I [28F] feel dumb for confessing to a taurus man [25M]

January – April 2026

We spent months building a really close connection with a base of friendship. He is Chinese American. He and I have very similar values when it comes to family, relationships, and kids. During our conversations, he kept digging into my past and offering opinions on my personal life.

Whenever I brought up motherhood or what I look for in a man, he would completely lock eyes and focus on me. Taurus men and their intense gaze. He opened up about his toxic ex from a few years ago. I would compliment him at times and he would look like a deer in headlights or get nervous (I told him he was raised right, that he is respectful, loyal, emotionally guarded asf).

He started acting territorial. When I mentioned another guy was pursuing me, he told me to ghost him. We have mutual friends and even in group settings his eyes would always fixate on me.

On two separate occasions, that I should date a Chinese man. He went into detail about how Chinese men cook, clean, treat their wives generously, and share the exact same family values I have.

April

I finally confessed my feelings -> he friend zoned me lol.

May

I invited him to my birthday brunch. I text him, and he was warm, wished me a happy birthday, but said he had a conflict.

At a mutual friend's bday, I make casual conversation about jobs, and while he was responsive, he did nothing to keep the conversation going.

I deleted his number and stopped reaching out entirely.

June

We saw each other at a party. This time, I completely ignored him. I focused on my friends and never looked his way. He spent the entire night staring across the room at me.

Him: Taurus sun, pisces moon, aries mercury + venus, sag mars

Me: Gemini sun + moon + mars, aries venus, taurus mercury

Well you sound cool and I'd say you handled it very well.

He also sounds cool, I think he likes you but as friends, maybe he would be ok with fwb but he seemed to respect and care for you and wanted you to find someone that's really in love with you and will be in serious relationship with you☺️

Posted by Polyannanana
Well you sound cool and I'd say you handled it very well.

He also sounds cool, I think he likes you but as friends, maybe he would be ok with fwb but he seemed to respect and care for you and wanted you to find someone that's really in love with you and will be in serious relationship with you☺️

Thank you, but he is not a fwb/casual dating type of man and neither am I.

He and I date for marriage.

You say you’re dating for marriage or basically courtship. I think it’s great you attempted to confess your feelings to see if anything progresses instead of wasting more of your time but tbh when it comes to potential marriage prospects it’s so important for the men to be the one who’s more forthcoming and take a strong lead. You don’t want to be the one coming off as chasing them into a marriage. It’s just been shown time and time that men need to be very clear and serious about marriage for more success. Their behavior and actions shouldn’t be confusing or conflicting. Every marriage where the women were more interested than the men have ended up in divorce way more often than not.

he's Taurus which is red flag for 20 yr courtship, plus cultural barrier if you're not Chinese anerican.

Air moons can't connect with water moons. You guys come off very superficial to us. Even if you think you had a "deep connection", his understanding of the said depth would still be somewhat shallow, because he requires more. I'm not sure if it's cultural thing, but water moons are not guarded, at first yes, but we open up as the relationship develops. If after knowing him for long, you still think he's guarded - that's a very bad sign.

Maybe he's extremely cautious? But then again, how can you get to know or be close to someone if you keep them at arms length. I think if you will be patient with them, they'll come around. Especially if he stared at you. But it does seem like a weird way to get to know someone. Maybe he's just reeaaallly slow.

Posted by mayboba98
January – April 2026

We spent months building a really close connection with a base of friendship. He is Chinese American. He and I have very similar values when it comes to family, relationships, and kids. During our conversations, he kept digging into my past and offering opinions on my personal life.

Whenever I brought up motherhood or what I look for in a man, he would completely lock eyes and focus on me. Taurus men and their intense gaze. He opened up about his toxic ex from a few years ago. I would compliment him at times and he would look like a deer in headlights or get nervous (I told him he was raised right, that he is respectful, loyal, emotionally guarded asf).

He started acting territorial. When I mentioned another guy was pursuing me, he told me to ghost him. We have mutual friends and even in group settings his eyes would always fixate on me.

On two separate occasions, that I should date a Chinese man. He went into detail about how Chinese men cook, clean, treat their wives generously, and share the exact same family values I have.

April

I finally confessed my feelings -> he friend zoned me lol.

May

I invited him to my birthday brunch. I text him, and he was warm, wished me a happy birthday, but said he had a conflict.

At a mutual friend's bday, I make casual conversation about jobs, and while he was responsive, he did nothing to keep the conversation going.

I deleted his number and stopped reaching out entirely.

June

We saw each other at a party. This time, I completely ignored him. I focused on my friends and never looked his way. He spent the entire night staring across the room at me.

Him: Taurus sun, pisces moon, aries mercury + venus, sag mars

Me: Gemini sun + moon + mars, aries venus, taurus mercury

What is it that makes you feel dumb?

Posted by SassyKiwi
You say you’re dating for marriage or basically courtship. I think it’s great you attempted to confess your feelings to see if anything progresses instead of wasting more of your time but tbh when it comes to potential marriage prospects it’s so important for the men to be the one who’s more forthcoming and take a strong lead. You don’t want to be the one coming off as chasing them into a marriage. It’s just been shown time and time that men need to be very clear and serious about marriage for more success. Their behavior and actions shouldn’t be confusing or conflicting. Every marriage where the women were more interested than the men have ended up in divorce way more often than not.

I agree, marriage only works when the man likes the woman just a lil bit more.

Posted by durp
he's Taurus which is red flag for 20 yr courtship, plus cultural barrier if you're not Chinese anerican.

I get the cultural barrier point but what do you mean taurus = red flag for 20 year courtship??

