help to reconcile with my gemini man

i had a fight with him because we were supposed to meet but he got caught talking to his friends, i sent him a long message talking about the fact that i think im not important and that maybe i wanted to force sth that wasnt meant to be, and it was best if i dont bother him anymore

afterwards, i got a reply from him saying that he completely forgot we had to meet and that me saying that hurt him deeply, now i thought about it and i think i should ve dealt with the situation differently

i appologised to him but he s not talking to me and it hurt so bad that i put us in this situation

between he is sun: gemini moon in virgo venus and mars in cancer

me: gemini sun venus in taurus and mars in cancer

any ideas of what i can do? anyone with his placements may help me?

Posted by Squishy_Marshmallow
You broke up with him because he was caught up with his friends?

Did he leave you stranded somewhere?

And you are a Gemini?!

You know why I'm single? Because I'm absent minded and I live in my own world. Most often I try hard to understand those i care about.And there are days when I get carried away and forget. Doesn't mean I don't care.

And that doesn't mean you should break up. We will show up when you need someone tho. But that's not enough in this world.

i didnt leave him stranded nor did i broke up with him but i gave him space thats alla

"i sent him a long message talking about the fact that i think im not important and that maybe i wanted to force sth that wasnt meant to be,"

Look....it seems that you exploded after bottling up for too long. Which means you have plenty of other reasons to think what you wrote above.

It could very well be that he was on his way out, but too coward (or indecisive) to say it's over. If this is the case, HE MADE you break up with him. You did not put him in this situation...HE DID, when he stood you up. And what else did he do, since your GUT is screaming at you that you are not important to him? Listen to your gut!

Haha, I don't hate Gemini! He's got a lot of Cancer, though....but, yes, good point about saying he was hurt.

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Posted by ufo
i get annoyed with flakes

It seems unintentionally though click to expand

maybe, but how do you forget your gf? click to expand

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Let's say he's so absent-minded that it happened once.

But then....his girlfriend calls to ask where he was....he apologizes and runs/takes taxi/drives immediately to the meeting point.

But this didn't happen! Why not?

It's most likely because he didn't want to!

I can assure you he will do it again.

Classic case of a flake... and he delfleted so well you ended up being the one apologising.

If you felt he didn't make you feel important trust yourself it's for a reason.

This is what they do.

Being absent minded doesn't mean you have to be an ass...

If you want to warns someone that you are running late or you want to reschedule there is always a way to do it while being respectful

I think the Gemini is trying to flip the situation on you and since you’re a gem too it’s like there’s 4 people involved lol

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Posted by lilyofthevalley987
i had a fight with him because we were supposed to meet but he got caught talking to his friends, i sent him a long message talking about the fact that i think im not important and that maybe i wanted to force sth that wasnt meant to be, and it was best if i dont bother him anymore

afterwards, i got a reply from him saying that he completely forgot we had to meet and that me saying that hurt him deeply, now i thought about it and i think i should ve dealt with the situation differently

i appologised to him but he s not talking to me and it hurt so bad that i put us in this situation

between he is sun: gemini moon in virgo venus and mars in cancer

me: gemini sun venus in taurus and mars in cancer



any ideas of what i can do? anyone with his placements may help me?

"I'm trying to force something that's not meant to be..."

"It's best if I don't bother you anymore..."

You tried to emotionally manipulate him and make him weak!
He isn't playing your game.


Maybe he will come back. We do- If we love someone. If it's not a clear break up, he might come back.
But if this has been an on going issue, idk.

And what did you tell him when he said he's hurt? click to expand

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actually i didnt try to manipulate him as you think but hes a complicated guy even for me a gemini woman. What i tried to say is that i wont intrude if he doesnt want me.i have my pride

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Posted by SuninLibra

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Posted by ufo
i get annoyed with flakes

It seems unintentionally though click to expand

maybe, but how do you forget your gf? click to expand

U r right too, but men will be men I guess I'm not trying to deffend them but every woman was forgotten at least once in her life it happens but if that was constant then yeah it is a red flag and he's a Gemini he was probably sunk into a very deep convo with his friends. Again am not defending anyone here just giving my opinion of the story. click to expand

men will be men, nah
gemini sunk into a very deep convo, nah

we made plans to meet, show up or at least notify you're going to be late, don't disregard the whole event click to expand

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actually what happened is that i called him for sth and he said that he was busy at the the moment but he ll come early to work and that we ll talk.we work together at the same place he did keep his word but when he got there i saw him but i was busy but he didnt approach me for me to understand that he was ready to talk. he went outside to the lobby and run into some of his friends and stayed there and the nature of our job we dont get a lot of time to talk.so when he got to work afterwards i left fuming then i sent the message

Posted by HearttofTopaz
Gemini men are like this. Best to not come at them with a huge emotional outburst because they’ll throw their own fit and try to have the last word. Lol

Just give him a break, and wait until you’re more collected emotionally before telling him what’s up next time. If he keeps doing it repeatedly then it’s obvious you’re not a priority. That’s with any man but I’ve noticed it with Gems the most.

