Wealthy capricorn man with no friends? (Page 3)

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Caps are cold when they are not sure about you, or need to protect themselves. If they are comfortable, they are warm. You sure are analyzing a lot after one date. Why even worry about it? Just move on if you’re not interested or get a weird feeling about him.

I was thinking the same thing 🙂 honestly never thought much about guys after 1 date,if we previously talked a lot for some time and I really liked him when we met then yes,I would think to about him a lot but all the rest wasn't just important people to think about.

Regarding cigarettes yes it's just odd. Why would one say I don't smoke then take one on a date. Sounds just odd. I was smoking when I started dating Virgo non smoker and I didn't take cigarette on a date out of respect for him which lead me to completely stop smoking soon enough(thank God).

But also was good question earlier how you know he's weathy? How did you actually get in contact,I mean where he got your number from?

One of the first things my Cap said is how people often go just for money or looks in others and kinda pointed out he's not rich(which I never thought he was in the first place lol) and I have impretion a lot of them think that way

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Someone set us up and of course with some breif info and asked if I'm open to meeting him. At first I was hesitating as I've never been on blind date. This person told me he is really keen and kept asking if I want to meet too so I was like why not jsut give him my number and let him talk to me

Then on first date he wanted my full name I gave it to him and asked for the same. He showed me the project he is now working on and I googled him afterward I can some really high profile stuff he did.

I guess I felt a bit guilty for the mix up in the phone call and felt a bit out of control hence the analysis. cos with others if I feel weird I just plan exit route, no reaching out or responding to text. if I do respond it will be to say lets remain friends.I guess I felt a connection some how as well.

Some people just don't have many or any friends, me bein one of those people. Some of us are looked at as doormats for others. We attempt friendship but get manipulated cause of our good nature.

Guess what? he called

how it went? he made new plans?

Sometimes when people have a more to lose (financial or otherwise), they are more protective of who they consider real friends.

@Malak I missed it while I was out, messaged him 30 mins later to tell him I will call back the next day. Called back but no answer. I'm starting to think he is playing hard to get...

@SunMoonStars got it, as he calls them my acquaintances and I don't hang out with them.

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@Malak I missed it while I was out, messaged him 30 mins later to tell him I will call back the next day. Called back but no answer. I'm starting to think he is playing hard to get...

@SunMoonStars got it, as he calls them my acquaintances and I don't hang out with them.

He's spending quality time with the Chinese ceramics and audemars piguet.

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Caps are cold when they are not sure about you, or need to protect themselves. If they are comfortable, they are warm. You sure are analyzing a lot after one date. Why even worry about it? Just move on if you’re not interested or get a weird feeling about him.

he called last night at 7:30pm but I was out, I messaged him to say I will call back next day I did but he dind't answer. He called back at 2:30pm he sounded a bit nervous. I asked how was his day he told me he was working in the morning and then he had nothign else and will go out for a bite, he would like me to join him if Im free. i have other plans so I can't but I made the point that I would love to and told him why I can't join. He asked how am I placing during the week. I told him which day am I free, he said let's aim for that day and we touch base the day before.

Then i asked what he did last night as I was curious why he phoned me at 7:30pm He told me he went to see his brother for work stuff then he didn't do anything, just watched some sport and then sleep. I guess he was trying to see me last minute as well..

Caps are into planning right? this doesn't sound very capricorn to me with these last minute invite... also I think last minute is more for relationship.. not for someone you barely know... ?

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Caps are cold when they are not sure about you, or need to protect themselves. If they are comfortable, they are warm. You sure are analyzing a lot after one date. Why even worry about it? Just move on if you’re not interested or get a weird feeling about him.

I’d say that he was thinking of you & just decided to call. Obviously, he’s a bit nervous so he has to get through that too. But he can plan if you need him too it seems. Like you being busy makes that happen.

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I hope you meant he's been thinking of me last week and not just an afterthought at that moment LOL

He might mean that he doesn't have any friends he considers close enough to mention or bring around. He might work a lot and not have time for it, or if he a rich guy - probably comes w a lot of gold-digging acquaintances.

Or he might be weird LOL

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Caps are cold when they are not sure about you, or need to protect themselves. If they are comfortable, they are warm. You sure are analyzing a lot after one date. Why even worry about it? Just move on if you’re not interested or get a weird feeling about him.

I’d say that he was thinking of you & just decided to call. Obviously, he’s a bit nervous so he has to get through that too. But he can plan if you need him too it seems. Like you being busy makes that happen.

I hope you meant he's been thinking of me last week and not just an afterthought at that moment LOL

Oh jeez you overthink too much! Of course he has been. Caps take awhile to get the courage up. And hell its not like he’s acting like he wants a booty call. I would not worry so much 😉 it’s just probably he realized he had some time & he’s being spontaneous.

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haha I'm not denying I think too much 😛 I'm just surprised how an alpha male who is so successful would get shy to ask for second date.

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Caps are cold when they are not sure about you, or need to protect themselves. If they are comfortable, they are warm. You sure are analyzing a lot after one date. Why even worry about it? Just move on if you’re not interested or get a weird feeling about him.

I’d say that he was thinking of you & just decided to call. Obviously, he’s a bit nervous so he has to get through that too. But he can plan if you need him too it seems. Like you being busy makes that happen.

I hope you meant he's been thinking of me last week and not just an afterthought at that moment LOL

Oh jeez you overthink too much! Of course he has been. Caps take awhile to get the courage up. And hell its not like he’s acting like he wants a booty call. I would not worry so much 😉 it’s just probably he realized he had some time & he’s being spontaneous.

haha I'm not denying I think too much 😛 I'm just surprised how an alpha male who is so successful would get shy to ask for second date.

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Success in love and work are very different things 🙂 if he's good looking plus successful you'd expect a lot of women to be chasing him and some do have that actually but not all of them. Guess it depends on other aspects of one as well. Some may have completely different signs in their chart so it can be a lot more than one's sign into analyzing their character 🙂

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Caps are cold when they are not sure about you, or need to protect themselves. If they are comfortable, they are warm. You sure are analyzing a lot after one date. Why even worry about it? Just move on if you’re not interested or get a weird feeling about him.

I’d say that he was thinking of you & just decided to call. Obviously, he’s a bit nervous so he has to get through that too. But he can plan if you need him too it seems. Like you being busy makes that happen.

