DennyV's saga.....part 2 (Page 7)

think he's on the phone again? 😕

yes thats what i was telling her...that when i sleep with my girl, its like i hold her so close were like 1. And then I was telling her that may be the key to me getting some sleep....maybe all i need is my girl next to me.

aaawww, you're calling her 'my girl' already!

ok...drama central....talk about the cat being out of the bag

I sent her a text today "sat night i have the house to myself, and I would like to cook dinner for you...i have half the menu planned and im working on the other half"

she texts me back...you ready for this...she texts me "Do you like me more than a friend?"
then she texts me again "sorry I just have to ask"

So i said "what happens if i say yes"

Shes liike "i would say im too old for you, i turned 30 in october...im 4 years older than you...Im sure this will make you reconsider things"

I said "I dont care if your 40. Would you really let something thta stand in the way of somethign taht could be so good?"

shs liek "no, i just wanted you to be aware"

Im like.."im well aware and i dont need to reconsider anything...i knwo how i feel and i know what my hearts telling me. Just dont worry about anything and let me cook"

Shes like "whats ur heart telling u after hanging otu with me only a couple times"

im like "my heart is telling me that your a very special person taht I would like to get to know better and spend more time with'

and im waiting to hear back from her...Everythign is starting to make sense...all the pieces are fitting in....the pictures at dinner, everything...she likes me...but i think shes afraid i may leave her for a younger girl? who knows...but she had her oppurtuinity to tell me she just wanted to be friends...and hse didnt, becasue she likes me more than a friend.....i feel like textign her again...i need to reassure her that its her and only her

OMG, that makes perfect sense. She's been hedging a bit, because she may be feeling she is too old (although I don't think she is) for you, so she's kind of hung back a bit. Hmm, I get it. It's only four years and you ARE legal (giggle), so she doesn't have anything to worry about; plus, you are smitten with her, which is like 3/4 the battle! LOL.
I do believe she does like you, and is definitely encouraged by your interest in her. I'm glad the cat is out of the bag, and I hope you take the ball and run with it. You can really step up your game now, because it's clear she is interested in you, but is very reticent to get too involved emotionally as you may change your mind since she is slightly older! I also love the fact, that you want to reassure her that it's her and only her that you are interested in, and NOT as only a friend. Keep it going.

This is like some romance novel!! LMAO!

alright ... she hasnt responded to my last text...but shes working...but i need something else to text her. I dotn know if shes afraid im gonna hurt her, or run off iwth a younger girl down the road...i need to tel her its her and only her. I want to send her another text ...but i kind of want to wait for her to text me again.

I also have to know whats going on with dinner...because i have to buy the stuff tommorrow.

🙂🙂🙂🙂)🙂🙂 her actions all makes perfect sense now

I don't know what you are preparing, and what you have to get, but I wouldn't text her again until tomorrow. I'd say something along the lines of, "All the prep is done for dinner, can't wait to see you Sat!" That way, it kind of lets her know that you have already done a lot, and that if she isn't going to be able to make, then she needs to let you know asap. BUT, you also aren't sending uber pressing vibes either!

Denny, this is a natural stage you two will have to go through and sort out... that's why you have to be firm and very decisive so as not to make her see you as childish or too young or stuff like that...

it's similar for a girl seeing a guy much older... can be reversed but I think women are way more self-conscious of that if the woman's older.

You have to be very firm and convincing that it's irrelevant to you 🙂 but her convincing herself will be the shaky part.

I think USC and Furryleo make good points... firm and decisive... you're the MAN, irrespective of age 😛

ok...il pick up where I left off

so last night at 11pm she sends a text telling me that she sick and the cold got her bad

so i said "does this mean taht your going to let me cook for you saturday"

shes texts "waht are u making? What time"

so im like "cucumber & tom salad, garlic bread w/ melted mozzorella, chicken parm and cappillini and i have to think of a desser....you can be here by 6ish"

then she textd me 4 texts right in a row...first one was like "you love food!" then right after "estroy enferma!" then this "are you busy...i can leave you alone if your studying"

so im like..."si signorina, mi piace il cibo.....im d one studying for the night"

then shes like "who else is coming"

i said, "i only sent out 1 invitation, and thats to you"

and then shes like "can i help you cook?"

so i said "sure you can help me if you want" and then that was basically it...there were a few more texts but nothing big

so here is the plan...im going to get 1 pink rose and put it by where she is going to sit...i have to let this girl know im seirous about her...i know shes feeling insecure about the age...but i have to let her know in a non-crazy way taht shes my gir....so im going to put 1 pink rose by where she is sitting...im going to light candles...im going to make a nice mellow Dave CD and have that playing...and most of all, im going to have fun with her...were gonna laugh as we prepare the food...its going to be a nice casual, fun relaxed night...i may even show her how to play a song on the guitar...its a very very easy song...like 5 notes....and then afterwards il see if she wants to see the movie.

