Argh!!!!

Urm. Chatz, I'm feeling for you. Haven't settled down and don't expect to. So I wanted to share what my darling Libra has done.

We've been doing very well, I thought. She's helped with some business deals. I've helped her with several things. She "allows" me to take her out to lunch / dinner----THAT's what it feels like now. I THOUGHT we were enjoying each other's company. And I invited her out to a very important concert, a great musician buddy of mine, an excellent concert, and she did the ol' whimper backing-out-of-it routine with the excuse "people" might think we're something we're not (er, a couple—) and, without letting me respond to her, going on about how I feel differently about her than she does about me (my gosh, are we back to six, seven, eight, nine months ago—). So I brushed her off. I was going any way. And I just told her, "Too bad. You're going to miss a great concert."

She has the AUDACITY to ask me to do some favors for her while she's out of town next week. I'd have to rearrange my schedule quite a bit. DOESN'T bring up the concert of course. Or getting together. I'm just expected to do what she wants to do when she wants to do it. (THAT's the "Argh!!!!").

Grrrrrr. FIRE signs: blatantly honest, VERY good to Libras and . . . .HOT.

Frankly Atom, I wouldn't do those "favours"

Learn from my mistakes - it just isn't worth it if they aren't in the right place and she isn't.

Protect your heart. I am so glad though, that you went to the concert anyway and didn't miss out on her count. She has given you the answer you've been looking for though - she doesnt want anybody to think you guys are something you aren't. Listen to that - I didn't listen to mine, do yourself a favour and walk away 🙂

Sorry

kg. Thanks.

Chatz. You know how it goes. Thanks.

Please let her go, dont cantact this lady anymore or receive any from her till you dont have any feeling for her ! If you think she can become your friend or a good business contact then come back , otherwise just think her as a chapter of a boring book 🙂
Time can heal everything I think if you let it. Peace will come when we dont try to push or resist .
I hope you will feel better Atom . You re a very good man . You deserve someone much much much better than this "lady"- speak from the bottom of my heart 🙂

wow, seems like libra women have good game...i have to go back to the libra board and pick up a few pointers.

exam, I really appreciate your perspective and how you communicate it. I'll try to grasp that. HATE closing chapters, even boring ones, BUT if that's what it takes, that's what it takes! She will be GONE next week on a trip for about 3 days; so maybe that's a good start to start some new reading material.

tiki---don't even know how to respond to that. ALL of the Libra women I have met on this Board are fantastic and I believe sincere, no "game" with them. But you'll probably get a kick, from our expense, out of the see-saw rides Chatz and I have experienced from our Libran interests.

I love libras, never said any one (libra) in this forum play games, I said let me go over to there board and pick up a few pointers...

I notice alot of the behaviors that may perfectly well be a normal attribute for libras comes off as games, not insinuating they (libras) maliciously play games, this may just be a natural way of being for some libras but after reading your post, I took more time to lurk around over there and observe how some libra women keep men intrigued, the more I learn, I see its a natural ability that they carry, after all I'm an Aquarius and can be emotionally retarded from time to time and I need pointers on how to tune into my softer side.

I have complimented chatz, my exact words, she's a phenomenal woman, so no I don't get a kick out of any one persons hardships, sorry you feel that way (:

tiki, I think I understood what you meant. Libras are natural charmers. They can't help it. Most of them wouldn't think anyone else would think they're playing games. And I wasn't trying to insinuate you took joy in anyone's hardships, just that you could observe what's happened with the Lioness.

Tom, I've tried to keep up with your story over the last couple of months. It sincerely sounds like this girl is used to answering her every whim. You are being used but your judgement is clouded for some reason.

Of course she has the audacity to ask favors of you because you don't seem to question her on her motives. She sounds like the type of person who generally won't ask a question she doesn't already know the answer to.

You can find better.

"so maybe that's a good start to start some new reading material."

Or, maybe a new RELATIONSHIP... ** hint, hint, poke, poke **

"You can find better."

I concur. And, you deserve better, everyone does...

I am with Exam on the "dont talk to her until your over her" bus. It is the best bus at your particular station. Hop on it.

personally all that charm turns me off at a certain point, I have libra friends and I can only deal with them in doses, we have fun, fun, fun and thats addictive within itself but I crave a little bit more depth, I know libras have a deep side so I'm not judging but from my experience it takes loads and loads of patience to experience it and all of my libra friends have grand personalities and they get what they want even when they clearly are misbehaving, it takes a certain maturity to not use charm as a getting mechanism.

Maybe you need to take a break from her to see if your into her or into an illusion of who she is.

What if the charm is just a natural part of your personality? We can't help it, so I'm told.

In real life, I am fun, fun, fun. I do have a deep side, but I don't share.

I have an outlandish over the top personality. At this point, I constantly misbehave. I constantly charm, tease, flirt, play.

The longer I am out of a relationship, the more outlandish and over the top I am becoming. I live without limits and other people's definition. At this point, I am the ultimate free-spirit.

* Maybe you need to take a break from her to see if your into her or into an illusion of who she is.

This is actually very good advice. Someone who actually might get libra.