I hope you meant he's been thinking of me last week and not just an afterthought at that moment LOL

Oh jeez you overthink too much! Of course he has been. Caps take awhile to get the courage up. And hell its not like he’s acting like he wants a booty call. I would not worry so much 😉 it’s just probably he realized he had some time & he’s being spontaneous.

haha I'm not denying I think too much 😛 I'm just surprised how an alpha male who is so successful would get shy to ask for second date.

Success in love and work are very different things 🙂 if he's good looking plus successful you'd expect a lot of women to be chasing him and some do have that actually but not all of them. Guess it depends on other aspects of one as well. Some may have completely different signs in their chart so it can be a lot more than one's sign into analyzing their character 🙂

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I think he is attractive but not over the top attractive, my gay friends are like yeah I will go for it. Since he has gay guys approval I guess we can say he is good looking.

His chart says he should be a big player lol Cap Sun, Aries Moon, Aqua Mercury, Sag Venus and Gemini Mars. However he is the biggest homebody unless he is travelling overseas

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Caps are cold when they are not sure about you, or need to protect themselves. If they are comfortable, they are warm. You sure are analyzing a lot after one date. Why even worry about it? Just move on if you’re not interested or get a weird feeling about him.

he called last night at 7:30pm but I was out, I messaged him to say I will call back next day I did but he dind't answer. He called back at 2:30pm he sounded a bit nervous. I asked how was his day he told me he was working in the morning and then he had nothign else and will go out for a bite, he would like me to join him if Im free. i have other plans so I can't but I made the point that I would love to and told him why I can't join. He asked how am I placing during the week. I told him which day am I free, he said let's aim for that day and we touch base the day before.

Then i asked what he did last night as I was curious why he phoned me at 7:30pm He told me he went to see his brother for work stuff then he didn't do anything, just watched some sport and then sleep. I guess he was trying to see me last minute as well..

Caps are into planning right? this doesn't sound very capricorn to me with these last minute invite... also I think last minute is more for relationship.. not for someone you barely know... ?

It sounds more like he's usually quite busy and whenever he has some time to relax, he wants to spend it with you.

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its possible but the late notice is more for real couple. Not ideal for someone you just met. Anyway will see what happens.

Plannign is always good as I have a life too, him asking last minute is runnign the risk of us not able to met.

11 pages... and we still don't know how the OP arrived on 'he's wealthy'.

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Caps are cold when they are not sure about you, or need to protect themselves. If they are comfortable, they are warm. You sure are analyzing a lot after one date. Why even worry about it? Just move on if you’re not interested or get a weird feeling about him.

I’d say that he was thinking of you & just decided to call. Obviously, he’s a bit nervous so he has to get through that too. But he can plan if you need him too it seems. Like you being busy makes that happen.

I hope you meant he's been thinking of me last week and not just an afterthought at that moment LOL

Oh jeez you overthink too much! Of course he has been. Caps take awhile to get the courage up. And hell its not like he’s acting like he wants a booty call. I would not worry so much 😉 it’s just probably he realized he had some time & he’s being spontaneous.

haha I'm not denying I think too much 😛 I'm just surprised how an alpha male who is so successful would get shy to ask for second date.

Lol. It’s just it takes awhile for Caps.. nothing to do with being an alpha & successful. Believe me usually guys come flying at me, and are aggressive.so it was an adjustment for me, but once they decide on you it is WAY different.

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Mind if I ask age of you and your Cap? He has kids too or just you? trying to figure something about mine, that's why I come up with those odd questions lol I'm already over thinking it and am very close to completely disappearing on him lol but as persistent as I always was have to think about all aspects before making that final decision xD

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Caps are cold when they are not sure about you, or need to protect themselves. If they are comfortable, they are warm. You sure are analyzing a lot after one date. Why even worry about it? Just move on if you’re not interested or get a weird feeling about him.

I’d say that he was thinking of you & just decided to call. Obviously, he’s a bit nervous so he has to get through that too. But he can plan if you need him too it seems. Like you being busy makes that happen.

I hope you meant he's been thinking of me last week and not just an afterthought at that moment LOL

Oh jeez you overthink too much! Of course he has been. Caps take awhile to get the courage up. And hell its not like he’s acting like he wants a booty call. I would not worry so much 😉 it’s just probably he realized he had some time & he’s being spontaneous.

haha I'm not denying I think too much 😛 I'm just surprised how an alpha male who is so successful would get shy to ask for second date.

Lol. It’s just it takes awhile for Caps.. nothing to do with being an alpha & successful. Believe me usually guys come flying at me, and are aggressive.so it was an adjustment for me, but once they decide on you it is WAY different.

Mind if I ask age of you and your Cap? He has kids too or just you? trying to figure something about mine, that's why I come up with those odd questions lol I'm already over thinking it and am very close to completely disappearing on him lol but as persistent as I always was have to think about all aspects before making that final decision xD

LOL i don't have kids. neither one of us has kids nor been married. Im in early 30s he is in early 40s. How old are you and your cap? do you and your cap has kids?

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No I meant this for question for RooSagicorn, she mentioned here or in another thread kids, that's why I asked, can't find that post xD

Me and mine don't have kids and never married, both in early 30's, he's a year older than me. Trying to get some more insight in their character with this only xD

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Caps are cold when they are not sure about you, or need to protect themselves. If they are comfortable, they are warm. You sure are analyzing a lot after one date. Why even worry about it? Just move on if you’re not interested or get a weird feeling about him.

I’d say that he was thinking of you & just decided to call. Obviously, he’s a bit nervous so he has to get through that too. But he can plan if you need him too it seems. Like you being busy makes that happen.

I hope you meant he's been thinking of me last week and not just an afterthought at that moment LOL

Oh jeez you overthink too much! Of course he has been. Caps take awhile to get the courage up. And hell its not like he’s acting like he wants a booty call. I would not worry so much 😉 it’s just probably he realized he had some time & he’s being spontaneous.

haha I'm not denying I think too much 😛 I'm just surprised how an alpha male who is so successful would get shy to ask for second date.

Lol. It’s just it takes awhile for Caps.. nothing to do with being an alpha & successful. Believe me usually guys come flying at me, and are aggressive.so it was an adjustment for me, but once they decide on you it is WAY different.

Mind if I ask age of you and your Cap? He has kids too or just you? trying to figure something about mine, that's why I come up with those odd questions lol I'm already over thinking it and am very close to completely disappearing on him lol but as persistent as I always was have to think about all aspects before making that final decision xD

I’m 53, he’s 47. His kids are in their 20’s & out of the house. Mine are 17 & 22 both still at home.

