Is this capricorn stringing me along? (Page 5)

@DannyMC

Fourth date went well, we had coffee and then the convo kept going, then we went for long walk and I now have his full natal chart he has Virgo Rising not sure if it means anything. He guessed I'm a Virgo he said because a few important ppl in his life are Virgo - his mom, his ex (went back to Europe) and his best friend. so he guess I'm a Virgo.

Then I brought up the instagram thing, he said he didn't notice, then he follwoed me right away and said now we made up. He asked if that was his punishment. I said no I did that for myself cos I didn't want to get too close when you weren't interested. He goes I thought you weren't interested either.

Then he took me to dinner and we talked more, he said he admit he was a bit distance since he was back, he was busy and also he distance himself becuase he wasn't sure if I like him. Then we talked about plans for weekend. He asked if one of my guy friend is secretly in love with me. I asked him why? He said I could be wrong but if I was in his position and no girlfriend he would be secretly in love with me.

He took me to his place, he had some heavy kissing, but we remained FULLY CLOTHED. I said to him I'm not into casual sex. And that I want to take my time to get to know him, he goes we can do more than one thing at once. I said it's too soon for me. He said its ok he enjoys my company - us talking, walking, kissing, eating.

We cuddle more and then he drove me home, he said see you soon. Idk when that is. Also when I said I;m not into casual sex he didnt say anything.. does that mean that's all he wanted?

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@DannyMC

Fourth date went well, we had coffee and then the convo kept going, then we went for long walk and I now have his full natal chart he has Virgo Rising not sure if it means anything. He guessed I'm a Virgo he said because a few important ppl in his life are Virgo - his mom, his ex (went back to Europe) and his best friend. so he guess I'm a Virgo.

Then I brought up the instagram thing, he said he didn't notice, then he follwoed me right away and said now we made up. He asked if that was his punishment. I said no I did that for myself cos I didn't want to get too close when you weren't interested. He goes I thought you weren't interested either.

Then he took me to dinner and we talked more, he said he admit he was a bit distance since he was back, he was busy and also he distance himself becuase he wasn't sure if I like him. Then we talked about plans for weekend. He asked if one of my guy friend is secretly in love with me. I asked him why? He said I could be wrong but if I was in his position and no girlfriend he would be secretly in love with me.

He took me to his place, he had some heavy kissing, but we remained FULLY CLOTHED. I said to him I'm not into casual sex. And that I want to take my time to get to know him, he goes we can do more than one thing at once. I said it's too soon for me. He said its ok he enjoys my company - us talking, walking, kissing, eating.

We cuddle more and then he drove me home, he said see you soon. Idk when that is. Also when I said I;m not into casual sex he didnt say anything.. does that mean that's all he wanted?

First thing: "He goes I thought you weren't interested either. " huge bonus points for this. This guy is into you it has nothing to do with sex.

About the physical stuff, there's a lot that go into this, people are deeply aware and intuitive so if you're deep down thinking to yourself that you don't want to give yourself away too fast because what if your ex comes back and that plays out in your actions with this guy, he'll sense it. As long as you're being genuine in your reasons you should be fine to move at your own speed. A guy can also think that you're not interested in him maybe if there isn't sex after a while BUT you can prove that to be false but showing him you are interested by keeping the conversation going and maintaining physical closeness.

When you said you weren't into casual sex, he probably went silent thinking what's casual sex lol and maybe felt rejected a bit too...

About him saying the thing about the other guy... this is both a compliment to you and a bit of jealousy lol I hope your response some kind of: that's sweet and fuck that guy it's strictly platonic.

If you like this guy at this point than believe it or not you guys are kind of already in a relationship so if you really like the dude I would push for the next meetup sooner rather than later, so you 2 can drop guard and start feeling more comfortable around each other. Work yourselves into a relationship now if your heart is there. It sounds like he's yours already 😉

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@youngali i meant after I unblocked him he liked one pic, I then followed him and that probably made him realize he has been blocked before. He unliked that one photo.

@DannyMC He didn't reply and made me feel I could be too clingy but guess what? He text me while I was sleeping letting me know he was at a event. Then I checked his instagram and see this time he text me before he post stuff there. You are right warmth goes all the way with this cap hehe

Yea, he's hella petty and hurt about it. —

You have to leave your page open not private.

Post a bomb ass selfie.

He's most likely gonna be creeping your page.

And just wait for him to come around again.

When he comes around, ignore him

Let Him marinate with thoughts and his pettiness. Until he messages more frequently.

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Thank me later.

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You're late to the game my sag friend, they're already both down on 1 knee proposing to each other lol. Also, when you block someone it unlikes the pic, and games have no place in love, comon now, that's 20 year old shit, and they were playing it with each other - when the truth of the whole thing is that they're totally into each other and a lil shy about being hurt and rejected.

@youngali haha that's halirious. I didn't post a bomb ass selfie but he liked something. I brought it up and he pretend he dind't notice we are all good and following each other again. Will take your suggestion to post a bombass selfie soon hahaha

@DannyMC you are right games have no room for connections. I'm glad I was honest to him and reach out to him and say I miss talking to him. You're right about being vulnerable with him!

Regarding the male friend, I let him know that we don't even hug when we greet each other only fist bump. if we are already kinda in a relationship is it too soon to get him to meet my friends? I'm having a night out with friends next weekend.

I'd say it would be a bit too early, but it depends on the gathering, if we're talking a bar/dinner with select mature friends that could work, If we're talking about a college house party, probably not.. lol I'd give it another date first, maybe a midweek thing if he isn't working too much, before the weekend gathering. The only barrier up at this point is probably the sex, now, I'm not saying that's bad, it's not, but it's a lil hard for either of you to, lets say... go over to each others house/apt midweek and catch a movie and have dinner without you wondering about an exit and him wondering what time you'll leave.. so there's not complete comfort and trust in each other... yet. I'd wait on the friends thing.. Family is another story. Unless, he's outgoing as all hell and wild and crazy.. but I doubt he is. Caps are reserved people.

What's your age btw? I don't want to assume an age

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I'd say it would be a bit too early, but it depends on the gathering, if we're talking a bar/dinner with select mature friends that could work, If we're talking about a college house party, probably not.. lol I'd give it another date first, maybe a midweek thing if he isn't working too much, before the weekend gathering. The only barrier up at this point is probably the sex, now, I'm not saying that's bad, it's not, but it's a lil hard for either of you to, lets say... go over to each others house/apt midweek and catch a movie and have dinner without you wondering about an exit and him wondering what time you'll leave.. so there's not complete comfort and trust in each other... yet. I'd wait on the friends thing.. Family is another story. Unless, he's outgoing as all hell and wild and crazy.. but I doubt he is. Caps are reserved people.

What's your age btw? I don't want to assume an age

I'm in early 30s and he is in mid 40s. I don't have trouble meeting guys but I'm very selective wtih who i date so not much experience haha

Yea I guess we should wait for friends. Just that the gathering is also for a festival thought I could say hey we are at this place now, swing by if you want.

