Gemini dilemma :(

Ok so a week ago today it was my birthday and I had party. I invited a few friends including a guy I really fancy who is a Gemini. Every time we go out out together(nightclub) we make out. At the end of my party he kissed me and it got intense and he told me he wanted to f*ck me.. so we went to his house and had sex. A couple nights later on snapchat I would send him snaps and he wouldn’t reply..3 nights in a row. I really like him but I don’t know where to go from this. I don’t personally want a relationship cause it wouldn’t work since I’m a cancer. How do I get him to take an interest in me or is playing hard to get a way to turn on a Gemini? Confused why he won’t reply tho..I have a bit of a problem with another girl who fancies him as well and they also kiss all the time she is an Aquarius so I guess they hit it off. She’s like competition tbh. How do I get to like me or for us to hit it off as well I’ll probably see him the next night we go out again.

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Posted by Cancerwoman17

Ok so a week ago today it was my birthday and I had party. I invited a few friends including a guy I really fancy who is a Gemini. Every time we go out out together(nightclub) we make out. At the end of my party he kissed me and it got intense and he told me he wanted to f*ck me.. so we went to his house and had sex. A couple nights later on snapchat I would send him snaps and he wouldn’t reply..3 nights in a row. I really like him but I don’t know where to go from this. I don’t personally want a relationship cause it wouldn’t work since I’m a cancer. How do I get him to take an interest in me or is playing hard to get a way to turn on a Gemini? Confused why he won’t reply tho..I have a bit of a problem with another girl who fancies him as well and they also kiss all the time she is an Aquarius so I guess they hit it off. She’s like competition tbh. How do I get to like me or for us to hit it off as well I’ll probably see him the next night we go out again.

Is this an old post? Because I remember this exact story.

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No it actually isn’t I haven’t used this account in months and just signed on this evening. So it’s a new one

Posted by Damous

Lol this is dumb as fuck. "I don't want a relationship cause it wouldn't work out since I'm a cancer." You do realize that you can date whoever you want, right? It's up to you two to make it work. He's probably enjoying fooling around with two girls, since that's what it sounds like

Actually I really do want a relationship with him I just don’t want to get my feelings hurt in the end up or ruin our friendship as well. After having sex it had made the feelings towards him a lot more stronger. I just dunno how I could get him into wanting a relationship with me . He was in one before last year and lasted 6 months till she broke up with him and actually kinda broke his heart. So maybe I think that might have scared him off. Like what I’m asking for help with is I love kissing him on nights out and getting dirty Idk if I should just let him come on to me from now or should I just go up to him and just kiss him and see where it leads?

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Posted by Damous

Lol this is dumb as fuck. "I don't want a relationship cause it wouldn't work out since I'm a cancer." You do realize that you can date whoever you want, right? It's up to you two to make it work. He's probably enjoying fooling around with two girls, since that's what it sounds like

Actually I really do want a relationship with him I just don’t want to get my feelings hurt in the end up or ruin our friendship as well. After having sex it had made the feelings towards him a lot more stronger. I just dunno how I could get him into wanting a relationship with me . He was in one before last year and lasted 6 months till she broke up with him and actually kinda broke his heart. So maybe I think that might have scared him off. Like what I’m asking for help with is I love kissing him on nights out and getting dirty Idk if I should just let him come on to me from now or should I just go up to him and just kiss him and see where it leads?

Sex alone is not going to get you into a relationship with a Gemini.

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What will though? How do you get them to kinda like you?

Erm if you don't want a relationship with him you can suggest an exclusive fwb and see if he's interested.

Posted by LadyNeptune

Erm if you don't want a relationship with him you can suggest an exclusive fwb and see if he's interested.

I do want a relationship but I just think it probably wouldn’t work cause his moods change like mad and it’s kinda hard on me cause I’m a cancer. So I thought being a cancer we we wouldn’t work out

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Erm if you don't want a relationship with him you can suggest an exclusive fwb and see if he's interested.

I do want a relationship but I just think it probably wouldn’t work cause his moods change like mad and it’s kinda hard on me cause I’m a cancer. So I thought being a cancer we we wouldn’t work out

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Stop over thinking things and just let it happen.

Posted by LethalFantasia

Most Geminis are not into FWB's. We just bang someone once and move on.

