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Dangerously In Love w/ a Capricorn Man! YIKES!! (Page 2)
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Posted by CAPRILICIOUSYea, I don't think the communication bothers me as much as the "physical"... Im hands on and I have to have that one on one time.. All about expressing myself through touch..Posted by poison_ivyLike Capri-sun wrote here, I don't care much for constant communication either. I can easily go 3-4 days without communicating.Posted by Capri-sunI haven't seen him for a while now. I wanna say 3 months. 😢
How long since you last saw him? How long have you waited for him to initiate before reaching out?
I normally have to wait up to 2 days before he reaches out himself.. Sometimes it's been a day and he'll reach out.. It all depends.. He always responds when I reach out tho.. At times I've gone silent and he'll reach out.. Guess in that instance it's a give and take situation... Thatt doesn't bother me as much as the "physical contact." He's told me this is his busiest season before going "quiet" (distant) IDK how much longer I can deal.. This is unlike me to deal with things that bother me for so long but, he's put a "spell" on me.. I'm convinced... I don't tolerate too much.. & I have a slight temper so I've calmed down a bunch with him.. UNLIKE ME!
There are times when my boyfriend I will communicate daily, but we take breaks every now and then. I can get bored quite easily. It's good to keep things interesting.click to expand
Do you think, going to him, would be easier for him..? He expressed this weekend that he wanted to see me.. I had been sore from the line of work I do and told him I needed a massage and he told me he wished he could "put his "paws" on me" (lol) but he was working.. So he makes it clear that he wants to see me but with his schedule he doesn't have time to come here.. to me.. So for a Cap, do you think their S/O should work around their schedule..?
My step mom told me she has to do this with my dad (cap also) .. She's had to learn a lot of patience etc with him.. He would cancel dates on her to work etc. She felt neglected often but stuck with it and "worked around his schedule" to get time.. Idk too many ppl that would do that.
@CAPRILICIOUS is your bf a Cappy also?
Posted by Capri-sunOkay thanks so much for your advice!! You always give some good iish!! 🙂
I have to finish reading the rest of the thread.
Yes, you're idea to catch lunch/dinner is a good idea. If that means you have to go to him, so be it...just don't make a habit of it because he needs to put forth effort as well.
I work like that because I like having money and being able to do things for myself and others and not depending on other people. I've always worked so it's just part of who I am. Outside of a relationship, not much interests me to need free time. Yes I'll do an occasional concert or something, that's about the extent of it.
The texting thing sounds normal. That's what I use to do to people. Something short, if they choose to respond great, if not then they know I'm thinking about them. He's being open with the FaceTime stuff so yeah, don't worry about it.
Focus on figuring out creative ways to spend the physical time together. Whether meeting halfway at a restaurant. If he has a slower day, try to work something in then. Plan to spend time together on holidays that he might have off from work. Things like that.
& as far as working, I hear that!!! I feel the same, hard work and dedication pays off and when you're able to do/get what you want that's the bigger reward.. so I get it! .. he's said that he digs that about me.. my hustle and how hard I work.. He says I'm a "beast" lol! I would never knock his hustle but a little bit of time wont hurt.. Maybe things would be different if we lived in the same city or together.. who knows..
& Yea I'll think of creative ways to spend time with him.. but it's a give and take.. like you've said, he's gotta give effort as well... compromise.. I asked him when will he have more time and he said after his "busy season" sooo.. if in fact he gives me more time after this period, I will hang tight.. if not, I can't hold my breath any longer. I don't like wasting time..
I'll keep ya posted!!! 🙂
Posted by ParisianCappylol interesting..Posted by poison_ivybe careful sag moon arnt loyal
@CAPRILICIOUS is your bf a Cappy also?click to expand
I'm still trying to get the "hang" of this chart stuff.. I'm a Libra Moon..
@poison_ivy
A distance of 1 and 1/2 to 1 hr, 45mins is a very serious impediment distance wise.
Think about it this way;
1) Currently he is working from "sun up to sun down" which is approx. 10-12 hr days
2) The schedule from (1) is "seven days a week".
3) There is 1.5 to 1.75 hrs of driving distance between the two of you.
With those facts (which you provided) lets assume (for the sake of argument) that he has to be at work by 7am. Given his schedule the earliest he is leaving work is 5pm (10hrs). Which means the earliest he could be in your area is 6:30pm. Also, lets assume he is sane, and wouldn't drive an 1.5hr just to be there for 30mins (alternatively, we can say that you are just that irresistible that there is no way he could only be there for .5 hrs 🙂 ). So, lets give you guys 2hrs of quality time meaning the earliest he leaves is 8:30, getting him home at 10pm.
The above scenario doesn't factor in traffic, scheduling, family obligations and the like. Everything would have to work perfectly to hit that time scale- and for someone needing to be at work at 7am the next morning- it really isn't that attractive an option even when run perfectly.
Further, as you state, he did clearly communicate that this was a very busy period for him at work. If your schedule is more flexible then it would make more sense for you to go see him (an idea you mentioned). But don't take his actions/ effort personally. The man is working 70hrs plus a week. He is exhausted- as he should be.
A distance of 1 and 1/2 to 1 hr, 45mins is a very serious impediment distance wise.
Think about it this way;
1) Currently he is working from "sun up to sun down" which is approx. 10-12 hr days
2) The schedule from (1) is "seven days a week".
3) There is 1.5 to 1.75 hrs of driving distance between the two of you.
With those facts (which you provided) lets assume (for the sake of argument) that he has to be at work by 7am. Given his schedule the earliest he is leaving work is 5pm (10hrs). Which means the earliest he could be in your area is 6:30pm. Also, lets assume he is sane, and wouldn't drive an 1.5hr just to be there for 30mins (alternatively, we can say that you are just that irresistible that there is no way he could only be there for .5 hrs 🙂 ). So, lets give you guys 2hrs of quality time meaning the earliest he leaves is 8:30, getting him home at 10pm.
The above scenario doesn't factor in traffic, scheduling, family obligations and the like. Everything would have to work perfectly to hit that time scale- and for someone needing to be at work at 7am the next morning- it really isn't that attractive an option even when run perfectly.
Further, as you state, he did clearly communicate that this was a very busy period for him at work. If your schedule is more flexible then it would make more sense for you to go see him (an idea you mentioned). But don't take his actions/ effort personally. The man is working 70hrs plus a week. He is exhausted- as he should be.
Posted by CAPRILICIOUSOkay, I'll see about his schedule! 🙂 & plan something.. I love planning and getting all dolled up! 😉Posted by poison_ivyIt sounds like a great idea. 🙂Posted by CAPRILICIOUSYea, I don't think the communication bothers me as much as the "physical"... Im hands on and I have to have that one on one time.. All about expressing myself through touch..Posted by poison_ivyLike Capri-sun wrote here, I don't care much for constant communication either. I can easily go 3-4 days without communicating.Posted by Capri-sunI haven't seen him for a while now. I wanna say 3 months. 😢
How long since you last saw him? How long have you waited for him to initiate before reaching out?
I normally have to wait up to 2 days before he reaches out himself.. Sometimes it's been a day and he'll reach out.. It all depends.. He always responds when I reach out tho.. At times I've gone silent and he'll reach out.. Guess in that instance it's a give and take situation... Thatt doesn't bother me as much as the "physical contact." He's told me this is his busiest season before going "quiet" (distant) IDK how much longer I can deal.. This is unlike me to deal with things that bother me for so long but, he's put a "spell" on me.. I'm convinced... I don't tolerate too much.. & I have a slight temper so I've calmed down a bunch with him.. UNLIKE ME!
There are times when my boyfriend I will communicate daily, but we take breaks every now and then. I can get bored quite easily. It's good to keep things interesting.
Do you think, going to him, would be easier for him..? He expressed this weekend that he wanted to see me.. I had been sore from the line of work I do and told him I needed a massage and he told me he wished he could "put his "paws" on me" (lol) but he was working.. So he makes it clear that he wants to see me but with his schedule he doesn't have time to come here.. to me.. So for a Cap, do you think their S/O should work around their schedule..?
My step mom told me she has to do this with my dad (cap also) .. She's had to learn a lot of patience etc with him.. He would cancel dates on her to work etc. She felt neglected often but stuck with it and "worked around his schedule" to get time.. Idk too many ppl that would do that.
Yes, a Capricorn will always appreciate any effort on your part. If I were to talk about myself, I'm not very good with schedules and impositions. Things should unfold naturally in a relationship.
Even if there are things coming in the way, what matters is for two people to trust and respect each other. If we find someone who can understand this need of ours, we will always cherish them.
The problem in your situation is one concerning pace. You want to move faster, but he thinks everything is going great. Only time will tell if your fears are real. Till then just give it your best shot.
Your father is a Cap. You probably have a good understanding of how we function. 🙂
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Yea I don't put too much force on him cause I wouldn't want pressure on my end of things.. I try to let things go day by day as they've been.. time does bother me tho.. How do you cope with time being that you and your man are both caps? Do you guys both have strenuous work schedules?
You bring up a good point.. I've expressed my concern about the relationship in the past ..feeling like he was distant and felt like I was in a relationship with myself and he said he didn't feel like anything was different, he wants to be with me and his feelings are the same.. So your point about pace makes sense.. Maybe because he's my first Cap man and I've always had my bfs in the past kinda attached at my hip, this change is "scary" for me..
Yes, my dad is a true cap.. My Bf and dad's bdays are 4 days apart.. My bf's is 1/1 & my dad's is 1/5.. LOL! So I find a ton of similarities between the 2 of them.. My relationship with my bf is actually helping my relationship with my dad grow.. We didn't have the best relationship when I was growing up because my dad's focus was work and he didn't make a lot of time for me & my sis.. But I'm finding myself going to my dad for advice about my man, or simply just to catch up, etc which I've NEVER done in the past.. So I guess it has it's perks in that aspect.. Someone told me we tend to go for men that are familiar to us.. Maybe..? 🙂 I'm dating a man that reminds me of my dad so I guess it's true for me..
Posted by Noni05🙂 I'm trying... I'm not one to give up easily.. I like him SO freaking much.. Never felt this way about anyone..
Just follow your heart and enjoy it!!!
Thank you. 🙂
Posted by ParisianCappy😱Posted by poison_ivybe careful sag moon arnt loyal
@CAPRILICIOUS is your bf a Cappy also?click to expand
Apologize right now lil cappy
Posted by daron76When you put it that way... that makes a ton of sense.. He's expressed to me that he doesn't just want a "couple" of hours with me.. he wants to lay up with me and spend a whole night and day with me.. but his schedule doesn't allow that..He does have to be up really early (8AM to be exact at his first job).. so that means if he stayed at my place over night he'd have to get up even earlier to make it in time for work.. I also get up at 5 AM every morning to get myself and my child ready for the day and make it to my desk by 7AM.. He also has his kids every other week.. SO I get it..Exhausting just thinking about it.. My thing is I'll take anytime I can but honestly on his down time, I call him "lazy"... he lays up and watches sports or goes to the bar to chat with his cuz and have a drink or 2.. But I mean accounting for the amount of time he works, I would be "lazy" too... So yea, me making time to go to him.. maybe "take a couple sick days to not miss pay.." lol and spend time with him on his side may work.. LDR are hard work.. But he hasn't expressed any change of heart for me.. I'm literally the only one tripping.. SIGH! It's hard..
@poison_ivy
A distance of 1 and 1/2 to 1 hr, 45mins is a very serious impediment distance wise.
Think about it this way;
1) Currently he is working from "sun up to sun down" which is approx. 10-12 hr days
2) The schedule from (1) is "seven days a week".
3) There is 1.5 to 1.75 hrs of driving distance between the two of you.
With those facts (which you provided) lets assume (for the sake of argument) that he has to be at work by 7am. Given his schedule the earliest he is leaving work is 5pm (10hrs). Which means the earliest he could be in your area is 6:30pm. Also, lets assume he is sane, and wouldn't drive an 1.5hr just to be there for 30mins (alternatively, we can say that you are just that irresistible that there is no way he could only be there for .5 hrs 🙂 ). So, lets give you guys 2hrs of quality time meaning the earliest he leaves is 8:30, getting him home at 10pm.
The above scenario doesn't factor in traffic, scheduling, family obligations and the like. Everything would have to work perfectly to hit that time scale- and for someone needing to be at work at 7am the next morning- it really isn't that attractive an option even when run perfectly.
Further, as you state, he did clearly communicate that this was a very busy period for him at work. If your schedule is more flexible then it would make more sense for you to go see him (an idea you mentioned). But don't take his actions/ effort personally. The man is working 70hrs plus a week. He is exhausted- as he should be.
Daron, you have made a great observation.. and put a little ease on my distrustful mind.. 😆
Posted by WonderWoman14Exactly! @WonderWoman14!! I feel like I've finally found my match. He's perfect.. and every time I doubt him, I'm proven wrong over and over again... It scares me so much! I'm use to having guys latch on and wanting to be around me consistently and obviously those relationships didn't work out... So I guess you're right.. And 6 months with him feels like an eternity. LOL so I can only imagine how you feel with 14 months under your belt.. & just like your cap mine is honest, whatever I ask, he tells me the real... I've learned my lesson with that.. I assumed something way in the beginning of our relationship and he put me in my place REAL fast! lol. "Assumptions is such an ugly attribute".. Lol! I was like well excuse the F*** outta me. But that's another thing I like about him.. he's so patient with me.. I can be a handful but he's the only man that can handle me and when I get way outta bounds he puts me in my place respectfully.. Sigh...slow pace men.. OMG! I can't take it at times.. but moving fast didn't work so... HE'S Definitely got a hold on me.. LOL!
Your situation sounds so like mine but it's personal family circumstances aswell as his work that are keeping him at bay and right now are out of his control.
I'm like you it's the first time of dealing with a cap and I'ts been a learning curve but I've learnt that I should trust my gut more and not the stupid insecurities in my head because everytime he's proved therm wrong. Maybe I find it hard accepting that I've actually found a good egg. 6 months is nothing, try 14 months lol. Caps move very slow but he's always been very open and honest with me and he speaks the truth. Timing just hasn't been great for us but I believe the best things are worth waiting for and I have no interest in looking elsewhere when everything I want is right in front of me.
Posted by Capri-sunWell maybe that's the case with him at times.. He has 2 kids, works hard, plays sports and now has me.. Its still early, so I'm obviously not his first priority.. & it's expected with me cause I don't have a ring on my finger.... but there have been times where he FINALLY gets to sit down and within secs is knocked out cold! Or like you said he has so much on his plate that he forgets things..Posted by poison_ivyPosted by CAPRILICIOUSYea, I don't think the communication bothers me as much as the "physical"... Im hands on and I have to have that one on one time.. All about expressing myself through touch..Posted by poison_ivyLike Capri-sun wrote here, I don't care much for constant communication either. I can easily go 3-4 days without communicating.Posted by Capri-sunI haven't seen him for a while now. I wanna say 3 months. 😢
How long since you last saw him? How long have you waited for him to initiate before reaching out?
I normally have to wait up to 2 days before he reaches out himself.. Sometimes it's been a day and he'll reach out.. It all depends.. He always responds when I reach out tho.. At times I've gone silent and he'll reach out.. Guess in that instance it's a give and take situation... Thatt doesn't bother me as much as the "physical contact." He's told me this is his busiest season before going "quiet" (distant) IDK how much longer I can deal.. This is unlike me to deal with things that bother me for so long but, he's put a "spell" on me.. I'm convinced... I don't tolerate too much.. & I have a slight temper so I've calmed down a bunch with him.. UNLIKE ME!
There are times when my boyfriend I will communicate daily, but we take breaks every now and then. I can get bored quite easily. It's good to keep things interesting.
Do you think, going to him, would be easier for him..? He expressed this weekend that he wanted to see me.. I had been sore from the line of work I do and told him I needed a massage and he told me he wished he could "put his "paws" on me" (lol) but he was working.. So he makes it clear that he wants to see me but with his schedule he doesn't have time to come here.. to me.. So for a Cap, do you think their S/O should work around their schedule..?
My step mom told me she has to do this with my dad (cap also) .. She's had to learn a lot of patience etc with him.. He would cancel dates on her to work etc. She felt neglected often but stuck with it and "worked around his schedule" to get time.. Idk too many ppl that would do that.
Yes!! It's a must for me. I have 2 kids, and sometimes I overbook myself and forget I have things scheduled or I pick up hours because they ask for overtime. Someone who is flexible with my schedule is a must and is very much appreciated. I do let the person know as far ahead of time as possible.
Just typing this, made me think I missed a ballet performance that I bought tickets to for my kids lol smh...
