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Totally at peace with my Cap ex...finally
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100I don't even know if i'd define it as cheating. I don't even know if it was a relationship, more of a situationship. I loved him fiercely in an unhealthy way in the end though. No idea what was going inside me during this period. The one and only "thing" like this ive ever had and I hope never again. It was necessary for me though I think.
Is that the one who cheated on you?
Posted by LibraLovesHimI was in a similar thing too, i remember us discussing it. It is great you have found peace around it. I have actually reached a point where i am grateful for what i learned, but also relieved to be out of it . You are right when you say it is a once in a lifetime experience.. Not for the feint hearted though hey girl?Posted by JohnTheBaptist100I don't even know if i'd define it as cheating. I don't even know if it was a relationship, more of a situationship. I loved him fiercely in an unhealthy way in the end though. No idea what was going inside me during this period. The one and only "thing" like this ive ever had and I hope never again. It was necessary for me though I think.
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Posted by MyStarsShineOh hell no! Not at all for the faint hearted. The only thing I had to hold onto was the knowledge that it would pass, eventually. Thank god that's the way of life!Posted by LibraLovesHimI was in a similar thing too, i remember us discussing it. It is great you have found peace around it. I have actually reached a point where i am grateful for what i learned, but also relieved to be out of it . You are right when you say it is a once in a lifetime experience.. Not for the feint hearted though hey girl?Posted by JohnTheBaptist100I don't even know if i'd define it as cheating. I don't even know if it was a relationship, more of a situationship. I loved him fiercely in an unhealthy way in the end though. No idea what was going inside me during this period. The one and only "thing" like this ive ever had and I hope never again. It was necessary for me though I think.
Is that the one who cheated on you?
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Posted by LibraLovesHimStronger for the experience though?Posted by MyStarsShineOh hell no! Not at all for the faint hearted. The only thing I had to hold onto was the knowledge that it would pass, eventually. Thank god that's the way of life!Posted by LibraLovesHimI was in a similar thing too, i remember us discussing it. It is great you have found peace around it. I have actually reached a point where i am grateful for what i learned, but also relieved to be out of it . You are right when you say it is a once in a lifetime experience.. Not for the feint hearted though hey girl?Posted by JohnTheBaptist100I don't even know if i'd define it as cheating. I don't even know if it was a relationship, more of a situationship. I loved him fiercely in an unhealthy way in the end though. No idea what was going inside me during this period. The one and only "thing" like this ive ever had and I hope never again. It was necessary for me though I think.
Is that the one who cheated on you?
🙂click to expand
Posted by MyStarsShineFor sure, stronger, loving myself more, and embracing detachment.Posted by LibraLovesHimStronger for the experience though?Posted by MyStarsShineOh hell no! Not at all for the faint hearted. The only thing I had to hold onto was the knowledge that it would pass, eventually. Thank god that's the way of life!Posted by LibraLovesHimI was in a similar thing too, i remember us discussing it. It is great you have found peace around it. I have actually reached a point where i am grateful for what i learned, but also relieved to be out of it . You are right when you say it is a once in a lifetime experience.. Not for the feint hearted though hey girl?Posted by JohnTheBaptist100I don't even know if i'd define it as cheating. I don't even know if it was a relationship, more of a situationship. I loved him fiercely in an unhealthy way in the end though. No idea what was going inside me during this period. The one and only "thing" like this ive ever had and I hope never again. It was necessary for me though I think.
Is that the one who cheated on you?
