Decisions, Decisions (Page 3)

I know...courtesy seems to be an elusive trait with these.

HP, they always set back and see what you will do, once they know they have your interest... Just wait, have fun, go out with the other guys and mark my word he will start calling a lot more than texting once he see he has lost that control.

HP, to say I told you so is mean. So, I been married to one for 6 years and recently just ended a friendship with bene's with one.. Now only friends w/o bene's so far. I am hanging in there with rejecting the bene's. The Libra will always run from conflict or any kind of uneasiness. That is who they are. You have to except that. Never try to pin them down. When he is ready to talk he will come to you, trust. That is just their way as it is the most anoying thing in the world!!! As a scorpio, I am true to my word as you the taurus. Libras (men) don't mean not to be true to their word. They avoid because they care not because they don't.

In the end the decision is always yours. Never expect them to make a final decision on almost anything involving the two of you. Trust I know.

He won't answer my text messages or answer my calls. I texted him twice and called him twice.

I am now determined at this point to let him know he's not worth my time...just need him to answer the phone. Hmmm, maybe I can get a calling card and call from an unrecognizable number?

I'm actually rather pissed this morning and it typically takes a lot to piss me off. Congrat-u-fucking-lations, Mr. Libra...

I just sent him one final text message: "You're off the hook for anything and everything. This is my final contact with you"

Since they are reactionaries, you may just get a call after that text... Depends on how long he thinks about it though. He might run... Eventually he will call or text you back. "They hate to feel they have wronged anyone!!!"

Also, your text message freaked me out as that was the exact words, my Libra friend's ex - the Sag used to completely end their relationship for the final time after he declined going to couples counceling with her at the last minute and said he couldn't do this right now with her. I can't say I blame her though, he has been more wishy washy with her and she is actually in love with him and he is in love with her. So, I know he would probably be worst with someone he wasn't in love with.

Wierdos!!! I will beat him up for making you upset. You are now my sis and scorps are protective of their loved ones!!! I don't like him now... YES I AM BIAS.

Peach,

Look. He is a Libra. Trying to analyze a Libra when your not a Libra will give you brain damage.

Libras are confusing, because they are confused. They up and down, in then out, the life of the party or disappear. THEY ARE NOT PLAYERS.

I am married to a Libra. Do not follow their thoughts. You be the leader of the relationship. Be clever, confident and gentle. Libras are like owning a favorite cat, they can be very sweet and then up and run away. Then come back two days later, sweet as ever and wonder why your upset.

They are who they are!!!! Either love him or leave him. Changing a Libra is like training a cat it takes years of patience and more patience....

good luck girl... you will need it....

Aries man out!

I'm not looking to change him. I choose to no longer take the lead in this. He had plenty of chances and I am done.

You don't promise someone you'd do something and not do it. Once or twice is forgivable, but after that, you're just disrespecting the person and I had had enough.

No, I won't get a call or message. If he's avoiding my calls and my other texts when he's usually very prompt with responding, it tells me he's done, too.

I second Gallager... Yes, man you are definitely married to a Libra. So was I.

Thanks, Queen Sis. I'll sit on him while you put kick his butt.

Any time any place. We have to stick together dealing with these annoying, but charming boys.

he's done with me. i just left him a "nice" VM

I don't know, I think you will get a call or a text, if not today soon... If not I would be shocked.

OK, HP, Stop. No more. Let it simmer. Go out with one or even two of the other guys this weekend. Get your mind off of it. They can turn us into maniacs!!! Don't let him do this to you. It has been done to me a time or two.

I'm done. Seriously. When I get to this point, I get the "Who Cares" attitude. I have been understanding, maybe too understanding of his situation and I am done. He knows it now with the VM I just left.

I have surgery coming up, I start grad school soon too - I will be plenty busy to keep me from turning into a maniac.

I have also been to the "I'm done" point and it took a couple times. If you see that smile again, who knows, they are way too hypnotic... Maybe because us scorps are such sexual people and we think about shaggin them when we see them. Keep me posted though. Leave it alone for awhile and concentrate on you... Good luck with surgery. All will go well and you will be fine...

I never had sex with the guy, so that's not an option. If he calls me today, I will hang up on him. I'm in no mood to talk to him.

