the dumping garden (Page 29)

"The lords of karma are approaching." is what I read in a daily prediction for Caps today. Problem is, I can't remember whether I have been a good little Cappy or a bad little Cappy. 😛

i'm gonna go try a body wrap today...

it's my first time and i've read about them, but i'm still not sure what i should expect.

i'll report back later!

I stopped into a bar on my way home last night, this guy was saying something about cleanliness so I immediately thought Virgo (as any of us would). Nope, but he wouldn't give up his birthday. We talked a bit more and I pegged him, Capricorn. Then I proceeded to tell him about himself. I think I scared him LOL

36 hrs to see any supposed results from the infrared body wrap...

the idea being that infrared heat penetrates deep into tissue to loosen fatty stores and helps body flush it out faster. 1 hr sesh burns up to 1400 calls and will continue to help your body burn for another day and a half.

i believe the last part so far... i left the spa completely starved and my stomach was yelling at me. and i'd just eaten a couple hrs prior!

Ok, so I'm taking some "me" time this morning and not at work. Took my daughter to work while the faux father slept. I come inside and my granddaughter is crying. Guess who wasn't moving a muscle to take care of her. I don't mind, but it disgusts me! My daughter makes excuses, he's a heavy sleeper - what fucking parent is a heavy sleeper when they have a 4 mo old baby?

What am I thinking? The man (that's a stretch) doesn't go to sleep until 7-8 am even when he has his 3 and 5 yo.

*rips hair out*

My nerves are being worked right now.

My daughter is mad at me for not waking "daddy" up... what would have happened had I and then left for work? He would have done the absolute basics and gone back to sleep. Who knows how long she would have been crying next time. Who knows how long she would have been crying the first time had I not come back home.

He didn't get up until 3:30pm.


My daughter accused me of taking care of Lillith out of spite and always needing to be right. I took care of Lillith because it was apparent that no one else was actually there to do so! Not out of spite, but I am right!

Posted by Sangfroid
Today the time has been fluctuating between feeling like it was passing really slow or really fast but it was never whatever time I thought it was at any given time.

Hey girl, how did your appointment go??
(if too personal, I understand! We all do care though 🙂)

Posted by lildol
Ok, so I'm taking some "me" time this morning and not at work. Took my daughter to work while the faux father slept. I come inside and my granddaughter is crying. Guess who wasn't moving a muscle to take care of her. I don't mind, but it disgusts me! My daughter makes excuses, he's a heavy sleeper - what fucking parent is a heavy sleeper when they have a 4 mo old baby?

What am I thinking? The man (that's a stretch) doesn't go to sleep until 7-8 am even when he has his 3 and 5 yo.

*rips hair out*

That would piss me off!!! Me and Him would have a come to Jesus meeting. I would have busted in the room, switched on the overhead light, kicked the bed, poured water on him, whatever it took and told him quite bluntly, rudely and coldly to get is sorry ass up and take care of his child. Would have told him this behavior would NOT be accepted in my house. If he's living in your house, he needs to go by your standards, not his. If they don't like it, and she's mad at you, too, well, they can get their crap together and live somewhere else and support themselves. That's just how I see it.


lol@ faux father! That's quite a clever nick name.

Posted by truecap

Posted by lildol
Ok, so I'm taking some "me" time this morning and not at work. Took my daughter to work while the faux father slept. I come inside and my granddaughter is crying. Guess who wasn't moving a muscle to take care of her. I don't mind, but it disgusts me! My daughter makes excuses, he's a heavy sleeper - what fucking parent is a heavy sleeper when they have a 4 mo old baby?

What am I thinking? The man (that's a stretch) doesn't go to sleep until 7-8 am even when he has his 3 and 5 yo.

*rips hair out*

That would piss me off!!! Me and Him would have a come to Jesus meeting. I would have busted in the room, switched on the overhead light, kicked the bed, poured water on him, whatever it took and told him quite bluntly, rudely and coldly to get is sorry ass up and take care of his child. Would have told him this behavior would NOT be accepted in my house. If he's living in your house, he needs to go by your standards, not his. If they don't like it, and she's mad at you, too, well, they can get their crap together and live somewhere else and support themselves. That's just how I see it.


lol@ faux father! That's quite a clever nick name.