🙂
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Posted by LibraLovesHimThat is goodPosted by MyStarsShineFor sure, stronger, loving myself more, and embracing detachment.Posted by LibraLovesHimStronger for the experience though?Posted by MyStarsShineOh hell no! Not at all for the faint hearted. The only thing I had to hold onto was the knowledge that it would pass, eventually. Thank god that's the way of life!Posted by LibraLovesHimI was in a similar thing too, i remember us discussing it. It is great you have found peace around it. I have actually reached a point where i am grateful for what i learned, but also relieved to be out of it . You are right when you say it is a once in a lifetime experience.. Not for the feint hearted though hey girl?Posted by JohnTheBaptist100I don't even know if i'd define it as cheating. I don't even know if it was a relationship, more of a situationship. I loved him fiercely in an unhealthy way in the end though. No idea what was going inside me during this period. The one and only "thing" like this ive ever had and I hope never again. It was necessary for me though I think.
Is that the one who cheated on you?
🙂
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How long after your finished with the Cap did you start seeing Aries. Did you give yourself a good break. I think it takes time to recover from those crazy ones lol?
Posted by MyStarsShineI cut off all contact with him and around 6 months later met Aries...Its really stupid but i'd been praying for someone to come along and just get me away from him, take over all those feelings for around 3.5yrs. I just wanted someone good to love. I realised that wasn't going to happen until I done the right thing, and whether it would happen in a month a year or 5 I had to get him out my life and close that chapter altogether.Posted by LibraLovesHimThat is goodPosted by MyStarsShineFor sure, stronger, loving myself more, and embracing detachment.Posted by LibraLovesHimStronger for the experience though?Posted by MyStarsShineOh hell no! Not at all for the faint hearted. The only thing I had to hold onto was the knowledge that it would pass, eventually. Thank god that's the way of life!Posted by LibraLovesHimI was in a similar thing too, i remember us discussing it. It is great you have found peace around it. I have actually reached a point where i am grateful for what i learned, but also relieved to be out of it . You are right when you say it is a once in a lifetime experience.. Not for the feint hearted though hey girl?Posted by JohnTheBaptist100I don't even know if i'd define it as cheating. I don't even know if it was a relationship, more of a situationship. I loved him fiercely in an unhealthy way in the end though. No idea what was going inside me during this period. The one and only "thing" like this ive ever had and I hope never again. It was necessary for me though I think.
Is that the one who cheated on you?
🙂
How long after your finished with the Cap did you start seeing Aries. Did you give yourself a good break. I think it takes time to recover from those crazy ones lol?click to expand
I still lay at night in awe at how I finally have such a good man in my arms and its a healthy 2 way love. Something at one point I thought would just remain a dream.
How about yourself?
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100If your question is did it take the Aries to help me get over the Cap, no. I was over the Cap the moment I cut him out my life. (Once I make a clear cut decision, my emotions and feelings are already in it) Up until that point it was dregs of feelings, foot half in half out the door. In that 6 months and prior to this I got plenty attention from other men. I'm not one to want just any man though. I get a gut feeling, something told me that day to pursue it. I didnt know what I wanted to happen with Aries, which was a good thing for me because I'd only ever felt, NOT wanting anything to happen with anyone prior. Not knowing was a good start to exploring it.Posted by LibraLovesHimSo basically you needed another person, like the aries, to help you get over the cap?Posted by MyStarsShineI cut off all contact with him and around 6 months later met Aries...Its really stupid but i'd been praying for someone to come along and just get me away from him, take over all those feelings for around 3.5yrs. I just wanted someone good to love. I realised that wasn't going to happen until I done the right thing, and whether it would happen in a month a year or 5 I had to get him out my life and close that chapter altogether.Posted by LibraLovesHimThat is goodPosted by MyStarsShineFor sure, stronger, loving myself more, and embracing detachment.Posted by LibraLovesHimStronger for the experience though?Posted by MyStarsShineOh hell no! Not at all for the faint hearted. The only thing I had to hold onto was the knowledge that it would pass, eventually. Thank god that's the way of life!Posted by LibraLovesHimI was in a similar thing too, i remember us discussing it. It is great you have found peace around it. I have actually reached a point where i am grateful for what i learned, but also relieved to be out of it . You are right when you say it is a once in a lifetime experience.. Not for the feint hearted though hey girl?Posted by JohnTheBaptist100I don't even know if i'd define it as cheating. I don't even know if it was a relationship, more of a situationship. I loved him fiercely in an unhealthy way in the end though. No idea what was going inside me during this period. The one and only "thing" like this ive ever had and I hope never again. It was necessary for me though I think.
