Capricorn Survival Thread (Page 2)

Posted by ScorpioTruth
I thought we came pretty damn close until he had the affair. Lol

Now after the affair and after I've left him he seems convinced that i am his happily ever after and wants to go ring shopping. What in the actual fuck? I thought Capricorns were logical and think things through? Knowing that, i find it difficult to believe him when he says it wont happen again and i am the one he wants to spend his life with. If that were true, why did it happen to begin with??

Thanks for allowing me to VENT. Sorry for not providing hope for the people. Lol

If I may ask a rather personal question. How did you figure out he cheated on you? Did he tell you?

One more thing I want to vent about! lol.

So when me & this cap man finally spoke and he told me why he disappeared a while back, everything made sense and connected based on people in his career field/industry that were going through the same issues. We then started laughing and talking like as if time never passed. It felt comforting to feel this way with another person, it's been a while for me when it comes to people I'm sort of getting to know or in this case, "was". Then all of a sudden, we hit a personal topic, "sex". Now dxp peeps, we're all grown here, I don't have a problem talking about that topic with people. With some I'm more open to talk than others depending on how comfortable I am with you. Anyways, he starts to talk about an episode he had with some female and how terrible it was, mind you this happened during the time he disappeared as he stated when I asked when this happened smh lol. Now I'm at an age where I can come to my senses and not get jealous or annoyed at certain things when I'm nothing to a guy, but um.. I was laughing in my head and out loud because in my head, I'm like so while he went on a disappearing act, he easily went out of his way to get some ass? Like really? Granted we're both single and I have every right to do the same and more, but logically speaking, I thought if a guy spends hours talking to you, watching movies or playing games while talking via skype, daily or every other day, and cracks "private" jokes here & there and asked you out on dates (he labeled them dates, i never did) that it was to get to know you on a personal level. I probably did the smart thing by being traditional and not fall into physical temptation which was VERY difficult since you cap men are very flirtatious and amazing at kissing 😛 but at the end of the day, I appreciate his honesty about it, because he could've easily portrayed himself as the guy that "good guy" but really a man w****" lol. That is why I see him now as just a friend (a VERY attractive friend LMAO ) and not a BF potential. But why does he still try to get my attention from time to time? Am I some conquest because I have yet to "give it up"? LOL

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Posted by SugarandSpunk
One more thing I want to vent about! lol.

So when me & this cap man finally spoke and he told me why he disappeared a while back, everything made sense and connected based on people in his career field/industry that were going through the same issues. We then started laughing and talking like as if time never passed. It felt comforting to feel this way with another person, it's been a while for me when it comes to people I'm sort of getting to know or in this case, "was". Then all of a sudden, we hit a personal topic, "sex". Now dxp peeps, we're all grown here, I don't have a problem talking about that topic with people. With some I'm more open to talk than others depending on how comfortable I am with you. Anyways, he starts to talk about an episode he had with some female and how terrible it was, mind you this happened during the time he disappeared as he stated when I asked when this happened smh lol. Now I'm at an age where I can come to my senses and not get jealous or annoyed at certain things when I'm nothing to a guy, but um.. I was laughing in my head and out loud because in my head, I'm like so while he went on a disappearing act, he easily went out of his way to get some ass? Like really? Granted we're both single and I have every right to do the same and more, but logically speaking, I thought if a guy spends hours talking to you, watching movies or playing games while talking via skype, daily or every other day, and cracks "private" jokes here & there and asked you out on dates (he labeled them dates, i never did) that it was to get to know you on a personal level. I probably did the smart thing by being traditional and not fall into physical temptation which was VERY difficult since you cap men are very flirtatious and amazing at kissing 😛 but at the end of the day, I appreciate his honesty about it, because he could've easily portrayed himself as the guy that "good guy" but really a man w****" lol. That is why I see him now as just a friend (a VERY attractive friend LMAO ) and not a BF potential. But why does he still try to get my attention from time to time? Am I some conquest because I have yet to "give it up"? LOL

He is still interested in you, and probably others. Just because he's acting like this doesn't mean he isn't a good guy.

My experience is that my cap bf was acting like this when I first met him. It was an obvious connection but I'm the type of girl that wants to be the only one. So I stopped initiating and let it fizzle out. He could go play the field with others!! I wouldn't see him until he acted like he wanted to see me instead of being with those who paid attention to him. It's just a matter of them deciding what they want. Within two weeks of dating, he tells me he doesn't want to see anyone else, only me and hopes I feel the same. 🙂

It's been 4 months now & he is such a good guy. He was just in a playing around mode. Apparently I changed that. By what, refusing to participate in that & saying hey if you want me, show me you are serious!

Also, my dad was a Cap. He was what I'd label a player for a long time after my mom & his divorce. Omg good example for kids!!! ? But it was due to being hurt. When he healed and found "the one", he was the most loyal & amazing boyfriend, then husband. He was a super great guy.

Just a different perspective...

Friends is good until he's serious. Doesn't sound serious to me. But not friends with benefits if you want a bf.

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Interesting. I still respect him as a person and have nothing against him. And true, he did have a roller coaster of a relationship with a leo woman that lied and lingered him in the end of their 4yr relationship that finally ended many months before he met me. He keeps talking about wanting to ask me out again but he's been busy. It's ok, I'm doing my own single thing too, I just gave this cap too much of my time. A lot of sleepless nights or sleep for 2-3hours and both of us going to work tired because of us talking, watching movies or playing games. I thought it was getting better when he told me for the first time that he missed me and got super comfortable sending me kiss and heart emojis. Once it came to a halt, it threw me off but I wasn't one to attack. So I'm cool with him doing his own thing, he's entitled to it. I do miss the talking for hours on end but oh well. I do wish him nothing but the best, if he someday decides to want something serious, then hopefully he finds someone special. If I wasn't traditional, then FWB would be ok with me but since I know I would probably be the one to be hurt in the end, I rather not put myself in that delicate position.

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Posted by SugarandSpunk
One more thing I want to vent about! lol.

So when me & this cap man finally spoke and he told me why he disappeared a while back, everything made sense and connected based on people in his career field/industry that were going through the same issues. We then started laughing and talking like as if time never passed. It felt comforting to feel this way with another person, it's been a while for me when it comes to people I'm sort of getting to know or in this case, "was". Then all of a sudden, we hit a personal topic, "sex". Now dxp peeps, we're all grown here, I don't have a problem talking about that topic with people. With some I'm more open to talk than others depending on how comfortable I am with you. Anyways, he starts to talk about an episode he had with some female and how terrible it was, mind you this happened during the time he disappeared as he stated when I asked when this happened smh lol. Now I'm at an age where I can come to my senses and not get jealous or annoyed at certain things when I'm nothing to a guy, but um.. I was laughing in my head and out loud because in my head, I'm like so while he went on a disappearing act, he easily went out of his way to get some ass? Like really? Granted we're both single and I have every right to do the same and more, but logically speaking, I thought if a guy spends hours talking to you, watching movies or playing games while talking via skype, daily or every other day, and cracks "private" jokes here & there and asked you out on dates (he labeled them dates, i never did) that it was to get to know you on a personal level. I probably did the smart thing by being traditional and not fall into physical temptation which was VERY difficult since you cap men are very flirtatious and amazing at kissing 😛 but at the end of the day, I appreciate his honesty about it, because he could've easily portrayed himself as the guy that "good guy" but really a man w****" lol. That is why I see him now as just a friend (a VERY attractive friend LMAO ) and not a BF potential. But why does he still try to get my attention from time to time? Am I some conquest because I have yet to "give it up"? LOL

This is why I say those things mean nothing.

Just because a guy consistently calls a female everyday doesn't mean he wants her or is faithful (speaking in general not you specifically)

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I totally understand. Maybe I had read too much into it. I get into a guy when he starts saying he misses me and does cute things or say what he likes about me that one time. It even went to the extent of him sending me a very private pic (and I mean PRIVATE) of him out of nowhere lol. But I'm ok now, this was a while back and got what I needed when I last spoke to him and that is for me to be cautious and to just enjoy life. If something happens down the road, then it happens. He reached out again to me a few days ago with a joke as his opener, but I ignored it. Not in a rush to talk to him since I have my own things that I'm going through.

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Last night my Cap told me loves me for the first time & Sunday he told his roommate we can't move to Mexico because I can't go.

It freaks me out when he is so vocal with his working through this, but I suppose it's a sign he trusts me. I'm glad I let him do that without making a big deal of it. Just vented here instead.

