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Hey How Is Everyone ?? I Have A Question OK So I Have The Cap Ex /Best Friends We Use To Date 4 years ago but I pushed him away at the time I was pregnant and i also was rape a year before that he was so sweet also joking before I pushed him away I met his family ..when I pushed him away he turnt cold change his number and disappear ...we started back talking couple months back but he has a gf who is a Virgo ..he recently came to visit asking me certain questions like who I have a baby by someone who loves me and I need to stop smoking and called me beautiful last night and also any men is lucky to have me if that can't see that their stupid and he said he will always be in my life ....he told me he love me twice also. .lol ...any thoughts?? Does he want me back??

I thought everyone should know... I failed. I'm still his friend...

If they love you - you will always have a place in the Capi's heart.

My cap and I are opposites - attract each other like magnets. Repel but can't stay apart for long

Attraction goes very deep - it's a learning experience.

They will come back in one form or another

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If they love you - you will always have a place in the Capi's heart.

My cap and I are opposites - attract each other like magnets. Repel but can't stay apart for long

Attraction goes very deep - it's a learning experience.

They will come back in one form or another

I can relate!! The level of attraction is kind of crazy. And in my case, it's not a good thing.

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Would giving someone the silent treatment be the same as "disappearing?" If not, when do you give people the silent treatment?

Well, to be honest, I don't give people the "silent treatment". If I am not speaking to you, 1 of 3 things have transpired; 1) You have made it clear (through words or actions) that you no longer want to communicate, 2) I have nothing to say to you or, 3) I no longer see the value in continuing to discuss things with you further.

Not sure I would call that "disappearing". That is why that topic got it's own thread, as @capri-sun mentioned above.

What can you tell me about friendship? And friendship only.

Just curious. I took 3 mental health days for myself to relax my mind from everything. Planning on going longer at this point. However, now I'm assessing everything without being overly emotional.

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What can you tell me about friendship? And friendship only.

Just curious. I took 3 mental health days for myself to relax my mind from everything. Planning on going longer at this point. However, now I'm assessing everything without being overly emotional.

Over time, as trust grows I get very close to my friends. The depth can be as deep as we are comfortable with (the friend and I). The more of that we share the better. But, there is a line I will not cross.

The women I am friends with, I try to keep them that way-- which is strictly plutonic. No flirting, no innuendo, no teasing or false hope.

Yet, this past weekend I may have lost one. We have been friends for years- we went to law school together. We were part of the same larger circle of friends-- all of whom I consider my second family. Anyway- we both ended up re-locating to the same city. We hang-out and catch up infrequently. We talk about anything- including people we have been seeing. This, the discussing of women of I'm dating, is something I would never do with a woman I am interested in. Long story short, she wanted to know if I wanted to give dating a shot. I said no, of course. But now I'm worried that I may have just lot a friend.

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Posted by pinkbird03
What can you tell me about friendship? And friendship only.

Just curious. I took 3 mental health days for myself to relax my mind from everything. Planning on going longer at this point. However, now I'm assessing everything without being overly emotional.

@Venusaquarius recently posted about venus aqua & friendship, I meant to tag you as I believe that is the key to your situation. I'm unable to locate the post.

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My Venus is in aqua also 🙂

not sure if that helps or hurts lol

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Posted by pinkbird03
What can you tell me about friendship? And friendship only.

Just curious. I took 3 mental health days for myself to relax my mind from everything. Planning on going longer at this point. However, now I'm assessing everything without being overly emotional.

Over time, as trust grows I get very close to my friends. The depth can be as deep as we are comfortable with (the friend and I). The more of that we share the better. But, there is a line I will not cross.

The women I am friends with, I try to keep them that way-- which is strictly plutonic. No flirting, no innuendo, no teasing or false hope.

Yet, this past weekend I may have lost one. We have been friends for years- we went to law school together. We were part of the same larger circle of friends-- all of whom I consider my second family. Anyway- we both ended up re-locating to the same city. We hang-out and catch up infrequently. We talk about anything- including people we have been seeing. This, the discussing of women of I'm dating, is something I would never do with a woman I am interested in. Long story short, she wanted to know if I wanted to give dating a shot. I said no, of course. But now I'm worried that I may have just lot a friend.

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Aw, poor girl! Why wouldn't you consider anything more with her? Especially if you already trust her so much.

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Posted by pinkbird03
What can you tell me about friendship? And friendship only.

Just curious. I took 3 mental health days for myself to relax my mind from everything. Planning on going longer at this point. However, now I'm assessing everything without being overly emotional.

@Venusaquarius recently posted about venus aqua & friendship, I meant to tag you as I believe that is the key to your situation. I'm unable to locate the post.

My Venus is in aqua also 🙂

not sure if that helps or hurts lol

Boooo....lol jk 😄

Okay @pinkbird03 so what he (Daron) said then

He means well & is a keeper so I don't think he'd steer you wrong

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lol I tried to look for the other post, but couldn't find it!

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Posted by pinkbird03
What can you tell me about friendship? And friendship only.

Just curious. I took 3 mental health days for myself to relax my mind from everything. Planning on going longer at this point. However, now I'm assessing everything without being overly emotional.

@Venusaquarius recently posted about venus aqua & friendship, I meant to tag you as I believe that is the key to your situation. I'm unable to locate the post.

My Venus is in aqua also 🙂

not sure if that helps or hurts lol

Boooo....lol jk 😄

Okay @pinkbird03 so what he (Daron) said then

He means well & is a keeper so I don't think he'd steer you wrong

lol I tried to look for the other post, but couldn't find it!

Yeah that's why I tagged her in hopes that she could point us to it. I can't even remember which thread it was in.

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Hey, I'm not sure I know exactly what you guys are talking about but I think the last post I did about friendship was on the Aquarius Board. It was called, "Aquarius love is so strange."

Most times, there is a difference between males and females of any sign or placement.

For example, Daron has a stronger boundary than I had.

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What can you tell me about friendship? And friendship only.

Just curious. I took 3 mental health days for myself to relax my mind from everything. Planning on going longer at this point. However, now I'm assessing everything without being overly emotional.

Over time, as trust grows I get very close to my friends. The depth can be as deep as we are comfortable with (the friend and I). The more of that we share the better. But, there is a line I will not cross.

The women I am friends with, I try to keep them that way-- which is strictly plutonic. No flirting, no innuendo, no teasing or false hope.

Yet, this past weekend I may have lost one. We have been friends for years- we went to law school together. We were part of the same larger circle of friends-- all of whom I consider my second family. Anyway- we both ended up re-locating to the same city. We hang-out and catch up infrequently. We talk about anything- including people we have been seeing. This, the discussing of women of I'm dating, is something I would never do with a woman I am interested in. Long story short, she wanted to know if I wanted to give dating a shot. I said no, of course. But now I'm worried that I may have just lot a friend.

Aw, poor girl! Why wouldn't you consider anything more with her? Especially if you already trust her so much.

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I'm just not attracted to her in that way. And I don't want to explore it because if it doesn't work (which is likely due to me not seeing her that way) I would not only lose the relationship but a friend as well. But I may have lost the friend anyway smh...

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Posted by pinkbird03
What can you tell me about friendship? And friendship only.

Just curious. I took 3 mental health days for myself to relax my mind from everything. Planning on going longer at this point. However, now I'm assessing everything without being overly emotional.

@Venusaquarius recently posted about venus aqua & friendship, I meant to tag you as I believe that is the key to your situation. I'm unable to locate the post.

My Venus is in aqua also 🙂

not sure if that helps or hurts lol

Boooo....lol jk 😄

Okay @pinkbird03 so what he (Daron) said then

He means well & is a keeper so I don't think he'd steer you wrong

lol I tried to look for the other post, but couldn't find it!

Yeah that's why I tagged her in hopes that she could point us to it. I can't even remember which thread it was in.

Hey, I'm not sure I know exactly what you guys are talking about but I think the last post I did about friendship was on the Aquarius Board. It was called, "Aquarius love is so strange."

Most times, there is a difference between males and females of any sign or placement.

For example, Daron has a stronger boundary than I had.

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I am curious to learn more about friendship with a Venus Aquarius. I was dating one and we became friends, but there's this weird vibe he gives that always confuses me. He knows how I feel about him and even when I say I don't want to be just friends and we should stop talking, he still insists we stay friends. I do not understand one bit.

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Posted by pinkbird03
What can you tell me about friendship? And friendship only.

Just curious. I took 3 mental health days for myself to relax my mind from everything. Planning on going longer at this point. However, now I'm assessing everything without being overly emotional.

Over time, as trust grows I get very close to my friends. The depth can be as deep as we are comfortable with (the friend and I). The more of that we share the better. But, there is a line I will not cross.

The women I am friends with, I try to keep them that way-- which is strictly plutonic. No flirting, no innuendo, no teasing or false hope.

Yet, this past weekend I may have lost one. We have been friends for years- we went to law school together. We were part of the same larger circle of friends-- all of whom I consider my second family. Anyway- we both ended up re-locating to the same city. We hang-out and catch up infrequently. We talk about anything- including people we have been seeing. This, the discussing of women of I'm dating, is something I would never do with a woman I am interested in. Long story short, she wanted to know if I wanted to give dating a shot. I said no, of course. But now I'm worried that I may have just lot a friend.