At the beginning of the date he inviting me to his work trip next month. He said you should come. I said idk if you were joking or serious, if I go you will be busy anyway. He goes yes but I won't be working on Sat and Sunday and you've never been to this country. Idk if I could take his invite seriously

He seems reserved with a filthy mind, you capricorns are horny LOL you have horns hahaha but I imagine he is very sociable as he seems to go to lots of events

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I'd say it would be a bit too early, but it depends on the gathering, if we're talking a bar/dinner with select mature friends that could work, If we're talking about a college house party, probably not.. lol I'd give it another date first, maybe a midweek thing if he isn't working too much, before the weekend gathering. The only barrier up at this point is probably the sex, now, I'm not saying that's bad, it's not, but it's a lil hard for either of you to, lets say... go over to each others house/apt midweek and catch a movie and have dinner without you wondering about an exit and him wondering what time you'll leave.. so there's not complete comfort and trust in each other... yet. I'd wait on the friends thing.. Family is another story. Unless, he's outgoing as all hell and wild and crazy.. but I doubt he is. Caps are reserved people.

What's your age btw? I don't want to assume an age

I'm in early 30s and he is in mid 40s. I don't have trouble meeting guys but I'm very selective wtih who i date so not much experience haha

Yea I guess we should wait for friends. Just that the gathering is also for a festival thought I could say hey we are at this place now, swing by if you want.

At the beginning of the date he inviting me to his work trip next month. He said you should come. I said idk if you were joking or serious, if I go you will be busy anyway. He goes yes but I won't be working on Sat and Sunday and you've never been to this country. Idk if I could take his invite seriously

He seems reserved with a filthy mind, you capricorns are horny LOL you have horns hahaha but I imagine he is very sociable as he seems to go to lots of events

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A festival is actually a great idea, I'd go for that, especially if it's a night time one. I was thinking 20's/30's which is usually my dynamic in relationships. If I'm going on a trip and my girl is ready to come, than she's everything, to me. If you deem sex to be filthy while you're secretly dreaming of intamacy than what are we talking about?? Not your ex I hope lol.. He might catch that vibe btw.. yes. Caps are very physical, but, Virgos are MORE physical.. in my experience.. if he's sociable than I think you 2 should go have a good time and you need to seriously access your fears about intimacy, and please please don't tell me, or him that you're rebounding.. if that's the case than you need to address that because this guy likes you, as a Cap man who is very in tune with myself and VERY in tune with others, I want you to access your feelings for your ex right now, if you can crush though feelings than move forward, but... if you still have feelings for your ex than that's what we should be talking about instead and you shouldn't string this guy along and project that onto him, you know what I mean?

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I'd say it would be a bit too early, but it depends on the gathering, if we're talking a bar/dinner with select mature friends that could work, If we're talking about a college house party, probably not.. lol I'd give it another date first, maybe a midweek thing if he isn't working too much, before the weekend gathering. The only barrier up at this point is probably the sex, now, I'm not saying that's bad, it's not, but it's a lil hard for either of you to, lets say... go over to each others house/apt midweek and catch a movie and have dinner without you wondering about an exit and him wondering what time you'll leave.. so there's not complete comfort and trust in each other... yet. I'd wait on the friends thing.. Family is another story. Unless, he's outgoing as all hell and wild and crazy.. but I doubt he is. Caps are reserved people.

What's your age btw? I don't want to assume an age

I'm in early 30s and he is in mid 40s. I don't have trouble meeting guys but I'm very selective wtih who i date so not much experience haha

Yea I guess we should wait for friends. Just that the gathering is also for a festival thought I could say hey we are at this place now, swing by if you want.

At the beginning of the date he inviting me to his work trip next month. He said you should come. I said idk if you were joking or serious, if I go you will be busy anyway. He goes yes but I won't be working on Sat and Sunday and you've never been to this country. Idk if I could take his invite seriously

He seems reserved with a filthy mind, you capricorns are horny LOL you have horns hahaha but I imagine he is very sociable as he seems to go to lots of events

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Virgo Libras, they throw themselves at me on the first date, all of them, not a single exclusion in my life (I probably would have married all of them at the time too), if you're hesitating than you need to trash the ex-bf you have on your mind right now. Or, do what I did months back and stop dating and be true to your ex and wait it out. Work it out.. but, if you're really into this guy, lose yourself in it all and stop worrying my lil virgo cusp friend.. lose yourself like we both know only you can.. and enjoy it 🙂

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@youngali i meant after I unblocked him he liked one pic, I then followed him and that probably made him realize he has been blocked before. He unliked that one photo.

@DannyMC He didn't reply and made me feel I could be too clingy but guess what? He text me while I was sleeping letting me know he was at a event. Then I checked his instagram and see this time he text me before he post stuff there. You are right warmth goes all the way with this cap hehe

Yea, he's hella petty and hurt about it. —

You have to leave your page open not private.

Post a bomb ass selfie.

He's most likely gonna be creeping your page.

And just wait for him to come around again.

When he comes around, ignore him

Let Him marinate with thoughts and his pettiness. Until he messages more frequently.

??

Thank me later.

You're late to the game my sag friend, they're already both down on 1 knee proposing to each other lol.

? Oh. never mind. carry on.

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Throws you over my shoulder and tickles you to death xD

@capri-sun yea we did talk about it, I was just second guessing cos we haven't seen each other for 6 weeks. Also he said it right at the beginning while we were having coffee.

@dannymc I'm over my ex, not holding out for anyone else. It's just never been my style to go physical so quickly cos I get attached I can't just do it like it means nothing. I will ended up getting hurt if I move too quickly. Virgos are sexual for sure, I make dirty jokes all the time. When I said he has a filthy mind I meant he has a dirty mind like I do.

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@capri-sun yea we did talk about it, I was just second guessing cos we haven't seen each other for 6 weeks. Also he said it right at the beginning while we were having coffee.

@dannymc I'm over my ex, not holding out for anyone else. It's just never been my style to go physical so quickly cos I get attached I can't just do it like it means nothing. I will ended up getting hurt if I move too quickly. Virgos are sexual for sure, I make dirty jokes all the time. When I said he has a filthy mind I meant he has a dirty mind like I do.

let go my lil SJ.. let go, that's my advice..I think you all are on the right path now 🙂

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@capri-sun yea we did talk about it, I was just second guessing cos we haven't seen each other for 6 weeks. Also he said it right at the beginning while we were having coffee.

@dannymc I'm over my ex, not holding out for anyone else. It's just never been my style to go physical so quickly cos I get attached I can't just do it like it means nothing. I will ended up getting hurt if I move too quickly. Virgos are sexual for sure, I make dirty jokes all the time. When I said he has a filthy mind I meant he has a dirty mind like I do.

let go my lil SJ.. let go, that's my advice..I think you all are on the right path now 🙂

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Thank you. You led me to the right path to 4th date. I will see when I see him next hehe

by the way, before I take the next step I always ask about their sexual health history. I guess I should ask in person? or on text? also I think it's safer to get blood test?

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@capri-sun yea we did talk about it, I was just second guessing cos we haven't seen each other for 6 weeks. Also he said it right at the beginning while we were having coffee.