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Great ty very much 🙂 was wondering about something regarding my Cap guy and my suspicion on him getting involved with someone else but now that I thought more about it, he's probably too young for that specially since he had no marriage or kids yet. Btw you look much younger, that's the Sag trait I guess, heard a often they keep their younger looks for very long time lol

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Caps are cold when they are not sure about you, or need to protect themselves. If they are comfortable, they are warm. You sure are analyzing a lot after one date. Why even worry about it? Just move on if you’re not interested or get a weird feeling about him.

I’d say that he was thinking of you & just decided to call. Obviously, he’s a bit nervous so he has to get through that too. But he can plan if you need him too it seems. Like you being busy makes that happen.

I hope you meant he's been thinking of me last week and not just an afterthought at that moment LOL

Oh jeez you overthink too much! Of course he has been. Caps take awhile to get the courage up. And hell its not like he’s acting like he wants a booty call. I would not worry so much 😉 it’s just probably he realized he had some time & he’s being spontaneous.

haha I'm not denying I think too much 😛 I'm just surprised how an alpha male who is so successful would get shy to ask for second date.

Lol. It’s just it takes awhile for Caps.. nothing to do with being an alpha & successful. Believe me usually guys come flying at me, and are aggressive.so it was an adjustment for me, but once they decide on you it is WAY different.

Mind if I ask age of you and your Cap? He has kids too or just you? trying to figure something about mine, that's why I come up with those odd questions lol I'm already over thinking it and am very close to completely disappearing on him lol but as persistent as I always was have to think about all aspects before making that final decision xD

I’m 53, he’s 47. His kids are in their 20’s & out of the house. Mine are 17 & 22 both still at home.

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Dayyuuumm girl!!! you look barely 23!!

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Caps are cold when they are not sure about you, or need to protect themselves. If they are comfortable, they are warm. You sure are analyzing a lot after one date. Why even worry about it? Just move on if you’re not interested or get a weird feeling about him.

I’d say that he was thinking of you & just decided to call. Obviously, he’s a bit nervous so he has to get through that too. But he can plan if you need him too it seems. Like you being busy makes that happen.

I hope you meant he's been thinking of me last week and not just an afterthought at that moment LOL

Oh jeez you overthink too much! Of course he has been. Caps take awhile to get the courage up. And hell its not like he’s acting like he wants a booty call. I would not worry so much 😉 it’s just probably he realized he had some time & he’s being spontaneous.

haha I'm not denying I think too much 😛 I'm just surprised how an alpha male who is so successful would get shy to ask for second date.

Lol. It’s just it takes awhile for Caps.. nothing to do with being an alpha & successful. Believe me usually guys come flying at me, and are aggressive.so it was an adjustment for me, but once they decide on you it is WAY different.

Mind if I ask age of you and your Cap? He has kids too or just you? trying to figure something about mine, that's why I come up with those odd questions lol I'm already over thinking it and am very close to completely disappearing on him lol but as persistent as I always was have to think about all aspects before making that final decision xD

I’m 53, he’s 47. His kids are in their 20’s & out of the house. Mine are 17 & 22 both still at home.

Great ty very much 🙂 was wondering about something regarding my Cap guy and my suspicion on him getting involved with someone else but now that I thought more about it, he's probably too young for that specially since he had no marriage or kids yet. Btw you look much younger, that's the Sag trait I guess, heard a often they keep their younger looks for very long time lol

Thank you 🙂 so most people say lol or cap Rising or just good genes who knows 🤷‍♀️

Well sometimes we just have to let guys show you what they want. You can’t make them do anything. If they want you for the right reasons, they’ll come back. I don’t tend to stick around unless they are showing me I’m a important to them.

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you're absolutely right. I'm trying to always be objective. Not trying to brag about myself but I'm aware how I look and how is my personality. His own words were that I look perfect and should never change a thing about me...so if I'm perfect and he's backing up I don't see a reason for me to put effort in it. Think I did my part enough for now and stopping with it, if he can see good enough should be able to see I'm interested

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Caps are cold when they are not sure about you, or need to protect themselves. If they are comfortable, they are warm. You sure are analyzing a lot after one date. Why even worry about it? Just move on if you’re not interested or get a weird feeling about him.

I’d say that he was thinking of you & just decided to call. Obviously, he’s a bit nervous so he has to get through that too. But he can plan if you need him too it seems. Like you being busy makes that happen.

I hope you meant he's been thinking of me last week and not just an afterthought at that moment LOL

Oh jeez you overthink too much! Of course he has been. Caps take awhile to get the courage up. And hell its not like he’s acting like he wants a booty call. I would not worry so much 😉 it’s just probably he realized he had some time & he’s being spontaneous.

haha I'm not denying I think too much 😛 I'm just surprised how an alpha male who is so successful would get shy to ask for second date.

Lol. It’s just it takes awhile for Caps.. nothing to do with being an alpha & successful. Believe me usually guys come flying at me, and are aggressive.so it was an adjustment for me, but once they decide on you it is WAY different.

Mind if I ask age of you and your Cap? He has kids too or just you? trying to figure something about mine, that's why I come up with those odd questions lol I'm already over thinking it and am very close to completely disappearing on him lol but as persistent as I always was have to think about all aspects before making that final decision xD

I’m 53, he’s 47. His kids are in their 20’s & out of the house. Mine are 17 & 22 both still at home.

Great ty very much 🙂 was wondering about something regarding my Cap guy and my suspicion on him getting involved with someone else but now that I thought more about it, he's probably too young for that specially since he had no marriage or kids yet. Btw you look much younger, that's the Sag trait I guess, heard a often they keep their younger looks for very long time lol

Thank you 🙂 so most people say lol or cap Rising or just good genes who knows 🤷‍♀️

Well sometimes we just have to let guys show you what they want. You can’t make them do anything. If they want you for the right reasons, they’ll come back. I don’t tend to stick around unless they are showing me I’m a important to them.

you're absolutely right. I'm trying to always be objective. Not trying to brag about myself but I'm aware how I look and how is my personality. His own words were that I look perfect and should never change a thing about me...so if I'm perfect and he's backing up I don't see a reason for me to put effort in it. Think I did my part enough for now and stopping with it, if he can see good enough should be able to see I'm interested

Well sometimes i don’t get the message across very well that I’m interested. However, if they are, they will come back and check to see if you are. That has been my experience over the years anyway. And if they don’t, well it wasn’t worth it anyway.

