Dating someone with almost the same chart?

This topic was created in the Libra forum by heliumfiasco on Wednesday, July 5, 2017 and has 20 replies.

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@heliumfiasco
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So, I have been casually dating a man born 5 days before me. We have the exact same placements except moon. There is a certain calmness to the relationship. Passionate without much communication though. Which is strange for me because being a libra with lots of virgo in my chart I like to analyze, talk etc. But that just isnt happening. We hangout every week at least twice. He randomly told me he is terrible at relationships, scared to get hurt and didnt want to date. However, within 12 hours apologized for "fucking things up" and invited me to his house/ friends cookout for the weekend.

My question I guess is. Is it difficult to sustain a relationship with someone who is basically exactly like you. There is familiarity but also unusual confusion. What are your thoughts on dating your astrological twin?

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@PhoenixRising
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If you're willing to face some of the things you put out there being mirrored back to you, it can work fine. It doesn't look the same, which is the magic of it, but it is the same. For example, maybe his analyzing happens more internally for him, hence the random confession. It can help you stretch yourself a little bit.

I dated my astro twin. Born same day/year, so our chart were identical, with the exception of our Rising sign. I am not sure what his was.

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@heliumfiasco
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Posted by tiziani
Isn't it meant to be the best indicator for marriage in astrology?

Or maybe it's just same sign relationships.

You know, I'm really not too familiar on if it that's the case. I havent found much on that.

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I didn't date him..But known him for a while. I'm not sure if we're unpredictably predictable or predictably unpredictable. We're soooo alike to the point that we know what will be our next reply or move like. We're so damn comfortable with each other. The best part is we also want same things from life n share common values which is more cool.I don't think it's difficult to sustain a relationship with him at all. But maybe it can get too boring.. which I'm actually kinda fine with. N why am I not with him? That's also coz of the laughably same reason ??which we can probably overcome if we give it a try.

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Posted by tiziani
Isn't it meant to be the best indicator for marriage in astrology?

Or maybe it's just same sign relationships.

Actually, I just remembered. You're right. We did our synastry(or was it short report partner?) on astro.com. N never did I ever get more positive things to read. It seemed so perfect ?

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@heliumfiasco
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Posted by Teena
I didn't date him..But known him for a while. I'm not sure if we're unpredictably predictable or predictably unpredictable. We're soooo alike to the point that we know what will be our next reply or move like. We're so damn comfortable with each other. The best part is we also want same things from life n share common values which is more cool.I don't think it's difficult to sustain a relationship with him at all. But maybe it can get too boring.. which I'm actually kinda fine with. N why am I not with him? That's also coz of the laughably same reason ??which we can probably overcome if we give it a try.

This is exactly how I feel. Its so great, but i'm also like extremely scared. I feel myself holding back quite a bit and I feel him doing the same. I've had The worst luck in relationships the last year. I cant tell if this going abnormally easy or about to explode. haha So strange.

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@Teena
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Posted by tiziani

Posted by Teena

Posted by tiziani
Isn't it meant to be the best indicator for marriage in astrology?

Or maybe it's just same sign relationships.

Actually, I just remembered. You're right. We did our synastry(or was it short report partner?) on astro.com. N never did I ever get more positive things to read. It seemed so perfect ?

With a Scorpio?

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Yup.. scorpio...

Moon, Venus n Mercury in Sag

Asc Libra

We also laughed at how positive it was. Didn't happen before.

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@Teena
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Posted by heliumfiasco

Posted by Teena
I didn't date him..But known him for a while. I'm not sure if we're unpredictably predictable or predictably unpredictable. We're soooo alike to the point that we know what will be our next reply or move like. We're so damn comfortable with each other. The best part is we also want same things from life n share common values which is more cool.I don't think it's difficult to sustain a relationship with him at all. But maybe it can get too boring.. which I'm actually kinda fine with. N why am I not with him? That's also coz of the laughably same reason ??which we can probably overcome if we give it a try.

