Check it out Libras/QS/N - whats my next move!!!!! (Page 2)

Should I pursue something with another Taurus? The only relationship I had with another Taurus was rocky. Is Taurus/Taurus compatible or are we too stubborn for each other?

yes, i'm scatterbrained...but you guys love me anyway and i'm going to ask what i want.....😛

Thanks Nic.

🙂

The thing that struck me about the whole hair issue was it was forcing intimacy. It is like saying you told me we are better off as friends but I am going to ignore what you say/what you want and force this issue anyway BECAUSE I KNOW BETTER.

The last Scorp, and it will be the last Scorp, I tried to date did the same thing. He didn't respect what I said. He figured he knew better. He was arrogant enough to assume he knew me better than I did. I exploded I was so angry because I told the truth and he insisted that I didn't know myself at all. (I am noticing a trend here.)

The one thing about Libras is we want to be respected. We may change our mind but we need to be respected. Not listening to us and taking us seriously is not happy for anyone.

I absolutely HATE being treated like a child who doesn't know better.

HP

Cancer or Pisces. 😉

snore

I don't know if the world could handle two Tauruses in one relationship. I think it would throw off the rotational orbit of the earth 😛

Kidding aside I think that you are right about the stubbornness. While a Libra deals with power struggles initially by being easygoing and aloof to show that our partner only controls us as much as we allow, Taurus come on strong in an effort to show the same thing. In the end we both just want some smooth sailing. Two ways of going about the same thing IMO.

Two of the same sign usually comes down to the same thing. A rewarding experience when it is good, a gruelingly frustrating experience when it's even slightly off kilter.

but that Venus power between Libra/Taurus....purrrrrrrrr

"I exploded I was so angry because I told the truth and he insisted that I didn't know myself at all. (I am noticing a trend here.)"

"Hell hath no fury like a Libra woman scorned" 😉

I totally agree with you. Don't tell me who I am, the whole basis of that kind of manipulation is going to result in a display of truth that so strong your going to immediately submit or retreat from. Which is the whole point. We just want things to be nice and easy, we don't want a show of force or be shown "what your made of", just sit back and enjoy....that is all we ask.

"but that Venus power between Libra/Taurus....purrrrrrrrr"

Amen to that. If yall could just calm down for a few minutes and let us just take it in 😉

I'm actually fairly calm. Scary calm is what Mr. Libra calls me.

we talked about the whole butt heads thing, i asked him once when we went bowling and i asked him whatelse he liked to do for fun. he thought i was knocking him like thats all he liked to do, but I only wanted to know just to get to know more about him. we discussed this after he said that so i dont think that was the issue after that, he just misunderstood me (i guess thats what scorps/libras do). since ive been on this site i have since understood him more. he seems to always answer my phone call (seems from past relationships, if he doesnt care for someone he just does not answer their calls)i dont think im being controlling if he says we are friends i should be able to be myself as well. since he does instigate the kissing/hugging i didnt think the hair thing was a big issue, which remember he could have said no and said ok instead. im confused.

im sure though you are all right - so my question is, libra's how can i fix this - if i totally ignore him i feel like he will think i do not care!!!—? so is that the final say so—? my fate is in your hands.

i seriuosly do let him make all the decisions, he seems irritated though if i cant decide where to eat, etc. so sometimes i feel i have to pick up the pace and not be a doormat.lol

remember this guy told me both his x's cheated on him!!!!!

Shirley

Given this even more thought. lol! Slow day at work.

Anyhow, even if you think you know better just go along with him. Agree. We like agreeable. We like agreeable a lot.

If you agree, then you are showing respect. He has the time to step back and go wow .. this person really respects me and what I want. Maybe I should rethink.

just a thought.

* Don't tell me who I am

high-fives Nic! Sing it brother. Sing it!

Shirley, I think you're investing too much of your heart into this. He's told you that the two of you butt heads and that you are better off as just friends. When was the last time HE initiated contacted with you?

Shirley

Just treat him like any other friend. It isn't your job to fix him. He is a big boy. Hopefully! (lmao sorry for the crass joke!)

He will either go wow ... this girl is great. She trusts me to do the right thing for both of us. OR you will find someone who fits you better and he misses out.

I know it is hard when you are in this place. Trust me. If you knew everything I have gone through with my last leo love.

I just don't believe love should be work. Especially in the beginning. It should be fun, playful, flirty. But work? no.

Shirley

Just treat him like any other friend. It isn't your job to fix him. He is a big boy. Hopefully! (lmao sorry for the crass joke!)

He will either go wow ... this girl is great. She trusts me to do the right thing for both of us. OR you will find someone who fits you better and he misses out.

I know it is hard when you are in this place. Trust me. If you knew everything I have gone through with my last leo love.