So today i have to get the rose, go food shopping and make sure i get her her camomile tea cause she lieks taht stuff...i have to clean the house...and i may go to the mall and see if i can get a nice shirt...if not i have other ones....so im off....im on an avg of 3 hours sleep....if you saw me right now, you would think im a zombie....my eyes are swollen, my appetite is all F-ed up....but i guess thats Love right? 🙂

I knew it was her age. Not so much that you are doing to run off with someone younger, more that you aren't ready for serious committment.

Listen to Furry AND learn the song. 🙂

sparrow,

i told her i was going to teach her how to play a song.....i already know how to play it...hahaha.

This dinner is not going to be stressful at all...i mean i want things to go good, but i think they are going to. If the garlic bread burns or something, well then i burns, i dont think were going to have a bad night if EVERYTHING isnt perfect. i have candles...im going to by the rose...and as far as wine im not too sure she likes red wine...so what I may do is get her sangria since i knwo she likes that. idk...im not even worried about it.

"I knew it was her age. Not so much that you are doing to run off with someone younger, more that you aren't ready for serious committment."

sparrow you are right...that is why she was asking me "do you think u can have a girlfriedn while in the nursing program" ...."do you want to get married?"
I answered all her questions openly and honestly....yes i do want to get married, yes i do want to have kids...and yes im ready to do it when i graduate or maybe a little after. Yes i know i can have a gf and balance her with school. She doesnt know that im not your avg 26year old. Most guys my age are going out, getting F-ed up, probably drugs, screwing everybody in sight...thats not who I am. The more she hangs out with me and talks with me...the more shes seeing who i really am. I have a very good feeling about everything. Ive come form a long long way with this girl. On the verge of giving up. And now i get to cook for her 🙂

ok so far so good 🙂

GO DENNY!!!!
Our own real life/virtual romance novel 🙂
You have the right idea. It doesn't have to be some big, stressful event. You're going to cook together and just get to know one another in a relaxed environment.

ok..just got back...i bougth her a beautiful yellow rose...i drove the guy in the flower store nuts with my ocd...Im like "... can you take that pedal off it looks a little brown...can you put some baby breathes in there"...then the babys breath stem was longer than the rose stem, lol, so i picked up the scissor and was about to cut the stem...finally teh guy was like "BUDDY, I GOT IT...RELAX!" hhaha...

i got everythign I need now...im going to try and take pictures of us too. Il see if shes feeling it or not...but im very excited for tommorrow. I cant wait actually...i thikn we are going to have so much fun

Oh, and i know what im going to do for dessert...i bought chocoalate to melt...and strawberries...and we're goign to make fresh, home-made chocolate covered strawberries. She dont know yet...its a surprise. 🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂

the theme of the night is goign to FUN & RELAXED. I hope she likes strawberries.

🙂 🙂 🙂

Has this not ended yet? arent you married with 3 kids yet?? LOL

He's working towards that! LMAO!
I think it's wonderful and charming. I'm extremely jaded about men and relationships, but this whole Denny thread makes me smile whenever I read it, and in this current economic state it has been taking a lot to make me smile! Go Deny!!!!

haha...no not married yet...

alright its 1:30pm...she should be here in about 4 hours...i just sent her a text telling her to try to get here between 5:30 and 6, and that i was looking forward to seeing her, and to come hungry!

bet she look nice 🙂

what're you wearing?

w00t? I need a full picture 😛

This is too sweet !!!

Now you said between 5:30 and 6:00 so you really wanted her there about 7:30? JUST KIDDING!!!!!

GOOD LUCK!!!! I can't wait to read either later tonight or tomorrow on how things turned out. I would say, "don't spare us any details" but somehow, I know you won't (at least the decent ones 😉)!!!

If he doesn't make a move I'm blowing this thread up.

