@ladylibra21
11 Years1,000+ Posts
Am I being too sensitive or should I be mad?
Is he a January Cap??
Posted by poison_ivy
Is he a January Cap??
No December 22. He does have Sag Mercury in the 12th house, but come on this is getting ridiculous
Posted by poison_ivy
Is he a January Cap??No December 22. He does have Sag Mercury in the 12th house, but come on this is getting ridiculous
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He seems like he's up and down with his emotions.. Like he's not certain of what he wants.. I don't think he's trynna hide you personally.. from anyone. Otherwise I don't think he would keep you on his page.
hmmm... He's a tricky one...
Posted by Capri-sun
I'm not liking alex too much anymore.Actions speak louder than words
Right it is pissing me off. Like I feel like telling him to just stay away, but I feel like that would hurt me more but maybe it is what needs to happen so I can move on.
Posted by Capri-sun
I'm not liking alex too much anymore.Actions speak louder than words
his name is alex ?
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Yeah
Posted by Koniuchaa
How long are you planning on dealing with this?
To be honest I don't have a rational side anymore when it comes to this. Every bit of me just wants relief of the situation whether that is to be completely away from him or to be completely intertwined. Call it weak or whatever you want I have tried my damnedest to leave this alone, but I get pulled right back into the web without conscious thought every time I think I am over it.
Posted by Gob_Shite
Please, just give it up. The relationship is a dead end and, deep down, you know it. Enough of the drama.Oh, and your Cancer moon needs a good slap...
My head knows that, but my heart is oblivious.
Posted by Koniuchaa
How long are you planning on dealing with this?To be honest I don't have a rational side anymore when it comes to this. Every bit of me just wants relief of the situation whether that is to be completely away from him or to be completely intertwined. Call it weak or whatever you want I have tried my damnedest to leave this alone, but I get pulled right back into the web without conscious thought every time I think I am over it.
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Its not healthy..you gotta be cold and just ignore him..he's going to be bothered and try and woo you all over, but you can't fall for it..he will eventually get the hint.
Posted by Capri-sun
I personally don't like being tagged on Facebook nothing personal towards anyone just throwing that out there
There's a setting for that.
I chose to automatically disable them-- but its
not like people are told Tagging is Disabled.
Nooo... instead, it looks like you removed it and
people get their feelings hurt. -.-
Not sure I like this guy.. he sounds cocky, in an aloof way, I feel he needs an ego check -
Kinda in the same situation as you. He's really secretive and manipulative but I've caught on. Don't be surprised if he tries to lure you in multiple times after you've let go.
You know what to do.
Posted by Gob_Shite
Please, just give it up. The relationship is a dead end and, deep down, you know it. Enough of the drama.Oh, and your Cancer moon needs a good slap...
My head knows that, but my heart is oblivious.
Sorry to hear that. ((hugs)) 😢
You know what might help? Start picturing him as a goofy clown that has zero potential and just someone you have/had a good laugh with. I started to do that with my ex, it made it easier to block him when he started sending random pointless messages. He can go give false hope to someone else.
I know you work together but start to be very professional and just don't respond to his little "playful" messages. He's just trying to have fun and play around. This is all at your expense because he knows how much you like him.
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This is exactly how I started to see the cap that was talking to me months ago. We're sort of in the same industry and the chances of seeing each other again are 50/50 in the future. I had to start seeing this guy as just someone I would sleep with if I was ever that desperate. Sounds messed up, but that view can change if the dude acts right. This cap messaged me last week and I never responded. He hasn't messaged me since but he was on a "like" spree 2 days ago on my fb with almost any random status or pic I posted. He stopped since. Sorry to hear you're going through this @ladylibra21 .. stay strong!
"I just like keeping you on your toes lol"
Can't believe he told you that. But like you said "Games"
I knew someone with his birthday who did the same thing to a friend of mine. My friend had enough and cut him off one day and he has been trying to trace her since then.
For your own sanity, cut him off. Have nothing to do with him. Only deal with him on work related issues if needed besides that just be gone.
The man sounds like he has someone else he's talking to or interested in. That's why he's keeping you on the low low.
Just a hunch
Posted by Capri-sun
I personally don't like being tagged on Facebook nothing personal towards anyone just throwing that out there
Me too . There is an option for review before the post actually shows on your page.
Posted by Capri-sun
I personally don't like being tagged on Facebook nothing personal towards anyone just throwing that out thereMe too . There is an option for review before the post actually shows on your page.
Right that's how mine is setup. Then it's like ok is the person going to be upset if I don't approve it? Lol
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Lol right omg Facebook is a Libra.
I would like to suggest the 30 day rule, but that's probably very hard since you work with him.
I contacted my old cap last week and he made a lot of effort to set up drink and dinner plans. I was very surprised! Felt like a new beginning. I think 30 day rule works.
Posted by Capri-sun
I personally don't like being tagged on Facebook nothing personal towards anyone just throwing that out thereMe too . There is an option for review before the post actually shows on your page.
Right that's how mine is setup. Then it's like ok is the person going to be upset if I don't approve it? Lol
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About that(person being upset) there isnt much option 🙂
In mycase since i am also worried about if it would upset others, i let them tag me but their posts/pics do not show on my wall (using hide from time line). It is still visible to common friends but not to anyone else 😉
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Ok so I have been doing very well at just trying to sort of detach myself from this situation with the Cap I am dealing with and he has been all smiles in my face, trying to be helpful or constantly talking to me. He referenced the night we went to the Christmas party in passing which he has been very careful not to talk about since then and even brought up that we would go shooting soon since he said we would in the Fall and we never did to which I just stared at him because I am surprised he remembered and I don't want to fall into false hope. So yesterday he said well I think that you think I have ulterior motives you think too much and so I said well it is not that I think you have ulterior motives it is just that no matter how familiar you feel I can't always read you and taht make me slightly paranoid so he says "I just like keeping you on your toes lol" so I called him an ass and said 'Games" he said I am not playing games maybe testing the waters then immediately changes the subject.
So today I don't know maybe I let my guard down, but I posted something on his facebook about beer because i thought he wouldn't be in to work today. So he comes in a little later and I say did you see my post I tagged you in and he says "what post why are you tagging me in post I don't be on there trails off." (Which is a lie because I can tell when he is last active and he is on there several times a day for someone who "hates social media" I said fine then I wont, but in my head it kind of stung because why not? We can't even be Facebook friends? Then why the hell did you go out of your way to add me first? (I knwo why to keep tabs on me although he would never admit it.) But you already keep me at a distance accept at work when you are borderline clingy, you don't ask me to hang out accept to ask me to lunch and then change your mind or say shit in passing like I promise we will go shooting soon. Like for real shouldn't I feel justified in being a bit angry like if I can't tag you in stuff what is the point of being Facebook friends?! This was only the second time I tagged him in something too mind you. So also in my head it's like who are you trying to hide me from.