Posted by pisceanloves
Air moons can't connect with water moons. You guys come off very superficial to us. Even if you think you had a "deep connection", his understanding of the said depth would still be somewhat shallow, because he requires more. I'm not sure if it's cultural thing, but water moons are not guarded, at first yes, but we open up as the relationship develops. If after knowing him for long, you still think he's guarded - that's a very bad sign.

Valid, I just figured him opening up about his toxic ex (she abused him) = he was lowering his guard. That is all. I am an air sign through and through I love psychologically dissecting and analyzed my crushes.

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Posted by mayboba98
January – April 2026

We spent months building a really close connection with a base of friendship. He is Chinese American. He and I have very similar values when it comes to family, relationships, and kids. During our conversations, he kept digging into my past and offering opinions on my personal life.

Whenever I brought up motherhood or what I look for in a man, he would completely lock eyes and focus on me. Taurus men and their intense gaze. He opened up about his toxic ex from a few years ago. I would compliment him at times and he would look like a deer in headlights or get nervous (I told him he was raised right, that he is respectful, loyal, emotionally guarded asf).

He started acting territorial. When I mentioned another guy was pursuing me, he told me to ghost him. We have mutual friends and even in group settings his eyes would always fixate on me.

On two separate occasions, that I should date a Chinese man. He went into detail about how Chinese men cook, clean, treat their wives generously, and share the exact same family values I have.

April

I finally confessed my feelings -> he friend zoned me lol.

May

I invited him to my birthday brunch. I text him, and he was warm, wished me a happy birthday, but said he had a conflict.

At a mutual friend's bday, I make casual conversation about jobs, and while he was responsive, he did nothing to keep the conversation going.

I deleted his number and stopped reaching out entirely.

June

We saw each other at a party. This time, I completely ignored him. I focused on my friends and never looked his way. He spent the entire night staring across the room at me.

Him: Taurus sun, pisces moon, aries mercury + venus, sag mars

Me: Gemini sun + moon + mars, aries venus, taurus mercury

What is it that makes you feel dumb?

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I feel like I misread our connection I genuinely thought he had feelings for me lol

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Posted by mayboba98
January – April 2026

We spent months building a really close connection with a base of friendship. He is Chinese American. He and I have very similar values when it comes to family, relationships, and kids. During our conversations, he kept digging into my past and offering opinions on my personal life.

Whenever I brought up motherhood or what I look for in a man, he would completely lock eyes and focus on me. Taurus men and their intense gaze. He opened up about his toxic ex from a few years ago. I would compliment him at times and he would look like a deer in headlights or get nervous (I told him he was raised right, that he is respectful, loyal, emotionally guarded asf).

He started acting territorial. When I mentioned another guy was pursuing me, he told me to ghost him. We have mutual friends and even in group settings his eyes would always fixate on me.

On two separate occasions, that I should date a Chinese man. He went into detail about how Chinese men cook, clean, treat their wives generously, and share the exact same family values I have.

April

I finally confessed my feelings -> he friend zoned me lol.

May

I invited him to my birthday brunch. I text him, and he was warm, wished me a happy birthday, but said he had a conflict.

At a mutual friend's bday, I make casual conversation about jobs, and while he was responsive, he did nothing to keep the conversation going.

I deleted his number and stopped reaching out entirely.

June

We saw each other at a party. This time, I completely ignored him. I focused on my friends and never looked his way. He spent the entire night staring across the room at me.

Him: Taurus sun, pisces moon, aries mercury + venus, sag mars

Me: Gemini sun + moon + mars, aries venus, taurus mercury

What is it that makes you feel dumb?click to expand

I feel like I misread our connection I genuinely thought he had feelings for me lol

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You handled the rejection very well and respectfully and it's over now thankfully. It's not even meaningless that you asked him because he was showing some interest whether it was friendly or not and he probably understood how you could have misinterpreted that.

Him staring is probably just curiosity though, there is nothing that suggests otherwise. He had every opportunity to pursue you but he didn't. So it's time to completely forget him and move on 😊

Just don't beat yourself up about it, there so many supermodels or wonderful women reading signals wrong, getting rejected, cheated on, abandoned probably like every day!

Love/relationships are complicated. Never making mistakes means you haven't lived ! You will reject, get rejected , it's all normal and not a big deal at all.

Posted by mayboba98

Posted by pisceanloves
Air moons can't connect with water moons. You guys come off very superficial to us. Even if you think you had a "deep connection", his understanding of the said depth would still be somewhat shallow, because he requires more. I'm not sure if it's cultural thing, but water moons are not guarded, at first yes, but we open up as the relationship develops. If after knowing him for long, you still think he's guarded - that's a very bad sign.

Valid, I just figured him opening up about his toxic ex (she abused him) = he was lowering his guard. That is all. I am an air sign through and through I love psychologically dissecting and analyzed my crushes.

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You don't have much to go off from. If you can give me something more tangible, say, he gave you a thoughtful gift, remembered important details about you, little surprises here and there, any manifestation of care and worrying about you, or the things you've been going through, then I'd consider the situation more hopeful.

Water moons aside, unless you are a little girl, you need the man to put in the proper effort. To think about you, how to improve your life, the ways to be there for you, little and big things, all count. Even if a man says he wants to pick stars and lay on the ground for you - don't believe him, unless he proves his words with actions!

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Posted by mayboba98
January – April 2026

We spent months building a really close connection with a base of friendship. He is Chinese American. He and I have very similar values when it comes to family, relationships, and kids. During our conversations, he kept digging into my past and offering opinions on my personal life.