*lights the match*

LOL @ brianafay

think he got some? 😕

placing a virtual $ 5 on it 😛

ok...here we go

so she comes at 6:30. She comes in..i had stuff on the stove, and i was preparing everything...so after 5 minutes im like, i have to go to my car for something..il be right back. What I did was i put the rose in my car, so hwen i went out to get it, i purposely locked myself out of the house so i would have to ring the door bell...and when she opened the door...thats when i gave it to her. Kind of like it was her house and i was coming over. So thats how i gave her the rose. so she liked it, and she mentioned that it was "friendship"...so i told her not to pay attention to the 'meaning' of it, that I got it becaue i know its 1 of her favorite colors. Then she was telling me how congested she was (and u coudl tell she was)..and how she didnt feel good...she said she almost didnt come because she was sick...and then i told her i feel bad taht she came now...shes like no i wanted to come i just dont feel good.

So i was cooking and she was just watching me...and she was like "i cant believe you can cook like this"...it sounded like she was very impresed. So the food came out good...and we talked a lot...never a stale moment in the convo...and we talked about everyting...i cant transcribe the whole convo...but it was good. She kept saying "how do u eat so much?"...cause i had a lot of food. So i tought her how to make the salad and the garlic bread (cut the garlic with a razor like in goodfellas so it liquifies)...then we moved onto dessert.

For dessert...i made her homemade chocolate covered strawberries. I melted hersheys chocolate on the stove and bought fresh stawberris and i dipped for her...they came out so freakin good...i was even shocked....it was my first time making them. Then i tried to teach her to play the guitar for a little. So she left at around 11ish. I aksed her if she wanted to go to the movies, but she didnt feel good...and she really didnt...u coudl tell..so she said we woulddo it another time. Then i asked her about V-day...and i asked her if she wanted to come otu with me...and shes like where? So i said its a surprise, i just need to know if your going to come. So shes like where, i need to know? So i just told her about the cruise around NYC. And she said she may be goign to see Marc Anthony at MSG on Vday but she would let me know.

So then i walked her out...we get to her car and again it was freezing...so she thanked me...and hugged me and we kissed on the cheek. (continued next page)

Now, i know you guys are probably like wtf...but It didnt feel like the right time. And i think it was more important for her to trust me than to try and kiss her. Looking back on it, maybe i should have...but at least now she knows that i have respect...and i wanted her to know that she can come to my house anytime and know that im not going to make all these moves on her and try to take advantage. I watn the kiss to happen naturally, not planned. So i know some of you will criticize, and thats ok, what can i do, but thats teh way I think. Next time we go out, i probably will try to kiss her...but tonight u can tell she was sick, i didnt know if kissing woudl be something she would want to do while she didnt feel good.

So she got in her car and i waited for her to leave on the steps...so she rolls the window down and shes like "smile!".....so i gave her like a mock smile joking around....then shes says "and antoher thing....be happy"....I said "I am happy!"....she slike "im not saying your not....but just be happy"....so i said "ok"...and thats is. That was date #3.

So, the night went very good..the food came out good...she loved the rose...she loved the chocolate covered strawberries...and about the kiss...how cliche is it for me to invite her to an empty house adn try to kiss her? I mean like i said, i could have tried to do it...but its very important for me that she knows that I didnt invite her over just to get her alone with me and try to do soemthing. It may be hard for some of you to understand....but this is the way I think. So she was probably driving home being like "man, he had me alone in the house, and didnt try to take advantage of me"...to me, that speaks louder than me trying to kiss her...now im not saying im never going to kiss her...because i think the next time we hang out, we will kiss....but the kisses will come, right now its about building a trust and still getting to know each other a little better.

So before she pulled away, i asked her to just text me so i know hse got home ok..so she said ok...So a half hour later, she called me to let me know she was home, we talked for 10 min...and she thanked me agian....and that was it.

If she was sick...no kiss is okay.
I wouldn't want to kiss someone all infected with something either.



I still want to blow this whole thing up.

yea...she was sick...u could hear she was a little congested

I didnt think kissing her while she was sick was the best thing to do

"it's about building a trust and still getting to know each other a little better."

I can tell you that I wouldn't want to kiss nor be kissed if I were sick, or the other person was sick. I'm really weird about germs and stuff, so I get that completely. PLUS, I really don't think things should be forced. There is nothing wrong with being aggressive, but there is a time and place for everything. Hopefully the timing will be on your side the next time. If you want to see two scenes of pure sexiness watch "Something New" there is one scene where the two main character's are in that high sexual chemistry zone, but denying it. He walks out her front door and she closes it. He rings the door; she opens it and almost literally lifts her off the gound and presses her into the wall kissing her. Trust me, they were both completely into it. Also, there is a scene where he paints her toenails..totally nice. My point, you will know when it's the right time, and hopefully she isn't putting you in the friend zone. I'm not sure right now...you need another date and I may be able to gauge a little better. It's hard to tell sometimes from the context of what someone writes, versus the way someone says something or the way they look while saying it.