Looks like it's time to stop being so scared (yes due to my past), and "jump in" as Daron76 suggested. We are so good together. 🙂 Thanks for listening all 🙂

Sag + Capricorn is the new wave baby!!!!!!

Seem so!!! Boy he knows me so well, and lets me be me... 🙂 even very worried about scaring me away. Lol He handles what I need exactly right! ?

Caps are just —!

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^ Agree!!!

Posted by ParisianCappy
CAPRICORN ARE THE GODZ

No, Aquas are the Godzzz and Goddezzessss!!! lol

I still don't know if this Cap and I will have a sucess story but here it goes:

We've been seeing each other for 5 months now, he says that he's not seeing anyone else, or interested in anyone else..

We started very slow, but a couple months ago he started being more consistent with seeing me. Also because I stopped asking him to meet me in places and trying to hang out with him.

He's becoming more sweet with me, sending cute bitmojis of the 2 of us doing stuff we do when we are together. last week he asked me to go to his house on a Friday morning after dropping off my daughter he knows my schedule pretty much, his house is 10min away from my daughters school (which is 30min from my house). I went to his house Friday morning at 830 am not very well dressed, we were just gonna hang out for a bit (no sex).

His parents were there which made me a bit uncomfortable but it was good to see them. His dad is an asshole pretty much, I barely ever see him, his mom is a super sweet lady.

Friday night he was working on things and I was sad I didn't get to see him but he called me at 7am to come to my house! he ended up coming at lunch time, brought lunch for us.

Then Saturday night I went to his place and stayed over we had a good time. Woke up early Sunday morning, walked his dog, went to eat bkfst. and then he tagged along to come with me and my friends to have Brunch.

NOW... we went to have brunch and he kept giving me his credit card so I could pay for our stuff (mine and his). He was later standing alone and I went to talk to him because I know he's not a big social person, but he said he was okay. And that he was there for me, to spend time with me. 🙂

He also brought his friend who is promoting some events so they were talking to other people about the events and he would leave his friend and come back to me, he told me he is just trying to engage him in conversations and let him do his thing.

We were all drinking, and it was a fun place bar hoping nice Sunday afternoon at the waterfront so it was easy to have more than enough drinks... at some point we were all talking to a group of ladies and men around late 40's -50's. But these ladies were sort of cougars, she kept saying she likes younger guys, at some point we were talking bc I was with a younger guy before, and then she asked me if Cap was my boyfriend and I said no, he's a friend. (He'd hug me or bring me drinks but he was also around talking to other people (girls and guys)) so she says, oh so he's the guy you're fucking. (literally) I said Hmm not there yet... (no need to tell her our story).

later in the evening she told me that My CAP had been trying to fuck her friend (again literally) I laughed and went with the flow. Because 1. We are not officially together. 2. He's very shy so I don't think he would. 3. I still trust that he respects me. (we have talked about hookups and stuff and he said he's not that type)

So he came and she was still talking about it and he asked and I said: "She said you're trying to fuck her friend" (sarcastically)

Well, he got super upset, and literally started speaking loud saying he's never said that and he wouldn't and then he took it on me for believing her and he said: "I know we are not boyfriend and girlfriend but I like you AND I respect you, I can't be with you. I want to but I can't right now...." (he started talking more than what I "questioned"

I got upset and grabbed his face with one hand and told him to go do whatever the fuck he wants and left.

(I hate drama. probably. the first time I do something like that in public)

He seemed worried about me believing her and not him. He said why would you believe a 55 yr old lady who is at this bar drunk af, talking to young guys and dressed like that. You know me, you know I don't do that, i really like you...blah blah (he made me cry ?) I considered myself a non-emotional person but the way he talked to me made me cry, also I had some drinks so that didn't help.

We left bc we were tired and had been bar hopping for 5hrs lol so on the way back he would do things to make me laugh, he even threw himself on the floor and grabbed my feet (not in a dramatic way, more like trying to make me laugh ?)

He even said he wanted to stay over with me so he came home with me. The next day Monday I took him home so he could go to work and he again said he was sorry I felt that way.

I hadn't been that upset in a long time.



I thought he was gonna stop talking to me after what I did lol but it's actually the other way around, he's more sweet to me, always checking on me, and more open to romantic stuff.

I don't know where this is going.

Posted by Aerazo
I still don't know if this Cap and I will have a sucess story but here it goes:

We've been seeing each other for 5 months now, he says that he's not seeing anyone else, or interested in anyone else..

We started very slow, but a couple months ago he started being more consistent with seeing me. Also because I stopped asking him to meet me in places and trying to hang out with him.

He's becoming more sweet with me, sending cute bitmojis of the 2 of us doing stuff we do when we are together. last week he asked me to go to his house on a Friday morning after dropping off my daughter he knows my schedule pretty much, his house is 10min away from my daughters school (which is 30min from my house). I went to his house Friday morning at 830 am not very well dressed, we were just gonna hang out for a bit (no sex).

His parents were there which made me a bit uncomfortable but it was good to see them. His dad is an asshole pretty much, I barely ever see him, his mom is a super sweet lady.

Friday night he was working on things and I was sad I didn't get to see him but he called me at 7am to come to my house! he ended up coming at lunch time, brought lunch for us.

Then Saturday night I went to his place and stayed over we had a good time. Woke up early Sunday morning, walked his dog, went to eat bkfst. and then he tagged along to come with me and my friends to have Brunch.

NOW... we went to have brunch and he kept giving me his credit card so I could pay for our stuff (mine and his). He was later standing alone and I went to talk to him because I know he's not a big social person, but he said he was okay. And that he was there for me, to spend time with me. 🙂

He also brought his friend who is promoting some events so they were talking to other people about the events and he would leave his friend and come back to me, he told me he is just trying to engage him in conversations and let him do his thing.

We were all drinking, and it was a fun place bar hoping nice Sunday afternoon at the waterfront so it was easy to have more than enough drinks... at some point we were all talking to a group of ladies and men around late 40's -50's. But these ladies were sort of cougars, she kept saying she likes younger guys, at some point we were talking bc I was with a younger guy before, and then she asked me if Cap was my boyfriend and I said no, he's a friend. (He'd hug me or bring me drinks but he was also around talking to other people (girls and guys)) so she says, oh so he's the guy you're fucking. (literally) I said Hmm not there yet... (no need to tell her our story).

later in the evening she told me that My CAP had been trying to fuck her friend (again literally) I laughed and went with the flow. Because 1. We are not officially together. 2. He's very shy so I don't think he would. 3. I still trust that he respects me. (we have talked about hookups and stuff and he said he's not that type)

So he came and she was still talking about it and he asked and I said: "She said you're trying to fuck her friend" (sarcastically)

Well, he got super upset, and literally started speaking loud saying he's never said that and he wouldn't and then he took it on me for believing her and he said: "I know we are not boyfriend and girlfriend but I like you AND I respect you, I can't be with you. I want to but I can't right now...." (he started talking more than what I "questioned"

I got upset and grabbed his face with one hand and told him to go do whatever the fuck he wants and left.

(I hate drama. probably. the first time I do something like that in public)

He seemed worried about me believing her and not him. He said why would you believe a 55 yr old lady who is at this bar drunk af, talking to young guys and dressed like that. You know me, you know I don't do that, i really like you...blah blah (he made me cry ?) I considered myself a non-emotional person but the way he talked to me made me cry, also I had some drinks so that didn't help.

We left bc we were tired and had been bar hopping for 5hrs lol so on the way back he would do things to make me laugh, he even threw himself on the floor and grabbed my feet (not in a dramatic way, more like trying to make me laugh ?)

He even said he wanted to stay over with me so he came home with me. The next day Monday I took him home so he could go to work and he again said he was sorry I felt that way.

I hadn't been that upset in a long time.



I thought he was gonna stop talking to me after what I did lol but it's actually the other way around, he's more sweet to me, always checking on me, and more open to romantic stuff.

I don't know where this is going.

Just enjoy the ride 😄. And he was right. You should have trusted him rather that woman and shouldn't have said those things. Even though you said that playfully it would have hurt him as that is what he is trying to build. Trust. And even after all that if you don't trust him it will naturally hurt him. But he is a nice guy being a Capricorn (being self praising) but jokes aside he did say he likes you so you should be happy 🙂

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Posted by Aerazo
I still don't know if this Cap and I will have a sucess story but here it goes:

We've been seeing each other for 5 months now, he says that he's not seeing anyone else, or interested in anyone else..

We started very slow, but a couple months ago he started being more consistent with seeing me. Also because I stopped asking him to meet me in places and trying to hang out with him.