actually he switched the tables on me saying that he ll respect my wish even though it hurts him to do so.i told him that i thought that it was what he wanted.he said when did i ever told you i want distance from you

he said that if i knew how much it hurts i wouldnt even think these thoughts

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Posted by SuninLibra

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Posted by ufo
i get annoyed with flakes

It seems unintentionally though click to expand

maybe, but how do you forget your gf? click to expand

U r right too, but men will be men I guess I'm not trying to deffend them but every woman was forgotten at least once in her life it happens but if that was constant then yeah it is a red flag and he's a Gemini he was probably sunk into a very deep convo with his friends. Again am not defending anyone here just giving my opinion of the story. click to expand

men will be men, nah


gemini sunk into a very deep convo, nah





we made plans to meet, show up or at least notify you're going to be late, don't disregard the whole event click to expand

But what do u think Op should do now? She wants him to forgive her click to expand

i have no idea, they're both being unreasonable maybe they should communicate before apologizing click to expand

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i tried to explain my reasons but to him i dont make any sense and he was really angry

I apologised now he only stares at me when im not looking and hes wallowing and pouting in his corner not talking to me for a week now. he doesnt talk to others too.i can see he is miserable but i m afraid to talk to him

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Posted by lilyofthevalley987

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Posted by SuninLibra

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Posted by SuninLibra

Posted by ufo

Posted by SuninLibra

Posted by ufo
i get annoyed with flakes

It seems unintentionally though click to expand

maybe, but how do you forget your gf? click to expand

U r right too, but men will be men I guess I'm not trying to deffend them but every woman was forgotten at least once in her life it happens but if that was constant then yeah it is a red flag and he's a Gemini he was probably sunk into a very deep convo with his friends. Again am not defending anyone here just giving my opinion of the story. click to expand

men will be men, nah




gemini sunk into a very deep convo, nah









we made plans to meet, show up or at least notify you're going to be late, don't disregard the whole event click to expand

But what do u think Op should do now? She wants him to forgive her click to expand

i have no idea, they're both being unreasonable maybe they should communicate before apologizing click to expand

i tried to explain my reasons but to him i dont make any sense and he was really angry

I apologised now he only stares at me when im not looking and hes wallowing and pouting in his corner not talking to me for a week now. he doesnt talk to others too.i can see he is miserable but i m afraid to talk to him click to expand

have you asked him why he's upset? don't give him reasons, just let him know how it made you feel without blaming him, that's the only way he won't feel attacked and will respond click to expand

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that is what i was thinking about.i m gonna tell him how i felt

thank you for your input

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Posted by lilyofthevalley987

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Posted by SuninLibra

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Posted by SuninLibra

Posted by ufo
i get annoyed with flakes

It seems unintentionally though click to expand

maybe, but how do you forget your gf? click to expand

U r right too, but men will be men I guess I'm not trying to deffend them but every woman was forgotten at least once in her life it happens but if that was constant then yeah it is a red flag and he's a Gemini he was probably sunk into a very deep convo with his friends. Again am not defending anyone here just giving my opinion of the story. click to expand

men will be men, nah


gemini sunk into a very deep convo, nah





we made plans to meet, show up or at least notify you're going to be late, don't disregard the whole event click to expand

actually what happened is that i called him for sth and he said that he was busy at the the moment but he ll come early to work and that we ll talk.we work together at the same place he did keep his word but when he got there i saw him but i was busy but he didnt approach me for me to understand that he was ready to talk. he went outside to the lobby and run into some of his friends and stayed there and the nature of our job we dont get a lot of time to talk.so when he got to work afterwards i left fuming then i sent the message click to expand

what kind of job do you have that won't allow you two to talk? anyways, y'all see each other often, so i think i can sense why he got upset probably cuz he thinks he didn't do anything wrong he was socializing and then you appeared to get possessive

all i know is gems like their friends and freedom click to expand

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yes thats exactly what he understood.he told me that he doesnt know where all this came from.and that it seems to him i m jealous.he even stopped talking to our female coworkers afterwards

he said i cant believe it all came from you.

Posted by lilyofthevalley987
actually what happened is that i called him for sth and he said that he was busy at the the moment but he ll come early to work and that we ll talk .we work together at the same place he did keep his word but when he got there i saw him but i was busy but he didnt approach me for me to understand that he was ready to talk. he went outside to the lobby and run into some of his friends and stayed there and the nature of our job we dont get a lot of time to talk.so when he got to work afterwards i left fuming then i sent the message click to expand

So he held up his end of the promise. You were too busy to talk. Thats on you, not him.

If you take every change of plan personally your not gonna last long with a gemini. I say this to you as a sensitive ass Pisces, irony. Seriously though, its not personal. He's interacting with his friends. Don't be needy and self-victimizing.

Also the more freedom you give him, the more he'll be up your ass. Gotta let go more so you can hold on tighter.