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@capri-sun you're right he's not here for hit and quit

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Danny Bro your interpretation of his text about the festival was CORRECT. We had our fifth date today he didn't confirm but I asked what time is he coming over and he responded quick and let me know the time.

He came early, brought me some fruits and chocolate and he told me he miss me and I asked you didn't join me last week. He said he wasn't sure if he should intrude. I told him his text came across as not interested in getting to know my friends.

Then we cooked together, made out I told him I'm attracted but I can't do hook ups. He said this is not a hook up. I said I don't want friends with benefit either. He said we are not friends wtih benefit. He said I just want to be close to you, I want to spend time with you i said well there's a long period of absense even though it's for work. I can't do it. Also you didn't say what you lookign for on the website. He said I'm looking for love.

He said he is not dating other people or looking, but he didn't say we are exclusive either...

So we made out more and talked about joinning him to his work trip overseas. I said I'm excited and nervous. He said don't take it as a big deal, treat it as just a weekend away. Instead of overseas trip. He said come on a Thursady night so you will arrive my hotel on Friday morning I will go to work a bit later to make sure you arrive ok. Then we can go out for dinner and then we can go out on weekend. you can go back on Monday night so we can have dinner before you go to the airport.

mmm He told me not to take the trip overseas as big deal.. what does that mean? LOL

It means just go with the flow and enjoy it.


ok I hope it's not the same way my exes meant. they were just saying it cos they were using me.... but I think this cap is different
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You need to stop with the negative thoughts, that is what has been your issue all along. Don't judge him by your exes. Caps are nothing but honest so believe what he says and don't over think it all.
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Im glad it's working! Caps are so sweet even though they are confusing too. Enjoy the trip!! Sounds exciting
Thanks girl! yes it was confusing also text could be easily misinterpret. Even my gay guy friends interpreted it as he didn't want to join the festival. When he actually wanted to!

I like how he already thought of what to do with me when I was there 😄 I know he wanted more tonight. I said to him now that we both know we want more, but I can't do it cos when you leave i will feel really empty. I want to do it on a night when we can sleep over. @dannymc you taught me well with vulnerability. I've been so numb and couldn't express how I feel for MANY years!
Did you tell him all of your feelings or something?
I'm not sure.. may be you can tell me if this is count as "all of your feelings"?

I told him I'm attracted but I can't just hook up with him. Hooking up is NEVER what I do. He said this is NOT a hook up. I said well we only see each other once in two weeks if it's not hook up I'm not sure what it is?

he goes no this is not. we met on the dating site. I said so what? many ppl use sites to do that even if this is a reputable one. Are you looking for FWB? he goes no.

I said your profile didn't state what you were looking for and what you look for in a partner. Then he said he is looking for love.
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When I think of feelings, it's more like happy, sad, mad and a reason why you feel that way

Or you feel in love, suspicious, guilty, etc.

You stated what you want out of a relationship. That's usually one of my top five questions I ask a guy I met online before actually even meeting! Only because online dating is sketchy and most just want sex half the time. I haven't read anything about caps wanting hookups only. All the ones I know take relationships seriously.
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You said you were nervous and excited so he said it's no big deal...meaning you habe no reason to be nervous.

He even gave you a play by play of the weekend to ease your fears.

Dating can seriously not be this complicated for you, can it?
I feel compelled now to read through the whole thread because I'm surprised she's got this far, I thought he was a write off in her opinion before I took a break from the internet.
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Im glad it's working! Caps are so sweet even though they are confusing too. Enjoy the trip!! Sounds exciting
Thanks girl! yes it was confusing also text could be easily misinterpret. Even my gay guy friends interpreted it as he didn't want to join the festival. When he actually wanted to!

I like how he already thought of what to do with me when I was there 😄 I know he wanted more tonight. I said to him now that we both know we want more, but I can't do it cos when you leave i will feel really empty. I want to do it on a night when we can sleep over. @dannymc you taught me well with vulnerability. I've been so numb and couldn't express how I feel for MANY years!
Did you tell him all of your feelings or something?
I'm not sure.. may be you can tell me if this is count as "all of your feelings"?

I told him I'm attracted but I can't just hook up with him. Hooking up is NEVER what I do. He said this is NOT a hook up. I said well we only see each other once in two weeks if it's not hook up I'm not sure what it is?

he goes no this is not. we met on the dating site. I said so what? many ppl use sites to do that even if this is a reputable one. Are you looking for FWB? he goes no.

I said your profile didn't state what you were looking for and what you look for in a partner. Then he said he is looking for love.
When I think of feelings, it's more like happy, sad, mad and a reason why you feel that way

Or you feel in love, suspicious, guilty, etc.