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Again you're right and agreed completely. I know I did something that he didn't like at all about me but also if he'll run away just like that I don't need that either. People should be able to talk about things and work it out when they're interested in keeping that person around

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Caps are cold when they are not sure about you, or need to protect themselves. If they are comfortable, they are warm. You sure are analyzing a lot after one date. Why even worry about it? Just move on if you’re not interested or get a weird feeling about him.

I’d say that he was thinking of you & just decided to call. Obviously, he’s a bit nervous so he has to get through that too. But he can plan if you need him too it seems. Like you being busy makes that happen.

I hope you meant he's been thinking of me last week and not just an afterthought at that moment LOL

Oh jeez you overthink too much! Of course he has been. Caps take awhile to get the courage up. And hell its not like he’s acting like he wants a booty call. I would not worry so much 😉 it’s just probably he realized he had some time & he’s being spontaneous.

haha I'm not denying I think too much 😛 I'm just surprised how an alpha male who is so successful would get shy to ask for second date.

Lol. It’s just it takes awhile for Caps.. nothing to do with being an alpha & successful. Believe me usually guys come flying at me, and are aggressive.so it was an adjustment for me, but once they decide on you it is WAY different.

Mind if I ask age of you and your Cap? He has kids too or just you? trying to figure something about mine, that's why I come up with those odd questions lol I'm already over thinking it and am very close to completely disappearing on him lol but as persistent as I always was have to think about all aspects before making that final decision xD

I’m 53, he’s 47. His kids are in their 20’s & out of the house. Mine are 17 & 22 both still at home.

Great ty very much 🙂 was wondering about something regarding my Cap guy and my suspicion on him getting involved with someone else but now that I thought more about it, he's probably too young for that specially since he had no marriage or kids yet. Btw you look much younger, that's the Sag trait I guess, heard a often they keep their younger looks for very long time lol

Thank you 🙂 so most people say lol or cap Rising or just good genes who knows 🤷‍♀️

Well sometimes we just have to let guys show you what they want. You can’t make them do anything. If they want you for the right reasons, they’ll come back. I don’t tend to stick around unless they are showing me I’m a important to them.

you're absolutely right. I'm trying to always be objective. Not trying to brag about myself but I'm aware how I look and how is my personality. His own words were that I look perfect and should never change a thing about me...so if I'm perfect and he's backing up I don't see a reason for me to put effort in it. Think I did my part enough for now and stopping with it, if he can see good enough should be able to see I'm interested

Well sometimes i don’t get the message across very well that I’m interested. However, if they are, they will come back and check to see if you are. That has been my experience over the years anyway. And if they don’t, well it wasn’t worth it anyway.

Again you're right and agreed completely. I know I did something that he didn't like at all about me but also if he'll run away just like that I don't need that either. People should be able to talk about things and work it out when they're interested in keeping that person around

Well sure. Sometimes they don’t think it’s worth it & decide to walk away. But the act of walking away makes them realize they were wrong. Then they come back. Mine did that.. ever heard of the rubber band theory?

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Actually haven't heard of it before but now googled it lol well I'd say depends on each of us. I gained my ex's attention by being kind and affectionate and always there, actually pushed more than I ever did before...but wouldn't go for such approach again, it cost me a lot of nerves. Well I definitely won't go chasing him but don't have much options how to react - either stop replying and play hard to get or keep replaying once when he writes and hope for the best...he does have some things going on in his life that I know just partially about so that might be a reason as well but whatever it is I just won't push it

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Caps are cold when they are not sure about you, or need to protect themselves. If they are comfortable, they are warm. You sure are analyzing a lot after one date. Why even worry about it? Just move on if you’re not interested or get a weird feeling about him.

I’d say that he was thinking of you & just decided to call. Obviously, he’s a bit nervous so he has to get through that too. But he can plan if you need him too it seems. Like you being busy makes that happen.

I hope you meant he's been thinking of me last week and not just an afterthought at that moment LOL

Oh jeez you overthink too much! Of course he has been. Caps take awhile to get the courage up. And hell its not like he’s acting like he wants a booty call. I would not worry so much 😉 it’s just probably he realized he had some time & he’s being spontaneous.

haha I'm not denying I think too much 😛 I'm just surprised how an alpha male who is so successful would get shy to ask for second date.

Lol. It’s just it takes awhile for Caps.. nothing to do with being an alpha & successful. Believe me usually guys come flying at me, and are aggressive.so it was an adjustment for me, but once they decide on you it is WAY different.

Mind if I ask age of you and your Cap? He has kids too or just you? trying to figure something about mine, that's why I come up with those odd questions lol I'm already over thinking it and am very close to completely disappearing on him lol but as persistent as I always was have to think about all aspects before making that final decision xD

I’m 53, he’s 47. His kids are in their 20’s & out of the house. Mine are 17 & 22 both still at home.

Great ty very much 🙂 was wondering about something regarding my Cap guy and my suspicion on him getting involved with someone else but now that I thought more about it, he's probably too young for that specially since he had no marriage or kids yet. Btw you look much younger, that's the Sag trait I guess, heard a often they keep their younger looks for very long time lol

Thank you 🙂 so most people say lol or cap Rising or just good genes who knows 🤷‍♀️

Well sometimes we just have to let guys show you what they want. You can’t make them do anything. If they want you for the right reasons, they’ll come back. I don’t tend to stick around unless they are showing me I’m a important to them.

you're absolutely right. I'm trying to always be objective. Not trying to brag about myself but I'm aware how I look and how is my personality. His own words were that I look perfect and should never change a thing about me...so if I'm perfect and he's backing up I don't see a reason for me to put effort in it. Think I did my part enough for now and stopping with it, if he can see good enough should be able to see I'm interested

Well sometimes i don’t get the message across very well that I’m interested. However, if they are, they will come back and check to see if you are. That has been my experience over the years anyway. And if they don’t, well it wasn’t worth it anyway.

Again you're right and agreed completely. I know I did something that he didn't like at all about me but also if he'll run away just like that I don't need that either. People should be able to talk about things and work it out when they're interested in keeping that person around

Well sure. Sometimes they don’t think it’s worth it & decide to walk away. But the act of walking away makes them realize they were wrong. Then they come back. Mine did that.. ever heard of the rubber band theory?