That sounds like a wonderful time.

The fact she didn't feel well and came over is a good thing. If she even had a little doubt, she may have used the 'not feeling well' part to not show. MHO

The fact about going to a concert on V-Day was a plan she had before getting to know you.(I think) 🙂

This is the part in relationship building that sucks. You may be in one, or you may not be.

If I were you, I would be proud of how far you have come. Your dinner and desert sound spot on.

I think you should call her this week to see how she is feeling, but not ask for another date, just to see if she suggests the next one.

You so Rock Denny!!!!!!

yea, everything was good

the big thing too was, she knew i had the house to myself...it was just me and her...and i didnt make 1 move on her or make her feel uncomfortable in anyway. That shows her that I respect her and i didnt just invite her over to try and make moves. I know it sounds old-fashioned or wahtever...but i guess thats the way i am. Dont get me wrong, I would love nothing more than to kiss her...but i didnt think last night with her nto feeling well was the right time or place.

I really went out of my way for her last night. I thought of the way to give her the rose...i used a freakin razor blade, to cut garlic so its paper thin and tastes better...choc covered strawberries....i just wanted her to have a good time...and i wanted to let her know she deserves this every night

Im just falling deeper and deeper in love with this girl...thats the bottom line. I just got it so bad for her...she knwos i like her, but she dont know its this much. I try and play it cool when im with her, but the truth is, ive never felt this way about anybody. Im thinking abotu her so much, that im actually going to a wake in Brooklyn just to get out of the house and attempt to get my mind off her. Im also doing it because my aunt wants somebody to go to...but also for those reasons. I just keep praying and praying taht she sees im not like other guys.

*** she just texted me saying she forgot cupcakes at my house ***

Denny, you have nothing to worry about - your date was awesome. Also, the fact that you were respectful of her will go along with that trust building.
I agree with Thiaris, that the concert plans were likely something she may have been planning pre-you 🙂.
I like that you are "old fashioned" I think it's an endearing and charming quality, and likely she will think so too.

So thats how i gave her the rose. so she liked it, and she mentioned that it was "friendship"...so i told her not to pay attention to the 'meaning' of it, that I got it becaue i know its 1 of her favorite colors.


Hmmmmm, I have a few male friends which I love spending time with but know that if I wanted, they would want more, BUT I dont. Anytime romance or any hint of something more is bought up I confirm our friendship...




Then i asked her about V-day...and i asked her if she wanted to come otu with me...and shes like where? So i said its a surprise, i just need to know if your going to come. So shes like where, i need to know? So i just told her about the cruise around NYC. And she said she may be goign to see Marc Anthony at MSG on Vday but she would let me know.

V-Day, most girls want nothing more than someone to pay particular attention to them on this day. The fact that you offered and she is stil weighing up her options & stalling even though your planned date sounds so romantic makes me wonder what is going on in this girls mind...?

You haven't rocked her world.... be careful you may become her best friend and that's the worst place to be when you are head over heals in love with someone!!

yea but i want my gf/wife to be my best friend

and of course we're going to be friends first before we start a relationship...eveyrbody does....

so right now friends is good

But she knows what I want in life, she knows my goals, she knows my ambitions...so all i can do is be me...and hopefully she feels the same way about me as i do about her.

one can only hope and pray

I pray that when you do kiss her for the first time "You rock her world"

Or you'll be sent to the friendship line... and then you'll get to hear about all the guys that she is dating...

To be honest you are sweet but after nearly 1000 posts there needs to be some "urgency and want" and not just on paper! Read a mills & boons novel, innocence is one thing but there comes a point where action is called for!

Just my opinion...

It does all sound so very lovey dovey but yeah 1000 odd posts?

Why dont you just play it by ear now?

Ya but we don't know all the story.

They have had the talk about what each are looking for now and in the future.

We don't know what she has been through in other relationships.

Taking things slow is a sign of respect. And he prays a lot, she must know that he is spiritual as well as religious.

I don't think it would have gotten even this far if she didn't see potential in Denny.

If she is just playing him Is would be as surprised as him.

Anyway, keep posting Denny it probably helps the OCD! But eventually she has to see you have OCD!!

Thiaris,

hahaa...it does help w/ the OCD...dxp is an OCD reliever to an extent

I honestly have to agree...if she didnt see ANY potential in me, it would not have gotten this far. And remeber, it is impossible for me to post every sentence said between us...i do my best to give as much detail as possible...but i cant transcribe everything.