Taurus are patient people, until you mess with the horns.

Don't hang up. Just say, something like. I really don't want to talk about this. I don't think this will work out.

that was my plan for last nite. In fact my words were going to be "You're a great guy, but it's not going to work. As hard as we both may have worked at it, I don't see this as something long-term."

but the A-hole didn't call me as promised...surprise, surprise.

Just try not to be rude, like hanging up. You never know, if you guys don't become romantically involved, he might be a great contact in the future for friendship or business purposes. Never burn your bridges, with people you care about. Something I am learning. It will benefit you in the end... Trust me I am known for cutting people off completely and moving on... I am trying to change that, it could be beneficial the other way.

They rarely keep promises that involve emotional striants or confrontations. They won't change that... You have to take it or leave it. If you feel like leaving it then do that!!! This is stressing me out too. I might be more used to these actions then you are. I have delt with a few of these boys.

"I would have hoped you'd have enough courtesy to at least text me or call me to confirm for the 22nd. I'm extremely hurt that you seem to be avoiding me and I don't know what I did to deserve that. I told you when you pursued me at church that I don't go out with people much anymore because I end up getting hurt. Well congratulations you hurt me. I'm walking away now?Take care. ? I started crying at the end, so I didn't get to say everything I wanted to say.

Grrr....I hate crying...it pisses me off

that was my VM

OH, girl... I will kick his ass seriously...

However, you have to have tough skin with them. I have dropped a tear or two in the past myself. Avoidance to us is not avoidance to them... It has nothing to do with you!!! All him... I know they seem so inconsiderate, to be one who likes to be liked by all, huh? Strange I tell you. That is why I have to ask myself, am I a glutten for punishment or a psycho for letting them reel me in. They find me, I don't look for them, I try to avoid them and can't. Another one 7 years my junior is hitting on me all week at work... I totally snapped at him and told him forget about it. Not only the age, but Libra... He keeps popping up to my office and emailing me. I keep telling him he is way too young and please leave me alone. But, truly no attraction there (way too young!)

OK, sorry, we were talking about you and this A-whole. Add in your text that he should watch his back!! Did that put a smile on your face? I hope so.

just got a text message from him, but i can tell by the way he responded that he hasn't listened to VM yet. i won't reply to his text message, there's no point - he will listen to his VM soon enough.

Do I know them or what. Told you a reactionary. Sometimes you have to do something drastic to get these guys to respond. He might have gotten the vm too. He won't say anything too drastic.

the text message was nicer than the VM, that's why I am assuming he hasn't listened to the VM.

i have to go reapply my eye make-up. that jerk.

Be strong...

I is. Me being weak would be being in denial and continue with his shit.

I know. You're a brave girl. You've kept your head high.

You will be just fine... Don't make any drastic decisions right now. Take a break from it all... Revisit it in a couple weeks.

suvant, don't diss my sis! She's cool.

and thanks for your advice, but I have already left him a message telling him I'm walking away. I ddon't expect him to call after listening to it.

do ya'll think that by me not responding to his text message will get him wondering how serious I am about my VM? I'm thinking he plans to test me out today to see how serious I was about my text msg and VM.

What did his text message say?

his latest message was
"the way things have been going in my life (family and unplanned projects), the last thing I want to do is to make promises I can't keep and ESPECIALLY hurting you in the process (I just heard your voice message now)."


Yep, to me, that's him saying "I agree, let's end this"

awww Houston ... don't cry sweetie.

I knew he wouldn't call. We Libras just don't go in for confrontation that way.

Thinking about this ... he may have been passively breaking-up with you. If I really like someone but know they aren't it for me ... I pull this sort of shit. I remain indecisive about calling, etc. until they make the choice for me. I force your hand.

In someways, I think it is a kindness so they never experience the pain of rejection. It is also a good way to move from love relationship to friendship because the person knows I am not relationship material.

This guy wasn't it for you for whatever reason. Having him out of your life frees you up to date others. And that is something to smile about. 🙂

*** Yep, to me, that's him saying "I agree, let's end this"

I agree.