He's becoming more sweet with me, sending cute bitmojis of the 2 of us doing stuff we do when we are together. last week he asked me to go to his house on a Friday morning after dropping off my daughter he knows my schedule pretty much, his house is 10min away from my daughters school (which is 30min from my house). I went to his house Friday morning at 830 am not very well dressed, we were just gonna hang out for a bit (no sex).

His parents were there which made me a bit uncomfortable but it was good to see them. His dad is an asshole pretty much, I barely ever see him, his mom is a super sweet lady.

Friday night he was working on things and I was sad I didn't get to see him but he called me at 7am to come to my house! he ended up coming at lunch time, brought lunch for us.

Then Saturday night I went to his place and stayed over we had a good time. Woke up early Sunday morning, walked his dog, went to eat bkfst. and then he tagged along to come with me and my friends to have Brunch.

NOW... we went to have brunch and he kept giving me his credit card so I could pay for our stuff (mine and his). He was later standing alone and I went to talk to him because I know he's not a big social person, but he said he was okay. And that he was there for me, to spend time with me. 🙂

He also brought his friend who is promoting some events so they were talking to other people about the events and he would leave his friend and come back to me, he told me he is just trying to engage him in conversations and let him do his thing.

We were all drinking, and it was a fun place bar hoping nice Sunday afternoon at the waterfront so it was easy to have more than enough drinks... at some point we were all talking to a group of ladies and men around late 40's -50's. But these ladies were sort of cougars, she kept saying she likes younger guys, at some point we were talking bc I was with a younger guy before, and then she asked me if Cap was my boyfriend and I said no, he's a friend. (He'd hug me or bring me drinks but he was also around talking to other people (girls and guys)) so she says, oh so he's the guy you're fucking. (literally) I said Hmm not there yet... (no need to tell her our story).

later in the evening she told me that My CAP had been trying to fuck her friend (again literally) I laughed and went with the flow. Because 1. We are not officially together. 2. He's very shy so I don't think he would. 3. I still trust that he respects me. (we have talked about hookups and stuff and he said he's not that type)

So he came and she was still talking about it and he asked and I said: "She said you're trying to fuck her friend" (sarcastically)

Well, he got super upset, and literally started speaking loud saying he's never said that and he wouldn't and then he took it on me for believing her and he said: "I know we are not boyfriend and girlfriend but I like you AND I respect you, I can't be with you. I want to but I can't right now...." (he started talking more than what I "questioned"

I got upset and grabbed his face with one hand and told him to go do whatever the fuck he wants and left.

(I hate drama. probably. the first time I do something like that in public)

He seemed worried about me believing her and not him. He said why would you believe a 55 yr old lady who is at this bar drunk af, talking to young guys and dressed like that. You know me, you know I don't do that, i really like you...blah blah (he made me cry ?) I considered myself a non-emotional person but the way he talked to me made me cry, also I had some drinks so that didn't help.

We left bc we were tired and had been bar hopping for 5hrs lol so on the way back he would do things to make me laugh, he even threw himself on the floor and grabbed my feet (not in a dramatic way, more like trying to make me laugh ?)

He even said he wanted to stay over with me so he came home with me. The next day Monday I took him home so he could go to work and he again said he was sorry I felt that way.

I hadn't been that upset in a long time.



I thought he was gonna stop talking to me after what I did lol but it's actually the other way around, he's more sweet to me, always checking on me, and more open to romantic stuff.

I don't know where this is going.

Stop being a silly drama queen...

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I'm not. When I told him what she said I said it sarcastically and laughing. Because I knew it wasn't true and even if it was true what can I do?

I got upset because he started making it a big deal so . I ignored him, and I went to my other friends to keep talking. He followed me and kept talking.

He should have just said no, laugh or keep talking not get upset and talk loud to me at the bar. it seemed like I was the one making drama.

I cried for the nice things he said to me because I didn't think he cared that much.

I was still upset because I don't ever get mad or upset at things, it's hard for me to just automatically switch to happy.



in some situations I just don't care when people let me down because it's what they want to do. So stressing about it makes no sense to me. It does hurt but I don't make drama. I move on.

Just enjoy the ride 😄. And he was right. You should have trusted him rather that woman and shouldn't have said those things. Even though you said that playfully it would have hurt him as that is what he is trying to build. Trust. And even after all that if you don't trust him it will naturally hurt him. But he is a nice guy being a Capricorn (being self praising) but jokes aside he did say he likes you so you should be happy 🙂



At least now he stepped up to show me he cares. ? Since we are both usually busy is hard to meet and we don't want to force a relationship right now when he's mainly focused in school, work, his business, etc. I have work, school and my kids to focus on. But we are spending together the time that We Can. No commitment but I think it definitely shows that we are both interested in each other. ?

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Posted by Aerazo
I still don't know if this Cap and I will have a sucess story but here it goes:

We've been seeing each other for 5 months now, he says that he's not seeing anyone else, or interested in anyone else..

We started very slow, but a couple months ago he started being more consistent with seeing me. Also because I stopped asking him to meet me in places and trying to hang out with him.

He's becoming more sweet with me, sending cute bitmojis of the 2 of us doing stuff we do when we are together. last week he asked me to go to his house on a Friday morning after dropping off my daughter he knows my schedule pretty much, his house is 10min away from my daughters school (which is 30min from my house). I went to his house Friday morning at 830 am not very well dressed, we were just gonna hang out for a bit (no sex).

His parents were there which made me a bit uncomfortable but it was good to see them. His dad is an asshole pretty much, I barely ever see him, his mom is a super sweet lady.

Friday night he was working on things and I was sad I didn't get to see him but he called me at 7am to come to my house! he ended up coming at lunch time, brought lunch for us.

Then Saturday night I went to his place and stayed over we had a good time. Woke up early Sunday morning, walked his dog, went to eat bkfst. and then he tagged along to come with me and my friends to have Brunch.

NOW... we went to have brunch and he kept giving me his credit card so I could pay for our stuff (mine and his). He was later standing alone and I went to talk to him because I know he's not a big social person, but he said he was okay. And that he was there for me, to spend time with me. 🙂

He also brought his friend who is promoting some events so they were talking to other people about the events and he would leave his friend and come back to me, he told me he is just trying to engage him in conversations and let him do his thing.

We were all drinking, and it was a fun place bar hoping nice Sunday afternoon at the waterfront so it was easy to have more than enough drinks... at some point we were all talking to a group of ladies and men around late 40's -50's. But these ladies were sort of cougars, she kept saying she likes younger guys, at some point we were talking bc I was with a younger guy before, and then she asked me if Cap was my boyfriend and I said no, he's a friend. (He'd hug me or bring me drinks but he was also around talking to other people (girls and guys)) so she says, oh so he's the guy you're fucking. (literally) I said Hmm not there yet... (no need to tell her our story).

later in the evening she told me that My CAP had been trying to fuck her friend (again literally) I laughed and went with the flow. Because 1. We are not officially together. 2. He's very shy so I don't think he would. 3. I still trust that he respects me. (we have talked about hookups and stuff and he said he's not that type)

So he came and she was still talking about it and he asked and I said: "She said you're trying to fuck her friend" (sarcastically)

Well, he got super upset, and literally started speaking loud saying he's never said that and he wouldn't and then he took it on me for believing her and he said: "I know we are not boyfriend and girlfriend but I like you AND I respect you, I can't be with you. I want to but I can't right now...." (he started talking more than what I "questioned"

I got upset and grabbed his face with one hand and told him to go do whatever the fuck he wants and left.

(I hate drama. probably. the first time I do something like that in public)

He seemed worried about me believing her and not him. He said why would you believe a 55 yr old lady who is at this bar drunk af, talking to young guys and dressed like that. You know me, you know I don't do that, i really like you...blah blah (he made me cry ?) I considered myself a non-emotional person but the way he talked to me made me cry, also I had some drinks so that didn't help.

We left bc we were tired and had been bar hopping for 5hrs lol so on the way back he would do things to make me laugh, he even threw himself on the floor and grabbed my feet (not in a dramatic way, more like trying to make me laugh ?)

He even said he wanted to stay over with me so he came home with me. The next day Monday I took him home so he could go to work and he again said he was sorry I felt that way.

I hadn't been that upset in a long time.



I thought he was gonna stop talking to me after what I did lol but it's actually the other way around, he's more sweet to me, always checking on me, and more open to romantic stuff.

I don't know where this is going.

Oh this is WAY more drama than it needed to be. It is so sweet he reacted that way & basically told you he wants you to be his girlfriend. He is sweet because he doesn't want to lose you. Damn make it official already!!!

