LIBRA/GEM

Okay met my gem on tinder (I'm currently seperated about to divorce) he's 32 I'm 29. He immediately asked to see me and I agreed, we did sleep together there was jusy something I couldnt say no to him! He asked to come by next day and he stayed the night having to drive back 2 hrs to work the next morning. He said I was different, unique, and that he really liked me. Asked me if I liked him and soending time with him. He spent the whole weekend with me the following week. Come to find out I know his family and they know me. Small world. Anyways, he said he wanted to see where things went. The sex is INTENSE eye contact the entire time. We laugh and just have fun with it. I see where Gems are hott and cold. He referred to me and him as "us" last night and is asking me where am i and what am i doing and if I go out he asks if I'm going out with my gf. Started asking me about my husband more but goes silent for hours..idk if I should continue seeing him as I am getting mixed messages, he said he doesnt want a relationship which I agreed no labels and to go with the flow (especially dealing with a divorce), but he acts different. He lives with friends in a condo in a big city and is well established in his career. I just have a feeling there is someone else or this isnt going to work. My moon sign is cancer he is a sun gemini moon cancer...any insight will help as this is my first Gem.

Posted by Libradoll
Okay met my gem on tinder (I'm currently seperated about to divorce) he's 32 I'm 29. He immediately asked to see me and I agreed, we did sleep together there was jusy something I couldnt say no to him! He asked to come by next day and he stayed the night having to drive back 2 hrs to work the next morning. He said I was different, unique, and that he really liked me. Asked me if I liked him and soending time with him. He spent the whole weekend with me the following week. Come to find out I know his family and they know me. Small world. Anyways, he said he wanted to see where things went. The sex is INTENSE eye contact the entire time. We laugh and just have fun with it. I see where Gems are hott and cold. He referred to me and him as "us" last night and is asking me where am i and what am i doing and if I go out he asks if I'm going out with my gf. Started asking me about my husband more but goes silent for hours..idk if I should continue seeing him as I am getting mixed messages, he said he doesnt want a relationship which I agreed no labels and to go with the flow (especially dealing with a divorce), but he acts different. He lives with friends in a condo in a big city and is well established in his career. I just have a feeling there is someone else or this isnt going to work. My moon sign is cancer he is a sun gemini moon cancer...any insight will help as this is my first Gem.

What is his Venus and Mars? What is yours?

He's one of those softy Gems... that Cancer Moon ? Seems like he's getting affections for you but just pace your selves otherwise it will burn out before it really started ?

Posted by Moonbutter
He's one of those softy Gems... that Cancer Moon ? Seems like he's getting affections for you but just pace your selves otherwise it will burn out before it really started ?

what do you mean burnout? I don't know how to deal with this gem. seriously I see where the women are confused. He asked to see me again this weekend i told him I could see him friday and saturday in the evening and then nothing for 4 hours. So i told him that somthing came up and this weekend wasn't good...now he's kinda freaking out I think. I don't do the silent treatment good, I find it to be rude and suspicious.

What is his Venus and Mars? What is yours?

updated, easier to read! this is what I have got, just in case you need more. I noticed we have allot of the same signs w/ planets

HIM- Venus is Taurus

Mars is Cancer

Jupiter is Aquarius

Saturn is Scorpio

Mercury is Cancer

Uranus is Sagittarius

Neptun is Capricorn

Pluto is Scorpio

Sun is Gemini

Moon Cancer

(didn't know exact time of birth so this could be wrong)

Me- Venus is Scorpio

Mars is Libra

Jupiter is Aries

Saturn is Sagittarius

Mercury is Scorpio

Uranus is Sagittarius

Neptun is Capricorn

Pluto is Scorpio

Sun is Libra

Moon Cancer

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Posted by Moonbutter
He's one of those softy Gems... that Cancer Moon ? Seems like he's getting affections for you but just pace your selves otherwise it will burn out before it really started ?

what do you mean burnout? I don't know how to deal with this gem. seriously I see where the women are confused. He asked to see me again this weekend i told him I could see him friday and saturday in the evening and then nothing for 4 hours. So i told him that somthing came up and this weekend wasn't good...now he's kinda freaking out I think. I don't do the silent treatment good, I find it to be rude and suspicious.

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Did he plan anything for you guys to do? What do you mean asked to see you?

Burn out meaning Gems go hard and then when you think you got them they fly away. Gotta pace... not see them all the time. Create intrigue and take him on a date something fun he will like .

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He's one of those softy Gems... that Cancer Moon ? Seems like he's getting affections for you but just pace your selves otherwise it will burn out before it really started ?

what do you mean burnout? I don't know how to deal with this gem. seriously I see where the women are confused. He asked to see me again this weekend i told him I could see him friday and saturday in the evening and then nothing for 4 hours. So i told him that somthing came up and this weekend wasn't good...now he's kinda freaking out I think. I don't do the silent treatment good, I find it to be rude and suspicious.

