I...had the time of my life

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*****cues the Dirty Dancing music****

So, many of you already know my situation with this Cap man that I adore. But some do not. Short summary.. Friend of 10 years, we both finally started actually hanging out more since February. I love him with my whole heart, spirit and soul and if the opportunity ever presented itself, I would be with him. We had a 6 week fallout, but missed each other too much and have been reunited since.

Back to the story at hand. Monday, me and Mr Cap had a late lunch planned. I went and scooped him up and we go to the restaurant. Our conversations are always quite intense, because he trusts me and doesn't feel like he can talk about a lot of his stuff with other people. So, we eat and visit and typically our hang outs last about 3 or 4 hours. After we tied up our table for a good 2 hours, he suggests that we go grab a drink somewhere. So off we head to a local winery. My first time there.. We chill out on the patio and have a couple of glasses of wine and more great conversation. Next thing I know, he suggests a bottle, and I'm like "Okay, lets." So we finish the bottle and the conversation shifts to more playful topics and banter. He's not ready to end the night yet, though. He suggests taking a walk or getting a coffee nearby. I'm totally for it. I'm really having a lot of fun with him, so why not? So we go walking and find a Starbucks, get our drinks and sit out on the patio.

I had a photoshoot that I had done, the week prior, which was a body paint shoot. And he had known about it and was communicating with me prior to, and after the shoot to make sure I was safe. And we started talking about it. By the way, he is a very talented photographer and filmographer, and that's how we met in the first place. He was very curious about the shoot and of course, I had to be nude to be painted. I told him that the photographer is the one who painted me and he just stops and I can see him thinking very intensely. Turns out, he's visualizing the process and admitting to me that he can't stop visualizing it... Ok, so now I know he wants to see me naked. lol.

So then he asks me what I usually do, or where I go when I'm in town ( I live an hour from him) and I told him I usually have a room, or I just hang out at the river for a while. I didn't plan on staying that night, so I didn't have a room. We were on our way to the river, but then he tells me he was worried the cops would harass us and tells me we could just go hang out on his patio.

He's the caretaker and financially responsible party for his Grandparents, but they are somewhat reclusive so it's always hard for him to be able to have company. So although he is a 36 year old man, with two teenage kids...he lives a restricted life style in his own home. He literally snuck me through his house, in the dark, to chill on the patio. I felt like a teenager, myself. We talked and talked and he told me things that made me think.. maybe his feelings for me are more than platonic... especially when he told me that my Aries ex was messaging him and asking him if we were together.. He told me that at one point, after telling my ex that he had never gone there with me (romantically) that sometimes the more we think something, the more likely it is to happen. He also told me many times, that I exude sensuality..

Nothing happened between us aside from the conversation. But that's ok. Am I assuming that he may want more?? I don't want to be wrong, or it be wishful thinking but wow.... I felt so damn alive after that. We were together for 9 hours that day... that never happens. sigh... I'm staying in the city for a couple nights next week and leaving the opportunity open to hang out a bit. He has surgery late next week, so I want to spend time before he's totally restricted.
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Posted by Superman77

Why the spat a few weeks ago?


Never had a spat honestly, turns out he was dating someone who was very insecure about our friendship and they ended up breaking up. Never knew about her, she was never mentioned at all. And He had stopped talking to me but never blocked me and kept up with my social media. We started back up the beginning of last month and all has been great.
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Posted by Superman77

Why the spat a few weeks ago?


Never had a spat honestly, turns out he was dating someone who was very insecure about our friendship and they ended up breaking up. He had stopped talking to me but never blocked me and kept up with my social media. We started back up the beginning of last month and all has been great.


Maybe ask him why he hasn’t made a move? Keep it simple and maybe guide him into opening up
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It's funny you mention that because during our conversations, he mentioned that he never makes the first move with someone because he's so unsure of himself, but I told him I'm the same damn way. lol
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Posted by earlorg16

He seems to know your ex, are they friends or anything? If so, that could be why there's hesitation on his end. If they're not friends, screw it, YOU make the move. He sorta implied it already, so it seems he's hoping you make it.


No, my ex is crazy. They've never met but he was incredibly jealous of him and started to fixate on him to the point of messaging my son about him. I actually have a restraining order on him. He had even threatened to kill whoever he saw me with.
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Posted by earlorg16

He seems to know your ex, are they friends or anything? If so, that could be why there's hesitation on his end. If they're not friends, screw it, YOU make the move. He sorta implied it already, so it seems he's hoping you make it.


No, my ex is crazy. They've never met but he was incredibly jealous of him and started to fixate on him to the point of messaging my son about him. I actually have a restraining order on him. He had even threatened to kill whoever he saw me with.
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Holy hell that is toxic and terrifying. I'm glad you're out of that now.

In any case, tooootally make the move next time you see him. Even a simple gesture of grabbing his hand or wrapping your arms around him will give him the clue and hopefully he gets the hint!
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Posted by GenjiOP

Yeah, I'd say you should be open about what you're feeling personally. You don't have to lay it down super hard or anything, though.

Seemed like he was hinting, BUT I don't know him, I don't know what words lead the conversation over to discussing about making first moves. My worthless .02

One's .02 are never worthless. I think we were both throwing hints back and forth like a game of hot potato, though. I'm honestly just scared of making any move unless I know for sure that he's feeling me like that. Last thing I want is to misinterpret and end up losing the most valuable person in my life, aside from my family.
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And..... Score!! What an amazing night....and morning. 😁


That novel CC was referring to perhaps lol....

Who made the first move?


It was him. And no regrets, whatsoever. Totally worth the wait.
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Ooooo... much live and happiness on your new journey together😍😁
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Posted by Caliope

Details!

Started off with awesome conversation like we do. Then we went to soak in the hot tub for a bit. Came back to the room and talked more about some very deep subjects. It was so relaxing and natural like always. We had some beverages and he kept saying mildly suggestive things, but i rolled with him. The energy and chemistry was hot, and he touched me and pulled me towards him. It was on! It was freaking electric! He stayed with me. When he woke up he was very disoriented and in pain from his shoulders dislocating in his sleep. He went to take a shower and about a minute later, he shut off the water and opened the door. He started apologizing. He was terrified that it was going to ruin "us" and he kept saying he really likes me and doesn't want to lose me. I told him not to be sorry, because i wanted it. He climbed back in bed with me, still asking if it was going to ruin things and i told him no, it wouldn't. He was truly worried, but started relaxing. We did a repeat, but this one was more intense.

All in all. Ten fingers and toes, up! Lol.