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It's weird though because He's never forgotten any details or talks with me.. It's things we've talked about way in the beginning that he brings up and even I'm like how tf did you remember that? lol
Posted by CAPRILICIOUSPosted by poison_ivyYes, his schedule is definitely more strenuous than mine, but we're both good at multi-tasking (must be our fire moons). And he always hits me up when he's bored at work. We laugh and joke quite a lot.Posted by CAPRILICIOUSPosted by poison_ivyIt sounds like a great idea. 🙂Posted by CAPRILICIOUSYea, I don't think the communication bothers me as much as the "physical"... Im hands on and I have to have that one on one time.. All about expressing myself through touch..Posted by poison_ivyLike Capri-sun wrote here, I don't care much for constant communication either. I can easily go 3-4 days without communicating.Posted by Capri-sunI haven't seen him for a while now. I wanna say 3 months. 😢
How long since you last saw him? How long have you waited for him to initiate before reaching out?
I normally have to wait up to 2 days before he reaches out himself.. Sometimes it's been a day and he'll reach out.. It all depends.. He always responds when I reach out tho.. At times I've gone silent and he'll reach out.. Guess in that instance it's a give and take situation... Thatt doesn't bother me as much as the "physical contact." He's told me this is his busiest season before going "quiet" (distant) IDK how much longer I can deal.. This is unlike me to deal with things that bother me for so long but, he's put a "spell" on me.. I'm convinced... I don't tolerate too much.. & I have a slight temper so I've calmed down a bunch with him.. UNLIKE ME!
There are times when my boyfriend I will communicate daily, but we take breaks every now and then. I can get bored quite easily. It's good to keep things interesting.
Do you think, going to him, would be easier for him..? He expressed this weekend that he wanted to see me.. I had been sore from the line of work I do and told him I needed a massage and he told me he wished he could "put his "paws" on me" (lol) but he was working.. So he makes it clear that he wants to see me but with his schedule he doesn't have time to come here.. to me.. So for a Cap, do you think their S/O should work around their schedule..?
My step mom told me she has to do this with my dad (cap also) .. She's had to learn a lot of patience etc with him.. He would cancel dates on her to work etc. She felt neglected often but stuck with it and "worked around his schedule" to get time.. Idk too many ppl that would do that.
Yes, a Capricorn will always appreciate any effort on your part. If I were to talk about myself, I'm not very good with schedules and impositions. Things should unfold naturally in a relationship.
Even if there are things coming in the way, what matters is for two people to trust and respect each other. If we find someone who can understand this need of ours, we will always cherish them.
The problem in your situation is one concerning pace. You want to move faster, but he thinks everything is going great. Only time will tell if your fears are real. Till then just give it your best shot.
Your father is a Cap. You probably have a good understanding of how we function. 🙂
Okay, I'll see about his schedule! 🙂 & plan something.. I love planning and getting all dolled up! 😉
Yea I don't put too much force on him cause I wouldn't want pressure on my end of things.. I try to let things go day by day as they've been.. time does bother me tho.. How do you cope with time being that you and your man are both caps? Do you guys both have strenuous work schedules?
You bring up a good point.. I've expressed my concern about the relationship in the past ..feeling like he was distant and felt like I was in a relationship with myself and he said he didn't feel like anything was different, he wants to be with me and his feelings are the same.. So your point about pace makes sense.. Maybe because he's my first Cap man and I've always had my bfs in the past kinda attached at my hip, this change is "scary" for me..
Yes, my dad is a true cap.. My Bf and dad's bdays are 4 days apart.. My bf's is 1/1 & my dad's is 1/5.. LOL! So I find a ton of similarities between the 2 of them.. My relationship with my bf is actually helping my relationship with my dad grow.. We didn't have the best relationship when I was growing up because my dad's focus was work and he didn't make a lot of time for me & my sis.. But I'm finding myself going to my dad for advice about my man, or simply just to catch up, etc which I've NEVER done in the past.. So I guess it has it's perks in that aspect.. Someone told me we tend to go for men that are familiar to us.. Maybe..? 🙂 I'm dating a man that reminds me of my dad so I guess it's true for me..
We live four and half hours apart. We try to meet up on weekends, but it's not always possible, which is a good thing I believe, because that has kept our relationship on a slow pace, something that was sorely needed. Things moved very fast for us in the beginning, which scared me a little. I need a long time to warm up to someone.
I've always had my bfs in the past kinda attached at my hip, this change is "scary" for me..
Lol. I know what you mean. I was in a relationship with a Virgo before, who would inundate me with calls and messages everyday, but I never felt understood in that relationship.
My Cap boyfriend shows he cares in ways that actually matter. It's a new experience for me too. 🙂
Someone told me we tend to go for men that are familiar to us.
I've heard this quite often myself. And my boyfriend's energy and life style are quite similar to that of my brother's.
I'm glad this relationship is improving your equation with your father. Does your dad like him?
Even if things don't work out for you in the future, at least you'll have something of value to take away. I don't think you have much to worry though. Just don't let your fears get to you. 🙂
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Something I love about my cap.. he can be so serious but we joke a lot.. and I'm a bit of a sarcastic joker but he is the only one that "gets me.." he calls me a jerk.. we keep each other laughing/smiling..
WOW! 4 1/2 hours? & you're so calm about it. lol! I need to take notes from you. My hour and 45 minute distance bugs the hell out of me! I agree with the fast pace in the beginning of our relationship and I thought everything was too good to be true.. He'd call/text/facetime me often, we said we liked each other quickly, by the first date, he asked me to be his gf and the list goes on.. It was so fast but everything was SO right.. Comments he'd say about certain things we would talk about led me to believe that he was too in shock at how much we connected.. I think it's best that we slowed down honestly.. (it's scary but maybe it's for the best to get to know each other more).. He would often say "I feel that this is gonna be deeply intense and fast" we were falling hard.. and now it's slow and I'm like wtf?!—
& I agree my relationship before this was with a Scorpio and it was so toxic... Everything moved WAY too fast and I always told myself the next time around I wanna get to know someone better first, become their friend, then their lover.. & as the saying goes, "you get what you ask for.." is right! LOL
My dad is for my decision but he doesn't like him.. I think it's because he reminds him of himself, honestly.. He doesn't want me to miss out on what I want (time) and get hurt.. understandable.. he admires my bfs work ethic and knows that he would be able to take care of me.. He said that work for men like them is not about the money (although it's necessary for life) it's about making something of yourself, because you never feel like the best is "good enough" you work even harder.. and having stability for his kids and grand kids when he's "gone" is all he dreams of.. he said that although he neglected his wife often, he never had eyes for anyone else, and he stayed faithful.. I'm actually opening up his eyes to realizing how putting work before everyone and everything could make the people closest to him feel.. he didn't realize what it was doing to us..... Another thing is my dad has never met any of my bfs but he's always told me that until he meets 1, they aren't my man (SMH!).. Daddy's protective nature... My dad has 3 girls from 3 different marriages... I'm his first.. my mom & him were too young.. his wife after her couldn't take the neglect, he didn't give her time and she was too young, so she started doing things towards my dad.. messing around, staying out, hiding his keys so he couldn't get out.. His wife now is more'so patient with my dad.. they've separated & had close calls for divorce because of his work habit, but she's patient, and has made herself busy to not think about it so much.. I go to her for advice on a female perspective for dealing with my dad.. She basically says there are only 2 things you can do.. "Deal with it, or don't.." "you have to find things that work for a relationship like that, plan around his schedule". My dad doesn't care too much for other men in our life until he gets to know them.. I also think that he doesn't want to feel replaced.. as I stated..I didn't really start having a close relationship with my dad until recent years and I sometimes feel that he feels like he missed out on so much..
Posted by CAPS-LOCKhahahaa! I was figuratively speaking!!
@OP Your use to men crossing the ocean to spend time with you LMAO
Post pics please. I might just try swimming across the Pacific Ocean for you with my scuba gear and spandex ?
PS. Someone on here got me scared to post personal pics! Otherwise, I would have a real photo of myself in my profile!
Posted by WonderWoman14Aww! The bolded text is SO sweet! & True! I guess we will find out in time.. 😉 🙂Posted by poison_ivyYes you're right assumptions is such an ugly trait. I guess I just assume the worst all the time. I've learnt not to do that. When I say this is slow and a Lord is out of our control at the min he says, what's the point in rushing something you want to last forever.Posted by WonderWoman14Exactly! @WonderWoman14!! I feel like I've finally found my match. He's perfect.. and every time I doubt him, I'm proven wrong over and over again... It scares me so much! I'm use to having guys latch on and wanting to be around me consistently and obviously those relationships didn't work out... So I guess you're right.. And 6 months with him feels like an eternity. LOL so I can only imagine how you feel with 14 months under your belt.. & just like your cap mine is honest, whatever I ask, he tells me the real... I've learned my lesson with that.. I assumed something way in the beginning of our relationship and he put me in my place REAL fast! lol. "Assumptions is such an ugly attribute".. Lol! I was like well excuse the F*** outta me. But that's another thing I like about him.. he's so patient with me.. I can be a handful but he's the only man that can handle me and when I get way outta bounds he puts me in my place respectfully.. Sigh...slow pace men.. OMG! I can't take it at times.. but moving fast didn't work so... HE'S Definitely got a hold on me.. LOL!
Your situation sounds so like mine but it's personal family circumstances aswell as his work that are keeping him at bay and right now are out of his control.
I'm like you it's the first time of dealing with a cap and I'ts been a learning curve but I've learnt that I should trust my gut more and not the stupid insecurities in my head because everytime he's proved therm wrong. Maybe I find it hard accepting that I've actually found a good egg. 6 months is nothing, try 14 months lol. Caps move very slow but he's always been very open and honest with me and he speaks the truth. Timing just hasn't been great for us but I believe the best things are worth waiting for and I have no interest in looking elsewhere when everything I want is right in front of me.
Time will tell for us both I guess ??♀️
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Posted by Capri-sunPosted by poison_ivyPosted by Capri-sunWell maybe that's the case with him at times.. He has 2 kids, works hard, plays sports and now has me.. Its still early, so I'm obviously not his first priority.. & it's expected with me cause I don't have a ring on my finger.... but there have been times where he FINALLY gets to sit down and within secs is knocked out cold! Or like you said he has so much on his plate that he forgets things..Posted by poison_ivyPosted by CAPRILICIOUSYea, I don't think the communication bothers me as much as the "physical"... Im hands on and I have to have that one on one time.. All about expressing myself through touch..Posted by poison_ivyLike Capri-sun wrote here, I don't care much for constant communication either. I can easily go 3-4 days without communicating.Posted by Capri-sunI haven't seen him for a while now. I wanna say 3 months. 😢
How long since you last saw him? How long have you waited for him to initiate before reaching out?
I normally have to wait up to 2 days before he reaches out himself.. Sometimes it's been a day and he'll reach out.. It all depends.. He always responds when I reach out tho.. At times I've gone silent and he'll reach out.. Guess in that instance it's a give and take situation... Thatt doesn't bother me as much as the "physical contact." He's told me this is his busiest season before going "quiet" (distant) IDK how much longer I can deal.. This is unlike me to deal with things that bother me for so long but, he's put a "spell" on me.. I'm convinced... I don't tolerate too much.. & I have a slight temper so I've calmed down a bunch with him.. UNLIKE ME!
There are times when my boyfriend I will communicate daily, but we take breaks every now and then. I can get bored quite easily. It's good to keep things interesting.
Do you think, going to him, would be easier for him..? He expressed this weekend that he wanted to see me.. I had been sore from the line of work I do and told him I needed a massage and he told me he wished he could "put his "paws" on me" (lol) but he was working.. So he makes it clear that he wants to see me but with his schedule he doesn't have time to come here.. to me.. So for a Cap, do you think their S/O should work around their schedule..?
My step mom told me she has to do this with my dad (cap also) .. She's had to learn a lot of patience etc with him.. He would cancel dates on her to work etc. She felt neglected often but stuck with it and "worked around his schedule" to get time.. Idk too many ppl that would do that.
Yes!! It's a must for me. I have 2 kids, and sometimes I overbook myself and forget I have things scheduled or I pick up hours because they ask for overtime. Someone who is flexible with my schedule is a must and is very much appreciated. I do let the person know as far ahead of time as possible.
Just typing this, made me think I missed a ballet performance that I bought tickets to for my kids lol smh...
It's weird though because He's never forgotten any details or talks with me.. It's things we've talked about way in the beginning that he brings up and even I'm like how tf did you remember that? lol
I'm going to assume (correct me if I'm wrong) that you were somewhat aware of his schedule/busyness when you met & entered the relationship. So don't stress & worry about. Just know that he wants you and be patient & understanding.
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I knew he had a job, he does some contracting, a director and he plays sports and coaches young kids as well as being a single father of 2 kids.. I had my own thing going, worked a 9-5, my own biz and single mother of 1.. I knew I was busy also, but I made time to enjoy some things and take a break when things got to be overwhelming.. So I assumed the same for him.. that he would make time for me & because he contacted me first (online dating) he would "fit me in his schedule" as I would for him.. I wasn't aware of HOW busy he was from the jump because he made time.. I wish he told me he wouldn't have much time and that he would be silent for days but not to worry....That way I knew not to worry.. & the I could decide for myself if I wanted to get emotionally involved with someone that was extremely busy.. Now I'm invested because the time I've already spent getting to know him thus establishing feelings.. so I'm not giving up, but now I know.. I can't lie it bothers me..but Im understanding..
Remember he took no time to make me his gf.. we only dated for a month, our vibe was magnetic and we connected extremely well and exceptionally fast, and then we became official on our first date beginning of the 2nd month of knowing each other.. I just thought his reserve was that he was just getting to know me in the beginning and was feeling me out as most ppl do when dating.. because in the beginning he made all the effort to keep in touch and get to know me... Once I became his gf, that "effort" slowed down to where it felt to me like he assumed because I was "his" he no longer had to put in the extra work.. when I brought that up in the beginning he denied my thoughts about it & said nothing about his feelings changed & that he was just busy with his day to day.. he really likes me and wants me.. so I let it go the first time.. I deal with his schedule now but he's gotten busier and busier since day 1.. (it's only 6 months in so in a way I'm still getting to know him) & he did tell me that this was the busiest time of year for him.. I'm learning to become patient... I've brought up his distance to him when it gets to be too much for me and my thoughts are negative most times I just "zip" my lips as to not come off as "whiny" for his attention (I hate that from other ppl myself)..
Posted by CAPS-LOCKPosted by poison_ivyDon't worry. I'm still on my way.? ?Posted by CAPS-LOCKhahahaa! I was figuratively speaking!!
@OP Your use to men crossing the ocean to spend time with you LMAO
Post pics please. I might just try swimming across the Pacific Ocean for you with my scuba gear and spandex ?
PS. Someone on here got me scared to post personal pics! Otherwise, I would have a real photo of myself in my profile!
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LOL!! 😆
Well .. if you're curious.. I look like the "natural" version of Nicki Minaj.. LOL! Which is why I use her pic for my profile.. at least that's what people that know me say often.. im her "look alike" .. 😛 look below... HUBBA HUBBA!!
Posted by CAPS-LOCKNO offense taken.. I love beautiful woman! 🙂Posted by poison_ivyYou must be gorgeous..........Posted by CAPS-LOCKPosted by poison_ivyDon't worry. I'm still on my way.? ?Posted by CAPS-LOCKhahahaa! I was figuratively speaking!!
@OP Your use to men crossing the ocean to spend time with you LMAO
Post pics please. I might just try swimming across the Pacific Ocean for you with my scuba gear and spandex ?
PS. Someone on here got me scared to post personal pics! Otherwise, I would have a real photo of myself in my profile!
LOL!! 😆
Well .. if you're curious.. I look like the "natural" version of Nicki Minaj.. LOL! Which is why I use her pic for my profile.. at least that's what people that know me say often.. im her "look alike" .. 😛 look below... HUBBA HUBBA!!
But my soon to be girl looks better ?
No offense 🙂
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& at least you'll cross thee ocean for your new girl! 🙂
Posted by RindarooYou are absolutely right! I feel that at times.. unimportant.. but as we know caps are hard workers and dedicate themselves to their career, jobs.... so I'm learning patience and understanding.. & if he really wants me.. when he has the time, he'll show me as you've stated... It's all so new for me. LDR, my first cap man... BUT actions speak volumes. I'll wait but if he doesn't show and prove I have to continue to live my life.. Happy! 🙂
LDR's are tough. It takes two to make it work. I was in one, and left it because it eventually became clear I wasn't important enough. Not that the relationship wasn't good, but sometimes you have to do what us right for you & makes you happy. If you're important enough, it will become crystal clear as you do things that are right do you. He will make the time or not...