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Haha I know! I know! I want to but also, I have 2 kids, he doesn't have any but he loves kids and wants a big family. (which I also want)

But I don't know, I don't want him to feel compromised to raise my kids, which I guess he sees that's not what I want since I'm live on my own with them for the past years and I'm self sufficient. 🙂

Everyday I fall for him even more and it scares me too. First guy I see as potential boyfriend since I separated from my daughters dad.

Really? After all of that...you don't know where what is going?





I don't know because I know he's gonna be in school for a while. he's getting his Masters now and hopefully will get into law school soon.

I definitely do not want to be a distraction for him since I know he worries a lot when he has girlfriends (he's had 2) and both cheated.

He doesn't go out much so every other weekend when I don't have my girls, I go to his house and he's either tired to go out or working on something so we stay home. I don't mind staying home bc I can go out with my friends anytime, I'm not a big clubbing type of person either but I still go out once in a while to hang with my friends, lately he's been coming with me.

So im trying to show him that even though this is not a commitment, I like him and I like spending time with him and I'm not gonna leave him.

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I still don't know if this Cap and I will have a sucess story but here it goes:

We've been seeing each other for 5 months now, he says that he's not seeing anyone else, or interested in anyone else..

We started very slow, but a couple months ago he started being more consistent with seeing me. Also because I stopped asking him to meet me in places and trying to hang out with him.

He's becoming more sweet with me, sending cute bitmojis of the 2 of us doing stuff we do when we are together. last week he asked me to go to his house on a Friday morning after dropping off my daughter he knows my schedule pretty much, his house is 10min away from my daughters school (which is 30min from my house). I went to his house Friday morning at 830 am not very well dressed, we were just gonna hang out for a bit (no sex).

His parents were there which made me a bit uncomfortable but it was good to see them. His dad is an asshole pretty much, I barely ever see him, his mom is a super sweet lady.

Friday night he was working on things and I was sad I didn't get to see him but he called me at 7am to come to my house! he ended up coming at lunch time, brought lunch for us.

Then Saturday night I went to his place and stayed over we had a good time. Woke up early Sunday morning, walked his dog, went to eat bkfst. and then he tagged along to come with me and my friends to have Brunch.

NOW... we went to have brunch and he kept giving me his credit card so I could pay for our stuff (mine and his). He was later standing alone and I went to talk to him because I know he's not a big social person, but he said he was okay. And that he was there for me, to spend time with me. 🙂

He also brought his friend who is promoting some events so they were talking to other people about the events and he would leave his friend and come back to me, he told me he is just trying to engage him in conversations and let him do his thing.

We were all drinking, and it was a fun place bar hoping nice Sunday afternoon at the waterfront so it was easy to have more than enough drinks... at some point we were all talking to a group of ladies and men around late 40's -50's. But these ladies were sort of cougars, she kept saying she likes younger guys, at some point we were talking bc I was with a younger guy before, and then she asked me if Cap was my boyfriend and I said no, he's a friend. (He'd hug me or bring me drinks but he was also around talking to other people (girls and guys)) so she says, oh so he's the guy you're fucking. (literally) I said Hmm not there yet... (no need to tell her our story).

later in the evening she told me that My CAP had been trying to fuck her friend (again literally) I laughed and went with the flow. Because 1. We are not officially together. 2. He's very shy so I don't think he would. 3. I still trust that he respects me. (we have talked about hookups and stuff and he said he's not that type)

So he came and she was still talking about it and he asked and I said: "She said you're trying to fuck her friend" (sarcastically)

Well, he got super upset, and literally started speaking loud saying he's never said that and he wouldn't and then he took it on me for believing her and he said: "I know we are not boyfriend and girlfriend but I like you AND I respect you, I can't be with you. I want to but I can't right now...." (he started talking more than what I "questioned"

I got upset and grabbed his face with one hand and told him to go do whatever the fuck he wants and left.

(I hate drama. probably. the first time I do something like that in public)

He seemed worried about me believing her and not him. He said why would you believe a 55 yr old lady who is at this bar drunk af, talking to young guys and dressed like that. You know me, you know I don't do that, i really like you...blah blah (he made me cry ?) I considered myself a non-emotional person but the way he talked to me made me cry, also I had some drinks so that didn't help.

We left bc we were tired and had been bar hopping for 5hrs lol so on the way back he would do things to make me laugh, he even threw himself on the floor and grabbed my feet (not in a dramatic way, more like trying to make me laugh ?)

He even said he wanted to stay over with me so he came home with me. The next day Monday I took him home so he could go to work and he again said he was sorry I felt that way.

I hadn't been that upset in a long time.



I thought he was gonna stop talking to me after what I did lol but it's actually the other way around, he's more sweet to me, always checking on me, and more open to romantic stuff.

I don't know where this is going.

Oh this is WAY more drama than it needed to be. It is so sweet he reacted that way & basically told you he wants you to be his girlfriend. He is sweet because he doesn't want to lose you. Damn make it official already!!!

Haha I know! I know! I want to but also, I have 2 kids, he doesn't have any but he loves kids and wants a big family. (which I also want)

But I don't know, I don't want him to feel compromised to raise my kids, which I guess he sees that's not what I want since I'm live on my own with them for the past years and I'm self sufficient. 🙂

Everyday I fall for him even more and it scares me too. First guy I see as potential boyfriend since I separated from my daughters dad.

Well sometimes we just have to meet in the middle & take the plunge. I know I understand. I am a Sag Sun/aqua moon. It is hella scary!! Thing is the issues are not that big if the two of you would stop being so stubborn. A Leo taught me that sometimes you have to deal with the drama because that's when the truth comes out. In the emotions during the drama! I've never opened my heart so much except withat Leo lol. Right now, I struggle with the emotions with my Cap & taking the plunge after all my past disappointments. He told me he loved me on accident lol, but then once it was out.. he said it again!!! Omg sometimes we need to know it's safe to open up, to get through the scary stuff. He might just be an amazing dad to your kids - if you let him. And ya know he's not in the perfect situation right now, so it's hard for him to promise things to you. So when the drama comes out like that, a big kiss or hug would've been the perfect thing to do. Cuz like wow! He does want you to be his girlfriend. That is good news 🙂

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Yup!!! I'm usually very shut down when it comes to my feelings and emotions. My kids have become my priority so as long as I have a job and my kids I don't need anything else. Drama or crazyness, but you are right, if it wasn't because of that I wouldn't have seen that he cares about me and I think the same way for him, he was able to see that I do have a vulnerable side. lol

The night before that when we were walking the dog I think he told me "te quiero" Which is sort of I love you but not as strong. it means that I like and care about you. He usually speaks spanish to me when he says things like that, it got me by surprise so I opened my eyes and asked him what he said (I couldn't really tell it was that) he said nothing and started laughing so he didn't say it again.



Yesss the next day when we woke up he gave me a kiss on the cheek, and was being super sweet. I was still mad, I can't deal with my emotions when I'm truly upset about something.

We were at the table and he said his heart was super fast, mine too. we were staring at each other for a little while.

I wanted to kiss him and hug him so bad, and I stood up, walked near him and he didn't do anything so I just walked around to "get" something.

I haven't seen him again since last week. I tried but he was busy and working, he invited me out today with his friends but I have my kids with me so I told him thanks but I couldn't. he knows I won't leave my kids to hang out. but it was nice that he asked. 🙂



aaaah is so hard when you have feelings for someone. 😢

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Really? After all of that...you don't know where what is going?

I don't know because I know he's gonna be in school for a while. he's getting his Masters now and hopefully will get into law school soon.

I definitely do not want to be a distraction for him since I know he worries a lot when he has girlfriends (he's had 2) and both cheated.

He doesn't go out much so every other weekend when I don't have my girls, I go to his house and he's either tired to go out or working on something so we stay home. I don't mind staying home bc I can go out with my friends anytime, I'm not a big clubbing type of person either but I still go out once in a while to hang with my friends, lately he's been coming with me.

So im trying to show him that even though this is not a commitment, I like him and I like spending time with him and I'm not gonna leave him.







Soooo......what's the issue? 😕

Maybe I'm missing something...





He doesn't wanna be official because he thinks I will get bored because he's busy and he does give me attention and cares for me but still he doesn't want to feel committed to it.

what I haven't told him is that I'm okay like this, I'm still getting to know him, so I'm okay right now. I do go out with friends and I travel at least twice a year so I don't want him to feel jealous or get controlling if he can't come with me.

it used to happen with my ex when I went out.

I know not every guy is the same but no commitment makes things easier to manage for now while we get our life together. lol

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I still don't know if this Cap and I will have a sucess story but here it goes:

We've been seeing each other for 5 months now, he says that he's not seeing anyone else, or interested in anyone else..