@dannymc I'm over my ex, not holding out for anyone else. It's just never been my style to go physical so quickly cos I get attached I can't just do it like it means nothing. I will ended up getting hurt if I move too quickly. Virgos are sexual for sure, I make dirty jokes all the time. When I said he has a filthy mind I meant he has a dirty mind like I do.

let go my lil SJ.. let go, that's my advice..I think you all are on the right path now 🙂

Thank you. You led me to the right path to 4th date. I will see when I see him next hehe

by the way, before I take the next step I always ask about their sexual health history. I guess I should ask in person? or on text? also I think it's safer to get blood test?

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There we go 🙂 I wouldn't push for a blood test, but definitely bring up the history part and ask about std's.

If you don't trust a verbal answer you can skirt the worry with condoms for a while and then once you guys are closer go for a test, you know

@capri-sun @dannymc

Not thinking of going bareback, just that oral can catch STD as well . I will bring it up in person.

I'm not sure if this is normal, we were holding hands and went for a long walk before dinner on fourth date. that got me wet LOL I wasn't even thinking of anything sexual.Or may be its jsut that I haven't done it for 8 months haha About fear of intimacy... I can't cum from sex, I had ex left me for that even they never admit this is the reason.

He is still bad at texting, but I know that it's just how he is now. Not sure when to see him next. I'm also still waiting for friends to confirm what excatly we doing for the festival.

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@capri-sun @dannymc

Not thinking of going bareback, just that oral can catch STD as well . I will bring it up in person.

I'm not sure if this is normal, we were holding hands and went for a long walk before dinner on fourth date. that got me wet LOL I wasn't even thinking of anything sexual.Or may be its jsut that I haven't done it for 8 months haha About fear of intimacy... I can't cum from sex, I had ex left me for that even they never admit this is the reason.

He is still bad at texting, but I know that it's just how he is now. Not sure when to see him next. I'm also still waiting for friends to confirm what excatly we doing for the festival.

We have that affect on people 😄

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LOL I take that as guys are having a raging boner while on a date with you

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@capri-sun @dannymc

Not thinking of going bareback, just that oral can catch STD as well . I will bring it up in person.

I'm not sure if this is normal, we were holding hands and went for a long walk before dinner on fourth date. that got me wet LOL I wasn't even thinking of anything sexual.Or may be its jsut that I haven't done it for 8 months haha About fear of intimacy... I can't cum from sex, I had ex left me for that even they never admit this is the reason.

He is still bad at texting, but I know that it's just how he is now. Not sure when to see him next. I'm also still waiting for friends to confirm what excatly we doing for the festival.

I think that means a guy never made you feel that emotional vulnerability, and love.. have you ever met someone and thought, I'd have this guys kid right now. And slept with him with that on your mind?

If the holding hands thing made feel that, that's a good sign, there's some kind of emotional attraction brewing here, don't fight it 🙂

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@capri-sun @dannymc

Not thinking of going bareback, just that oral can catch STD as well . I will bring it up in person.

I'm not sure if this is normal, we were holding hands and went for a long walk before dinner on fourth date. that got me wet LOL I wasn't even thinking of anything sexual.Or may be its jsut that I haven't done it for 8 months haha About fear of intimacy... I can't cum from sex, I had ex left me for that even they never admit this is the reason.

He is still bad at texting, but I know that it's just how he is now. Not sure when to see him next. I'm also still waiting for friends to confirm what excatly we doing for the festival.

I think that means a guy never made you feel that emotional vulnerability, and love.. have you ever met someone and thought, I'd have this guys kid right now. And slept with him with that on your mind?

If the holding hands thing made feel that, that's a good sign, there's some kind of emotional attraction brewing here, don't fight it 🙂

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mmm I dont really want kids, never really have that thought, however as a fantasy it does sound hot. i only do that when playing with myself lol

i think somehow his openness on previous date made me closer to him? last night he text me and that gave me that effect again lol we weren't even talking dirty. also im not sure if i should tell him i can't cum from sex before we do anything

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@capri-sun @dannymc

Not thinking of going bareback, just that oral can catch STD as well . I will bring it up in person.

I'm not sure if this is normal, we were holding hands and went for a long walk before dinner on fourth date. that got me wet LOL I wasn't even thinking of anything sexual.Or may be its jsut that I haven't done it for 8 months haha About fear of intimacy... I can't cum from sex, I had ex left me for that even they never admit this is the reason.

He is still bad at texting, but I know that it's just how he is now. Not sure when to see him next. I'm also still waiting for friends to confirm what excatly we doing for the festival.

I think that means a guy never made you feel that emotional vulnerability, and love.. have you ever met someone and thought, I'd have this guys kid right now. And slept with him with that on your mind?

If the holding hands thing made feel that, that's a good sign, there's some kind of emotional attraction brewing here, don't fight it 🙂

mmm I dont really want kids, never really have that thought, however as a fantasy it does sound hot. i only do that when playing with myself lol

i think somehow his openness on previous date made me closer to him? last night he text me and that gave me that effect again lol we weren't even talking dirty. also im not sure if i should tell him i can't cum from sex before we do anything

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to solve your orgasm problem just change your mind about "I don't really want kids, never really have that thought" and find a guy you trust when you change your mind lol Trust me.. it's possible for a woman to let go a good 9.. 10x in 30 mins in these cases and when you add in the dual vulnerability stuff.. and if he makes you safe, not smothered though. And you feel like he's got you, in every way.. you'll go crazy.. I've noticed if I'm not making her feel that stuff i.e. if I'm stressed out or in a bad mood or something, or being wicked intense like I can get when I get overly excited about something (usually related to politics or business) a womans orgasm frequency lessens.. or if I make her feel like I don't give a shit about her because (the about reasons).. same result.. It's not all you, it's def not your body.. it's the lack of emotional connection you need more of..

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@capri-sun @dannymc

Not thinking of going bareback, just that oral can catch STD as well . I will bring it up in person.

I'm not sure if this is normal, we were holding hands and went for a long walk before dinner on fourth date. that got me wet LOL I wasn't even thinking of anything sexual.Or may be its jsut that I haven't done it for 8 months haha About fear of intimacy... I can't cum from sex, I had ex left me for that even they never admit this is the reason.

He is still bad at texting, but I know that it's just how he is now. Not sure when to see him next. I'm also still waiting for friends to confirm what excatly we doing for the festival.

I think that means a guy never made you feel that emotional vulnerability, and love.. have you ever met someone and thought, I'd have this guys kid right now. And slept with him with that on your mind?

If the holding hands thing made feel that, that's a good sign, there's some kind of emotional attraction brewing here, don't fight it 🙂

mmm I dont really want kids, never really have that thought, however as a fantasy it does sound hot. i only do that when playing with myself lol

i think somehow his openness on previous date made me closer to him? last night he text me and that gave me that effect again lol we weren't even talking dirty. also im not sure if i should tell him i can't cum from sex before we do anything

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"i think somehow his openness on previous date made me closer to him? last night he text me and that gave me that effect again lol we weren't even talking dirty. also im not sure if i should tell him i can't cum from sex before we do anything"

Ya, you showed it to him and it drew him closer to you, then he showed it to you and it drew you closer to him... It's hot right lol It's all about that openness, that vulnerability, because it says "I trust you in every way, don't hurt me" it gives you power over that person in a way where you don't want to hurt them, you want to protect that. If they show that vulnerability back (which he did) than you have power over them, in a way where you don't want to hurt them, you 2 crushed each other insecurites and anxieties (where before you 2 were trying to get power through games and anger, and fear and not love) in a sense you gave each other your hearts and that's where 2 souls start to become one, that's usually the point 2 bodies become 1 too if you know what I mean. Keep bringing that out in each other..