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When I open my mouth it's not pretty, sometimes it serves everyone better if I keep my trap shut so I don't bruise egos. Dragging ass when you should be stepping up to the plate is not acceptable. My daughter just thinks I don't like him. I'd like him better if he wasn't a lazy ass poor excuse for a man. I'm being kind 🙂

I never learned to hold on. I hold too tight and then have to let go.

A friend had a stroke. After 3 days of being in the hosp and not quite coherent his GF (Aqua) bailed, left the state! He has no one here. His employer came to tell me. I'm picking up the pieces at this point. He has no family listed in his phone. He recognized me and was happy to see me. Still doesn't know why he's in the hospital. Said I'm the only thing making sense to him. Apparently they're feeding him well - someone brought a grill into his room yesterday at breakfast and told him that they were going to cook him dinner, he can't remember what he ate, but it was damn good he tells me. The nurses assured me hallucinations are normal for stroke victims. I'm now the emergency contact. *sigh*

lildol... wow. that breaks my heart! I know it's rough that this falls into your hands, but gawd... i'm glad he at least has you. and really well done to you 🙂

Thanks Creepy, but it was just what had to be done.

I met with approx 11 doctors yesterday (granted I only spoke with 3, but he has quite the team working on his condition), speech therapist, social worker and, of course, the nursing staff too. Speaking to the doctors I learned that he came in with his blood pressure 260/180, he was also in kidney failure and heart failure. I was told that although the MRI shows he has had many mini-strokes they did not believe he was stroking out at time of admittance. His cognitive functions are still quite impaired though as if he did have a stroke e.g., like I said Wed night, he knew me right away, yesterday morning though he didn't know my name - he knew who I was he told the doctors, but when asked my name he couldn't tell them (same with his employer, knew her, name escaped him). He doesn't know the year, can't do basic basic math and is struggling a bit with both fine and gross motor skills. He can't walk on his own due to stability issues. No paralysis though! He still has a sense of humor though and still gets mine (he's a Pisces).

I did inquire about his family Wed night - he couldn't remember all of their names and couldn't even tell me who was the oldest or youngest. I can't take claim to finding his family though, his employer called the GF and asked if she knew anyone at all that could get in touch with family. Fortunately she gave the phone number of a friend who knew how to get in touch with the eldest brother. I ended up speaking with 6 of his 12 siblings yesterday giving them the rundown. He hadn't spoken with them in about 15 yrs from what his sister said. At least one is coming today, tomorrow others.

We talked about the grilling in his room again, he said that no one believes him. I asked if he believed it, he acknowledged such, the guy even sat on his bed he told me. I responded that I can't doubt him then. Must be some new patient service the hosp is offering 🙂 A couple of the nurses told him that they wish they had been there for such a great meal. Best I can tell, it appears to have been his only hallucination (or maybe even just a dream, but real enough in his mind none-the-less).

Had I just turned my back...

YES! I just received a call from his eldest brother. Three of them were able to make it. When I visited this morning my friend asked about anyone coming to visit. I told him that one of his brothers said definitely (he was told yesterday too, but couldn't remember). He was doubtful anyone would be there for him though. The fact that the three are in today is GREAT! I'm headed over to the hosp to meet them.

Mascarading as a friend I stand before you,
and as my heart beats to the rythm of your smile,
never has my laughter been so fake nor my tears so true,
as they are now that my love for you greets only your denial.



*** I hate loving you******

Capi and me broke up its been 3 days lots of emotional ups n downs

Posted by Caplove

Posted by SamCancerGirl
Capi and me broke up its been 3 days lots of emotional ups n downs

Sam, I'm so sorry. 😢 **hugs** If you need to talk just message me.

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Thanks Caplove have sent u a pm xx

i'm so so so so so tired... i just want to take a short cat nap. but i can't, i'm not at home, i'm not working... i'm waiting on my poor car with a runny nose at the car doctor

poop

-_-



... i want ice cream.

...and she's gonna be with the doc 'til thursday.


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Oh, I understand it so much.

Chance! 😄 you've been a bit of a stranger to the goat pastures as of late... how are things on the home front? 🙂

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Posted by CreepyPants



$ *&&% $ *% &@*&* $ * $ &% # $ *% &!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Oh, I understand it so much.

