Why am I miserable?

Because I never will have________

If you want to talk about me - go ahead.

If you want to tell your story - please do.

If you know why other member is miserable (or suspect why) - just say it.

I’ll go first.

I am miserable because I don’t know what I want thus I will hardly find happiness ever in life…(I think)

I've been through a lot. Things that people wouldn't wish on their enemies. These things haunt me.

Made mistakes that I have tried to undo.

So much needs to be done that I get overwhelmed.

I get lost in the choices and it's tiring and draining.

I know what I want but lack a clear vision.

I know what I must do but it's painful because I weigh my choices against the effect of it on others. Just thinking about it all makes me want to sleep. There is no one I can share my thoughts and secrets with to help me sort it all out like I do for others.

To let it all go and start over means leaving behind people too. I feel the weight of all that.

Posted by DragonSag
Interesting, you said exact same thing that I would say🤷🏼‍♀️ I never know what I want and am never completely happy. I want random things but it all passes over time and things I wanted are no longer object of my desire. Same goes if I get something later instead of WHEN I wanted it. It always happens, with both things and people. Sure, lots of things make me happy, but I'm never fulfilled and I always want something that I don't/can't have. And ofc things I can't have are those I want the most🙄 no talk about luxury or expensive stuff in any of this.

I hate when it happens with me and people.

Things - I want and when I have it - I don’t want - it is a small grief.

But people…it makes me really miserable.

I wish I could appreciate whom I have more and what they do for me a lot more. And I do appreciate. It is just doesn’t make ME that happy one who is orgasming looking at pretty flower etc…🤷‍♀️

…because I don’t have a normally functioning brain, and therefore don’t have a normal life.

Posted by GemiMay
Because I never will have________

If you want to talk about me - go ahead.

If you want to tell your story - please do.

If you know why other member is miserable (or suspect why) - just say it.

I’ll go first.
I am miserable because I don’t know what I want thus I will hardly find happiness ever in life…(I think)

I'm miserable because I will ever have long legs and a pointed nose. Might sound silly but there's always that physical attractiveness we like that we don't have. So that's it for me. But so far, I'm feeling content with my life atm.

Posted by Lostthoughts
I've been through a lot. Things that people wouldn't wish on their enemies. These things haunt me.
Made mistakes that I have tried to undo.
So much needs to be done that I get overwhelmed.
I get lost in the choices and it's tiring and draining.
I know what I want but lack a clear vision.
I know what I must do but it's painful because I weigh my choices against the effect of it on others. Just thinking about it all makes me want to sleep. There is no one I can share my thoughts and secrets with to help me sort it all out like I do for others.
To let it all go and start over means leaving behind people too. I feel the weight of all that.

I don’t know if it’ll help…however I’ll give you an example because you said change you want will make affect on people.

When I had love affair with Scorpio we both were married and insanely in love however none of us was brave enough to end our marriages (short version). He kept saying ‘if I just could figure out how Not to hurt them’…

10 years later - I am out with Aries. He is having an affair with his daughter’s age Latina. He is Italian. His son found out and he’ll froze over. His whole family stopped speaking to him. His own brothers refused him. His lover fucked other people as well and he found out. He is in disaster THATS hard to overcome at age of 63!

So I swear IF he wasn’t so indecisive 15 years ago when he was still fairly young and I was there (I always held his hand and advised him best way possible) - by now we would have a good life. His family would heal and he would come to this age in better shape.

Unused to tell him - sooner or later you will have to hurt them! (His married life was bad)

He said I know…

He postponed. For too long.

I am just saying it in case your story is somewhat resonating.

And you MUST find someone to talk to.

You need to run it trough others ears. 🤝

Posted by GenericUsername
…because I don’t have a normally functioning brain, and therefore don’t have a normal life.

Were you diagnosed with something or you just saying it as we all posting some shit? 🤷‍♀️

Posted by GemiMay

Posted by GenericUsername
…because I don’t have a normally functioning brain, and therefore don’t have a normal life.

Were you diagnosed with something or you just saying it as we all posting some shit? 🤷‍♀️

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yes i was

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Posted by DragonSag
Interesting, you said exact same thing that I would say🤷🏼‍♀️ I never know what I want and am never completely happy. I want random things but it all passes over time and things I wanted are no longer object of my desire. Same goes if I get something later instead of WHEN I wanted it. It always happens, with both things and people. Sure, lots of things make me happy, but I'm never fulfilled and I always want something that I don't/can't have. And ofc things I can't have are those I want the most🙄 no talk about luxury or expensive stuff in any of this.