Did he plan anything for you guys to do? What do you mean asked to see you?

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He was wanting to go out and do something, anything i guess. Nothing planned he always leave it upto me. Told him i was going out with a guy friend and now he's drilling me with questions. Been seeing him a month on the 22nd. Kinda fast to be acting possessive ir di gems usually do this? He said he is looking to settle down and have kids eventually , told me that the second night we were together. Should I back off some?

Posted by Moonbutter
Burn out meaning Gems go hard and then when you think you got them they fly away. Gotta pace... not see them all the time. Create intrigue and take him on a date something fun he will like .

Ahh so they're tricky like that I see...its hard because its a long distance relationship we live 2 hrs apart. I did buy hin this adorable porcelain bird from an antique shop bc he loves to bird watch. Didn't seem to excited about it but he said he loved it and that he'd put it on his dresser in his room lol thought that was cute

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Posted by Moonbutter
Burn out meaning Gems go hard and then when you think you got them they fly away. Gotta pace... not see them all the time. Create intrigue and take him on a date something fun he will like .

Ahh so they're tricky like that I see...its hard because its a long distance relationship we live 2 hrs apart. I did buy hin this adorable porcelain bird from an antique shop bc he loves to bird watch. Didn't seem to excited about it but he said he loved it and that he'd put it on his dresser in his room lol thought that was cute

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Ok well he needs to put forth more effort .. woo you, be the man and lead. You need a man with a plan

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Okay met my gem on tinder (I'm currently seperated about to divorce) he's 32 I'm 29. He immediately asked to see me and I agreed, we did sleep together there was jusy something I couldnt say no to him! He asked to come by next day and he stayed the night having to drive back 2 hrs to work the next morning. He said I was different, unique, and that he really liked me. Asked me if I liked him and soending time with him. He spent the whole weekend with me the following week. Come to find out I know his family and they know me. Small world. Anyways, he said he wanted to see where things went. The sex is INTENSE eye contact the entire time. We laugh and just have fun with it. I see where Gems are hott and cold. He referred to me and him as "us" last night and is asking me where am i and what am i doing and if I go out he asks if I'm going out with my gf. Started asking me about my husband more but goes silent for hours..idk if I should continue seeing him as I am getting mixed messages, he said he doesnt want a relationship which I agreed no labels and to go with the flow (especially dealing with a divorce), but he acts different. He lives with friends in a condo in a big city and is well established in his career. I just have a feeling there is someone else or this isnt going to work. My moon sign is cancer he is a sun gemini moon cancer...any insight will help as this is my first Gem.

What do you expect if you don't want a relationship anyways? If you don't want a relationship, you are going to get treated the same way by most men.. :/ You want him to treat you like his girlfriend but not have the label of being his girlfriend it sounds like..

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I figured if i tokd him i did want a "label" then he would ghost so I thought about it and agree that we should just take it slow and see where it went he's the one that's reacting jealous and possessive

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Okay met my gem on tinder (I'm currently seperated about to divorce) he's 32 I'm 29. He immediately asked to see me and I agreed, we did sleep together there was jusy something I couldnt say no to him! He asked to come by next day and he stayed the night having to drive back 2 hrs to work the next morning. He said I was different, unique, and that he really liked me. Asked me if I liked him and soending time with him. He spent the whole weekend with me the following week. Come to find out I know his family and they know me. Small world. Anyways, he said he wanted to see where things went. The sex is INTENSE eye contact the entire time. We laugh and just have fun with it. I see where Gems are hott and cold. He referred to me and him as "us" last night and is asking me where am i and what am i doing and if I go out he asks if I'm going out with my gf. Started asking me about my husband more but goes silent for hours..idk if I should continue seeing him as I am getting mixed messages, he said he doesnt want a relationship which I agreed no labels and to go with the flow (especially dealing with a divorce), but he acts different. He lives with friends in a condo in a big city and is well established in his career. I just have a feeling there is someone else or this isnt going to work. My moon sign is cancer he is a sun gemini moon cancer...any insight will help as this is my first Gem.

What do you expect if you don't want a relationship anyways? If you don't want a relationship, you are going to get treated the same way by most men.. :/ You want him to treat you like his girlfriend but not have the label of being his girlfriend it sounds like..

I figured if i tokd him i did want a "label" then he would ghost so I thought about it and agree that we should just take it slow and see where it went he's the one that's reacting jealous and possessive

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I feel yah or rather put pressure on the relationship. I think as long you know he's open to a relationship and it can move into bf/gf and you guys are exclusive then no need to rush. The Gemini will bring it up when he's ready but don't wait longer then 5 months.