I only know this stuff from my past relationships with virgos and libras, they can be aggressive or walled off with other people but they act super vulnerable and seductive around me, which makes me super protective of them, but not in a weird way.. I mean, even the small things, I could be flipping out at someone on a business call and the second I turn to speak to them I would never even let them see or feel that aggression. Just because of how they act with me.. On the flipside it's like they know every one of my weaknesses and insecurites as I'm feeling it, even before I'm aware consciously and they're already countering with words, or action based in this, like, gentle love. Like they can reach into my chest and heal stuff I didn't know was there until they were healing it. Bizarre stuff.. I see no reason why you and him can't have that lol

@capri-sun It may happen I can only hope

@dannymc wow so you mean I have to think of I want a baby even I don't want one just so I can orgasm?

Anyway back to the vulnerability, what you said was really profound. I now realized I've been doing it the wrong way. I tried to show vulnerability by asking exs for advice, giving them compliment, cooking for them, tell them how much I enjoyed their company. Guess that's why none of them seem to bond with me emotionally or they were just emotionally unavailable?

I totally did the wall out thing you said about virgo libra cusp does. It's not even a conscious thing, teaming it with leo venus + mars the aggresion is definitely is always there LOL

I'm looking forward to see him soon. When he left he said see you soon and he's now texting more often. I know he is busy during weeknight for work. He also have family visiting on weekend. I guess my only bet is during festival I can text him my location and tell him he should come.

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@capri-sun It may happen I can only hope

@dannymc wow so you mean I have to think of I want a baby even I don't want one just so I can orgasm?

Anyway back to the vulnerability, what you said was really profound. I now realized I've been doing it the wrong way. I tried to show vulnerability by asking exs for advice, giving them compliment, cooking for them, tell them how much I enjoyed their company. Guess that's why none of them seem to bond with me emotionally or they were just emotionally unavailable?

I totally did the wall out thing you said about virgo libra cusp does. It's not even a conscious thing, teaming it with leo venus + mars the aggresion is definitely is always there LOL

I'm looking forward to see him soon. When he left he said see you soon and he's now texting more often. I know he is busy during weeknight for work. He also have family visiting on weekend. I guess my only bet is during festival I can text him my location and tell him he should come.

"wow so you mean I have to think of I want a baby even I don't want one just so I can orgasm?"

No I'm saying saying force it lol I'm saying if, into the relationship you start thinking it, you'll probably enjoy sex more. "exs for advice, giving them compliment, cooking for them, tell them how much I enjoyed their company" this is all good stuff 🙂

"I totally did the wall out thing you said about virgo libra cusp does. It's not even a conscious thing, teaming it with leo venus + mars the aggresion is definitely is always there LOL" This is less of a virgo/libra thing, It's usually just a front to cover up bad past relationships or an aggressive work, personal and family life. I've noticed. I dated a Leo sun Cap moon that would have made a great business partner but her attitude was so much like mine and seeing that I'm not into fucking myself I couldn't sleep with her lol We were great at exposing each others weaknesses and trying to dominate each other emotionally, more her so by sticking the knife into those weaknesses, me more so by destroying her ego, in a not so nice way. Her walls were so high and her offense so strong that it took her seeing me with other women for all of that to change. Too late for her though. It's very unattractive. In the sense of a romantic partner. She would have been an amazing business partner though. She legit made the owner of her company run home crying from mere words once lmfao, and could land deals wherever, whenever. Like my little twin lol Too bad she wasn't my sister. Sidenote: don't have this Cap thinking that.

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@capri-sun It may happen I can only hope

@dannymc wow so you mean I have to think of I want a baby even I don't want one just so I can orgasm?

Anyway back to the vulnerability, what you said was really profound. I now realized I've been doing it the wrong way. I tried to show vulnerability by asking exs for advice, giving them compliment, cooking for them, tell them how much I enjoyed their company. Guess that's why none of them seem to bond with me emotionally or they were just emotionally unavailable?

I totally did the wall out thing you said about virgo libra cusp does. It's not even a conscious thing, teaming it with leo venus + mars the aggresion is definitely is always there LOL

I'm looking forward to see him soon. When he left he said see you soon and he's now texting more often. I know he is busy during weeknight for work. He also have family visiting on weekend. I guess my only bet is during festival I can text him my location and tell him he should come.

"wow so you mean I have to think of I want a baby even I don't want one just so I can orgasm?"

No I'm saying saying force it lol I'm saying if, into the relationship you start thinking it, you'll probably enjoy sex more. "exs for advice, giving them compliment, cooking for them, tell them how much I enjoyed their company" this is all good stuff 🙂

"I totally did the wall out thing you said about virgo libra cusp does. It's not even a conscious thing, teaming it with leo venus + mars the aggresion is definitely is always there LOL" This is less of a virgo/libra thing, It's usually just a front to cover up bad past relationships or an aggressive work, personal and family life. I've noticed. I dated a Leo sun Cap moon that would have made a great business partner but her attitude was so much like mine and seeing that I'm not into fucking myself I couldn't sleep with her lol We were great at exposing each others weaknesses and trying to dominate each other emotionally, more her so by sticking the knife into those weaknesses, me more so by destroying her ego, in a not so nice way. Her walls were so high and her offense so strong that it took her seeing me with other women for all of that to change. Too late for her though. It's very unattractive. In the sense of a romantic partner. She would have been an amazing business partner though. She legit made the owner of her company run home crying from mere words once lmfao, and could land deals wherever, whenever. Like my little twin lol Too bad she wasn't my sister. Sidenote: don't have this Cap thinking that.

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@capri-sun It may happen I can only hope

@dannymc wow so you mean I have to think of I want a baby even I don't want one just so I can orgasm?

Anyway back to the vulnerability, what you said was really profound. I now realized I've been doing it the wrong way. I tried to show vulnerability by asking exs for advice, giving them compliment, cooking for them, tell them how much I enjoyed their company. Guess that's why none of them seem to bond with me emotionally or they were just emotionally unavailable?

I totally did the wall out thing you said about virgo libra cusp does. It's not even a conscious thing, teaming it with leo venus + mars the aggresion is definitely is always there LOL

I'm looking forward to see him soon. When he left he said see you soon and he's now texting more often. I know he is busy during weeknight for work. He also have family visiting on weekend. I guess my only bet is during festival I can text him my location and tell him he should come.

"wow so you mean I have to think of I want a baby even I don't want one just so I can orgasm?"