Aw, poor girl! Why wouldn't you consider anything more with her? Especially if you already trust her so much.

I'm just not attracted to her in that way. And I don't want to explore it because if it doesn't work (which is likely due to me not seeing her that way) I would not only lose the relationship but a friend as well. But I may have lost the friend anyway smh...

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Oh gotcha! I completely understand that. I once tried really hard to like a guy I was not attracted to at all and I literally counted down the hours until I "had" to go home after each time we hung out. It was so uncomfortable! But I don't think you'll lose a friend over this. It's probably just uncomfortable for her right now. You should talk to her about something friendly so you both can move on from the awkward phase.

What's your moon sign

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What can you tell me about friendship? And friendship only.

Just curious. I took 3 mental health days for myself to relax my mind from everything. Planning on going longer at this point. However, now I'm assessing everything without being overly emotional.

Over time, as trust grows I get very close to my friends. The depth can be as deep as we are comfortable with (the friend and I). The more of that we share the better. But, there is a line I will not cross.

The women I am friends with, I try to keep them that way-- which is strictly plutonic. No flirting, no innuendo, no teasing or false hope.

Yet, this past weekend I may have lost one. We have been friends for years- we went to law school together. We were part of the same larger circle of friends-- all of whom I consider my second family. Anyway- we both ended up re-locating to the same city. We hang-out and catch up infrequently. We talk about anything- including people we have been seeing. This, the discussing of women of I'm dating, is something I would never do with a woman I am interested in. Long story short, she wanted to know if I wanted to give dating a shot. I said no, of course. But now I'm worried that I may have just lot a friend.

Aw, poor girl! Why wouldn't you consider anything more with her? Especially if you already trust her so much.

I'm just not attracted to her in that way. And I don't want to explore it because if it doesn't work (which is likely due to me not seeing her that way) I would not only lose the relationship but a friend as well. But I may have lost the friend anyway smh...

Oh gotcha! I completely understand that. I once tried really hard to like a guy I was not attracted to at all and I literally counted down the hours until I "had" to go home after each time we hung out. It was so uncomfortable! But I don't think you'll lose a friend over this. It's probably just uncomfortable for her right now. You should talk to her about something friendly so you both can move on from the awkward phase.

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I hope you are right. Good suggestion on suggesting to re-open convo on something friendly.

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Posted by pinkbird03
What can you tell me about friendship? And friendship only.

Just curious. I took 3 mental health days for myself to relax my mind from everything. Planning on going longer at this point. However, now I'm assessing everything without being overly emotional.

@Venusaquarius recently posted about venus aqua & friendship, I meant to tag you as I believe that is the key to your situation. I'm unable to locate the post.

My Venus is in aqua also 🙂

not sure if that helps or hurts lol

Boooo....lol jk 😄

Okay @pinkbird03 so what he (Daron) said then

He means well & is a keeper so I don't think he'd steer you wrong

lol I tried to look for the other post, but couldn't find it!

Yeah that's why I tagged her in hopes that she could point us to it. I can't even remember which thread it was in.

Hey, I'm not sure I know exactly what you guys are talking about but I think the last post I did about friendship was on the Aquarius Board. It was called, "Aquarius love is so strange."

Most times, there is a difference between males and females of any sign or placement.

For example, Daron has a stronger boundary than I had.

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Well that boundary wasn't always that strong. It got that way after seeing the damage a mix of good intentions and false hope can do.

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Posted by daron76

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Posted by pinkbird03
What can you tell me about friendship? And friendship only.

Just curious. I took 3 mental health days for myself to relax my mind from everything. Planning on going longer at this point. However, now I'm assessing everything without being overly emotional.

@Venusaquarius recently posted about venus aqua & friendship, I meant to tag you as I believe that is the key to your situation. I'm unable to locate the post.

My Venus is in aqua also 🙂

not sure if that helps or hurts lol

Boooo....lol jk 😄

Okay @pinkbird03 so what he (Daron) said then

He means well & is a keeper so I don't think he'd steer you wrong

lol I tried to look for the other post, but couldn't find it!

Yeah that's why I tagged her in hopes that she could point us to it. I can't even remember which thread it was in.

Hey, I'm not sure I know exactly what you guys are talking about but I think the last post I did about friendship was on the Aquarius Board. It was called, "Aquarius love is so strange."

Most times, there is a difference between males and females of any sign or placement.

For example, Daron has a stronger boundary than I had.

I am curious to learn more about friendship with a Venus Aquarius. I was dating one and we became friends, but there's this weird vibe he gives that always confuses me. He knows how I feel about him and even when I say I don't want to be just friends and we should stop talking, he still insists we stay friends. I do not understand one bit.

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There's a big difference in Venus Aqua males and females... Not literally but, perception wise based on male female dynamics. I can get away with much more than a Venus Aqua male.... Well, because I'm a woman. I hope you're following me hear... and it's all based on societal expectations. Thus, I come across unique as a woman. And, a woman's not "supposed to" act like that, not feel like that.

I would venture that weird vibe you describe is love. But, we don't love all that judiciously; therefore, it's not a major factor as to having a commited relationship. But, it's definitely a foundation.

What do you think was the catalyst for the transition from dating to friends? An arguement, after sex, a long discussion on world paradigm...

Instead of insisting on being in relationship, insist on knowing why you cannot be in a commited relationship. Tell him a friendship cannot grow without honesty.

Your insisting on a relationship, makes Venus Aqua want to give you the opposite. Blame it on Uranus, the ruler of this Venus. Number 1, it shows that you are not going to be a friend in a committed relationship because your insistence on the relationship and not enjoying the closeness of the friendship lay out opposing relationship goals. We do not generally care for needy, clingy on the emotional side of things. We're cool with physical, material, spiritual, neediness.... but, not emotional... especially derived from the your relationship with us... For example, I can handle and love a "crazy" person as long as I'm not the source of the crazy.

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Posted by pinkbird03
What can you tell me about friendship? And friendship only.

Just curious. I took 3 mental health days for myself to relax my mind from everything. Planning on going longer at this point. However, now I'm assessing everything without being overly emotional.

@Venusaquarius recently posted about venus aqua & friendship, I meant to tag you as I believe that is the key to your situation. I'm unable to locate the post.

My Venus is in aqua also 🙂

not sure if that helps or hurts lol

Boooo....lol jk 😄

Okay @pinkbird03 so what he (Daron) said then

He means well & is a keeper so I don't think he'd steer you wrong

lol I tried to look for the other post, but couldn't find it!

Yeah that's why I tagged her in hopes that she could point us to it. I can't even remember which thread it was in.

Hey, I'm not sure I know exactly what you guys are talking about but I think the last post I did about friendship was on the Aquarius Board. It was called, "Aquarius love is so strange."

Most times, there is a difference between males and females of any sign or placement.

For example, Daron has a stronger boundary than I had.

Well that boundary wasn't always that strong. It got that way after seeing the damage a mix of good intentions and false hope can do.

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HIGH FIVE!!!

I just got through posting that as a female Venus Aqua, I can "get away with" more than the male can.

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Posted by pinkbird03
What can you tell me about friendship? And friendship only.

Just curious. I took 3 mental health days for myself to relax my mind from everything. Planning on going longer at this point. However, now I'm assessing everything without being overly emotional.

@Venusaquarius recently posted about venus aqua & friendship, I meant to tag you as I believe that is the key to your situation. I'm unable to locate the post.

My Venus is in aqua also 🙂

not sure if that helps or hurts lol

Boooo....lol jk 😄

Okay @pinkbird03 so what he (Daron) said then

He means well & is a keeper so I don't think he'd steer you wrong

lol I tried to look for the other post, but couldn't find it!

Yeah that's why I tagged her in hopes that she could point us to it. I can't even remember which thread it was in.

Hey, I'm not sure I know exactly what you guys are talking about but I think the last post I did about friendship was on the Aquarius Board. It was called, "Aquarius love is so strange."

Most times, there is a difference between males and females of any sign or placement.

For example, Daron has a stronger boundary than I had.

I am curious to learn more about friendship with a Venus Aquarius. I was dating one and we became friends, but there's this weird vibe he gives that always confuses me. He knows how I feel about him and even when I say I don't want to be just friends and we should stop talking, he still insists we stay friends. I do not understand one bit.

There's a big difference in Venus Aqua males and females... Not literally but, perception wise based on male female dynamics. I can get away with much more than a Venus Aqua male.... Well, because I'm a woman. I hope you're following me hear... and it's all based on societal expectations. Thus, I come across unique as a woman. And, a woman's not "supposed to" act like that, not feel like that.

I would venture that weird vibe you describe is love. But, we don't love all that judiciously; therefore, it's not a major factor as to having a commited relationship. But, it's definitely a foundation.

What do you think was the catalyst for the transition from dating to friends? An arguement, after sex, a long discussion on world paradigm...

Instead of insisting on being in relationship, insist on knowing why you cannot be in a commited relationship. Tell him a friendship cannot grow without honesty.