I love the charm but for me I can only take it in doses,

puhleeze no one take offense and if you do then please understand I don't mean it as a strike against libra's, I'm talking about my own perspective and experiences but too much charm gets on my nerves after so long, its like, turn it off already, I'm fully aware that its a personality trait, like I said I love libras and we do mesh well the Aqua/Libra connection but as I get older it just comes off as fake and again I'm fully aware of it being a personality trait so its not like I run away from libras, I chat it up and have fun but I tend to only be able to be around libras for a certain amount of time.

Libras are great people but the ones I know tend to not want to go deeper or not feel comfortable with it and I do so thats were we clash but other than that I can't think of anything that would prevent me from dating a libra.

LS:In real life, I am fun, fun, fun. I do have a deep side, but I don't share.

I know that Libra's have a deep side its a matter of the libra feeling comfortable enough to let the other person in.

actually I was trying to say that I know libra's have a deep side and LS confirmed that she has it but doesn't share...I always knew that this was part of the process with libra's and so I tend to have patience with them but I can't always be around them for long amounts of time.

There is great comfort with another air sign, maybe I'm jus getting old and cranky lol!!

I just can't be bothered.

I'd rather have fun.

Plus, I always find I have to explain everything. Sometimes it gets tiring. 🙂

see thats another way of seeing it LS, lol!!

tiring is all i need to hear to understand.

Yeah. Usually people are expressing opinions on things they have spent a few hours thinking about and I have spent twenty years thinking about and researching. It just becomes frustrating.

🙂

***What if the charm is just a natural part of your personality? We can't help it, so I'm told.***

In my experience with most libras this is the case. They are charming effortlessly, but I have heard of some using it to their advantage at times in getting what they want.

I myself, have used an attribute or two of my own to my advantage, but not in a way that might hurt another - all in fun, so it is okay to use your strong points to your advantage, ONLY IF IT DOESN'T HURT OTHERS... 😉

"I myself, have used an attribute or two of my own to my advantage, but not in a way that might hurt another - all in fun, so it is okay to use your strong points to your advantage, ONLY IF IT DOESN'T HURT OTHERS... "

You are a horrible, horrible, horrible, evil person!!! I have, of course, NEVER even dreamed of doing such evil, horrible things...


(you believed that, right?!?)

of course we believed *giggles*

Sweeeeeeeeeeet! Nice to hear Chatz giggling again!

oh Atom I always giggle, even at the worst of times....when I was little they called me smiley!! life is way too short. I get upset and depressed sometimes but its normally short-lived 🙂

So keep the giggles coming!!!

I wont advise any signs from aries to virgo to interpret what goes inside their polar opposites brain . Its easy for a libra-pisces to understand their polar opposites than aries-virgo attempting it.

Just what i hv been observing. can be wrong though.

tikki,

I know what you mean. I can only take other Libras in doses myself and I am one. To be completely honest, I get along with the Libra guys better than the girls...The libra guys, in my experience (your mileage may very) aren't nearly as happy go lucky and carelessly free spirited as the ladies. That part gets to me. I am HUGE on self control. Don't do "what you want" do what's right kind of thing.

"Usually people are expressing opinions on things they have spent a few hours thinking about and I have spent twenty years thinking about and researching. It just becomes frustrating."

Oh you ain't joking. I hate this to. A lot of people don't realize that short of Aqua, there probably isn't another sign that so completely researches the things that are important to us. The rule of thumb here is that if we have a really strong stance/opinion on it, we know more about it than you. And there is a really fine line between sharing info with people and thinking their life is wasted air because they are so strongly opinionated without knowng anything of what they speak comparitively.

If a libra male catch a libra girl while she is emotional, you win her in few days time. If she is your colleague, then you dont have to do anything in particular, she will get close to you automatically. There is the this same magnetic force. else its pretty hard work. There is always bit of ego clash. and sometimes they disappear for few months due to personal complications which libra men wont digest easily.

"A lot of people don't realize that short of Aqua, there probably isn't another sign that so completely researches the things that are important to us."

I think I could give you a run for your money on that one. You have yet to see my obsessive, compulsive, neurotic research into my varied interests. Something to look forward to... LOL!

Case in point, my more than 200 MB of astrology information I have downloaded and am carefully reading through. I would go get some hobbies, but I am still researching all of my options... LOL!

UNFORTUNATELY I had to see her last night and today to coordinate photos, etc., for this real estate deal I'm putting together. The schedule was all set up then she changed it at the last minute and went off on her own (I couldn't get away). She shows up later in the day to bring some paperwork---which she forget to bring with her when we met---I was a COLD FISH (which for Aries is a Herculean mental feat of self-control) and have PURPOSELY done everything not to touch her in anyway. The whole time she was talking with me she was winking away. I'm glad she'll be gone most of this week. It is certainly is hellish to go through.

Nico

Your self control is the Virgo in you. I am pretty sure of it.

Libra

Your probably right, especially the Virgo in mars. I like to analyse, then act. Pick your battles, forfeit when necessary and defeat when necessary. Keep your focus on teh goal and all of that good stuff.

Atom....THAT's self control!!!

Never thought Id see you write that you're glad she'll be away most of the week!!

Does this mean there is another lucky lady on the scene??

Chatz, you're so sweet. Nope. You're the only girl on my mind right now. (THINK one will probably show up on my radar soon. *fingers crossed*).

*blushes*