You stated what you want out of a relationship. That's usually one of my top five questions I ask a guy I met online before actually even meeting! Only because online dating is sketchy and most just want sex half the time. I haven't read anything about caps wanting hookups only. All the ones I know take relationships seriously.

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I see, so I did express feelings then.

You are on point about people should let others know about the epectation. I had trouble doing that cos when I had bad experience when I was young, those player ex turn it around and say I was being dramatic and needy. So I suppressed my feelings for so long to the point I can't feel or articulate my own feelings. Finally I can do it!
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You said you were nervous and excited so he said it's no big deal...meaning you habe no reason to be nervous.

He even gave you a play by play of the weekend to ease your fears.

Dating can seriously not be this complicated for you, can it?
I feel compelled now to read through the whole thread because I'm surprised she's got this far, I thought he was a write off in her opinion before I took a break from the internet.
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It;s a long read, if you are time poor I would suggest read what dannymc wrote first, not only it's male perspective, it also taught me how to be in touch with my emotions and vulnerability and express it to my cap
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Im glad it's working! Caps are so sweet even though they are confusing too. Enjoy the trip!! Sounds exciting
Thanks girl! yes it was confusing also text could be easily misinterpret. Even my gay guy friends interpreted it as he didn't want to join the festival. When he actually wanted to!

I like how he already thought of what to do with me when I was there 😄 I know he wanted more tonight. I said to him now that we both know we want more, but I can't do it cos when you leave i will feel really empty. I want to do it on a night when we can sleep over. @dannymc you taught me well with vulnerability. I've been so numb and couldn't express how I feel for MANY years!
Did you tell him all of your feelings or something?
I'm not sure.. may be you can tell me if this is count as "all of your feelings"?

I told him I'm attracted but I can't just hook up with him. Hooking up is NEVER what I do. He said this is NOT a hook up. I said well we only see each other once in two weeks if it's not hook up I'm not sure what it is?

he goes no this is not. we met on the dating site. I said so what? many ppl use sites to do that even if this is a reputable one. Are you looking for FWB? he goes no.

I said your profile didn't state what you were looking for and what you look for in a partner. Then he said he is looking for love.
When I think of feelings, it's more like happy, sad, mad and a reason why you feel that way

Or you feel in love, suspicious, guilty, etc.

You stated what you want out of a relationship. That's usually one of my top five questions I ask a guy I met online before actually even meeting! Only because online dating is sketchy and most just want sex half the time. I haven't read anything about caps wanting hookups only. All the ones I know take relationships seriously.


I see, so I did express feelings then.

You are on point about people should let others know about the epectation. I had trouble doing that cos when I had bad experience when I was young, those player ex turn it around and say I was being dramatic and needy. So I suppressed my feelings for so long to the point I can't feel or articulate my own feelings. Finally I can do it!
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I sense your confidence is high! Keep it up ?
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Oh my life, is this thread still going. I bet you've gone full circle!! If you had to deal with my cap you'd have ended up in a mental institute by now. They are not for the faint hearted but what you get in return is well worth it.
haha yes, well next time is cooking date, we will cook together, eat then we play video games. Now he text me at least twice a day, except last Friday. I know texting can't replace face to face. Will see how it goes on the weekend when I see him!
Well you must have got some good advice of the board then because I thought this one was dead in the water. All the best. I hope it works out for you.
Thanks y'all have been very helpful, @dannymc gave some male cap perspective which helped immensely 🙂

That's great, I think it's good to get a male's perspective. Maybe I should pick his brains about my CAP ?


Probably! If he is not too busy with his new virgo hehe
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How'd you know lol
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Oh my life, is this thread still going. I bet you've gone full circle!! If you had to deal with my cap you'd have ended up in a mental institute by now. They are not for the faint hearted but what you get in return is well worth it.
haha yes, well next time is cooking date, we will cook together, eat then we play video games. Now he text me at least twice a day, except last Friday. I know texting can't replace face to face. Will see how it goes on the weekend when I see him!
Well you must have got some good advice of the board then because I thought this one was dead in the water. All the best. I hope it works out for you.
Thanks y'all have been very helpful, @dannymc gave some male cap perspective which helped immensely 🙂

That's great, I think it's good to get a male's perspective. Maybe I should pick his brains about my CAP ?


Probably! If he is not too busy with his new virgo hehe
How'd you know lol
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I can sense it 🙂 Glad it's working out for you both!