Your insisting on a relationship, makes Venus Aqua want to give you the opposite. Blame it on Uranus, the ruler of this Venus. Number 1, it shows that you are not going to be a friend in a committed relationship because your insistence on the relationship and not enjoying the closeness of the friendship lay out opposing relationship goals. We do not generally care for needy, clingy on the emotional side of things. We're cool with physical, material, spiritual, neediness.... but, not emotional... especially derived from the your relationship with us... For example, I can handle and love a "crazy" person as long as I'm not the source of the crazy.

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That all makes sense and definitely helps me understand him more. I think you're pretty accurate on this one! We transitioned to friendship because I made a big deal about feeling like he didn't like me as much as I liked him and I iniated the breakup. But we never stopped talking and instead talked a lot more for the past two months. But he still doesn't want to date and I am now using a couple of dating sites. I just don't know how to handle my situation. I'm very attached to him right now. Any suggestions?

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Posted by pinkbird03
What can you tell me about friendship? And friendship only.

Just curious. I took 3 mental health days for myself to relax my mind from everything. Planning on going longer at this point. However, now I'm assessing everything without being overly emotional.

@Venusaquarius recently posted about venus aqua & friendship, I meant to tag you as I believe that is the key to your situation. I'm unable to locate the post.

My Venus is in aqua also 🙂

not sure if that helps or hurts lol

Boooo....lol jk 😄

Okay @pinkbird03 so what he (Daron) said then

He means well & is a keeper so I don't think he'd steer you wrong

lol I tried to look for the other post, but couldn't find it!

Yeah that's why I tagged her in hopes that she could point us to it. I can't even remember which thread it was in.

Hey, I'm not sure I know exactly what you guys are talking about but I think the last post I did about friendship was on the Aquarius Board. It was called, "Aquarius love is so strange."

Most times, there is a difference between males and females of any sign or placement.

For example, Daron has a stronger boundary than I had.

I am curious to learn more about friendship with a Venus Aquarius. I was dating one and we became friends, but there's this weird vibe he gives that always confuses me. He knows how I feel about him and even when I say I don't want to be just friends and we should stop talking, he still insists we stay friends. I do not understand one bit.

There's a big difference in Venus Aqua males and females... Not literally but, perception wise based on male female dynamics. I can get away with much more than a Venus Aqua male.... Well, because I'm a woman. I hope you're following me hear... and it's all based on societal expectations. Thus, I come across unique as a woman. And, a woman's not "supposed to" act like that, not feel like that.

I would venture that weird vibe you describe is love. But, we don't love all that judiciously; therefore, it's not a major factor as to having a commited relationship. But, it's definitely a foundation.

What do you think was the catalyst for the transition from dating to friends? An arguement, after sex, a long discussion on world paradigm...

Instead of insisting on being in relationship, insist on knowing why you cannot be in a commited relationship. Tell him a friendship cannot grow without honesty.

Your insisting on a relationship, makes Venus Aqua want to give you the opposite. Blame it on Uranus, the ruler of this Venus. Number 1, it shows that you are not going to be a friend in a committed relationship because your insistence on the relationship and not enjoying the closeness of the friendship lay out opposing relationship goals. We do not generally care for needy, clingy on the emotional side of things. We're cool with physical, material, spiritual, neediness.... but, not emotional... especially derived from the your relationship with us... For example, I can handle and love a "crazy" person as long as I'm not the source of the crazy.

That all makes sense and definitely helps me understand him more. I think you're pretty accurate on this one! We transitioned to friendship because I made a big deal about feeling like he didn't like me as much as I liked him and I iniated the breakup. But we never stopped talking and instead talked a lot more for the past two months. But he still doesn't want to date and I am now using a couple of dating sites. I just don't know how to handle my situation. I'm very attached to him right now. Any suggestions?

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You shouldn't have broke up with him. We don't like to go backwards. You will be half dead emotionally before you get back to where you were. Although this is after the fact, it would have been better to "sneak" back into a relationship instead of creating yet another "issue"... one minute, you don't think he loves you a much; the next, you want to get back together.

We are logical to the point of being retarded about it. We ask, what's changed? My love was not good enough. Is this person demanding? Usually, people who accuse us of not loving them enough are looking for emotional content in love. He wouldn't want that arguement for the rest of his life. Nothing has or will change about that feeling of you missing emotion content.

As a Venus Aqua male, it probably was blow to his ego. He realizes perhaps, he has to start with friendship in order to know how you want to be loved before he faces another blow from you. And, determine if he can deliver. I have broken up with people because I could not give them the type of love that's number one to them or them to me. They say they don't care and want to be with me or, that they can deliver... but, I don't believe them. Whi h leads to an arguement. So, I learned to ghost 'em. However, I still love them.

Sneak back in... knowing the risk of still not being officially committed is the chance you are taking. Wanting to come back after being the one initiating the break- up may be percieved as 1) manipulative, 2) emotionally unstable or demanding or, 3) not worthy of revisting commitment.... most damaging would be the overall perception of having a character flaw. We don't really want relationshipz all that much because of the muck and mire on the emotional aspect. And, low and behold, you already got that party started.

I'm telling you what's been tried on me, lol.

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What can you tell me about friendship? And friendship only.

Just curious. I took 3 mental health days for myself to relax my mind from everything. Planning on going longer at this point. However, now I'm assessing everything without being overly emotional.

@Venusaquarius recently posted about venus aqua & friendship, I meant to tag you as I believe that is the key to your situation. I'm unable to locate the post.

My Venus is in aqua also 🙂

not sure if that helps or hurts lol

Boooo....lol jk 😄

Okay @pinkbird03 so what he (Daron) said then

He means well & is a keeper so I don't think he'd steer you wrong

lol I tried to look for the other post, but couldn't find it!

Yeah that's why I tagged her in hopes that she could point us to it. I can't even remember which thread it was in.

Hey, I'm not sure I know exactly what you guys are talking about but I think the last post I did about friendship was on the Aquarius Board. It was called, "Aquarius love is so strange."

Most times, there is a difference between males and females of any sign or placement.

For example, Daron has a stronger boundary than I had.

I am curious to learn more about friendship with a Venus Aquarius. I was dating one and we became friends, but there's this weird vibe he gives that always confuses me. He knows how I feel about him and even when I say I don't want to be just friends and we should stop talking, he still insists we stay friends. I do not understand one bit.

There's a big difference in Venus Aqua males and females... Not literally but, perception wise based on male female dynamics. I can get away with much more than a Venus Aqua male.... Well, because I'm a woman. I hope you're following me hear... and it's all based on societal expectations. Thus, I come across unique as a woman. And, a woman's not "supposed to" act like that, not feel like that.

I would venture that weird vibe you describe is love. But, we don't love all that judiciously; therefore, it's not a major factor as to having a commited relationship. But, it's definitely a foundation.

What do you think was the catalyst for the transition from dating to friends? An arguement, after sex, a long discussion on world paradigm...

Instead of insisting on being in relationship, insist on knowing why you cannot be in a commited relationship. Tell him a friendship cannot grow without honesty.

Your insisting on a relationship, makes Venus Aqua want to give you the opposite. Blame it on Uranus, the ruler of this Venus. Number 1, it shows that you are not going to be a friend in a committed relationship because your insistence on the relationship and not enjoying the closeness of the friendship lay out opposing relationship goals. We do not generally care for needy, clingy on the emotional side of things. We're cool with physical, material, spiritual, neediness.... but, not emotional... especially derived from the your relationship with us... For example, I can handle and love a "crazy" person as long as I'm not the source of the crazy.

That all makes sense and definitely helps me understand him more. I think you're pretty accurate on this one! We transitioned to friendship because I made a big deal about feeling like he didn't like me as much as I liked him and I iniated the breakup. But we never stopped talking and instead talked a lot more for the past two months. But he still doesn't want to date and I am now using a couple of dating sites. I just don't know how to handle my situation. I'm very attached to him right now. Any suggestions?

You shouldn't have broke up with him. We don't like to go backwards. You will be half dead emotionally before you get back to where you were. Although this is after the fact, it would have been better to "sneak" back into a relationship instead of creating yet another "issue"... one minute, you don't think he loves you a much; the next, you want to get back together.

We are logical to the point of being retarded about it. We ask, what's changed. My love was not good enough. Is this person demanding? Usually, people who accuse us of not loving them enough are looking for emotional content in love. He wouldn't want that arguement for the rest of his life. Nothing has or will change about that feeling of you missing emotion content.

As a Venus Aqua male, it probably was blow to his ego. He realizes perhaps, he has to start with friendship in order to know how you want to be loved before he faces another blow from you. And, determine if he can deliver. I have broken up with people because I could not give them the type of love that's number one to them or them to me. They say they don't care and want to be with me or, that they can... but, I don't believe them. However, I still love them.

Sneak back in... knowing the risk of still not being officially committed is the chance you are taking. Wanting to come back after being the one initiating the break- up may be percieved as 1) manipulative, 2) emotionally unstable or demanding or, 3) not worthy of revisting commitment.... most damaginv woukd be the overall perception of having a character flaw. We don't really want relationshipz all that much because of the muck and mire on the emotional aspect. And, low and behold, you already got that party started.

I'm telling you what's been tried on me, lol.