Whenever I brought up motherhood or what I look for in a man, he would completely lock eyes and focus on me. Taurus men and their intense gaze. He opened up about his toxic ex from a few years ago. I would compliment him at times and he would look like a deer in headlights or get nervous (I told him he was raised right, that he is respectful, loyal, emotionally guarded asf).

He started acting territorial. When I mentioned another guy was pursuing me, he told me to ghost him. We have mutual friends and even in group settings his eyes would always fixate on me.

On two separate occasions, that I should date a Chinese man. He went into detail about how Chinese men cook, clean, treat their wives generously, and share the exact same family values I have.

April

I finally confessed my feelings -> he friend zoned me lol.

May

I invited him to my birthday brunch. I text him, and he was warm, wished me a happy birthday, but said he had a conflict.

At a mutual friend's bday, I make casual conversation about jobs, and while he was responsive, he did nothing to keep the conversation going.

I deleted his number and stopped reaching out entirely.

June

We saw each other at a party. This time, I completely ignored him. I focused on my friends and never looked his way. He spent the entire night staring across the room at me.

Him: Taurus sun, pisces moon, aries mercury + venus, sag mars

Me: Gemini sun + moon + mars, aries venus, taurus mercury

What is it that makes you feel dumb?click to expand

I feel like I misread our connection I genuinely thought he had feelings for me lol

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It’s ok, it’s not healthy for you to dwell on feeling dumb about past actions.

It was done, he didn’t react to your expectations and it seems like expectations were misaligned or misread by you both. It happens.

But you have Gemini Sun + Aries Venus… that makes you fast and aggressive. Perhaps that just scared him off?

His Taurus energy hates fast and his Aries Venus doesn’t like it when someone else takes the lead. So, maybe there is something to learn there?

Just let it be. If he were interested, let him tell you in a clear direct way. Otherwise, don’t engage… he might just be playing with your emotions out of boredom.

But be kind to yourself. No need to feel dumb 🫶.

Posted by Mare-E-Sole

Posted by mayboba98

Posted by Mare-E-Sole

Posted by mayboba98
January – April 2026

We spent months building a really close connection with a base of friendship. He is Chinese American. He and I have very similar values when it comes to family, relationships, and kids. During our conversations, he kept digging into my past and offering opinions on my personal life.

Whenever I brought up motherhood or what I look for in a man, he would completely lock eyes and focus on me. Taurus men and their intense gaze. He opened up about his toxic ex from a few years ago. I would compliment him at times and he would look like a deer in headlights or get nervous (I told him he was raised right, that he is respectful, loyal, emotionally guarded asf).

He started acting territorial. When I mentioned another guy was pursuing me, he told me to ghost him. We have mutual friends and even in group settings his eyes would always fixate on me.

On two separate occasions, that I should date a Chinese man. He went into detail about how Chinese men cook, clean, treat their wives generously, and share the exact same family values I have.

April

I finally confessed my feelings -> he friend zoned me lol.

May

I invited him to my birthday brunch. I text him, and he was warm, wished me a happy birthday, but said he had a conflict.

At a mutual friend's bday, I make casual conversation about jobs, and while he was responsive, he did nothing to keep the conversation going.

I deleted his number and stopped reaching out entirely.

June

We saw each other at a party. This time, I completely ignored him. I focused on my friends and never looked his way. He spent the entire night staring across the room at me.

Him: Taurus sun, pisces moon, aries mercury + venus, sag mars

Me: Gemini sun + moon + mars, aries venus, taurus mercury

What is it that makes you feel dumb?click to expand

I feel like I misread our connection I genuinely thought he had feelings for me lol click to expand

It’s ok, it’s not healthy for you to dwell on feeling dumb about past actions.

It was done, he didn’t react to your expectations and it seems like expectations were misaligned or misread by you both. It happens.

But you have Gemini Sun + Aries Venus… that makes you fast and aggressive. Perhaps that just scared him off?

His Taurus energy hates fast and his Aries Venus doesn’t like it when someone else takes the lead. So, maybe there is something to learn there?

Just let it be. If he were interested, let him tell you in a clear direct way. Otherwise, don’t engage… he might just be playing with your emotions out of boredom.

But be kind to yourself. No need to feel dumb 🫶.

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Pisces and Cancer moon never plays, it's just not in us.

Posted by pisceanloves

Posted by Mare-E-Sole

Posted by mayboba98

Posted by Mare-E-Sole

Posted by mayboba98
January – April 2026

We spent months building a really close connection with a base of friendship. He is Chinese American. He and I have very similar values when it comes to family, relationships, and kids. During our conversations, he kept digging into my past and offering opinions on my personal life.

Whenever I brought up motherhood or what I look for in a man, he would completely lock eyes and focus on me. Taurus men and their intense gaze. He opened up about his toxic ex from a few years ago. I would compliment him at times and he would look like a deer in headlights or get nervous (I told him he was raised right, that he is respectful, loyal, emotionally guarded asf).

He started acting territorial. When I mentioned another guy was pursuing me, he told me to ghost him. We have mutual friends and even in group settings his eyes would always fixate on me.

On two separate occasions, that I should date a Chinese man. He went into detail about how Chinese men cook, clean, treat their wives generously, and share the exact same family values I have.

April

I finally confessed my feelings -> he friend zoned me lol.

May

I invited him to my birthday brunch. I text him, and he was warm, wished me a happy birthday, but said he had a conflict.

At a mutual friend's bday, I make casual conversation about jobs, and while he was responsive, he did nothing to keep the conversation going.

I deleted his number and stopped reaching out entirely.