Posted by Capri-sunPosted by poison_ivyPosted by Capri-sunPosted by poison_ivyPosted by Capri-sunPosted by poison_ivyPosted by CAPRILICIOUSPosted by poison_ivyWell maybe that's the case with him at times.. He has 2 kids, works hard, plays sports and now has me.. Its still early, so I'm obviously not his first priority.. & it's expected with me cause I don't have a ring on my finger.... but there have been times where he FINALLY gets to sit down and within secs is knocked out cold! Or like you said he has so much on his plate that he forgets things..Posted by Capri-sun
How long since you last saw him? How long have you waited for him to initiate before reaching out?
It's weird though because He's never forgotten any details or talks with me.. It's things we've talked about way in the beginning that he brings up and even I'm like how tf did you remember that? lol
I'm going to assume (correct me if I'm wrong) that you were somewhat aware of his schedule/busyness when you met & entered the relationship. So don't stress & worry about. Just know that he wants you and be patient & understanding.
I knew he had a job, he does some contracting, a director and he plays sports and coaches young kids as well as being a single father of 2 kids.. I had my own thing going, worked a 9-5, my own biz and single mother of 1.. I knew I was busy also, but I made time to enjoy some things and take a break when things got to be overwhelming.. So I assumed the same for him.. that he would make time for me & because he contacted me first (online dating) he would "fit me in his schedule" as I would for him.. I wasn't aware of HOW busy he was from the jump because he made time.. I wish he told me he wouldn't have much time and that he would be silent for days but not to worry....That way I knew not to worry.. & the I could decide for myself if I wanted to get emotionally involved with someone that was extremely busy.. Now I'm invested because the time I've already spent getting to know him thus establishing feelings.. so I'm not giving up, but now I know.. I can't lie it bothers me..but Im understanding..
Remember he took no time to make me his gf.. we only dated for a month, our vibe was magnetic and we connected extremely well and exceptionally fast, and then we became official on our first date beginning of the 2nd month of knowing each other.. I just thought his reserve was that he was just getting to know me in the beginning and was feeling me out as most ppl do when dating.. because in the beginning he made all the effort to keep in touch and get to know me... Once I became his gf, that "effort" slowed down to where it felt to me like he assumed because I was "his" he no longer had to put in the extra work.. when I brought that up in the beginning he denied my thoughts about it & said nothing about his feelings changed & that he was just busy with his day to day.. he really likes me and wants me.. so I let it go the first time.. I deal with his schedule now but he's gotten busier and busier since day 1.. (it's only 6 months in so in a way I'm still getting to know him) & he did tell me that this was the busiest time of year for him.. I'm learning to become patient... I've brought up his distance to him when it gets to be too much for me and my thoughts are negative most times I just "zip" my lips as to not come off as "whiny" for his attention (I hate that from other ppl myself)..
I'm refraining from responding because I'm not in the best mental/ emotional place so do what you will with him & with anything I post right now. (My disclaimer)
I know I keep going back and forth, I still stand by my first mind on this one. A person makes time for the things they want to do. He makes time to play sports, he makes time to go to the bar with his friends/cousins.
Only speaking for myself, I'm the type of person who would drive 1.5 - 2 hours just to have dinner with you, hold you in my arms as we sleep, and be up @ 5a (when you're getting ready for work) to head to work myself. Doing this at least once within a 3 month span is not going to kill me. Then again I am irrational when in love.
Once you're in a relationship, yes sometimes people get comfortable. It's usually they still want & desire to spend time together, sometimes even moreso to keep the bond strong and continue to connect on deeper levels. Again I don't understand relationships and how they're actually suppose to work.
I guess if you try to meet him in his city, that should give you more clarity on if he's genuine or not & how serious he is. The one guy was 5 hours from me, I was in his city at least 5 times over the course of a year, and offered to go more than that while working a schedule similar to your caps. Only 1 of those 5 times did I see him, so I know he wasn't serious/ genuine, and the whole time I was sending messages like your cap was & thinking everything was ok (like he might be) while feeling in my gut something was off (like you might be - in thinking you 2 should be spending more time together)
Not saying that is the case in your situation, I'm just sharing my experience. Guys can be lazy at times hence why most don't do the long distance thing because the like time together without the extra. Plus if he's tired. Imo guys lie & are stupid so again take all of this with a grain of salt.
For your sake I hope I'm wrong. I mean mentally if he is coaching youth that is usually going to be during the week or Saturday. He has his kids every other weekend, so on his off weekends what is he doing during the time he would normally have his kids...
Then factor in if you 2 move in together is that really going to change the dynamic of the 2 of you spending more time together? Or will it still be the way things are now?
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I know I keep going back and forth, I still stand by my first mind on this one. A person makes time for the things they want to do. He makes time to play sports, he makes time to go to the bar with his friends/cousins.
That above is so true to me..
& by no means are you wrong!! I feel the same.. I take time for people & I'll do what I can to see someone no matter the distance.. so you're not the only one! That's why it's hard for me to wrap my brain around it.. but as far as men go they don't think like us (women) not as emotional and sometimes we have to almost "tell them what to do." Or tell them what we need/want.. I have a hard time being told what to do so I for one won't do it myself.. but it's like this shit should be common sense for him??
He gets his kids every other week but again like you said what about the free week from his kids.. —
I go back & forth in my brain about that.. this is not easy by no means.. I'm trying to stay positive and be understanding as you said I should but this shit! Lol! It's the worst! Men are stupid! ??
Living together may change the game.. even if I'm only seeing him days, maybe during lunches and dinner, & we're going to bed together, I'll be content. I don't need someone up my ass and vice versa.. been there and it was the worst but I'll take what I can.. I'll give him his space when needed and I expect the same.
.. I'll try seeing him where he lives for the time being but if it's only me giving and him taking I won't continue to do so.. I'm stubborn in that aspect where I can finally "get the point", turn away and not look back and it's usually the men trynna come back once I'm really over it.. cause they realize what they had.. it's normally too late by then..
But .. anyway, Is everything okay on your end?? I see you say your mental/emotional is not at the best state? I know I'm going through my own but I'm always willing to help where I can and give my 2 cents:. You okay?
Posted by RindarooYou have a point. Hard to swallow that pill!Posted by poison_ivyWell there is a reasonable amount of understanding what he is doing, and then there is the idea of how do you want to be treated in a relationship now and in the future. Now really does predict the future. In my example, it was a Leo guy & we lived 11 hours apart. Completely impossible.. and we both believed in "us" & oh so many similarities.to your situation. It's hard to let go, so it took me a year of steps & chances to move on. I had to believe I just wasn't important enough for him to figure it out. Even though I'm extremely important to him. Anyway, I finally moved on with a Cap who is local to me & our work schedules are completely opposite. It seemed impossible lol. But you know what? He makes me feel important. He makes time. I make time. He wants to see me all the time & does. There is just such a difference between someone who you are important enough to & to someone you're not. It really has nothing to do with being a Cap or a Leo or any other sign.Posted by RindarooYou are absolutely right! I feel that at times.. unimportant.. but as we know caps are hard workers and dedicate themselves to their career, jobs.... so I'm learning patience and understanding.. & if he really wants me.. when he has the time, he'll show me as you've stated... It's all so new for me. LDR, my first cap man... BUT actions speak volumes. I'll wait but if he doesn't show and prove I have to continue to live my life.. Happy! 🙂
LDR's are tough. It takes two to make it work. I was in one, and left it because it eventually became clear I wasn't important enough. Not that the relationship wasn't good, but sometimes you have to do what us right for you & makes you happy. If you're important enough, it will become crystal clear as you do things that are right do you. He will make the time or not...
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But besides him there are still men trying to be in "the picture" wanting to give me time etc.. they're not disrespectful.. they are aware I'm in a relationship but they say that they would want more if I gave them a chance.. & I often ask myself why do I deal with him when I can have someone that will make me feel important.. sigh. I guess this is what I'm so hard on myself mostly about. But I can't "fallback" like I normally would. I do like him a lot.. I know I look silly to you all & in my head.. ? guess I think he deserves a chance and then once I feel I've given my all and still no good I gotta move on.?
Posted by Capri-sunI get it.. that's how I am at times.. internalize my issues.. my mind goes all ballistic with thoughts and it becomes a battle of the heart & mind. I shut down out of protecting myself..Posted by poison_ivy
I know I keep going back and forth, I still stand by my first mind on this one. A person makes time for the things they want to do. He makes time to play sports, he makes time to go to the bar with his friends/cousins.
That above is so true to me..
& by no means are you wrong!! I feel the same.. I take time for people & I'll do what I can to see someone no matter the distance.. so you're not the only one! That's why it's hard for me to wrap my brain around.. but as far as men go they don't think like us (women) and sometimes we have to almost "tell them what to do." I have a hard time being told what to do so I for one won't do it myself..
He gets his kids every other week but again like you said what about the free week from kids..
I go back & forth in my brain that on this.. its not easy by no means.. I'm trying to stay positive and be understanding as you said but this shit! Lol! Men are stupid!
Living together may change the game.. even if I'm only seeing him days, maybe during lunches and we're going to bed together, I'll be content. I don't need someone up my ass and vice versa.. been there and it was the worst but I'll take what I can..
.. I'll try seeing him where he lives for the time being but if it's only me giving and him taking I won't continue to do so.. I'm stubborn I'm that aspect where I can finally get the point, turn away and not look back and it's usually the men trynna come back once I'm really over it..
But .. anyway, Is everything okay on your end?? I see you say your mental/emotional is not at the best state? I know I'm going through my own but I'm always willing to help where I can and give my 2 cents:. You okay?
Thanks for asking, that's really kind of you. I've been better....I'm not really okay, but I know I will be eventually.
My mind gets stuck in analyzing mode when words don't match actions because I feel like I have to figure out which is the truth and which is a lie.
Even now that the words match the actions it just makes me wonder if I missed it from the beginning or if it changed over time. (Reflection and for future reference) A lot of unanswered questions that I will never have the answer to.
Wasted time mentally really. I'm not sure if I'm in denial, disbelief, unacceptance, idk what to call it. And I'm trying to keep it attached to the situation rather than internalize it like there is something wrong with me or I did something wrong.
I have a headache.
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Everyone wants words & actions put towards those words. When it doesn't match it sends up red flags. It doesn't make you feel good.. then like you said when the actions start to match it's like did you do it cause I told you or you finally grasping it or what's up.. ? Was it just all a lie. Is it still a lie. Capri I'm with you..
It also doesn't help when you've already gone through the issues with past relationships & male interest and they hurt you deeply. You try not to pass blame on the next but sometimes it's inevitable. When you move on after having your heart shattered like glass so many times, you expect the "next" to slowly but surely pick up those pieces and put your heart back together til it's whole again and you're finally comfortable and that trust is all the way there.. but then again no one's perfect.. You can build yourself up and then you let someone in again & it happens again. How do you deal? When it's a constant issue. Be single forever. Some ppl are okay with that but I want love and a mate to grow old with. I don't need it but idk anybody I'd go to that would say the truly want to be alone forever.. even if it's not a relationship..
I'm starting to believe that trust is never there in the beginning, it's built up in ppl and earned. I already have a hard time trusting in the first place. When you give what you think is your all you feel like you deserve the same & that is true.
If anything I really hope it all works out with you. My mind state is up and down lately not trynna get in a stressed mood over something so simple.. trynna stay busy, be with ppl who love me.. I tell myself to give up but then I can't take the first step to walk away either.. so it's like I'm putting it on myself. SMH! We need "emotional" pain killers! ?
@Capri-sun Im preaching to the choir and speaking to myself on that! I really hope it gets easier & I hope your headache goes away!! *hugs*
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@Capri-sun Im preaching to the choir and speaking to myself on that! I really hope it gets easier & I hope your headache goes away!! *hugs*
Thanks! Everything I have been telling you, I've been telling myself as well.
I think your plan sounds good. Give it your all and see how things go, then you'll know how to proceed. You'll know when you've had enough or if it's still worth being patient with.
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??it's nice to talk to people that can relate.. & get me.. Thank you so much also! We will see! ?
Posted by CAPRILICIOUSThank you for sharing! It's good to know that it wasn't just a walk in the park and I'm not the only one going through... I need someone to know me & become friends with my bf and live in the same city for my comfort.. shoot!! Lo jk. . I have been in a relationship prior to this one that moved so fast and crashed horribly. So as I've said I'm comfortable with slow pace it just worries me since it's "new" .. I trust his loyalty.. so I'll breath lol!! My silly mind is to blame for my negative thoughts of him and his intentions.. I'm like I live far, why make me his gf & cheat when he can just have me as a friend a "do him".. I gotta learn to trust his words but I do like actions also..
@poison_ivy Well, I sound calm now, but I went through a period of anxiety, distrust and sleeplessness to get here. Lol. Astrologically, we have Pluto aspecting almost every planet in our composite chart. It's been very intense from the start.
I had a hard time trusting his intentions initially and did a lot of push-pull. We brought out each other's insecurities. The only thing that has kept us together was that deep inside we appreciated each other. He takes my word very seriously. Time and again he has proved his commitment to make this work.
My brother lives in the same city as him. So once they became friends I was able to relax more. My brother thinks very highly of him, which is important to me.
You are in the sixth month of your relationship. Maintaining that initial intensity is going to be difficult. I see couples fall head over heels, proclaim that they are madly in love, have found their soulmate, move in together...to suddenly experience it all come crashing down. If you believe he is staying true to you, then you should have nothing to worry. You can relax, sit back and let him decide on the future course to take.
Since you have planned to spend the weekend with him, you should do that. After that it might be better to pull back and concentrate more on yourself.
What are your father's placements? Is he still the same (regarding his neglect towards his family)? How does he show love? I can understand why his wives had issues with him prioritising work over family. It's a little selfish, to be honest. But i can understand that not everyone is well equipped at maintaining a balance between all of life's objectives. He ought to have learnt something by the time he got prepared for his third marriage though. No wonder people call us stubborn!
While growing up, I was always told that family came before everything else. So I carry the same belief. We were taught that being noble and of a sound character was more important than work or money. Work is important for self-actualization, but not at the risk of losing everything else.
Well I'm not sure of my dad's placements I need to look them up but I know he was born 1/5/72..
he has honestly gotten better with spending quality time with family., he is trying to do better for his wife also and make up for lost time..? He is so loving and caring, gets along well with everyone he meets.. stingy with his money but will do what he can for his loved ones.. like actions of affirmation.. I value family time, and time with my S/O.. thats big in my family on my dad's side (family time) so for him to be the way he is, distant, is so odd! Lol..! I feel my dad shows love with his words.. by "working" to make a franchise & have something his offspring can live off of, it's funny when he gets emotional it's like loving but not deeply emotional lol. If you get me.. it's like he says I love you but he preaches about other shit that's not exactly coming out and just saying I love you.. lol idk if that makes sense, can't explain lol
Thank you for your input, info.. I can't wait to get to where you and your cappy are! Do you guys live together now??
Posted by CAPRILICIOUSI see now. Players make everyone nervous.. Lol but it's always that 1 woman that can get a player out of his whorish tendencies.. lol! Luckily those ways were wrong about your cappy.. I would be on pins and needles.. -_-Posted by poison_ivyHahaha. 😆Posted by CAPRILICIOUSThank you for sharing! It's good to know that it wasn't just a walk in the park and I'm not the only one going through... I need someone to know me & become friends with my bf and live in the same city for my comfort.. shoot!! Lo jk. . I have been in a relationship prior to this one that moved so fast and crashed horribly. So as I've said I'm comfortable with slow pace it just worries me since it's "new" .. I trust his loyalty.. so I'll breath lol!! My silly mind is to blame for my negative thoughts of him and his intentions.. I'm like I live far, why make me his gf & cheat when he can just have me as a friend a "do him".. I gotta learn to trust his words but I do like actions also..
@poison_ivy Well, I sound calm now, but I went through a period of anxiety, distrust and sleeplessness to get here. Lol. Astrologically, we have Pluto aspecting almost every planet in our composite chart. It's been very intense from the start.
I had a hard time trusting his intentions initially and did a lot of push-pull. We brought out each other's insecurities. The only thing that has kept us together was that deep inside we appreciated each other. He takes my word very seriously. Time and again he has proved his commitment to make this work.
My brother lives in the same city as him. So once they became friends I was able to relax more. My brother thinks very highly of him, which is important to me.
You are in the sixth month of your relationship. Maintaining that initial intensity is going to be difficult. I see couples fall head over heels, proclaim that they are madly in love, have found their soulmate, move in together...to suddenly experience it all come crashing down. If you believe he is staying true to you, then you should have nothing to worry. You can relax, sit back and let him decide on the future course to take.
Since you have planned to spend the weekend with him, you should do that. After that it might be better to pull back and concentrate more on yourself.