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Yep, he's the logical one! And I can see how he probably saw my insecurities. But if he doesn't want to be with me, why insist on being friends? Talking a lot and flirting sometimes too. That's the confusing part. I know if I'm not interested in someone, I don't want to talk to them or lead them on.

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What can you tell me about friendship? And friendship only.

Just curious. I took 3 mental health days for myself to relax my mind from everything. Planning on going longer at this point. However, now I'm assessing everything without being overly emotional.

@Venusaquarius recently posted about venus aqua & friendship, I meant to tag you as I believe that is the key to your situation. I'm unable to locate the post.

My Venus is in aqua also 🙂

not sure if that helps or hurts lol

Boooo....lol jk 😄

Okay @pinkbird03 so what he (Daron) said then

He means well & is a keeper so I don't think he'd steer you wrong

lol I tried to look for the other post, but couldn't find it!

Yeah that's why I tagged her in hopes that she could point us to it. I can't even remember which thread it was in.

Hey, I'm not sure I know exactly what you guys are talking about but I think the last post I did about friendship was on the Aquarius Board. It was called, "Aquarius love is so strange."

Most times, there is a difference between males and females of any sign or placement.

For example, Daron has a stronger boundary than I had.

I am curious to learn more about friendship with a Venus Aquarius. I was dating one and we became friends, but there's this weird vibe he gives that always confuses me. He knows how I feel about him and even when I say I don't want to be just friends and we should stop talking, he still insists we stay friends. I do not understand one bit.

There's a big difference in Venus Aqua males and females... Not literally but, perception wise based on male female dynamics. I can get away with much more than a Venus Aqua male.... Well, because I'm a woman. I hope you're following me hear... and it's all based on societal expectations. Thus, I come across unique as a woman. And, a woman's not "supposed to" act like that, not feel like that.

I would venture that weird vibe you describe is love. But, we don't love all that judiciously; therefore, it's not a major factor as to having a commited relationship. But, it's definitely a foundation.

What do you think was the catalyst for the transition from dating to friends? An arguement, after sex, a long discussion on world paradigm...

Instead of insisting on being in relationship, insist on knowing why you cannot be in a commited relationship. Tell him a friendship cannot grow without honesty.

Your insisting on a relationship, makes Venus Aqua want to give you the opposite. Blame it on Uranus, the ruler of this Venus. Number 1, it shows that you are not going to be a friend in a committed relationship because your insistence on the relationship and not enjoying the closeness of the friendship lay out opposing relationship goals. We do not generally care for needy, clingy on the emotional side of things. We're cool with physical, material, spiritual, neediness.... but, not emotional... especially derived from the your relationship with us... For example, I can handle and love a "crazy" person as long as I'm not the source of the crazy.

That all makes sense and definitely helps me understand him more. I think you're pretty accurate on this one! We transitioned to friendship because I made a big deal about feeling like he didn't like me as much as I liked him and I iniated the breakup. But we never stopped talking and instead talked a lot more for the past two months. But he still doesn't want to date and I am now using a couple of dating sites. I just don't know how to handle my situation. I'm very attached to him right now. Any suggestions?

You shouldn't have broke up with him. We don't like to go backwards. You will be half dead emotionally before you get back to where you were. Although this is after the fact, it would have been better to "sneak" back into a relationship instead of creating yet another "issue"... one minute, you don't think he loves you a much; the next, you want to get back together.

We are logical to the point of being retarded about it. We ask, what's changed. My love was not good enough. Is this person demanding? Usually, people who accuse us of not loving them enough are looking for emotional content in love. He wouldn't want that arguement for the rest of his life. Nothing has or will change about that feeling of you missing emotion content.

As a Venus Aqua male, it probably was blow to his ego. He realizes perhaps, he has to start with friendship in order to know how you want to be loved before he faces another blow from you. And, determine if he can deliver. I have broken up with people because I could not give them the type of love that's number one to them or them to me. They say they don't care and want to be with me or, that they can... but, I don't believe them. However, I still love them.

Sneak back in... knowing the risk of still not being officially committed is the chance you are taking. Wanting to come back after being the one initiating the break- up may be percieved as 1) manipulative, 2) emotionally unstable or demanding or, 3) not worthy of revisting commitment.... most damaginv woukd be the overall perception of having a character flaw. We don't really want relationshipz all that much because of the muck and mire on the emotional aspect. And, low and behold, you already got that party started.

I'm telling you what's been tried on me, lol.

Yep, he's the logical one! And I can see how he probably saw my insecurities. But if he doesn't want to be with me, why insist on being friends? Talking a lot and flirting sometimes too. That's the confusing part. I know if I'm not interested in someone, I don't want to talk to them or lead them on.

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Cause you have a goal, an end game. We do not. He feels deeply for you. You told him he was inadequate. How has his inadequacy changed? It hasn’t. But, he still feels for you.

He has friendzoned himself. We Venus Aquas do that... friendzone ourselves. We are comfortable there... it's deliciously chaffing... perditious. We love a little self -loathing. We sing a song in our heads of how no one understands us... but, it's enjoyed and not at all mourning. A little masturbatory idealism. We are detached. We can love you from a distance. It feels good... we will get to enjoy loving you without the antagonism and entaglement of a relationship. It's like baking a cake, eating the icing and throwing the cake in the trash and giggling at the waste.

You will have to explain how he is no longer inadequate.

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What can you tell me about friendship? And friendship only.

Just curious. I took 3 mental health days for myself to relax my mind from everything. Planning on going longer at this point. However, now I'm assessing everything without being overly emotional.

@Venusaquarius recently posted about venus aqua & friendship, I meant to tag you as I believe that is the key to your situation. I'm unable to locate the post.

My Venus is in aqua also 🙂

not sure if that helps or hurts lol

Boooo....lol jk 😄

Okay @pinkbird03 so what he (Daron) said then

He means well & is a keeper so I don't think he'd steer you wrong

lol I tried to look for the other post, but couldn't find it!

Yeah that's why I tagged her in hopes that she could point us to it. I can't even remember which thread it was in.

Hey, I'm not sure I know exactly what you guys are talking about but I think the last post I did about friendship was on the Aquarius Board. It was called, "Aquarius love is so strange."

Most times, there is a difference between males and females of any sign or placement.

For example, Daron has a stronger boundary than I had.

I am curious to learn more about friendship with a Venus Aquarius. I was dating one and we became friends, but there's this weird vibe he gives that always confuses me. He knows how I feel about him and even when I say I don't want to be just friends and we should stop talking, he still insists we stay friends. I do not understand one bit.

There's a big difference in Venus Aqua males and females... Not literally but, perception wise based on male female dynamics. I can get away with much more than a Venus Aqua male.... Well, because I'm a woman. I hope you're following me hear... and it's all based on societal expectations. Thus, I come across unique as a woman. And, a woman's not "supposed to" act like that, not feel like that.

I would venture that weird vibe you describe is love. But, we don't love all that judiciously; therefore, it's not a major factor as to having a commited relationship. But, it's definitely a foundation.

What do you think was the catalyst for the transition from dating to friends? An arguement, after sex, a long discussion on world paradigm...

Instead of insisting on being in relationship, insist on knowing why you cannot be in a commited relationship. Tell him a friendship cannot grow without honesty.

Your insisting on a relationship, makes Venus Aqua want to give you the opposite. Blame it on Uranus, the ruler of this Venus. Number 1, it shows that you are not going to be a friend in a committed relationship because your insistence on the relationship and not enjoying the closeness of the friendship lay out opposing relationship goals. We do not generally care for needy, clingy on the emotional side of things. We're cool with physical, material, spiritual, neediness.... but, not emotional... especially derived from the your relationship with us... For example, I can handle and love a "crazy" person as long as I'm not the source of the crazy.

That all makes sense and definitely helps me understand him more. I think you're pretty accurate on this one! We transitioned to friendship because I made a big deal about feeling like he didn't like me as much as I liked him and I iniated the breakup. But we never stopped talking and instead talked a lot more for the past two months. But he still doesn't want to date and I am now using a couple of dating sites. I just don't know how to handle my situation. I'm very attached to him right now. Any suggestions?

You shouldn't have broke up with him. We don't like to go backwards. You will be half dead emotionally before you get back to where you were. Although this is after the fact, it would have been better to "sneak" back into a relationship instead of creating yet another "issue"... one minute, you don't think he loves you a much; the next, you want to get back together.

We are logical to the point of being retarded about it. We ask, what's changed. My love was not good enough. Is this person demanding? Usually, people who accuse us of not loving them enough are looking for emotional content in love. He wouldn't want that arguement for the rest of his life. Nothing has or will change about that feeling of you missing emotion content.

As a Venus Aqua male, it probably was blow to his ego. He realizes perhaps, he has to start with friendship in order to know how you want to be loved before he faces another blow from you. And, determine if he can deliver. I have broken up with people because I could not give them the type of love that's number one to them or them to me. They say they don't care and want to be with me or, that they can... but, I don't believe them. However, I still love them.

Sneak back in... knowing the risk of still not being officially committed is the chance you are taking. Wanting to come back after being the one initiating the break- up may be percieved as 1) manipulative, 2) emotionally unstable or demanding or, 3) not worthy of revisting commitment.... most damaginv woukd be the overall perception of having a character flaw. We don't really want relationshipz all that much because of the muck and mire on the emotional aspect. And, low and behold, you already got that party started.