No I'm saying saying force it lol I'm saying if, into the relationship you start thinking it, you'll probably enjoy sex more. "exs for advice, giving them compliment, cooking for them, tell them how much I enjoyed their company" this is all good stuff 🙂

"I totally did the wall out thing you said about virgo libra cusp does. It's not even a conscious thing, teaming it with leo venus + mars the aggresion is definitely is always there LOL" This is less of a virgo/libra thing, It's usually just a front to cover up bad past relationships or an aggressive work, personal and family life. I've noticed. I dated a Leo sun Cap moon that would have made a great business partner but her attitude was so much like mine and seeing that I'm not into fucking myself I couldn't sleep with her lol We were great at exposing each others weaknesses and trying to dominate each other emotionally, more her so by sticking the knife into those weaknesses, me more so by destroying her ego, in a not so nice way. Her walls were so high and her offense so strong that it took her seeing me with other women for all of that to change. Too late for her though. It's very unattractive. In the sense of a romantic partner. She would have been an amazing business partner though. She legit made the owner of her company run home crying from mere words once lmfao, and could land deals wherever, whenever. Like my little twin lol Too bad she wasn't my sister. Sidenote: don't have this Cap thinking that.

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LOL @ I'm not into fucking myself! That is call masturbating hahaha Oh well it;s a very good point. I've never made any run home crying, but the way I brought up conflict wasn't the best. For example I would confront them for hot and cold. This time I told cap I miss talking to him and it went well. That's probably why exes sees me as competition instead of wanting to protect me. What you taught me about showing vulnerablity is more important. Shows you are vulnerable even you can lift more than him LOL

Good to know my "bonding method" was right with exes but they just weren't the right guy for me. As I know they were never opened and is always looking for the next best thing.

haha being preggo is not a fantansy, I mean it's the act of trying to make a baby is hot, but I don't want to get fat and go through the pain or raising a kid LOL so that's all that is. jsut trying but without really having a baby.

lol I don't know if there's a single woman on earth who would enjoy the belly/birth part of it all.. you know what I meant about your fantasy lol "For example I would confront them for hot and cold. This time I told cap I miss talking to him and it went well."For example I would confront them for hot and cold. This time I told cap I miss talking to him and it went well." exactly, it was honest, it wasn't "I hate you screw you" it was the truth, "I miss you" ya... also "That's probably why exes sees me as competition instead of wanting to protect me" very true. I mean, like my ex leo, she went about telling me what she meant to say in the wrong way, every time, and then got mad.. makes no sense, in love, to do that.

K, this "Shows you are vulnerable even you can lift more than him LOL " is just awkward lol

"the way I brought up conflict wasn't the best" Your feelings aren't a conflict, and shouldn't be a conflict to him, unless you wanna fight, and fighting in and of itself, like games, are conflicting. They're a mask, a defense mech, all BS basically.. Be open, and he'll do the same, like he has been

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K, this "Shows you are vulnerable even you can lift more than him LOL " is just awkward lol

haha it kinda is, he is under weight and I'm healthy and fit. Now that we do more PDA like holding hands with long walk and he kisses me on the street. ppl were giving him dirty looks. Also he followed lots of flatchested skinny fashion models which is why I thought he might not like me. After telling him I miss him now he tells me how beautiful he thinks I was while we were on fourth date. Today he even told me I have inspired him to eat healthy. That was nice. I forgot to add xo at the end that should be ok... I know he is sensitive like I am... LOL

Yep i totally went the wrong way in the past. Like with my Aries ex I suspected he wasn't over the ex who cheated on him. Cheating sucks so no need to talk about her personality. Look wise she is NOT pretty at all. Yet he told me she is the only one who slept over at his place. (he lives with his parents) I asked if he is over he insisted yes. I dind't beleive him so I lashed out at him. I guess I could have say things like from your action I don't feel this way or something along the line ... idk... I'm still not very good at being vulnerable.

@dannymc I just noticed he unliked a post he liked after our great fourth date. Since we were texting I asked him I just notice he is not on the like list anymore and if he unliked it?

I'm not sure if this is a good way to bring it up, but I'm sure he did unlike it. I want to know why...

@dannymc he denied it and said he will check, then he liked a different photo...

I am disappointed, I thought he could potentially be the one I bond with for the first time emotionally. His sketchy Instagram behavior is dampening my trust for him.

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@dannymc he denied it and said he will check, then he liked a different photo...

I am disappointed, I thought he could potentially be the one I bond with for the first time emotionally. His sketchy Instagram behavior is dampening my trust for him.

Don't read into things too much so early on, it will kill the attraction. If a girl asked me that question I'd think, huuuuuhhhh... and scratch my head

"flatchested skinny fashion models" (not my thing) lol

Fit and healthy = way better. 🙂

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No offense. I think you're being overly anal about this Instagram stuff. Is this really how you want a relationship to be or how you think it should be?

I lack patience, so I would've just let go & move on.

Try to loosen up a bit & just relax before he is just no longer interested.

He might see it as obsessive and/or paranoid and/or insecure.

I'd also think, don't you know I like you? Don't you trust me? Remember, trust = vulnerability. Not trusting is the opposite. That's confrontation.

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@dannymc he denied it and said he will check, then he liked a different photo...

I am disappointed, I thought he could potentially be the one I bond with for the first time emotionally. His sketchy Instagram behavior is dampening my trust for him.

Also insecurity begets itself, for example..

I'd think... no wait, I'd feel at at level I wouldn't be aware of; don't you trust me..? you don't trust me.. I don't make you feel safe, (in this case emotionally) I'm not a man. I don't want a woman that makes me feel like I'm not a man. Now I'm insecure. Now I'm going to be distant because I don't trust you either. This whole series of emotion may play out as a feeling of minor annoyance.. I'd probably ignore you for a day lol

Negative emotion and fear often manifests itself at times.. through fear we create the situation we fear.. (I want you to think about that, literally think about how you fear some situation may happen and through your reaction to that fear you actually made that situation happen) you have to remember when I say vulnerability I mean trust. With that said you used a sort of insecurity at first because you both felt it, when you 2 opened up to each other about the distance. That's ok. But with love, as in war, you have to reward your enemy for good behavior, so the fact that you 2 have gotten closer should increase trust, and not insecurity. Reaffirm the trust at this point. Because we want to move away from insecurities. And don't get too into details over instagram likes lol

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This is also why I don't do social media with men that I'm dating

lol

Girl: This is an amazing honeymoon babe, I love you so much, I think I'm pregnant

Me: but I just posted pictures of the beach and you didn't like them, I want a divorce

Girl: what? fuck this.. walks away..

Me: exactly.

God: wtf?

Zuckerberg: muahahahahaha

lmao

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This is also why I don't do social media with men that I'm dating

I'll be honest though, if I'm with a girl, who's testing the SM waters I'll offer up reassurance, I remember this girl I began to date started asserting her presence with little emoji kisses in the comment section of my FB posts, while an ex practically stalked. I think she was looking for validation because I still had the ex as a friend (I was trying to let her down easily) I always reacted to those little emojis with affirmation, like "love ya babe" also sending a message to the ex that hey, it's done for real, she's my girl, you gatta move on etc

@DannyMC @capri-sun

I don't care if he didn't like a post, but when he like then unlike and denies it does give me the impression he is not trustworthy as he is lying. Now when I think of him it doesn't have the same effect of before I this happened....

