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Dangerously In Love w/ a Capricorn Man! YIKES!!
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Posted by Capri-sun
My personal opinion for what it's worth OP, people make time for the people and things that are important to them. I am a borderline workaholic and I found time for any of my love interests, including the long distance ones...
That's what I'm saying... People make time for what and who they want.. I work hard but if it's something I want, I will make time for it. Im like is this that whole"slow to making decision" Capricorn thing is... Is there someone else. But I also read that you guys will say what you want and mean what you say, so the fact that he initiated the relationship, it bothers me that no efforts are being made when it comes to quality time? I tell him don't waste my time.. & he says he isn't. I don't let him walk all over me, I speak my mind, but I'm confused. CLEARLY! lol
I've never been one to chase, but he's got me chasing him & I can't keep up!!!
Hi. I deleted the entire post in order to give you my two cents worth. I dated a Cappy for three months. No sex. He wasn't a good kisser. I asked him over for Thanksgiving, and I asked him to open my bottle of wine. He didn't know how to do this (my oldest son 30 yrs old did this for me/him). I tend to "test" men in this department. Back to him not being a good kisser -- his kisses were wet. As Piscean, I also watch how a man walks. He walked as if he had osteoporosis. I too, met him on line (last year); he lived in an hour and a half from me and it was harder for him since he rode a motorcycle, worked Wed thru Sunday; went to night school, and what did he do on his days off (Mondays/Tuesdays)— He rested. Did he call me? No. Cappies are not communicators (or at least this one wasn't), and/or he studied for school. Girl, I got TIRED of it! Yeah, he'd text me, "Hang in there for me". As he KNEW exactly how he was treating me.
If, if a man doesn't have "time" for me why the treetrunk are you at POF—?? I don't see him changing for you, girl.
Good luck.
Cyber hugs! 🤗
Love,
Eva
PS: Move on.
Hi. I deleted the entire post in order to give you my two cents worth. I dated a Cappy for three months. No sex. He wasn't a good kisser. I asked him over for Thanksgiving, and I asked him to open my bottle of wine. He didn't know how to do this (my oldest son 30 yrs old did this for me/him). I tend to "test" men in this department. Back to him not being a good kisser -- his kisses were wet. As Piscean, I also watch how a man walks. He walked as if he had osteoporosis. I too, met him on line (last year); he lived in an hour and a half from me and it was harder for him since he rode a motorcycle, worked Wed thru Sunday; went to night school, and what did he do on his days off (Mondays/Tuesdays)— He rested. Did he call me? No. Cappies are not communicators (or at least this one wasn't), and/or he studied for school. Girl, I got TIRED of it! Yeah, he'd text me, "Hang in there for me". As he KNEW exactly how he was treating me.
If, if a man doesn't have "time" for me why the treetrunk are you at POF—?? I don't see him changing for you, girl.
Good luck.
Cyber hugs! 🤗
Love,
Eva
PS: Move on.
I don't think you can change who someone is. Maybe you should find someone who gives u what you want.
My .02--
1) I guess I just don't understand how you've become this enthralled with someone you've only seen twice in person-- unless the other times you've seen each other don't qualify as "quality time". Further, the concept of "quality time" may seem like a no brainer- but that is an assumption. In reality it means different things to different people. It may be beneficial to state, with clarity, what it is you need/ want in that regard and follow that by letting him know those needs are going un-met.
2) I won't speak for him but, for me, the whole break-up scene would give me pause.
3) 6 months isn't very long, if you are looking for something to move faster, Capricorns probably aren't going to work for you. Yet, the tell (early on at least) is in our actions. So since it is early days still, I would be more concerned about his actions than his words.
4) You may not be doing this but don't over pursue. I have run in to this problem a lot and it works like this; if you're texting/ calling me every 10 to 15 mins it will seem down right ridiculous to me when you turn around and say "why don't you ever text/ call me?" because when the hell am I supposed to do that? Want me to initiate more- then fall back and let me work (on this) lol (gchat works wonders for this though)
5) The whole making plans and canceling is a red flag imo. Saying no to "easy money" hmmm Doesn't sound like he is there yet.
I honestly think this is a classic case of one person moving far more quickly than the other. That and the whole long distance thing (which I wouldn't entertain but that's just me). Hopefully you two can get on the same page.
1) I guess I just don't understand how you've become this enthralled with someone you've only seen twice in person-- unless the other times you've seen each other don't qualify as "quality time". Further, the concept of "quality time" may seem like a no brainer- but that is an assumption. In reality it means different things to different people. It may be beneficial to state, with clarity, what it is you need/ want in that regard and follow that by letting him know those needs are going un-met.
2) I won't speak for him but, for me, the whole break-up scene would give me pause.
3) 6 months isn't very long, if you are looking for something to move faster, Capricorns probably aren't going to work for you. Yet, the tell (early on at least) is in our actions. So since it is early days still, I would be more concerned about his actions than his words.
4) You may not be doing this but don't over pursue. I have run in to this problem a lot and it works like this; if you're texting/ calling me every 10 to 15 mins it will seem down right ridiculous to me when you turn around and say "why don't you ever text/ call me?" because when the hell am I supposed to do that? Want me to initiate more- then fall back and let me work (on this) lol (gchat works wonders for this though)
5) The whole making plans and canceling is a red flag imo. Saying no to "easy money" hmmm Doesn't sound like he is there yet.
I honestly think this is a classic case of one person moving far more quickly than the other. That and the whole long distance thing (which I wouldn't entertain but that's just me). Hopefully you two can get on the same page.
Posted by magikarpmeh. I like'em 😄
scorpio women? nope
Posted by EvatheDivaHi. I deleted the entire post in order to give you my two cents worth. I dated a Cappy for three months. No sex. He wasn't a good kisser. I asked him over for Thanksgiving, and I asked him to open my bottle of wine. He didn't know how to do this (my oldest son 30 yrs old did this for me/him). I tend to "test" men in this department. Back to him not being a good kisser -- his kisses were wet. As Piscean, I also watch how a man walks. He walked as if he had osteoporosis. I too, met him on line (last year); he lived in an hour and a half from me and it was harder for him since he rode a motorcycle, worked Wed thru Sunday; went to night school, and what did he do on his days off (Mondays/Tuesdays)— He rested. Did he call me? No. Cappies are not communicators (or at least this one wasn't), and/or he studied for school. Girl, I got TIRED of it! Yeah, he'd text me, "Hang in there for me". As he KNEW exactly how he was treating me.
I've never been one to chase, but he's got me chasing him & I can't keep up!!!
If, if a man doesn't have "time" for me why the treetrunk are you at POF—?? I don't see him changing for you, girl.
Good luck.
Cyber hugs! 🤗
Love,
Eva
PS: Move on.
Bad kissing is A MAJOR turn off! Lol! ? Yea he'll say things like "I'm sorry, I know I'm failing in that department.. or you act like I don't have time on purpose?" Huh? Then what is it cause I didn't ask to be your woman.. we don't talk much on the phone. He text.. mostly or we "Marco Polo" but that's not enough. This shit is stagnant. Feel like this relationship is stuck in one place! I want more!! I've met his closest friend. Talked to his kids on video chat once.. but I want more. I wanna meet his kids so maybe we can do things together with them.. idk what to do!? I've tried moving on but I know he can be better if we get past this bump. I don't see him letting go of work. Nope. He's asked before "where are WE moving?" That sounds nice & all but 6 months is too fast for "moving in" IMO
THANK YOU!! Cyber hugs back!!!! ?
Posted by pinkbird03That's true. Some people are stuck in their ways. Sigh...
I don't think you can change who someone is. Maybe you should find someone who gives u what you want.
Posted by Capri-sun
Yea some caps are better than others at meaning what they say. The heart of a Capricorn lies in their actions.
Only speaking for myself. I'm not all that slow in making a decision. Slow to fall in love, maybe. I can know whether I'm interested in a person or not upon meeting them.
Listen to the actions. I don't want to see you get hurt anymore than what you already might be feeling. Find a guy who is willing to cross oceans for you because the cap isn't putting in the effort.
Your hesitation is your intuition, follow that.
Yea we talk a lot.. which maybe be why I've grown to like him. I always rush things never start off as friends.. or get to know more.. but I do want time and it hurts me.. I see my friends spending time with their man and I can't lie I get a bit salty.. lol! Idk what to tell is genuine or not..