This is exactly how I feel. Its so great, but i'm also like extremely scared. I feel myself holding back quite a bit and I feel him doing the same. I've had The worst luck in relationships the last year. I cant tell if this going abnormally easy or about to explode. haha So strange.

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Usually I get very scared too. But with this guy, I somehow knew we're gonna work if we actually give it a go. He always thought so too.

Maybe you should try?

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@Teena
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Now that I talk/think about it, I'm wondering why I actually didn't give it a go. It feels weird now. I mean we both did like each other a lot n it was so fun n we both talked about how we'd be great together too. We both could see a future with each other. He was also great looking (which I'm not actually a fan of)What's wrong with me? Maybe we were too alike n comfortable to feel any passion or drive. But that's kinda fine with me.I'm confused now?

I won't be surprised if we actually do give this a try in the future tho... sometime when we feel like it. We're pretty good friends.

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@Lilianni
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The closest person I've gotten to dating who had the closest birth chart to me was someone who's birthday was 15 days later. Our outter planets were the same, rising moved by one sign, and inner planets shifted a bit. It was a very intuitive relationship. Didn't work out, but if we had to see each other again, I feel like we'd still have some compassion for each other.

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Posted by tiziani

Posted by Teena
Now that I talk/think about it, I'm wondering why I actually didn't give it a go. It feels weird now. I mean we both did like each other a lot n it was so fun n we both talked about how we'd be great together too. We both could see a future with each other. He was also great looking (which I'm not actually a fan of)What's wrong with me? Maybe we were too alike n comfortable to feel any passion or drive. But that's kinda fine with me.I'm confused now?

I won't be surprised if we actually do give this a try in the future tho... sometime when we feel like it. We're pretty good friends.

LOL exactly the same with me and Libra women

only once did it ever go beyond just getting to know one another, but otherwise it's so comfortable there's no threat and no way to find the sparkplug.

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??

I totally get that. But maybe when we're looking to settle we'll be fine with not having this spark thing..or am I wrong?

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My friend's dating someone for the past 2 months who has the same placements as him for the most part. Says it's been amazing and they understand each other so well. Communication is great and so forth. I'd give it a go if I were you, what do you have to lose?

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Posted by tiziani

Posted by Teena

Posted by tiziani

Posted by Teena
Now that I talk/think about it, I'm wondering why I actually didn't give it a go. It feels weird now. I mean we both did like each other a lot n it was so fun n we both talked about how we'd be great together too. We both could see a future with each other. He was also great looking (which I'm not actually a fan of)What's wrong with me? Maybe we were too alike n comfortable to feel any passion or drive. But that's kinda fine with me.I'm confused now?

I won't be surprised if we actually do give this a try in the future tho... sometime when we feel like it. We're pretty good friends.

LOL exactly the same with me and Libra women

only once did it ever go beyond just getting to know one another, but otherwise it's so comfortable there's no threat and no way to find the sparkplug.

??

I totally get that. But maybe when we're looking to settle we'll be fine with not having this spark thing..or am I wrong?

I've no idea. For every couple out there that regrets getting involved when there was no passion at the beginning, there's another happy couple that found the spark as they went along. It's a lottery.

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That's so true.

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happened to me once! same placements but different moons 🙂 dating was good but, quickly went back to friendship (till today)...It was the feeling like just something... that didn't meant to happen 😆 the attraction was/is strong buuuuuuut nnnahh..

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I'd like to know someone born the same day and year as me, or maybe a day later at most. Moon makes a huge difference, IMO. They can be male or female -- I just want to know what a true "twin" is like astrologically.

I met someone who was born a few days after me. I enjoyed talking to him. It felt very natural and we had similar perspectives on a few things. I felt some attraction, but he was in a relationship so no go.

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Having the same or similar placements doesn't mean they won't conflict with each other, and I would actually wager that this is the case more often than not, especially if in a relationship with such a person.

That said, your moon placement alone being different sets you two miles apart. It's pretty much the same as being different sun signs. Perhaps even more different.

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