He might really like you but just not be in a good place for a relationship right now. It is nobody's fault. I went through that with the first Leo back in the summer. GREAT guy ... really liked me .... I really liked him .... but he was just out of a relationship and was not ready to get into another one. No one's fault. Timing was just sucky. Sort of like your thing ... timing is just sucky.

After he sent that last text, I basically let things out...with what I sent him, yeah it's over. I'm crying, but I actually know I'm going to feel about it all soon.

*feel better about it all soon.

awww sweetie ... I wish I could make you a cup of tea or something.

(((HP)))

I'll be fine. I just wear my heart on my sleeve. Tomorrow is a new day.

ok

I need a nap.

Suvant... I am a respected professional, intelligent, multilingual, well travelled and annually tested - negative on all std's every time and always protected. However, I am very comfortable with my sexuality and do enjoy the art of sex with the right person, maybe if you read a couple of my posts you would see that I am also very selective and choosy about my mates and not at all easy. Any lover of mine has to wait awhile, however I have had the power to keep them interested and stay tempting during the process... Contrary to what you posted... All of the guys I have been with have the utmost respect and still an abundance of admiration for me and most of them still remain as friends (without benefits)... Some have even mentioned to their current girlfriends their admiration for the type of individual I am...

By the way, most of my life I have been in committed relationships.

Funny, I would hope you could say these things about yourself as well, but I am sure you honestly couldn't. It takes a strong and secure person to be like me. I sense a little insecurity there.

Sorry Suvant...

Get off of HP's back, she knows exactly what she wants and she has been very clear since the beginning. It is the Libra. They are who they are and we have to either except it or leave it. No, I am not her biological sister, however, she, LS, Libra and I just seem to wind up on the same threads and are like sisters sharing advice.

By the way why so much hostility? Maybe if you were more comfortable with your sexuality and secure you wouldn't be so hostle and seem so uptight. You might want to go to the beginning of this thread or even back to "Read between the lines" because you are clearly not getting anyone correctly on this thread...


HP, just take LS and my advice which seems to be the same... Let it go for now and concentrate on you. Don't burn any bridges there should always be room for new friends. Good luck on everything Smooches!!! I will still beat him down though if you want... LOL!!!

I think the bridges are burned. He won't take any of my calls and haven't responded to any of my text messages after he sent the "I can't promise you and don't want to hurt you" text message.

**Look. He is a Libra. Trying to analyze a Libra when your not a Libra will give you brain damage.

OH YEAH!!!!

Libras are confusing, because they are confused. They up and down, in then out, the life of the party or disappear. THEY ARE NOT PLAYERS.

I HAVE A FEELING YOU'RE RIGHT...THEY AREN'T PLAYERS, JUST BUTTERFLIES HARD TO CATCH!!

I am married to a Libra. Do not follow their thoughts. You be the leader of the relationship. Be clever, confident and gentle. Libras are like owning a favorite cat, they can be very sweet and then up and run away. Then come back two days later, sweet as ever and wonder why your upset.

They are who they are!!!! Either love him or leave him. Changing a Libra is like training a cat it takes years of patience and more patience....

good luck girl... you will need it....

HP....As per that post.....let the cat go, watch him slink back when he's ready and if he doesn't?? HIS LOSS!!! You are a great woman who deserves a great man....he's obviously not worthy of you if he does not treat you better...respect, honesty and sincerity are vital ingredients in a relationship.

I'm not quite where you are with my Libran but I get frustrated, confused, I worry, I start thinking the worst and just as Im about to give up hope, there he is ready to resume where we left off....I doubt he's playing up, I doubt he's doing anything wrong, he's the life of the party with the friends he made before we met.....for him now to include me in everything is a little way off and vice versa at this time of the year.....wait until the silly season is over and see where it goes from there....in the meantime, do what Im about to do....go out on other dates, you needn't put any hope of a relationship with your Libra at risk by doing something you'll regret, but you CAN have fun with other people in the meantime while he's making up his mind. leave him be, don't send him any more texts, don't leave any more voice messages...just let him be....he'll miss you 🙂

Yeah, I totally agree. Leave the Libra man alone. The longer you continue to pursue, the longer it will take for him take contact with you. I'm doing this now with a guy. I'm doing anything. It's all him getting in touch with me. I've moved on.

*not doing anything. Sorry for the mistake.