& you're right my time isn't given willingly so when I do give time, I expect a person to value it! Doesn't seem like he wants time, just maybe does t want me with anyone else.. ?
Posted by daron76Nope twice. That's it... I think I value our conversations.. and connection... I think something can go somewhere from that. Seeing him more would be wonderful.. but it's not happening and it sucks!! My closest friend was in the military and her and her dude would be countries apart, and they established something solely from conversation... text, calls, video chat... She got to retire after she served her time and now they are married and just had a baby.. it can happen. So I do t think it's odd that my feelings for him are deep.. he's a good dude IMO.. This is new for me.. never did long distance.. but damn we ain't that far. He says, he wants me, like me a lot... etc.. once he joked saying you better not let another "ninja" touch you or I'm gonna eff you up etc.. maybe I'm feeding off of words. Idk.. it seems genuine cause he's never told me what I wanted to hear... he keeps shit 100... & why say things you don't mean? It's a waste of time in my opinion. I would have been okay JUST being friends but he initiated more.. so I agreed. He was single 3 years before he met me. He dated but I'm the first girl he made "official" that speaks volumes I think? He doesn't say things he thinks I wanna hear but yea..
My .02--
1) I guess I just don't understand how you've become this enthralled with someone you've only seen twice in person-- unless the other times you've seen each other don't qualify as "quality time". Further, the concept of "quality time" may seem like a no brainer- but that is an assumption. In reality it means different things to different people. It may be beneficial to state, with clarity, what it is you need/ want in that regard and follow that by letting him know those needs are going un-met.
2) I won't speak for him but, for me, the whole break-up scene would give me pause.
3) 6 months isn't very long, if you are looking for something to move faster, Capricorns probably aren't going to work for you. Yet, the tell (early on at least) is in our actions. So since it is early days still, I would be more concerned about his actions than his words.
4) You may not be doing this but don't over pursue. I have run in to this problem a lot and it works like this; if you're texting/ calling me every 10 to 15 mins it will seem down right ridiculous to me when you turn around and say "why don't you ever text/ call me?" because when the hell am I supposed to do that? Want me to initiate more- then fall back and let me work (on this) lol (gchat works wonders for this though)
5) The whole making plans and canceling is a red flag imo. Saying no to "easy money" hmmm Doesn't sound like he is there yet.
I honestly think this is a classic case of one person moving far more quickly than the other. That and the whole long distance thing (which I wouldn't entertain but that's just me). Hopefully you two can get on the same page.
When I broke it off he was working, he text back and says "damn babe are you serious?" I say it's hard when one person has more time then the other. He responded "I understand where you coming from" so I say "so it's mutual" (the break up) he says "no I didn't say it's mutual".. he goes into.. "I really like you, you're a great woman.. beautiful inside & out.. work gets the best of me and I wish I could spend everyday with you... I've failed in that department but I hope we can still be friends..." we kept texting back n forth.. the next day we talk and I tell him I still want him to be in my life no matter how that plays out and he says "I want you too..." this is on video chat.. not texting at this point.. maybe my break hurt him. Idk what he dealt with in the past as far as his kids mom or women in general but he seems like he's been hurt badly.. I don't really like to dig too deep into ppls past relationships.. so idk much..
It is early.. & im trying to take it slow. In my past I jumped in & out of relationships fast didn't give myself time to know what I was dealing with.. & clearly those other relationships didn't work out.. so the pace is okay. I'm willing to be patient but I want "quality time." I think anyone in a relationship would want that..
I don't over pursue .. I'm not a nagger.. we give each other the same thing as far as reaching out.. he's gotten quiet and I let him be.. I need my space too.. we've got into little disagreements and I get "quiet" but he continuously reaches out til I'm okay.. & he's gotten mad at me, I reach out & there was one time that he needed a longer moment and I let him have that. I'm by no means a "needy" women. & I make that clear to him... there's been times where we don't talk a whole day & im okay with that... I think he likes that I give him space..
Actions do speak louder & I don't wanna give up but I've let him know that I will if I need to... when I say do you wanna just be friends he says no! Like dude WTF is it then. Compromise. There are dudes that reach out that are friends but they def want more .. I don't have eyes for them.. this is some weird shit for me cause normally at this point I'd be like funk it! ✌? He put a spell on me Lls! This ain't me!
Posted by Capri-sunYes why not? We connected quick as hell! I've dated another Capricorn and he loved tf outta me. He's dated other women but never made it official. He wanted to marry me but it was some things I didn't like in him. We're still friends tho. There is plenty of proof online that say Caps & Scorps are the perfect match they just have to get over communication issues & stubborness! Look it up! Match made in heaven! Lol! Capricorn men need a feisty women like us scorps. We don't take their shit and they don't take ours. 😛Posted by magikarpWhy not
scorpio women? nopeclick to expand
Posted by daron76& I luh cap men! Mmm mmm!Posted by magikarpmeh. I like'em 😄
scorpio women? nopeclick to expand
Posted by magikarpLmao! Hell yeah! I'm not a "tree hugger" but if I find some shit out beware!!Posted by Capri-sunbcs they will kill me if i cheat ?Posted by magikarpWhy not
scorpio women? nopeclick to expand
Posted by magikarpThat's psycho!! I'm not really killing anyone.. crazy! ?Posted by Capri-sunPosted by magikarpPosted by Capri-sunbcs they will kill me if i cheat ?Posted by magikarpWhy not
scorpio women? nope
Then don't cheat.So you like pisces. What about cancers?
theres one capricorn men that get killed by scorpio women in most sadistic way you can ever imagine in australia. and thats make me traumtic till this day. but i never hate scorpios?click to expand
Posted by ParisianCappyI guess it's the same in a way.. um it doesn't delete your thread tho. It's like a video "Walkie talkie" it works for us with our schedules because we can quickly say what we want and respond when we can throughout the day.. snapchat is more private. Erases after the person sees it. On MP I can go back to our first convo & watch when I want to. I like it! 🙂
someone using marco polo, what the difference of snapchat
Posted by Capri-sunYes Capri! It's never worked so this "slow" pace is ok. It's different. But I'm still not backing down on my "quality time" lol!Posted by poison_ivyPosted by Capri-sun
Yea some caps are better than others at meaning what they say. The heart of a Capricorn lies in their actions.
Only speaking for myself. I'm not all that slow in making a decision. Slow to fall in love, maybe. I can know whether I'm interested in a person or not upon meeting them.
Listen to the actions. I don't want to see you get hurt anymore than what you already might be feeling. Find a guy who is willing to cross oceans for you because the cap isn't putting in the effort.
Your hesitation is your intuition, follow that.
Yea we talk a lot.. which maybe be why I've grown to like him. I always rush things never start off as friends.. or get to know more.. but I do want time and it hurts me.. I see my friends spending time with their man and I can't lie I get a bit salty.. lol! Idk what to tell is genuine or not..
& you're right my time isn't given willingly so when I do give time, I expect a person to value it! Doesn't seem like he wants time, just maybe does t want me with anyone else.. ?
I'm like this too so I get it
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My dad is a cap.. just like my bf. He cancels on his wife at times FOR WORK! Can't say no.. Smh!! I ask her for advice.. she says she had to find ways to work around his schedule.. if he can't do it the way she wants, she finds ways that are convenient for him. You Capricorns are a tough crowd to please but wonderful people at heart. I think all of you mean well.. being that I'm a Scorpio I can handle everything you give..
My cap makes me happy with everything else.. I have sarcastic humor and so does he.. we talk shit to each other .. it just works. Some ppl are too serious. We are alike in many ways. He say what he had and locked me down but he just can't quite his hustle. I respect it.. someone told me to give him a time frame. Where he has to meet my expectations & if he doesn't you know if he's serious or not..
Posted by poison_ivy*He saw what he had and locked me down...Posted by Capri-sunYes Capri! It's never worked so this "slow" pace is ok. It's different. But I'm still not backing down on my "quality time" lol!Posted by poison_ivyPosted by Capri-sun
Yea some caps are better than others at meaning what they say. The heart of a Capricorn lies in their actions.
Only speaking for myself. I'm not all that slow in making a decision. Slow to fall in love, maybe. I can know whether I'm interested in a person or not upon meeting them.
Listen to the actions. I don't want to see you get hurt anymore than what you already might be feeling. Find a guy who is willing to cross oceans for you because the cap isn't putting in the effort.
