@LibraLovesHim
10 Years1,000+ Posts
Calling Cappy guys...
How Capricorn Men Handle Ending Relationships
Capricorn men often prefer to end relationships honestly and gently, valuing clarity over prolonged uncertainty. They may withdraw quietly rather than cause pain, but ultimately, they seek to communicate respectfully. Allowing trivial contact can indicate mixed feelings or difficulty with confrontation. Understanding Capricorn traits helps clarify their approach to ending relationships.
Posted by Gobshite
Too many variables to consider, to what is a universal question and not necessarily one for only Cap men to answer...
Just answer the woman cappy.
Posted by LibraLovesHim
How would you end a relationship with a girl who has not necessarily done anything wrong to you? Are you afraid to hurt people? Would you withdraw and let it fizzle out? Or speak up and say its over? If she still needs you and calls for trivial things just to maintain contact, is it normal for you to allow this?
interesting, i also would like to know the answer to your question....
Posted by LibraLovesHim
How would you end a relationship with a girl who has not necessarily done anything wrong to you? Are you afraid to hurt people? Would you withdraw and let it fizzle out? Or speak up and say its over? If she still needs you and calls for trivial things just to maintain contact, is it normal for you to allow this?interesting, i also would like to know the answer to your question....
click to expand
Cappy wantin keep themselves a mystery I think....
Posted by FrenchKpricorn
I will just
.........
Posted by FrenchKpricorn
I will just
LOL
Posted by FrenchKpricorn
I will just.........
exactly, disappear
click to expand
ah ok, got you! that cappy communication lol!! love it!
Posted by LibraLovesHim
How would you end a relationship with a girl who has not necessarily done anything wrong to you? Are you afraid to hurt people? Would you withdraw and let it fizzle out? Or speak up and say its over? If she still needs you and calls for trivial things just to maintain contact, is it normal for you to allow this?
I am a.Cap woman, not a man... but I will give you the overview of how Caps usually operate. Obviously there are different variables bcuz almost nothing in life is that simple.
Now I'm considering this scenario from a long term relationship, not just some "fling." Now prior to a break up, a Cap has been dwelling this decision of breaking up or not for quite some time. Weighing out scenarios in his or her mind about the relationship...now the big question that weighs most often is " am I going to regret this in the near future..(sigh)..., am I going to make a mistake by ending this relationship?" So..you may get hints of withdrawl...because we're not sure yet if this (ending things) is what we want. Now you may think that is fuked up right? ... well you shouldn't..becase if we didn't give one damn about you or the relationship anymore, we would not be taking this long to make a decision. In fact we would just tell you in a cold manner and vanish.
Remember Caps hate to fail, we detest that word.
As far as keeping some kind of communication after a breal up...well, that depends also. Is it fair, to that other person to keep stringing them along, to keep acting like an SO, when you're clearly not. I'm not saying that they won't be there for you..but they won't necessarily be there for you like they once were. Because frankly, once they've made a decision that it's over, people need to move on and heal and find what it is out there that is better for both parties.
Great explanation Greentea. It's very clear. Thanks for that.
But just one thing... do you guys ever consider the fact that maybe, just maybe, the other person wants to be a part of the decision making process?
Caps decide and others are supposed to just submit, is that the idea??
Posted by SpiceNSugar
Great explanation Greentea. It's very clear. Thanks for that.But just one thing... do you guys ever consider the fact that maybe, just maybe, the other person wants to be a part of the decision making process?
Caps decide and others are supposed to just submit, is that the idea??
Sometimes we will set it up subconsciously where the other person makes the decision for us.
Posted by SpiceNSugar
Great explanation Greentea. It's very clear. Thanks for that.But just one thing... do you guys ever consider the fact that maybe, just maybe, the other person wants to be a part of the decision making process?
Caps decide and others are supposed to just submit, is that the idea??
If you want to break up with someone, to the point where you've thought long and hard on it and decided you don't want to be with them anymore, would it make you stay if they didn't want to break up?
Posted by SpiceNSugar
Great explanation Greentea. It's very clear. Thanks for that.But just one thing... do you guys ever consider the fact that maybe, just maybe, the other person wants to be a part of the decision making process?