If there's really awesome chemistry and it's just easy and organic then we could possibly be interested in a relationship. But if you give it up too easily, and then send him two messages (when he didn't initiate the convo after the sex), we're pretty much gone.

Step back. Don't contact him. And see if he contacts you in the upcoming weeks. Yes, weeks, you have to have patience with Gems. Time goes by so fast in our lives and we tend to hold things off unless we're REALLY excited.

It wasn’t a message sent straight to him it was a video of me and sent it to the people closest to me on snapchat and then other said “snap me” but no reply. I kinda thought he would’ve since after what happened. I think I’m gonna hold off now cause it’s annoyed me cause I like him so much now and I know he doesn’t feel the same way so I’m just gonna stop kinda talking to him or going near him on nights out like as a group of friends we’re going out this Monday and I’ll see him then so I’ll probably not even pretend he’s there.

Posted by LadyNeptune

Erm if you don't want a relationship with him you can suggest an exclusive fwb and see if he's interested.

So I should just ask him to be fuck buddys but like no strings attached? How do I do that without making it weird? Like should I say something to him the next night we’re out together?

Posted by LethalFantasia

Most Geminis are not into FWB's. We just bang someone once and move on.

If there's really awesome chemistry and it's just easy and organic then we could possibly be interested in a relationship. But if you give it up too easily, and then send him two messages (when he didn't initiate the convo after the sex), we're pretty much gone.

Step back. Don't contact him. And see if he contacts you in the upcoming weeks. Yes, weeks, you have to have patience with Gems. Time goes by so fast in our lives and we tend to hold things off unless we're REALLY excited.

So fwb’s is out of the picture? That’s kinda the way we act tbh like that’s what our relationship consists of. I was thinking should I like say to him that I like just being fwb’s and see how he reacts and if we keep it that way like this isn’t the only time we’ve gotten intimate like.

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Erm if you don't want a relationship with him you can suggest an exclusive fwb and see if he's interested.

So I should just ask him to be fuck buddys but like no strings attached? How do I do that without making it weird? Like should I say something to him the next night we’re out together?

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Have you guys already fucked? Tell him you would enjoy some regular sex on the side, no strings. Let’s get tested. Let’s be exclusive fwb. It’s cool if you want to fuck someone else. Just let me know. Keep it 💯

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by Cancerwoman17

Posted by LadyNeptune

Erm if you don't want a relationship with him you can suggest an exclusive fwb and see if he's interested.

So I should just ask him to be fuck buddys but like no strings attached? How do I do that without making it weird? Like should I say something to him the next night we’re out together?

Have you guys already fucked? Tell him you would enjoy some regular sex on the side, no strings. Let’s get tested. Let’s be exclusive fwb. It’s cool if you want to fuck someone else. Just let me know. Keep it 💯

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Yeah we have. Oooh that sounds good. Might just do that because I like the fun out of it as well even if we aren’t together in a relationship I still like to get with him lol.

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Erm if you don't want a relationship with him you can suggest an exclusive fwb and see if he's interested.

So I should just ask him to be fuck buddys but like no strings attached? How do I do that without making it weird? Like should I say something to him the next night we’re out together?

Have you guys already fucked? Tell him you would enjoy some regular sex on the side, no strings. Let’s get tested. Let’s be exclusive fwb. It’s cool if you want to fuck someone else. Just let me know. Keep it 💯

Stupid advice

She has feelings for this guy

She need to completely stop everything

And deal with her attachment and emotions

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She does? But she says here she doesn’t see him as relationship material.

Posted by Black-Mamba

Posted by Cancerwoman17

Posted by LethalFantasia

Most Geminis are not into FWB's. We just bang someone once and move on.

If there's really awesome chemistry and it's just easy and organic then we could possibly be interested in a relationship. But if you give it up too easily, and then send him two messages (when he didn't initiate the convo after the sex), we're pretty much gone.

Step back. Don't contact him. And see if he contacts you in the upcoming weeks. Yes, weeks, you have to have patience with Gems. Time goes by so fast in our lives and we tend to hold things off unless we're REALLY excited.

So fwb’s is out of the picture? That’s kinda the way we act tbh like that’s what our relationship consists of. I was thinking should I like say to him that I like just being fwb’s and see how he reacts and if we keep it that way like this isn’t the only time we’ve gotten intimate like.