Your hesitation is your intuition, follow that.
Yea we talk a lot.. which maybe be why I've grown to like him. I always rush things never start off as friends.. or get to know more.. but I do want time and it hurts me.. I see my friends spending time with their man and I can't lie I get a bit salty.. lol! Idk what to tell is genuine or not..
& you're right my time isn't given willingly so when I do give time, I expect a person to value it! Doesn't seem like he wants time, just maybe does t want me with anyone else.. ?
I'm like this too so I get it
My dad is a cap.. just like my bf. He cancels on his wife at times FOR WORK! Can't say no.. Smh!! I ask her for advice.. she says she had to find ways to work around his schedule.. if he can't do it the way she wants, she finds ways that are convenient for him. You Capricorns are a tough crowd to please but wonderful people at heart. I think all of you mean well.. being that I'm a Scorpio I can handle everything you give..
My cap makes me happy with everything else.. I have sarcastic humor and so does he.. we talk shit to each other .. it just works. Some ppl are too serious. We are alike in many ways. He say what he had and locked me down but he just can't quite his hustle. I respect it.. but I want what I want. I'm not asking for a lot.. someone told me to give him a time frame. Where he has to meet my expectations & if he doesn't you know if he's serious or not..click to expand
Posted by poison_ivyBad kissing is A MAJOR turn off! Lol! ? Yea he'll say things like "I'm sorry, I know I'm failing in that department.. or you act like I don't have time on purpose?" Huh? Then what is it cause I didn't ask to be your woman.. we don't talk much on the phone. He text.. mostly or we "Marco Polo" but that's not enough. This shit is stagnant. Feel like this relationship is stuck in one place! I want more!! I've met his closest friend. Talked to his kids on video chat once.. but I want more. I wanna meet his kids so maybe we can do things together with them.. idk what to do!? I've tried moving on but I know he can be better if we get past this bump. I don't see him letting go of work. Nope. He's asked before "where are WE moving?" That sounds nice & all but 6 months is too fast for "moving in" IMOPosted by EvatheDivaHi. I deleted the entire post in order to give you my two cents worth. I dated a Cappy for three months. No sex. He wasn't a good kisser. I asked him over for Thanksgiving, and I asked him to open my bottle of wine. He didn't know how to do this (my oldest son 30 yrs old did this for me/him). I tend to "test" men in this department. Back to him not being a good kisser -- his kisses were wet. As Piscean, I also watch how a man walks. He walked as if he had osteoporosis. I too, met him on line (last year); he lived in an hour and a half from me and it was harder for him since he rode a motorcycle, worked Wed thru Sunday; went to night school, and what did he do on his days off (Mondays/Tuesdays)— He rested. Did he call me? No. Cappies are not communicators (or at least this one wasn't), and/or he studied for school. Girl, I got TIRED of it! Yeah, he'd text me, "Hang in there for me". As he KNEW exactly how he was treating me.
I've never been one to chase, but he's got me chasing him & I can't keep up!!!
If, if a man doesn't have "time" for me why the treetrunk are you at POF—?? I don't see him changing for you, girl.
Good luck.
Cyber hugs! 🤗
Love,
Eva
PS: Move on.
THANK YOU!! Cyber hugs back!!!! ?
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YW. Since you had "luck" on a dating website, I'd go back. Have you heard the statistics are that single men hit the month of January when looking for a relationship? They feel maybe, that they are ready for said relationship and go on dating sites. If I were you, I'd do that. And this time, be specific, if you do/do not want a LDR. 🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Posted by EvatheDivaYW. Since you had "luck" on a dating website, I'd go back. Have you heard the statistics are that single men hit the month of January when looking for a relationship? They feel maybe, that they are ready for said relationship and go on dating sites. If I were you, I'd do that. And this time, be specific, if you do/do not want a LDR. 🤗 cyber hugs!Posted by poison_ivyBad kissing is A MAJOR turn off! Lol! ? Yea he'll say things like "I'm sorry, I know I'm failing in that department.. or you act like I don't have time on purpose?" Huh? Then what is it cause I didn't ask to be your woman.. we don't talk much on the phone. He text.. mostly or we "Marco Polo" but that's not enough. This shit is stagnant. Feel like this relationship is stuck in one place! I want more!! I've met his closest friend. Talked to his kids on video chat once.. but I want more. I wanna meet his kids so maybe we can do things together with them.. idk what to do!? I've tried moving on but I know he can be better if we get past this bump. I don't see him letting go of work. Nope. He's asked before "where are WE moving?" That sounds nice & all but 6 months is too fast for "moving in" IMOPosted by EvatheDivaHi. I deleted the entire post in order to give you my two cents worth. I dated a Cappy for three months. No sex. He wasn't a good kisser. I asked him over for Thanksgiving, and I asked him to open my bottle of wine. He didn't know how to do this (my oldest son 30 yrs old did this for me/him). I tend to "test" men in this department. Back to him not being a good kisser -- his kisses were wet. As Piscean, I also watch how a man walks. He walked as if he had osteoporosis. I too, met him on line (last year); he lived in an hour and a half from me and it was harder for him since he rode a motorcycle, worked Wed thru Sunday; went to night school, and what did he do on his days off (Mondays/Tuesdays)— He rested. Did he call me? No. Cappies are not communicators (or at least this one wasn't), and/or he studied for school. Girl, I got TIRED of it! Yeah, he'd text me, "Hang in there for me". As he KNEW exactly how he was treating me.
I've never been one to chase, but he's got me chasing him & I can't keep up!!!
If, if a man doesn't have "time" for me why the treetrunk are you at POF—?? I don't see him changing for you, girl.
Good luck.
Cyber hugs! 🤗
Love,
Eva
PS: Move on.
THANK YOU!! Cyber hugs back!!!! ?
Love,
Eva
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Yea it's worth a try... We talked last night and he was so non chalant about what I wanted. SO I think it's time to call it quits.
THANKS EVA!! 🙂 BIG CYBER HUG!!!!!!
Posted by ScorpioTruthWOW! Thank you for this advice! I've never had to swallow my pride so much with him because as you know, us Scorpios speak our mind and say exactly what we want. We can come off as rude at times and I have a bit of a temper... so we've had some big arguments for things I assume or for me speaking before thinking logically. He says, "it's not what you say it's how you say it" & "Assumption is a major turn-off" so I'm learning to ask him questions, take time to think things over then come back on solid grounds and talk things over with him.. and he's always honest with me no matter how his response makes me feel. I love that because I don't like people that "soften up" the truth with me. I've always told him be honest, loyal and respect me... I fell for him on our very first convo.. almost like I knew him for years and we were catching up on lost times.. Our vibe was irresistible and not to mention the sex was great! 🙂 He's very affectionate and loving.. & he can handle me. Im a dominate woman and so far he's the only man that can take my "shit" or "tame" me respectfully..
The best advice I can give as a Scorpio woman who has been with a cap for 8 years.. Your actions right now are setting the tone for the relationship. If something doesn't make you happy, speak up about it and don't bend or mold yourself to be what you think he wants you to be.
But I want MORE time and I've expressed this to him more than I can bare. I don't like to be a bother or beg and whine. I also think our LDR plays a role in not being able to see each other more because of his work schedule but I'm being patient. I wanna make this last.
But I will continue to speak up on what doesn't make me happy.
Is your cap a workaholic? If so how do you deal with that?