She knows my goals, she knows i pray and how spiritual I am, and she talks about God as well. She once told me how God wants me to be happy. I know im 4 years younger than her (which is nto a big deal), but she knows that i want to get married, she knows im not bar hopping on the weekends F'n anythign that moves...she knows my ambitions and my goals. And she knows i put my trust and complete faith in God. Without him, i wouldnt have got this far with her. I feel he is guiding me and he is making everything happen for a reason.

Think about this...in August i gave a stranger my number to give to her...and walked out of the building not knowing whether I woudl ever see or hear from her again.....6 months later...im cooking dinner for her. Now I know thats God's work. I just hope he sees it in our future to be together. I really do. Because I care about this girl so much, i just adore her every move.

😛

less talk more action - some of us are less patient 😛

erm, so any date plans anytime soon?

are you wiped out after planning out last night?

Denny says 🙂🙂****Think about this...in August i gave a stranger my number to give to her...and walked out of the building not knowing whether I woudl ever see or hear from her again.....6 months later...im cooking dinner for her. Now I know thats God's work. 🙂🙂

That is about as awesome as anything gets.. 4 real.

BUTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT as a Libra woman myself, I really think you need to let HER make another move toward you. MHO. The reason is you have done all the work so far.

This is were it gets hard. I beut this week, with work and feeling bad she doesn't make too many gestures. It's hard I know be keep believing.

there's a slight insecurity on her part about her age that will stop her making a move if he backs down now...

I don't think so Zen. 4 years age diff isn't that big a deal.

He has shown his hand..(poker term LOL)

At 30 a woman should know what she wants and what she doesn't

I'm not saying back down or back away, simply give it a moment for her to take him and his actions in. No rush really.

As Libra's remember we weigh it.. we over analyze it, he hasn't made any physical moves, yet he has shown his heart and soul to her.

Isn't it refreshing to hear this.. That a man hasn't jumped on yet... sorry crass terms but isn't it true.

"Denny says ****Think about this...in August i gave a stranger my number to give to her...and walked out of the building not knowing whether I woudl ever see or hear from her again.....6 months later...im cooking dinner for her. Now I know thats God's work.

That is about as awesome as anything gets.. 4 real."

^^^Also, I completely agree with you Thiaris. I believe that 4 years isn't anything, if nothing else, she should find this all refreshing. Don't get me wrong, I love sexual chemistry (ie, sex) more than a lot of people I know, but at the end of the day, we don't know her, and we don't know what experiences she has had in the past, and maybe through some divinity, Denny is doing exactly what needs to be done to court this woman to make her feel good about herself, and a potential relationship with him. Only time will tell, but above everything else, he has to be TRUE to himself, OCD and all! LOL.

well...once again, i was ocd'ing...confused today...just thinking about what will happen

and 10:00pm she sends a text "hi"

then another one "what are you doing?"

so i told her i just got back from a wake in Brooklyn....

then shes like "im searching the web"

so i replied "and listening to crush—"

shes like "i did already....its a very nice love song"

so i told her that song took me 2 years to learn how to play and anotehr 3 months to learn how to play and sing it

she said i was very artisitic and motivated....

but for her to initiate the text twice in 1 day....first with the cupcakes...then with the 'hi" "what are u doing"....im sorry, i think im on this girls mind.

but who knows

she just texted me again

she said "im in bed just thinking...thank you for cooking for me last night...no guy has ever done that before"

i said "it was the first time i ever did it for anybody, no matter what you think (becasue she swears i did it before for somebody else)...and then i said
im glad you liked it...i wish i coudl do it every night"

i wish i coudl do it every night"

To which she doesn't reply—?

she did.....she said "what made you decide to cook for me?"

were goign back and forth..its so hard for me to transcribe every word...

wow that's good denny, she's initiating... communication's definitely flowing 😉

I don't think there's a clear cut formula for this... she has already mentioned the age difference as an issue. 4yrs might be little for some but some consider it BIG... I've known people that consider 1 or 2 yrs big.

Even if she can't make V-day, she made the plans before you got serious, right? so I wouldn't use just 14th feb to determine as I wouldn't ditch people I know before I starting dating. There will be many more V-days to come.

Everyday with her will probably be like V-day for denny 😛

i said "it was the first time i ever did it for anybody, no matter what you think (becasue she swears i did it before for somebody else)...

hahahahahaha - smooth operator 😛