June

We saw each other at a party. This time, I completely ignored him. I focused on my friends and never looked his way. He spent the entire night staring across the room at me.

Him: Taurus sun, pisces moon, aries mercury + venus, sag mars

Me: Gemini sun + moon + mars, aries venus, taurus mercury

What is it that makes you feel dumb?click to expand

I feel like I misread our connection I genuinely thought he had feelings for me lol click to expand

It’s ok, it’s not healthy for you to dwell on feeling dumb about past actions.

It was done, he didn’t react to your expectations and it seems like expectations were misaligned or misread by you both. It happens.

But you have Gemini Sun + Aries Venus… that makes you fast and aggressive. Perhaps that just scared him off?

His Taurus energy hates fast and his Aries Venus doesn’t like it when someone else takes the lead. So, maybe there is something to learn there?

Just let it be. If he were interested, let him tell you in a clear direct way. Otherwise, don’t engage… he might just be playing with your emotions out of boredom.

But be kind to yourself. No need to feel dumb 🫶.click to expand

Pisces and Cancer moon never plays, it's just not in us.

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Speak for yourself. I’ll play games all day long!

Posted by pisceanloves

Posted by Mare-E-Sole

Posted by mayboba98

Posted by Mare-E-Sole

Posted by mayboba98
January – April 2026

We spent months building a really close connection with a base of friendship. He is Chinese American. He and I have very similar values when it comes to family, relationships, and kids. During our conversations, he kept digging into my past and offering opinions on my personal life.

Whenever I brought up motherhood or what I look for in a man, he would completely lock eyes and focus on me. Taurus men and their intense gaze. He opened up about his toxic ex from a few years ago. I would compliment him at times and he would look like a deer in headlights or get nervous (I told him he was raised right, that he is respectful, loyal, emotionally guarded asf).

He started acting territorial. When I mentioned another guy was pursuing me, he told me to ghost him. We have mutual friends and even in group settings his eyes would always fixate on me.

On two separate occasions, that I should date a Chinese man. He went into detail about how Chinese men cook, clean, treat their wives generously, and share the exact same family values I have.

April

I finally confessed my feelings -> he friend zoned me lol.

May

I invited him to my birthday brunch. I text him, and he was warm, wished me a happy birthday, but said he had a conflict.

At a mutual friend's bday, I make casual conversation about jobs, and while he was responsive, he did nothing to keep the conversation going.

I deleted his number and stopped reaching out entirely.

June

We saw each other at a party. This time, I completely ignored him. I focused on my friends and never looked his way. He spent the entire night staring across the room at me.

Him: Taurus sun, pisces moon, aries mercury + venus, sag mars

Me: Gemini sun + moon + mars, aries venus, taurus mercury

What is it that makes you feel dumb?click to expand

I feel like I misread our connection I genuinely thought he had feelings for me lol click to expand

It’s ok, it’s not healthy for you to dwell on feeling dumb about past actions.

It was done, he didn’t react to your expectations and it seems like expectations were misaligned or misread by you both. It happens.

But you have Gemini Sun + Aries Venus… that makes you fast and aggressive. Perhaps that just scared him off?

His Taurus energy hates fast and his Aries Venus doesn’t like it when someone else takes the lead. So, maybe there is something to learn there?

Just let it be. If he were interested, let him tell you in a clear direct way. Otherwise, don’t engage… he might just be playing with your emotions out of boredom.

But be kind to yourself. No need to feel dumb 🫶.click to expand

Pisces and Cancer moon never plays, it's just not in us.

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The biggest player I know is a Pisces dominant female (Vigo Asc, Pisces Sun, Moon, Merc and Mars, Venus Cap)

And I believe @ERROR429 has a Cancer moon and also claimed he likes to “play”… 🤔

What you describe is just him being a decent friend.

Ya'll have similar values aka stuff in common. Friendship core.

He pays attention when you speak? Gasp /s. Yeah decent friendship move and bare minimum. I also expect my friends to listen to me when I speak.

He vented about a toxic ex... like friends do when they open up to their friends.

He looks for you aka familiarity aka his friend when in a group setting.

He thinks the men you date aren't good enough, that's not him in love that's a friend looking out.

He looks like a "deer in headlights" aka wary and startled when you compliment him because he views you as only friends.

I get why you might have read into him saying Chinese guys are best, so ask him if he has a friend or cousin to hook you up with.

Don't feel too embarrassed that you read into things. Happens to the best of us.

He probably is avoiding you now because he does genuinely care about you as a friend and doesn't want to lead you on or play with your feelings. Once you move past this reach out, let him know you value the friendship and want to get back to it. Assure him you have fully processed and moved past your silly crush.

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Posted by mayboba98

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Posted by mayboba98
January – April 2026

We spent months building a really close connection with a base of friendship. He is Chinese American. He and I have very similar values when it comes to family, relationships, and kids. During our conversations, he kept digging into my past and offering opinions on my personal life.

Whenever I brought up motherhood or what I look for in a man, he would completely lock eyes and focus on me. Taurus men and their intense gaze. He opened up about his toxic ex from a few years ago. I would compliment him at times and he would look like a deer in headlights or get nervous (I told him he was raised right, that he is respectful, loyal, emotionally guarded asf).

He started acting territorial. When I mentioned another guy was pursuing me, he told me to ghost him. We have mutual friends and even in group settings his eyes would always fixate on me.

On two separate occasions, that I should date a Chinese man. He went into detail about how Chinese men cook, clean, treat their wives generously, and share the exact same family values I have.

April

I finally confessed my feelings -> he friend zoned me lol.