Posted by poison_ivyPosted by EvatheDivaYW. Since you had "luck" on a dating website, I'd go back. Have you heard the statistics are that single men hit the month of January when looking for a relationship? They feel maybe, that they are ready for said relationship and go on dating sites. If I were you, I'd do that. And this time, be specific, if you do/do not want a LDR. 🤗 cyber hugs!Posted by poison_ivyBad kissing is A MAJOR turn off! Lol! ? Yea he'll say things like "I'm sorry, I know I'm failing in that department.. or you act like I don't have time on purpose?" Huh? Then what is it cause I didn't ask to be your woman.. we don't talk much on the phone. He text.. mostly or we "Marco Polo" but that's not enough. This shit is stagnant. Feel like this relationship is stuck in one place! I want more!! I've met his closest friend. Talked to his kids on video chat once.. but I want more. I wanna meet his kids so maybe we can do things together with them.. idk what to do!? I've tried moving on but I know he can be better if we get past this bump. I don't see him letting go of work. Nope. He's asked before "where are WE moving?" That sounds nice & all but 6 months is too fast for "moving in" IMOPosted by EvatheDivaHi. I deleted the entire post in order to give you my two cents worth. I dated a Cappy for three months. No sex. He wasn't a good kisser. I asked him over for Thanksgiving, and I asked him to open my bottle of wine. He didn't know how to do this (my oldest son 30 yrs old did this for me/him). I tend to "test" men in this department. Back to him not being a good kisser -- his kisses were wet. As Piscean, I also watch how a man walks. He walked as if he had osteoporosis. I too, met him on line (last year); he lived in an hour and a half from me and it was harder for him since he rode a motorcycle, worked Wed thru Sunday; went to night school, and what did he do on his days off (Mondays/Tuesdays)— He rested. Did he call me? No. Cappies are not communicators (or at least this one wasn't), and/or he studied for school. Girl, I got TIRED of it! Yeah, he'd text me, "Hang in there for me". As he KNEW exactly how he was treating me.
I've never been one to chase, but he's got me chasing him & I can't keep up!!!
If, if a man doesn't have "time" for me why the treetrunk are you at POF—?? I don't see him changing for you, girl.
Good luck.
Cyber hugs! 🤗
Love,
Eva
PS: Move on.
THANK YOU!! Cyber hugs back!!!! ?
Love,
Eva
Yea it's worth a try... We talked last night and he was so non chalant about what I wanted. SO I think it's time to call it quits.
THANKS EVA!! 🙂 BIG CYBER HUG!!!!!!
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^5 (high five) girl!!!!! 😎 🤗 cyber hugs! and YW. Keep us posted.
Love,
Eva
@Op if some one was going through this what kind of advice would you give? It's familiar scenarios with this topic alone.
Posted by EvatheDiva^5 (high five) girl!!!!! 😎 🤗 cyber hugs! and YW. Keep us posted.Posted by poison_ivyPosted by EvatheDivaYW. Since you had "luck" on a dating website, I'd go back. Have you heard the statistics are that single men hit the month of January when looking for a relationship? They feel maybe, that they are ready for said relationship and go on dating sites. If I were you, I'd do that. And this time, be specific, if you do/do not want a LDR. 🤗 cyber hugs!Posted by poison_ivyBad kissing is A MAJOR turn off! Lol! ? Yea he'll say things like "I'm sorry, I know I'm failing in that department.. or you act like I don't have time on purpose?" Huh? Then what is it cause I didn't ask to be your woman.. we don't talk much on the phone. He text.. mostly or we "Marco Polo" but that's not enough. This shit is stagnant. Feel like this relationship is stuck in one place! I want more!! I've met his closest friend. Talked to his kids on video chat once.. but I want more. I wanna meet his kids so maybe we can do things together with them.. idk what to do!? I've tried moving on but I know he can be better if we get past this bump. I don't see him letting go of work. Nope. He's asked before "where are WE moving?" That sounds nice & all but 6 months is too fast for "moving in" IMOPosted by EvatheDivaHi. I deleted the entire post in order to give you my two cents worth. I dated a Cappy for three months. No sex. He wasn't a good kisser. I asked him over for Thanksgiving, and I asked him to open my bottle of wine. He didn't know how to do this (my oldest son 30 yrs old did this for me/him). I tend to "test" men in this department. Back to him not being a good kisser -- his kisses were wet. As Piscean, I also watch how a man walks. He walked as if he had osteoporosis. I too, met him on line (last year); he lived in an hour and a half from me and it was harder for him since he rode a motorcycle, worked Wed thru Sunday; went to night school, and what did he do on his days off (Mondays/Tuesdays)— He rested. Did he call me? No. Cappies are not communicators (or at least this one wasn't), and/or he studied for school. Girl, I got TIRED of it! Yeah, he'd text me, "Hang in there for me". As he KNEW exactly how he was treating me.
I've never been one to chase, but he's got me chasing him & I can't keep up!!!
If, if a man doesn't have "time" for me why the treetrunk are you at POF—?? I don't see him changing for you, girl.
Good luck.
Cyber hugs! 🤗
Love,
Eva
PS: Move on.
THANK YOU!! Cyber hugs back!!!! ?
Love,
Eva
Yea it's worth a try... We talked last night and he was so non chalant about what I wanted. SO I think it's time to call it quits.
THANKS EVA!! 🙂 BIG CYBER HUG!!!!!!
Love,
Eva
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I certainly will! ?
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Well.. it depends. I really like him and I know he is actually working and doing what he says he's doing. I trust him.. he's not out partying, messing with other females.. I know this thru our forms of communication..? He's working for a future and taking care of his kids..
@Op if some one was going through this what kind of advice would you give? It's familiar scenarios with this topic alone.
there is only 2 things Someone can do in my situation..
1) Deal with it
•find things that work around our schedules
•if he can't see me, I have to go to him..
I know if we have a lasting relationship, this distance won't be forever, so I'll be patient for now.
2) Move on
When you can't deal too much longer, you have to know when to let go.. my feelings are genuine so it's not that easy for me to like someone SO much one day and drop them like they're nothing the next.. so if I ever felt the need to move on, I will, but it will take time.
I don't give up easily especially because of the feelings I have for him. It's only so much I can take so if I don't get what I want, I know that I will have the courage to walk away. I know my worth and I'm a strong woman. But again I do have feelings and I know this time will pass.
Posted by ScorpioTruthSounds like me growing up.. my dad (Capricorn man also) was a workaholic and barely made time for me & my sister. So I'm familiar with situations like this. It's not a good feeling but I'm learning to be patient.. I have a 9 to 5, my own biz, I travel & go to lots of events for work & pleasure.. so I keep myself busy but I make time for what I want also. I want time.. I'm hands on & a very affectionate woman so I miss his touch and I want to please him (not just sexually) but that 1 on 1 (face to face time) makes a big difference in a relationship.. we make up for the missed time through communication.. it sucks though when things get emotional or we get mushy and I can't grab him and kiss him or when I'm having a bad day and I tell him I wish he could grab and hold me like he says he would.. or when he's sick & Vic e versa, we wish we could take care of one another but obviously we can't.. I guess I'm really learning to be okay on my own and patient. I really do miss him tho!
@poison_ivy, yes he is a workaholic... For the most part, it didn't bother me because my dad has always been a workaholic so I was used to that growing up.. and I'm a nurse so I keep busy too. He works a lot but text messages and/or calls me frequently from work and sometimes we meet up for lunch. We lived together up until a couple months ago so I saw him everyday so time wasn't an issue for us.. I moved out with our son after learning that he cheated on me.
I think if I were in a long distance relationship, I would need more time and more conversation/contact to compensate for the distance. I don't think I could do LD. I've tried it in the past and it's just not for me.
How did you find out about your guy cheating?.. & you're still with him? (No judgement) what were the signs? What is your mans Venus?
Posted by ScorpioTruthAWW Man! That is the worst. I'm not one to snoop.. but as a Scorpio, I'm sure you know how we are with intuition.. we sense things quickly and it does bring out the inner detective in us. I am like this myself.. I don't like to get played. So I understand you... Stand your ground! Im sure you are.. Scorps aren't quick to forgive or forget.. I think if he shows and proves you would be able to go back.. Nothing like keeping a family together...but that heart is deep... He's gonna have to win you over BIG time if he wants his family back together..
No, we are not still together. I left him in November, I moved out of our house within weeks of finding out (I went through his email and found photos then confronted him) we have a 2 year old son together so we still see each other regularly. I hated him for a good week straight, but we are still friends and he's doing everything in his power to get me to come back home. I keep going back and forth about it... Needless to say my mind and heart are at war right now.
He's the notorious Aqua Venus.
DAMN DAMN DAMN... I just looked at my mans natal chart a couple days ago and he's Aqua Venus also.. I hear nothing but negative things about them...😢 What's his Moon sign?