Lying to yourself will only get you in a worse place

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How am I lying to myself lol?

Posted by LadyNeptune

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by Cancerwoman17

Posted by LadyNeptune

Erm if you don't want a relationship with him you can suggest an exclusive fwb and see if he's interested.

So I should just ask him to be fuck buddys but like no strings attached? How do I do that without making it weird? Like should I say something to him the next night we’re out together?

Have you guys already fucked? Tell him you would enjoy some regular sex on the side, no strings. Let’s get tested. Let’s be exclusive fwb. It’s cool if you want to fuck someone else. Just let me know. Keep it 💯

Stupid advice

She has feelings for this guy

She need to completely stop everything

And deal with her attachment and emotions

She does? But she says here she doesn’t see him as relationship material.

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He definitely isn’t relationship material he isn’t a one woman man like he likes to experiment and try out all women. But he seems to just keep gravitating back to me. Like I like him but I grow a crush on someone every day and then they just go away. If he doesn’t show me real feelings it won’t really make me fall for him. If it’s just physically I can’t see how I’ll fall in love with that. I know myself better than anyone else.

Posted by LethalFantasia

Posted by Cancerwoman17

Posted by LethalFantasia

Most Geminis are not into FWB's. We just bang someone once and move on.

If there's really awesome chemistry and it's just easy and organic then we could possibly be interested in a relationship. But if you give it up too easily, and then send him two messages (when he didn't initiate the convo after the sex), we're pretty much gone.

Step back. Don't contact him. And see if he contacts you in the upcoming weeks. Yes, weeks, you have to have patience with Gems. Time goes by so fast in our lives and we tend to hold things off unless we're REALLY excited.

It wasn’t a message sent straight to him it was a video of me and sent it to the people closest to me on snapchat and then other said “snap me” but no reply. I kinda thought he would’ve since after what happened. I think I’m gonna hold off now cause it’s annoyed me cause I like him so much now and I know he doesn’t feel the same way so I’m just gonna stop kinda talking to him or going near him on nights out like as a group of friends we’re going out this Monday and I’ll see him then so I’ll probably not even pretend he’s there.

This is the perfect plan. And make sure you don't show you care. Have fun. Don't ignore him too much though, then he'll think your bitter. Just say "hi" and move on. If he talks to you, respond but act uninterested.

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Do you think I should say what @ladyneptune said with the FWB’S and about it being no strings attached?

Posted by LethalFantasia

Posted by Cancerwoman17

Posted by LethalFantasia

Posted by Cancerwoman17

Posted by LethalFantasia

Most Geminis are not into FWB's. We just bang someone once and move on.

If there's really awesome chemistry and it's just easy and organic then we could possibly be interested in a relationship. But if you give it up too easily, and then send him two messages (when he didn't initiate the convo after the sex), we're pretty much gone.

Step back. Don't contact him. And see if he contacts you in the upcoming weeks. Yes, weeks, you have to have patience with Gems. Time goes by so fast in our lives and we tend to hold things off unless we're REALLY excited.

It wasn’t a message sent straight to him it was a video of me and sent it to the people closest to me on snapchat and then other said “snap me” but no reply. I kinda thought he would’ve since after what happened. I think I’m gonna hold off now cause it’s annoyed me cause I like him so much now and I know he doesn’t feel the same way so I’m just gonna stop kinda talking to him or going near him on nights out like as a group of friends we’re going out this Monday and I’ll see him then so I’ll probably not even pretend he’s there.

This is the perfect plan. And make sure you don't show you care. Have fun. Don't ignore him too much though, then he'll think your bitter. Just say "hi" and move on. If he talks to you, respond but act uninterested.

Do you think I should say what @ladyneptune said with the FWB’S and about it being no strings attached?

No, you're going to come off too strong to say something like that right away.

After him not responding, he HAS to be the one to start conversation now.

I know this sounds horrible, difficult and weird but with Geminis you have to ease into things or we run away. Get to know him, be his friend, etc and then propose it to him.

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Technically we are already friends but we don’t have like real conversations or anything. So yeah I think that would be best.