I'm telling you what's been tried on me, lol.

Yep, he's the logical one! And I can see how he probably saw my insecurities. But if he doesn't want to be with me, why insist on being friends? Talking a lot and flirting sometimes too. That's the confusing part. I know if I'm not interested in someone, I don't want to talk to them or lead them on.

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The friends part may come from this. Sometimes I feel a connection with someone that I can't explain logically. Yet, I can explain almost anything logically (or so I believe). This puzzle lets me know something important is going on here- both about me, you and, indeed, us. And while our current relationship dynamic maybe floundering, I don't want to push you out of my life.

Often this phase is the result of being forced in to something I'm not ready for or I don't feel we are ready for. The key here is organic. As in, I have trouble being in relationships that don't start and develop in a natural way. I cant stand fakeness and forced relationships reek of that.

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Posted by pinkbird03
What can you tell me about friendship? And friendship only.

Just curious. I took 3 mental health days for myself to relax my mind from everything. Planning on going longer at this point. However, now I'm assessing everything without being overly emotional.

@Venusaquarius recently posted about venus aqua & friendship, I meant to tag you as I believe that is the key to your situation. I'm unable to locate the post.

My Venus is in aqua also 🙂

not sure if that helps or hurts lol

Boooo....lol jk 😄

Okay @pinkbird03 so what he (Daron) said then

He means well & is a keeper so I don't think he'd steer you wrong

lol I tried to look for the other post, but couldn't find it!

Yeah that's why I tagged her in hopes that she could point us to it. I can't even remember which thread it was in.

Hey, I'm not sure I know exactly what you guys are talking about but I think the last post I did about friendship was on the Aquarius Board. It was called, "Aquarius love is so strange."

Most times, there is a difference between males and females of any sign or placement.

For example, Daron has a stronger boundary than I had.

I am curious to learn more about friendship with a Venus Aquarius. I was dating one and we became friends, but there's this weird vibe he gives that always confuses me. He knows how I feel about him and even when I say I don't want to be just friends and we should stop talking, he still insists we stay friends. I do not understand one bit.

There's a big difference in Venus Aqua males and females... Not literally but, perception wise based on male female dynamics. I can get away with much more than a Venus Aqua male.... Well, because I'm a woman. I hope you're following me hear... and it's all based on societal expectations. Thus, I come across unique as a woman. And, a woman's not "supposed to" act like that, not feel like that.

I would venture that weird vibe you describe is love. But, we don't love all that judiciously; therefore, it's not a major factor as to having a commited relationship. But, it's definitely a foundation.

What do you think was the catalyst for the transition from dating to friends? An arguement, after sex, a long discussion on world paradigm...

Instead of insisting on being in relationship, insist on knowing why you cannot be in a commited relationship. Tell him a friendship cannot grow without honesty.

Your insisting on a relationship, makes Venus Aqua want to give you the opposite. Blame it on Uranus, the ruler of this Venus. Number 1, it shows that you are not going to be a friend in a committed relationship because your insistence on the relationship and not enjoying the closeness of the friendship lay out opposing relationship goals. We do not generally care for needy, clingy on the emotional side of things. We're cool with physical, material, spiritual, neediness.... but, not emotional... especially derived from the your relationship with us... For example, I can handle and love a "crazy" person as long as I'm not the source of the crazy.

That all makes sense and definitely helps me understand him more. I think you're pretty accurate on this one! We transitioned to friendship because I made a big deal about feeling like he didn't like me as much as I liked him and I iniated the breakup. But we never stopped talking and instead talked a lot more for the past two months. But he still doesn't want to date and I am now using a couple of dating sites. I just don't know how to handle my situation. I'm very attached to him right now. Any suggestions?

You shouldn't have broke up with him. We don't like to go backwards. You will be half dead emotionally before you get back to where you were. Although this is after the fact, it would have been better to "sneak" back into a relationship instead of creating yet another "issue"... one minute, you don't think he loves you a much; the next, you want to get back together.

We are logical to the point of being retarded about it. We ask, what's changed. My love was not good enough. Is this person demanding? Usually, people who accuse us of not loving them enough are looking for emotional content in love. He wouldn't want that arguement for the rest of his life. Nothing has or will change about that feeling of you missing emotion content.

As a Venus Aqua male, it probably was blow to his ego. He realizes perhaps, he has to start with friendship in order to know how you want to be loved before he faces another blow from you. And, determine if he can deliver. I have broken up with people because I could not give them the type of love that's number one to them or them to me. They say they don't care and want to be with me or, that they can... but, I don't believe them. However, I still love them.

Sneak back in... knowing the risk of still not being officially committed is the chance you are taking. Wanting to come back after being the one initiating the break- up may be percieved as 1) manipulative, 2) emotionally unstable or demanding or, 3) not worthy of revisting commitment.... most damaginv woukd be the overall perception of having a character flaw. We don't really want relationshipz all that much because of the muck and mire on the emotional aspect. And, low and behold, you already got that party started.

I'm telling you what's been tried on me, lol.

Yep, he's the logical one! And I can see how he probably saw my insecurities. But if he doesn't want to be with me, why insist on being friends? Talking a lot and flirting sometimes too. That's the confusing part. I know if I'm not interested in someone, I don't want to talk to them or lead them on.

The friends part may come from this. Sometimes I feel a connection with someone that I can't explain logically. Yet, I can explain almost anything logically (or so I believe). This puzzle lets me know something important is going on here- both about me, you and, indeed, us. And while our current relationship dynamic maybe floundering, I don't want to push you out of my life.

Often this phase is the result of being forced in to something I'm not ready for or I don't feel we are ready for. The key here is organic. As in, I have trouble being in relationships that don't start and develop in a natural way. I cant stand fakeness and forced relationships reek of that.

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Yes, she's making it anti-organic... rather commercial because her end game is committed relationship or else... which is illogical after breaking up with him "for cause." A cause to which the change does not exist.

If you dump me and come back, you should know two things; 1) I have changed and, 2) I will expect you to have changed as well. Particularly, you will need to be able to explain what has changed in you that you now see the value of having me in your life. My biggest fear is to know that someone is settling for me-- which means you are here because you can't find anything better right now-- not because you want to be here. And you will need to be very, very fucking convincing about that.

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Posted by pinkbird03
What can you tell me about friendship? And friendship only.

Just curious. I took 3 mental health days for myself to relax my mind from everything. Planning on going longer at this point. However, now I'm assessing everything without being overly emotional.

@Venusaquarius recently posted about venus aqua & friendship, I meant to tag you as I believe that is the key to your situation. I'm unable to locate the post.

My Venus is in aqua also 🙂

not sure if that helps or hurts lol

Boooo....lol jk 😄

Okay @pinkbird03 so what he (Daron) said then

He means well & is a keeper so I don't think he'd steer you wrong

lol I tried to look for the other post, but couldn't find it!

Yeah that's why I tagged her in hopes that she could point us to it. I can't even remember which thread it was in.

Hey, I'm not sure I know exactly what you guys are talking about but I think the last post I did about friendship was on the Aquarius Board. It was called, "Aquarius love is so strange."

Most times, there is a difference between males and females of any sign or placement.

For example, Daron has a stronger boundary than I had.

I am curious to learn more about friendship with a Venus Aquarius. I was dating one and we became friends, but there's this weird vibe he gives that always confuses me. He knows how I feel about him and even when I say I don't want to be just friends and we should stop talking, he still insists we stay friends. I do not understand one bit.

There's a big difference in Venus Aqua males and females... Not literally but, perception wise based on male female dynamics. I can get away with much more than a Venus Aqua male.... Well, because I'm a woman. I hope you're following me hear... and it's all based on societal expectations. Thus, I come across unique as a woman. And, a woman's not "supposed to" act like that, not feel like that.

I would venture that weird vibe you describe is love. But, we don't love all that judiciously; therefore, it's not a major factor as to having a commited relationship. But, it's definitely a foundation.

What do you think was the catalyst for the transition from dating to friends? An arguement, after sex, a long discussion on world paradigm...

Instead of insisting on being in relationship, insist on knowing why you cannot be in a commited relationship. Tell him a friendship cannot grow without honesty.

Your insisting on a relationship, makes Venus Aqua want to give you the opposite. Blame it on Uranus, the ruler of this Venus. Number 1, it shows that you are not going to be a friend in a committed relationship because your insistence on the relationship and not enjoying the closeness of the friendship lay out opposing relationship goals. We do not generally care for needy, clingy on the emotional side of things. We're cool with physical, material, spiritual, neediness.... but, not emotional... especially derived from the your relationship with us... For example, I can handle and love a "crazy" person as long as I'm not the source of the crazy.

That all makes sense and definitely helps me understand him more. I think you're pretty accurate on this one! We transitioned to friendship because I made a big deal about feeling like he didn't like me as much as I liked him and I iniated the breakup. But we never stopped talking and instead talked a lot more for the past two months. But he still doesn't want to date and I am now using a couple of dating sites. I just don't know how to handle my situation. I'm very attached to him right now. Any suggestions?