Posted by ScorpioTruthYea after a really big fight we had.. I snapped, went off on him and he shut down for almost 2 weeks straight.. He would give me one word or short responses when we talked and wasn't acting like himself.. I questioned if he wanted to stay with me and he would say "yes, our issues have nothing to do with being together, I want you.." but I was like then why are you acting so shut off from me..? He said I left a bad taste in his mouth....& he had to "get over it"... Welp, I snooped! Came up a little empty handed... but if I suspect something, I told him I will approach him and the other parties involved about the shit.. I don't do BS or beating around the bush... Those 2 weeks were so hard.. I missed him.. hated his distant behavior.. so I don't speak up often, I backed off a bit.. I go distant sometimes but it's like we cant let go of each other .. something about "US" feels good.. but because of your advice... I WILL continue to speak up about my issues when I feel the need.. ! I actually get upset and go silent on him.. he notices because he starts to be all caring & loving more so he knows when Im upset.. I have a mouth and a temper (im learning to control it with him) but I've never really been one to hold my tongue.. if anything I "go quiet" to avoid speaking too soon and hurting feelings..
As far as the signs, there were multiple red flags over the years that you could say I chose to ignore. I blamed my own insecurity and forced myself to trust him against my own better judgment. Little simple things such as passcodes on his phone and email raised my eyebrow.. There were also a couple times he was out of town for work and didn't answer his phone at night when I called. Those instances were so far and few between, I just brushed them off even though they bothered me. I never had any concrete proof until he forgot to log out of his email and I snooped.
He's a homebody like me and never went out besides to work or the gym, he was never in bars or clubs so I used to talk myself down and told myself I had nothing to worry about. It was not often that a red flag would pop up...but when one did, I buried it instead of confronting him and that's where I went wrong.. Which is why I posted my original comment about never censoring yourself or your feelings for any man. Not saying that you are doing that, but as a Scorpio woman myself I know we have the potential to be like chameleons.
Posted by ScorpioTruthYou're right.. There's no excuse for cheating... It hurts worst than anything a partner can do, IMO! I think past experiences add to the Zodiac personality.. but makes the trait a different level than someone else of the same zodiac..
His moon sign is cancer, like mine. He's an exceptionally mushy cap... He's not at all cold or detached like they describe some caps with Aqua Venus. He's always been very affectionate and open with me. That's why I am so confused about why he did this. He swears it's nothing I did wrong. I know he had some issues growing up and experienced some things that no child should have to experience. I don't know if that has anything to do with it or not. My Venus in Virgo wants to analyze everything and figure out the WHY. I just need to be careful to not make any excuses for him. There's no good excuse.
For example.. I can get jealous (known scorp trait) but I don't get AS jealous as the next Scorpio would.. Mine isn't extreme.. I may get jealous but the person will never know.. You'd really have to read into my actions to know that Im jealous of someone or something..
His moon is in Taurus.. My Venus is in Sag and My moon is in Libra
See, good to vent on these forums as you find people who have similar experiences that can relate and give you sound advice... I'm glad I posted this Message! SMH!
@ScorpioTruth I have never been passive like you say you aren't either.. so It is a HARD pill to swallow.. I like to be heard and I need shit to be comfortable for me... Sigh.. I just hate when he gets all moody and goes all distant.. When I mirror him he almost "makes" me reach out.. he overly writes me and calls me.. says he misses me etc.. and I reach back quicker than he does when he pulls his "disappearing act".. SMH! There has to be an equal "give and take' but I learned that Caps are highly sensitive.. They can dish it but can't take it..
Thank you for this advice girl! 🙂
@ScorpioTruth I have never been passive like you say you aren't either.. so It is a HARD pill to swallow.. I like to be heard and I need shit to be comfortable for me... Sigh.. I just hate when he gets all moody and goes all distant.. When I mirror him he almost "makes" me reach out.. he overly writes me and calls me.. says he misses me etc.. and I reach back quicker than he does when he pulls his "disappearing act".. SMH! There has to be an equal "give and take' but I learned that Caps are highly sensitive.. They can dish it but can't take it..
Thank you for this advice girl! 🙂
Posted by ScorpioTruthHAHAH!!! Girl we are almost the same in MANY ways!!! I have 4 different Libra placements also.. & Scorp in Sun!! Im def like that... "Fuck THIS shit.. Fuck you.." Ive told you him to leave me alone before..(he becomes aggressive and will say "don't be a jerk, Im not letting you not ever talk to me again!" I fall for it EVERY TIME!! *rolls eyes*) BUT something about the Cap man and him being able to handle my "shit" unlike other men I've been with is so attractive to me.. I like challenge BUT damn.. I be ready to say FUCK HIM and then be like no no no wait.. lol! SO FUCKING confusing.. I usually by now would have bee washed my hands of the shit and moved on to the next (I PLAYS NO GAMES!) My mind and my heart don't play well together with him tho!
It doesn't help that I have 4 Libra placements in my chart including my rising. That Libran influence counteracts my Scorpio sun.. The libra in me wants peace and harmony and to avoid rocking the boat. My scorp sun and sag in Mars is like fuck this and fuck you. LMAO
Posted by AneemAYea, I'm EXTREMELY hands on when it comes to someone that I really like... TOUCH. Drives me insane. I think the fact that Scorpios are HIGH UP on the scale when it comes to our sexual side, that plays a huge role in wanting a WHOLE lot of time.. or in my case (LDR) as much as I can get..... I can't help it.
Scorpios' needs for quality time with someone they go head over heels for is massively stronger than others. It resonates well to me.
Hhhh... What to do.. Guess understand that his needs of quality time with you doesn't match yours? And by understanding is for you to manage your needs by focusing on other things to make you happy that has nothing to do with spending time with him.
That's what I can think of right now.
Btw, isn't it the core rule to expect capricorns to be workaholics?
Yea, I make myself so busy now... That I don't think about it as much as I use to.. I think you're right.. You ever heard of the 5 Languages of LOVE? He may not speak the same language of love as me therefore he may not need quality time to know if he wants to be with me, love me etc.. He's never made anything mostly about sex either.. He can go long without it.. ME.. OMG!! I LIKE HIM SO MUCH, I want to have it whenever we can" But that's JUST me.. 😄
Yea, My dad is also a Cap.. HE WORKS HIS ASS OFF TOO! Im use to it.. but I don't really like it.
Posted by AneemAEXACTLY! I took the test & Obviously I would get "quality time" as my love language.. Because it's what I currently want..Posted by poison_ivyExactly, 5 languages: touch, quality time, gift, act of service, words of affirmations.Posted by AneemAYea, I'm EXTREMELY hands on when it comes to someone that I really like... TOUCH. Drives me insane. I think the fact that Scorpios are HIGH UP on the scale when it comes to our sexual side, that plays a huge role in wanting a WHOLE lot of time.. or in my case (LDR) as much as I can get..... I can't help it.
Scorpios' needs for quality time with someone they go head over heels for is massively stronger than others. It resonates well to me.
Hhhh... What to do.. Guess understand that his needs of quality time with you doesn't match yours? And by understanding is for you to manage your needs by focusing on other things to make you happy that has nothing to do with spending time with him.
That's what I can think of right now.
Btw, isn't it the core rule to expect capricorns to be workaholics?
Yea, I make myself so busy now... That I don't think about it as much as I use to.. I think you're right.. You ever heard of the 5 Languages of LOVE? He may not speak the same language of love as me therefore he may not need quality time to know if he wants to be with me, love me etc.. He's never made anything mostly about sex either.. He can go long without it.. ME.. OMG!! I LIKE HIM SO MUCH, I want to have it whenever we can" But that's JUST me.. 😄
Yea, My dad is also a Cap.. HE WORKS HIS ASS OFF TOO! Im use to it.. but I don't really like it.
He can go long without sex, weeee... Hang tight! For it's gonna be a whirlwind.
But hey, cappy can be real passionate too, I think. So it's good right there.
Hope you guys will work out 🙂
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YES! He says "waiting makes it better!" SIGH!.. such a tease.. lol.. O yes, PASSION!?!! So much passion! 😉
Thank you! I hope we do as well!
Posted by Capri-sunSo sad. & sometimes you have to put aside "making the kids happy" and make you happy...Posted by ScorpioTruth
it's not so much that I'm trying to blame myself, but I like to try to "fix" things. I can't know how to fix it if I don't know why it happened in the first place. Before having our son of sex life was extremely healthy, intense and frequent. But I had our son during my last and busiest semester of nursing school.. I was exhausted all of the time. I was studying for nursing school and up in the middle of the night nursing our baby every 2 hours. My body also stopped responding, I had no sex drive whatsoever. We still had sex once every 1-2 weeks but nothing like before. I admit I felt horrible like I was depriving him.. But I was so exhausted. But from the looks of things, he had cheated even before I became pregnant or had the baby.