We started very slow, but a couple months ago he started being more consistent with seeing me. Also because I stopped asking him to meet me in places and trying to hang out with him.

He's becoming more sweet with me, sending cute bitmojis of the 2 of us doing stuff we do when we are together. last week he asked me to go to his house on a Friday morning after dropping off my daughter he knows my schedule pretty much, his house is 10min away from my daughters school (which is 30min from my house). I went to his house Friday morning at 830 am not very well dressed, we were just gonna hang out for a bit (no sex).

His parents were there which made me a bit uncomfortable but it was good to see them. His dad is an asshole pretty much, I barely ever see him, his mom is a super sweet lady.

Friday night he was working on things and I was sad I didn't get to see him but he called me at 7am to come to my house! he ended up coming at lunch time, brought lunch for us.

Then Saturday night I went to his place and stayed over we had a good time. Woke up early Sunday morning, walked his dog, went to eat bkfst. and then he tagged along to come with me and my friends to have Brunch.

NOW... we went to have brunch and he kept giving me his credit card so I could pay for our stuff (mine and his). He was later standing alone and I went to talk to him because I know he's not a big social person, but he said he was okay. And that he was there for me, to spend time with me. 🙂

He also brought his friend who is promoting some events so they were talking to other people about the events and he would leave his friend and come back to me, he told me he is just trying to engage him in conversations and let him do his thing.

We were all drinking, and it was a fun place bar hoping nice Sunday afternoon at the waterfront so it was easy to have more than enough drinks... at some point we were all talking to a group of ladies and men around late 40's -50's. But these ladies were sort of cougars, she kept saying she likes younger guys, at some point we were talking bc I was with a younger guy before, and then she asked me if Cap was my boyfriend and I said no, he's a friend. (He'd hug me or bring me drinks but he was also around talking to other people (girls and guys)) so she says, oh so he's the guy you're fucking. (literally) I said Hmm not there yet... (no need to tell her our story).

later in the evening she told me that My CAP had been trying to fuck her friend (again literally) I laughed and went with the flow. Because 1. We are not officially together. 2. He's very shy so I don't think he would. 3. I still trust that he respects me. (we have talked about hookups and stuff and he said he's not that type)

So he came and she was still talking about it and he asked and I said: "She said you're trying to fuck her friend" (sarcastically)

Well, he got super upset, and literally started speaking loud saying he's never said that and he wouldn't and then he took it on me for believing her and he said: "I know we are not boyfriend and girlfriend but I like you AND I respect you, I can't be with you. I want to but I can't right now...." (he started talking more than what I "questioned"

I got upset and grabbed his face with one hand and told him to go do whatever the fuck he wants and left.

(I hate drama. probably. the first time I do something like that in public)

He seemed worried about me believing her and not him. He said why would you believe a 55 yr old lady who is at this bar drunk af, talking to young guys and dressed like that. You know me, you know I don't do that, i really like you...blah blah (he made me cry ?) I considered myself a non-emotional person but the way he talked to me made me cry, also I had some drinks so that didn't help.

We left bc we were tired and had been bar hopping for 5hrs lol so on the way back he would do things to make me laugh, he even threw himself on the floor and grabbed my feet (not in a dramatic way, more like trying to make me laugh ?)

He even said he wanted to stay over with me so he came home with me. The next day Monday I took him home so he could go to work and he again said he was sorry I felt that way.

I hadn't been that upset in a long time.



I thought he was gonna stop talking to me after what I did lol but it's actually the other way around, he's more sweet to me, always checking on me, and more open to romantic stuff.

I don't know where this is going.

Oh this is WAY more drama than it needed to be. It is so sweet he reacted that way & basically told you he wants you to be his girlfriend. He is sweet because he doesn't want to lose you. Damn make it official already!!!

Haha I know! I know! I want to but also, I have 2 kids, he doesn't have any but he loves kids and wants a big family. (which I also want)

But I don't know, I don't want him to feel compromised to raise my kids, which I guess he sees that's not what I want since I'm live on my own with them for the past years and I'm self sufficient. 🙂

Everyday I fall for him even more and it scares me too. First guy I see as potential boyfriend since I separated from my daughters dad.

Well sometimes we just have to meet in the middle & take the plunge. I know I understand. I am a Sag Sun/aqua moon. It is hella scary!! Thing is the issues are not that big if the two of you would stop being so stubborn. A Leo taught me that sometimes you have to deal with the drama because that's when the truth comes out. In the emotions during the drama! I've never opened my heart so much except withat Leo lol. Right now, I struggle with the emotions with my Cap & taking the plunge after all my past disappointments. He told me he loved me on accident lol, but then once it was out.. he said it again!!! Omg sometimes we need to know it's safe to open up, to get through the scary stuff. He might just be an amazing dad to your kids - if you let him. And ya know he's not in the perfect situation right now, so it's hard for him to promise things to you. So when the drama comes out like that, a big kiss or hug would've been the perfect thing to do. Cuz like wow! He does want you to be his girlfriend. That is good news 🙂

Yup!!! I'm usually very shut down when it comes to my feelings and emotions. My kids have become my priority so as long as I have a job and my kids I don't need anything else. Drama or crazyness, but you are right, if it wasn't because of that I wouldn't have seen that he cares about me and I think the same way for him, he was able to see that I do have a vulnerable side. lol

The night before that when we were walking the dog I think he told me "te quiero" Which is sort of I love you but not as strong. it means that I like and care about you. He usually speaks spanish to me when he says things like that, it got me by surprise so I opened my eyes and asked him what he said (I couldn't really tell it was that) he said nothing and started laughing so he didn't say it again.



Yesss the next day when we woke up he gave me a kiss on the cheek, and was being super sweet. I was still mad, I can't deal with my emotions when I'm truly upset about something.

We were at the table and he said his heart was super fast, mine too. we were staring at each other for a little while.

I wanted to kiss him and hug him so bad, and I stood up, walked near him and he didn't do anything so I just walked around to "get" something.

I haven't seen him again since last week. I tried but he was busy and working, he invited me out today with his friends but I have my kids with me so I told him thanks but I couldn't. he knows I won't leave my kids to hang out. but it was nice that he asked. 🙂



aaaah is so hard when you have feelings for someone. 😢

I'm the same way with my kids, and it's part of what my cap loves about me. He's super family oriented. It's still early to be having a lot of contact with kids ( and mine are older than yours lol) Here's the thing, you can still be his girlfriend while he's in school. He just needs to know that you respect his study time & that he can trust you. I think it just takes time. You need to be able to trust he would love your kids. I see it evolving if you let it. Just in the future, don't walk away from the drama. Just stay there & look at him at the very least. Eyes tell all. Be brave.

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Thanks so much! how old are yours?

Have you planned on having kids together?

Yes I'm trying to let him know he can trust me and I think this way is better since I'm showing him I'm there even when he's not committed to me 🙂

it's only been 5 months so hopefully it will get better from now on. The hardest part was the first 3 months, I guess he didn't realize I liked him so much to stay around this long haha.

Really? After all of that...you don't know where what is going?



Hey, she's an Aquarius, so she's going to fuck things up between them anyway...





why and in what way being an Aqua means I'll fuck it up? @gob_shite

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Really? After all of that...you don't know where what is going?

I don't know because I know he's gonna be in school for a while. he's getting his Masters now and hopefully will get into law school soon.

I definitely do not want to be a distraction for him since I know he worries a lot when he has girlfriends (he's had 2) and both cheated.

He doesn't go out much so every other weekend when I don't have my girls, I go to his house and he's either tired to go out or working on something so we stay home. I don't mind staying home bc I can go out with my friends anytime, I'm not a big clubbing type of person either but I still go out once in a while to hang with my friends, lately he's been coming with me.

So im trying to show him that even though this is not a commitment, I like him and I like spending time with him and I'm not gonna leave him.

Soooo......what's the issue? 😕

Maybe I'm missing something...

He doesn't wanna be official because he thinks I will get bored because he's busy and he does give me attention and cares for me but still he doesn't want to feel committed to it.

what I haven't told him is that I'm okay like this, I'm still getting to know him, so I'm okay right now. I do go out with friends and I travel at least twice a year so I don't want him to feel jealous or get controlling if he can't come with me.

it used to happen with my ex when I went out.

I know not every guy is the same but no commitment makes things easier to manage for now while we get our life together. lol



Ok so again what is the problem?





The problem is I have no say over anything he does, neither does he. So it is uncertain as to what will happen later..whether it would be a success cap story or not. Again, related to the OP.