Actually haven't heard of it before but now googled it lol well I'd say depends on each of us. I gained my ex's attention by being kind and affectionate and always there, actually pushed more than I ever did before...but wouldn't go for such approach again, it cost me a lot of nerves. Well I definitely won't go chasing him but don't have much options how to react - either stop replying and play hard to get or keep replaying once when he writes and hope for the best...he does have some things going on in his life that I know just partially about so that might be a reason as well but whatever it is I just won't push it

The point of the rubber band theory is If he pulls back, you let him pull back. In this period of time, you let the guy figure out whatever he needs to figure out. The rubber band must stretch & get tight. Which means you can’t chase after him, that will make it loose not tight. If you let him go, then it gets tighter and tighter as he backs up. It will either get to the point he will bounce back when he goes too far, or he will let go. It is his choice. The thing is you can’t make whatever choice for him. If you chase, you push on them, demand things, nag, it will either push them farther away or just postpone the inevitable. People do what they want. You can’t force or make them. It is far better to allow them to make their own choices. To respect them enough. You get to make yours too.

This follows for a relationship, or an issue in a relationship. Believe me i was married twice & once for 17 years. You cannot force or control your way through this. What you want is someone who chooses you & wants to be there. If they don’t, then on to the next. Because that one would not be good enough for you anyway.

That’s my two cents for the day. Lol

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Yes, you're completely right about that. Personally I wouldn't even try to make someone chose me because it simply doesn't work. They either want you or don't...or are still calculating lol well in my situation there really is a lot to calculate about and even I as quite of a dreamer have to admit that I have no clue what can we do to make it happen. I mean yes I can think of it but it takes time and getting to know each other on deeper level and since we're so far away from each other we can't spend so much time together once we meet(if we meet) so getting to know each other online is the only way. So when he's not so talkative and closed up it just makes it hard to do anything. But it's his choice, he should be aware of it as well that if he wants something he should start opening up more. I can't force it on him and I don't want to. I tried asking few times with small to no results and I won't do it again. They don't seem to even be very talkative lol I got to talk about this one time with another Cap male, yet much younger (but smart as they are lol) and he got quite talkative actually on the opposite of mine. But this one isn't much of a talker usually too so might be part of their treats lol

That's the main problem I think, we're too far away for any physical contact and it would take a lot for us to be together actually, but being a Sag nothing is impossible for me and since nothing ties me down I wouldn't have a problem making a huge change in my life if we get along well to make it work. I'm just not sure he knows that and I can't be the one saying such things cause simply it sounds too pushy to me. I rather let him make first moves regarding that point. But what if he thinks same way like - "How can I possibly ask her would she move to be with me?" But being a rational earth sign I'm not sure does he even think I'd consider making a change for him and that it could be actually done if we put effort in it. It's just hard with texting and calls only like you said but we have no other option. I'm thinking on actually visiting him soon just to see how we click on face to face and well cause I want to meet him lol but I really don't know what after that and I tend to have a need to know a lot in future how things will go lol

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fuck friends money is the key

I love it how I'm deep into reading the thread and your random comments randomly pop up 😄 random

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fuck friends money is the key

I love it how I'm deep into reading the thread and your random comments randomly pop up 😄 random

let's being honest, i'm the only capricorn man and i've been in couple with a virgo during two years. plus i'm in a field where there is a lot of employement. those women should listen to me !

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..2 years with a virgo,,,

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That's the main problem I think, we're too far away for any physical contact and it would take a lot for us to be together actually, but being a Sag nothing is impossible for me and since nothing ties me down I wouldn't have a problem making a huge change in my life if we get along well to make it work. I'm just not sure he knows that and I can't be the one saying such things cause simply it sounds too pushy to me. I rather let him make first moves regarding that point. But what if he thinks same way like - "How can I possibly ask her would she move to be with me?" But being a rational earth sign I'm not sure does he even think I'd consider making a change for him and that it could be actually done if we put effort in it. It's just hard with texting and calls only like you said but we have no other option. I'm thinking on actually visiting him soon just to see how we click on face to face and well cause I want to meet him lol but I really don't know what after that and I tend to have a need to know a lot in future how things will go lol

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Well visiting might tell you a lot, but then again it could start something you might be better off letting go. Who knows? I say go with your gut. We Sags are always so hopeful & Caps so pessimistic. It’s a good balance if it’s handled right. But also good for us to remember they see things differently than us.

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Like chart says we often rely on our guts and luckily for us are rarely wrong lol that's exactly what I'm thinking, he's probably pessimistic to his max about it and having lots of doubts but not telling me and on the other side I'm very optimistic and have solutions for many problems but am not saying it either lol actually I think Caps and Sags can really balance each other quite well if they both accept some compromises. Knowing myself I won't be able to let go until I see him or we stop communicating lol in a way I'm starting to plan on that trip but am still being cautious cause he's not around as he used to be and will have to see how things will go later on

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That's the main problem I think, we're too far away for any physical contact and it would take a lot for us to be together actually, but being a Sag nothing is impossible for me and since nothing ties me down I wouldn't have a problem making a huge change in my life if we get along well to make it work. I'm just not sure he knows that and I can't be the one saying such things cause simply it sounds too pushy to me. I rather let him make first moves regarding that point. But what if he thinks same way like - "How can I possibly ask her would she move to be with me?" But being a rational earth sign I'm not sure does he even think I'd consider making a change for him and that it could be actually done if we put effort in it. It's just hard with texting and calls only like you said but we have no other option. I'm thinking on actually visiting him soon just to see how we click on face to face and well cause I want to meet him lol but I really don't know what after that and I tend to have a need to know a lot in future how things will go lol

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Well visiting might tell you a lot, but then again it could start something you might be better off letting go. Who knows? I say go with your gut. We Sags are always so hopeful & Caps so pessimistic. It’s a good balance if it’s handled right. But also good for us to remember they see things differently than us.

Like chart says we often rely on our guts and luckily for us are rarely wrong lol that's exactly what I'm thinking, he's probably pessimistic to his max about it and having lots of doubts but not telling me and on the other side I'm very optimistic and have solutions for many problems but am not saying it either lol actually I think Caps and Sags can really balance each other quite well if they both accept some compromises. Knowing myself I won't be able to let go until I see him or we stop communicating lol in a way I'm starting to plan on that trip but am still being cautious cause he's not around as he used to be and will have to see how things will go later on

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just jumping in and say I don't think chart is always reliable though. As This cap is a homebody and socially awkward but his chart says he is a social butterfly.