Is that the one who cheated on you?
🙂
How long after your finished with the Cap did you start seeing Aries. Did you give yourself a good break. I think it takes time to recover from those crazy ones lol?
I still lay at night in awe at how I finally have such a good man in my arms and its a healthy 2 way love. Something at one point I thought would just remain a dream.
How about yourself?click to expand
Posted by LibraLovesHimDelighted for you....good karma 🙂Posted by MyStarsShineI cut off all contact with him and around 6 months later met Aries...Its really stupid but i'd been praying for someone to come along and just get me away from him, take over all those feelings for around 3.5yrs. I just wanted someone good to love. I realised that wasn't going to happen until I done the right thing, and whether it would happen in a month a year or 5 I had to get him out my life and close that chapter altogether.Posted by LibraLovesHimThat is goodPosted by MyStarsShineFor sure, stronger, loving myself more, and embracing detachment.Posted by LibraLovesHimStronger for the experience though?Posted by MyStarsShineOh hell no! Not at all for the faint hearted. The only thing I had to hold onto was the knowledge that it would pass, eventually. Thank god that's the way of life!Posted by LibraLovesHimI was in a similar thing too, i remember us discussing it. It is great you have found peace around it. I have actually reached a point where i am grateful for what i learned, but also relieved to be out of it . You are right when you say it is a once in a lifetime experience.. Not for the feint hearted though hey girl?Posted by JohnTheBaptist100I don't even know if i'd define it as cheating. I don't even know if it was a relationship, more of a situationship. I loved him fiercely in an unhealthy way in the end though. No idea what was going inside me during this period. The one and only "thing" like this ive ever had and I hope never again. It was necessary for me though I think.
Is that the one who cheated on you?
🙂
How long after your finished with the Cap did you start seeing Aries. Did you give yourself a good break. I think it takes time to recover from those crazy ones lol?
I still lay at night in awe at how I finally have such a good man in my arms and its a healthy 2 way love. Something at one point I thought would just remain a dream.
How about yourself?click to expand
I am single and have been for 3 and a half years. If someone was to say that i wouldn't be with a man again, at this stage in my life, i wouldn't be bothered. I did the typical Scorpio thing with the last one ~ extreme love ~
My focus is on family, our son. His Dad and i decided to give him the love and attention rather than some bloke or woman that could end up fecking things up. The step parent thing can be so messy
I love it when we know we are on the right path
Long may it last, Libra!
xoxo
Posted by MyStarsShineThat's great. I definitely think kids put everything into perspective and priorities change. I'm looking forward to and hope that I can have a family someday. I've been late to come into my own but I think i'm not far off ready for it.Posted by LibraLovesHimDelighted for you....good karma 🙂Posted by MyStarsShineI cut off all contact with him and around 6 months later met Aries...Its really stupid but i'd been praying for someone to come along and just get me away from him, take over all those feelings for around 3.5yrs. I just wanted someone good to love. I realised that wasn't going to happen until I done the right thing, and whether it would happen in a month a year or 5 I had to get him out my life and close that chapter altogether.Posted by LibraLovesHimThat is goodPosted by MyStarsShineFor sure, stronger, loving myself more, and embracing detachment.Posted by LibraLovesHimStronger for the experience though?Posted by MyStarsShineOh hell no! Not at all for the faint hearted. The only thing I had to hold onto was the knowledge that it would pass, eventually. Thank god that's the way of life!Posted by LibraLovesHimI was in a similar thing too, i remember us discussing it. It is great you have found peace around it. I have actually reached a point where i am grateful for what i learned, but also relieved to be out of it . You are right when you say it is a once in a lifetime experience.. Not for the feint hearted though hey girl?Posted by JohnTheBaptist100I don't even know if i'd define it as cheating. I don't even know if it was a relationship, more of a situationship. I loved him fiercely in an unhealthy way in the end though. No idea what was going inside me during this period. The one and only "thing" like this ive ever had and I hope never again. It was necessary for me though I think.