What are your father's placements? Is he still the same (regarding his neglect towards his family)? How does he show love? I can understand why his wives had issues with him prioritising work over family. It's a little selfish, to be honest. But i can understand that not everyone is well equipped at maintaining a balance between all of life's objectives. He ought to have learnt something by the time he got prepared for his third marriage though. No wonder people call us stubborn!
While growing up, I was always told that family came before everything else. So I carry the same belief. We were taught that being noble and of a sound character was more important than work or money. Work is important for self-actualization, but not at the risk of losing everything else.
Well I'm not sure of my dad's placements I need to look them up but I know he was born 1/5/72..
he has honestly gotten better with spending quality time with family., he is trying to do better for his wife also and make up for lost time..? He is so loving and caring, gets along well with everyone he meets.. stingy with his money but will do what he can for his loved ones.. like actions of affirmation.. I value family time, and time with my S/O.. thats big in my family on my dad's side (family time) so for him to be the way he is, distant, is so odd! Lol..! I feel my dad shows love with his words.. by "working" to make a franchise & have something his offspring can live off of, it's funny when he gets emotional it's like loving but not deeply emotional lol. If you get me.. it's like he says I love you but he preaches about other shit that's not exactly coming out and just saying I love you.. lol idk if that makes sense, can't explain lol
Thank you for your input, info.. I can't wait to get to where you and your cappy are! Do you guys live together now??
I should probably have elaborated. My anxiety arose after hearing about his player tendencies. The stories turned out to be false though. This is also the first time I'm seeing someone outside my social circle. This would not have mattered, but I was constantly being brainwashed against him by my friend, who was only being protective of me. There was just a lot of drama that went on.
After deliberating for a long time and getting advice from here, I decided to place faith in him and see where things lead. It was a good decision, I would say. Lol.
This is the reason why I have been taking it really slow. It's too early to move in.
It seems like your father is also an Aqua venus. Surprising to see so many Aqua venus stories on here lately. This might explain his aloofness, which is mostly superficial in the case of Aqua Venuses, I think.
Lol. I understand what you mean. They say Cap men are married to their work in early years, but get playful and start enjoying life in later years. Your father might get more expressive as the years go by.
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I think I feel uncomfortable sometimes because my bf has a lot of female friends.. It's not that I don't trust him, some women have their ways with them and can be very sneaky, just like men. BUT he assures me that if he says some chick is just his friend, that's ALL it is, nothing more, nothing less.. & I know he will correct a chick if she oversteps her bounds.. He says, "We had friends and we will have friends of the opposite sex.." I think I didn't grasp it well til we got into a big argument over "friends" because my man before him made me feel like I needed to cut off all my male friends off with his manipulative ways. He was insecure. So this is new for me. Having a man that is secure with himself and doesn't mind his lady having male friends. My mate says he doesn't get jealous.. but I see through that.. If I mention anything about a male friend wanting to take me out for drinks or that they are coming to visit me and my fam, he's like "oh he wants to see MY mami?? good luck to him".. lol.. There are other things that help me see through that "I don't get jealous" persona.. LOL! I'm not fooled.. I love it actually that I can get him like that.
I have to agree with you. The advice here gives me more of a backbone to take a step back, reavaluate my thoughts, & give him a chance to prove his desire for me.. It's early still.. I've had longer relationships that moved faster.. and didn't work out.. My guy hasn't changed his mind about being with me so far so I would like to trust that he will respect our relationship and do no harm. I'm quite fond of @Daron76's input about cappy males because he breaks it down in a way that makes SO much sense.. He is also aqua venus and alot of the way he writes sounds like how my boyfriend would explain things to me when I ask him questions.. lol GREAT advice in a male perspective...
It seems like there are similarities with Cap males from all of the post here. I guess it's all about how you handle every separate situation with them as a female. I believe they honestly need strong women by their side.. Hard workers, loyal, sexual & strong.. the delicate can't handle their personalities.. I'm def not weak. I speak my mind and say what needs to be heard.. and although I complain here... I'm never that aggressive with my negativity to him.. I don't nag.. I vent to DXPNET'ers and when I go to him I have a more sound mind.. He likes that. But as @ScorpioTruth told me here, you can't lose yourself in them and soften up.. continue to be strong and speak your mind..Im glad she said that because I was actually easing up a bit.. Some caps come off as "father figures" to their woman and I for one won't accept that shit.. I don't like to be talked down to or told what to do.. Every so often I give him his way but I play it off by saying jokingly "OH, yes daddy!" or "I'll behave" lol.. I make him laugh. 🙂 Now when I go out and look all sexy & send him a pic.. he'll send me a text saying "oh I see you showing off, behave mami and have fun!" I just really enjoy him.. it's pleasant.. and it works for us.. again my ex wasn't anything to compare.. If the situation was reversed and I was with my ex and got dressed up to go out, he'd say "who you trynna look cute for? you got your titts all out.. I think you should change" and he would pout until I changed my mind about going.. SIGH!
I read that too.. that caps relax more the older they get.. I can tell with my dad.. He's enjoying days off.. He has the same mindset that work is important but it's not as crucial to him like before where he works until he burns himself out.. My boyfriend... uhhh.. not quite there yet.. He worked the entire time he had the flu... he hurt his ankle playing basketball and went right back out on the court the following practice.. There's no quitting in him yet. I will be so glad when he can settle down and take it easy. 🙂
I'm glad you are learning more through my post.. I feel the same way with you.. Especially the part about trusting him, having patience and taking my time.. go with the flow.. I'm not a patient person, but I have learned to be with this guy. LOL!
😆
Posted by ParisianCappy
omg yall womans writting a book ?
😆 HAHAHA!! 😛
We should.. Ya'll so complicated!
We need a book .. a guide for dating a Cap. 😛
Problems solved. 😉
Posted by CAPRILICIOUSI've learnt a lot about Cap men (dating one) from reading these threads. They are a unique breed. Strange thing is my dad is a Cap but I never looked into astrology before. I feel like I've got to understand my dad more in the process.Posted by poison_ivyOh! Don't worry about him having female friends. A guy having female friends is a good thing, actually. Such men are more comfortable around women and are better at relating to their partners. I would definitely prefer a guy having some female friends rather than none at all. My guy has never had female friends, only BROS!!?? ?
I see now. Players make everyone nervous.. Lol but it's always that 1 woman that can get a player out of his whorish tendencies.. lol! Luckily those ways were wrong about your cappy.. I would be on pins and needles.. -_-
I think I feel uncomfortable sometimes because my bf has a lot of female friends.. It's not that I don't trust him, some women have their ways with them and can be very sneaky, just like men. BUT he assures me that if he says some chick is just his friend, that's ALL it is, nothing more, nothing less.. & I know he will correct a chick if she oversteps her bounds.. He says, "We had friends and we will have friends of the opposite sex.." I think I didn't grasp it well til we got into a big argument over "friends" because my man before him made me feel like I needed to cut off all my male friends off with his manipulative ways. He was insecure. So this is new for me. Having a man that is secure with himself and doesn't mind his lady having male friends. My mate says he doesn't get jealous.. but I see through that.. If I mention anything about a male friend wanting to take me out for drinks or that they are coming to visit me and my fam, he's like "oh he wants to see MY mami?? good luck to him".. lol.. There are other things that help me see through that "I don't get jealous" persona.. LOL! I'm not fooled.. I love it actually that I can get him like that.
I have to agree with you. The advice here gives me more of a backbone to take a step back, reavaluate my thoughts, & give him a chance to prove his desire for me.. It's early still.. I've had longer relationships that moved faster.. and didn't work out.. My guy hasn't changed his mind about being with me so far so I would like to trust that he will respect our relationship and do no harm. I'm quite fond of @Daron76's input about cappy males because he breaks it down in a way that makes SO much sense.. He is also aqua venus and alot of the way he writes sounds like how my boyfriend would explain things to me when I ask him questions.. lol GREAT advice in a male perspective...
It seems like there are similarities with Cap males from all of the post here. I guess it's all about how you handle every separate situation with them as a female. I believe they honestly need strong women by their side.. Hard workers, loyal, sexual & strong.. the delicate can't handle their personalities.. I'm def not weak. I speak my mind and say what needs to be heard.. and although I complain here... I'm never that aggressive with my negativity to him.. I don't nag.. I vent to DXPNET'ers and when I go to him I have a more sound mind.. He likes that. But as @ScorpioTruth told me here, you can't lose yourself in them and soften up.. continue to be strong and speak your mind..Im glad she said that because I was actually easing up a bit.. Some caps come off as "father figures" to their woman and I for one won't accept that shit.. I don't like to be talked down to or told what to do.. Every so often I give him his way but I play it off by saying jokingly "OH, yes daddy!" or "I'll behave" lol.. I make him laugh. 🙂 Now when I go out and look all sexy & send him a pic.. he'll send me a text saying "oh I see you showing off, behave mami and have fun!" I just really enjoy him.. it's pleasant.. and it works for us.. again my ex wasn't anything to compare.. If the situation was reversed and I was with my ex and got dressed up to go out, he'd say "who you trynna look cute for? you got your titts all out.. I think you should change" and he would pout until I changed my mind about going.. SIGH!
I read that too.. that caps relax more the older they get.. I can tell with my dad.. He's enjoying days off.. He has the same mindset that work is important but it's not as crucial to him like before where he works until he burns himself out.. My boyfriend... uhhh.. not quite there yet.. He worked the entire time he had the flu... he hurt his ankle playing basketball and went right back out on the court the following practice.. There's no quitting in him yet. I will be so glad when he can settle down and take it easy. 🙂
I'm glad you are learning more through my post.. I feel the same way with you.. Especially the part about trusting him, having patience and taking my time.. go with the flow.. I'm not a patient person, but I have learned to be with this guy. LOL!
😆
His past girlfriends thought it a bad idea. As a result he has some issues...like he never disagrees with me. He's afraid that speaking his mind would upset me. I recently asked him to be himself instead of pretending around me. His reply was, "I'm not pretending, just being respectful". Lol. He's adorable!
I think you should believe your guy when he says those girls are just friends. He sounds very mature and responsible. 🙂
I agree with you. Daron always gives great advice. He has a lot of patience to be dealing with everyone's queries, singlehandedly. He is the one I went to with my doubts as well. Among the female posters on this forum, Capri-sun is the most devoted.
That's the impression I'm getting as well...that you have to be strong with them. As far as attraction goes, I've noticed they are a lot into looks. All the cap men I have known in the past would compliment my looks. There was a cap guy in my office, where I worked 3yrs ago, who would stealthily record videos of me. So before my boyfriend came along, I never took Cap men seriously. In fact, I didn't take him seriously either. I just thought all of them were obsessed with superficial stuff, like someone's physical appearance. It's good to be admired for your looks, but you know that an attraction based simply on looks is not going to last forever. A relationship should be based on something more enduring. One reason why it takes me some time trusting a guy, while entering a relationship. (Gosh! I sound so grave! ?)
Lol. You are good at getting people to open up. I haven't discussed my relationship in this detail on any of the threads here.
BTW, the revelations about Cap men's psychology is making Parisian feel threatened (and maybe exposed!?). 😆
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My dad always said to me he was never interested in dating the hottest girl, he could have his pick of them if he wanted but he said they are high maintenance and generally superficial. Never interested him.
Posted by CAPRILICIOUSHaha yes I do. Although my mum and step mum are attractive they both have beautiful souls too. Don't get me wrong he said he'd look at a hot lady (i don't particularly want to know if he'd sleep with them in his youth) but he said he was never interested in pursuing them for a relationship.Posted by WonderWoman14Hahaha. Unique breed, indeed. 😆Posted by CAPRILICIOUSI've learnt a lot about Cap men (dating one) from reading these threads. They are a unique breed. Strange thing is my dad is a Cap but I never looked into astrology before. I feel like I've got to understand my dad more in the process.Posted by poison_ivyOh! Don't worry about him having female friends. A guy having female friends is a good thing, actually. Such men are more comfortable around women and are better at relating to their partners. I would definitely prefer a guy having some female friends rather than none at all. My guy has never had female friends, only BROS!!?? ?
I see now. Players make everyone nervous.. Lol but it's always that 1 woman that can get a player out of his whorish tendencies.. lol! Luckily those ways were wrong about your cappy.. I would be on pins and needles.. -_-
I think I feel uncomfortable sometimes because my bf has a lot of female friends.. It's not that I don't trust him, some women have their ways with them and can be very sneaky, just like men. BUT he assures me that if he says some chick is just his friend, that's ALL it is, nothing more, nothing less.. & I know he will correct a chick if she oversteps her bounds.. He says, "We had friends and we will have friends of the opposite sex.." I think I didn't grasp it well til we got into a big argument over "friends" because my man before him made me feel like I needed to cut off all my male friends off with his manipulative ways. He was insecure. So this is new for me. Having a man that is secure with himself and doesn't mind his lady having male friends. My mate says he doesn't get jealous.. but I see through that.. If I mention anything about a male friend wanting to take me out for drinks or that they are coming to visit me and my fam, he's like "oh he wants to see MY mami?? good luck to him".. lol.. There are other things that help me see through that "I don't get jealous" persona.. LOL! I'm not fooled.. I love it actually that I can get him like that.
I have to agree with you. The advice here gives me more of a backbone to take a step back, reavaluate my thoughts, & give him a chance to prove his desire for me.. It's early still.. I've had longer relationships that moved faster.. and didn't work out.. My guy hasn't changed his mind about being with me so far so I would like to trust that he will respect our relationship and do no harm. I'm quite fond of @Daron76's input about cappy males because he breaks it down in a way that makes SO much sense.. He is also aqua venus and alot of the way he writes sounds like how my boyfriend would explain things to me when I ask him questions.. lol GREAT advice in a male perspective...
It seems like there are similarities with Cap males from all of the post here. I guess it's all about how you handle every separate situation with them as a female. I believe they honestly need strong women by their side.. Hard workers, loyal, sexual & strong.. the delicate can't handle their personalities.. I'm def not weak. I speak my mind and say what needs to be heard.. and although I complain here... I'm never that aggressive with my negativity to him.. I don't nag.. I vent to DXPNET'ers and when I go to him I have a more sound mind.. He likes that. But as @ScorpioTruth told me here, you can't lose yourself in them and soften up.. continue to be strong and speak your mind..Im glad she said that because I was actually easing up a bit.. Some caps come off as "father figures" to their woman and I for one won't accept that shit.. I don't like to be talked down to or told what to do.. Every so often I give him his way but I play it off by saying jokingly "OH, yes daddy!" or "I'll behave" lol.. I make him laugh. 🙂 Now when I go out and look all sexy & send him a pic.. he'll send me a text saying "oh I see you showing off, behave mami and have fun!" I just really enjoy him.. it's pleasant.. and it works for us.. again my ex wasn't anything to compare.. If the situation was reversed and I was with my ex and got dressed up to go out, he'd say "who you trynna look cute for? you got your titts all out.. I think you should change" and he would pout until I changed my mind about going.. SIGH!
I read that too.. that caps relax more the older they get.. I can tell with my dad.. He's enjoying days off.. He has the same mindset that work is important but it's not as crucial to him like before where he works until he burns himself out.. My boyfriend... uhhh.. not quite there yet.. He worked the entire time he had the flu... he hurt his ankle playing basketball and went right back out on the court the following practice.. There's no quitting in him yet. I will be so glad when he can settle down and take it easy. 🙂
I'm glad you are learning more through my post.. I feel the same way with you.. Especially the part about trusting him, having patience and taking my time.. go with the flow.. I'm not a patient person, but I have learned to be with this guy. LOL!
😆
His past girlfriends thought it a bad idea. As a result he has some issues...like he never disagrees with me. He's afraid that speaking his mind would upset me. I recently asked him to be himself instead of pretending around me. His reply was, "I'm not pretending, just being respectful". Lol. He's adorable!
I think you should believe your guy when he says those girls are just friends. He sounds very mature and responsible. 🙂
I agree with you. Daron always gives great advice. He has a lot of patience to be dealing with everyone's queries, singlehandedly. He is the one I went to with my doubts as well. Among the female posters on this forum, Capri-sun is the most devoted.
That's the impression I'm getting as well...that you have to be strong with them. As far as attraction goes, I've noticed they are a lot into looks. All the cap men I have known in the past would compliment my looks. There was a cap guy in my office, where I worked 3yrs ago, who would stealthily record videos of me. So before my boyfriend came along, I never took Cap men seriously. In fact, I didn't take him seriously either. I just thought all of them were obsessed with superficial stuff, like someone's physical appearance. It's good to be admired for your looks, but you know that an attraction based simply on looks is not going to last forever. A relationship should be based on something more enduring. One reason why it takes me some time trusting a guy, while entering a relationship. (Gosh! I sound so grave! ?)