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why did you tell him you were going out with a guy friend? and not just a friend?

of course he is gonna start drilling you with questions! it sounds like you were trying to make him jealous.

4 hours of not responding is not "silent treatment". he could've been at work, hanging with a friend, in a movie, etc etc. claiming "something came up" bc he didnt text you immediately is game playing.

I can see where you would think that, I told him bc he asked and I wasn't going to lie about it.

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Okay met my gem on tinder (I'm currently seperated about to divorce) he's 32 I'm 29. He immediately asked to see me and I agreed, we did sleep together there was jusy something I couldnt say no to him! He asked to come by next day and he stayed the night having to drive back 2 hrs to work the next morning. He said I was different, unique, and that he really liked me. Asked me if I liked him and soending time with him. He spent the whole weekend with me the following week. Come to find out I know his family and they know me. Small world. Anyways, he said he wanted to see where things went. The sex is INTENSE eye contact the entire time. We laugh and just have fun with it. I see where Gems are hott and cold. He referred to me and him as "us" last night and is asking me where am i and what am i doing and if I go out he asks if I'm going out with my gf. Started asking me about my husband more but goes silent for hours..idk if I should continue seeing him as I am getting mixed messages, he said he doesnt want a relationship which I agreed no labels and to go with the flow (especially dealing with a divorce), but he acts different. He lives with friends in a condo in a big city and is well established in his career. I just have a feeling there is someone else or this isnt going to work. My moon sign is cancer he is a sun gemini moon cancer...any insight will help as this is my first Gem.

What do you expect if you don't want a relationship anyways? If you don't want a relationship, you are going to get treated the same way by most men.. :/ You want him to treat you like his girlfriend but not have the label of being his girlfriend it sounds like..

I figured if i tokd him i did want a "label" then he would ghost so I thought about it and agree that we should just take it slow and see where it went he's the one that's reacting jealous and possessive

I feel yah or rather put pressure on the relationship. I think as long you know he's open to a relationship and it can move into bf/gf and you guys are exclusive then no need to rush. The Gemini will bring it up when he's ready but don't wait longer then 5 months.

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Perfect thank you. Do you think he wants one now but is afraid to say something without my divorce being finalized?

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Okay met my gem on tinder (I'm currently seperated about to divorce) he's 32 I'm 29. He immediately asked to see me and I agreed, we did sleep together there was jusy something I couldnt say no to him! He asked to come by next day and he stayed the night having to drive back 2 hrs to work the next morning. He said I was different, unique, and that he really liked me. Asked me if I liked him and soending time with him. He spent the whole weekend with me the following week. Come to find out I know his family and they know me. Small world. Anyways, he said he wanted to see where things went. The sex is INTENSE eye contact the entire time. We laugh and just have fun with it. I see where Gems are hott and cold. He referred to me and him as "us" last night and is asking me where am i and what am i doing and if I go out he asks if I'm going out with my gf. Started asking me about my husband more but goes silent for hours..idk if I should continue seeing him as I am getting mixed messages, he said he doesnt want a relationship which I agreed no labels and to go with the flow (especially dealing with a divorce), but he acts different. He lives with friends in a condo in a big city and is well established in his career. I just have a feeling there is someone else or this isnt going to work. My moon sign is cancer he is a sun gemini moon cancer...any insight will help as this is my first Gem.

What do you expect if you don't want a relationship anyways? If you don't want a relationship, you are going to get treated the same way by most men.. :/ You want him to treat you like his girlfriend but not have the label of being his girlfriend it sounds like..

I figured if i tokd him i did want a "label" then he would ghost so I thought about it and agree that we should just take it slow and see where it went he's the one that's reacting jealous and possessive

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Sounds like he wants an exclusive fuck buddy. Use him to help you move on from your marriage but don't expect a relationship.

Tinder is just for hookups. People don't meet their fairytale ending on there. Js.

Take him at his word. He says he doesn't want a relationship, believe him.

People can act possessive and jealous over the one their fucking and still not want a commited relationship with them.

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Okay met my gem on tinder (I'm currently seperated about to divorce) he's 32 I'm 29. He immediately asked to see me and I agreed, we did sleep together there was jusy something I couldnt say no to him! He asked to come by next day and he stayed the night having to drive back 2 hrs to work the next morning. He said I was different, unique, and that he really liked me. Asked me if I liked him and soending time with him. He spent the whole weekend with me the following week. Come to find out I know his family and they know me. Small world. Anyways, he said he wanted to see where things went. The sex is INTENSE eye contact the entire time. We laugh and just have fun with it. I see where Gems are hott and cold. He referred to me and him as "us" last night and is asking me where am i and what am i doing and if I go out he asks if I'm going out with my gf. Started asking me about my husband more but goes silent for hours..idk if I should continue seeing him as I am getting mixed messages, he said he doesnt want a relationship which I agreed no labels and to go with the flow (especially dealing with a divorce), but he acts different. He lives with friends in a condo in a big city and is well established in his career. I just have a feeling there is someone else or this isnt going to work. My moon sign is cancer he is a sun gemini moon cancer...any insight will help as this is my first Gem.