You shouldn't have broke up with him. We don't like to go backwards. You will be half dead emotionally before you get back to where you were. Although this is after the fact, it would have been better to "sneak" back into a relationship instead of creating yet another "issue"... one minute, you don't think he loves you a much; the next, you want to get back together.

We are logical to the point of being retarded about it. We ask, what's changed. My love was not good enough. Is this person demanding? Usually, people who accuse us of not loving them enough are looking for emotional content in love. He wouldn't want that arguement for the rest of his life. Nothing has or will change about that feeling of you missing emotion content.

As a Venus Aqua male, it probably was blow to his ego. He realizes perhaps, he has to start with friendship in order to know how you want to be loved before he faces another blow from you. And, determine if he can deliver. I have broken up with people because I could not give them the type of love that's number one to them or them to me. They say they don't care and want to be with me or, that they can... but, I don't believe them. However, I still love them.

Sneak back in... knowing the risk of still not being officially committed is the chance you are taking. Wanting to come back after being the one initiating the break- up may be percieved as 1) manipulative, 2) emotionally unstable or demanding or, 3) not worthy of revisting commitment.... most damaginv woukd be the overall perception of having a character flaw. We don't really want relationshipz all that much because of the muck and mire on the emotional aspect. And, low and behold, you already got that party started.

I'm telling you what's been tried on me, lol.

Yep, he's the logical one! And I can see how he probably saw my insecurities. But if he doesn't want to be with me, why insist on being friends? Talking a lot and flirting sometimes too. That's the confusing part. I know if I'm not interested in someone, I don't want to talk to them or lead them on.

The friends part may come from this. Sometimes I feel a connection with someone that I can't explain logically. Yet, I can explain almost anything logically (or so I believe). This puzzle lets me know something important is going on here- both about me, you and, indeed, us. And while our current relationship dynamic maybe floundering, I don't want to push you out of my life.

Often this phase is the result of being forced in to something I'm not ready for or I don't feel we are ready for. The key here is organic. As in, I have trouble being in relationships that don't start and develop in a natural way. I cant stand fakeness and forced relationships reek of that.

Yes, she's making it anti-organic... rather commercial because her end game is committed relationship or else... which is illogical after breaking up with him "for cause." A cause to which the change does not exist.

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That was never my intention. 1. I'm not used to anyone who has ever dated like he has. 2. i felt I was protecting myself because I've had bad experiences in the past. 3. I haven't been in love in many years so yes, I'm not really comfortable with any of it. I'm a cancer, I hide in my shell. I'm just going to accept things for how they are right now, keeping everything you said in mind and being a friend without crossing boundaries.

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If you dump me and come back, you should know two things; 1) I have changed and, 2) I will expect you to have changed as well. Particularly, you will need to be able to explain what has changed in you that you now see the value of having me in your life. My biggest fear is to know that someone is settling for me-- which means you are here because you can't find anything better right now-- not because you want to be here. And you will need to be very, very fucking convincing about that.

Thanks for the advice!! My only fear is that I'm too emotional for him, which actually I'm a lot less emotional than I was years ago!! I'm taking a medicine for glaucoma, which has lots of great side effects. One is it blocks a lot of adrenaline! That's helped me :-)

What is the first word that pops into your mind when you read the following



1. Baby

2. Father

3. Mother

4. Planet

5. Reality

6. Trust

7. Depression

8. Sincerity

9. Confusion

10. Conflict

11. Government

12. School

13. Drama

14. air

15. existence

16. Darkness

17. resilience

18. Aries :p

19. Smile

20. Mountain

21. Love

22. God

23. universe

24. Home

25. Attachment

26. Past

27. Future

28. Ocean

29. Heart

30. Corruption



...hope it's not too random 🙂

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If you dump me and come back, you should know two things; 1) I have changed and, 2) I will expect you to have changed as well. Particularly, you will need to be able to explain what has changed in you that you now see the value of having me in your life. My biggest fear is to know that someone is settling for me-- which means you are here because you can't find anything better right now-- not because you want to be here. And you will need to be very, very fucking convincing about that.

Thanks for the advice!! My only fear is that I'm too emotional for him, which actually I'm a lot less emotional than I was years ago!! I'm taking a medicine for glaucoma, which has lots of great side effects. One is it blocks a lot of adrenaline! That's helped me :-)

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You're welcome. Its an interesting stand of you are in. Declaring your feelings and wants/ needs will help a lot. The ultimatum part of that will not. This is actually a problem I had with my ex. I declared my feelings for her. I asked her how she felt and she just couldn't say more than "I'm not sure". I told her don't worry there is no right or wrong answer- I just want us to know where the other stands so we can cut down on the level of assumptions being made. Then she scurried right back in her little scorpions den.

The short of it is, I can work with a partner on any level if I am ready to do so... but I have to know what that level is. If you are going to hide your feelings and be coy, then I am going to leave you alone until you are ready to open up. I don't like it when people pry with my feelings so I won't do it to someone else.

So if he is the same as me, this could go on for a while.

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If you hookup with a cap the first night you hang out(which he initiated 5 times) is it an automatic sex only or fwb type situationship? Or can there be more?

It can be any of those things. Decide what you want for right now first and then see if that is what he is offering. I'd let things play out a little before having a serious talk though.

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If you dump me and come back, you should know two things; 1) I have changed and, 2) I will expect you to have changed as well. Particularly, you will need to be able to explain what has changed in you that you now see the value of having me in your life. My biggest fear is to know that someone is settling for me-- which means you are here because you can't find anything better right now-- not because you want to be here. And you will need to be very, very fucking convincing about that.

Thanks for the advice!! My only fear is that I'm too emotional for him, which actually I'm a lot less emotional than I was years ago!! I'm taking a medicine for glaucoma, which has lots of great side effects. One is it blocks a lot of adrenaline! That's helped me :-)

You're welcome. Its an interesting stand of you are in. Declaring your feelings and wants/ needs will help a lot. The ultimatum part of that will not. This is actually a problem I had with my ex. I declared my feelings for her. I asked her how she felt and she just couldn't say more than "I'm not sure". I told her don't worry there is no right or wrong answer- I just want us to know where the other stands so we can cut down on the level of assumptions being made. Then she scurried right back in her little scorpions den.

The short of it is, I can work with a partner on any level if I am ready to do so... but I have to know what that level is. If you are going to hide your feelings and be coy, then I am going to leave you alone until you are ready to open up. I don't like it when people pry with my feelings so I won't do it to someone else.

So if he is the same as me, this could go on for a while.

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I've told him my feelings already. A few months ago and recently

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If you dump me and come back, you should know two things; 1) I have changed and, 2) I will expect you to have changed as well. Particularly, you will need to be able to explain what has changed in you that you now see the value of having me in your life. My biggest fear is to know that someone is settling for me-- which means you are here because you can't find anything better right now-- not because you want to be here. And you will need to be very, very fucking convincing about that.

Thanks for the advice!! My only fear is that I'm too emotional for him, which actually I'm a lot less emotional than I was years ago!! I'm taking a medicine for glaucoma, which has lots of great side effects. One is it blocks a lot of adrenaline! That's helped me :-)

You're welcome. Its an interesting stand of you are in. Declaring your feelings and wants/ needs will help a lot. The ultimatum part of that will not. This is actually a problem I had with my ex. I declared my feelings for her. I asked her how she felt and she just couldn't say more than "I'm not sure". I told her don't worry there is no right or wrong answer- I just want us to know where the other stands so we can cut down on the level of assumptions being made. Then she scurried right back in her little scorpions den.

The short of it is, I can work with a partner on any level if I am ready to do so... but I have to know what that level is. If you are going to hide your feelings and be coy, then I am going to leave you alone until you are ready to open up. I don't like it when people pry with my feelings so I won't do it to someone else.

So if he is the same as me, this could go on for a while.

I've told him my feelings already. A few months ago and recently

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When did you dump him? When did you come back?

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If you dump me and come back, you should know two things; 1) I have changed and, 2) I will expect you to have changed as well. Particularly, you will need to be able to explain what has changed in you that you now see the value of having me in your life. My biggest fear is to know that someone is settling for me-- which means you are here because you can't find anything better right now-- not because you want to be here. And you will need to be very, very fucking convincing about that.

Thanks for the advice!! My only fear is that I'm too emotional for him, which actually I'm a lot less emotional than I was years ago!! I'm taking a medicine for glaucoma, which has lots of great side effects. One is it blocks a lot of adrenaline! That's helped me :-)

You're welcome. Its an interesting stand of you are in. Declaring your feelings and wants/ needs will help a lot. The ultimatum part of that will not. This is actually a problem I had with my ex. I declared my feelings for her. I asked her how she felt and she just couldn't say more than "I'm not sure". I told her don't worry there is no right or wrong answer- I just want us to know where the other stands so we can cut down on the level of assumptions being made. Then she scurried right back in her little scorpions den.

The short of it is, I can work with a partner on any level if I am ready to do so... but I have to know what that level is. If you are going to hide your feelings and be coy, then I am going to leave you alone until you are ready to open up. I don't like it when people pry with my feelings so I won't do it to someone else.

So if he is the same as me, this could go on for a while.

