not much chance in us dating again in the near future. Ok whatever, but why keep on insisting to be friends with me when I've expressed my love for him multiple times in recent history, when we talk every day all day and he's said that doesn't bother him, and when he knows I'm not going to move on by being friends in the first place. What the heck is that? I'm not going to play along anymore.
#foreverconfusedbycaps
I think what he's saying, if someone says they can be friends and continues to call everyday then he pays attention to the actions & not the words.
There's no chance we're going to date again according to him. I think those words are pretty significant right now.
No, I agree with you. I was just trying to clarify what frenchy was saying. I get lost in his translation sometimes so he could've meant something completely different.
Don't worry pinkbird I'm in the same boat, doesn't feel good, it does give you closure, direction & the freedom & ability to move on with your life & fund someone better & worthy of your love, attention, & affection. It will be okay 🤗
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Posted by Capri-sunI'm not sure exactly what you mean by police report, but it doesn't sound good! Two months is a good amount of time. Has it helped you moved on a lot or do you still have strong feelings? Thanks for your support. I'm doing ok today.Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Capri-sunThank you 🙂 I just hope it will be easier to move on this time. I've only gone 10 days lol that's pretty bad.Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Capri-sunPosted by ladylibra21Posted by ParisianCappySo are you saying she should ignore the fact that he says he doesn't want to date her?Posted by pinkbird03i dont juge people by their words but their actions
This will be my last question because I'm finally deciding to move on. He basically said not much chance in us dating again in the near future. Ok whatever, but why keep on insisting to be friends with me when I've expressed my love for him multiple times in recent history, when we talk every day all day and he's said that doesn't bother him, and when he knows I'm not going to move on by being friends in the first place. What the heck is that? I'm not going to play along anymore.
#foreverconfusedbycaps
I think what he's saying, if someone says they can be friends and continues to call everyday then he pays attention to the actions & not the words.
There's no chance we're going to date again according to him. I think those words are pretty significant right now.
No, I agree with you. I was just trying to clarify what frenchy was saying. I get lost in his translation sometimes so he could've meant something completely different.
Don't worry pinkbird I'm in the same boat, doesn't feel good, it does give you closure, direction & the freedom & ability to move on with your life & fund someone better & worthy of your love, attention, & affection. It will be okay 🤗
It will be because you have those words to hold onto. It will be 2 months for me in the next week or so & he used "police report" lol so it could be worse.
You'll be fine sweetheart 🙂
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Posted by -elle-does he like sports?
Christmas is so close to his birthday....
What gift can I give a extremely discerning Cap that will knock his perfectly maintained leather dress shoes off?
Clothes are a no......he is way too picky. He couldn't find a perfect pair of black jeans...no shade was the right shade....so he dyed them himself. (and libra venus is overjoyed that not a single trace of dye was found after)
Shoes are a no....his taste in shoes puts me to shame.
Music....I wouldn't even know where to start.
Gadgets....he has them all.
Tech....thankfully, not really a tech head.
Fragarance.....ffs, I already had to travel to eastern Europe to find his signature brand...lol...and couldn't hold off giving it to him.
Food....he prefers to cook his own.
Help meh! 😭
Posted by -elle-If you are in the USA, SOL on the soccer option... unless you plan a trip to England. That, actually, would be an amazing gift. Find his favorite EPL team. Make a trip out of it for the 2 of you.Posted by daron76Soccer.Posted by -elle-does he like sports?
Christmas is so close to his birthday....
What gift can I give a extremely discerning Cap that will knock his perfectly maintained leather dress shoes off?
Clothes are a no......he is way too picky. He couldn't find a perfect pair of black jeans...no shade was the right shade....so he dyed them himself. (and libra venus is overjoyed that not a single trace of dye was found after)
Shoes are a no....his taste in shoes puts me to shame.
Music....I wouldn't even know where to start.
Gadgets....he has them all.
Tech....thankfully, not really a tech head.
Fragarance.....ffs, I already had to travel to eastern Europe to find his signature brand...lol...and couldn't hold off giving it to him.
Food....he prefers to cook his own.
Help meh! 😭
...and he loves documentaries about cars.
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Posted by Capri-sunYay, you started online dating!! Good luck! ?? I'm sure I'll definitely need support at some point this month! Thanks ahead of time ? Does he ever message you randomly and ruin your progress? That's what I'm worried about. Even today! He hasn't responded to my last text about not being friends, but I'm sure he will when he's not busy and has time to put together a well thought out response. I'm nervous about that to be honest.Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Capri-sunI'm not sure exactly what you mean by police report, but it doesn't sound good! Two months is a good amount of time. Has it helped you moved on a lot or do you still have strong feelings? Thanks for your support. I'm doing ok today.Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Capri-sunThank you 🙂 I just hope it will be easier to move on this time. I've only gone 10 days lol that's pretty bad.Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Capri-sunPosted by ladylibra21Posted by ParisianCappySo are you saying she should ignore the fact that he says he doesn't want to date her?Posted by pinkbird03i dont juge people by their words but their actions
This will be my last question because I'm finally deciding to move on. He basically said not much chance in us dating again in the near future. Ok whatever, but why keep on insisting to be friends with me when I've expressed my love for him multiple times in recent history, when we talk every day all day and he's said that doesn't bother him, and when he knows I'm not going to move on by being friends in the first place. What the heck is that? I'm not going to play along anymore.
#foreverconfusedbycaps
I think what he's saying, if someone says they can be friends and continues to call everyday then he pays attention to the actions & not the words.
There's no chance we're going to date again according to him. I think those words are pretty significant right now.
No, I agree with you. I was just trying to clarify what frenchy was saying. I get lost in his translation sometimes so he could've meant something completely different.
Don't worry pinkbird I'm in the same boat, doesn't feel good, it does give you closure, direction & the freedom & ability to move on with your life & fund someone better & worthy of your love, attention, & affection. It will be okay 🤗
It will be because you have those words to hold onto. It will be 2 months for me in the next week or so & he used "police report" lol so it could be worse.
You'll be fine sweetheart 🙂
My feelings will never change for the man. I do try to keep the fact of him standing me up at the forefront of my mind because it made me lose a little respect for him & reminds myself of the pain. I just started online dating 2 days ago so I'm somewhat over it.
Take it one day at a time & yes I'll always be here for moral & emotional support.
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Posted by Capri-sunI'm a cancer. I don't know how to detach my feelings. I didn't get over my last ex completely until I met this cap. My last ex and I broke up five years ago.. crazy right? I don't know why I can only replace strong feelings with stronger feelings. I know I'm a weakling ?Posted by pinkbird03Thanks. No, unfortunately he doesn't contact me & his number has made it to my blocked list so I wouldn't know if he did unless I checked it. The pisces will do that however and it has been over 2 years since we stopped talking regularly.
Yay, you started online dating!! Good luck! ?? I'm sure I'll definitely need support at some point this month! Thanks ahead of time ? Does he ever message you randomly and ruin your progress? That's what I'm worried about. Even today! He hasn't responded to my last text about not being friends, but I'm sure he will when he's not busy and has time to put together a well thought out response. I'm nervous about that to be honest.
Seriously you could just ignore him or detach your feelings and at that point you'll be fine. It's a process that doesn't happen overnight. I know you'll get there.click to expand
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