Caps decide and others are supposed to just submit, is that the idea??
Sometimes we will set it up subconsciously where the other person makes the decision for us.
click to expand
YES THIS! Exactly how I was thinking...
Posted by SpiceNSugar
Great explanation Greentea. It's very clear. Thanks for that.But just one thing... do you guys ever consider the fact that maybe, just maybe, the other person wants to be a part of the decision making process?
Caps decide and others are supposed to just submit, is that the idea??
Thank goodness, bcuz I was half asleep when I wrote this. Ha!
Why would you want to take part?.. the decision has already been made. If someone doesn't want to be with you, there's not much you can do to convince them otherwise, especially when it's been weighing on their mind for a while. It's not a business transaction.
Posted by Leolady666
Why do u come back then after disappearing. My bf ex cappy keeps doing the same
HAHA! Same here! Im currently in "cut it off" mode lets move on from this bs coz im too emotionally attached, I wanna move on grrrrrr!!!! Leave me alone 😢
Posted by Ktayl117
Personally, I think the cap would do a slow fade, or just stop talking to you.
I've never done that in a serious relationship, I have with guys I was dating or seeing.
If I was being distant or doing the slow fade and they asked about it, then I'd be upfront and tell them how it's not going to work, and it's bcuz of this, this and this. Some tried to convince me to stay but ultimately failed. I know what I can and cannot tolerate, amd I know it won't change with them.
Posted by Ktayl117
Personally, I think the cap would do a slow fade, or just stop talking to you.
Yes, unless it's a long term relationship
Posted by Leolady666
Why do u come back then after disappearing. My bf ex cappy keeps doing the same
Ask yourself why you let them keep coming back if they keep disappearing.
Posted by Leolady666
Why do u come back then after disappearing. My bf ex cappy keeps doing the same
Because you let him.
Posted by SpiceNSugar
Great explanation Greentea. It's very clear. Thanks for that.But just one thing... do you guys ever consider the fact that maybe, just maybe, the other person wants to be a part of the decision making process?
Caps decide and others are supposed to just submit, is that the idea??
Thank goodness, bcuz I was half asleep when I wrote this. Ha!
Why would you want to take part?.. the decision has already been made. If someone doesn't want to be with you, there's not much you can do to convince them otherwise, especially when it's been weighing on their mind for a while. It's not a business transaction.
click to expand
Such a Cap way of looking at things! LOL!
Posted by SpiceNSugar
Great explanation Greentea. It's very clear. Thanks for that.But just one thing... do you guys ever consider the fact that maybe, just maybe, the other person wants to be a part of the decision making process?
Caps decide and others are supposed to just submit, is that the idea??
Thank goodness, bcuz I was half asleep when I wrote this. Ha!
Why would you want to take part?.. the decision has already been made. If someone doesn't want to be with you, there's not much you can do to convince them otherwise, especially when it's been weighing on their mind for a while. It's not a business transaction.
It's not so much about taking part ... as it is to understand the reasoning behind it.
IMO
click to expand
That's kind of what I meant, but couldn't find the right words.
"It's not so much about taking part ... as it is to understand the reasoning behind it."
it's likely a double-edged sword that the one who decided to break up would rather not tell spill reasons behind the decision. would you like to hear "because i have never really loved you" or "i finally realize that i loved someone else more" or "i was settling and i just cannot take it anymore"? even if you think you can handle it, he may not be able to deliver it.
Posted by iCloud9
"It's not so much about taking part ... as it is to understand the reasoning behind it."it's likely a double-edged sword that the one who decided to break up would rather not tell spill reasons behind the decision. would you like to hear "because i have never really loved you" or "i finally realize that i loved someone else more" or "i was settling and i just cannot take it anymore"? even if you think you can handle it, he may not be able to deliver it.
Yes, it feels so harsh to say those things to someone.