Lol. You are good at getting people to open up. I haven't discussed my relationship in this detail on any of the threads here.
BTW, the revelations about Cap men's psychology is making Parisian feel threatened (and maybe exposed!?). 😆
My dad always said to me he was never interested in dating the hottest girl, he could have his pick of them if he wanted but he said they are high maintenance and generally superficial. Never interested him.
Interesting! Do you believe he was telling the truth? My father will always preach the importance of a good education and character over looks, but I know he can be superficial at times. Lol.
May I know your father's placements, if you don't mind? Is he a third decan Cap?click to expand
I'm not sure this is something I want to look into. Out of curiosity I want to see the difference in compatibility between my step mum and my mum. My step mum is like a 2nd mum to me, I've known her since I was 8. I shall let you know I'm spending the weekend with them.
@CAPRILICIOUS
Your mate must have dealt with a lot of insecure women in his past! Jeez! LOL! I told my BF that I don't mind him having female friends as long as no "lines" are crossed..
So I have a short story (situation) for you: THE Confused "Friend"
He has 1 friend that I don't care for much. I wrote her online 1 day because something to me seemed sketchy. I was cool & collected when I wrote her. Not on no "crazy ass gf" shit. I'm outgoing, so when I feel uncertain about something, I go straight to the source. So, I asked her, politely, a few questions about her in relation to my man. She basically confirmed they were just friend's but that they "flirt" from time to time. So I'm not one to beat around the bush & I don't do BS like flirting with females when you have me. Minutes later, I asked him who she was to him once I got her side of her story.. He said she was someone he use to talk to but they're just friends.. (SN: She did say he never made time for her also and I don't see why he didn't because unlike me and his situation (LDR) they live in the same city..??) So she said she just went about them as being just friends since things weren't going anywhere.. She said she knew him for a little over a year.. She asked me how long we had been dating and I told her after the first month of getting to know each other, we went on our 1st date & he asked me to be his gf on our date.. She responds "Oh, we never got that far".. So clearly (in my mind) she was already put in the friend zone by him. LOL! .. So.. fast forward.. I tell him she mentioned that they "flirt".. & I asked him, "WHY?" He said "If reaching out a little means that I'm flirting because I'm nice then No we don't flirt, what's flirting?" I'm like that's WTF she said.. he replies "No.. I don't flirt."
She confused his outgoing, silly and fun personality for flirting? That's why I say I don't trust some females. You can't be overly nice to some women (well, people in general) because they take things overboard. Or automatically think a person is interested in something more.. He has ALWAYS been very honest with me from the beginning.. never "softened" his responses to me (whether I liked his response or not) So I believed what he was saying about her. I honestly believe that he would have told me "Yes" if flirting was taking place. LOL! That's what I like about him. His honestly is so blunt. 🙂 He said, We are friends. Nothing more, nothing less.. I can end things with someone on good terms and not cross that line again. I'm not trynna see her and have not seen her since we stopped talking." SO she's frankly delusional.. BUT OK.. She was like I wish the best for you 2, don't worry about us he's simply my friend.. I believe part of her story.. not so much about the "flirting" part..
ANYWAY.. 🙂
I do think they love an attractive woman on their arm.. Makes them look and feel good about themselves.. Cap men's appearance and how they look to others is important to them so I guess they figure they need a woman to "match" that persona. I think depending on each separate Cap, some can be shallow.. & obsessed with superficial qualities in a woman.. but I remember I sent a meme to my boyfriend a while back.. here's how our convo after he gets the pic went:
Him: "lol, did you steal that from my ____ page?"
Me: NO! LOL! I had that pic for a long time, and I agree with it but this is the first time I felt like I needed to send it to a guy.
Him ..lol.. *smiley emoji*
,,2 minutes later..
Him: WOW! I agree with it. I had it posted a while ago just never found that in anyone..
The following isn't the exact picture.. but these exact same words were written on it:
I snap-shot the picture around the same time he posted his picture online.. We always find things that kinda "link" us together.. and we've been discovering these things throughout getting to know each other and I find that we are alike in many ways.. Like the fact that our mothers have the same middle name.. What are the odds? LOL! We both agree that attraction is important but a mental connection is EVEN better & rare. Makes a relationship more authentic IMO.. You can fall out of love easily with someone you're ONLY physically attracted to.. There's no connection outside of that. (looks)
Thank you! Hey, no judgement here. I know that I'm not perfect, I've had a past... good & bad.. I always find that I make a lot of friends because I'm easy to talk to. Sometimes ppl I just meet through mutual friends will tell me their biz like we've been friends for ages.. I never realized I gave off that welcoming vibe.. Just pinned it to being outgoing and friendly! 🙂
I agree! @Capri-sun is awesome!! & def great with Capricorn knowledge also! & a few others!!
I'm surprised I share so much too.. LOL! Parisian, I guess is KINDA right.. 😉 I write so freaking much here.. I can't help it. I have a lot to say! LOL!
Parisian doesn't want secrets revealed.. 😉
#Gotcha
Your mate must have dealt with a lot of insecure women in his past! Jeez! LOL! I told my BF that I don't mind him having female friends as long as no "lines" are crossed..
So I have a short story (situation) for you: THE Confused "Friend"
He has 1 friend that I don't care for much. I wrote her online 1 day because something to me seemed sketchy. I was cool & collected when I wrote her. Not on no "crazy ass gf" shit. I'm outgoing, so when I feel uncertain about something, I go straight to the source. So, I asked her, politely, a few questions about her in relation to my man. She basically confirmed they were just friend's but that they "flirt" from time to time. So I'm not one to beat around the bush & I don't do BS like flirting with females when you have me. Minutes later, I asked him who she was to him once I got her side of her story.. He said she was someone he use to talk to but they're just friends.. (SN: She did say he never made time for her also and I don't see why he didn't because unlike me and his situation (LDR) they live in the same city..??) So she said she just went about them as being just friends since things weren't going anywhere.. She said she knew him for a little over a year.. She asked me how long we had been dating and I told her after the first month of getting to know each other, we went on our 1st date & he asked me to be his gf on our date.. She responds "Oh, we never got that far".. So clearly (in my mind) she was already put in the friend zone by him. LOL! .. So.. fast forward.. I tell him she mentioned that they "flirt".. & I asked him, "WHY?" He said "If reaching out a little means that I'm flirting because I'm nice then No we don't flirt, what's flirting?" I'm like that's WTF she said.. he replies "No.. I don't flirt."
She confused his outgoing, silly and fun personality for flirting? That's why I say I don't trust some females. You can't be overly nice to some women (well, people in general) because they take things overboard. Or automatically think a person is interested in something more.. He has ALWAYS been very honest with me from the beginning.. never "softened" his responses to me (whether I liked his response or not) So I believed what he was saying about her. I honestly believe that he would have told me "Yes" if flirting was taking place. LOL! That's what I like about him. His honestly is so blunt. 🙂 He said, We are friends. Nothing more, nothing less.. I can end things with someone on good terms and not cross that line again. I'm not trynna see her and have not seen her since we stopped talking." SO she's frankly delusional.. BUT OK.. She was like I wish the best for you 2, don't worry about us he's simply my friend.. I believe part of her story.. not so much about the "flirting" part..
ANYWAY.. 🙂
I do think they love an attractive woman on their arm.. Makes them look and feel good about themselves.. Cap men's appearance and how they look to others is important to them so I guess they figure they need a woman to "match" that persona. I think depending on each separate Cap, some can be shallow.. & obsessed with superficial qualities in a woman.. but I remember I sent a meme to my boyfriend a while back.. here's how our convo after he gets the pic went:
Him: "lol, did you steal that from my ____ page?"
Me: NO! LOL! I had that pic for a long time, and I agree with it but this is the first time I felt like I needed to send it to a guy.
Him ..lol.. *smiley emoji*
,,2 minutes later..
Him: WOW! I agree with it. I had it posted a while ago just never found that in anyone..
The following isn't the exact picture.. but these exact same words were written on it:
I snap-shot the picture around the same time he posted his picture online.. We always find things that kinda "link" us together.. and we've been discovering these things throughout getting to know each other and I find that we are alike in many ways.. Like the fact that our mothers have the same middle name.. What are the odds? LOL! We both agree that attraction is important but a mental connection is EVEN better & rare. Makes a relationship more authentic IMO.. You can fall out of love easily with someone you're ONLY physically attracted to.. There's no connection outside of that. (looks)
Thank you! Hey, no judgement here. I know that I'm not perfect, I've had a past... good & bad.. I always find that I make a lot of friends because I'm easy to talk to. Sometimes ppl I just meet through mutual friends will tell me their biz like we've been friends for ages.. I never realized I gave off that welcoming vibe.. Just pinned it to being outgoing and friendly! 🙂
I agree! @Capri-sun is awesome!! & def great with Capricorn knowledge also! & a few others!!
I'm surprised I share so much too.. LOL! Parisian, I guess is KINDA right.. 😉 I write so freaking much here.. I can't help it. I have a lot to say! LOL!
Parisian doesn't want secrets revealed.. 😉
#Gotcha
Posted by WonderWoman14I've learned so much also.. Through dating & from post here.Posted by CAPRILICIOUSI've learnt a lot about Cap men (dating one) from reading these threads. They are a unique breed. Strange thing is my dad is a Cap but I never looked into astrology before. I feel like I've got to understand my dad more in the process.Posted by poison_ivyOh! Don't worry about him having female friends. A guy having female friends is a good thing, actually. Such men are more comfortable around women and are better at relating to their partners. I would definitely prefer a guy having some female friends rather than none at all. My guy has never had female friends, only BROS!!?? ?
I see now. Players make everyone nervous.. Lol but it's always that 1 woman that can get a player out of his whorish tendencies.. lol! Luckily those ways were wrong about your cappy.. I would be on pins and needles.. -_-
I think I feel uncomfortable sometimes because my bf has a lot of female friends.. It's not that I don't trust him, some women have their ways with them and can be very sneaky, just like men. BUT he assures me that if he says some chick is just his friend, that's ALL it is, nothing more, nothing less.. & I know he will correct a chick if she oversteps her bounds.. He says, "We had friends and we will have friends of the opposite sex.." I think I didn't grasp it well til we got into a big argument over "friends" because my man before him made me feel like I needed to cut off all my male friends off with his manipulative ways. He was insecure. So this is new for me. Having a man that is secure with himself and doesn't mind his lady having male friends. My mate says he doesn't get jealous.. but I see through that.. If I mention anything about a male friend wanting to take me out for drinks or that they are coming to visit me and my fam, he's like "oh he wants to see MY mami?? good luck to him".. lol.. There are other things that help me see through that "I don't get jealous" persona.. LOL! I'm not fooled.. I love it actually that I can get him like that.
I have to agree with you. The advice here gives me more of a backbone to take a step back, reavaluate my thoughts, & give him a chance to prove his desire for me.. It's early still.. I've had longer relationships that moved faster.. and didn't work out.. My guy hasn't changed his mind about being with me so far so I would like to trust that he will respect our relationship and do no harm. I'm quite fond of @Daron76's input about cappy males because he breaks it down in a way that makes SO much sense.. He is also aqua venus and alot of the way he writes sounds like how my boyfriend would explain things to me when I ask him questions.. lol GREAT advice in a male perspective...
It seems like there are similarities with Cap males from all of the post here. I guess it's all about how you handle every separate situation with them as a female. I believe they honestly need strong women by their side.. Hard workers, loyal, sexual & strong.. the delicate can't handle their personalities.. I'm def not weak. I speak my mind and say what needs to be heard.. and although I complain here... I'm never that aggressive with my negativity to him.. I don't nag.. I vent to DXPNET'ers and when I go to him I have a more sound mind.. He likes that. But as @ScorpioTruth told me here, you can't lose yourself in them and soften up.. continue to be strong and speak your mind..Im glad she said that because I was actually easing up a bit.. Some caps come off as "father figures" to their woman and I for one won't accept that shit.. I don't like to be talked down to or told what to do.. Every so often I give him his way but I play it off by saying jokingly "OH, yes daddy!" or "I'll behave" lol.. I make him laugh. 🙂 Now when I go out and look all sexy & send him a pic.. he'll send me a text saying "oh I see you showing off, behave mami and have fun!" I just really enjoy him.. it's pleasant.. and it works for us.. again my ex wasn't anything to compare.. If the situation was reversed and I was with my ex and got dressed up to go out, he'd say "who you trynna look cute for? you got your titts all out.. I think you should change" and he would pout until I changed my mind about going.. SIGH!
I read that too.. that caps relax more the older they get.. I can tell with my dad.. He's enjoying days off.. He has the same mindset that work is important but it's not as crucial to him like before where he works until he burns himself out.. My boyfriend... uhhh.. not quite there yet.. He worked the entire time he had the flu... he hurt his ankle playing basketball and went right back out on the court the following practice.. There's no quitting in him yet. I will be so glad when he can settle down and take it easy. 🙂
I'm glad you are learning more through my post.. I feel the same way with you.. Especially the part about trusting him, having patience and taking my time.. go with the flow.. I'm not a patient person, but I have learned to be with this guy. LOL!
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His past girlfriends thought it a bad idea. As a result he has some issues...like he never disagrees with me. He's afraid that speaking his mind would upset me. I recently asked him to be himself instead of pretending around me. His reply was, "I'm not pretending, just being respectful". Lol. He's adorable!
I think you should believe your guy when he says those girls are just friends. He sounds very mature and responsible. 🙂
I agree with you. Daron always gives great advice. He has a lot of patience to be dealing with everyone's queries, singlehandedly. He is the one I went to with my doubts as well. Among the female posters on this forum, Capri-sun is the most devoted.
That's the impression I'm getting as well...that you have to be strong with them. As far as attraction goes, I've noticed they are a lot into looks. All the cap men I have known in the past would compliment my looks. There was a cap guy in my office, where I worked 3yrs ago, who would stealthily record videos of me. So before my boyfriend came along, I never took Cap men seriously. In fact, I didn't take him seriously either. I just thought all of them were obsessed with superficial stuff, like someone's physical appearance. It's good to be admired for your looks, but you know that an attraction based simply on looks is not going to last forever. A relationship should be based on something more enduring. One reason why it takes me some time trusting a guy, while entering a relationship. (Gosh! I sound so grave! ?)
Lol. You are good at getting people to open up. I haven't discussed my relationship in this detail on any of the threads here.
BTW, the revelations about Cap men's psychology is making Parisian feel threatened (and maybe exposed!?). 😆
My dad always said to me he was never interested in dating the hottest girl, he could have his pick of them if he wanted but he said they are high maintenance and generally superficial. Never interested him.
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I agree.. A women has to really connect with my dad to get his attention. Don't get me wrong.. he's dated some beautiful women but they never last long AT all.. He lives far from me so I would visit him holidays.. More'so summers.. He'd have 1 gf one summer, & the following summer when I visited he had another.. I get what he sees in the women he actually married.. (3 women) My mom (1st wife) and his 2nd wife and the one he is married to now.. They had more to offer.. & they kept his attention. As I said it didn't work with my mom because timing was off.. his second wife because it was too much drama.. & his wife now they go through things but she is patient with him.. My dad can be hard to deal with.. All of these women are STRONG!
Posted by CAPRILICIOUSYour father is a Cap also @CAPRILICIOUS?? 🙂Posted by WonderWoman14Hahaha. Unique breed, indeed. 😆Posted by CAPRILICIOUSI've learnt a lot about Cap men (dating one) from reading these threads. They are a unique breed. Strange thing is my dad is a Cap but I never looked into astrology before. I feel like I've got to understand my dad more in the process.Posted by poison_ivyOh! Don't worry about him having female friends. A guy having female friends is a good thing, actually. Such men are more comfortable around women and are better at relating to their partners. I would definitely prefer a guy having some female friends rather than none at all. My guy has never had female friends, only BROS!!?? ?
I see now. Players make everyone nervous.. Lol but it's always that 1 woman that can get a player out of his whorish tendencies.. lol! Luckily those ways were wrong about your cappy.. I would be on pins and needles.. -_-
I think I feel uncomfortable sometimes because my bf has a lot of female friends.. It's not that I don't trust him, some women have their ways with them and can be very sneaky, just like men. BUT he assures me that if he says some chick is just his friend, that's ALL it is, nothing more, nothing less.. & I know he will correct a chick if she oversteps her bounds.. He says, "We had friends and we will have friends of the opposite sex.." I think I didn't grasp it well til we got into a big argument over "friends" because my man before him made me feel like I needed to cut off all my male friends off with his manipulative ways. He was insecure. So this is new for me. Having a man that is secure with himself and doesn't mind his lady having male friends. My mate says he doesn't get jealous.. but I see through that.. If I mention anything about a male friend wanting to take me out for drinks or that they are coming to visit me and my fam, he's like "oh he wants to see MY mami?? good luck to him".. lol.. There are other things that help me see through that "I don't get jealous" persona.. LOL! I'm not fooled.. I love it actually that I can get him like that.