Posted by LethalFantasia

Posted by Cancerwoman17

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Posted by Cancerwoman17

Posted by LethalFantasia

Posted by Cancerwoman17

Posted by LethalFantasia

Most Geminis are not into FWB's. We just bang someone once and move on.

If there's really awesome chemistry and it's just easy and organic then we could possibly be interested in a relationship. But if you give it up too easily, and then send him two messages (when he didn't initiate the convo after the sex), we're pretty much gone.

Step back. Don't contact him. And see if he contacts you in the upcoming weeks. Yes, weeks, you have to have patience with Gems. Time goes by so fast in our lives and we tend to hold things off unless we're REALLY excited.

It wasn’t a message sent straight to him it was a video of me and sent it to the people closest to me on snapchat and then other said “snap me” but no reply. I kinda thought he would’ve since after what happened. I think I’m gonna hold off now cause it’s annoyed me cause I like him so much now and I know he doesn’t feel the same way so I’m just gonna stop kinda talking to him or going near him on nights out like as a group of friends we’re going out this Monday and I’ll see him then so I’ll probably not even pretend he’s there.

This is the perfect plan. And make sure you don't show you care. Have fun. Don't ignore him too much though, then he'll think your bitter. Just say "hi" and move on. If he talks to you, respond but act uninterested.

Do you think I should say what @ladyneptune said with the FWB’S and about it being no strings attached?

No, you're going to come off too strong to say something like that right away.

After him not responding, he HAS to be the one to start conversation now.

I know this sounds horrible, difficult and weird but with Geminis you have to ease into things or we run away. Get to know him, be his friend, etc and then propose it to him.

Technically we are already friends but we don’t have like real conversations or anything. So yeah I think that would be best.

Yeah, if you guys aren't that close and comfortable, you don't need to throw him into the deep end with a question like that.

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When is a good time tho? Or should I post back about progress after a couple of times of seeing him?

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Erm if you don't want a relationship with him you can suggest an exclusive fwb and see if he's interested.

So I should just ask him to be fuck buddys but like no strings attached? How do I do that without making it weird? Like should I say something to him the next night we’re out together?

Have you guys already fucked? Tell him you would enjoy some regular sex on the side, no strings. Let’s get tested. Let’s be exclusive fwb. It’s cool if you want to fuck someone else. Just let me know. Keep it 💯

Stupid advice

She has feelings for this guy

She need to completely stop everything

And deal with her attachment and emotions

She does? But she says here she doesn’t see him as relationship material.

Cancers and most women can't compartmentalize

It takes a special person to be able to do that

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I couldn’t. I get attached through sex.

Posted by LadyNeptune

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by Cancerwoman17

Posted by LadyNeptune

Erm if you don't want a relationship with him you can suggest an exclusive fwb and see if he's interested.

So I should just ask him to be fuck buddys but like no strings attached? How do I do that without making it weird? Like should I say something to him the next night we’re out together?

Have you guys already fucked? Tell him you would enjoy some regular sex on the side, no strings. Let’s get tested. Let’s be exclusive fwb. It’s cool if you want to fuck someone else. Just let me know. Keep it 💯

Stupid advice

She has feelings for this guy

She need to completely stop everything

And deal with her attachment and emotions

She does? But she says here she doesn’t see him as relationship material.

Cancers and most women can't compartmentalize

It takes a special person to be able to do that

I couldn’t. I get attached through sex.

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Well yeah with the oxytocin going through my body I nearly blurted out I loved him hahahaha until I realised he wasn’t my bf.

If you guys are friends and run into each other all the time then you should not contact him anymore. You will see him again.

Just wait this one out so you don’t look clingy.

When you see him next don’t be awkward. Just be friendly and fun. I was with a Gemini a long time and we started out super casual. I don’t like titles but I do like being the only one. I’m not sure what to tell you about the other girl :/

Ok I’ve given up on him I realised I was growing feelings towards him and then I heard yesterday he tried taking the other girl to bed to fuck her and it really got to me so I think I just need to stay away from him. No point being FWB’S if I have feelings..

Next time a guy tells you he wants to fuck, consider it a huge red flag and press delete. Only exception if you are already in a relationship.

Posted by GemFallOut

Honestly.... Don't be offended by what I'm about to write here....

I'm a Gemini with Cancer placements in both my moon and mercury... and even with this... I don't tend to like Cancers, not like that. I just literally had a situation a few months back before dealing with a Scorpio for a minute and man... he got on my nerves literally the same night we met.