Best way to get to know yours is really through your interaction and if his action matches his words

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That's the main problem I think, we're too far away for any physical contact and it would take a lot for us to be together actually, but being a Sag nothing is impossible for me and since nothing ties me down I wouldn't have a problem making a huge change in my life if we get along well to make it work. I'm just not sure he knows that and I can't be the one saying such things cause simply it sounds too pushy to me. I rather let him make first moves regarding that point. But what if he thinks same way like - "How can I possibly ask her would she move to be with me?" But being a rational earth sign I'm not sure does he even think I'd consider making a change for him and that it could be actually done if we put effort in it. It's just hard with texting and calls only like you said but we have no other option. I'm thinking on actually visiting him soon just to see how we click on face to face and well cause I want to meet him lol but I really don't know what after that and I tend to have a need to know a lot in future how things will go lol

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Well visiting might tell you a lot, but then again it could start something you might be better off letting go. Who knows? I say go with your gut. We Sags are always so hopeful & Caps so pessimistic. It’s a good balance if it’s handled right. But also good for us to remember they see things differently than us.

Like chart says we often rely on our guts and luckily for us are rarely wrong lol that's exactly what I'm thinking, he's probably pessimistic to his max about it and having lots of doubts but not telling me and on the other side I'm very optimistic and have solutions for many problems but am not saying it either lol actually I think Caps and Sags can really balance each other quite well if they both accept some compromises. Knowing myself I won't be able to let go until I see him or we stop communicating lol in a way I'm starting to plan on that trip but am still being cautious cause he's not around as he used to be and will have to see how things will go later on

just jumping in and say I don't think chart is always reliable though. As This cap is a homebody and socially awkward but his chart says he is a social butterfly.

Best way to get to know yours is really through your interaction and if his action matches his words

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Well yeah not everyone is exactly as their chart says but here I meant mostly at some part in my own chart that says I often rely on my gut feeling which is usually correct and it really has been always like that.

Maybe he's not really awkward but simply doesn't have much time for that and prefers free time to be in more relaxing environment. Mine is same way but he has more aqua in his chart so it all fits just as he is...although he doesn't believe in zodiac for whatever reason it's quite accurate from what I saw so far

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What's wrong with that? I have no friends doesn't mean he's going to cling some ppl believe it or not enjoy their own company and can tolerate being in their own silence

You don’t need friends. You just need to know people who knows people who can get you what you need and that’s that!

@RooSagicorn @malak

Regardless of the chart I think its more important to see if a man can keep his words. Base on our last convo we are aiming to meet tomorrow and will touch base the day before. Haven't heard from him today. This is already looking bad IMO

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@RooSagicorn @malak

Regardless of the chart I think its more important to see if a man can keep his words. Base on our last convo we are aiming to meet tomorrow and will touch base the day before. Haven't heard from him today. This is already looking bad IMO

He called in mean time maybe? They so awkward for whatever reason about that I really don't know sometimes wtf with them...I remember one time I mentioned this, mine used to skip any tricky questions or anything too revealing to answer at so I told him to not think that he gets me over that talking about something else instead and that i don't notice he skips replies to what he said I should know he's not ignoring me...—Wtf lol? I didn't think he's ignoring me, I think he simply avoids what doesn't fit him to reply at...but like I said they're just awkward in so many ways...

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@RooSagicorn @malak

Regardless of the chart I think its more important to see if a man can keep his words. Base on our last convo we are aiming to meet tomorrow and will touch base the day before. Haven't heard from him today. This is already looking bad IMO

He called in mean time maybe? They so awkward for whatever reason about that I really don't know sometimes wtf with them...I remember one time I mentioned this, mine used to skip any tricky questions or anything too revealing to answer at so I told him to not think that he gets me over that talking about something else instead and that i don't notice he skips replies to what he said I should know he's not ignoring me...—Wtf lol? I didn't think he's ignoring me, I think he simply avoids what doesn't fit him to reply at...but like I said they're just awkward in so many ways...

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what sort of tricky question? confirming time and place isn't that tricky though? LOL

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@RooSagicorn @malak

Regardless of the chart I think its more important to see if a man can keep his words. Base on our last convo we are aiming to meet tomorrow and will touch base the day before. Haven't heard from him today. This is already looking bad IMO

He called in mean time maybe? They so awkward for whatever reason about that I really don't know sometimes wtf with them...I remember one time I mentioned this, mine used to skip any tricky questions or anything too revealing to answer at so I told him to not think that he gets me over that talking about something else instead and that i don't notice he skips replies to what he said I should know he's not ignoring me...—Wtf lol? I didn't think he's ignoring me, I think he simply avoids what doesn't fit him to reply at...but like I said they're just awkward in so many ways...

what sort of tricky question? confirming time and place isn't that tricky though? LOL

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no ofc not...that's a normal thing to do when 2 people make plans but you never know with them...anyway tricky questions I asked were different things regarding feelings and some details in life but in general he does give honest replies just skips certain questions for whatever reason

@RooSagicorn@Malak

I followed up with him since our plan is up in the air and I got other offer. He replied saying he is sorry and he got work tonight and his head has been everywhere. He asked if we could meet the next day instead.

mmm ok which head has been everywhere? LOL

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@RooSagicorn@Malak

I followed up with him since our plan is up in the air and I got other offer. He replied saying he is sorry and he got work tonight and his head has been everywhere. He asked if we could meet the next day instead.

mmm ok which head has been everywhere? LOL

Maybe he's got a lot on his mind...could be entirely work related though.

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he did apologize and his reason seems legit. see what happens

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@RooSagicorn@Malak

I followed up with him since our plan is up in the air and I got other offer. He replied saying he is sorry and he got work tonight and his head has been everywhere. He asked if we could meet the next day instead.

mmm ok which head has been everywhere? LOL

he sound just like "mine" like they're the same person lol which ofc isn't possible but it's simply like they have a scheme how they talk...anyway maybe you're more patient than me and willing to tolerate that more and have a plus of at least being able to see him lol I decided to distance myself from this one, just don't have time for all that and those excuses really annoy me. I'll quote you here words from another Cap male about them just for reference lol : Idk, we are on one way good, on one way little bit crazy , cold, psychopath...