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yup

Posted by Chance11
car problems always piss me off as if i should be exempt 😄
maybe some sugar/cold coffee concoction, creepy?

not sure what the car doc is whipping up for 'the whip' but i've opted for a strong bloody mary 😛

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Posted by CreepyPants
Chance! 😄 you've been a bit of a stranger to the goat pastures as of late... how are things on the home front? 🙂

what? cap left and then came back like nothing happened? isn't that like every other thread in here 😛

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hey now... i never said i was surprised lolololol. just asking how you've been 😉

((((hugs)))) 😉

if you haven't been so lucky to notice yet, but dxp has been aweful to post on 😢

good morning 3m!

That answer you gave definitely changes my game plan but not the end result. I'm so ready for you and the next level :-)

life is too short to pine after someone who shows they don't need you

Posted by xxoommmxxoo

Posted by CreepyPants
good morning 3m!

morning creepybeautiful lol ++++++++hugs+++++++🙂

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😄 (((((hugs))))))

cleaning the emailbox... unsubscribing like crazy.

the endless junk has gotten out of hand

Posted by Sangfroid
I'm beating myself up over accepting some poor explanation 15 years ago.

Care to elaborate? We're always here to listen 🙂

You always know what to say CreepyPants :-) I swear women are my kryptonite but I am taking your advice

Classes start Monday and I am NOT ready. I got an C, that i didnt deserve, in Calculus, so my feelings are mixed about that. Happy, yet sad that im moving on to calII without knowing everything from CalI. Plus im taking physics....im just overwhelmed already.

Anyway, the Taurus texted me at 5am, and was surprised i texted back. We text back and forth for about an hr...joking a bit, me talking about school, what i need to do today etc. I ask him one question..if hes taking classes this fall.......crickets. that was the end of our convo. He does not like to be asked questions, or maybe im too direct? Idk, but weird....o.

I need to get up.

Oh, come on! Doesn't like to be asked Qs? Not like you were interrogating him. You were asking about fricken classes. I think he's being rude. There is some reason he didn't answer. Ok, maybe it's a good reason, like he lost his phone...

Posted by lildol
Oh, come on! Doesn't like to be asked Qs? Not like you were interrogating him. You were asking about fricken classes. I think he's being rude. There is some reason he didn't answer. Ok, maybe it's a good reason, like he lost his phone...

He reminds me of his opposite....scorpio. I remember talking to a scorpio i liked at work one day and asking him a question and he ignored me. I had to firmly ask again since i noticed he ignored it and he finally answered, although he didnt want to, and it was a simple question i thought.

The taurus is weird. Its either he's not taking classes and dont want to say, or hes just being weird. Watch he'll text tonight talking about he fell asleep. Im gonna get an answer though. Anytime i ask something he does it. I think i be catching him in lies honestly.

Some people seriously should NOT be parents.

You have all heard me fuss about my daughter's boyfriend and his parenting style (or lack thereof)...

The children have been told that daddy spends time with him, he sleeps in bed with them so the they (the kids) should be happy with that. (I don't even want to go there!)

So, 2 weeks ago, "daddy" heads off to work and his 3 yo starts crying, wants daddy. My daughter goes out and tells her BF that the boy is crying for him. The BF comes back in and spanks the child for wanting his "daddy". Then of course proceeds to tell him to stop crying over the spanking because your not allowed to cry when your in trouble.

Last night, in the middle of the night, I'm awaken to the 3yo calling out for "daddy" - mind you, they are not allowed to get off the bed (reasonable, I suppose) - what does "daddy" do, he comes into the room tells him to be quiet and spanks him (I hear hand on skin). The boy naturally cries from the spanking, "daddy" tells him to stop or he'll spank him again. The boy continues to cry between trying to tell his father something (for all I know, the boy woke to go pee), guess what "daddy" does... spanks the boy even worse (well, more, not sure about harder).

I'm going to loose my mind!

It's not my place to tell him how to parent those children, but I'll be damned if that man EVER treats my granddaughter like that he's going out a 2nd story window!

Posted by lildol
Some people seriously should NOT be parents.

You have all heard me fuss about my daughter's boyfriend and his parenting style (or lack thereof)...

The children have been told that daddy spends time with him, he sleeps in bed with them so the they (the kids) should be happy with that. (I don't even want to go there!)

So, 2 weeks ago, "daddy" heads off to work and his 3 yo starts crying, wants daddy. My daughter goes out and tells her BF that the boy is crying for him. The BF comes back in and spanks the child for wanting his "daddy". Then of course proceeds to tell him to stop crying over the spanking because your not allowed to cry when your in trouble.