It's like you know what the cap and I are thinking. You have been right so far, I will try my best to let go when it comes to sex hopefully I can cum hahahah We still haven't done it yet..
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Oh my life, is this thread still going. I bet you've gone full circle!! If you had to deal with my cap you'd have ended up in a mental institute by now. They are not for the faint hearted but what you get in return is well worth it.
haha yes, well next time is cooking date, we will cook together, eat then we play video games. Now he text me at least twice a day, except last Friday. I know texting can't replace face to face. Will see how it goes on the weekend when I see him!
Well you must have got some good advice of the board then because I thought this one was dead in the water. All the best. I hope it works out for you.
Thanks y'all have been very helpful, @dannymc gave some male cap perspective which helped immensely 🙂

That's great, I think it's good to get a male's perspective. Maybe I should pick his brains about my CAP ?


Probably! If he is not too busy with his new virgo hehe
How'd you know lol
I can sense it 🙂 Glad it's working out for you both!

It's like you know what the cap and I are thinking. You have been right so far, I will try my best to let go when it comes to sex hopefully I can cum hahahah We still haven't done it yet..
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"I can sense it" Fact 🙂

I think you'll be alright, just remember what I told you and let go, you've been missing out for far far too long. This guy is into you, you already know that though 🙂 I'm here, in the background..
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Oh my life, is this thread still going. I bet you've gone full circle!! If you had to deal with my cap you'd have ended up in a mental institute by now. They are not for the faint hearted but what you get in return is well worth it.
haha yes, well next time is cooking date, we will cook together, eat then we play video games. Now he text me at least twice a day, except last Friday. I know texting can't replace face to face. Will see how it goes on the weekend when I see him!
Well you must have got some good advice of the board then because I thought this one was dead in the water. All the best. I hope it works out for you.
Thanks y'all have been very helpful, @dannymc gave some male cap perspective which helped immensely 🙂

That's great, I think it's good to get a male's perspective. Maybe I should pick his brains about my CAP ?


Probably! If he is not too busy with his new virgo hehe
How'd you know lol
I can sense it 🙂 Glad it's working out for you both!

It's like you know what the cap and I are thinking. You have been right so far, I will try my best to let go when it comes to sex hopefully I can cum hahahah We still haven't done it yet..
"I can sense it" Fact 🙂

I think you'll be alright, just remember what I told you and let go, you've been missing out for far far too long. This guy is into you, you already know that though 🙂 I'm here, in the background..
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My radar is also telling me you and your virgo libra cusp are very serious already!

I didn't get it until you taught me about being vulnerable and to have a connection / relationship I want. He is awesome I let him know I like that when he leads as I find it very masculine and attractive and he now knows he would be the one calling the shot. It appears that Sat night is when he expects to see me it's so sweet. I had ex who gave me bs reason and say Sat is for friends or cave time...

Also when we talked about why I thought he wasn't into me was because it took him 3 days to text back and he now text me everyday even if it's just sharing about his day.

What if I tell you I already bought him Easter chocolate? I hope I'm not over invested and looking too far ahead >< as He told me he is not staying for 3 weeks. He is staying for the 3 weeks of work days and he wants to fly back on Friday night so he can see me on the sat or else he will miss me too much

Seeing him tomorrow then the day after he will fly out... I want him .. but I feel like damn I want to see me naked when I'm not PMSing lol sorry if it's TMI I'm still very fit but not as fit as I would like! You know I just want the first time to be special.
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@dannymc I just recall what you told me about caps are physical and it's more than just sex. He pretty much quote your line! I also misunderstood him before regarding his preferred female body type.

He never thought I was "big" he actually knew he was too skinny and has been doing weights to try to bulk up a little.

I asked him what do you like about me, his answer first. When I first met you I could remember your eyes, your smile, your hair, your dress and your shoes. You are very smart, funny and a little bit eccentric, you are also very driven, you are so busy I could never catch up with you. You are always doing something and never rely on anyone for your happiness, I find that really attractive.

He also told me "you are so pretty" when he greet me and kiss me. The way he kiss me is gentle and he likes to hold my face / waist. He can get a bit "freaky" when making out like holding my arms (not hard) to keep kissing. he also said you are smooth and sexy I can't stop touching you. Then he quoted your line it's not just sex, it's when you are so attractive and I like you and I just want to be close to you.

I told him I can't do this cos we don't see each other much. he is attractive but I can't hook up with him just because I'm attracted. He said this is NOT hook up! He wants more. I said what more? friends with benefit? He goes no!

I asked what you looking for the? He goes mmm i dunno... I said well we don't see each other much and on your profile you never said what you were looking for. He goes I'm looking for love.

Was the "i dunno" because he was afraid of rejection? I'm not sure what we are now? lol