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Just enjoy the ride 😄. And he was right. You should have trusted him rather that woman and shouldn't have said those things. Even though you said that playfully it would have hurt him as that is what he is trying to build. Trust. And even after all that if you don't trust him it will naturally hurt him. But he is a nice guy being a Capricorn (being self praising) but jokes aside he did say he likes you so you should be happy 🙂



At least now he stepped up to show me he cares. ? Since we are both usually busy is hard to meet and we don't want to force a relationship right now when he's mainly focused in school, work, his business, etc. I have work, school and my kids to focus on. But we are spending together the time that We Can. No commitment but I think it definitely shows that we are both interested in each other. ?







We always do 😄 but don't like to show it. Yes he doesn't want to tie you down to him yet as his ground is still shaking. Until his studies complete he can't guarantee you anything. That is why he is not doing much but somehow due to all this drama he said something which was on his mind but didn't want to say yet.

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Really? After all of that...you don't know where what is going?

I don't know because I know he's gonna be in school for a while. he's getting his Masters now and hopefully will get into law school soon.

I definitely do not want to be a distraction for him since I know he worries a lot when he has girlfriends (he's had 2) and both cheated.

He doesn't go out much so every other weekend when I don't have my girls, I go to his house and he's either tired to go out or working on something so we stay home. I don't mind staying home bc I can go out with my friends anytime, I'm not a big clubbing type of person either but I still go out once in a while to hang with my friends, lately he's been coming with me.

So im trying to show him that even though this is not a commitment, I like him and I like spending time with him and I'm not gonna leave him.

Soooo......what's the issue? 😕

Maybe I'm missing something...

He doesn't wanna be official because he thinks I will get bored because he's busy and he does give me attention and cares for me but still he doesn't want to feel committed to it.

what I haven't told him is that I'm okay like this, I'm still getting to know him, so I'm okay right now. I do go out with friends and I travel at least twice a year so I don't want him to feel jealous or get controlling if he can't come with me.

it used to happen with my ex when I went out.

I know not every guy is the same but no commitment makes things easier to manage for now while we get our life together. lol

Ok so again what is the problem?

The problem is I have no say over anything he does, neither does he. So it is uncertain as to what will happen later..whether it would be a success cap story or not. Again, related to the OP.

In reality you're really not okay with it.

And I find it ironic how you say you prefer things being the way they are & you're okay with it, yet the incident that happened at the bar with the cougar happened.

Actions speak louder than words. Pick a damn side 🙂





I wasn't even mad at what the lady said smh. lol no one has understood that yet.

I was upset at him making all the drama and he was being loud in public responding to me when I hadn't even "questioned" him, so it seemed like I was. I even walked away.

So, I learned later that he doesn't respond well to negative emotions so him feeling accused of something he didn't do, plus being tipsy added more emotion to the situation.

I was with someone controlling, jealous and abusive for years. He didn't even like me to go out without my kids or people he knew. he was insecure and I loved him so I did as he said.

I don't want that to happen again, but if I feel like someone doesn't trust me I do my best to show them that I'm there, so I stop doing things I know "upset" the person I care about. and I shouldn't but is part of being an Aqua or perhaps is one of my other placements that makes me that way.

This is just with the person I'm in love with and I'm working on that.

Ex. I used to go out a lot more before I met him, but bc my friends go clubbing every freaking weekend. is not bad but it gets old and exhausting. So once I met him, I rather be with him at home than going out with my friends, part of that is also to show him that I care about him more than going out.

I'm not really complaining here, of course I'd love to have him all the time and see him more often but I think that there should always be a balance.

of course at some point we have to make a decision.

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Just enjoy the ride 😄. And he was right. You should have trusted him rather that woman and shouldn't have said those things. Even though you said that playfully it would have hurt him as that is what he is trying to build. Trust. And even after all that if you don't trust him it will naturally hurt him. But he is a nice guy being a Capricorn (being self praising) but jokes aside he did say he likes you so you should be happy 🙂

At least now he stepped up to show me he cares. ? Since we are both usually busy is hard to meet and we don't want to force a relationship right now when he's mainly focused in school, work, his business, etc. I have work, school and my kids to focus on. But we are spending together the time that We Can. No commitment but I think it definitely shows that we are both interested in each other. ?







We always do 😄 but don't like to show it. Yes he doesn't want to tie you down to him yet as his ground is still shaking. Until his studies complete he can't guarantee you anything. That is why he is not doing much but somehow due to all this drama he said something which was on his mind but didn't want to say yet.



Yess!!! that too!! he always said " I like what we have" "we have more time to enjoy each other" "I like spending time with you as long as I Can" (meaning he's not gonna commit or make extra time for me) but he had never said he wants to be with me but he can't.

Maybe he thought I was gonna cut it off if he did?

He's not promising either that he will be with me once he's done, so again it does leave me hanging as to what will happen in the future.

But, I know that things have to be built.

That's why I never understand why some people start dating and start making future plans a month or two, even 3 after meeting.

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Really? After all of that...you don't know where what is going?

I don't know because I know he's gonna be in school for a while. he's getting his Masters now and hopefully will get into law school soon.

I definitely do not want to be a distraction for him since I know he worries a lot when he has girlfriends (he's had 2) and both cheated.

He doesn't go out much so every other weekend when I don't have my girls, I go to his house and he's either tired to go out or working on something so we stay home. I don't mind staying home bc I can go out with my friends anytime, I'm not a big clubbing type of person either but I still go out once in a while to hang with my friends, lately he's been coming with me.

So im trying to show him that even though this is not a commitment, I like him and I like spending time with him and I'm not gonna leave him.

Soooo......what's the issue? 😕

Maybe I'm missing something...

He doesn't wanna be official because he thinks I will get bored because he's busy and he does give me attention and cares for me but still he doesn't want to feel committed to it.

what I haven't told him is that I'm okay like this, I'm still getting to know him, so I'm okay right now. I do go out with friends and I travel at least twice a year so I don't want him to feel jealous or get controlling if he can't come with me.

it used to happen with my ex when I went out.

I know not every guy is the same but no commitment makes things easier to manage for now while we get our life together. lol

Ok so again what is the problem?

The problem is I have no say over anything he does, neither does he. So it is uncertain as to what will happen later..whether it would be a success cap story or not. Again, related to the OP.

In reality you're really not okay with it.

And I find it ironic how you say you prefer things being the way they are & you're okay with it, yet the incident that happened at the bar with the cougar happened.

Actions speak louder than words. Pick a damn side 🙂

I wasn't even mad at what the lady said smh. lol no one has understood that yet.

I was upset at him making all the drama and he was being loud in public responding to me when I hadn't even "questioned" him, so it seemed like I was. I even walked away.

So, I learned later that he doesn't respond well to negative emotions so him feeling accused of something he didn't do, plus being tipsy added more emotion to the situation.

I was with someone controlling, jealous and abusive for years. He didn't even like me to go out without my kids or people he knew. he was insecure and I loved him so I did as he said.

I don't want that to happen again, but if I feel like someone doesn't trust me I do my best to show them that I'm there, so I stop doing things I know "upset" the person I care about. and I shouldn't but is part of being an Aqua or perhaps is one of my other placements that makes me that way.

This is just with the person I'm in love with and I'm working on that.

Ex. I used to go out a lot more before I met him, but bc my friends go clubbing every freaking weekend. is not bad but it gets old and exhausting. So once I met him, I rather be with him at home than going out with my friends, part of that is also to show him that I care about him more than going out.

I'm not really complaining here, of course I'd love to have him all the time and see him more often but I think that there should always be a balance.

of course at some point we have to make a decision.





We understand that you weren't even mad at what the lady said...hence the reason you repeated it sarcastic or not.

This isn't the 1st story you've shared about him and other people and your sarcastic comments. Did you laugh it off when he said the bartender liked him? No. So why would you expect that response from him?





It isn't and if you see the other stories are also a bit weird. His friends asking me if i already had sex with him when i first met them. His friend asking him if he trusted me and then told me he wanted to Fck me just for taking him to his car (in my neighborhood). and asked me if I liked him just for sex...?

I think all that makes him even more insecure.

the thing about the hostess at the bar, I didn't get mad at him, I just told him if he liked her to go with her. Him and his friend were talking to her, I didn't make any comments he was the one who came and said that he thinks she likes him.

I think he expects me to act jealous when he's talking to other girls. He did say that his ex was extremely jealous with him and always giving him shit..so I don't know.