I'm sorry to hear that.
Speaking only from my experience, I tried fixing things, I also tried stay for my kids. At the end of the day nothing was going to make my ex be faithful. His was anything that walked versus an extended affair.
I know you're going through a difficult time right now. Here for you in any way that I can be.
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I second Capri.. Here if you need advice, or anything.. 🙂
I just saw this on my front page and realized I had a conversation with you in another thread about Capricorns not showing emotion lol.
From everything that he has done so far, such as starting a relationship with you when he hasn't had a real one in 3 years, not wanting to break up with you, suggesting to be friends even when you were breaking up with him, shows that he does like you a lot. I agree with what everyone else is saying about the actions thing though. Actions do speak louder than words, and us Capricorns know that. You said his moon sign is a Taurus, so maybe that's why he's moving reallyyy slow. He may feel comfortable enough to not put in as much effort as you'd want him to because he feels this relationship is secure and that you are crazy enough about him so the relationship itself isn't threatened if he continues to put work over you. At the same time, it seems like he's not really listening to your needs or putting you as a priority.
Maybe you can try to speak with him about finding a middle ground where you can meet each other halfway. You want more quality time spent together in person but he's really into his work. So maybe you can work around that and find a suitable amount of time you can spend with each other per week for example that works for both of you.
But I definitely see how work is so important to a Capricorn though, especially since he's in his 30s and has two kids to support.
From everything that he has done so far, such as starting a relationship with you when he hasn't had a real one in 3 years, not wanting to break up with you, suggesting to be friends even when you were breaking up with him, shows that he does like you a lot. I agree with what everyone else is saying about the actions thing though. Actions do speak louder than words, and us Capricorns know that. You said his moon sign is a Taurus, so maybe that's why he's moving reallyyy slow. He may feel comfortable enough to not put in as much effort as you'd want him to because he feels this relationship is secure and that you are crazy enough about him so the relationship itself isn't threatened if he continues to put work over you. At the same time, it seems like he's not really listening to your needs or putting you as a priority.
Maybe you can try to speak with him about finding a middle ground where you can meet each other halfway. You want more quality time spent together in person but he's really into his work. So maybe you can work around that and find a suitable amount of time you can spend with each other per week for example that works for both of you.
But I definitely see how work is so important to a Capricorn though, especially since he's in his 30s and has two kids to support.
Posted by ScorpioTruthYou sound very similar to me. I'm Libra moon and have 4 Libra placements. When something riles me inside I'm like fuck this shit (not sure what influence that is) Then after I've had time to reflect I want peace and harmony and want to avoid rocking the boat. It's like I go from raging mad to calm and peace.
It doesn't help that I have 4 Libra placements in my chart including my rising. That Libran influence counteracts my Scorpio sun.. The libra in me wants peace and harmony and to avoid rocking the boat. My scorp sun and sag in Mars is like fuck this and fuck you. LMAO
AWW Man! That is the worst. I'm not one to snoop.. but as a Scorpio, I'm sure you know how we are with intuition.. we sense things quickly and it does bring out the inner detective in us. I am like this myself.. I don't like to get played. So I understand you... Stand your ground! Im sure you are.. Scorps aren't quick to forgive or forget.. I think if he shows and proves you would be able to go back.. Nothing like keeping a family together...but that heart is deep... He's gonna have to win you over BIG time if he wants his family back together..
DAMN DAMN DAMN... I just looked at my mans natal chart a couple days ago and he's Aqua Venus also.. I hear nothing but negative things about them...😢 What's his Moon sign?
I'm Aquarius Venus and I don't feel like I can relate at all. I've never cheated on anyone and I'm a one guy kind of girl.
Posted by WonderWoman14AWW Man! That is the worst. I'm not one to snoop.. but as a Scorpio, I'm sure you know how we are with intuition.. we sense things quickly and it does bring out the inner detective in us. I am like this myself.. I don't like to get played. So I understand you... Stand your ground! Im sure you are.. Scorps aren't quick to forgive or forget.. I think if he shows and proves you would be able to go back.. Nothing like keeping a family together...but that heart is deep... He's gonna have to win you over BIG time if he wants his family back together..
DAMN DAMN DAMN... I just looked at my mans natal chart a couple days ago and he's Aqua Venus also.. I hear nothing but negative things about them...😢 What's his Moon sign?
I'm Aquarius Venus and I don't feel like I can relate at all. I've never cheated on anyone and I'm a one guy kind of girl.
Well that gives me hope. But there is somewhat of a difference between a man and a woman... So far so good with my cap man so I don't wanna jinx it tho. 🙂
Well that gives me hope. But there is somewhat of a difference between a man and a woman... So far so good with my cap man so I don't wanna jinx it tho. 🙂
Yes that is true. So far so good with my cap man but I've just realised his mars is in Gemini and that's not great haha certainly explains his past sex life☺️? his Venus is in Scorpio which I like.
@WonderWoman14
Yeah, I know what you mean by the Gemini part..lol But after all the stuff my Gemini put me through.. he's come back in my life with a deeper passion for me.. It's so weird! LOL! Im like I moved on but he always ask me things to compare himself to my man.. Gemini's I think are good ppl, we always have good talks and laughs, they just have a hard time being set on one mood.. Those twins make them seem very bipolar and unstable.. IMO.. He's very giving of himself and will do for anyone.. In the aspect of a woman, he doesn't know what he wants.. smh. and scared of letting his ego down and being hurt. Understandable. I don't think you have anything to worry about tho.
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Yeah, I know what you mean by the Gemini part..lol But after all the stuff my Gemini put me through.. he's come back in my life with a deeper passion for me.. It's so weird! LOL! Im like I moved on but he always ask me things to compare himself to my man.. Gemini's I think are good ppl, we always have good talks and laughs, they just have a hard time being set on one mood.. Those twins make them seem very bipolar and unstable.. IMO.. He's very giving of himself and will do for anyone.. In the aspect of a woman, he doesn't know what he wants.. smh. and scared of letting his ego down and being hurt. Understandable. I don't think you have anything to worry about tho.
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So I'm still getting used to being patient. My cap boyfriend is so busy this time of year so I haven't been hearing or seeing him as often as I'm used to. I think about all the advice that's given on DXPNET on "dealing with a cap" so I know that it's in his nature. He's a workaholic and he does get busy but this is the busiest he's ever been since being with him and he has been a bit "silent" lately.. I have no signs or clues of him cheating.. when he says he is working he is doing just that... says he's with his kids & he is with them... at home, he's most likely laid out watching sports.. says he's at the bar and he's there chatting with his good friends (BTW if we talk on Facetime or Marco Polo, he'll turn the phone to his friends and tell them to say hi..) Whenever we Facetime, etc (where I can see visual proof), he's exactly where he says he is.. BUT... Of course, with me being a Scorpio, it sends negative thoughts through my mind when I don't see him and he goes silent.. and sometimes it's hard to cope with my thoughts.. 😢 "he's cheating" "he doesn't like me" etc... I just breath and convince myself to think positive..
A couple of days ago, I asked him to give me a call when he was off of work and settled at home... and he did. We talked a bit, he asked me how my day was, etc and vice versa.. So I was nervous and a bit hesitant... but I asked him if he thought he had time for a relationship.. his response "why not".. I asked him does he think he wants to be with me... his response "yea, why not.." Very nonchalant which I hate. I have issues with nonchalant people.. but I understood that he was tired, worked from sun up to sun down.. he works 7 days a week..so I pinned his responses to him being sleepy.. (he sounded like that anyway & we both eventually dozed off on the phone together).. I know everyone here says a cap will say exactly how they feel so I know he wants to be with me.. but sometimes I think he is selfish.. he know's Im a good woman.. we've had talks about how he feels about me overall.. & he wants to keep me ALL for himself.. I know he doesn't want another man to have me because of certain comments like "You are mine" "Better not let another dude touch you or we're gonna have probs" etc.... but he can't give me what I want at the moment which is more time. So to me.. I think he thinks like.. "she's not going anywhere, she's mine.." but keeping me at arms reach.. I'm okay with a man focusing on their hustle and career.. I would never want my man to resent me for him not perusing what he wanted before I came into the picture.. So I'm okay with taking a step back.. I'm actually getting used to not seeing him often and feel like once we do go further (move-in etc) we can both actually appreciate each other more...