Is that the one who cheated on you?
🙂
How long after your finished with the Cap did you start seeing Aries. Did you give yourself a good break. I think it takes time to recover from those crazy ones lol?
I still lay at night in awe at how I finally have such a good man in my arms and its a healthy 2 way love. Something at one point I thought would just remain a dream.
How about yourself?
I am single and have been for 3 and a half years. If someone was to say that i wouldn't be with a man again, at this stage in my life, i wouldn't be bothered. I did the typical Scorpio thing with the last one ~ extreme love ~
My focus is on family, our son. His Dad and i decided to give him the love and attention rather than some bloke or woman that could end up fecking things up. The step parent thing can be so messy
I love it when we know we are on the right path
Long may it last, Libra!
xoxo
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Posted by LibraLovesHimTotally life changing and affirming, Libra. You have to be very strong and selfless to do a good job, i feel. Before i had our son, i don't think i knew what real love was, i do now. I would jump through hoops of fire for him and always put him first. When i see people yearning after a relationship and then bringing other women and men into the house, the kids often miss out.Posted by MyStarsShineThat's great. I definitely think kids put everything into perspective and priorities change. I'm looking forward to and hope that I can have a family someday. I've been late to come into my own but I think i'm not far off ready for it.Posted by LibraLovesHimDelighted for you....good karma 🙂Posted by MyStarsShineI cut off all contact with him and around 6 months later met Aries...Its really stupid but i'd been praying for someone to come along and just get me away from him, take over all those feelings for around 3.5yrs. I just wanted someone good to love. I realised that wasn't going to happen until I done the right thing, and whether it would happen in a month a year or 5 I had to get him out my life and close that chapter altogether.Posted by LibraLovesHimThat is goodPosted by MyStarsShineFor sure, stronger, loving myself more, and embracing detachment.Posted by LibraLovesHimStronger for the experience though?Posted by MyStarsShineOh hell no! Not at all for the faint hearted. The only thing I had to hold onto was the knowledge that it would pass, eventually. Thank god that's the way of life!Posted by LibraLovesHimI was in a similar thing too, i remember us discussing it. It is great you have found peace around it. I have actually reached a point where i am grateful for what i learned, but also relieved to be out of it . You are right when you say it is a once in a lifetime experience.. Not for the feint hearted though hey girl?Posted by JohnTheBaptist100I don't even know if i'd define it as cheating. I don't even know if it was a relationship, more of a situationship. I loved him fiercely in an unhealthy way in the end though. No idea what was going inside me during this period. The one and only "thing" like this ive ever had and I hope never again. It was necessary for me though I think.
Is that the one who cheated on you?
🙂
How long after your finished with the Cap did you start seeing Aries. Did you give yourself a good break. I think it takes time to recover from those crazy ones lol?
I still lay at night in awe at how I finally have such a good man in my arms and its a healthy 2 way love. Something at one point I thought would just remain a dream.
How about yourself?
I am single and have been for 3 and a half years. If someone was to say that i wouldn't be with a man again, at this stage in my life, i wouldn't be bothered. I did the typical Scorpio thing with the last one ~ extreme love ~
My focus is on family, our son. His Dad and i decided to give him the love and attention rather than some bloke or woman that could end up fecking things up. The step parent thing can be so messy
I love it when we know we are on the right path
Long may it last, Libra!
xoxo
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Makes you grow up......fast!
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What was your relationship like with your cap man, I'm seeing one now and he seems like the jealous and possessive type. He always thinks I'm having sex with someone else..it doesn't matter what I say he doesn't believe it..did u experience anything like this?