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Just enjoy the ride 😄. And he was right. You should have trusted him rather that woman and shouldn't have said those things. Even though you said that playfully it would have hurt him as that is what he is trying to build. Trust. And even after all that if you don't trust him it will naturally hurt him. But he is a nice guy being a Capricorn (being self praising) but jokes aside he did say he likes you so you should be happy 🙂

At least now he stepped up to show me he cares. ? Since we are both usually busy is hard to meet and we don't want to force a relationship right now when he's mainly focused in school, work, his business, etc. I have work, school and my kids to focus on. But we are spending together the time that We Can. No commitment but I think it definitely shows that we are both interested in each other. ?

We always do 😄 but don't like to show it. Yes he doesn't want to tie you down to him yet as his ground is still shaking. Until his studies complete he can't guarantee you anything. That is why he is not doing much but somehow due to all this drama he said something which was on his mind but didn't want to say yet.



Yess!!! that too!! he always said " I like what we have" "we have more time to enjoy each other" "I like spending time with you as long as I Can" (meaning he's not gonna commit or make extra time for me) but he had never said he wants to be with me but he can't.

Maybe he thought I was gonna cut it off if he did?

He's not promising either that he will be with me once he's done, so again it does leave me hanging as to what will happen in the future.

But, I know that things have to be built.

That's why I never understand why some people start dating and start making future plans a month or two, even 3 after meeting.



He can't promise you now as he himself does not know the future. Don't think too far ahead. Things never turn out as we plan. Better to be in the present and enjoy each moment as it comes.

Thinking about the future creates unnecessary stress and ruins things. So for now be happy in the moment. Take care of your kids, yourself and enjoy life.

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Just enjoy the ride 😄. And he was right. You should have trusted him rather that woman and shouldn't have said those things. Even though you said that playfully it would have hurt him as that is what he is trying to build. Trust. And even after all that if you don't trust him it will naturally hurt him. But he is a nice guy being a Capricorn (being self praising) but jokes aside he did say he likes you so you should be happy 🙂

At least now he stepped up to show me he cares. ? Since we are both usually busy is hard to meet and we don't want to force a relationship right now when he's mainly focused in school, work, his business, etc. I have work, school and my kids to focus on. But we are spending together the time that We Can. No commitment but I think it definitely shows that we are both interested in each other. ?

We always do 😄 but don't like to show it. Yes he doesn't want to tie you down to him yet as his ground is still shaking. Until his studies complete he can't guarantee you anything. That is why he is not doing much but somehow due to all this drama he said something which was on his mind but didn't want to say yet.

Yess!!! that too!! he always said " I like what we have" "we have more time to enjoy each other" "I like spending time with you as long as I Can" (meaning he's not gonna commit or make extra time for me) but he had never said he wants to be with me but he can't.

Maybe he thought I was gonna cut it off if he did?

He's not promising either that he will be with me once he's done, so again it does leave me hanging as to what will happen in the future.

But, I know that things have to be built.

That's why I never understand why some people start dating and start making future plans a month or two, even 3 after meeting.



He can't promise you now as he himself does not know the future. Don't think too far ahead. Things never turn out as we plan. Better to be in the present and enjoy each moment as it comes.

Thinking about the future creates unnecessary stress and ruins things. So for now be happy in the moment. Take care of your kids, yourself and enjoy life.



Yes, that's what I said... BUT, I believe that a relationship has to be built.

My point was actually to express that he's not the kind of guy that comes making "promises". Honestly, those type of guys who talk too much and make empty promises I don't trust because you are right, no one knows what the future holds.

Again another reason why I like Caps.

I know what I want and I am working on it myself. 🙂

I may sound contradictory but I just lay out both sides of the situation.

I just go with the flow.

He surprises me 🙂

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My kids are 16 & 21 - it's mostly the 16 yo but the 21 yo does live with me. I am way too old to have any more kids lol. My Cap's kids are in their 20's and it's more grandkids now. He is still in their lives & super supportive even though they don't live with him. I guess the biggest thing for me is not changing my daughter's life. She only has 2 years left if high school & she will be off for college. They still need you & want to spend time with you at this age. Well mine does anyway. I am not giving up any of that time 🙂

@Aerazo

Aww but yeah even though they grow and become independent from us, they will always be around 🙂

you're never too old for kids! lol jk, at least grandkids you can return them to their parents when you get tired haha!

At that age I was pregnant and of course I needed my mom more than ever! I'm 29 and I still like to spend time with my mom 🙂 even without my kids! lol

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CAPRICORN ARE THE GODZ

No, Sags are the Gods!!!! Caps are Kings and Queens. ?

i'm not joking tho.

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Yes. King in the North. Lol 😄

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Just enjoy the ride 😄. And he was right. You should have trusted him rather that woman and shouldn't have said those things. Even though you said that playfully it would have hurt him as that is what he is trying to build. Trust. And even after all that if you don't trust him it will naturally hurt him. But he is a nice guy being a Capricorn (being self praising) but jokes aside he did say he likes you so you should be happy 🙂

At least now he stepped up to show me he cares. ? Since we are both usually busy is hard to meet and we don't want to force a relationship right now when he's mainly focused in school, work, his business, etc. I have work, school and my kids to focus on. But we are spending together the time that We Can. No commitment but I think it definitely shows that we are both interested in each other. ?

We always do 😄 but don't like to show it. Yes he doesn't want to tie you down to him yet as his ground is still shaking. Until his studies complete he can't guarantee you anything. That is why he is not doing much but somehow due to all this drama he said something which was on his mind but didn't want to say yet.

Yess!!! that too!! he always said " I like what we have" "we have more time to enjoy each other" "I like spending time with you as long as I Can" (meaning he's not gonna commit or make extra time for me) but he had never said he wants to be with me but he can't.

Maybe he thought I was gonna cut it off if he did?

He's not promising either that he will be with me once he's done, so again it does leave me hanging as to what will happen in the future.

But, I know that things have to be built.

That's why I never understand why some people start dating and start making future plans a month or two, even 3 after meeting.

He can't promise you now as he himself does not know the future. Don't think too far ahead. Things never turn out as we plan. Better to be in the present and enjoy each moment as it comes.

Thinking about the future creates unnecessary stress and ruins things. So for now be happy in the moment. Take care of your kids, yourself and enjoy life.



Yes, that's what I said... BUT, I believe that a relationship has to be built.

My point was actually to express that he's not the kind of guy that comes making "promises". Honestly, those type of guys who talk too much and make empty promises I don't trust because you are right, no one knows what the future holds.

Again another reason why I like Caps.

I know what I want and I am working on it myself. 🙂

I may sound contradictory but I just lay out both sides of the situation.

I just go with the flow.

He surprises me 🙂



Yes. Relationships are to be built but for building something you need stability and steadiness. Which he is not able to promise you right now. So that is why he is building what he can, trust, friendship, trying to get to know you. But he knows when he can't give you concrete promises he shouldn't. So he is just focussing on his studies but still he likes you as he spends so much time with you apart from his work.

If I have no feelings for someone it will be months before they hear something from me. If I have feelings I will try to connect maybe minimal but still.

I dated a Capricorn. In fact it was my only true love. I absolutely love how cap women are. Very talented and strong in the right ways. The only issue was her deep need for attention. My Leo sun is a free spirit, and I don't like to be rooted. Caps tend to not like things they can't root so issues happened. Thought the relationship didn't last, we are still good friends and left on good terms.

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Things always end on good terms with a Cap. From my personal observation.

The evidence on the Cap board (at least for males) begs to differ lol

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I didn't hear off my Cap guy for 4 weeks and to top it off he forgot my birthday ? ok he's under a lot of pressure right now but that sucked. When he finally realised (4 days after my birthday) he was extremely apologetic. Still hurt my feelings though ? Claims he had sent 2 messages in that time. 1st been a couple of weeks ago and 2nd a week before my birthday. I never received them and he said he could see I hadn't opened them so presumed I was pissed off with him for some reason. Which I wasn't?!. I thought caps didn't like people jumping to conclusions. Kettle/black.

But they have no problem jumping to the negative conclusion in their head just so they don't have to act. Instead of correcting it they'd rather let it play out negatively (because they didn't act) so they can say oh I was right.

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CAPRICORN ARE THE GODZ

No, Sags are the Gods!!!! Caps are Kings and Queens. ?

i'm not joking tho.

Yes. King in the North. Lol 😄

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GoT reference *cyber five*

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Posted by youngali

Posted by ParisianCappy
CAPRICORN ARE THE GODZ

No, Sags are the Gods!!!! Caps are Kings and Queens. ?

i'm not joking tho.