I've told him my feelings already. A few months ago and recently

When did you dump him? When did you come back?

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End of Septemberish. I've always been here. Never left.

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If you dump me and come back, you should know two things; 1) I have changed and, 2) I will expect you to have changed as well. Particularly, you will need to be able to explain what has changed in you that you now see the value of having me in your life. My biggest fear is to know that someone is settling for me-- which means you are here because you can't find anything better right now-- not because you want to be here. And you will need to be very, very fucking convincing about that.

Thanks for the advice!! My only fear is that I'm too emotional for him, which actually I'm a lot less emotional than I was years ago!! I'm taking a medicine for glaucoma, which has lots of great side effects. One is it blocks a lot of adrenaline! That's helped me :-)

You're welcome. Its an interesting stand of you are in. Declaring your feelings and wants/ needs will help a lot. The ultimatum part of that will not. This is actually a problem I had with my ex. I declared my feelings for her. I asked her how she felt and she just couldn't say more than "I'm not sure". I told her don't worry there is no right or wrong answer- I just want us to know where the other stands so we can cut down on the level of assumptions being made. Then she scurried right back in her little scorpions den.

The short of it is, I can work with a partner on any level if I am ready to do so... but I have to know what that level is. If you are going to hide your feelings and be coy, then I am going to leave you alone until you are ready to open up. I don't like it when people pry with my feelings so I won't do it to someone else.

So if he is the same as me, this could go on for a while.

I've told him my feelings already. A few months ago and recently

When did you dump him? When did you come back?

End of Septemberish. I've always been here. Never left.

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That's pretty recent. What do you mean you never left?

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If you dump me and come back, you should know two things; 1) I have changed and, 2) I will expect you to have changed as well. Particularly, you will need to be able to explain what has changed in you that you now see the value of having me in your life. My biggest fear is to know that someone is settling for me-- which means you are here because you can't find anything better right now-- not because you want to be here. And you will need to be very, very fucking convincing about that.

Thanks for the advice!! My only fear is that I'm too emotional for him, which actually I'm a lot less emotional than I was years ago!! I'm taking a medicine for glaucoma, which has lots of great side effects. One is it blocks a lot of adrenaline! That's helped me :-)

You're welcome. Its an interesting stand of you are in. Declaring your feelings and wants/ needs will help a lot. The ultimatum part of that will not. This is actually a problem I had with my ex. I declared my feelings for her. I asked her how she felt and she just couldn't say more than "I'm not sure". I told her don't worry there is no right or wrong answer- I just want us to know where the other stands so we can cut down on the level of assumptions being made. Then she scurried right back in her little scorpions den.

The short of it is, I can work with a partner on any level if I am ready to do so... but I have to know what that level is. If you are going to hide your feelings and be coy, then I am going to leave you alone until you are ready to open up. I don't like it when people pry with my feelings so I won't do it to someone else.

So if he is the same as me, this could go on for a while.

I've told him my feelings already. A few months ago and recently

When did you dump him? When did you come back?

End of Septemberish. I've always been here. Never left.

That's pretty recent. What do you mean you never left?

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What do you mean when did I come back?? We haven't stopped talking as friends since the breakup

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If you dump me and come back, you should know two things; 1) I have changed and, 2) I will expect you to have changed as well. Particularly, you will need to be able to explain what has changed in you that you now see the value of having me in your life. My biggest fear is to know that someone is settling for me-- which means you are here because you can't find anything better right now-- not because you want to be here. And you will need to be very, very fucking convincing about that.

Thanks for the advice!! My only fear is that I'm too emotional for him, which actually I'm a lot less emotional than I was years ago!! I'm taking a medicine for glaucoma, which has lots of great side effects. One is it blocks a lot of adrenaline! That's helped me :-)

You're welcome. Its an interesting stand of you are in. Declaring your feelings and wants/ needs will help a lot. The ultimatum part of that will not. This is actually a problem I had with my ex. I declared my feelings for her. I asked her how she felt and she just couldn't say more than "I'm not sure". I told her don't worry there is no right or wrong answer- I just want us to know where the other stands so we can cut down on the level of assumptions being made. Then she scurried right back in her little scorpions den.

The short of it is, I can work with a partner on any level if I am ready to do so... but I have to know what that level is. If you are going to hide your feelings and be coy, then I am going to leave you alone until you are ready to open up. I don't like it when people pry with my feelings so I won't do it to someone else.

So if he is the same as me, this could go on for a while.

I've told him my feelings already. A few months ago and recently

When did you dump him? When did you come back?

End of Septemberish. I've always been here. Never left.

That's pretty recent. What do you mean you never left?

What do you mean when did I come back?? We haven't stopped talking as friends since the breakup

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That is what I mean. You are there physically. Are you there romantically? Are you there emotionally? When you broke up, you were gone in those areas.

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If you dump me and come back, you should know two things; 1) I have changed and, 2) I will expect you to have changed as well. Particularly, you will need to be able to explain what has changed in you that you now see the value of having me in your life. My biggest fear is to know that someone is settling for me-- which means you are here because you can't find anything better right now-- not because you want to be here. And you will need to be very, very fucking convincing about that.

Thanks for the advice!! My only fear is that I'm too emotional for him, which actually I'm a lot less emotional than I was years ago!! I'm taking a medicine for glaucoma, which has lots of great side effects. One is it blocks a lot of adrenaline! That's helped me :-)

You're welcome. Its an interesting stand of you are in. Declaring your feelings and wants/ needs will help a lot. The ultimatum part of that will not. This is actually a problem I had with my ex. I declared my feelings for her. I asked her how she felt and she just couldn't say more than "I'm not sure". I told her don't worry there is no right or wrong answer- I just want us to know where the other stands so we can cut down on the level of assumptions being made. Then she scurried right back in her little scorpions den.

The short of it is, I can work with a partner on any level if I am ready to do so... but I have to know what that level is. If you are going to hide your feelings and be coy, then I am going to leave you alone until you are ready to open up. I don't like it when people pry with my feelings so I won't do it to someone else.

So if he is the same as me, this could go on for a while.

I've told him my feelings already. A few months ago and recently

When did you dump him? When did you come back?

End of Septemberish. I've always been here. Never left.

That's pretty recent. What do you mean you never left?

What do you mean when did I come back?? We haven't stopped talking as friends since the breakup

That is what I mean. You are there physically. Are you there romantically? Are you there emotionally? When you broke up, you were gone in those areas.

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Yea, I'm lost. I don't think much changed from breakup to now except we've only hung out once since then and we text a lot more now than we did before. But he doesn't want to date and that's all my fault. So we are doing the friend thing. It's okay. I'm just accepting it for what it is and realizing that what's best logically right now.

Why did my ex sugar cap come back to me even though he knew i found a new boyfriend . I kept telling him i wanted to be just friends and he's like "with benefits". Then he plays with my emotions saying he was in love with me and then what we had wasn't going anywhere

OK here goes my question

How will you know your the person a cap is obsessing about

As u mentioned you only obsess over your love

How will she know shes the one you obsessing about

What's the signs you show

Intentionally and unintentionally

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If you dump me and come back, you should know two things; 1) I have changed and, 2) I will expect you to have changed as well. Particularly, you will need to be able to explain what has changed in you that you now see the value of having me in your life. My biggest fear is to know that someone is settling for me-- which means you are here because you can't find anything better right now-- not because you want to be here. And you will need to be very, very fucking convincing about that.

Thanks for the advice!! My only fear is that I'm too emotional for him, which actually I'm a lot less emotional than I was years ago!! I'm taking a medicine for glaucoma, which has lots of great side effects. One is it blocks a lot of adrenaline! That's helped me :-)

You're welcome. Its an interesting stand of you are in. Declaring your feelings and wants/ needs will help a lot. The ultimatum part of that will not. This is actually a problem I had with my ex. I declared my feelings for her. I asked her how she felt and she just couldn't say more than "I'm not sure". I told her don't worry there is no right or wrong answer- I just want us to know where the other stands so we can cut down on the level of assumptions being made. Then she scurried right back in her little scorpions den.

The short of it is, I can work with a partner on any level if I am ready to do so... but I have to know what that level is. If you are going to hide your feelings and be coy, then I am going to leave you alone until you are ready to open up. I don't like it when people pry with my feelings so I won't do it to someone else.

So if he is the same as me, this could go on for a while.

My scorp said the same thing

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That's not reassuring.

Posted by sugarplumeow
Why did my ex sugar cap come back to me even though he knew i found a new boyfriend . I kept telling him i wanted to be just friends and he's like "with benefits". Then he plays with my emotions saying he was in love with me and then what we had wasn't going anywhere

He may really feel that way-- as far as loving you. He may just be horny. Or, may just be jerking your chain. Hard to say. But, I don't think he respects you tbh.

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OK here goes my question

How will you know your the person a cap is obsessing about

As u mentioned you only obsess over your love

How will she know shes the one you obsessing about

What's the signs you show

Intentionally and unintentionally

At this age (36) I will just tell you and go out of my way for you. When I was younger, I would just go out of my way for you.

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What does a cap man want from a relationship?

If you're dating someone & want to be official, only date her & she only date you, is there a conversation or is it expected?