May

I invited him to my birthday brunch. I text him, and he was warm, wished me a happy birthday, but said he had a conflict.

At a mutual friend's bday, I make casual conversation about jobs, and while he was responsive, he did nothing to keep the conversation going.

I deleted his number and stopped reaching out entirely.

June

We saw each other at a party. This time, I completely ignored him. I focused on my friends and never looked his way. He spent the entire night staring across the room at me.

Him: Taurus sun, pisces moon, aries mercury + venus, sag mars

Me: Gemini sun + moon + mars, aries venus, taurus mercury

What is it that makes you feel dumb?click to expand

I feel like I misread our connection I genuinely thought he had feelings for me lol click to expand

It’s ok, it’s not healthy for you to dwell on feeling dumb about past actions.

It was done, he didn’t react to your expectations and it seems like expectations were misaligned or misread by you both. It happens.

But you have Gemini Sun + Aries Venus… that makes you fast and aggressive. Perhaps that just scared him off?

His Taurus energy hates fast and his Aries Venus doesn’t like it when someone else takes the lead. So, maybe there is something to learn there?

Just let it be. If he were interested, let him tell you in a clear direct way. Otherwise, don’t engage… he might just be playing with your emotions out of boredom.

But be kind to yourself. No need to feel dumb 🫶.click to expand

Pisces and Cancer moon never plays, it's just not in us. click to expand

The biggest player I know is a Pisces dominant female (Vigo Asc, Pisces Sun, Moon, Merc and Mars, Venus Cap)

And I believe @ERROR429 has a Cancer moon and also claimed he likes to “play”… 🤔click to expand

Not really a player. I guess i was when i was younger.. but mostly because there were so many pretty girls 😆. all my relationships have been long term, though.. i like security knowing mys shit is locked down so I can focus on goals.. when i commit, which isnt fast, im locked in... i can predict when a business falls off.. as soon as the owner has marriage problems or, and this happens often, drugs... that shits toast before long.. i work super hard to have a stable base for myself and the people I love, contrary to how it may appear. Im social, and yes I flirt, but REAL access to me is not easy to get.

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Lol, so your playing depends entirely on the local beauty population?

Sounds less like a personality trait and more like a weather forecast: 0% chance of being a player if no pretty girls are present. 🤣😂Good to know!

I think Aries Venus plays hard to get. I’m a Leo Venus and I’ve never had the patience to get with one. They’ll chase you (as much as a Taurus can chase in your case) but when you show interest, they pull all the way back and lose interest. Then you stop, and they chase again, repeat 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Posted by pisceanloves

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Posted by mayboba98

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Posted by mayboba98
January – April 2026

We spent months building a really close connection with a base of friendship. He is Chinese American. He and I have very similar values when it comes to family, relationships, and kids. During our conversations, he kept digging into my past and offering opinions on my personal life.

Whenever I brought up motherhood or what I look for in a man, he would completely lock eyes and focus on me. Taurus men and their intense gaze. He opened up about his toxic ex from a few years ago. I would compliment him at times and he would look like a deer in headlights or get nervous (I told him he was raised right, that he is respectful, loyal, emotionally guarded asf).

He started acting territorial. When I mentioned another guy was pursuing me, he told me to ghost him. We have mutual friends and even in group settings his eyes would always fixate on me.

On two separate occasions, that I should date a Chinese man. He went into detail about how Chinese men cook, clean, treat their wives generously, and share the exact same family values I have.

April

I finally confessed my feelings -> he friend zoned me lol.

May

I invited him to my birthday brunch. I text him, and he was warm, wished me a happy birthday, but said he had a conflict.

At a mutual friend's bday, I make casual conversation about jobs, and while he was responsive, he did nothing to keep the conversation going.

I deleted his number and stopped reaching out entirely.

June

We saw each other at a party. This time, I completely ignored him. I focused on my friends and never looked his way. He spent the entire night staring across the room at me.

Him: Taurus sun, pisces moon, aries mercury + venus, sag mars

Me: Gemini sun + moon + mars, aries venus, taurus mercury

What is it that makes you feel dumb?click to expand

I feel like I misread our connection I genuinely thought he had feelings for me lol click to expand

It’s ok, it’s not healthy for you to dwell on feeling dumb about past actions.

It was done, he didn’t react to your expectations and it seems like expectations were misaligned or misread by you both. It happens.

But you have Gemini Sun + Aries Venus… that makes you fast and aggressive. Perhaps that just scared him off?

His Taurus energy hates fast and his Aries Venus doesn’t like it when someone else takes the lead. So, maybe there is something to learn there?

Just let it be. If he were interested, let him tell you in a clear direct way. Otherwise, don’t engage… he might just be playing with your emotions out of boredom.

But be kind to yourself. No need to feel dumb 🫶.click to expand

Pisces and Cancer moon never plays, it's just not in us. click to expand

The biggest player I know is a Pisces dominant female (Vigo Asc, Pisces Sun, Moon, Merc and Mars, Venus Cap)

And I believe @ERROR429 has a Cancer moon and also claimed he likes to “play”… 🤔click to expand

Not really a player. I guess i was when i was younger.. but mostly because there were so many pretty girls 😆. all my relationships have been long term, though.. i like security knowing mys shit is locked down so I can focus on goals.. when i commit, which isnt fast, im locked in... i can predict when a business falls off.. as soon as the owner has marriage problems or, and this happens often, drugs... that shits toast before long.. i work super hard to have a stable base for myself and the people I love, contrary to how it may appear. Im social, and yes I flirt, but REAL access to me is not easy to get. click to expand

Lol, so your playing depends entirely on the local beauty population?