I have to agree with you. The advice here gives me more of a backbone to take a step back, reavaluate my thoughts, & give him a chance to prove his desire for me.. It's early still.. I've had longer relationships that moved faster.. and didn't work out.. My guy hasn't changed his mind about being with me so far so I would like to trust that he will respect our relationship and do no harm. I'm quite fond of @Daron76's input about cappy males because he breaks it down in a way that makes SO much sense.. He is also aqua venus and alot of the way he writes sounds like how my boyfriend would explain things to me when I ask him questions.. lol GREAT advice in a male perspective...
It seems like there are similarities with Cap males from all of the post here. I guess it's all about how you handle every separate situation with them as a female. I believe they honestly need strong women by their side.. Hard workers, loyal, sexual & strong.. the delicate can't handle their personalities.. I'm def not weak. I speak my mind and say what needs to be heard.. and although I complain here... I'm never that aggressive with my negativity to him.. I don't nag.. I vent to DXPNET'ers and when I go to him I have a more sound mind.. He likes that. But as @ScorpioTruth told me here, you can't lose yourself in them and soften up.. continue to be strong and speak your mind..Im glad she said that because I was actually easing up a bit.. Some caps come off as "father figures" to their woman and I for one won't accept that shit.. I don't like to be talked down to or told what to do.. Every so often I give him his way but I play it off by saying jokingly "OH, yes daddy!" or "I'll behave" lol.. I make him laugh. 🙂 Now when I go out and look all sexy & send him a pic.. he'll send me a text saying "oh I see you showing off, behave mami and have fun!" I just really enjoy him.. it's pleasant.. and it works for us.. again my ex wasn't anything to compare.. If the situation was reversed and I was with my ex and got dressed up to go out, he'd say "who you trynna look cute for? you got your titts all out.. I think you should change" and he would pout until I changed my mind about going.. SIGH!
I read that too.. that caps relax more the older they get.. I can tell with my dad.. He's enjoying days off.. He has the same mindset that work is important but it's not as crucial to him like before where he works until he burns himself out.. My boyfriend... uhhh.. not quite there yet.. He worked the entire time he had the flu... he hurt his ankle playing basketball and went right back out on the court the following practice.. There's no quitting in him yet. I will be so glad when he can settle down and take it easy. 🙂
I'm glad you are learning more through my post.. I feel the same way with you.. Especially the part about trusting him, having patience and taking my time.. go with the flow.. I'm not a patient person, but I have learned to be with this guy. LOL!
😆
His past girlfriends thought it a bad idea. As a result he has some issues...like he never disagrees with me. He's afraid that speaking his mind would upset me. I recently asked him to be himself instead of pretending around me. His reply was, "I'm not pretending, just being respectful". Lol. He's adorable!
I think you should believe your guy when he says those girls are just friends. He sounds very mature and responsible. 🙂
I agree with you. Daron always gives great advice. He has a lot of patience to be dealing with everyone's queries, singlehandedly. He is the one I went to with my doubts as well. Among the female posters on this forum, Capri-sun is the most devoted.
That's the impression I'm getting as well...that you have to be strong with them. As far as attraction goes, I've noticed they are a lot into looks. All the cap men I have known in the past would compliment my looks. There was a cap guy in my office, where I worked 3yrs ago, who would stealthily record videos of me. So before my boyfriend came along, I never took Cap men seriously. In fact, I didn't take him seriously either. I just thought all of them were obsessed with superficial stuff, like someone's physical appearance. It's good to be admired for your looks, but you know that an attraction based simply on looks is not going to last forever. A relationship should be based on something more enduring. One reason why it takes me some time trusting a guy, while entering a relationship. (Gosh! I sound so grave! ?)
Lol. You are good at getting people to open up. I haven't discussed my relationship in this detail on any of the threads here.
BTW, the revelations about Cap men's psychology is making Parisian feel threatened (and maybe exposed!?). 😆
My dad always said to me he was never interested in dating the hottest girl, he could have his pick of them if he wanted but he said they are high maintenance and generally superficial. Never interested him.
Interesting! Do you believe he was telling the truth? My father will always preach the importance of a good education and character over looks, but I know he can be superficial at times. Lol.
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When you say :"preach" OMG.. Boy can my dad "preach".. He goes on and on and on.. Im like WTH— lol! I love it tho..! it cracks me up sometimes because he gets into it & some of his metaphors, to make his point, never make any sense..
Posted by CAPRILICIOUSLOL! MY cap said "im different from other women" I'd like to believe that too (he's honest) but it sounds so cliche! lol.. He's also said I seem like I am a good person at heart, & caring.Posted by WonderWoman14Lol. I asked my guy what he liked about me and he said I had a good heart. I would like to believe him, since he has not lied about anything till now.Posted by CAPRILICIOUSHaha yes I do. Although my mum and step mum are attractive they both have beautiful souls too. Don't get me wrong he said he'd look at a hot lady (i don't particularly want to know if he'd sleep with them in his youth) but he said he was never interested in pursuing them for a relationship.Posted by WonderWoman14Hahaha. Unique breed, indeed. 😆Posted by CAPRILICIOUSI've learnt a lot about Cap men (dating one) from reading these threads. They are a unique breed. Strange thing is my dad is a Cap but I never looked into astrology before. I feel like I've got to understand my dad more in the process.Posted by poison_ivyOh! Don't worry about him having female friends. A guy having female friends is a good thing, actually. Such men are more comfortable around women and are better at relating to their partners. I would definitely prefer a guy having some female friends rather than none at all. My guy has never had female friends, only BROS!!?? ?
I see now. Players make everyone nervous.. Lol but it's always that 1 woman that can get a player out of his whorish tendencies.. lol! Luckily those ways were wrong about your cappy.. I would be on pins and needles.. -_-
I think I feel uncomfortable sometimes because my bf has a lot of female friends.. It's not that I don't trust him, some women have their ways with them and can be very sneaky, just like men. BUT he assures me that if he says some chick is just his friend, that's ALL it is, nothing more, nothing less.. & I know he will correct a chick if she oversteps her bounds.. He says, "We had friends and we will have friends of the opposite sex.." I think I didn't grasp it well til we got into a big argument over "friends" because my man before him made me feel like I needed to cut off all my male friends off with his manipulative ways. He was insecure. So this is new for me. Having a man that is secure with himself and doesn't mind his lady having male friends. My mate says he doesn't get jealous.. but I see through that.. If I mention anything about a male friend wanting to take me out for drinks or that they are coming to visit me and my fam, he's like "oh he wants to see MY mami?? good luck to him".. lol.. There are other things that help me see through that "I don't get jealous" persona.. LOL! I'm not fooled.. I love it actually that I can get him like that.
I have to agree with you. The advice here gives me more of a backbone to take a step back, reavaluate my thoughts, & give him a chance to prove his desire for me.. It's early still.. I've had longer relationships that moved faster.. and didn't work out.. My guy hasn't changed his mind about being with me so far so I would like to trust that he will respect our relationship and do no harm. I'm quite fond of @Daron76's input about cappy males because he breaks it down in a way that makes SO much sense.. He is also aqua venus and alot of the way he writes sounds like how my boyfriend would explain things to me when I ask him questions.. lol GREAT advice in a male perspective...
It seems like there are similarities with Cap males from all of the post here. I guess it's all about how you handle every separate situation with them as a female. I believe they honestly need strong women by their side.. Hard workers, loyal, sexual & strong.. the delicate can't handle their personalities.. I'm def not weak. I speak my mind and say what needs to be heard.. and although I complain here... I'm never that aggressive with my negativity to him.. I don't nag.. I vent to DXPNET'ers and when I go to him I have a more sound mind.. He likes that. But as @ScorpioTruth told me here, you can't lose yourself in them and soften up.. continue to be strong and speak your mind..Im glad she said that because I was actually easing up a bit.. Some caps come off as "father figures" to their woman and I for one won't accept that shit.. I don't like to be talked down to or told what to do.. Every so often I give him his way but I play it off by saying jokingly "OH, yes daddy!" or "I'll behave" lol.. I make him laugh. 🙂 Now when I go out and look all sexy & send him a pic.. he'll send me a text saying "oh I see you showing off, behave mami and have fun!" I just really enjoy him.. it's pleasant.. and it works for us.. again my ex wasn't anything to compare.. If the situation was reversed and I was with my ex and got dressed up to go out, he'd say "who you trynna look cute for? you got your titts all out.. I think you should change" and he would pout until I changed my mind about going.. SIGH!
I read that too.. that caps relax more the older they get.. I can tell with my dad.. He's enjoying days off.. He has the same mindset that work is important but it's not as crucial to him like before where he works until he burns himself out.. My boyfriend... uhhh.. not quite there yet.. He worked the entire time he had the flu... he hurt his ankle playing basketball and went right back out on the court the following practice.. There's no quitting in him yet. I will be so glad when he can settle down and take it easy. 🙂
I'm glad you are learning more through my post.. I feel the same way with you.. Especially the part about trusting him, having patience and taking my time.. go with the flow.. I'm not a patient person, but I have learned to be with this guy. LOL!
😆
His past girlfriends thought it a bad idea. As a result he has some issues...like he never disagrees with me. He's afraid that speaking his mind would upset me. I recently asked him to be himself instead of pretending around me. His reply was, "I'm not pretending, just being respectful". Lol. He's adorable!
I think you should believe your guy when he says those girls are just friends. He sounds very mature and responsible. 🙂
I agree with you. Daron always gives great advice. He has a lot of patience to be dealing with everyone's queries, singlehandedly. He is the one I went to with my doubts as well. Among the female posters on this forum, Capri-sun is the most devoted.
That's the impression I'm getting as well...that you have to be strong with them. As far as attraction goes, I've noticed they are a lot into looks. All the cap men I have known in the past would compliment my looks. There was a cap guy in my office, where I worked 3yrs ago, who would stealthily record videos of me. So before my boyfriend came along, I never took Cap men seriously. In fact, I didn't take him seriously either. I just thought all of them were obsessed with superficial stuff, like someone's physical appearance. It's good to be admired for your looks, but you know that an attraction based simply on looks is not going to last forever. A relationship should be based on something more enduring. One reason why it takes me some time trusting a guy, while entering a relationship. (Gosh! I sound so grave! ?)
Lol. You are good at getting people to open up. I haven't discussed my relationship in this detail on any of the threads here.
BTW, the revelations about Cap men's psychology is making Parisian feel threatened (and maybe exposed!?). 😆
My dad always said to me he was never interested in dating the hottest girl, he could have his pick of them if he wanted but he said they are high maintenance and generally superficial. Never interested him.
Interesting! Do you believe he was telling the truth? My father will always preach the importance of a good education and character over looks, but I know he can be superficial at times. Lol.
May I know your father's placements, if you don't mind? Is he a third decan Cap?
I'm not sure this is something I want to look into. Out of curiosity I want to see the difference in compatibility between my step mum and my mum. My step mum is like a 2nd mum to me, I've known her since I was 8. I shall let you know I'm spending the weekend with them.
It would be interesting to look at their synastry, for sure. I hope you have a great weekend and come back with some more insight. 🙂
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@WonderWoman14 & @CAPRILICIOUS
My dad married a Taurus (my mom).. then Cap (2nd wife & mom to me).. wife now a Taurus.. LOL!
My dad married a Taurus (my mom).. then Cap (2nd wife & mom to me).. wife now a Taurus.. LOL!
Posted by CAPRILICIOUSNo, it didn't work. She was very mature for her age, but they were not suppose to be together by law. She was in her teens and he was a young adult in his 20s. I believe she was 16. He was 23-24.. Not quite sure but that age gap was obviously an issue. He was more focused on work and didn't give her a lot of time so she would do things to spite him.. My dad never cheated. He was very good to her, but you know young minds aren't really that mature for marriage and a baby. They both are January caps.Posted by poison_ivyIt didn't work with his Cap wife? Was she the jealous one? You mentioned there was an age gap...How wide? Was she a January Cap?
@WonderWoman14 & @CAPRILICIOUS
My dad married a Taurus (my mom).. then Cap (2nd wife & mom to me).. wife now a Taurus.. LOL!click to expand
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Yea, I don't mistaken kindness for flirting either. Guys confuse my niceness for wanting more. I've had to cut ties with guys who were just friends after awhile because they got the wrong idea and now that I'm in a relationship, inappropriate comments aren't respectful to my man. SO they had ta' go!
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I'm starting to get the idea that ALL cap males are great looking.. The women in my family and friends see pictures of him and they are like "OMG!" My grandmother thinks he looks like "everyone's favorite hottie from a popular movie.." I'm like "*side eyes* Okay grandma!" lol
Your friend may secretly crush on your mate.. Not that she would be disrespectful or do anything behind your back.. but how she acts about him not speaking is kinda odd... I mean it is rude not to speak to someone you're around but she seems like she gets hurt by it. It's like, If you hate him, why do you care if he speaks or not.. She may realize how good he is to you, and is kicking her own butt for saying she didn't like him for you. Ya never know.. Would it be something you can talk to her about? What's her sign??
My best friend is a Pisces and she's very honest with her remarks about the men in my life.. & she is usually ALWAYS right with her intuitions.. She wants me to be with my daughter's father.. so she's usually bias about other guys before my cap man.. She actually says she has nothing bad to say about my cap and she really likes him for me and believes I "met my match." That me and him are alike in a lot of ways... When I vent to her about things.. She's like "sounds familiar huh?!" lol
Me and you are so much alike in the aspect of "attractive guys"... I don't normally see them.. and when I date the "attractive guy" it's usually because they approach me.. I don't act all head over heels for them & I don't really notice how attractive my man is until many ppl point it out. LOL! Funny!
I heard about the whole "Scorpios" are ppl others can confide in.. Maybe its our mysterious behaviors! LOL! ..
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Yea, I don't mistaken kindness for flirting either. Guys confuse my niceness for wanting more. I've had to cut ties with guys who were just friends after awhile because they got the wrong idea and now that I'm in a relationship, inappropriate comments aren't respectful to my man. SO they had ta' go!
😉
I'm starting to get the idea that ALL cap males are great looking.. The women in my family and friends see pictures of him and they are like "OMG!" My grandmother thinks he looks like "everyone's favorite hottie from a popular movie.." I'm like "*side eyes* Okay grandma!" lol
Your friend may secretly crush on your mate.. Not that she would be disrespectful or do anything behind your back.. but how she acts about him not speaking is kinda odd... I mean it is rude not to speak to someone you're around but she seems like she gets hurt by it. It's like, If you hate him, why do you care if he speaks or not.. She may realize how good he is to you, and is kicking her own butt for saying she didn't like him for you. Ya never know.. Would it be something you can talk to her about? What's her sign??
My best friend is a Pisces and she's very honest with her remarks about the men in my life.. & she is usually ALWAYS right with her intuitions.. She wants me to be with my daughter's father.. so she's usually bias about other guys before my cap man.. She actually says she has nothing bad to say about my cap and she really likes him for me and believes I "met my match." That me and him are alike in a lot of ways... When I vent to her about things.. She's like "sounds familiar huh?!" lol
Me and you are so much alike in the aspect of "attractive guys"... I don't normally see them.. and when I date the "attractive guy" it's usually because they approach me.. I don't act all head over heels for them & I don't really notice how attractive my man is until many ppl point it out. LOL! Funny!
I heard about the whole "Scorpios" are ppl others can confide in.. Maybe its our mysterious behaviors! LOL! ..
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Posted by ParisianCappyREALLY! lol!
January caps are the god
Explain? My Cap man is a January cap also.. What's the difference between a December cap.. and why are January caps "the god" IYO?? lol
Posted by ParisianCappylol! Figures. 😉Posted by poison_ivylol i dont know bcause im onePosted by ParisianCappyREALLY! lol!
January caps are the god
Explain? My Cap man is a January cap also.. What's the difference between a December cap.. and why are January caps "the god" IYO?? lolclick to expand
Posted by poison_ivyHaha yes my dad can be hard to deal with. I think my mum was to wishy washy for him, I think he loved her soul and they are still friends. Infact she drives me insane. Sometimes she's just too nice and I hate when people take advantage of her. He raised me to be a strong woman and my step mum is also. They've been together 28 years.Posted by WonderWoman14I've learned so much also.. Through dating & from post here.Posted by CAPRILICIOUSI've learnt a lot about Cap men (dating one) from reading these threads. They are a unique breed. Strange thing is my dad is a Cap but I never looked into astrology before. I feel like I've got to understand my dad more in the process.Posted by poison_ivyOh! Don't worry about him having female friends. A guy having female friends is a good thing, actually. Such men are more comfortable around women and are better at relating to their partners. I would definitely prefer a guy having some female friends rather than none at all. My guy has never had female friends, only BROS!!?? ?