Last night, in the middle of the night, I'm awaken to the 3yo calling out for "daddy" - mind you, they are not allowed to get off the bed (reasonable, I suppose) - what does "daddy" do, he comes into the room tells him to be quiet and spanks him (I hear hand on skin). The boy naturally cries from the spanking, "daddy" tells him to stop or he'll spank him again. The boy continues to cry between trying to tell his father something (for all I know, the boy woke to go pee), guess what "daddy" does... spanks the boy even worse (well, more, not sure about harder).

I'm going to loose my mind!

It's not my place to tell him how to parent those children, but I'll be damned if that man EVER treats my granddaughter like that he's going out a 2nd story window!

Wow that's awful!! What happens if he's abusive to the boy will u stand back n let it happen. They live in ur house - come on u really need to do something here - can't just sit back n let it happen.. Even if they are his kids they are still children so ul step in if it's ur granddaughter but not her half brother??

Yeah, he's in your house. Ill be d@mned. You should tell him the kid is crying because he obviously is not spending enough time with him. Tell him whats even more disturbing then hearing the child cry out for his father is hearing the father spank him for it. He can not like it if he wants...its your house.

My niece was late for school this morning, and i had to tell my grown 26yr old sis Im not having that this year. She'll have to move on and out if she doesnt like it.

I know what its like not wanting to meddle, and he can move out and treat his son worse. Just dont allow these things to happen under your roof and watch.

And lildol, if he treats your granddaughter like that and you say something, technically its still telling him how to parent his child, so that shouldnt stop you.

Just remain calm but firm and speak.

Posted by noonie1801
You always know what to say CreepyPants :-) I swear women are my kryptonite but I am taking your advice

always glad to help 🙂 and i'm not sure what advice you are taking, but i hope it really does help

😛

Posted by M
Tossing an update since I'm undergoing profile haunting.

Lots of change since breaking from dxp. Took an amazing job opportunity and like the Jeffersons I'm movin?? on up :p

Moving is still scheduled for Sept., but will remain in Michigan. Pace will be very different. No idea where finishing school fits in yet (still divviing up finances/time).

Have the entire week off from both jobs and no idea what to do with myself 😛 Missed all the regulars too. Would like to find time for yas but plan on keeping my posting to a minimum.

Sounds positive!!! I know a while back you were struggling with deciding which "path" to take. Glad you feel like you have made the right choice (I'm sure you have some inner voice which, if hasn't spoke up, will, asking "WTF was I thinking" - all is good, go with it and enjoy your new found success', there will be more to come!).

We understand if you need to take refuge in yourself for a bit.

M... you have good energy and seem to have good momentum. 🙂 I'm very happy things are panning out in your favor. You know we'll be here!

Posted by M
Tossing an update since I'm undergoing profile haunting.

Lots of change since breaking from dxp. Took an amazing job opportunity and like the Jeffersons I'm movin?? on up :p

Moving is still scheduled for Sept., but will remain in Michigan. Pace will be very different. No idea where finishing school fits in yet (still divviing up finances/time).

Have the entire week off from both jobs and no idea what to do with myself 😛 Missed all the regulars too. Would like to find time for yas but plan on keeping my posting to a minimum.

Cheers and good fortune to you. 🙂

Lordy, god almighty, there is a Leeb at work who asked me if I was involved. I couldn't lie.

This is his pic:



Yes! I'm involved. Aries all the way. Practical and purposeful in my mind! Indeed!!!! Staying grounded, I am. I know what's good for me *nods*

LS, he's single...

Posted by M
Danke 🙂 When I was offered the job it set the remaining pieces in place, just not thrilled to be doing this over my major. Priorites though, I'll get over it. I'm very fortunate things worked out this way.

Great to see you btw, still working for the leo?

Good Luck M!!!!

Im not going to class today, and I didnt go Monday. Not a good look...mia on the 1st week, but I just need this extra week to myself.

Water from upstairs overflowed the other day...plumbing issues.

This morning i hear my sis opening and closing the front door...the door wont lock, so now i have to call maintenace again. Ugh!

Im tired, broke...i need another job, about to start cramping, been up since 5am. Its just not a great start of a day.

The Aries broke up with me 😭

Aw, Lildol. I'm so sorry. 😭

I'm here if you want to talk or vent.