Actually, yes. I would prefer to hear that because I appreciate clarity.
frankly, i had a very difficult time telling the exact reasons when i was breaking up and it did prolong the process with a lot of weight loss (due to stress). but i actually decided again that it was still better to not crush an ex partner like that especially when they didn't deserve it.
for me, a firm decision "let's break up" says it all. if someone really loved and wanted to be with you, s/he would.
Aren't you the side bitch in your situation?
...side bitches get the disappearing act generally. I don't know why you'd be surprised if this is the case.
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Aren't you the side bitch in your situation?...side bitches get the disappearing act generally. I don't know why you'd be surprised if this is the case.
To whom is this question addressed?
Posted by iCloud9
frankly, i had a very difficult time telling the exact reasons when i was breaking up and it did prolong the process with a lot of weight loss (due to stress). but i actually decided again that it was still better to not crush an ex partner like that especially when they didn't deserve it.for me, a firm decision "let's break up" says it all. if someone really loved and wanted to be with you, s/he would.
Sometimes the silence and the confusion hurts more than the words.
IMO 🙂
click to expand
Totally agree.
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Aren't you the side bitch in your situation?...side bitches get the disappearing act generally. I don't know why you'd be surprised if this is the case.
To whom is this question addressed?
click to expand
The OP? Why is this even a question?
Posted by iCloud9
frankly, i had a very difficult time telling the exact reasons when i was breaking up and it did prolong the process with a lot of weight loss (due to stress). but i actually decided again that it was still better to not crush an ex partner like that especially when they didn't deserve it.for me, a firm decision "let's break up" says it all. if someone really loved and wanted to be with you, s/he would.
Sometimes the silence and the confusion hurts more than the words.
IMO 🙂
click to expand
it's not uncommon that some would just disappear or slowly fade but i detest such a cowardliness. as i said, a firm breakup decision would be given. i just don't think it's humane to crush someone who loves me just to spell every little detail out. for what? and this goes both ways. a decision to leave would be enough for me to let the person go. i also see this as a compatibility issue in the area of non verbal communication. sometimes truth is simply overrated and inhumane.
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Aren't you the side bitch in your situation?...side bitches get the disappearing act generally. I don't know why you'd be surprised if this is the case.
To whom is this question addressed?
The OP? Why is this even a question?
click to expand
Just didn't know since several people were responding to the OP.
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Aren't you the side bitch in your situation?...side bitches get the disappearing act generally. I don't know why you'd be surprised if this is the case.
To whom is this question addressed?
The OP? Why is this even a question?
Just didn't know since several people were responding to the OP.
click to expand
...wouldn't one figure that if a random post was made in a post, it'd be directed at the OP, and anything to anyone responding would be done in quotes?
For those who aren't familiar with the OP- this Cap she's had her vag caught up on is a taken dude who's been cheating on his gf with her. Somewhere around here, she mentioned he had a girlfriend and has the classic sob story of "I don't want to be with her/I'll leave her for you eventually."
She's a commodity to guys like him. He sees her as an object to be used and sees no value in her as a human, hence the shitty behavior. She's just an expensive fuck hole to him as harsh as it sounds. "I use" is in full effect here and her silly, relationship addicted Libran brain doesn't seem to realize it and has allowed herself to be bought by shiny, expensive things, assuming it meant truuuuue luuurve.
"WHY WOULD HE DISAPPEAR??" Because you allowed him to treat you with such disregard.
Gawd, no wonder she tells women in the Libra forum to tolerate such bad behavior. She's guilty of it herself, the poor, stupid girl.
Go cold gradually and make them so frustrated they do the breaking up for the Cap. 🙂
Want to keep conversations like this alive?
If you’re trying to understand disappearing, distance, or silence in situations like Capricorn men, these real experiences can help. You can support dxpnet below.
Every contribution helps keep dxpnet independent and ad-light.
Join the Conversation. Explore Yourself. Connect with Others.
Discover insights, swap stories, and find people. dxpnet is where experiences turn into understanding.
Create Your Free Account →
How would you end a relationship with a girl who has not necessarily done anything wrong to you? Are you afraid to hurt people? Would you withdraw and let it fizzle out? Or speak up and say its over? If she still needs you and calls for trivial things just to maintain contact, is it normal for you to allow this?