P.S head been everywhere...trust me it's his top one lol only thing it means is he's overthinking things about everything as usual...

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@RooSagicorn@Malak

I followed up with him since our plan is up in the air and I got other offer. He replied saying he is sorry and he got work tonight and his head has been everywhere. He asked if we could meet the next day instead.

mmm ok which head has been everywhere? LOL

he sound just like "mine" like they're the same person lol which ofc isn't possible but it's simply like they have a scheme how they talk...anyway maybe you're more patient than me and willing to tolerate that more and have a plus of at least being able to see him lol I decided to distance myself from this one, just don't have time for all that and those excuses really annoy me. I'll quote you here words from another Cap male about them just for reference lol : Idk, we are on one way good, on one way little bit crazy , cold, psychopath...

P.S head been everywhere...trust me it's his top one lol only thing it means is he's overthinking things about everything as usual...

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Well we only met once so I'm not as invested as you emotionally, if he doesn't see me I have other things to do. His reason seems legit and on first date he showed me the project he is on now and how he was expecting an international call on Saturday night just showed how intense it is. So really the only thing I can do now is enjoy my life and be open minded to get to know him. As I don't really know him after just one date.

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@RooSagicorn@Malak

I followed up with him since our plan is up in the air and I got other offer. He replied saying he is sorry and he got work tonight and his head has been everywhere. He asked if we could meet the next day instead.

mmm ok which head has been everywhere? LOL

Lol sounds like he had some work stuff going on? It would be interesting to see what he meant by that comment. It seems he’s probably a bit overwhelmed with too much happening at once. Maybe in different parts of his life? I know they can be quite the overthinkers too!

Did you see him yet?

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yes its work. I think he probably meant work in that comment, I just had to poke fun of it LOL

Not yet, I'm too busy planning for my weekend, I have a feeling he will be selfish and call me on a Saturday night, as he has no social life. he doesn't even consider other ppl are out, he thinks ppl are there to take his calls whenever he likes

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@RooSagicorn@Malak

I followed up with him since our plan is up in the air and I got other offer. He replied saying he is sorry and he got work tonight and his head has been everywhere. He asked if we could meet the next day instead.

mmm ok which head has been everywhere? LOL

Lol sounds like he had some work stuff going on? It would be interesting to see what he meant by that comment. It seems he’s probably a bit overwhelmed with too much happening at once. Maybe in different parts of his life? I know they can be quite the overthinkers too!

Did you see him yet?

yes its work. I think he probably meant work in that comment, I just had to poke fun of it LOL

Not yet, I'm too busy planning for my weekend, I have a feeling he will be selfish and call me on a Saturday night, as he has no social life. he doesn't even consider other ppl are out, he thinks ppl are there to take his calls whenever he likes

Lol probably. It’s not the way he thinks about. I’m free, I wonder if she is?

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@RooSagicorn@Malak

I followed up with him since our plan is up in the air and I got other offer. He replied saying he is sorry and he got work tonight and his head has been everywhere. He asked if we could meet the next day instead.

mmm ok which head has been everywhere? LOL

Lol sounds like he had some work stuff going on? It would be interesting to see what he meant by that comment. It seems he’s probably a bit overwhelmed with too much happening at once. Maybe in different parts of his life? I know they can be quite the overthinkers too!

Did you see him yet?

yes its work. I think he probably meant work in that comment, I just had to poke fun of it LOL

Not yet, I'm too busy planning for my weekend, I have a feeling he will be selfish and call me on a Saturday night, as he has no social life. he doesn't even consider other ppl are out, he thinks ppl are there to take his calls whenever he likes

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Actually I noticed same thing. Mine again can be away whole day or longer but when he comes online he demands instant attention lol if he notices I don't reply to him but do to someone else or am doing something else he becomes impossible...and I do it only cause I don't like looking like I've been just sitting around and waiting for him lol

@RooSagicorn @Malak

He picked me up and took me to dinner, I was so scared with the way he drives, the way he accelerate and overtook other was really aggressive. Even on empty street when he felt like turning to the street he would speed it up and did a really rough turn. He also space out a lot telling me hes just thinking about work.

He asked me the same questions again like when was my last bf. I asked him about him. He said last year but he has casual GF in between. I asked why things ended? he didin't want to answer he said too may reasons. this seems like a red flag.. if he can't talk about it means he is not over it.

During dinner he is really absent minded. he would reply work email or google work stuff. He seems to be numbing his emotional side with TV and work. Anyway He asked what will I be doing for xmas He said he is going away for a week. He doesn't want to see his parents, which appears that his relationship with his parents is pretty bad...

he said he hates crowds, used to got to bar but now he just prefer to stay at home. He even spent NYE alone at home last year...

He left me a few times, 1st time to "get something in the car" to smoke, then to wash his hands after shrimp, which is fair. Third time he went to buy heartburn tablet, 4th time he went to bathroom. I feel like he is totally absent Idk why he wants to see me.

When I went to wash my hands after my dinner I came out and he already paid and left, I looked up and he was waving at me from outside. Then he drove me home, he asked if I want to go to his to watch james bond movies. I shaked my head he said a bit late huh? I said mm yeah...

Then when we arrived he didn't try anything, he said he will talk to me soon. I said hope you feel better soon and good to see you. He said same enjoy your evening.

I honestly think this guy is emotionally unavailable. Other caps I know are not as absent as he is...

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@RooSagicorn @Malak

He picked me up and took me to dinner, I was so scared with the way he drives, the way he accelerate and overtook other was really aggressive. Even on empty street when he felt like turning to the street he would speed it up and did a really rough turn. He also space out a lot telling me hes just thinking about work.

He asked me the same questions again like when was my last bf. I asked him about him. He said last year but he has casual GF in between. I asked why things ended? he didin't want to answer he said too may reasons. this seems like a red flag.. if he can't talk about it means he is not over it.

During dinner he is really absent minded. he would reply work email or google work stuff. He seems to be numbing his emotional side with TV and work. Anyway He asked what will I be doing for xmas He said he is going away for a week. He doesn't want to see his parents, which appears that his relationship with his parents is pretty bad...

he said he hates crowds, used to got to bar but now he just prefer to stay at home. He even spent NYE alone at home last year...

He left me a few times, 1st time to "get something in the car" to smoke, then to wash his hands after shrimp, which is fair. Third time he went to buy heartburn tablet, 4th time he went to bathroom. I feel like he is totally absent Idk why he wants to see me.

