Gentle Suggestions

I know this has probably been talked about before, but I'm too lazy at the moment to go searching.

My question: how are your Libra men at taking gentle suggestions? And do they tend to wait for a sign or permission from you first before making moves in bed?

I know if I'd like to do something with my Libra guy, I would casually mention it or just do it and see what their reaction was? Are Libras not that forward? Do they need us to tell them we'd like them to do this? Or try that?

And, both in and out of bed, if we said "I'd really like it if you did..." How would they respond?

They will remember all your wishes and desires and make them their own...

They will not sleep until it's been taken of...

taken care of*

So it would be okay for me to say "I'd really like it if you did...." or "Why don't you ..." and they would be okay with it? They wouldn't think it was too forward?

Never say 'why don't you...?' because then in a way you are criticising what he has done so far.

If in the heat of the moment: say it in the sweetest yet demanding way e.g. 'me, too'. Or just start it yourself without words. No guy in his right mind will stop what you start. He will then remember to initiate that himself the next time or another time. He will not forget.

I would not suggest anything in normal conversation. It's a bit of an off topic. Puts you both in a funny place.

Best is without words and for you to lead the way. We follow very well.

But in the heat of the moment you can say anything, he'll oblige...

Thinking back now, I can see where he has done things at later times that I did to him first. And he certainly does seem to remember what I like. So, yes, I guess he is getting the message.

But now outside of the bedroom... For instance, sometimes I'll leave him messages that are flirty and a bit naughty. He says he loves these messages. But when he calls me, if I don't pick up and he leaves a message, it is usually straight-forward or sometimes he doesn't leave a message at all. I just know he called because his number shows on the screen. I'd love for him to leave me some of these "grab-you-breath-and-say-oh-my" messages. But I don't want to sound too demanding or needy. How is best to approach that?

ooooo, i like this topic. i have been contemplating leaving a sexy, seductive, sultry VM on Mr. Libra's VM, but not sure what to say. Give us ideas.

Well, HP, here's the one I can think of right off the bat. He has a thing for lingerie. So when I called the one time, his voice mail says to leave a detailed message. He knew I had bought this new piece, so in the message I didn't say who I was but just jumped right in with something like this: "You said to leave details so here they are. It's black and silky with a lace-trimmed top that dips down. There's a slit up the side that goes all the way up. And it has thin straps that could easily be ripped off in the heat of the moment." I think I added a few more things, and I said it all in a sultry voice, then I hung up. I didn't say goodbye or anything. It was just the description of the lingerie and how easily it can come off.

He mentioned that message a couple times and when he finally did see me in it, he said something about "so this can be easily ripped off." So he remembered it!

I have to run now, but I'll think back about some of the other messages. But who else has left messages? And what have they said?

In this department I am very reserved. Whatever happens, happens in the moment.

I can now only speak for myself. In the moment (as conversation takes place) I am capable of going along with sexy talk. But with me it is more in the facial expressions or creating very charged moments. Bit reactive.

If I had to guess, Maygirl, yours is indirect by asking for you to do something but may not necessarily be capable of doing something similar himself. But he'll enjoy to the fullest. Please don't see it as 'you have to do it and I don't have to do any such thing' because when that is scary stuff it is scary stuff.

I, as a Libra, have come out of my comfort zone once or twice and dreaded the response but the response was wonderful. But what do I know...

Trust has a lot to do with it.

No, I don't ever think of it as a "you have to do it, but I don't." He's always sweet and considerate and gives just as much as he enjoys. I never get that vibe from him. In fact, he seems to very much enjoy knowing I'm enjoying it. And he has brought up different things in fun, flirty, joking ways during the moment, so I know some things have at least crossed his mind. I'm just wondering how forward I should be if there is something I want to suggest.

By the way, thanks for the tip on "Why don't you..." I would have never considered that to come across as though he was doing something wrong. See, that's the way different people see different things.

I think men in general have no problem with a girl that is forward. I think they prefer that. Although always let a man be the man.

If you bring stuff up make the conversation sexy - not as a matter of fact laying everything on the table. That is too Scorpio. It has to remain mysterious. The unsaid is usually more powerful than the said. Which is why I think without words is better. Very sexy also. He WILL go along, and be nicely surprised by your initiatives. He'll learn on the spot your likes and dislikes.

I think Libra men are attentive lovers and your satisfaction is def on his mind even when you don't think he's thinking about it. We analyse all day long anyway so I'm sure that department crosses his mind, too.

What about in my case and MR. Libra? We aren't dating but I just want to tease him. Can't have sex for 3 weeks anyway....but I still want to tease him a bit and make sure he keeps me on his mind, no matter what or who he's doing

You know, I don't really know what works for a Libra man. But hinting is good. Sentences with ambiguity are sexy - is she referring to the deed or something else?

Yeah, hinting. You cannot call things by their names.

HP, I think you should leave a little flirty message on his voice mail. Just enough to have him think of you but not anything too much.

Hinting, flirty talk, sexual innuendos, those have all worked real well with my Libra guy. In fact, that's one of things that has always drawn him to me. We both go back and forth with the banter and the sexual tension just builds.

Something like: 'I might be in bed all day but at least I have gorgeous legs'... Just daft stuff. Playful. Little bit of self promotion.

Actually that is the direction that I as a Libra girl would take. Does not mean that a Libra man likes to receive it. I have no idea!!