Sounds less like a personality trait and more like a weather forecast: 0% chance of being a player if no pretty girls are present. 🤣😂Good to know!



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Lol what? The player part depended on my maturity level. I also did a lot of drugs back in those days. Sad truth is when youre decent looking, athletic, and a big party boy, women/girls do weird shit for your attention... i could tell you stories for days.... i dont even so much as drink now.... like i said in a previous post most of my relationships have been longer than most people's marriages. I dated a lot between relationships.. i dont just jump on the first chic that shows me attention.. and oh no! I do need to find her attractive.. crazy, I know.. so yeah, ive dated a lot of attractive women. I guess that made me a terrible person?

Oddly enough though, ive realized im incredibly drawn to eyes kver anything. Seems to be consistent between everyone ive been attracted to.

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lol… I’m just as confused as you. I think we are talking about completely different things.

This all started when I responded the following to OP Otherwise, don’t engage… he might just be playing with your emotions out of boredom.

I have a feeling you are talking about easy sex, while I was talking about playing with emotions, signaling, leading on just to see how far she goes on her (OP) own. Not because he is invested… BUT because he is curious and just wants to be entertained.

And my last post to you was just me running off with what you wrote: I guess i was when i was younger.. but mostly because there were so many pretty girls 😆 .

Just wanted to stop the derailment before this topic becomes a distant memory 😅👍.

OH😲!! Maybe you can help OP. She is a Gemini like your baby mama dealing with a Taurus man with your moon!

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January – April 2026

We spent months building a really close connection with a base of friendship. He is Chinese American. He and I have very similar values when it comes to family, relationships, and kids. During our conversations, he kept digging into my past and offering opinions on my personal life.

Whenever I brought up motherhood or what I look for in a man, he would completely lock eyes and focus on me. Taurus men and their intense gaze. He opened up about his toxic ex from a few years ago. I would compliment him at times and he would look like a deer in headlights or get nervous (I told him he was raised right, that he is respectful, loyal, emotionally guarded asf).

He started acting territorial. When I mentioned another guy was pursuing me, he told me to ghost him. We have mutual friends and even in group settings his eyes would always fixate on me.

On two separate occasions, that I should date a Chinese man. He went into detail about how Chinese men cook, clean, treat their wives generously, and share the exact same family values I have.

April

I finally confessed my feelings -> he friend zoned me lol.

May

I invited him to my birthday brunch. I text him, and he was warm, wished me a happy birthday, but said he had a conflict.

At a mutual friend's bday, I make casual conversation about jobs, and while he was responsive, he did nothing to keep the conversation going.

I deleted his number and stopped reaching out entirely.

June

We saw each other at a party. This time, I completely ignored him. I focused on my friends and never looked his way. He spent the entire night staring across the room at me.

Him: Taurus sun, pisces moon, aries mercury + venus, sag mars

Me: Gemini sun + moon + mars, aries venus, taurus mercury

What is it that makes you feel dumb?click to expand

I feel like I misread our connection I genuinely thought he had feelings for me lol click to expand

It’s ok, it’s not healthy for you to dwell on feeling dumb about past actions.

It was done, he didn’t react to your expectations and it seems like expectations were misaligned or misread by you both. It happens.

But you have Gemini Sun + Aries Venus… that makes you fast and aggressive. Perhaps that just scared him off?

His Taurus energy hates fast and his Aries Venus doesn’t like it when someone else takes the lead. So, maybe there is something to learn there?

Just let it be. If he were interested, let him tell you in a clear direct way. Otherwise, don’t engage… he might just be playing with your emotions out of boredom.

But be kind to yourself. No need to feel dumb 🫶.click to expand

Pisces and Cancer moon never plays, it's just not in us.click to expand

Speak for yourself. I’ll play games all day long!

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I was talking about emotionally mature adults, not you!

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January – April 2026

We spent months building a really close connection with a base of friendship. He is Chinese American. He and I have very similar values when it comes to family, relationships, and kids. During our conversations, he kept digging into my past and offering opinions on my personal life.

Whenever I brought up motherhood or what I look for in a man, he would completely lock eyes and focus on me. Taurus men and their intense gaze. He opened up about his toxic ex from a few years ago. I would compliment him at times and he would look like a deer in headlights or get nervous (I told him he was raised right, that he is respectful, loyal, emotionally guarded asf).

He started acting territorial. When I mentioned another guy was pursuing me, he told me to ghost him. We have mutual friends and even in group settings his eyes would always fixate on me.

On two separate occasions, that I should date a Chinese man. He went into detail about how Chinese men cook, clean, treat their wives generously, and share the exact same family values I have.

April

I finally confessed my feelings -> he friend zoned me lol.

May

I invited him to my birthday brunch. I text him, and he was warm, wished me a happy birthday, but said he had a conflict.

At a mutual friend's bday, I make casual conversation about jobs, and while he was responsive, he did nothing to keep the conversation going.

I deleted his number and stopped reaching out entirely.

June

We saw each other at a party. This time, I completely ignored him. I focused on my friends and never looked his way. He spent the entire night staring across the room at me.

Him: Taurus sun, pisces moon, aries mercury + venus, sag mars

Me: Gemini sun + moon + mars, aries venus, taurus mercury

What is it that makes you feel dumb?click to expand

I feel like I misread our connection I genuinely thought he had feelings for me lol click to expand

It’s ok, it’s not healthy for you to dwell on feeling dumb about past actions.

It was done, he didn’t react to your expectations and it seems like expectations were misaligned or misread by you both. It happens.

But you have Gemini Sun + Aries Venus… that makes you fast and aggressive. Perhaps that just scared him off?