He came off very.... weird... and I wouldn't say clingy but you can tell from body language he was already attaching. Most of the night after talking to him I realized that even at such a young age (mid 20's) he had already been married to a girl and things happened and they separated... he was looking for that next girl to spend his life with and it showed in how he spoke, if he realised it or not. I didn't know him from the next guy so no.... it wasn't attractive.

It's true... Most of the guys I've dated it came from them laying low for a second and being friends with me and then bringing interest to the table... not completely verbally, but by how they treated me. Gemini's are smart and do see wayyyyy more than what people think we do. We usually don't verbalize or mention it and bank it away for later. He very much knows you want him. No matter what you say, as you don't match what you are saying with how you act. We notice things like that.

Honestly, he's a Gemini and he's enjoying the perks of that honestly. If he doesn't want to settle with anyone, he won't. Same with us girls. We will entertain a lot of people, but committing is a whole different story. Let him go. If you don't and hold out hope that he will notice you're different, you'll be sad when you realize you've folded into the same dream many girls do when it comes down to these types of guys... Not just Gemini men.

So you’re saying if I held on he’ll see me as different? That’ll just hurt me in the end up tho? Nah I was told a story about what he done to my friend he hurt him badly and it put me off him altogether. I wonder what things will be like next time. He’ll prob still chance me anyway no matter what happens with casual sex and kissing. I think by rejecting him will give him his answer.

Posted by Moonbutter

Next time a guy tells you he wants to fuck, consider it a huge red flag and press delete. Only exception if you are already in a relationship.

Yeah I think I’m gonna take your advice on that. I’m too young to be having casual no strings attached sex..

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Posted by GemFallOut

Honestly.... Don't be offended by what I'm about to write here....

I'm a Gemini with Cancer placements in both my moon and mercury... and even with this... I don't tend to like Cancers, not like that. I just literally had a situation a few months back before dealing with a Scorpio for a minute and man... he got on my nerves literally the same night we met.

He came off very.... weird... and I wouldn't say clingy but you can tell from body language he was already attaching. Most of the night after talking to him I realized that even at such a young age (mid 20's) he had already been married to a girl and things happened and they separated... he was looking for that next girl to spend his life with and it showed in how he spoke, if he realised it or not. I didn't know him from the next guy so no.... it wasn't attractive.

It's true... Most of the guys I've dated it came from them laying low for a second and being friends with me and then bringing interest to the table... not completely verbally, but by how they treated me. Gemini's are smart and do see wayyyyy more than what people think we do. We usually don't verbalize or mention it and bank it away for later. He very much knows you want him. No matter what you say, as you don't match what you are saying with how you act. We notice things like that.

Honestly, he's a Gemini and he's enjoying the perks of that honestly. If he doesn't want to settle with anyone, he won't. Same with us girls. We will entertain a lot of people, but committing is a whole different story. Let him go. If you don't and hold out hope that he will notice you're different, you'll be sad when you realize you've folded into the same dream many girls do when it comes down to these types of guys... Not just Gemini men.

So you’re saying if I held on he’ll see me as different? That’ll just hurt me in the end up tho? Nah I was told a story about what he done to my friend he hurt him badly and it put me off him altogether. I wonder what things will be like next time. He’ll prob still chance me anyway no matter what happens with casual sex and kissing. I think by rejecting him will give him his answer.

Yeah... No... That's not what I'm saying. If you continue to hold on to him and try for more with him, he'll lose all respect for you all together. At least I would. Why would I be with a girl seriously that will allow and watch me do whatever I wanted with any other woman and stick around? To me I would see that as low self-esteem and I wouldn't be drawn to that... at all. From what I've seen with my fellow Gem brothers, they tend to like challenges and also someone who they believe are on their level.. or higher. If that isn't in place they tend to not commit.

I wouldn't even give him a second chance. That fact that you say that to me lets me know that you aren't completey done with him. Idk. I personally truly am done with someone and there's no chances for anything. You literally almost die to me. Idk. Maybe that's the one Cancer trait I didn't inherit through my moon... lol

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Naw I totally am done with him. He’s not even a nice person either which makes it worse he’s just hot and has a cheeky personality hahahaha