I hate when it happens with me and people.
Things - I want and when I have it - I don’t want - it is a small grief.
But people…it makes me really miserable.
I wish I could appreciate whom I have more and what they do for me a lot more. And I do appreciate. It is just doesn’t make ME that happy one who is orgasming looking at pretty flower etc…🤷‍♀️

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this what i think of geminis. they never seem content like they'll find something, get bored and then move on to something else. without very strong issues involved in it beyond intellectual stimulation. same way i feel about libras.

Posted by GenericUsername

Posted by GemiMay

Posted by GenericUsername

…because I don’t have a normally functioning brain, and therefore don’t have a normal life.

Were you diagnosed with something or you just saying it as we all posting some shit? 🤷‍♀️

yes i was

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UNCURABLE? Like there is no pills? There got to be…

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by GemiMay

Posted by DragonSag

Interesting, you said exact same thing that I would say🤷🏼‍♀️ I never know what I want and am never completely happy. I want random things but it all passes over time and things I wanted are no longer object of my desire. Same goes if I get something later instead of WHEN I wanted it. It always happens, with both things and people. Sure, lots of things make me happy, but I'm never fulfilled and I always want something that I don't/can't have. And ofc things I can't have are those I want the most🙄 no talk about luxury or expensive stuff in any of this.

I hate when it happens with me and people.

Things - I want and when I have it - I don’t want - it is a small grief.

But people…it makes me really miserable.

I wish I could appreciate whom I have more and what they do for me a lot more. And I do appreciate. It is just doesn’t make ME that happy one who is orgasming looking at pretty flower etc…🤷‍♀️

this what i think of geminis. they never seem content like they'll find something, get bored and then move on to something else. without very strong issues involved in it beyond intellectual stimulation. same way i feel about libras.

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Imagine my poor Virgo at the table between me and my Libra daughter?

He said he enjoyed himself immensely!

Still talking about her and how organic we are together.

She told me ‘I love how he reacts to your goofy comments’

I said HOW?

She said - he doesn’t! That’s what’s funny!

This was the first time I heard she thought of me as…’goofy’ when SHE is the one who is goofy!

In the end you are what you eat. It works mentally too. So essentially, if you dwell in miserable thoughts, you will be exactly that. There is always room and time to change and improve though. Think more positively, but on a personal level. The second you try to get others to see your open opinion on things you personally believe in is the moment you will 100% end up with bad vibes and problems. So it's best to take a step back, say fuck the world, and stop trying to convince or get people to see things from your perspective. The goal is to cut ties from all of that, and just see the world from a better light without anyone else outside of your household involved.

The biggest thing for me now is I don’t like where I live. I’ve wanted to move a long time but my kids are here so it’s tough. Now perhaps it’s more realistic since they are in their 20’s, but financially not so much. I hate the cold, the smoke is horrendous in the summers. But I do know I will figure it out one way or another. It’s just not quite time.

I was really miserable for awhile a few years back, felt stuck, and unhappy at the end of my marriage. Sometimes you just have to do what’s best for you. I spent a lot of time doing what was good for me & it’s really made a difference. Happiness is a funny thing. I went searching for it, but I don’t think it really works that way. It just comes & surprises you when you’re busy working towards things, out doing things you love, or listening to you’re favorite music. You realize you’re being all peppy, smiley & feel like dancing 😂😂 that’s what it’s like for me anyway. 🤷‍♀️😁

My glass is almost always half full, even now, when I'm 3 days overdue to finishing something important at work. My own self imposed deadline would be tomorrow though...

Today I wanted to work on the finishing touches. However, I injured my knee last night by falling on the ice (after helping and laughing at other people who did the same) and now I'm still at home, limping and considering going to the A&E for some x-rays...

I'll probably convince myself that is nothing serious and go finish my work instead.

Posted by Undine
My glass is almost always half full, even now, when I'm 3 days overdue to finishing something important at work. My own self imposed deadline would be tomorrow though...

Today I wanted to work on the finishing touches. However, I injured my knee last night by falling on the ice (after helping and laughing at other people who did the same) and now I'm still at home, limping and considering going to the A&E for some x-rays...

I'll probably convince myself that is nothing serious and go finish my work instead.