Posted by LibrajeanYes, exactly what I experienced. Which is why I knew from the beginning it was probably doomed. It just showed me insecurity, and that he didn't believe I was good enough for him, which yes was also exactly the case. He had an extreme domineering streak. He would be in a bad mood if I went to starbucks, or the mall alone. He didnt understand the concept of loving freely whatsoever. He is military also, not sure if this added a negative aspect to his personality. He defo struggled with not believing himself good enough IMO.
What was your relationship like with your cap man, I'm seeing one now and he seems like the jealous and possessive type. He always thinks I'm having sex with someone else..it doesn't matter what I say he doesn't believe it..did u experience anything like this?
He also told me that "when we married he didnt want me working, he wanted me at home I was for him only"
Posted by LibraLovesHimWow...that is intense..I get the feeling you are like me and love a dominant man (Aries boyfriend) a part of me would be turned on a little by that. But it is way over the top for a real relationship. My boyfriend is always accusing me of having sex with other men? I wonder why I feel like he is very insecure..Posted by LibrajeanYes, exactly what I experienced. Which is why I knew from the beginning it was probably doomed. It just showed me insecurity, and that he didn't believe I was good enough for him, which yes was also exactly the case. He had an extreme domineering streak. He would be in a bad mood if I went to starbucks, or the mall alone. He didnt understand the concept of loving freely whatsoever. He is military also, not sure if this added a negative aspect to his personality. He defo struggled with not believing himself good enough IMO.
What was your relationship like with your cap man, I'm seeing one now and he seems like the jealous and possessive type. He always thinks I'm having sex with someone else..it doesn't matter what I say he doesn't believe it..did u experience anything like this?
He also told me that "when we married he didnt want me working, he wanted me at home I was for him only"
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So what was the reason you broke up?
Posted by LibrajeanYes I like/need a man who know when to be dominant. My personality wouldn't mesh with anything else as I am quite strong and stubborn myself. I need someone who isnt afraid to tell me when I am wrong, when I am doing something that isn't good for us, although it was more the case when I was younger. I generally now know and want to please the person I am with aswell as myself.Posted by LibraLovesHimWow...that is intense..I get the feeling you are like me and love a dominant man (Aries boyfriend) a part of me would be turned on a little by that. But it is way over the top for a real relationship. My boyfriend is always accusing me of having sex with other men? I wonder why I feel like he is very insecure..Posted by LibrajeanYes, exactly what I experienced. Which is why I knew from the beginning it was probably doomed. It just showed me insecurity, and that he didn't believe I was good enough for him, which yes was also exactly the case. He had an extreme domineering streak. He would be in a bad mood if I went to starbucks, or the mall alone. He didnt understand the concept of loving freely whatsoever. He is military also, not sure if this added a negative aspect to his personality. He defo struggled with not believing himself good enough IMO.
What was your relationship like with your cap man, I'm seeing one now and he seems like the jealous and possessive type. He always thinks I'm having sex with someone else..it doesn't matter what I say he doesn't believe it..did u experience anything like this?
He also told me that "when we married he didnt want me working, he wanted me at home I was for him only"
So what was the reason you broke up?
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I broke up with Cap because I knew it had no future. From the beginning. So it was like why drag out the inevitable even longer! Plus I wanted to be free and fully emotionally/physically available for the right one.
I'll be glad to get that peace you speak of. Capricorns have a strange effect on people LBS
Posted by LeoLady822I agree! Very strange!
I'll be glad to get that peace you speak of. Capricorns have a strange effect on people LBS
Posted by CAPS_LOCKSorry?
Finally. Because he's not interested.
Posted by CAPS_LOCKAnd to you!Posted by LibraLovesHimHave a blessed day 🙂Posted by CAPS_LOCKSorry?
Finally. Because he's not interested.click to expand
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