When you no longer want to date someone do you verbalize it and end communication, ghost, what do you do?

Forgive me if any of these have already been asked/answered

I want a relationship that is healthy and growing. I want it to be a solid foundation for building a family together.

Its either a conversation or an understanding. An understanding from several conversations most likely.

Again, my heart is always ahead of my brain. I tend to with draw a little, then i notice communication becomes difficult, as in I no longer have the desire to do it and it feels like a chore. That's when I know its time to say good bye.

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If you dump me and come back, you should know two things; 1) I have changed and, 2) I will expect you to have changed as well. Particularly, you will need to be able to explain what has changed in you that you now see the value of having me in your life. My biggest fear is to know that someone is settling for me-- which means you are here because you can't find anything better right now-- not because you want to be here. And you will need to be very, very fucking convincing about that.

Thanks for the advice!! My only fear is that I'm too emotional for him, which actually I'm a lot less emotional than I was years ago!! I'm taking a medicine for glaucoma, which has lots of great side effects. One is it blocks a lot of adrenaline! That's helped me :-)

You're welcome. Its an interesting stand of you are in. Declaring your feelings and wants/ needs will help a lot. The ultimatum part of that will not. This is actually a problem I had with my ex. I declared my feelings for her. I asked her how she felt and she just couldn't say more than "I'm not sure". I told her don't worry there is no right or wrong answer- I just want us to know where the other stands so we can cut down on the level of assumptions being made. Then she scurried right back in her little scorpions den.

The short of it is, I can work with a partner on any level if I am ready to do so... but I have to know what that level is. If you are going to hide your feelings and be coy, then I am going to leave you alone until you are ready to open up. I don't like it when people pry with my feelings so I won't do it to someone else.

So if he is the same as me, this could go on for a while.

My scorp said the same thing

That's not reassuring.

I know. 😢 it wasn't meant to be, I was just being empathetic with him

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I'm sorry! I'm having a very bad weekend and obviously it's making me say negative things. Ugh ? I'm sorry

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If you dump me and come back, you should know two things; 1) I have changed and, 2) I will expect you to have changed as well. Particularly, you will need to be able to explain what has changed in you that you now see the value of having me in your life. My biggest fear is to know that someone is settling for me-- which means you are here because you can't find anything better right now-- not because you want to be here. And you will need to be very, very fucking convincing about that.

Thanks for the advice!! My only fear is that I'm too emotional for him, which actually I'm a lot less emotional than I was years ago!! I'm taking a medicine for glaucoma, which has lots of great side effects. One is it blocks a lot of adrenaline! That's helped me :-)

You're welcome. Its an interesting stand of you are in. Declaring your feelings and wants/ needs will help a lot. The ultimatum part of that will not. This is actually a problem I had with my ex. I declared my feelings for her. I asked her how she felt and she just couldn't say more than "I'm not sure". I told her don't worry there is no right or wrong answer- I just want us to know where the other stands so we can cut down on the level of assumptions being made. Then she scurried right back in her little scorpions den.

The short of it is, I can work with a partner on any level if I am ready to do so... but I have to know what that level is. If you are going to hide your feelings and be coy, then I am going to leave you alone until you are ready to open up. I don't like it when people pry with my feelings so I won't do it to someone else.

So if he is the same as me, this could go on for a while.

My scorp said the same thing

That's not reassuring.

I know. 😢 it wasn't meant to be, I was just being empathetic with him

I'm sorry! I'm having a very bad weekend and obviously it's making me say negative things. Ugh ? I'm sorry

No worries. Hope things turn around for you so you can have better days ahead

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I really hope so too. Thanks!

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If you dump me and come back, you should know two things; 1) I have changed and, 2) I will expect you to have changed as well. Particularly, you will need to be able to explain what has changed in you that you now see the value of having me in your life. My biggest fear is to know that someone is settling for me-- which means you are here because you can't find anything better right now-- not because you want to be here. And you will need to be very, very fucking convincing about that.

Thanks for the advice!! My only fear is that I'm too emotional for him, which actually I'm a lot less emotional than I was years ago!! I'm taking a medicine for glaucoma, which has lots of great side effects. One is it blocks a lot of adrenaline! That's helped me :-)

You're welcome. Its an interesting stand of you are in. Declaring your feelings and wants/ needs will help a lot. The ultimatum part of that will not. This is actually a problem I had with my ex. I declared my feelings for her. I asked her how she felt and she just couldn't say more than "I'm not sure". I told her don't worry there is no right or wrong answer- I just want us to know where the other stands so we can cut down on the level of assumptions being made. Then she scurried right back in her little scorpions den.

The short of it is, I can work with a partner on any level if I am ready to do so... but I have to know what that level is. If you are going to hide your feelings and be coy, then I am going to leave you alone until you are ready to open up. I don't like it when people pry with my feelings so I won't do it to someone else.

So if he is the same as me, this could go on for a while.

My scorp said the same thing

That's not reassuring.

I know. 😢 it wasn't meant to be, I was just being empathetic with him

I'm sorry! I'm having a very bad weekend and obviously it's making me say negative things. Ugh ? I'm sorry

No worries. Hope things turn around for you so you can have better days ahead

I really hope so too. Thanks!

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😢 I know its not reassuring. But, I have learned to accept things for what they are, even though its saddening.

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If you dump me and come back, you should know two things; 1) I have changed and, 2) I will expect you to have changed as well. Particularly, you will need to be able to explain what has changed in you that you now see the value of having me in your life. My biggest fear is to know that someone is settling for me-- which means you are here because you can't find anything better right now-- not because you want to be here. And you will need to be very, very fucking convincing about that.

Thanks for the advice!! My only fear is that I'm too emotional for him, which actually I'm a lot less emotional than I was years ago!! I'm taking a medicine for glaucoma, which has lots of great side effects. One is it blocks a lot of adrenaline! That's helped me :-)

You're welcome. Its an interesting stand of you are in. Declaring your feelings and wants/ needs will help a lot. The ultimatum part of that will not. This is actually a problem I had with my ex. I declared my feelings for her. I asked her how she felt and she just couldn't say more than "I'm not sure". I told her don't worry there is no right or wrong answer- I just want us to know where the other stands so we can cut down on the level of assumptions being made. Then she scurried right back in her little scorpions den.

The short of it is, I can work with a partner on any level if I am ready to do so... but I have to know what that level is. If you are going to hide your feelings and be coy, then I am going to leave you alone until you are ready to open up. I don't like it when people pry with my feelings so I won't do it to someone else.

So if he is the same as me, this could go on for a while.

My scorp said the same thing

That's not reassuring.

I know. 😢 it wasn't meant to be, I was just being empathetic with him

I'm sorry! I'm having a very bad weekend and obviously it's making me say negative things. Ugh ? I'm sorry

No worries. Hope things turn around for you so you can have better days ahead

I really hope so too. Thanks!

😢 I know its not reassuring. But, I have learned to accept things for what they are, even though its saddening.

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Oh yea. I'm accepting everything right now. I'm actually not upset about him. Im actually trying to be his friend and not his lover for once. I'm upset about my job and the major changes I'm forced to deal with. So I'm going to deal with it and be depressed while applying for new and better jobs!

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If you dump me and come back, you should know two things; 1) I have changed and, 2) I will expect you to have changed as well. Particularly, you will need to be able to explain what has changed in you that you now see the value of having me in your life. My biggest fear is to know that someone is settling for me-- which means you are here because you can't find anything better right now-- not because you want to be here. And you will need to be very, very fucking convincing about that.

Thanks for the advice!! My only fear is that I'm too emotional for him, which actually I'm a lot less emotional than I was years ago!! I'm taking a medicine for glaucoma, which has lots of great side effects. One is it blocks a lot of adrenaline! That's helped me :-)

You're welcome. Its an interesting stand of you are in. Declaring your feelings and wants/ needs will help a lot. The ultimatum part of that will not. This is actually a problem I had with my ex. I declared my feelings for her. I asked her how she felt and she just couldn't say more than "I'm not sure". I told her don't worry there is no right or wrong answer- I just want us to know where the other stands so we can cut down on the level of assumptions being made. Then she scurried right back in her little scorpions den.

The short of it is, I can work with a partner on any level if I am ready to do so... but I have to know what that level is. If you are going to hide your feelings and be coy, then I am going to leave you alone until you are ready to open up. I don't like it when people pry with my feelings so I won't do it to someone else.

So if he is the same as me, this could go on for a while.

My scorp said the same thing

That's not reassuring.

I know. 😢 it wasn't meant to be, I was just being empathetic with him

I'm sorry! I'm having a very bad weekend and obviously it's making me say negative things. Ugh ? I'm sorry

No worries. Hope things turn around for you so you can have better days ahead

I really hope so too. Thanks!

😢 I know its not reassuring. But, I have learned to accept things for what they are, even though its saddening.

Oh yea. I'm accepting everything right now. I'm actually not upset about him. Im actually trying to be his friend and not his lover for once. I'm upset about my job and the major changes I'm forced to deal with. So I'm going to deal with it and be depressed while applying for new and better jobs!

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Sounds like we are in the same boat all the way around!!!

@daron76 you're having work issues too!? Ugh I'm losing my mind. Never have I ever felt this way about a job