I see now. Players make everyone nervous.. Lol but it's always that 1 woman that can get a player out of his whorish tendencies.. lol! Luckily those ways were wrong about your cappy.. I would be on pins and needles.. -_-
I think I feel uncomfortable sometimes because my bf has a lot of female friends.. It's not that I don't trust him, some women have their ways with them and can be very sneaky, just like men. BUT he assures me that if he says some chick is just his friend, that's ALL it is, nothing more, nothing less.. & I know he will correct a chick if she oversteps her bounds.. He says, "We had friends and we will have friends of the opposite sex.." I think I didn't grasp it well til we got into a big argument over "friends" because my man before him made me feel like I needed to cut off all my male friends off with his manipulative ways. He was insecure. So this is new for me. Having a man that is secure with himself and doesn't mind his lady having male friends. My mate says he doesn't get jealous.. but I see through that.. If I mention anything about a male friend wanting to take me out for drinks or that they are coming to visit me and my fam, he's like "oh he wants to see MY mami?? good luck to him".. lol.. There are other things that help me see through that "I don't get jealous" persona.. LOL! I'm not fooled.. I love it actually that I can get him like that.
I have to agree with you. The advice here gives me more of a backbone to take a step back, reavaluate my thoughts, & give him a chance to prove his desire for me.. It's early still.. I've had longer relationships that moved faster.. and didn't work out.. My guy hasn't changed his mind about being with me so far so I would like to trust that he will respect our relationship and do no harm. I'm quite fond of @Daron76's input about cappy males because he breaks it down in a way that makes SO much sense.. He is also aqua venus and alot of the way he writes sounds like how my boyfriend would explain things to me when I ask him questions.. lol GREAT advice in a male perspective...
It seems like there are similarities with Cap males from all of the post here. I guess it's all about how you handle every separate situation with them as a female. I believe they honestly need strong women by their side.. Hard workers, loyal, sexual & strong.. the delicate can't handle their personalities.. I'm def not weak. I speak my mind and say what needs to be heard.. and although I complain here... I'm never that aggressive with my negativity to him.. I don't nag.. I vent to DXPNET'ers and when I go to him I have a more sound mind.. He likes that. But as @ScorpioTruth told me here, you can't lose yourself in them and soften up.. continue to be strong and speak your mind..Im glad she said that because I was actually easing up a bit.. Some caps come off as "father figures" to their woman and I for one won't accept that shit.. I don't like to be talked down to or told what to do.. Every so often I give him his way but I play it off by saying jokingly "OH, yes daddy!" or "I'll behave" lol.. I make him laugh. 🙂 Now when I go out and look all sexy & send him a pic.. he'll send me a text saying "oh I see you showing off, behave mami and have fun!" I just really enjoy him.. it's pleasant.. and it works for us.. again my ex wasn't anything to compare.. If the situation was reversed and I was with my ex and got dressed up to go out, he'd say "who you trynna look cute for? you got your titts all out.. I think you should change" and he would pout until I changed my mind about going.. SIGH!
I read that too.. that caps relax more the older they get.. I can tell with my dad.. He's enjoying days off.. He has the same mindset that work is important but it's not as crucial to him like before where he works until he burns himself out.. My boyfriend... uhhh.. not quite there yet.. He worked the entire time he had the flu... he hurt his ankle playing basketball and went right back out on the court the following practice.. There's no quitting in him yet. I will be so glad when he can settle down and take it easy. 🙂
I'm glad you are learning more through my post.. I feel the same way with you.. Especially the part about trusting him, having patience and taking my time.. go with the flow.. I'm not a patient person, but I have learned to be with this guy. LOL!
😆
His past girlfriends thought it a bad idea. As a result he has some issues...like he never disagrees with me. He's afraid that speaking his mind would upset me. I recently asked him to be himself instead of pretending around me. His reply was, "I'm not pretending, just being respectful". Lol. He's adorable!
I think you should believe your guy when he says those girls are just friends. He sounds very mature and responsible. 🙂
I agree with you. Daron always gives great advice. He has a lot of patience to be dealing with everyone's queries, singlehandedly. He is the one I went to with my doubts as well. Among the female posters on this forum, Capri-sun is the most devoted.
That's the impression I'm getting as well...that you have to be strong with them. As far as attraction goes, I've noticed they are a lot into looks. All the cap men I have known in the past would compliment my looks. There was a cap guy in my office, where I worked 3yrs ago, who would stealthily record videos of me. So before my boyfriend came along, I never took Cap men seriously. In fact, I didn't take him seriously either. I just thought all of them were obsessed with superficial stuff, like someone's physical appearance. It's good to be admired for your looks, but you know that an attraction based simply on looks is not going to last forever. A relationship should be based on something more enduring. One reason why it takes me some time trusting a guy, while entering a relationship. (Gosh! I sound so grave! ?)
Lol. You are good at getting people to open up. I haven't discussed my relationship in this detail on any of the threads here.
BTW, the revelations about Cap men's psychology is making Parisian feel threatened (and maybe exposed!?). 😆
My dad always said to me he was never interested in dating the hottest girl, he could have his pick of them if he wanted but he said they are high maintenance and generally superficial. Never interested him.
I agree.. A women has to really connect with my dad to get his attention. Don't get me wrong.. he's dated some beautiful women but they never last long AT all.. He lives far from me so I would visit him holidays.. More'so summers.. He'd have 1 gf one summer, & the following summer when I visited he had another.. I get what he sees in the women he actually married.. (3 women) My mom (1st wife) and his 2nd wife and the one he is married to now.. They had more to offer.. & they kept his attention. As I said it didn't work with my mom because timing was off.. his second wife because it was too much drama.. & his wife now they go through things but she is patient with him.. My dad can be hard to deal with.. All of these women are STRONG!click to expand
Posted by WonderWoman14Aww.. I hate when ppl take advantage of ppl that are super sweet.. Your mom's gotta just "pop off" on someone one day!! hahaha.. They'll get the message..Posted by poison_ivyHaha yes my dad can be hard to deal with. I think my mum was to wishy washy for him, I think he loved her soul and they are still friends. Infact she drives me insane. Sometimes she's just too nice and I hate when people take advantage of her. He raised me to be a strong woman and my step mum is also. They've been together 28 years.Posted by WonderWoman14I've learned so much also.. Through dating & from post here.Posted by CAPRILICIOUSI've learnt a lot about Cap men (dating one) from reading these threads. They are a unique breed. Strange thing is my dad is a Cap but I never looked into astrology before. I feel like I've got to understand my dad more in the process.Posted by poison_ivyOh! Don't worry about him having female friends. A guy having female friends is a good thing, actually. Such men are more comfortable around women and are better at relating to their partners. I would definitely prefer a guy having some female friends rather than none at all. My guy has never had female friends, only BROS!!?? ?
I see now. Players make everyone nervous.. Lol but it's always that 1 woman that can get a player out of his whorish tendencies.. lol! Luckily those ways were wrong about your cappy.. I would be on pins and needles.. -_-
I think I feel uncomfortable sometimes because my bf has a lot of female friends.. It's not that I don't trust him, some women have their ways with them and can be very sneaky, just like men. BUT he assures me that if he says some chick is just his friend, that's ALL it is, nothing more, nothing less.. & I know he will correct a chick if she oversteps her bounds.. He says, "We had friends and we will have friends of the opposite sex.." I think I didn't grasp it well til we got into a big argument over "friends" because my man before him made me feel like I needed to cut off all my male friends off with his manipulative ways. He was insecure. So this is new for me. Having a man that is secure with himself and doesn't mind his lady having male friends. My mate says he doesn't get jealous.. but I see through that.. If I mention anything about a male friend wanting to take me out for drinks or that they are coming to visit me and my fam, he's like "oh he wants to see MY mami?? good luck to him".. lol.. There are other things that help me see through that "I don't get jealous" persona.. LOL! I'm not fooled.. I love it actually that I can get him like that.
I have to agree with you. The advice here gives me more of a backbone to take a step back, reavaluate my thoughts, & give him a chance to prove his desire for me.. It's early still.. I've had longer relationships that moved faster.. and didn't work out.. My guy hasn't changed his mind about being with me so far so I would like to trust that he will respect our relationship and do no harm. I'm quite fond of @Daron76's input about cappy males because he breaks it down in a way that makes SO much sense.. He is also aqua venus and alot of the way he writes sounds like how my boyfriend would explain things to me when I ask him questions.. lol GREAT advice in a male perspective...
It seems like there are similarities with Cap males from all of the post here. I guess it's all about how you handle every separate situation with them as a female. I believe they honestly need strong women by their side.. Hard workers, loyal, sexual & strong.. the delicate can't handle their personalities.. I'm def not weak. I speak my mind and say what needs to be heard.. and although I complain here... I'm never that aggressive with my negativity to him.. I don't nag.. I vent to DXPNET'ers and when I go to him I have a more sound mind.. He likes that. But as @ScorpioTruth told me here, you can't lose yourself in them and soften up.. continue to be strong and speak your mind..Im glad she said that because I was actually easing up a bit.. Some caps come off as "father figures" to their woman and I for one won't accept that shit.. I don't like to be talked down to or told what to do.. Every so often I give him his way but I play it off by saying jokingly "OH, yes daddy!" or "I'll behave" lol.. I make him laugh. 🙂 Now when I go out and look all sexy & send him a pic.. he'll send me a text saying "oh I see you showing off, behave mami and have fun!" I just really enjoy him.. it's pleasant.. and it works for us.. again my ex wasn't anything to compare.. If the situation was reversed and I was with my ex and got dressed up to go out, he'd say "who you trynna look cute for? you got your titts all out.. I think you should change" and he would pout until I changed my mind about going.. SIGH!
I read that too.. that caps relax more the older they get.. I can tell with my dad.. He's enjoying days off.. He has the same mindset that work is important but it's not as crucial to him like before where he works until he burns himself out.. My boyfriend... uhhh.. not quite there yet.. He worked the entire time he had the flu... he hurt his ankle playing basketball and went right back out on the court the following practice.. There's no quitting in him yet. I will be so glad when he can settle down and take it easy. 🙂
I'm glad you are learning more through my post.. I feel the same way with you.. Especially the part about trusting him, having patience and taking my time.. go with the flow.. I'm not a patient person, but I have learned to be with this guy. LOL!
😆
His past girlfriends thought it a bad idea. As a result he has some issues...like he never disagrees with me. He's afraid that speaking his mind would upset me. I recently asked him to be himself instead of pretending around me. His reply was, "I'm not pretending, just being respectful". Lol. He's adorable!
I think you should believe your guy when he says those girls are just friends. He sounds very mature and responsible. 🙂
I agree with you. Daron always gives great advice. He has a lot of patience to be dealing with everyone's queries, singlehandedly. He is the one I went to with my doubts as well. Among the female posters on this forum, Capri-sun is the most devoted.
That's the impression I'm getting as well...that you have to be strong with them. As far as attraction goes, I've noticed they are a lot into looks. All the cap men I have known in the past would compliment my looks. There was a cap guy in my office, where I worked 3yrs ago, who would stealthily record videos of me. So before my boyfriend came along, I never took Cap men seriously. In fact, I didn't take him seriously either. I just thought all of them were obsessed with superficial stuff, like someone's physical appearance. It's good to be admired for your looks, but you know that an attraction based simply on looks is not going to last forever. A relationship should be based on something more enduring. One reason why it takes me some time trusting a guy, while entering a relationship. (Gosh! I sound so grave! ?)
Lol. You are good at getting people to open up. I haven't discussed my relationship in this detail on any of the threads here.
BTW, the revelations about Cap men's psychology is making Parisian feel threatened (and maybe exposed!?). 😆
My dad always said to me he was never interested in dating the hottest girl, he could have his pick of them if he wanted but he said they are high maintenance and generally superficial. Never interested him.
I agree.. A women has to really connect with my dad to get his attention. Don't get me wrong.. he's dated some beautiful women but they never last long AT all.. He lives far from me so I would visit him holidays.. More'so summers.. He'd have 1 gf one summer, & the following summer when I visited he had another.. I get what he sees in the women he actually married.. (3 women) My mom (1st wife) and his 2nd wife and the one he is married to now.. They had more to offer.. & they kept his attention. As I said it didn't work with my mom because timing was off.. his second wife because it was too much drama.. & his wife now they go through things but she is patient with him.. My dad can be hard to deal with.. All of these women are STRONG!
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WOW! 28 years is a long time.. Your step mom can handle your dad!! My mom is a tough cookie.. but his wife now is soo tough.. She's very intimidating and I think that's what my dad likes about her.. lol
Posted by poison_ivyHaha yes she can. So is my step mum, I used to be scared of her when I was a kid ? she did mellow after she had my half sister. Yes she's not scared to speak her mind and won't take shit off anyone. I'm actually closer to get than my own mum. Bit sad really. I love my mum to bits but we are just two different people, which is why I was so surprised to find how much Libra I have in me (she's a Libra) my step mum is a Virgo.Posted by WonderWoman14Aww.. I hate when ppl take advantage of ppl that are super sweet.. Your mom's gotta just "pop off" on someone one day!! hahaha.. They'll get the message..Posted by poison_ivyHaha yes my dad can be hard to deal with. I think my mum was to wishy washy for him, I think he loved her soul and they are still friends. Infact she drives me insane. Sometimes she's just too nice and I hate when people take advantage of her. He raised me to be a strong woman and my step mum is also. They've been together 28 years.Posted by WonderWoman14I've learned so much also.. Through dating & from post here.Posted by CAPRILICIOUSI've learnt a lot about Cap men (dating one) from reading these threads. They are a unique breed. Strange thing is my dad is a Cap but I never looked into astrology before. I feel like I've got to understand my dad more in the process.Posted by poison_ivyOh! Don't worry about him having female friends. A guy having female friends is a good thing, actually. Such men are more comfortable around women and are better at relating to their partners. I would definitely prefer a guy having some female friends rather than none at all. My guy has never had female friends, only BROS!!?? ?
I see now. Players make everyone nervous.. Lol but it's always that 1 woman that can get a player out of his whorish tendencies.. lol! Luckily those ways were wrong about your cappy.. I would be on pins and needles.. -_-
I think I feel uncomfortable sometimes because my bf has a lot of female friends.. It's not that I don't trust him, some women have their ways with them and can be very sneaky, just like men. BUT he assures me that if he says some chick is just his friend, that's ALL it is, nothing more, nothing less.. & I know he will correct a chick if she oversteps her bounds.. He says, "We had friends and we will have friends of the opposite sex.." I think I didn't grasp it well til we got into a big argument over "friends" because my man before him made me feel like I needed to cut off all my male friends off with his manipulative ways. He was insecure. So this is new for me. Having a man that is secure with himself and doesn't mind his lady having male friends. My mate says he doesn't get jealous.. but I see through that.. If I mention anything about a male friend wanting to take me out for drinks or that they are coming to visit me and my fam, he's like "oh he wants to see MY mami?? good luck to him".. lol.. There are other things that help me see through that "I don't get jealous" persona.. LOL! I'm not fooled.. I love it actually that I can get him like that.
I have to agree with you. The advice here gives me more of a backbone to take a step back, reavaluate my thoughts, & give him a chance to prove his desire for me.. It's early still.. I've had longer relationships that moved faster.. and didn't work out.. My guy hasn't changed his mind about being with me so far so I would like to trust that he will respect our relationship and do no harm. I'm quite fond of @Daron76's input about cappy males because he breaks it down in a way that makes SO much sense.. He is also aqua venus and alot of the way he writes sounds like how my boyfriend would explain things to me when I ask him questions.. lol GREAT advice in a male perspective...
It seems like there are similarities with Cap males from all of the post here. I guess it's all about how you handle every separate situation with them as a female. I believe they honestly need strong women by their side.. Hard workers, loyal, sexual & strong.. the delicate can't handle their personalities.. I'm def not weak. I speak my mind and say what needs to be heard.. and although I complain here... I'm never that aggressive with my negativity to him.. I don't nag.. I vent to DXPNET'ers and when I go to him I have a more sound mind.. He likes that. But as @ScorpioTruth told me here, you can't lose yourself in them and soften up.. continue to be strong and speak your mind..Im glad she said that because I was actually easing up a bit.. Some caps come off as "father figures" to their woman and I for one won't accept that shit.. I don't like to be talked down to or told what to do.. Every so often I give him his way but I play it off by saying jokingly "OH, yes daddy!" or "I'll behave" lol.. I make him laugh. 🙂 Now when I go out and look all sexy & send him a pic.. he'll send me a text saying "oh I see you showing off, behave mami and have fun!" I just really enjoy him.. it's pleasant.. and it works for us.. again my ex wasn't anything to compare.. If the situation was reversed and I was with my ex and got dressed up to go out, he'd say "who you trynna look cute for? you got your titts all out.. I think you should change" and he would pout until I changed my mind about going.. SIGH!