His Taurus energy hates fast and his Aries Venus doesn’t like it when someone else takes the lead. So, maybe there is something to learn there?

Just let it be. If he were interested, let him tell you in a clear direct way. Otherwise, don’t engage… he might just be playing with your emotions out of boredom.

But be kind to yourself. No need to feel dumb 🫶.click to expand

Pisces and Cancer moon never plays, it's just not in us. click to expand

The biggest player I know is a Pisces dominant female (Vigo Asc, Pisces Sun, Moon, Merc and Mars, Venus Cap)

And I believe @ERROR429 has a Cancer moon and also claimed he likes to “play”… 🤔

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I'm not talking about toxic people and not surprised dxp attracts so many.

Posted by FknHell
I think Aries Venus plays hard to get. I’m a Leo Venus and I’ve never had the patience to get with one. They’ll chase you (as much as a Taurus can chase in your case) but when you show interest, they pull all the way back and lose interest. Then you stop, and they chase again, repeat 🤷🏻‍♀️

Heavily depends on the whole chart. My Pisces ex had that placement and he was committed within 2 weeks of us meeting, he also had a Cancer moon like myself, so idk 🤷‍♀️

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I think Aries Venus plays hard to get. I’m a Leo Venus and I’ve never had the patience to get with one. They’ll chase you (as much as a Taurus can chase in your case) but when you show interest, they pull all the way back and lose interest. Then you stop, and they chase again, repeat 🤷🏻‍♀️

Heavily depends on the whole chart. My Pisces ex had that placement and he was committed within 2 weeks of us meeting, he also had a Cancer moon like myself, so idk 🤷‍♀️

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Hey! The guy I’m talking about had those same placements. I think I might have ghosted before two weeks, but I was already playing mind games with someone else at the time. Just bad timing really.

Sorry op. Just approach him next time when he’s really staring into you. See if the conversation leads anywhere. Having low T at 25 is a bad sign I think…

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January – April 2026

We spent months building a really close connection with a base of friendship. He is Chinese American. He and I have very similar values when it comes to family, relationships, and kids. During our conversations, he kept digging into my past and offering opinions on my personal life.

Whenever I brought up motherhood or what I look for in a man, he would completely lock eyes and focus on me. Taurus men and their intense gaze. He opened up about his toxic ex from a few years ago. I would compliment him at times and he would look like a deer in headlights or get nervous (I told him he was raised right, that he is respectful, loyal, emotionally guarded asf).

He started acting territorial. When I mentioned another guy was pursuing me, he told me to ghost him. We have mutual friends and even in group settings his eyes would always fixate on me.

On two separate occasions, that I should date a Chinese man. He went into detail about how Chinese men cook, clean, treat their wives generously, and share the exact same family values I have.

April

I finally confessed my feelings -> he friend zoned me lol.

May

I invited him to my birthday brunch. I text him, and he was warm, wished me a happy birthday, but said he had a conflict.

At a mutual friend's bday, I make casual conversation about jobs, and while he was responsive, he did nothing to keep the conversation going.

I deleted his number and stopped reaching out entirely.

June

We saw each other at a party. This time, I completely ignored him. I focused on my friends and never looked his way. He spent the entire night staring across the room at me.

Him: Taurus sun, pisces moon, aries mercury + venus, sag mars

Me: Gemini sun + moon + mars, aries venus, taurus mercury

What is it that makes you feel dumb?click to expand

I feel like I misread our connection I genuinely thought he had feelings for me lol click to expand

It’s ok, it’s not healthy for you to dwell on feeling dumb about past actions.

It was done, he didn’t react to your expectations and it seems like expectations were misaligned or misread by you both. It happens.

But you have Gemini Sun + Aries Venus… that makes you fast and aggressive. Perhaps that just scared him off?

His Taurus energy hates fast and his Aries Venus doesn’t like it when someone else takes the lead. So, maybe there is something to learn there?

Just let it be. If he were interested, let him tell you in a clear direct way. Otherwise, don’t engage… he might just be playing with your emotions out of boredom.

But be kind to yourself. No need to feel dumb 🫶.click to expand

Pisces and Cancer moon never plays, it's just not in us.click to expand

Speak for yourself. I’ll play games all day long!click to expand

I was talking about emotionally mature adults, not you!click to expand

Is that why you didn’t include Scorpio moons when you said water moons lol?

Pfft all these men be playing, so do I! And also I think people who get married are crazy. I found out why I haven’t heard from my cancer friend after she married a Moroccan guy. I guess he got really controlling. Won’t let her hangout and made her kick her son out 😬 And also my Virgo friend met a Taurus man on the internet and married him after two weeks of knowing him…….. I just can’t with these women. I’m losing my respect.

Man I got off dxp to try and get away from the drama, but I’m drowning in it offline. This married Virgo guy I know has aqua moon (so does my Virgo friend) and it’s so weird because they’re both really into Christianity lol, but after she read his texts to me, she was like, this is not a Christian man lmao I fucking died. Anyway, that Scorpio wants to have a family of his own so I think I have to be out g idk though. He really has his shit together. Really good man honestly. If I wasn’t a piece of shit, I’d give it the old college try. I might try to help him find a girlfriend.

My family is losing it. My cancer moon cousin told me he hates his pregnant wife. I was like bro you’re stuck. And one of my other cousins (out of like 40 cousins. Not the cancer one who wanted to bang at my grandpas funeral btw) kicked my last surviving grandparent out after she gave her everything in the will. Shit is fucked up. Now she’s coming to live with me. I might try to get her to change the will hehehehehe

Sorry for the rant, but I appreciate dxp always being a place to vent.