Thoughts anyone on the nonchalant attitude and his silent behavior...?
I've been doing the reaching out.. he responds.. tells me quickly what he's doing & most messages go like this: "hey mami, just finished blah blah blah, Have a blessed day" and usually sends me a kiss emoji.. and that's it.. short, simple & straight to the point.. if I don't reach out I don't hear from him at all.. From this site I learned that Caps need space so I give that to him..
I just miss him and want some of your thoughts on this.. Help me sleep better at night.. haahha!
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So I'm still getting used to being patient. My cap boyfriend is so busy this time of year so I haven't been hearing or seeing him as often as I'm used to. I think about all the advice that's given on DXPNET on "dealing with a cap" so I know that it's in his nature. He's a workaholic and he does get busy but this is the busiest he's ever been since being with him and he has been a bit "silent" lately.. I have no signs or clues of him cheating.. when he says he is working he is doing just that... says he's with his kids & he is with them... at home, he's most likely laid out watching sports.. says he's at the bar and he's there chatting with his good friends (BTW if we talk on Facetime or Marco Polo, he'll turn the phone to his friends and tell them to say hi..) Whenever we Facetime, etc (where I can see visual proof), he's exactly where he says he is.. BUT... Of course, with me being a Scorpio, it sends negative thoughts through my mind when I don't see him and he goes silent.. and sometimes it's hard to cope with my thoughts.. 😢 "he's cheating" "he doesn't like me" etc... I just breath and convince myself to think positive..
A couple of days ago, I asked him to give me a call when he was off of work and settled at home... and he did. We talked a bit, he asked me how my day was, etc and vice versa.. So I was nervous and a bit hesitant... but I asked him if he thought he had time for a relationship.. his response "why not".. I asked him does he think he wants to be with me... his response "yea, why not.." Very nonchalant which I hate. I have issues with nonchalant people.. but I understood that he was tired, worked from sun up to sun down.. he works 7 days a week..so I pinned his responses to him being sleepy.. (he sounded like that anyway & we both eventually dozed off on the phone together).. I know everyone here says a cap will say exactly how they feel so I know he wants to be with me.. but sometimes I think he is selfish.. he know's Im a good woman.. we've had talks about how he feels about me overall.. & he wants to keep me ALL for himself.. I know he doesn't want another man to have me because of certain comments like "You are mine" "Better not let another dude touch you or we're gonna have probs" etc.... but he can't give me what I want at the moment which is more time. So to me.. I think he thinks like.. "she's not going anywhere, she's mine.." but keeping me at arms reach.. I'm okay with a man focusing on their hustle and career.. I would never want my man to resent me for him not perusing what he wanted before I came into the picture.. So I'm okay with taking a step back.. I'm actually getting used to not seeing him often and feel like once we do go further (move-in etc) we can both actually appreciate each other more...
Thoughts anyone on the nonchalant attitude and his silent behavior...?
I've been doing the reaching out.. he responds.. tells me quickly what he's doing & most messages go like this: "hey mami, just finished blah blah blah, Have a blessed day" and usually sends me a kiss emoji.. and that's it.. short, simple & straight to the point.. if I don't reach out I don't hear from him at all.. From this site I learned that Caps need space so I give that to him..
I just miss him and want some of your thoughts on this.. Help me sleep better at night.. haahha!
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Posted by poison_ivyI'm not sure how big an influence his Gemini Mars is but hey ho. He's always been very open and honest with me and says I can ask him anything. Hence how I found out about his colorful past sex life. It totally makes sense now, he could just see sex for sex with no emotional connection if he chose.
@WonderWoman14
Yeah, I know what you mean by the Gemini part..lol But after all the stuff my Gemini put me through.. he's come back in my life with a deeper passion for me.. It's so weird! LOL! Im like I moved on but he always ask me things to compare himself to my man.. Gemini's I think are good ppl, we always have good talks and laughs, they just have a hard time being set on one mood.. Those twins make them seem very bipolar and unstable.. IMO.. He's very giving of himself and will do for anyone.. In the aspect of a woman, he doesn't know what he wants.. smh. and scared of letting his ego down and being hurt. Understandable. I don't think you have anything to worry about tho.
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Posted by Capri-sunWhen he asked why not I told him because he doesn't have time and that's becoming an issue.. he said he gets it.. but the convo was just so short ... normally we have talks and he says a bit more but not with that convo..Posted by poison_ivyIf I'm not initiating, then it's not looking good (only speaking for myself)
UPDATE:
So I'm still getting used to being patient. My cap boyfriend is so busy this time of year so I haven't been hearing or seeing him as often as I'm used to. I think about all the advice that's given on DXPNET on "dealing with a cap" so I know that it's in his nature. He's a workaholic and he does get busy but this is the busiest he's ever been since being with him and he has been a bit "silent" lately.. I have no signs or clues of him cheating.. when he says he is working he is doing just that... says he's with his kids & he is with them... at home, he's most likely laid out watching sports.. says he's at the bar and he's there chatting with his good friends (BTW if we talk on Facetime or Marco Polo, he'll turn the phone to his friends and tell them to say hi..) Whenever we Facetime, etc (where I can see visual proof), he's exactly where he says he is.. BUT... Of course, with me being a Scorpio, it sends negative thoughts through my mind when I don't see him and he goes silent.. and sometimes it's hard to cope with my thoughts.. 😢 "he's cheating" "he doesn't like me" etc... I just breath and convince myself to think positive..
A couple of days ago, I asked him to give me a call when he was off of work and settled at home... and he did. We talked a bit, he asked me how my day was, etc and vice versa.. So I was nervous and a bit hesitant... but I asked him if he thought he had time for a relationship.. his response "why not".. I asked him does he think he wants to be with me... his response "yea, why not.." Very nonchalant which I hate. I have issues with nonchalant people.. but I understood that he was tired, worked from sun up to sun down.. he works 7 days a week..so I pinned his responses to him being sleepy.. (he sounded like that anyway & we both eventually dozed off on the phone together).. I know everyone here says a cap will say exactly how they feel so I know he wants to be with me.. but sometimes I think he is selfish.. he know's Im a good woman.. we've had talks about how he feels about me overall.. & he wants to keep me ALL for himself.. I know he doesn't want another man to have me because of certain comments like "You are mine" "Better not let another dude touch you or we're gonna have probs" etc.... but he can't give me what I want at the moment which is more time. So to me.. I think he thinks like.. "she's not going anywhere, she's mine.." but keeping me at arms reach.. I'm okay with a man focusing on their hustle and career.. I would never want my man to resent me for him not perusing what he wanted before I came into the picture.. So I'm okay with taking a step back.. I'm actually getting used to not seeing him often and feel like once we do go further (move-in etc) we can both actually appreciate each other more...
Thoughts anyone on the nonchalant attitude and his silent behavior...?
I've been doing the reaching out.. he responds.. tells me quickly what he's doing & most messages go like this: "hey mami, just finished blah blah blah, Have a blessed day" and usually sends me a kiss emoji.. and that's it.. short, simple & straight to the point.. if I don't reach out I don't hear from him at all.. From this site I learned that Caps need space so I give that to him..
I just miss him and want some of your thoughts on this.. Help me sleep better at night.. haahha!
😛
Silent treatment...could be any number of things, tired, stressed, lack of interest, nothing to say.
When he asked why not? That might have been good opportunities to express your concern about the amount of time he's devoting (or lack there of) to the relationship.
Nonchalant attitude, again could be any number of things or interpretations. It could just be coming off that way if you're looking for some type of reaction.
Personally I would be making more time for the person I'm in a relationship with, that's just me *shrug*click to expand
That's exactly how I feel.. I make time for the person I'm with.. and I'm use to seeing my S/O on a regular.. so this isn't normal for me..
I honestly think he's pushing me away... He's gonna push me into another mans arms.. Not that I want to leave him.. But idk how you build a relationship without time..
Posted by Capri-sunIt's ONLY 1 hour and a half to 1 hour and 45 minutes... Not that damn far which is why it bothers me.. If it was a longer distance I wouldn't complain as much..
How far is the distance again?
Posted by Capri-sunI haven't seen him for a while now. I wanna say 3 months. 😢
How long since you last saw him? How long have you waited for him to initiate before reaching out?