How I notice it was because a lot of spam comment on it, so I looked at the like list to see how many likers were spam account and I saw he unliked it and asked him about it.

Danny that is nice of you to give your new girl reassurance, I commented on one of his post after our date, I didn't do emoji, it was just something funny. He didn't like my comment, he sent me a text telling me my comment and the video I sent him was hilarious. I told him glad you like it, just wasn't sure if my comment was welcome. Then I changed the subject.

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I don't care if he didn't like a post, but when he like then unlike and denies it does give me the impression he is not trustworthy as he is lying. Now when I think of him it doesn't have the same effect of before I this happened....

How I notice it was because a lot of spam comment on it, so I looked at the like list to see how many likers were spam account and I saw he unliked it and asked him about it.

Danny that is nice of you to give your new girl reassurance, I commented on one of his post after our date, I didn't do emoji, it was just something funny. He didn't like my comment, he sent me a text telling me my comment and the video I sent him was hilarious. I told him glad you like it, just wasn't sure if my comment was welcome. Then I changed the subject.

So we have now come full circle. Let him go, leave him alone, and move on. You 2 are incompatible. Listen to your intuition. Stop trying to force something and make it work. Be yourself and the right person will love you just the way you are.

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lying is just not good for anything... now I'm confused cos 2 friends said instagram did unliek their lieks before.. so may be he dind't lie...

however he might not have checked.. if he did he would have notice the like is undone.

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DannyMC capri-sun

I don't care if he didn't like a post, but when he like then unlike and denies it does give me the impression he is not trustworthy as he is lying. Now when I think of him it doesn't have the same effect of before I this happened....

How I notice it was because a lot of spam comment on it, so I looked at the like list to see how many likers were spam account and I saw he unliked it and asked him about it.

Danny that is nice of you to give your new girl reassurance, I commented on one of his post after our date, I didn't do emoji, it was just something funny. He didn't like my comment, he sent me a text telling me my comment and the video I sent him was hilarious. I told him glad you like it, just wasn't sure if my comment was welcome. Then I changed the subject.

So we have now come full circle. Let him go, leave him alone, and move on. You 2 are incompatible. Listen to your intuition. Stop trying to force something and make it work. Be yourself and the right person will love you just the way you are.

lying is just not good for anything... now I'm confused cos 2 friends said instagram did unliek their lieks before.. so may be he dind't lie...

however he might not have checked.. if he did he would have notice the like is undone.

Do you hear yourself right now?

I mean don't get me wrong, I totally get it about lying.

I'm just saying why does he have to check because you said he unliked something.

This is the real world and people are dealing with real problems. You should be an asset not a liability meaning you should be adding to his life not taking away, you should be making his life easier not stressing him out.

Maybe you should spend more time being single and doing some self reflection and if he has you this tied up over Instagram then this sounds like an unhealthy relationship waiting to happen.

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actually i don't mind being single. I'm already worrying if things develop I will lose my routine to do what I do.

Why should he check? because he said he was going to. It's about doing what you said you gonna do.

I'm with Cap, I'm about to tell you that you're not over your ex and to go get him back. You've come close enough to a rebound to get what you needed out of it. Go show up at your exes house and profess undying love and crazy sex and get on with it 🙂

"I'm already worrying if things develop I will lose my routine to do what I do" absolutely, with a cap for sure, we dominate everything, and we don't even realize it.. sometimes we have to make sure you stick to 'you' cuz you love to stick to us.. :-p

PS: Don't tell me there's something in your life that you're missing either.. I can smell the need from a mile away. Go get what you need

Typo: meant 'not missing'

@dannymc @capri-sun I'm defintiely over "my ex", I've never had sex with him, we were dating but he was emotionally unavailable and still is. I was just trying to get him to open up. At first the cap might be a rebound but after meeting in person and up until now I really like this cap, however I'm still afraid of losing the routine thing and he knows I need it for fitness and such. You know you cap only likes fit women so I'm doing this for his good LOL

Regarding instagram it was a glitch, he was sweet today he text me to check how was my injury from training. I responded quick and let him know the "e-massage" he gave me didn't work, he needs to do it in person. He also responded quick and said he prefers to see me in real life than just text. He then asked if my plans for the festival has been finalized.

I updated him about my vague plans with my friends and I told him I'd rather go with him if he is free. He said lets play by ear as he is still waiting for his sister in law to confirm when is she gonna be in town. Then he asked if I know what time the festival is starting.

Is this the right kind of vulnerability? I just hope it's not neediness. I haven't been the real me for ages, as I've been trained by emotionally available guys all these years to not show any demand.

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@dannymc @capri-sun I'm defintiely over "my ex", I've never had sex with him, we were dating but he was emotionally unavailable and still is. I was just trying to get him to open up. At first the cap might be a rebound but after meeting in person and up until now I really like this cap, however I'm still afraid of losing the routine thing and he knows I need it for fitness and such. You know you cap only likes fit women so I'm doing this for his good LOL

Regarding instagram it was a glitch, he was sweet today he text me to check how was my injury from training. I responded quick and let him know the "e-massage" he gave me didn't work, he needs to do it in person. He also responded quick and said he prefers to see me in real life than just text. He then asked if my plans for the festival has been finalized.

I updated him about my vague plans with my friends and I told him I'd rather go with him if he is free. He said lets play by ear as he is still waiting for his sister in law to confirm when is she gonna be in town. Then he asked if I know what time the festival is starting.

Is this the right kind of vulnerability? I just hope it's not neediness. I haven't been the real me for ages, as I've been trained by emotionally available guys all these years to not show any demand.

"I haven't been the real me for ages" he seems to like the real you. Keep up the good work (being you) I think a lot of women haven't been the real them in ages. Maybe it's because men aren't men anymore in most cases.

@capri-sun @dannymc no I can't tell he is figuratively kissing my butt, I mean in person I felt appreciated by him. However I just notice he / instagram unliked the most recent post he liked. Twice within a week? Might be a bit too much of coincident? I'm not going to mention it to him this time.. I'm not sure if this is his Scorpio venus and mars test or not...I just hope he is testing out of his own security rather than trying to manipulate

Man haven't been a man for a long time.. that's a good point.. may be the testosterone all went into muscles for body building, and it's not anywhere to be found while dating LOL

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@capri-sun @dannymc no I can't tell he is figuratively kissing my butt, I mean in person I felt appreciated by him. However I just notice he / instagram unliked the most recent post he liked. Twice within a week? Might be a bit too much of coincident? I'm not going to mention it to him this time.. I'm not sure if this is his Scorpio venus and mars test or not...I just hope he is testing out of his own security rather than trying to manipulate

Man haven't been a man for a long time.. that's a good point.. may be the testosterone all went into muscles for body building, and it's not anywhere to be found while dating LOL

@dannymc Also I think it's time to ask him what is he looking for. if he could be looking for relationship or long term.. cos seeing someone once every 2 weeks does seem very casual...and if he wants me to visit him while he is away for work. Financially is not a problem for me, but I want to know what I'm investing in. If this is not going anywhere or all he wanted is a sexy weekend I'm not gonna visit..

