why is he following random women?

I've been seeing this guy for the last year or so. We started off as friends and then he changed that by letting me know he had feelings for me and then it progressed in to more. Since we started as friends I feel like we still act like best friends, but it's more casual than intense in thr sense we are not verbally affectionate.with Each other you know how regular couples are, you could say it's becsuse we started as friends. However there is.still the playful teasing going on and joking around that he does with me. We see each other once a week or once every other week and we do speak regularly.

I feel like he is still attracted to me since he's usually the one who is more physical or starts it off. I guess.as the female I tend to not be all over him first if that makes.sense.

I understand that every guy is going to be attracted to more than one woman at a time. And I'm certain that I do find other guys good looking. But the difference between me andd him is my.instagram home page is not going to be flooded by photos of the opposite sex. He seems to follow a new woman every single day and there's hardly any celebrities just random women he doesn't know but he could easily get to know. im not.trying to be bigheaded but I'd say most of them are not massively more.attractive than I am. I just don't see the need for it really.

I have to live with knowing that everytime he logs on to instagram he will just be perving.away on all these.women.

But thats not what I want I want someone to focus on me and think about me not have his head filled.with images of other.women. I end up making sly digs at.him about how he's a little man slutt lol but in a joking way and he just laughs. Only yesterday he ws talking to me about kids and how we are going to hav kids and what he wants to name them.

I don't know if im over thinking.this or if it's alright for him to be that way? I mean I could easily do the same just perve on random guys who I don't even know but im not that type of person.

I just don't want to feel second rate and as if he doesn't find me that attractive.and.so he had.to keep looking at other women. And its just funny because h's so over protective of his phone he doesn't let me look at it. Even if I say let me look at your pictures or games or apps, just innocent stuff and he flinches all the time I try to get it off.him.

and it's not like a few women it's literally about a hundred or so, that he's following and it is majority women there might be one or two of his guy friends on there. gradually it's built up since he will follow a new one evryday. and as I said thyre not necessarily much better than me looks wise. I showed.some of my friends and they tend to agree. its not like I said he is following them is just showed them one or two photos of the women and I said how do they look to you. that sort of thing. like how women rate other.women.

I can't really say why this guy feels the need to follow random women on social media. It sounds stalkerish and waste of time. It's possible he just does it to get a rise out of you, then again it sounds like he was probably doing this before you two started dating.



From what you've said, your relationship is a bit more casual. It's possible he doesn't take it seriously. As you said you two act more or less like friends, but never speak to each other romantically. Seems odd to be in a romantic relationship without the romance, no? What you described sounds comparable to a friends with benefirts relationship (at least in spirit). Even if you two are boyfriend and girlfriend, the nature of the relationship you've described sounds casual.

The reality is, social media truly doesn't matter. I can understand how his behavior is annoying you, but you don't want to blow up this situation without just cause. If you find out that this guy is communicating with these random women, then there's definitely a problem. However if this guy is just following random women, as strange as it is, he hasn't done anything wrong.

Even still, it if makes you uncomfortable, just tell him. If he's unwilling to change his habit, then let him know that a relationship won't work because you feel disrespected.

Posted by Chuckcem
I can't really say why this guy feels the need to follow random women on social media. It sounds stalkerish and waste of time. It's possible he just does it to get a rise out of you, then again it sounds like he was probably doing this before you two started dating.



From what you've said, your relationship is a bit more casual. It's possible he doesn't take it seriously. As you said you two act more or less like friends, but never speak to each other romantically. Seems odd to be in a romantic relationship without the romance, no? What you described sounds comparable to a friends with benefirts relationship (at least in spirit). Even if you two are boyfriend and girlfriend, the nature of the relationship you've described sounds casual.

The reality is, social media truly doesn't matter. I can understand how his behavior is annoying you, but you don't want to blow up this situation without just cause. If you find out that this guy is communicating with these random women, then there's definitely a problem. However if this guy is just following random women, as strange as it is, he hasn't done anything wrong.

Even still, it if makes you uncomfortable, just tell him. If he's unwilling to change his habit, then let him know that a relationship won't work because you feel disrespected.

I couldnt log into peaches91 so Im replying from this account

other than the soppy Ness he pretty much speaks to me as if I am his other half so it's more implied. imnot gushy with him so maybe he isn't the same I dunno.

the thing is if it was just celebrities he was followig then I'd b fine but these are women who he can contact anytime, LIKE who live in the same city as us.

when we meet its all good but the inbetween time it's not as if we are talking 24/7 n then I see he's following yet another different woman so yeh your right it gets annoying.

but then again he does speak to me.about marriage and kids in an indirect way/jokey way he was saying how if I have his kid what to name him or her

Posted by Miaou
That would turn me off ...honestly.

Social media habits / attitude reveals a great deal.

yeh it does turn me off when I think about it and am not with him but then when ww meet its so much fun and laughter and he's so accommodating that I forget n im like is it really the same person.

Posted by peaches08

Posted by Chuckcem
I can't really say why this guy feels the need to follow random women on social media. It sounds stalkerish and waste of time. It's possible he just does it to get a rise out of you, then again it sounds like he was probably doing this before you two started dating.



From what you've said, your relationship is a bit more casual. It's possible he doesn't take it seriously. As you said you two act more or less like friends, but never speak to each other romantically. Seems odd to be in a romantic relationship without the romance, no? What you described sounds comparable to a friends with benefirts relationship (at least in spirit). Even if you two are boyfriend and girlfriend, the nature of the relationship you've described sounds casual.

The reality is, social media truly doesn't matter. I can understand how his behavior is annoying you, but you don't want to blow up this situation without just cause. If you find out that this guy is communicating with these random women, then there's definitely a problem. However if this guy is just following random women, as strange as it is, he hasn't done anything wrong.

Even still, it if makes you uncomfortable, just tell him. If he's unwilling to change his habit, then let him know that a relationship won't work because you feel disrespected.

I couldnt log into peaches91 so Im replying from this account

other than the soppy Ness he pretty much speaks to me as if I am his other half so it's more implied. imnot gushy with him so maybe he isn't the same I dunno.

the thing is if it was just celebrities he was followig then I'd b fine but these are women who he can contact anytime, LIKE who live in the same city as us.

when we meet its all good but the inbetween time it's not as if we are talking 24/7 n then I see he's following yet another different woman so yeh your right it gets annoying.

but then again he does speak to me.about marriage and kids in an indirect way/jokey way he was saying how if I have his kid what to name him or her

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Then you'll need to talk with him about it and let him know that it bothers you. If he doesn't change his behavior, then you can walk away from him.