HP, maybe you can say something like "was driving home from work and saw a black BMW (or whatever the color was) and it sent a tingle down my back. It made me remember what a nice time we had and I just wanted to say thank you." or something like that. And, of course, in a soft, flirty way. Then you're not really asking for more sex, you're just saying you're remembering it, and it will probably get him thinking about it as well.

good idea, may

Here's something, tell me what you all think:

"I drove down ******* road tonight and drove by a very familar spot...I'm sure you know which one. If you need a reminder, I'm sure I can help jog your memory - or even reinact it in about 2 weeks."

The reinacting is way too forward. You're telling him he can have it. Don't. Make him wonder if he can still have you.

so just say ....

"I drove down ******* road tonight and drove by a very familar spot...I'm sure you know which one. If you need a reminder, I'm sure I can help jog your memory"

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DOn't offer to help jog his memory, EXPECT him to remember - if he doesn't you can always say something like, "I'll give you a hint" and make it something sexy.

I drove down ******* road tonight and passed a very familiar spot. It was actually more like driving down memory lane...

(this is difficult to come up with for someone else)

Ok, this speech keeps getting chopped:

"I drove down ******* road tonight and drove by a very familar spot...(insert sigh here)"

and then hang up


how's that?

I'd try something like:

"drove down **** road tonight and have a wicked smile on my face right now...Im sure you know why"....keep it simple.

😛

HP, I like Chatz suggestion. The others you tried out are too forward and not teasing enough. Remember, you want to tease, not offer it all out again.

How about "drove down **** road tonight. I have a wicked smile on my face right now remembering how good you made me feel"

Keep it simple, but I think you should add something that pumps his ego up a bit.

ok, i'm now trying to work up the nerve.

oh come on HP just do it.....just do it....He'll love it~!!! He won't be able to stop thinking about it once he receives it - sheesh girl!!!!

ok, i did it. of course i got his VM - he didn't answer. who is willing ot bet me that i'll get a text message in the morning instead of a phone call?

NOt worried about that guy. 🙂 It was done all in good fun.

I'm feeling better...no Darvocet today..yay

"I drove down ******* road tonight and drove by a very familar spot...(insert sigh here)"

We have a winner. Masters of subtlety, remember.

Aquaagi,
Reminicing about the good times is a favorite past time of the libras. Besides the hint and sigh suggests future possiblity, so it is promoting future interaction. We would actually take offense to the idea of dropping such a great past experience, we like to revel in our success.

Well I REALLY wanted to do that one, Nic...but Chatz talked me into the "remembering how good you were" bit...

I have Libra somewhere in my chart, but can't remember where. I don't think it's in a placement that really matters, though...Uranus and Pluto...my ass and a planet that's not a planet anymore...yup, a placement that doesn't matter.

Hey don't blame me....I just know what works with me LOL......Im sure he'll love the wicked smile part....ok shall I hide now— that's ok though Im in Oz, you can't find me to whack me one!!! hehehe

Im sure he'll love it anyway HP....if not, I'll come over and smack him for ya!!

I stilled signed and did a wicked chuckle. At the end of th emessage, I said "Just thought I'd let you know..."

about him being good. 😉

*sighed

In terms of the sighs, I just remembered that it seems to drive my Libra crazy when I sigh or make a moaning (mmmmm) sound. So keep that contented sigh sound in mind for the next time!

Can't wait to hear his reaction to this!

hear or see? LOL

No need for any gentle suggestions in bed if your libra has ever dated a scorpion girl. Like gemini, libra keeps shifting roles in bed continuesly.

Chatz, actually I was curious to hear what HP's Libra's response would be to her voice mail.

I know what my Libra's response is when I make those sounds, and it's all good!

I was just having a giggle coz we can't hear on here!!! Yup, Im clinically mad LOL 😛

I could videotape it and put it on my profile?

Now there's an idea LOL.....ummmmm...yeah if you want 🙂

Although you think it'll be a text hehehehe

So what do you think he'll say?

yeah, i was kidding...he'll text me...I'm 55% sure of it.

"In terms of the sighs, I just remembered that it seems to drive my Libra crazy when I sigh or make a moaning (mmmmm) sound."

I read somewhere that one of the areas of sex ruled by Libra is breathing (of course those have been with us admit we pretty much rule the whole experience alltogether 🙂 But we actually turn breathing into an erotic act.

no message. 😢

but it was still fun to leave the message.

Ah! but...

Sometimes you don't respond BECAUSE it was so beautiful and you want to hold on to that moment a bit longer. Rather than to walk all over it byt responding and hence claiming it.

If he is into you, he will love all your communication.

That's so true. I have left several messages with my Libra guy and many times he never called or sent a message back right away. I used to be discouraged because I thought since he didn't respond right away he must not have liked it.

But then when we did get together, he said (several times) that he loves those messages. In fact, over the holidays when I was giving him some breathing room (since we had a bit of an intense conversation end of November), I didn't leave any of the messages. When we got together again this week, he said he missed those messages. And he once told me, when he gets the messages, he listens to them, rewinds them and listens to them again, then picks himself off the floor and tries to concentrate on work. So yes, as Libra says, they are thinking of those messages, even if they didn't respond right away.

I am in a much happier state now that I've accepted this as the Libra way. And I have to trust that even though he may not respond back right away, I know he is thinking of me and that he liked the message. Plus, as you said, it is fun to do!