Sometimes we can accidentally press like/unlike buttons when scrolling through stuff, ive done it myself.

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Sometimes we can accidentally press like/unlike buttons when scrolling through stuff, ive done it myself.

he has to double tab it, but i get what you saying it can happen.

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@capri-sun @dannymc no I can't tell he is figuratively kissing my butt, I mean in person I felt appreciated by him. However I just notice he / instagram unliked the most recent post he liked. Twice within a week? Might be a bit too much of coincident? I'm not going to mention it to him this time.. I'm not sure if this is his Scorpio venus and mars test or not...I just hope he is testing out of his own security rather than trying to manipulate

Man haven't been a man for a long time.. that's a good point.. may be the testosterone all went into muscles for body building, and it's not anywhere to be found while dating LOL

@dannymc Also I think it's time to ask him what is he looking for. if he could be looking for relationship or long term.. cos seeing someone once every 2 weeks does seem very casual...and if he wants me to visit him while he is away for work. Financially is not a problem for me, but I want to know what I'm investing in. If this is not going anywhere or all he wanted is a sexy weekend I'm not gonna visit..

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Ask him for sure 🙂 I'm going to be honest with you right now, and I'm coming from the POV of a cap who would be in love with you.. First thing I'd tell you is, go after what you want, if I seem reserved and distant. Chances are we both want the same things. As a cap though, and dating you for almost 2 months my express feelings would be, can we skip the dating BS and watch a movie at my place and have dinner.. maybe make love and be happy.. and lay in bed and talk about the future.. I don't want another 'maybe if' and I don't want another date lol I want you in my life.. if we're still figuring out if we like each other than wtf... If I'm unliking your insta pics it means move faster, because I'm losing interest in your speed and in your general fear of life and getting close to me, you're probably rebounding so GTF away from me.. though I'll stick around a lil in case I'm wrong but I'm only half invested now and dreaming of a girl who I'm the world too, you better show me something real, and soon. Or I'm gone -

I want you to think about that.. because I think you both want the same thing.. or maybe you don't, maybe you want to flip your hair like whatever and be single. As a Cap I'd laugh and let you be. But, you're a virgo, so you easily bury what you really want. And I know what it is you want, you need to let him know, and make him feel it, because he wants the same.

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capri-sun dannymc no I can't tell he is figuratively kissing my butt, I mean in person I felt appreciated by him. However I just notice he / instagram unliked the most recent post he liked. Twice within a week? Might be a bit too much of coincident? I'm not going to mention it to him this time.. I'm not sure if this is his Scorpio venus and mars test or not...I just hope he is testing out of his own security rather than trying to manipulate

Man haven't been a man for a long time.. that's a good point.. may be the testosterone all went into muscles for body building, and it's not anywhere to be found while dating LOL

1. I personally am not manipulative

2. What type of test would that be? What would it prove? Why would he test you?

3. I think you should maybe let this one go if he isn't speaking your language and you can't tell that he's being nice & patient with you.

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1. I never said you were, do you also have Scoprio venus and mars? I did his chart reading for him last time we got together. He admit he used to be very jealous and manipulative. he said he grew out of it. He also think my chart is reading is very spot on... but more for the younger version of him.

2. may be to see if I will bring it up again or unlike any of his post?

3. Can you elaborate how is he being patient? YOu meant he said those nice thing about enjoying my company and doesn't mind we are not having sex now? Or did you mean something else?

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@capri-sun @dannymc no I can't tell he is figuratively kissing my butt, I mean in person I felt appreciated by him. However I just notice he / instagram unliked the most recent post he liked. Twice within a week? Might be a bit too much of coincident? I'm not going to mention it to him this time.. I'm not sure if this is his Scorpio venus and mars test or not...I just hope he is testing out of his own security rather than trying to manipulate

Man haven't been a man for a long time.. that's a good point.. may be the testosterone all went into muscles for body building, and it's not anywhere to be found while dating LOL

@dannymc Also I think it's time to ask him what is he looking for. if he could be looking for relationship or long term.. cos seeing someone once every 2 weeks does seem very casual...and if he wants me to visit him while he is away for work. Financially is not a problem for me, but I want to know what I'm investing in. If this is not going anywhere or all he wanted is a sexy weekend I'm not gonna visit..

Ask him for sure 🙂 I'm going to be honest with you right now, and I'm coming from the POV of a cap who would be in love with you.. First thing I'd tell you is, go after what you want, if I seem reserved and distant. Chances are we both want the same things. As a cap though, and dating you for almost 2 months my express feelings would be, can we skip the dating BS and watch a movie at my place and have dinner.. maybe make love and be happy.. and lay in bed and talk about the future.. I don't want another 'maybe if' and I don't want another date lol I want you in my life.. if we're still figuring out if we like each other than wtf... If I'm unliking your insta pics it means move faster, because I'm losing interest in your speed and in your general fear of life and getting close to me, you're probably rebounding so GTF away from me.. though I'll stick around a lil in case I'm wrong but I'm only half invested now and dreaming of a girl who I'm the world too, you better show me something real, and soon. Or I'm gone -

I want you to think about that.. because I think you both want the same thing.. or maybe you don't, maybe you want to flip your hair like whatever and be single. As a Cap I'd laugh and let you be. But, you're a virgo, so you easily bury what you really want. And I know what it is you want, you need to let him know, and make him feel it, because he wants the same.

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With that said, he sounds a lil reserved with you, maybe shy or intimidated, I can understand this from 1 POV, I'm thinking back to my middle school and high school years where I somehow landed the best looking girls with eye glances while drawing nude busts during class and still acing tests, but I still felt hesitation with these girls like, why me?. Maybe you might have a guy who feels beta to you at this point in his life. He told you that you were his only date... think about that.

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@capri-sun @dannymc no I can't tell he is figuratively kissing my butt, I mean in person I felt appreciated by him. However I just notice he / instagram unliked the most recent post he liked. Twice within a week? Might be a bit too much of coincident? I'm not going to mention it to him this time.. I'm not sure if this is his Scorpio venus and mars test or not...I just hope he is testing out of his own security rather than trying to manipulate

Man haven't been a man for a long time.. that's a good point.. may be the testosterone all went into muscles for body building, and it's not anywhere to be found while dating LOL

@dannymc Also I think it's time to ask him what is he looking for. if he could be looking for relationship or long term.. cos seeing someone once every 2 weeks does seem very casual...and if he wants me to visit him while he is away for work. Financially is not a problem for me, but I want to know what I'm investing in. If this is not going anywhere or all he wanted is a sexy weekend I'm not gonna visit..

Ask him for sure 🙂 I'm going to be honest with you right now, and I'm coming from the POV of a cap who would be in love with you.. First thing I'd tell you is, go after what you want, if I seem reserved and distant. Chances are we both want the same things. As a cap though, and dating you for almost 2 months my express feelings would be, can we skip the dating BS and watch a movie at my place and have dinner.. maybe make love and be happy.. and lay in bed and talk about the future.. I don't want another 'maybe if' and I don't want another date lol I want you in my life.. if we're still figuring out if we like each other than wtf... If I'm unliking your insta pics it means move faster, because I'm losing interest in your speed and in your general fear of life and getting close to me, you're probably rebounding so GTF away from me.. though I'll stick around a lil in case I'm wrong but I'm only half invested now and dreaming of a girl who I'm the world too, you better show me something real, and soon. Or I'm gone -

I want you to think about that.. because I think you both want the same thing.. or maybe you don't, maybe you want to flip your hair like whatever and be single. As a Cap I'd laugh and let you be. But, you're a virgo, so you easily bury what you really want. And I know what it is you want, you need to let him know, and make him feel it, because he wants the same.