What do you expect if you don't want a relationship anyways? If you don't want a relationship, you are going to get treated the same way by most men.. :/ You want him to treat you like his girlfriend but not have the label of being his girlfriend it sounds like..

I figured if i tokd him i did want a "label" then he would ghost so I thought about it and agree that we should just take it slow and see where it went he's the one that's reacting jealous and possessive

I feel yah or rather put pressure on the relationship. I think as long you know he's open to a relationship and it can move into bf/gf and you guys are exclusive then no need to rush. The Gemini will bring it up when he's ready but don't wait longer then 5 months.

Perfect thank you. Do you think he wants one now but is afraid to say something without my divorce being finalized?

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No it's too messy now... don't expect anything from him until he's emotionally connected to you. I had a long time Gem friend who acted jealous but it meant nothing so don't base off that.

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Okay met my gem on tinder (I'm currently seperated about to divorce) he's 32 I'm 29. He immediately asked to see me and I agreed, we did sleep together there was jusy something I couldnt say no to him! He asked to come by next day and he stayed the night having to drive back 2 hrs to work the next morning. He said I was different, unique, and that he really liked me. Asked me if I liked him and soending time with him. He spent the whole weekend with me the following week. Come to find out I know his family and they know me. Small world. Anyways, he said he wanted to see where things went. The sex is INTENSE eye contact the entire time. We laugh and just have fun with it. I see where Gems are hott and cold. He referred to me and him as "us" last night and is asking me where am i and what am i doing and if I go out he asks if I'm going out with my gf. Started asking me about my husband more but goes silent for hours..idk if I should continue seeing him as I am getting mixed messages, he said he doesnt want a relationship which I agreed no labels and to go with the flow (especially dealing with a divorce), but he acts different. He lives with friends in a condo in a big city and is well established in his career. I just have a feeling there is someone else or this isnt going to work. My moon sign is cancer he is a sun gemini moon cancer...any insight will help as this is my first Gem.

What do you expect if you don't want a relationship anyways? If you don't want a relationship, you are going to get treated the same way by most men.. :/ You want him to treat you like his girlfriend but not have the label of being his girlfriend it sounds like..

I figured if i tokd him i did want a "label" then he would ghost so I thought about it and agree that we should just take it slow and see where it went he's the one that's reacting jealous and possessive

I feel yah or rather put pressure on the relationship. I think as long you know he's open to a relationship and it can move into bf/gf and you guys are exclusive then no need to rush. The Gemini will bring it up when he's ready but don't wait longer then 5 months.

Perfect thank you. Do you think he wants one now but is afraid to say something without my divorce being finalized?

No it's too messy now... don't expect anything from him until he's emotionally connected to you. I had a long time Gem friend who acted jealous but it meant nothing so don't base off that.

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How do you know when they're emotionally connected and should I just back off and let him process?

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Okay met my gem on tinder (I'm currently seperated about to divorce) he's 32 I'm 29. He immediately asked to see me and I agreed, we did sleep together there was jusy something I couldnt say no to him! He asked to come by next day and he stayed the night having to drive back 2 hrs to work the next morning. He said I was different, unique, and that he really liked me. Asked me if I liked him and soending time with him. He spent the whole weekend with me the following week. Come to find out I know his family and they know me. Small world. Anyways, he said he wanted to see where things went. The sex is INTENSE eye contact the entire time. We laugh and just have fun with it. I see where Gems are hott and cold. He referred to me and him as "us" last night and is asking me where am i and what am i doing and if I go out he asks if I'm going out with my gf. Started asking me about my husband more but goes silent for hours..idk if I should continue seeing him as I am getting mixed messages, he said he doesnt want a relationship which I agreed no labels and to go with the flow (especially dealing with a divorce), but he acts different. He lives with friends in a condo in a big city and is well established in his career. I just have a feeling there is someone else or this isnt going to work. My moon sign is cancer he is a sun gemini moon cancer...any insight will help as this is my first Gem.

What do you expect if you don't want a relationship anyways? If you don't want a relationship, you are going to get treated the same way by most men.. :/ You want him to treat you like his girlfriend but not have the label of being his girlfriend it sounds like..

I figured if i tokd him i did want a "label" then he would ghost so I thought about it and agree that we should just take it slow and see where it went he's the one that's reacting jealous and possessive

Sounds like he wants an exclusive fuck buddy. Use him to help you move on from your marriage but don't expect a relationship.

Tinder is just for hookups. People don't meet their fairytale ending on there. Js.

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Good ans valid points, think I'll just let this one Gem go.