I normally have to wait up to 2 days before he reaches out himself.. Sometimes it's been a day and he'll reach out.. It all depends.. He always responds when I reach out tho.. At times I've gone silent and he'll reach out.. Guess in that instance it's a give and take situation... Thatt doesn't bother me as much as the "physical contact." He's told me this is his busiest season before going "quiet" (distant) IDK how much longer I can deal.. This is unlike me to deal with things that bother me for so long but, he's put a "spell" on me.. I'm convinced... I don't tolerate too much.. & I have a slight temper so I've calmed down a bunch with him.. UNLIKE ME!
Posted by WonderWoman14That's how my cap is.. Sex is just sex.. and if they did't "end" on bad terms, he can leave things at "just friends" and not take things further... He's VERY honest also which I respect more than anything.. He'll tell me the real whether I like what I hear or not..Posted by poison_ivyI'm not sure how big an influence his Gemini Mars is but hey ho. He's always been very open and honest with me and says I can ask him anything. Hence how I found out about his colorful past sex life. It totally makes sense now, he could just see sex for sex with no emotional connection if he chose.
@WonderWoman14
Yeah, I know what you mean by the Gemini part..lol But after all the stuff my Gemini put me through.. he's come back in my life with a deeper passion for me.. It's so weird! LOL! Im like I moved on but he always ask me things to compare himself to my man.. Gemini's I think are good ppl, we always have good talks and laughs, they just have a hard time being set on one mood.. Those twins make them seem very bipolar and unstable.. IMO.. He's very giving of himself and will do for anyone.. In the aspect of a woman, he doesn't know what he wants.. smh. and scared of letting his ego down and being hurt. Understandable. I don't think you have anything to worry about tho.
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Posted by Capri-sunI respect your honesty.. The truth hurts sometimes.. but it's a pill I have to swallow.. My mind tells me to run but my heart wants me to stay... I honestly would be okay being his friend and dating other men if he's not invested..Posted by poison_ivyPosted by Capri-sunWhen he asked why not I told him because he doesn't have time and that's becoming an issue.. he said he gets it.. but the convo was just so short ... normally we have talks and he says a bit more but not with that convo..Posted by poison_ivyIf I'm not initiating, then it's not looking good (only speaking for myself)
UPDATE:
So I'm still getting used to being patient. My cap boyfriend is so busy this time of year so I haven't been hearing or seeing him as often as I'm used to. I think about all the advice that's given on DXPNET on "dealing with a cap" so I know that it's in his nature. He's a workaholic and he does get busy but this is the busiest he's ever been since being with him and he has been a bit "silent" lately.. I have no signs or clues of him cheating.. when he says he is working he is doing just that... says he's with his kids & he is with them... at home, he's most likely laid out watching sports.. says he's at the bar and he's there chatting with his good friends (BTW if we talk on Facetime or Marco Polo, he'll turn the phone to his friends and tell them to say hi..) Whenever we Facetime, etc (where I can see visual proof), he's exactly where he says he is.. BUT... Of course, with me being a Scorpio, it sends negative thoughts through my mind when I don't see him and he goes silent.. and sometimes it's hard to cope with my thoughts.. 😢 "he's cheating" "he doesn't like me" etc... I just breath and convince myself to think positive..
A couple of days ago, I asked him to give me a call when he was off of work and settled at home... and he did. We talked a bit, he asked me how my day was, etc and vice versa.. So I was nervous and a bit hesitant... but I asked him if he thought he had time for a relationship.. his response "why not".. I asked him does he think he wants to be with me... his response "yea, why not.." Very nonchalant which I hate. I have issues with nonchalant people.. but I understood that he was tired, worked from sun up to sun down.. he works 7 days a week..so I pinned his responses to him being sleepy.. (he sounded like that anyway & we both eventually dozed off on the phone together).. I know everyone here says a cap will say exactly how they feel so I know he wants to be with me.. but sometimes I think he is selfish.. he know's Im a good woman.. we've had talks about how he feels about me overall.. & he wants to keep me ALL for himself.. I know he doesn't want another man to have me because of certain comments like "You are mine" "Better not let another dude touch you or we're gonna have probs" etc.... but he can't give me what I want at the moment which is more time. So to me.. I think he thinks like.. "she's not going anywhere, she's mine.." but keeping me at arms reach.. I'm okay with a man focusing on their hustle and career.. I would never want my man to resent me for him not perusing what he wanted before I came into the picture.. So I'm okay with taking a step back.. I'm actually getting used to not seeing him often and feel like once we do go further (move-in etc) we can both actually appreciate each other more...
Thoughts anyone on the nonchalant attitude and his silent behavior...?
I've been doing the reaching out.. he responds.. tells me quickly what he's doing & most messages go like this: "hey mami, just finished blah blah blah, Have a blessed day" and usually sends me a kiss emoji.. and that's it.. short, simple & straight to the point.. if I don't reach out I don't hear from him at all.. From this site I learned that Caps need space so I give that to him..
I just miss him and want some of your thoughts on this.. Help me sleep better at night.. haahha!
😛
Silent treatment...could be any number of things, tired, stressed, lack of interest, nothing to say.
When he asked why not? That might have been good opportunities to express your concern about the amount of time he's devoting (or lack there of) to the relationship.
Nonchalant attitude, again could be any number of things or interpretations. It could just be coming off that way if you're looking for some type of reaction.
Personally I would be making more time for the person I'm in a relationship with, that's just me *shrug*
That's exactly how I feel.. I make time for the person I'm with.. and I'm use to seeing my S/O on a regular.. so this isn't normal for me..
I honestly think he's pushing me away... He's gonna push me into another mans arms.. Not that I want to leave him.. But idk how you build a relationship without time..
If I can be as honest as possible with you, he doesn't sound like he cares.
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Posted by Capri-sunI appreciate him telling me that his "busy season" was coming up before he started to seem distant... Like I said he responds when I reach out and he reaches out himself but he literally works every single day.. Monday-Sunday.. From sun up to sun down.. My friend's told me try to work around his schedule, go to his city and try to have dinner or lunch.. quick time together before he gets back to work.. I'm considering that.. Just all depends on the day, his time frame for a break, my schedule because I also work during the week and work my biz weekends.. So IDK.. This racks my brain so much.. I'm honestly tired of thinking about it.. It all just sucks IMO.Posted by poison_ivyPosted by Capri-sunI haven't seen him for a while now. I wanna say 3 months. 😢
How long since you last saw him? How long have you waited for him to initiate before reaching out?
I normally have to wait up to 2 days before he reaches out himself.. Sometimes it's been a day and he'll reach out.. It all depends.. He always responds when I reach out tho.. At times I've gone silent and he'll reach out.. Guess in that instance it's a give and take situation... Thatt doesn't bother me as much as the "physical contact." He's told me this is his busiest season before going "quiet" (distant) IDK how much longer I can deal.. This is unlike me to deal with things that bother me for so long but, he's put a "spell" on me.. I'm convinced... I don't tolerate too much.. & I have a slight temper so I've calmed down a bunch with him.. UNLIKE ME!
Personally the communication part is nothing to me...2 days is normal. So maybe he's being honest and straightforward with you.
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Posted by Capri-sunYea, absolutely no excuse... I guess I need to have a talk.. maybe if he's serious.. he'll come back and do better like a lot of women say about their cap males when they give up on them.. I'm mentally drained.Posted by poison_ivyPosted by Capri-sunIt's ONLY 1 hour and a half to 1 hour and 45 minutes... Not that damn far which is why it bothers me.. If it was a longer distance I wouldn't complain as much..
How far is the distance again?
Yeah no excuse. That is nothing. Let him go & find one who will give you all the time & attention you desire.
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Posted by ParisianCappyLOL! I'm flattered! 😆
put that doucheb in a hole and go with me,
Posted by Capri-sunYea, I don't think I'd be comfortable seeing him move on either.. TBH.. It's just so weird to me that he's been single for 3 years and made me "his lady" on our first date making it clear that I'm his.. asking questions like where are we moving etc.. He initiated everything.. I guess that's what I'm having a hard time wrapping my head around.. Why initiate something you have no time for?
I get it as I felt the same way. Don't settle, you want more yet he's not giving the time you would like. Just go be happy and start fresh. If you were to remain friends it would just get messy from one side or the other. He already stated he doesn't want you being physically intimate with anyone else.
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