I just don't believe love should be work. Especially in the beginning. It should be fun, playful, flirty. But work? no.

sorry. stupid 'puter!

I agree with HP. Try to devest a little.

I know how hard it is. Trust me!

Go out with other guys and keep your options open. Just don't tell him or rub it in his face. Do it for yourself.

You are right HP but I also read that horoscope thread gem posted and it stated libras would rathr YOU do the pursuing so thats what i initially did. my bad.

yes, i know i will eventually tire of all this when someone comes along and sweeps me off my feet, yet again, and i have walked away on many occasion, but this one really gets me. and yes i have been going out with other guys but once in a great while he gets in my brain, like he really means to, over there somewhere, so then i have to call. egads.

how much do i owe you all for this session, better than a physc. lol

My theory is that it is bad for anyone woman to pursue a man because it throws a woman off balance, any woman. Female is receptive. Male is aggressive. When we go against this very nature, we get all twisted up and begin to get clingy, needy, desperate ... or at least appear that way. I also tend to think men find it kind of emasculating cause deep down they know they should pursue the woman and if she is so desperate she is pursuing him ... welll .... what is wrong with her?

It all links into my theory of downdating.

Men say they love being pursued but I think deep down they don't like it and definetly don't respect it.

If you pursue a man, I think it has to be done in such a way where he never knows or suspects that is what is going on.

I COULD be completely wrong.

I did not listen to my own advice in my latest leo encounter. I have lived to regret it deeply.

As for my fee ... I need a new MAC. Please send soon! lol!

Man-Acquired Complex?

wanna know something funny, ive never done this pursuing shtuff but my friends said, hey this is the twentieth century get with the program, so this is the first guy ive done this with, wouldnt ya know its the one that i actually liked and given me the grief. ugh u right ill go back to the proper ways.

not the end of the world, im actually dating another libra but he is quite different and he pursued and im keeping my distance, behaving. lol

20th century? thought it was the 21st.

Yeah, that's SO 90's 😛

See this is my theory ... I think when we pursue ... we get more attached because we have invested more. The more we invest, the more hurt we become when it isn't recipricated ... then we feel we need to try more ... and it just becomes a downward spiral.

I could be wrong. Just a thought I am playing with at the moment.

🙂

Yeah. I won't really be putting myself out there again. (shhh but I actually have cried because of my situation. shhhh.)

LS - here is what Libra #2 says, he doesnt talk much cause he really likes me and doesnt want to say the wrong thing—— explain away

* Man-Acquired Complex?

LOL!

I am pretty sure I have one of those.

Shirely, if you're involved in all of this astrology fluff, you need to realize that not all Libras are the same. In the case of Libra #2, his moon could be different than Libra #1

I have no idea. If he is being attentive, calling, making time for you, listening to the things you say and giving them back to you ... then he likes you a lot.

er i should say he doesnt say much about himself and what his likes/dislikes are. he doesnt go out much,doesnt like crowds, but takes me out—?movies, games, etc—??

He might be a quiet, shy guy.

Moon controls emotions, right?

LS - if it helps any i have trhee bros and a father who are leos. we were just talking, they love to be told what a great job they are doing and wonderful they are. heres what my leo bro said, he acts like he doesnt like a woman cause he knows women always want what they cant have, so they will come after you if they think you dont want them. lol what a game we all play.

Oh. He is being polite. I can be real cagey. It takes a long time for me to open up to someone. YEARS.

My friends would say, despite my attempts at conceit and narcissism, I am
actually quite self-effacing and even cagey. I rarely talk about myself and
am rarely serious. (I think this is true of most Libras. We never let on what we know in real life unless we REALLY trust you.) In fact, despite a very sunny affectionate disposition, I can be quite evasive.

* he acts like he doesnt like a woman cause he knows women always want what they cant have

I am facing this situation. He is being difficult even though I know he has sincere love and affection for me. There is nothing I can do but move on. He will either run after me ... or later regret it.

any of your brothers single?

LMAO!!!

Oh the other end of you question.

He takes you out means he likes you.

The only saving grace I have had in this whole thing with the Leo is that this is exactly how my best friend's husband treated her while they were dating. She had to dump his ass twice for him to smarten up.

Now, they are VERY happily married.

He knew she was it (not that I assume the Leo feels the same about me. I really don't know) but he wasn't ready. He would go two months without calling her. She would start dating other people because she assumed it was over, then he would lob a call telling her how she was it for him. He only saw her three, four times a year. I am not kidding.

anyhow time for me to go out.

Have a good night!

*she had to dump his ass twice for him to smarten up"

hopefully thats what my libra guy is doing to me lol, just kidding, have a good one and thanks to all