When I went to wash my hands after my dinner I came out and he already paid and left, I looked up and he was waving at me from outside. Then he drove me home, he asked if I want to go to his to watch james bond movies. I shaked my head he said a bit late huh? I said mm yeah...

Then when we arrived he didn't try anything, he said he will talk to me soon. I said hope you feel better soon and good to see you. He said same enjoy your evening.

I honestly think this guy is emotionally unavailable. Other caps I know are not as absent as he is...

To be fair he does sound quite odd from all that together. About his past relationshio I think he simply doesn't want to share that experience,not that he's not over it. For the driving part...my ex Cap was a racer,we met actually racing each other on the street lol later he got more agressive and started driving bykes too...so might be they're prone to liking fast driving lol i asked my current Cap about it and he doesn't like driving at all so idk really. But that guy sure sounds pretty confusing I have to say. Won't say not good or bad but just confusing

Rich guy with no friends is kind of a drag what is to figure out?

@Malak It was more than just speeding, The way he cut corner and overtake ppl was as if he has lots of pent up frustration. Its Ok about not bad mouthing your ex, but you could at least make it brief about why didn't it work. As he asked me the same question as well...

His parents are only 20 mins away. He said he is lookign for someone with good family value but doesn't seem like he has good relationship with his own. Also telling me he is not a smoker but he already smoked twice tonight. First date he said only between drinks.

Basically no men should behaved the way he did tonight, he was not engaging, weird and absent. Unless something is up, not interested or he is just effed up. Either way it's not good.

My experience was awful tonight, I did not have fun, so not again.

Maybe he's always busy working and at a certain point he lost touch with people and just didn't have the time or energy to reconnect. It's hard to make new friends when you are an adult. I just moved to a new country and struggle because I work a lot as well. Like him, when I have free time, I just want to decompress.

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@RooSagicorn @Malak

He picked me up and took me to dinner, I was so scared with the way he drives, the way he accelerate and overtook other was really aggressive. Even on empty street when he felt like turning to the street he would speed it up and did a really rough turn. He also space out a lot telling me hes just thinking about work.

He asked me the same questions again like when was my last bf. I asked him about him. He said last year but he has casual GF in between. I asked why things ended? he didin't want to answer he said too may reasons. this seems like a red flag.. if he can't talk about it means he is not over it.

During dinner he is really absent minded. he would reply work email or google work stuff. He seems to be numbing his emotional side with TV and work. Anyway He asked what will I be doing for xmas He said he is going away for a week. He doesn't want to see his parents, which appears that his relationship with his parents is pretty bad...

he said he hates crowds, used to got to bar but now he just prefer to stay at home. He even spent NYE alone at home last year...

He left me a few times, 1st time to "get something in the car" to smoke, then to wash his hands after shrimp, which is fair. Third time he went to buy heartburn tablet, 4th time he went to bathroom. I feel like he is totally absent Idk why he wants to see me.

When I went to wash my hands after my dinner I came out and he already paid and left, I looked up and he was waving at me from outside. Then he drove me home, he asked if I want to go to his to watch james bond movies. I shaked my head he said a bit late huh? I said mm yeah...

Then when we arrived he didn't try anything, he said he will talk to me soon. I said hope you feel better soon and good to see you. He said same enjoy your evening.

I honestly think this guy is emotionally unavailable. Other caps I know are not as absent as he is...

I haven’t read on from this post yet but this description plus an earlier one reinforce that this is a waste of your time.

You had to contact him to arrange a second date. He didn’t contact you at all.

You chose to ‘go with the flow’ with him and accept a tentative date rather than a fixed date and time being arranged and confirmed.

He didn’t bother to confirm this date. You had to chase him up and what’s worse is that he already knew he couldn’t make but couldn’t be bothered to contact you because he feels you’re not important enough.

Stop excusing this guy’s behaviour. If he’s too busy to date then he should NOT be dating but people do this so you need to see he’s not available physically and emotionally and go and date someone else.

If you continue to chase this guy then you’ll end up dissatisfied. Find someone else. Seriously, go date other guys and see how it should be.

Posted by StrawberryJam
@Malak It was more than just speeding, The way he cut corner and overtake ppl was as if he has lots of pent up frustration. Its Ok about not bad mouthing your ex, but you could at least make it brief about why didn't it work. As he asked me the same question as well...

His parents are only 20 mins away. He said he is lookign for someone with good family value but doesn't seem like he has good relationship with his own. Also telling me he is not a smoker but he already smoked twice tonight. First date he said only between drinks.

Basically no men should behaved the way he did tonight, he was not engaging, weird and absent. Unless something is up, not interested or he is just effed up. Either way it's not good.

My experience was awful tonight, I did not have fun, so not again.

they're odd even by default I'd say...but if you had 2 dates with a guy and neither one of them was a really good date it's time to move away from that guy. He's quite older than you I'd say that makes difference too but should be stable at that age and he doesn't sound like that at all. Driving like that for a guy of his age makes no sense. Telling he's a non smoker but he smoke on both dates. Being nervous like that also doesn't make a good impression. Not talking about the ex I don't mind much cause simply he might not want to share experience whatever happened there, maybe was his fault, maybe her but he just doesn't feel comfortable saying it clearly. For example imagine if it was cause of cheating_ if he says she cheated on him you might get an idea something is wrong with him, he's not good enough etc. On the other hand if he cheated you may think he'll do it again. So it's a sword with double blade and he rather skipped it cause he didn't come up with a replacement story to tell lol Overall he gets pretty bad rating I'd say. When you're interested in someone you put at least some effort in it and he doesn't seem to be putting any so far

@AgentP911 I never asked him out or accept tentative date. It's me giving him a may be for second date and he had to chase me by calling.

@Malak @RooSagicorn

He's single for a reason, he is weird, nothing wrong with being introvert, his level is being paranoid around ppl. Also he was hiding something else, I always thought his background was arabic as he looks Arabic to me. He told me his background is European. Last night he finally Admin he is Arabic. He said they are Arabic but parents born in Europe. I think it's weird for ppl hide their heritage.

Never again, not saying never to caps, just never to him

@Cancervirgo15degrees

^ That's how I felt on first date, but thought I would give him another chance with open mind to get to know him better.I think he doesn't put any effort to develop relationship with himself either .

It's all about his work and road rage LOL