Yes. King in the North. Lol 😄

GoT reference *cyber five*

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*Cyber five back*

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Posted by youngali
Things always end on good terms with a Cap. From my personal observation.

The evidence on the Cap board (at least for males) begs to differ lol

I have more stuff to pick your brain about.

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PM?

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I didn't hear off my Cap guy for 4 weeks and to top it off he forgot my birthday ? ok he's under a lot of pressure right now but that sucked. When he finally realised (4 days after my birthday) he was extremely apologetic. Still hurt my feelings though ? Claims he had sent 2 messages in that time. 1st been a couple of weeks ago and 2nd a week before my birthday. I never received them and he said he could see I hadn't opened them so presumed I was pissed off with him for some reason. Which I wasn't?!. I thought caps didn't like people jumping to conclusions. Kettle/black.

😐

I know. I told him straight what I felt. It's difficult because I don't want to come across as insensitive to his situation but I have feelings too. He says he did and still does feel bad but at the end of the day I've been extremely patient for a very long time and it sometimes feels like I'm waiting for something that may never happen. Even though he always talks about the future.

Oh...the face was due to his lies. Did you ask him to send you a screenshot of where it shows that you didn't open the messages?

No before I could ask he said I wish I'd took a screenshot. I did say it's strange how two messages didn't get through. I know whatsapp was playing up but I don't know. Part of me thinks he panicked and how can I be annoyed if he sent the messages?! I've never known him to lie before. Few days later when we were talking. He said he assumed I'd blocked him?! I asked why would you think that? I've never blocked anyone. He said he thought I'd got fed up because I hadn't heard from him in a while and then he forgot my birthday. That kind of contradicts the above a little. He probably thought I was upset because I usually reach out to him if it's been over a week but he said his family needed his full attention and work so I respected that. Plus why should it be me that reaches out all the time. I thought I'll let him get in touch when he's ready.

He said he was truly sorry, that his heads been up his ass lately but it was no excuse for forgetting my birthday. I don't get that thought process at all. I'm not hot headed, we never argue, he knows I understand his position and he knows where he stands with me. There is no reason for him to think I'd block him. I know he's had shit relationships in the past. Does he find it so hard to believe that I am the caring supportive person he knows me to be. He must know by now I'm not going to run just because it's tough right now. However communication is key to any relationship. When I said you told me your family need your full attention so I respected that he said "yes I know I have some strange methods don't I" what does that even mean,? He can only focus on one thing?!

It means he's full of sh it

Loool love your constructive criticism. I'm not making excuses but he is going through the worst time possible right now. I'm just going to back off for a bit and let him deal with it all. I'm all for giving people the benefit of the doubt and if he says he sent them, I can't prove otherwise.

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I think you said before that one of his close family members was going through some type of life-threatening illness and a lot of other things were happening to him. If there is no way for you to be there to support him, then I believe is better to give him time to deal with it without having to worry about you getting upset for not getting attention.

I totally understand and it may not just be a Capricorn thing but for people in general when they are going through rough times and like you said, his family needs his full attention at the moment then the best thing to do is to support him at least through words, or ask if there is anything that he needs, I'm sure he will say no, but tell him that you want to help him in any way you can.

Birthdays aren't that important, I mean is just a regular day, you were one age yesterday, today you are an age older but I'm sure you are still the same person., there's always time to make it up, is not like he missed the wedding day, or another commitment.

Personally, I don't celebrate my bday huge like other people, and if it's during the week I just push it to the weekend or do it early on, whatever is convenient so I'm sure you can wait.

How long have you been together?

If my partner is going through a rough family time, I would feel embarrassed if I worried more about getting his attention, celebrating my birthday together or anything that would involve me being the center of attention because at that time all he needs is support. and I would expect the same if I were to be in his shoes.

In my case, even though he asked for time to take care of his family problems I would still text him to let him know that I think about him or his family, or that I keep them in my prayers...anything that will show him that I'm there for him.

There are many women and men who are attention whores and don't care what issues their partners are going through but they still want to have their attention and will do anything to disrupt it.

Ex. My brother had been studying a lot for an important admission exam where if he failed it he had to wait another year to retake. He had been focused and even I told him to tell his girlfriend to give him time to focus on it but she would constantly text him, and get upset if he didn't reply, or said he was studying. She went on him a couple of times to get his attention. Unfortunately, he failed the test by 0.07% and he is not blaming her for it but the day he needed her the most to get support from her, she broke up with him (this was last week) the day he went to see her for failing the test.

She did not think of him at any moment nor apologized for trying to get his attention when he was trying to get focused in studying for the test.

They have been together for 5 years and now he's not only depressed for failing the test but also because she's not there to support him.

I do not understand how some people are so INSECURE that they think that if they don't get their partners attention 24/7 then they don't care at all. I mean a relationship is not to drag each other into their own world, is to support each other while they each work to achieve their own personal goals.

I think you did right by not going on him about it, and if by any chance he has been lying to you, then your conscience is clean that you were there for him. It's his loss, because you are a good woman and you deserve a good man.

I'm sure he will remember this if you are in that situation later on, he will support you as well.

EDIT: 4 WEEKS IS A LONG TIME WITHOUT CONTACT...EVEN FROM YOU. I WOULD HAVE TEXTED HIM TO AT LEAST CHECK ON HIS FAMILY. :/

I respect your reply and tbf you don't know the full story of our relationship. However it's not simply getting upset because I'm not getting enough attention! I already offered 4 months ago to just be friends so that he could fully concentrate on everything that he has going on. It's tough enough being in a LDR as it is. He said he didn't want to, he didn't want me just as a friend and he didn't want me dating other guys.

I've been 100% by his side and supportive for the last 18 months. In that time I always reach out and let him know if he needs to talk or needs me to do anything I'm here and happy to help in anyway. We haven't had a normal start to a relationship. His work is not a normal 9-5 so that consumes so much of his time already. His sibling was diagnosed weeks before we started dating so I have ridden this storm with him the whole time. It's been difficult since day one. He's cancelled dates, trips to see me last minute because somethings come up, the last two Christmas's I've not been able to spend any time with him. I come last in the priority list in any free time he has and I've never once had an issue with it. I've always told him not to worry, that I understand his position that he doesn't need to worry about me etc

When I posted the message I was just venting. Birthdays may not be a big deal to you hence why you don't see it as such a big deal but they are to me and always have been. It's the one day of the year that's yours. He knows that. Ive not seen him since November and all I would have liked was a text message, not bothered about a card or gifts but after all the support I've shown and the let downs I've had and never once complained because I am supportive of his situation it would have been nice to know that he could make an effort for me on that one day. If that sounds selfish or insensitive then whatever.

To try and apply I'm an attention seeking w@* $ e !!! wow I'd like to see you walk the last 18 moths in my shoes and see how long you lasted. To be in the shadows from the moment we started dating. I've never once tried to disrupt anything.I knew the situation I was getting into and even thought the timing has been so bad we both didn't want it not to continue.



Re-read my post. I never implied that you were. if only I was being supportive of the way you have handled it. I was referring to how in your case some people would have given up or trying to get his attention regardless of what he says.

Only thing I said was that 4 wks without contact was too long and I would have at least sent him a message to leg him know I think of him. That could have avoided the whole missing your birthday. I know it is for some people, but like you said, in his situation it might not have been good to get upset but accept his apologies.

I think you read my post with the wrong thing in mind.

I absolutely adore my Cap Man (12/24). He's funny, kind, smart, resilient, hardworking, family oriented, emotional, affectionate, sarcastic, strong, masculine, creative and fine as heck.

We met 12/20 and immediately clicked. It's been nonlinear but always progressive. I'm really comfortable with him. I've had to learn to be patient, more understanding and very reassuring but all in all its been easy.

What I love the most: He's VERY consistent.

What I love the least: He gets very defensive sometimes. 0 to 100 REAL quick (My Cap Mom does the exact same thing so I guess I'm used to it lol).

My Cap first love. He woo'd me. I loved him tremendously. He crushed me. I still loved him. He came back into my life. I crushed him. He thought it was revenge but really it was just me realizing I was in some mess I never should have agreed to. He had a horrible habit of wanting others to clean up the messes he made in his life. He was a codependent user. He swore he changed. We tried again he hurt me again. I left him again lol. He tried to come back again but I saw how horribly he was treating his mother (by this point his sister disowned him) and ended the back and forth once and for all. He recently reached out to me (needing someone to use again). I called him on it, he disappeared.

I dated a very depressive but driven as hell Capricorn for two years. I was AWFUL to him. Did him dirty! He's happily married with two kids now. I have regrets about my behavior in that relationship. He would have fought to save it til the end though.