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I've been showing him more by being warmer, texting more promptly and even told him I rather go to the festival with him than with my friends. Is this not enough? When he said he is waiting for his sister in law to confirm when is she gonna be in town. I said I'm also waiting for my friends to finalize it and cna't ppl be awesome like us? the ability to plan! xx

No respond from him. May be the "us" scared him? idk

I don't do flings, I want either relationship or single. He admit he never do half ass attempt but that's when he was younger. May be he only wants FWB now.. idk.. He just seem way to content to not see me often

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@capri-sun @dannymc no I can't tell he is figuratively kissing my butt, I mean in person I felt appreciated by him. However I just notice he / instagram unliked the most recent post he liked. Twice within a week? Might be a bit too much of coincident? I'm not going to mention it to him this time.. I'm not sure if this is his Scorpio venus and mars test or not...I just hope he is testing out of his own security rather than trying to manipulate

Man haven't been a man for a long time.. that's a good point.. may be the testosterone all went into muscles for body building, and it's not anywhere to be found while dating LOL

@dannymc Also I think it's time to ask him what is he looking for. if he could be looking for relationship or long term.. cos seeing someone once every 2 weeks does seem very casual...and if he wants me to visit him while he is away for work. Financially is not a problem for me, but I want to know what I'm investing in. If this is not going anywhere or all he wanted is a sexy weekend I'm not gonna visit..

Ask him for sure 🙂 I'm going to be honest with you right now, and I'm coming from the POV of a cap who would be in love with you.. First thing I'd tell you is, go after what you want, if I seem reserved and distant. Chances are we both want the same things. As a cap though, and dating you for almost 2 months my express feelings would be, can we skip the dating BS and watch a movie at my place and have dinner.. maybe make love and be happy.. and lay in bed and talk about the future.. I don't want another 'maybe if' and I don't want another date lol I want you in my life.. if we're still figuring out if we like each other than wtf... If I'm unliking your insta pics it means move faster, because I'm losing interest in your speed and in your general fear of life and getting close to me, you're probably rebounding so GTF away from me.. though I'll stick around a lil in case I'm wrong but I'm only half invested now and dreaming of a girl who I'm the world too, you better show me something real, and soon. Or I'm gone -

I want you to think about that.. because I think you both want the same thing.. or maybe you don't, maybe you want to flip your hair like whatever and be single. As a Cap I'd laugh and let you be. But, you're a virgo, so you easily bury what you really want. And I know what it is you want, you need to let him know, and make him feel it, because he wants the same.

With that said, he sounds a lil reserved with you, maybe shy or intimidated, I can understand this from 1 POV, I'm thinking back to my middle school and high school years where I somehow landed the best looking girls with eye glances while drawing nude busts during class and still acing tests, but I still felt hesitation with these girls like, why me?. Maybe you might have a guy who feels beta to you at this point in his life. He told you that you were his only date... think about that.

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Don't want to sound conceited, I'm fit and healthy like a fitness model and I do get lots of attention in real life and online and he knows it. I'm just not skinny and tall like fashion model, well his preferred type base on his following.I can also see guys are giving him dirty look like why is she with him as we walked pass. I can't control what ppl do. That probably makes him feel beta like you said?

He didn't exactly say I'm the only one he is dating. He said the only date he ever had from this website. I'm not sure if he is on any other site or have someone else in real life? He might never be over his ex.. the ex he was with for 7 years. they are still in touch but she is back to france last year.. they are still in touch. he explained if it was other ex he would stop talking but they came to a new country together and he feels like they are responsible for each other and if anything happen to him she would be contacting his family etc.

I'm not sure how else can I make him feel less reserve. I already told him I'm shy when it comes to dating and I also need time to warm up. If he is not making real plans to see me there's not much I can do now apart from those text I was telling you about.

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Posted by StrawberryJam

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@capri-sun @dannymc no I can't tell he is figuratively kissing my butt, I mean in person I felt appreciated by him. However I just notice he / instagram unliked the most recent post he liked. Twice within a week? Might be a bit too much of coincident? I'm not going to mention it to him this time.. I'm not sure if this is his Scorpio venus and mars test or not...I just hope he is testing out of his own security rather than trying to manipulate

Man haven't been a man for a long time.. that's a good point.. may be the testosterone all went into muscles for body building, and it's not anywhere to be found while dating LOL

@dannymc Also I think it's time to ask him what is he looking for. if he could be looking for relationship or long term.. cos seeing someone once every 2 weeks does seem very casual...and if he wants me to visit him while he is away for work. Financially is not a problem for me, but I want to know what I'm investing in. If this is not going anywhere or all he wanted is a sexy weekend I'm not gonna visit..

Ask him for sure 🙂 I'm going to be honest with you right now, and I'm coming from the POV of a cap who would be in love with you.. First thing I'd tell you is, go after what you want, if I seem reserved and distant. Chances are we both want the same things. As a cap though, and dating you for almost 2 months my express feelings would be, can we skip the dating BS and watch a movie at my place and have dinner.. maybe make love and be happy.. and lay in bed and talk about the future.. I don't want another 'maybe if' and I don't want another date lol I want you in my life.. if we're still figuring out if we like each other than wtf... If I'm unliking your insta pics it means move faster, because I'm losing interest in your speed and in your general fear of life and getting close to me, you're probably rebounding so GTF away from me.. though I'll stick around a lil in case I'm wrong but I'm only half invested now and dreaming of a girl who I'm the world too, you better show me something real, and soon. Or I'm gone -

I want you to think about that.. because I think you both want the same thing.. or maybe you don't, maybe you want to flip your hair like whatever and be single. As a Cap I'd laugh and let you be. But, you're a virgo, so you easily bury what you really want. And I know what it is you want, you need to let him know, and make him feel it, because he wants the same.

I've been showing him more by being warmer, texting more promptly and even told him I rather go to the festival with him than with my friends. Is this not enough? When he said he is waiting for his sister in law to confirm when is she gonna be in town. I said I'm also waiting for my friends to finalize it and cna't ppl be awesome like us? the ability to plan! xx

No respond from him. May be the "us" scared him? idk

I don't do flings, I want either relationship or single. He admit he never do half ass attempt but that's when he was younger. May be he only wants FWB now.. idk.. He just seem way to content to not see me often

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What about his place.. (you're doing the right thing btw) ask him about dinner and downtime at his place, I'm talking tonight or tomorrow night, and see if his mood changes.. It's low key, and relaxed, for him.. If he comes across warm to that than we are alike, I've had periods where I kept partners at a distance because of work where I can't go and dance at a festival when serious things are on my mind and I need to relax a lil...