I meant more like ‘I am fat’ kind of misery…😂

But go check it out. Or wrap tightly. And come back here for more substantial misery report!

Posted by ImperfectStorm
I’m only miserable when I go too long without food or sleep. Otherwise I’m a pleasant person. Lol

Really? You don’t say…how…unfortunate for my thread! 🤷‍♀️

Posted by PuzzlePieces
The biggest thing for me now is I don’t like where I live. I’ve wanted to move a long time but my kids are here so it’s tough. Now perhaps it’s more realistic since they are in their 20’s, but financially not so much. I hate the cold, the smoke is horrendous in the summers. But I do know I will figure it out one way or another. It’s just not quite time.

I was really miserable for awhile a few years back, felt stuck, and unhappy at the end of my marriage. Sometimes you just have to do what’s best for you. I spent a lot of time doing what was good for me & it’s really made a difference. Happiness is a funny thing. I went searching for it, but I don’t think it really works that way. It just comes & surprises you when you’re busy working towards things, out doing things you love, or listening to you’re favorite music. You realize you’re being all peppy, smiley & feel like dancing 😂😂 that’s what it’s like for me anyway. 🤷‍♀️😁

I admire your courage and wishing you to move TF out! Money isn’t happiness though it’s part of it and being you - finding a job will be a breeze!!

Start looking for a job. Move and kids will follow. Do it before they marry someone who will make their move harder. 🎄

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Posted by GemiMay

Posted by ImperfectStorm
I’m only miserable when I go too long without food or sleep. Otherwise I’m a pleasant person. Lol

Really? You don’t say…how…unfortunate for my thread! 🤷‍♀️
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Consider yourself fortunate that anyone even participated

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This is so DUMB of you to say that because YOU…yourself participated. And WHEN have you ever seen my threads being not participated into? Silly ass…

Posted by Soul
In the end you are what you eat. It works mentally too. So essentially, if you dwell in miserable thoughts, you will be exactly that. There is always room and time to change and improve though. Think more positively, but on a personal level. The second you try to get others to see your open opinion on things you personally believe in is the moment you will 100% end up with bad vibes and problems. So it's best to take a step back, say fuck the world, and stop trying to convince or get people to see things from your perspective. The goal is to cut ties from all of that, and just see the world from a better light without anyone else outside of your household involved.

You ARE like to bullshit aren’t you?

I must admit you - sometimes - doing it so well - I even falling for your fantasies. I wish I saved that post about opinions of others and how doesn’t matter it is…bravo! 👋

Posted by GemiMay

Posted by PuzzlePieces
The biggest thing for me now is I don’t like where I live. I’ve wanted to move a long time but my kids are here so it’s tough. Now perhaps it’s more realistic since they are in their 20’s, but financially not so much. I hate the cold, the smoke is horrendous in the summers. But I do know I will figure it out one way or another. It’s just not quite time.

I was really miserable for awhile a few years back, felt stuck, and unhappy at the end of my marriage. Sometimes you just have to do what’s best for you. I spent a lot of time doing what was good for me & it’s really made a difference. Happiness is a funny thing. I went searching for it, but I don’t think it really works that way. It just comes & surprises you when you’re busy working towards things, out doing things you love, or listening to you’re favorite music. You realize you’re being all peppy, smiley & feel like dancing 😂😂 that’s what it’s like for me anyway. 🤷‍♀️😁

I admire your courage and wishing you to move TF out! Money isn’t happiness though it’s part of it and being you - finding a job will be a breeze!!
Start looking for a job. Move and kids will follow. Do it before they marry someone who will make their move harder. 🎄

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I need to wait til I get my license. That should happen by next summer. Financial is rent & and or buying property is super expensive where I want to go. That is the issue. I can work remote with current job so it would be an easier way to make the jump. Then maybe switch once there or not. Not sure about kids, if they will move it not. Possibly daughter eventually..they say I should go, my mother says to go. It’s only a plane ride away. Lol

I get bogged down in the details. Alone is difficult but I do know tons of people there. Anyway, have to get the license first.. that’s been part of the game plan. It’s weird how I feel so much better there, sunshine & warmth & just more my place there than here.

Only time I'm miserable is when I don't get my way and I'm pouting about it, it's self inflicted.

Life doesn't get me miserable since it can change so much day to day.

Maybe the fact that I haven't won the lottery makes me miserable, but I would have to play to win. Again, self inflicted.