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I didn't include scorpio moons, because I don't like them, they are borderline. Creepy, vindictive and vengeful. The guy that was stalking me had that moon and had to involve police, even though I asked many times nicely to leave me alone. Anytime I meet a scorpio moon, I make sure they stay away from me.

What a nightmare you are living.

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Posted by mayboba98
January – April 2026

We spent months building a really close connection with a base of friendship. He is Chinese American. He and I have very similar values when it comes to family, relationships, and kids. During our conversations, he kept digging into my past and offering opinions on my personal life.

Whenever I brought up motherhood or what I look for in a man, he would completely lock eyes and focus on me. Taurus men and their intense gaze. He opened up about his toxic ex from a few years ago. I would compliment him at times and he would look like a deer in headlights or get nervous (I told him he was raised right, that he is respectful, loyal, emotionally guarded asf).

He started acting territorial. When I mentioned another guy was pursuing me, he told me to ghost him. We have mutual friends and even in group settings his eyes would always fixate on me.

On two separate occasions, that I should date a Chinese man. He went into detail about how Chinese men cook, clean, treat their wives generously, and share the exact same family values I have.

April

I finally confessed my feelings -> he friend zoned me lol.

May

I invited him to my birthday brunch. I text him, and he was warm, wished me a happy birthday, but said he had a conflict.

At a mutual friend's bday, I make casual conversation about jobs, and while he was responsive, he did nothing to keep the conversation going.

I deleted his number and stopped reaching out entirely.

June

We saw each other at a party. This time, I completely ignored him. I focused on my friends and never looked his way. He spent the entire night staring across the room at me.

Him: Taurus sun, pisces moon, aries mercury + venus, sag mars

Me: Gemini sun + moon + mars, aries venus, taurus mercury

What is it that makes you feel dumb?click to expand

I feel like I misread our connection I genuinely thought he had feelings for me lol click to expand

It’s ok, it’s not healthy for you to dwell on feeling dumb about past actions.

It was done, he didn’t react to your expectations and it seems like expectations were misaligned or misread by you both. It happens.

But you have Gemini Sun + Aries Venus… that makes you fast and aggressive. Perhaps that just scared him off?

His Taurus energy hates fast and his Aries Venus doesn’t like it when someone else takes the lead. So, maybe there is something to learn there?

Just let it be. If he were interested, let him tell you in a clear direct way. Otherwise, don’t engage… he might just be playing with your emotions out of boredom.

But be kind to yourself. No need to feel dumb 🫶.click to expand

Pisces and Cancer moon never plays, it's just not in us.click to expand

Speak for yourself. I’ll play games all day long!click to expand

I was talking about emotionally mature adults, not you!click to expand

Is that why you didn’t include Scorpio moons when you said water moons lol?

Pfft all these men be playing, so do I! And also I think people who get married are crazy. I found out why I haven’t heard from my cancer friend after she married a Moroccan guy. I guess he got really controlling. Won’t let her hangout and made her kick her son out 😬 And also my Virgo friend met a Taurus man on the internet and married him after two weeks of knowing him…….. I just can’t with these women. I’m losing my respect.

Man I got off dxp to try and get away from the drama, but I’m drowning in it offline. This married Virgo guy I know has aqua moon (so does my Virgo friend) and it’s so weird because they’re both really into Christianity lol, but after she read his texts to me, she was like, this is not a Christian man lmao I fucking died. Anyway, that Scorpio wants to have a family of his own so I think I have to be out g idk though. He really has his shit together. Really good man honestly. If I wasn’t a piece of shit, I’d give it the old college try. I might try to help him find a girlfriend.

My family is losing it. My cancer moon cousin told me he hates his pregnant wife. I was like bro you’re stuck. And one of my other cousins (out of like 40 cousins. Not the cancer one who wanted to bang at my grandpas funeral btw) kicked my last surviving grandparent out after she gave her everything in the will. Shit is fucked up. Now she’s coming to live with me. I might try to get her to change the will hehehehehe

Sorry for the rant, but I appreciate dxp always being a place to vent.click to expand

I didn't include scorpio moons, because I don't like them, they are borderline. Creepy, vindictive and vengeful. The guy that was stalking me had that moon and had to involve police, even thought I asked many times nicely to leave me alone. Anytime I meet a scorpio moon, I make sure they stay away from me.

What a nightmare you are living.

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Idk I really like my life for the most part. It’s not that hard. lol you really are a cancer moon, bestie!

Posted by FknHell
Sorry op. Just approach him next time when he’s really staring into you. See if the conversation leads anywhere. Having low T at 25 is a bad sign I think…

sorry what do you mean by "having low T at 25"??

@ERROR429: Yeah I get where you are coming from. I am more sad about the friendship than the rejection atp. It is what it is.

Taurus suns are slow creatures and creatures of habit. You may have put your foot on the gas too soon and too quickly. Just some food for thought.

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Taurus suns are slow creatures and creatures of habit. You may have put your foot on the gas too soon and too quickly. Just some food for thought.

That is also valid, I know typical processing time is like a couple months lol when it comes to matters of the heart (My first love was a taurus man and my mother is also one).

Should I reach out to him in person (seeing him at a mutual friend's gathering) and be like hey let's put this behind us.

if it will help clear the air and move past the awkwardness. i think they can make good friends very w/ opposite gender. it could be literally for any reason (from his side), so try not to worry to much about it

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Should I reach out to him in person (seeing him at a mutual friend's gathering) and be like hey let's put this behind us.

No. I would act like nothing happened the next time you see him.