My roommate is a Gemini

He’s my really close friend but we have this problem.

He can’t stop running his mouth about people behind their backs and I find it so obnoxious, I know he does it about me because I know it’s in his character to but I really don’t care that he talks shit about me.

Here is the problem....he always gets a girlfriend and he brings her into my life and we will become friends and then the whole time he will bitch to me behind her back, he will send me ugly photos of her “he calls her ugly all the time” and then he will tell me he wants to dump her and then he goes on apps like plenty of fish or tinder and talk to girls behind her back......and next minuite they share pictures of tickets they bought together to go to Vietnam on Instagram, they are so fake...

As a result I’m disconnected from her and I hide in my room every time she comes over I just don’t want to have anything to do with her.

And he does the same with his sister, his sister and her boyfriend came over from Germany a week ago to stay with us and she doesn’t speak English and he’s just been bitching to me constantly about them the whole time they’ve been here and I literally can’t be in the same room of any of them when they’re here.

He told me his sister was talking shit about me behind my back about me being untidy (in my own house) and let me tell you I am not untidy at all, all the rooms are spotless. I don’t know if he’s lying to make me upset or something but now I feel really put off by his sister mainly for the fact that she’s acting like a spoilt brat especially after I paid for her uber and I let her eat my food.

I don’t know how I feel, I just moved into this place with him and I’m still settling in but I’m dealing with him as a room mate and I’m failing on my part.

toxic situation, he's not good to live together, move out

What a shitty friend. How do you even go along with this? For years i presume....

There is good in him it’s just that he’s really impulsive, the reason that we are good friends is because he’s seen my bad side, the side where I can’t control my anger and it has alienated me from a lot of friends and it’s something I’m ashamed of as a result of my PTSD and when I did lash out it didn’t scare him away and we talked it through and he has helped me in so many ways I owe him a lot financially.

I think maybe he just feels very comfortable around me to talk shit, he wants to go into business with me and open a food van and make a lot of money but I need to be able to trust him.

I’m an air sign too and I need to feel grounded for shit to take off and he just seems so fickle about everyThing.

I dunno I think I’m just scared about having a room mate, living with someone scares the shit out of me and already I’m locking myself in my room and I don’t want to feel uncomfortable in my own house, actually that’s exactly what is upsetting me, I hate feeling uncomfortable in my own house.

I remember when we were moving his shit out of his old place his old room mate was sitting down and playing PlayStation and when we left him and his girlfriend were telling me he’s always playing it and never have any friends over or does anything and I’m sitting there thinking “for fucks sake he works all week as an aero engineer if he wants to play his fucking game then what’s it to you”? It fucking pisses me off when people complain about other people’s lives.

Anyways rant over

Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
There is good in him it’s just that he’s really impulsive, the reason that we are good friends is because he’s seen my bad side, the side where I can’t control my anger and it has alienated me from a lot of friends and it’s something I’m ashamed of as a result of my PTSD and when I did lash out it didn’t scare him away and we talked it through and he has helped me in so many ways I owe him a lot financially.

I think maybe he just feels very comfortable around me to talk shit, he wants to go into business with me and open a food van and make a lot of money but I need to be able to trust him.

I’m an air sign too and I need to feel grounded for shit to take off and he just seems so fickle about everyThing.

I dunno I think I’m just scared about having a room mate, living with someone scares the shit out of me and already I’m locking myself in my room and I don’t want to feel uncomfortable in my own house, actually that’s exactly what is upsetting me, I hate feeling uncomfortable in my own house.

I remember when we were moving his shit out of his old place his old room mate was sitting down and playing PlayStation and when we left him and his girlfriend were telling me he’s always playing it and never have any friends over or does anything and I’m sitting there thinking “for fucks sake he works all week as an aero engineer if he wants to play his fucking game then what’s it to you”? It fucking pisses me off when people complain about other people’s lives.

Anyways rant over

Yep! Just a rant....just as I thought 😡

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

PS: That's what DXP is for!

Yea move out, not worth it he’s going to just bring you down and is already making you hate your life there