I read that too.. that caps relax more the older they get.. I can tell with my dad.. He's enjoying days off.. He has the same mindset that work is important but it's not as crucial to him like before where he works until he burns himself out.. My boyfriend... uhhh.. not quite there yet.. He worked the entire time he had the flu... he hurt his ankle playing basketball and went right back out on the court the following practice.. There's no quitting in him yet. I will be so glad when he can settle down and take it easy. 🙂
I'm glad you are learning more through my post.. I feel the same way with you.. Especially the part about trusting him, having patience and taking my time.. go with the flow.. I'm not a patient person, but I have learned to be with this guy. LOL!
😆
His past girlfriends thought it a bad idea. As a result he has some issues...like he never disagrees with me. He's afraid that speaking his mind would upset me. I recently asked him to be himself instead of pretending around me. His reply was, "I'm not pretending, just being respectful". Lol. He's adorable!
I think you should believe your guy when he says those girls are just friends. He sounds very mature and responsible. 🙂
I agree with you. Daron always gives great advice. He has a lot of patience to be dealing with everyone's queries, singlehandedly. He is the one I went to with my doubts as well. Among the female posters on this forum, Capri-sun is the most devoted.
That's the impression I'm getting as well...that you have to be strong with them. As far as attraction goes, I've noticed they are a lot into looks. All the cap men I have known in the past would compliment my looks. There was a cap guy in my office, where I worked 3yrs ago, who would stealthily record videos of me. So before my boyfriend came along, I never took Cap men seriously. In fact, I didn't take him seriously either. I just thought all of them were obsessed with superficial stuff, like someone's physical appearance. It's good to be admired for your looks, but you know that an attraction based simply on looks is not going to last forever. A relationship should be based on something more enduring. One reason why it takes me some time trusting a guy, while entering a relationship. (Gosh! I sound so grave! ?)
Lol. You are good at getting people to open up. I haven't discussed my relationship in this detail on any of the threads here.
BTW, the revelations about Cap men's psychology is making Parisian feel threatened (and maybe exposed!?). 😆
My dad always said to me he was never interested in dating the hottest girl, he could have his pick of them if he wanted but he said they are high maintenance and generally superficial. Never interested him.
I agree.. A women has to really connect with my dad to get his attention. Don't get me wrong.. he's dated some beautiful women but they never last long AT all.. He lives far from me so I would visit him holidays.. More'so summers.. He'd have 1 gf one summer, & the following summer when I visited he had another.. I get what he sees in the women he actually married.. (3 women) My mom (1st wife) and his 2nd wife and the one he is married to now.. They had more to offer.. & they kept his attention. As I said it didn't work with my mom because timing was off.. his second wife because it was too much drama.. & his wife now they go through things but she is patient with him.. My dad can be hard to deal with.. All of these women are STRONG!
WOW! 28 years is a long time.. Your step mom can handle your dad!! My mom is a tough cookie.. but his wife now is soo tough.. She's very intimidating and I think that's what my dad likes about her.. lolclick to expand
Posted by WonderWoman14HAHAH! Same with my stop mom.. I use to be scared of her when I was younger.. not so much as an adult.. but she recently had my half sister and she has softened up.. She only had boys before my sis so she's use to being a tough ass with her boys.. Both my mom and step mom are Tauruses!Posted by poison_ivyHaha yes she can. So is my step mum, I used to be scared of her when I was a kid ? she did mellow after she had my half sister. Yes she's not scared to speak her mind and won't take shit off anyone. I'm actually closer to get than my own mum. Bit sad really. I love my mum to bits but we are just two different people, which is why I was so surprised to find how much Libra I have in me (she's a Libra) my step mum is a Virgo.Posted by WonderWoman14Aww.. I hate when ppl take advantage of ppl that are super sweet.. Your mom's gotta just "pop off" on someone one day!! hahaha.. They'll get the message..Posted by poison_ivyHaha yes my dad can be hard to deal with. I think my mum was to wishy washy for him, I think he loved her soul and they are still friends. Infact she drives me insane. Sometimes she's just too nice and I hate when people take advantage of her. He raised me to be a strong woman and my step mum is also. They've been together 28 years.Posted by WonderWoman14I've learned so much also.. Through dating & from post here.Posted by CAPRILICIOUSI've learnt a lot about Cap men (dating one) from reading these threads. They are a unique breed. Strange thing is my dad is a Cap but I never looked into astrology before. I feel like I've got to understand my dad more in the process.Posted by poison_ivyOh! Don't worry about him having female friends. A guy having female friends is a good thing, actually. Such men are more comfortable around women and are better at relating to their partners. I would definitely prefer a guy having some female friends rather than none at all. My guy has never had female friends, only BROS!!?? ?
I see now. Players make everyone nervous.. Lol but it's always that 1 woman that can get a player out of his whorish tendencies.. lol! Luckily those ways were wrong about your cappy.. I would be on pins and needles.. -_-
I think I feel uncomfortable sometimes because my bf has a lot of female friends.. It's not that I don't trust him, some women have their ways with them and can be very sneaky, just like men. BUT he assures me that if he says some chick is just his friend, that's ALL it is, nothing more, nothing less.. & I know he will correct a chick if she oversteps her bounds.. He says, "We had friends and we will have friends of the opposite sex.." I think I didn't grasp it well til we got into a big argument over "friends" because my man before him made me feel like I needed to cut off all my male friends off with his manipulative ways. He was insecure. So this is new for me. Having a man that is secure with himself and doesn't mind his lady having male friends. My mate says he doesn't get jealous.. but I see through that.. If I mention anything about a male friend wanting to take me out for drinks or that they are coming to visit me and my fam, he's like "oh he wants to see MY mami?? good luck to him".. lol.. There are other things that help me see through that "I don't get jealous" persona.. LOL! I'm not fooled.. I love it actually that I can get him like that.
I have to agree with you. The advice here gives me more of a backbone to take a step back, reavaluate my thoughts, & give him a chance to prove his desire for me.. It's early still.. I've had longer relationships that moved faster.. and didn't work out.. My guy hasn't changed his mind about being with me so far so I would like to trust that he will respect our relationship and do no harm. I'm quite fond of @Daron76's input about cappy males because he breaks it down in a way that makes SO much sense.. He is also aqua venus and alot of the way he writes sounds like how my boyfriend would explain things to me when I ask him questions.. lol GREAT advice in a male perspective...
It seems like there are similarities with Cap males from all of the post here. I guess it's all about how you handle every separate situation with them as a female. I believe they honestly need strong women by their side.. Hard workers, loyal, sexual & strong.. the delicate can't handle their personalities.. I'm def not weak. I speak my mind and say what needs to be heard.. and although I complain here... I'm never that aggressive with my negativity to him.. I don't nag.. I vent to DXPNET'ers and when I go to him I have a more sound mind.. He likes that. But as @ScorpioTruth told me here, you can't lose yourself in them and soften up.. continue to be strong and speak your mind..Im glad she said that because I was actually easing up a bit.. Some caps come off as "father figures" to their woman and I for one won't accept that shit.. I don't like to be talked down to or told what to do.. Every so often I give him his way but I play it off by saying jokingly "OH, yes daddy!" or "I'll behave" lol.. I make him laugh. 🙂 Now when I go out and look all sexy & send him a pic.. he'll send me a text saying "oh I see you showing off, behave mami and have fun!" I just really enjoy him.. it's pleasant.. and it works for us.. again my ex wasn't anything to compare.. If the situation was reversed and I was with my ex and got dressed up to go out, he'd say "who you trynna look cute for? you got your titts all out.. I think you should change" and he would pout until I changed my mind about going.. SIGH!
I read that too.. that caps relax more the older they get.. I can tell with my dad.. He's enjoying days off.. He has the same mindset that work is important but it's not as crucial to him like before where he works until he burns himself out.. My boyfriend... uhhh.. not quite there yet.. He worked the entire time he had the flu... he hurt his ankle playing basketball and went right back out on the court the following practice.. There's no quitting in him yet. I will be so glad when he can settle down and take it easy. 🙂
I'm glad you are learning more through my post.. I feel the same way with you.. Especially the part about trusting him, having patience and taking my time.. go with the flow.. I'm not a patient person, but I have learned to be with this guy. LOL!
😆
His past girlfriends thought it a bad idea. As a result he has some issues...like he never disagrees with me. He's afraid that speaking his mind would upset me. I recently asked him to be himself instead of pretending around me. His reply was, "I'm not pretending, just being respectful". Lol. He's adorable!
I think you should believe your guy when he says those girls are just friends. He sounds very mature and responsible. 🙂
I agree with you. Daron always gives great advice. He has a lot of patience to be dealing with everyone's queries, singlehandedly. He is the one I went to with my doubts as well. Among the female posters on this forum, Capri-sun is the most devoted.
That's the impression I'm getting as well...that you have to be strong with them. As far as attraction goes, I've noticed they are a lot into looks. All the cap men I have known in the past would compliment my looks. There was a cap guy in my office, where I worked 3yrs ago, who would stealthily record videos of me. So before my boyfriend came along, I never took Cap men seriously. In fact, I didn't take him seriously either. I just thought all of them were obsessed with superficial stuff, like someone's physical appearance. It's good to be admired for your looks, but you know that an attraction based simply on looks is not going to last forever. A relationship should be based on something more enduring. One reason why it takes me some time trusting a guy, while entering a relationship. (Gosh! I sound so grave! ?)
Lol. You are good at getting people to open up. I haven't discussed my relationship in this detail on any of the threads here.
BTW, the revelations about Cap men's psychology is making Parisian feel threatened (and maybe exposed!?). 😆
My dad always said to me he was never interested in dating the hottest girl, he could have his pick of them if he wanted but he said they are high maintenance and generally superficial. Never interested him.
I agree.. A women has to really connect with my dad to get his attention. Don't get me wrong.. he's dated some beautiful women but they never last long AT all.. He lives far from me so I would visit him holidays.. More'so summers.. He'd have 1 gf one summer, & the following summer when I visited he had another.. I get what he sees in the women he actually married.. (3 women) My mom (1st wife) and his 2nd wife and the one he is married to now.. They had more to offer.. & they kept his attention. As I said it didn't work with my mom because timing was off.. his second wife because it was too much drama.. & his wife now they go through things but she is patient with him.. My dad can be hard to deal with.. All of these women are STRONG!
WOW! 28 years is a long time.. Your step mom can handle your dad!! My mom is a tough cookie.. but his wife now is soo tough.. She's very intimidating and I think that's what my dad likes about her.. lolclick to expand
Haha yes she can. So is my step mum, I used to be scared of her when I was a kid ? she did mellow after she had my half sister. Yes she's not scared to speak her mind and won't take shit off anyone. I'm actually closer to get than my own mum. Bit sad really. I love my mum to bits but we are just two different people, which is why I was so surprised to find how much Libra I have in me (she's a Libra) my step mum is a Virgo.
HAHAH! Same with my stop mom.. I use to be scared of her when I was younger.. not so much as an adult.. but she recently had my half sister and she has softened up.. She only had boys before my sis so she's use to being a tough ass with her boys.. Both my mom and step mom are Tauruses!
Well my half sister is 19 now and my dad has mellowed a lot too so i told her she's had it easy haha
Posted by WonderWoman14Haha yes she can. So is my step mum, I used to be scared of her when I was a kid ? she did mellow after she had my half sister. Yes she's not scared to speak her mind and won't take shit off anyone. I'm actually closer to get than my own mum. Bit sad really. I love my mum to bits but we are just two different people, which is why I was so surprised to find how much Libra I have in me (she's a Libra) my step mum is a Virgo.
HAHAH! Same with my stop mom.. I use to be scared of her when I was younger.. not so much as an adult.. but she recently had my half sister and she has softened up.. She only had boys before my sis so she's use to being a tough ass with her boys.. Both my mom and step mom are Tauruses!
Well my half sister is 19 now and my dad has mellowed a lot too so i told her she's had it easy haha
The younger kids always get it easy!! LOL! MY sis gets alot of attention and warmth etc.. Lucky little cutie! 😉
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Caps what should I get for the cap man in my life?
Hes going to become 31 years old on Saturday , and I'd like to give him a gift , but I'm not sure what .
He's recently reformed from the marine military life, and I thought about giving him somet
I think I created this topic before but I don’t think it got posted (it’s my first day here so I may have missclicked something).
In any case this one will be very long read. But I genuinely have no idea what to do. So let me give you some information so
I was on and off again for a year with a very close Capricorn friend of mine. We have liked each other for several years but were never able to pursue anything until recently. Both getting out of bad relationships, we wanted to take things slow. Never the
First off let me say this is mostly venting.
So...I told myself New Year's Eve that if I didn't get some kind of contact saying happy new year from this guy then I was done. Because in my head if I mean something to you common sense would say you wo
I really need help with this question!!
If a Capricorn man (aqua moon) you've been hooking up with casually starts suggesting going out for dinner, should I start perusing him more to show that I'm into it? He mentioned doing that for my birthday next
Alright. Here's a briefing of what happened.
I was in love with a Cap man who was initially really nice (which later proved to be a facade) and it was his subtle expressions of love that I loved (through poetry). It was an LDR for one year. Very soon
So I'm single but dating, not a lot just when I meet some that has the character that I like. I met a Capricorn man and he seems like the realist man I've met in a very long time. I'm very attracted to him and can see myself dating him for some time. We h
I have been in a relationship with a Capricorn man for the past 9 months. The first 4 months were riddled with misunderstandings and moments of taking deep breaths for patience. The last 5 months have been great. We both agreed that we really liked what w
So I've been talking with Capricorn man, he NEVER has called me a pet name lol. He knows my name too. Anyway. He called me "baby"? I got butterflies not going to lie. However reading through all these posts. I noticed Capricorn men don't really do the tou
Backstory....my Capricorn guy and I started as a one night stand (in my mind.) We met online and got together one night when I was visiting his town (I live 2 hours away). The sex was amazing and we had incredible chemistry. Long story short, we kept seei
Okay, weird question lol but I am obsessed with Cappie guys. I'm big into astrology and music. Literally all the musicians/artists I adore are Capricorn men: Jim Morrison, borns, skrillex, tiesto, Jim carrey, David Bowie...and my most recent crushes/guys
I have about 4 Cap men around me, exes (that still love me (their words)) and a current one.
They all have the same behavior, they are with me, then leave, then come back, when I first ally got mad and left them they always came back but I just move on
Hey, guys! In a case where a Capricorn man was deeply in love with a woman and he decided to agree with the woman on a mutual breakup (which left both of them hurt), because from his side, the relationship won't work because 1. He was still not settled wi
Known this Cap guy my entire life, were first loves, and he still confuses the hell out of me. Long story short, he doesn't won't me but doesn't won't anyone else to have me either. He went from being a dick to me and giving me the silent treatment, to be
So I met this cap man but neither want us want a relationship we've exchanged some pics and all that but right now my living situation I can't physically gives him what he needs so I told him today hit him up in a couple months. He agreed I'm kind of nerv
Good morning! I'm new to this forum, so please let me thank you ahead of time for your help. I've been reading around other forums quite a bit, and have learned a tremendous amount about this Cappy male of mine. LOL! It's offered a great deal of insig
So I met a Cap guy online in March. We have been texting for months but never met in person as we live in different cities about 3 hours drive. Our text communication are generally about witty stuff and occasionally jokes, never flirty. We've also video c
I have given in and have decided to respect his decision and have let him, move on.
I'm doing what I can to move on, too. Am focusing on my work and reading. It's hard not thinking about him.
Do Capricorn Men ever come back?
I'm a Taurus.
So I met this cap guy on tinder. He messaged me a lot and eventually gave me his number after initially asking me to let him know when he could take me to a movie and I told him I'd let him know when I was free and we started texting. Hed text me back wit
All of these issues with Cap Men leaving people in limbo got me curious. If you were taking your merry little time about letting someone know how you feel about them and not really making any moves would you be hurt if they started dating people or if fou
So you think maybe trying that.. going out for dinner soon... and giving it one more shot.. Meeting him face to face as well as having a serious convo face to face (where I've found he expresses himself more/better face to face) & seeing where that goes.. I guess I'm not one to give up that easy..