I [28F] feel dumb for confessing to a taurus man [25M]

January – April 2026

We spent months building a really close connection with a base of friendship. He is Chinese American. He and I have very similar values when it comes to family, relationships, and kids. During our conversations, he kept digging into my past and offering opinions on my personal life.

Whenever I brought up motherhood or what I look for in a man, he would completely lock eyes and focus on me. Taurus men and their intense gaze. He opened up about his toxic ex from a few years ago. I would compliment him at times and he would look like a deer in headlights or get nervous (I told him he was raised right, that he is respectful, loyal, emotionally guarded asf).

He started acting territorial. When I mentioned another guy was pursuing me, he told me to ghost him. We have mutual friends and even in group settings his eyes would always fixate on me.

On two separate occasions, that I should date a Chinese man. He went into detail about how Chinese men cook, clean, treat their wives generously, and share the exact same family values I have.

April

I finally confessed my feelings -> he friend zoned me lol.

May

I invited him to my birthday brunch. I text him, and he was warm, wished me a happy birthday, but said he had a conflict.

At a mutual friend's bday, I make casual conversation about jobs, and while he was responsive, he did nothing to keep the conversation going.

I deleted his number and stopped reaching out entirely.

June

We saw each other at a party. This time, I completely ignored him. I focused on my friends and never looked his way. He spent the entire night staring across the room at me.

Him: Taurus sun, pisces moon, aries mercury + venus, sag mars

Me: Gemini sun + moon + mars, aries venus, taurus mercury